STAGE I - BEING

AFFIRMATIONS
It's OK for you to be here, to be fed and touched and taken care of.
You don't have to hurry, you can take your time.
I like to hold you, to be near you, to touch you.
Your needs are OK with me.
I'm glad you're a (boy, girl).
You have a right to be here.

SYMPTOMS

Eating frequently. Trouble thinking. Craving sweets.

Mouth sensitivity. Napping alot. Lacking concentration.

Needing others. Needing to be lovingly fed and touched.

TASKS
Be close to, build or renew sustaining connections with others.
Take time to take things in. Ask for help from others.
Be touched and have intimate contact.
Ask others to take over for awhile to gather strength and build
energy for moving into DOING.

Ages: 0-6 mo; 13-13 ; 26-26; 39-39; 52-52; 65-65; 78-

78; 91-91
STAGE II - DOING

AFFIRMATIONS

It's OK for you to move out into the world, to explore, to feed
your senses & be taken care of.
You can do things and get support at the same time. You can be
curious and intuitive.
It's OK to explore and to experiment.
You can get attention & approval and still act the way you really
feel.
It's OK for you to initiate.

SYMPTOMS

Pleasure oriented. Motivation problems.

Needing to become grounded or find new footing.

Tooth pain.

Wanting variety of stimulation/ to expand boundaries of life.

TASKS

Feel, touch, see, hear, smell & taste the world. Seek.

Feed your senses while maintaining support.

Maintain BEING bonds. Explore gravity.

Ages: 6-18 months; 13-14; 26-27; 39-40; 52-53,

65-66, 78-79; 91-92
STAGE III - THINKING

AFFIRMATIONS
It's OK for you to push & test, to find limits, to say no and
to become separate from me.
I'm glad you're growing up.
You can let people know when you feel angry.
You can think about your feelings and feel about your thinking.
You can think for yourself. You don't have to take care of other
people by thinking for them.
You don't have to be uncertain.
You can be sure about what you need.

SYMPTOMS

Asserting "no" & "I won't." Learning new thinking.

Tantrums. Temporarily forgetful or greedy.

Feeling angry for no reason.

Pushing others.

Developing a separate position.

Testing to find out how safe it is to break out of dependency.

TASKS
Learning to think for ourselves.

Finding support for being independent.

Developing a separate position as an individual.

Ages: 1-3; 14-16; 27-29; 40-42; 53-55; 66-68; 79-81;

92-94
STAGE IV - IDENTITY

AFFIRMATIONS

It's OK for you to have your own view of the world, to be who
you are & to test your power.
You can be powerful and still have needs.
It's OK for you to explore who you are.
You don't have to act scary, sick, sad or mad to be taken care
of.
It's OK to imagine things without fear that you'll make them
come true.
It's OK to find out the consequences of your own behavior.

SYMPTOMS
Finding out what happens when we lie or steal.

Feeling consequences. Preoccupation with power. Nightmares.

Wondering, "Who am I?" Asking many questions.
Developing sudden nameless fears.

Interest in gender differences.

TASKS
Experiment with social relationships.

Test consequences.

Exert power to find out what happens.

May require taking time out from old identity to lay the
groundwork for the new.

Ages: 3-6; 16-19; 29-32; 42-45; 55-58; 68-71; 81-84; 94-97

STAGE V - STRUCTURE

AFFIRMATIONS

It's OK for you to learn how to do things your own way,

to have your own morals and methods.
It's OK to disagree.
You can think before you make that your way.
Trust your feelings to guide you. You can do it your way.
You don't have to suffer to get what you need.

SYMPTOMS

Preoccupation with "how to do it." Moral & argementative.

Interested in others' values and morals.

Criticizing other's ways.

Doing it your way & nobody elses.

Arguing & hassling with others' morals & methods.

TASKS
Argue, hassle & challenge.

Actively disagree with others' methods.

Make mistakes in order to find what works.

Seek people outside your usual circle of family and friends.

Develop your own ways to do things.

Try new social roles.

Experiment to find what works.

Ages: 6-12; 19-25; 32-38; 45-51; 58-64; 71-77; 81-91; 97-103

STAGE VI REGENERATION

AFFIRMATIONS

It's OK for you to be Strong, to have a place among grown-ups and to

succeed.

It's OK to be on your own.

You can be a sexual person and still have needs.

It's OK to be responsible for your own needs, feelings and behavior.

My love goes with you.

SYMPTOMS
Developing social relationships as a strong person.
Preoccupation with self and people as strong beings.
Skin eruptions. Turbulent body changes, especially in hormone &
energy levels.

Episodes of dependency with urges to explore & be separate.

Creating independent support system.

TASKS
Develop as a strong person.

Integrate current needs with needs from previous stages. Develop

personal philosophy.

By this stage's end we need to break out of relationships which aided

our growth up to now, and re-establish them from an independent
and autonomous position.

Ages: 13-18; 26-31; 39-44; 52-57; 65-70; 78-83; 91-96; 104-109