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 Community Dialogue > A Word in Edgewise
A Helping Hand Is Right at the End of Your Arm
W hile researching the
pets feature this is-
sue, I was gratified and
amazed to see the breadth
and depth of the concern
Minnesotans have for other
creatures, be it their own
pets or the many other ani-
mals in need.
Right in our own backyard, we have Now
Boarding Pets, which will pamper your own
darlings while you travel; Paws on Grand,
with its celebration and wealth of adop-
tion information; and Pins for Pets, raising
funds for much-needed spay and neuter
programs—attempting to avoid the killing
of more than four million unwanted animals
put down each year in the United States.
While the phrase “animal research” often
has unpleasant connotations, the University
July 16-29, 2010
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of Minnesota College of Veterinary Medi-
cine has extensive research programs, the
knowledge from which beneficially impact
both animals and humans. Its expertise al-
lowed the rare delivery and survival of twin
foals in April, documented on <www.cvm.
umn.edu/newsarchives>.
Others, like Tammy Thies, Director of
The Wildcat Sanctuary, have invested years
in helping abused and endangered animals.
Thies recalls her deciding moment: “The
day I was at a photo shoot that had two ti-
ger cubs is the day I vowed to find a way to
ensure these animals would no longer be ex-
ploited or abused. I started advocacy work,
and a few years later I began The Wildcat
Sanctuary. Ten years after the initial photo
shoot, we rescued Titan and Lilly [the owner
had been killed by a third abused animal].
Titan and Lilly were those two cubs from
[ by E.B. Boatner ]
the photo shoot, now 10 years old. This
work had come full circle for me. It was bit-
tersweet, knowing we were able to provide
Titan and Lilly with a sanctuary to be wild at
heart, but also seeing what they endured for
10 years. Helping an animal shouldn’t have
to take a decade.”
Not a pet owner myself, I help in a small
way by clicking daily on <www.theanimal
rescuesite.com>. It only takes a moment,
and it’s free. In the website’s own words,
each click “provides food and care for a res-
cued animal living in a shelter or sanctuary.
Funding for food and care is paid by site
sponsors and distributed to animals in need
at The Fund for Animals’ renowned animal
sanctuaries....” What’s best, it adds, “100%
of sponsor advertising fees goes to our chari-
table partners.”
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 Community Dialogue > Letters

Lavender Magazine received more letters
than anytime previously in our 15-year-his-
tory regarding the cover features in our June
18 issue by John Townsend entitled “Antigay
Lutheran Pastor Protests Too Much” and
“Courage, AKA Faith in Action: An Inside
Look at Catholic Gay Chastity Group.” The
following is a fair and representative sam-
pling reflecting varied opinions.
Chastity Group,” that is on the
very next page labeled as “Cover
Feature,” and online directly
below the cover image.
That article is filled with
other observations, including
a stunningly cruel comment
by Father Jim Livingston,
who runs Faith in Action, and
inducts members through
his chaplain’s office at North
Memorial Hospital. What racial
minority would ever sanction
what I observed and heard in
that group if the same was said
about them?
Townsend Responds to Critics That article also fingers two
priests and a woman director for
Lavender Magazine received the Archdiocese of Minneapolis
a copy of the following letter to the and St. Paul. Strickler’s cherry-
Minneapolis Star Tribune: picking of one article over the
other has meant Lavender’s total
Two recent Star Tribune ar- Courage coverage has been
ticles—“Cries of ‘hypocrite’ for distorted all the way up to Eliza-
pastor, report,” by Jeff Strickler, beth Jensen’s New York Times
June 24, and “Respect the range online piece, as well as a rabid
of sexual support,” by Jenell written attack on my integrity
Williams Paris, June 25—have by an angry pack of pastors.
distorted my infiltration of Strickler and Paris never con-
a local Catholic gay chastity tacted me for a comment before
group by reacting to only one submitting their articles. I did,
of my two actual cover articles however, contact Livingston and
in Lavender Magazine, June 18. Brock for mine.
The writers read the piece on Get this straight: Homo-
my observations of Lutheran sexuality and lesbianism are
Pastor Tom Brock in that group not addictions, nor are they
July 16-29, 2010
sexual activity damns them to an
eternity of hellfire and damna-
tion. The 1973 declassification
of homosexuality as a mental
illness is fully rejected. Strickler
mistakenly describes the group
as a “therapy group.” In the
weeks I was there, I encoun-
tered no therapist.
Faith in Action, whose
Catholic sponsors are tax-
exempt, harbored Brock for
some time, in full knowledge of
his demagogic video series, and
the two decades he spewed his
homophobic and sexist vitriol
on KKMS AM, which had been
defiantly rebroadcasting his an-
tigay remarks right up to almost
two weeks after my articles hit.
