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[MUSIC] So, one thing that's you also mentioned was, you know, we talked about individual
differences in how people respond to emotions. That's. You know, sort of at this, this back-end
of the model is often where cultural values, individual differences, personal histories, come into
play and you know, shape the emotion experience as it occurs. But also, all of these, you know,
feedback arrows that go from, you know, how we respond to emotion to how we re-
interpret. This is what creates that dynamic that keeps spiral going. Like a, a downward spiral
for negative emotions. Or, or an upwards spiral for positive emotions. It's as if these. Appraisals
are these interpretive lenses that we get with an emotion. kind of hang on and color the next
circumstance. So that when you're, when you're angry it's kind of like you have blame lenses
on. [LAUGH] And you see everything else in terms of blame. And this is how we get all these
jags these, you know. Emotional spirals. So I don't want to leave you guys in the negative,
but do you have any questions about this before we move along? >> Were you talking about
cognitive appraisal right there, so, the emotion happens and how you appraise it cognitively, is
that what you're, is that what you're referring to? >> Yeah. This is sort of our, our mental
mindset >> Okay. >> Of, of our circumstances. >> Right. Is what, you know, will determine the
nature or the, the flavor of the negative emotion. Or the, or the, positive emotion. So, yeah. I
want to give you guys a, a chance to, you know, undo the last one. [LAUGH] >> And, experience
something good. So. Think of a time, just take a moment to think of a time that you
know, things were going just so right for you. When you know, whatever it was that happened
made you kind of want to jump for joy, even. So take a moment to relive that in your mind's
eye.

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Think about where you were, who you were with, what had just been happening.

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And as you let that feeling grow, just observe, what does it.

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Well, how does it feel? What's the feeling on your face, in your body? What does it make you
want to do next?

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>> You want more. >> Yeah. >> [LAUGH] >> Yeah, definitely. And you guys are so much more
pleasant to look at, while you're >> [LAUGH] >> While you're reliving this. So yeah, what else,
what else stood out to you.

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It's just a feeling of lightness and maybe sitting taller and I even found myself wanting to laugh
out loud. >> Uh-huh. >> Yeah, just. >> Yeah. >> A feeling of joy. >> Yeah, yeah so again, different
flavor all together, but that, you know, showed up in sort of how you wanted to carry
yourself. Yeah. Anyone else? >> I think mine was more pride, cause I was thinking a family
member and, proud of what happened and kind of connection with my spouse because of
that, so, it was more of a pride thing that came out. >> Uh-huh, uh-huh, and so what did that
make you want to do? >> I don't, I don't, I don't know do wise I just, it was just made me feel
really confident, I think and just comfortable.

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So, I think comfort was the biggest thing. >> Yeah, cool. Great example. >> Mine is similar to
that, so when you think about to do. I'm thinking about sharing. [CROSSTALK] That you want
people to know the recognition by looking at people or hugging or high five [CROSSTALK] or fist
bump but something when it's positive it's got to spread. >> Exactly yeah I think one of the
most common. You know, action urges to use a jargon term that goes with positive emotions
is share, be with others, hug, you know. Find someone to share the good news with. If you
happen to be alone when something good happens it's like you gotta hurry up and try to find
the next person >> Mm-hm. >> Mm-hm. >> You know, to, to share it with. So, there are a lot of
similarities between negative and positive emotions. I mean, they, they're embodied feelings
that you know, so just like negative emotions show up in, in, in how our muscles feel or how our
faces feel, positive emotions do too. And and just like negative emotions can be picked up by
others. You know, our positive emotions are going to show up in our posture. How you carry
yourself. You know, and smiling. Just that kind of, I mean, people kind of glow a little
bit. [LAUGH] You know, there's like, there's a little bit of a radiance that starts to, you know,
signal to others, yeah, here's a safe person, I want to connect here. So they definitely have kind
of a social broadcasting piece of them. They show up in our voices and, and so on. So that, you
know, they have that embodied component.

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They also, you know, stem from, all emotions stem from some change in our circumstance. You
know, something good for me, something bad for me has happened. Now that circumstance
can also be.

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Mental circumstance. >> Mm-hm. >> So that you can create this through memory or through
priority so you don't have to wait for something in the world to happen [LAUGH] to cr, to create
a positive emotion. But how we interpret those is, is the, you know, sort of the gatekeeper as to
whether this emotion is going to start.

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We don't talk about coping with positive emotions in the same way you talk about coping with
negative emotions. Which is why I like the word response to emotion, because it's, it kind of fits
with whether it's positive or negative.

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But people still have values about whether, is this okay to feel, you know? Some people feel
like. It's dangerous to feel good. And so they kind of, try to speed past it really quickly.

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But you know, so, equally, there's a kind of a matter of culture and personality, and, and sort of
individual personal history that comes into shape whether people let a positive emotion kind
of. Fully bloom in a way or whether they're quick to move past it. So. >> In schools we almost
always attend to the negative posture face, you know. And so I don't know if it's working with
the school or working with my folks that if we ever recognize that this positivity is happening in
kids. Yeah. >> because you're so in tune to uh-oh, somethings wrong. I need to address it. >>
Right, right. Well that's a great example of how, you know, the negative stuff just pops
out because it's, you're typically signalling there's a, a problem to be addressed. And and so one
of the things that positive psychology can do is help us tune our eye to the.

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To the other side of emotions, as well. So we don't just think, you know, it's either ho-hum or
negative. [LAUGH]. >> Yeah. You know? That there's a, there's a broader range. >> This reminds
of, of the athletic world. And when you're talking about coaching.

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The new wave of coaching, is that you focus on someone's strengths. That's what you want to
build up. Now at the lower level, of course, you have to work on everything, but you
know, college, professional sports, you have to develop the strengths and work in that versus
just focusing on the negative, fix, fix, fix. No, let's elevate the positive and work as a team, the
collaboration. >> Yeah, yeah. Oh, great example. Great example.

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the, the spiraling aspect is, again, also very much in play with positive emotions. And so just like
a negative emotion kind of I, I feel like each emotion kind of implicitly takes as its job to recreate
itself in the next minute. [LAUGH] So that, so that, you know, we have.

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If we're angry or frustrated, we start seeing things in terms of blame. And then that, that, kind
of that, that blame game kind of takes over. But the same can be true for positive emotions, like
once we start feeling that oh, the situation I'm in is a gift, you know. Then the next situation is a
gift, and then gratitude starts to take hold. And it's like this upward spiral that buoys you
along. So again, the dynamics that go with emotions are part of the, why they're, you know, I
say they're the tiny engines that drive all of positive psychology because these spirals really can
take off. And each one kind of each emotion in this moment affects our emotions in the next
moment. And also, you know, to have this contagion effect too.

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>> I, I have middle school daughters so I know the contagion effect well. [LAUGH] Because they
either come in home really happy or not so happy. And it does affect my emotion too. >> Right,
right. It gives you different responsibility as a parent. To be, you know, like. Echoing the right
ones. [LAUGH] And, you know, trying to be there to receive the other ones. So anyway, I'm, I
think it's really important to get this foundation of emotions, not just being feelings but kind of
a whole process. >> Mm-hm. >> That have this dynamic. Spiraling potential. Because that helps
us see how we can make good use of that. So thanks. >> Yeah. [MUSIC]