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Michaela May
ENG-101-011T
Major Essay #1
2/20/2017
Helicopter Parenting
childhood was a lot different than my parents was, and my nieces and
nephews childhoods are going to be a lot different too. They are going to
them grow up and discover themselves and the beauties that this world has
to offer them. On the other hand, I am worried about them and how the
constantly. Just look at how different things were last year, compared to now.
and cultural changes caused by helicopter parenting and the way it has
I came to this theory partly from personal experience, but also from
friend of mine, who is a part of Generation X, about being able to leave the
Everyone watched out for each others kids. Within the boundaries of the
neighborhood we were allowed outside till dark. When I asked her about her
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kids (both age 17 today), it was a different story. She said, When my kids
were born it was a different world. It was too scary to leave them by
was at all times. But, if I was with my older siblings who had cellphones, I
could go out to the Dollar General or ride my bike to the pool. So, I wasnt
really out of the sight of my parents. I was lucky to have this privilege of
equal parts freedom and safety. Unfortunately, kids these days are rarely
have this privilege unless they have siblings close to adult age. There are
children and young adults from my generation who have been so sheltered
they dont know how to act alone and sometimes think for themselves. When
I asked my sister, who has kids of her own now, about how these changes
between generations are affecting children and young adults she said, I
think it has caused a lot of dependency. Kids who arent given the freedom of
exploring and playing on their own without adult interference often become
dependent on parents to help them play and this I think leads to needing
help in other areas of their life as they grow up. The term commonly used
young people from learning how to solve their own problems and take
helicopter parenting and backs up his ideas with the results of a survey done
says. The results of the survey support my theory that helicopter parenting
reports in this article, The results were as predicted: Those students who
scale and also gave the least adaptive responses to the workplace scenarios.
employer, they were less likely than the others to say that they would listen
to the criticism and try to, and they were more likely to say that they would
quit the job, explain to the employer why the rating was unfair, or ask a
parent to call the manager on their behalf. In short, students who reported
helicopter parenting were less able to deal with and adapt to uncomfortable
or difficult situations, and would rely on their parents to deal with it for them.
Being able to work through problem for yourself is a crucial skill for being an
Parents have taken the approach that children should not have to be
responsible for anything and be able to play and express themselves freely.
While it is important for them to have the time to play and express
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be self-expressive and to form their own opinions is a good thing, but if they
are never taught that their opinions can be harmful, they are never taught
they have too much freedom too young and they get arrogant and do not
respect elders or think they need them and it seems to somehow affect their
view on life, and create a lack of respect toward others. This lack of self-
being. I have learned a lot in life from my parents and grandparents from
listening to them and the mistakes they made growing up, and inadvertently
avoided making the same mistakes by taking their advice. After all, if we do
discipline them. If you do not explain to your child why they are being
punished, then you are just hurting them and teaching them to fear you
consequences of their actions and why what they did was wrong; they didnt
just spank them every time they did something wrong. He said the results of
this are that, I have been taught to respect my elders and treat others the
way that I would want to be treated. On the other end of the spectrum,
when I asked my family friend about how she was disciplined she said her
parents, Yelled, and, did not let me have a car or a job as punishment.
Subsequently, she said, It took me longer to develop a good work ethic and
responsibility for my actions. We see from these examples that when you
hide your children and hover over them like a helicopter, they do not learn
anything. But, when you teach them instead of scolding them, they learn
I began to see patterns. The change in children and young adults wasnt
simply caused by time going by, it was caused by a shift in the way society in
the millennial generation was born; there was a shift in parenting. Parents
who take the time to be a parent and let their children learn for themselves
help their children and keep them safer than a parent who hovers over their
child and guards them from everything that isnt safe. We need to stop
hovering over our children and stop guarding them from things that are
actually there to teach them valuable lessons about life and help them.
Helicopter parenting is the root cause of the millennial stereotype, and that
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stereotype is slowing becoming reality. Only we can fix it and prevent future
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