Brock’s bully pulpit has
assaulted gays and lesbians
and heterosexual reproductive
rights advocates for years. For
some time, I had been fielding
tips about psychological abuse
in the St. Charles Borromeo
group, including a participant
who said he felt tempted to
commit suicide. One victim
took his complaint to various
local media, and was summarily
rejected each time. So, for me,
it was clear that becoming an
embedded whistleblower was
the only option left. That way, I
could more accurately verify the
truth than to write about it from
the outside. To my mind, quite
reasonable suspicion of real dan-
ger trumped confidentiality.
Brock’s antigay KKMS
exhortations have wailed on for
years, so I was puzzled in Strick-
ler’s piece where University of
Minnesota Silha Professor of
Ethics and Law Jane Kirtley
tried to discredit my methods,
seemingly oblivious to the se-
rial, long-term breach of media
of the National Gay & Lesbian
Journalists Association, of which
I am not a member, clearly, his
careerist club members have
ignored this situation—be a
journalist first, a gay second.
In “Respect the Range of
Sexual Support,” evangelical
Messiah College Professor
Jenell Williams Paris speculates
that Brock “may have actually
been practicing for the search
of self-mastery he preached” in
the Courage sessions I attended
right alongside him. But I think
not. As my Courage article
relates, this group actually
inculcates—hence, reinforces—
a sexual fixation on male beauty
with outright stated political
positions against gay activism
and gay-based spiritual endeav-
ors. Paris peddles with chilling
nonchalance so-called “repara-
tive therapies” (again, Courage
is not a therapy group). Paris’s
crude analogy of Brock as a cat
that stinks boorishly trivializes
how he, a man in society, has
systematically perpetrated his
hysterics for years.
Recently, as MSNBC’s Rachel
Maddow has reported, Ameri-
can evangelicals, some of them
so called “ex-gays,” paved the
way for a Ugandan law to make
homosexuality punishable by
death. Recently, the Texas GOP
platform has called for recrimi-
nalization of sodomy laws and
making gay marriage a felony.
As for those who would use
my articles as a pretext to slam
investigative reporting, I suggest
Amy Goodman’s recent John
Pilger interview on that subject.
Recall Thomas Jefferson:
“The only security at all is a
free press. The force of public
opinion cannot be resisted when

in my article “Antigay Lutheran
Pastor Protests Too Much,” but
did not address the other article,
“Courage, AKA Faith in Action:
An Inside Look at Catholic Gay
illnesses. Faith In Action partici-
pants are required to refer to
their same-sex attraction as a
“disorder.” They are made to
believe that unrepentant homo-
ethics in her own metro area—
that being KKMS. Kirtley never
contacted me, either.
As for hand-wringing by
Michael R. Triplett, overseer
permitted freely to be expressed.
The agitation it produces must
be submitted to. It is necessary,
to keep the waters pure.”
JOHN TOWNSEND

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Double Standard
Lavender deserves praise for
its cover story outing the Rever-
end Tom Brock, the self-hating
preacher-broadcaster who
worked tirelessly to demonize
his fellow gay men, and to keep
gay kids locked in a closet of
shame that frequently leads to
suicide. The criticism the maga-
zine has received from some
journalists, including several
in the GLBT community, is
a good example of the double
standard gays and lesbians face
in our battle for equality.
Jean Kirtley, a media
ethicist at the University
of Minnesota, and Michael
Triplett, a board member of
the National Lesbian & Gay
Journalist Association, said the
story wasn’t important enough
for reporter John Townsend
to attend Brock’s “support
group,” and then break the
rules of confidentiality essential
to its therapeutic mission. In
their minds, Brock is simply a
political opponent of the gay
community, and the belief of
some right-wing Christians that
homosexuality is a treatable ill-
ness is a valid viewpoint worthy
of serious public discourse. This
argument shows, once again, the
double standard that applies to
gay Americans—and only gay
Americans—as we challenge
the hate and ignorance that
torments gay kids, and main-
tains our status as second-class
citizens.
Imagine if Brock were a
light-skinned African-American
who claimed to be white,
and preached to a large radio
audience that people of color
were the children of Satan,
and should not be allowed to
breed with the Godly white
race. Imagine if he secretly had
Jewish parents, but made You
Tube videos seen by thousands
demanding that Jews convert to
Christianity, or be denied full
citizenship.
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Would outing this man
for his racial and religious
self-hatred and hypocrisy be
considered important enough
to warrant an undercover inves-
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tigation? Would anyone claim
a “support group” he attended,
complete with tips for avoiding
loud Jews, and keeping one’s
skin creamy white, is a legiti-
mate form of therapy worthy
of full confidentiality for all
participants, even a prominent
public figure leading the fight
against racial and religious
equality?
Please explain to me how
Brock’s preaching about gays
and lesbians and his “support
group” are any different? If
you think gay men and women
deserve less dignity and respect
than Jews and African-Ameri-
cans, then your criticism of Lav-
ender makes sense. Otherwise,
it’s unjustified hogwash.
KEN DARLING
Courage Is Not 12-Step
Program
I just wanted you to know
how absolutely proud I am of
your article in which you outed
Reverend Brock. I fully support
Lavender, and will walk side by
side with the entire staff. Any-
one who disagrees is certainly
free to express that disagree-
ment, but I will continue to
argue on what I know to be
true, and that is, Courage/Faith
in Action (FIA) is not a 12-Step
program. Brock was outed and
should have been for spewing
his hatred, and others like him
need to be on notice that we,
as a community, will not sit on
the sidelines, and allow them
to continue their hate. “Evil
prevails when good men do
nothing.” I believe that certainly
applies here. Keep up the good
work, Lavender!
STEPHEN GRISHAM
Brock Behaved as Hypocrite
Matthew 21:12 tells us the
story of Jesus turning over the
tables of vendors, and throwing
the moneylenders out of the
temple. Even as a young child,
when I heard that story for the
first time, I understood the
Jesus was angry because of the
misuse of God’s house, and the
hypocrisy that the behavior of
the vendors and moneylenders
displayed.
The Reverend Tom Brock
has misused God’s house, and
has behaved as a hypocrite.
Brock has consistently used his
position...his pulpit...his power
and influence to denigrate and
demonize the gay community.
He has encouraged discrimina-
tion and the denial of human
rights to individuals who are
GLBT. And after all this, he
actively engages in the very
behavior he demonizes.
To those who are disappoint-
ed by the Lavender Magazine
reporting on Reverend Brock,
I would pose the following
question: How would you feel
about a member of the Min-
nesota Senate, in a leadership
position, who votes consistently
against reproductive rights for
women, who delivers hostile
messages on the Senate floor
against reproductive rights, who
campaigns on a strong platform
of prolife, but who secretly op-
erates a clinic that provides legal
abortions. Should this person be
held accountable?
Reverend Brock’s very be-
havior invited this investigation.
His hypocrisy deserves to be
noted—and exposed. Interest-
ingly, the article in Lavender
Magazine does not blatantly
identify Reverend Brock as a
gay. The article presents evi-
dence, observations, and quotes
that allow the reader to draw
their own logical conclusions.
As a self respecting gay man,
I applaud Lavender Magazine,
its editor and staff, for holding
Reverend Brock accountable,
and exposing his hypocrisy.
Kudos for a job well done.
DAVID HANCOX
Fight Fire with Fire
Yes, it is unethical to out a
person in a 12-Step program.
But since when is homosexuality
an addiction? I am thrilled you
outed this hypocritical monster.
I’m sick of our side always being
the pushovers, the good guys,
the apologists, the ones who
do what Jesus tells us to do and
turn the other cheek—constant-
ly. Fight fire with fire, I say.
Out him, and let him suffer the
wrath. Keep up the good inves-
tigating, and keep outing these
jerks until they are all exposed
to the light of the sun.
ANDREW J. TERRANOVA
Courage Is Shame Group
This supposed 12-Step
program was nothing more than
another “pray-the-gay-away,”
self-denial, shame therapy
group, this time sponsored by
the Catholic Church, and if
that doesn’t turn your stomach,
I can’t imagine what would.
Oh, maybe a Baptist-supported
group. This is not sacred,
and has absolutely nothing in
common with true self-help
programs, but I’m sure some
would like to instill fear that it
will prevent untold thousands
from getting help now. Bull.
Most people will forget about
this sordid pastor and the con-
troversy in a week.
Outing antigay hypocrites
like Brock will always have its
detractors. Well, they need to
get over it. If this man were a
proselytizing anti-Semite, but
secretly a Jew himself, how
many defenders would he have
then? Somehow, man-on-man
sex is considered so private and
personal that we should never,
ever discuss the possibilities that
men like Brock would actually
do it. If it were he and another
woman, it would be fair play
to talk about it ad nauseam. It’s
always open season for titillating
discussion of someone’s straight
sex peccadilloes. Just look at all
the gossip rags at the grocery
store checkouts.
Brock, through his own
antigay preaching, has done ir-
refutable harm to many GLBT
persons struggling with their
own identity and coming out.
The reporter’s ethics are not at
all what I question here, but the
good pastor’s principles. What
the reporter, John Townsend,
did was legal, ethical, and a
great service to our community,
and in my mind, indirectly an
eye-opener to those individu-
als who are being fooled by the
Catholic program, Courage,
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into believing that they can sup-
press their true being.
Thank you, Lavender
Magazine, John Townsend, and
Stephen Rocheford. And thank
you to others like Michelangelo
Signorile and Mike Rogers for
exposing self-loathing, antigay
politicians and ministers.
DAVID NAUGLE
Brock Profited from Greed
for Notoriety
Thank you, John Townsend
and the editorial decision-
makers at Lavender, for exposing
Pastor Brock’s double-dipping,
and his self-hating hypocrisy.
The recent outing of Brock,
with information taken at a “re-
covering homosexual” meeting,
serves the gay movement well.
Brock was profiting by attacking
gays and lesbians. It advanced
him in his career, and possibly
damaged countless gays trying
to reconcile with their churches.
The ignorant and hateful mes-
sage this pastor preached was
repeated worldwide. I believe
Brock’s greed for notoriety and
his career in the media light
are the exceptional criteria for
a legitimate outing by your
magazine.
Keep up the good work,
Lavender. I look forward to
future activist-journalism. You
have served notice: “We’re not
going to take it anymore.”
DEAN AMUNDSON
God Will Get You,
Townsend
To the author of this article,
John Townsend:
God created you into exis-
tence. God is the reason why
you’re here. He wants you to
know Him. He wants you to be
his child, to live for Him, and to
bring him Glory. He wants you
to follow his Word, the Bible.
Jesus Christ died on the
cross for you. He did it so the
wrath of God would not be
poured out on you when you
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die. Jesus lives! He rose again,
and has victory over death.
He is your Redeemer. It’s your
choice: to follow Jesus, and be
saved (the narrow gate); or go
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your own way, live for yourself,
and be destroyed (the broad
gate). Most people will not
be saved. I didn’t make up the
rules. God did. He deserves
to. He is the reason why we’re
here!
Pastor Tom Brock, I believe,
is saved. He does not fear you.
He fears God. What personal
struggles he is faced with is not
anyone’s business. That’s be-
tween him and God. I support
Pastor Tom. He is a Bible-be-
lieving Christian, and one of my
personal heroes. He vocalizes
the Bible, so your argument is
not with Pastor Tom Brock, it’s
with God’s word.
MATTHEW CREWS
Wish Pastor Brock God’s
Blessing
Open Letter to Lavender
Magazine:
For many years we have
been saddened and frustrated
by the public comments of
Lutheran Pastor Tom Brock
regarding his stridently nega-
tive opinions regarding GLBT
people. His comments have
been based on his interpretation
of certain verses in the Bible,
and his belief that the church
must not allow gay and lesbian
persons to be ordained pastors.
Brock’s public condemnation
has been hurtful to many.
Nevertheless, we are also
frustrated that Lavender Maga-
zine has released an article, “An-
tigay Lutheran Pastor Protests
Too Much,” by John Townsend,
in which he outs Pastor Brock.
The magazine sent Townsend,
undercover, to a confidential
meeting of Courage, a Ro-
man Catholic organization,
an apostolate of the Roman
Catholic Church, ministering to
those with same-sex attractions
and their loved ones. Courage
meetings are understood to be
confidential meetings.
We believe that outing
someone in this manner is
unethical and abhorrent. We
certainly believe that GLBT
persons will be spiritually and
physically healthier if they can
come out of the closet.
What is especially unethical
on the part of Lavender Maga-
zine was to “out” Pastor Brock,
based on having someone attend
a confidential meeting under
false pretenses, a meeting where
participants would expect to be
safe in discussing their lives.
We call on Lavender
Magazine and John Townsend
to issue an apology for their
journalistically unethical action,
so that GLBT persons can feel
safe in working through their
personal lives in a way which is
best for themselves, their fami-
lies, and friends.
We wish Pastor Brock God’s
blessing, as he works through
this difficult time in his life.
We hope that he will come to a
more welcoming, Gospel-based
understanding of God’s love
for himself and for all GLBT
people.
Note: In several of the following
signatories, ELCA is an acronym
for Evangelical Lutheran Church
in America.
THE REV. ANITA C. HILL, CO-
PASTOR, ST. PAUL-REFORMATION
LUTHERAN CHURCH, ELCA, ST. PAUL
THE REV. KEITH OLSTAD, CO-
PASTOR, ST. PAUL-REFORMATION
LUTHERAN CHURCH
THE REV. PAUL A. TIDEMANN,
MEMBER, GLORIA DEI LUTHERAN
CHURCH, ELCA, ST. PAUL
THE REV. JEFF SARTAIN,
PASTOR, PLYMOUTH CONGREGA-
TIONAL CHURCH, MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. ERIK STRAND, PASTOR,
EDINA COMMUNITY LUTHERAN
CHURCH, ELCA, EDINA
THE REV. PAM FICKENSCHER,
PASTOR, EDINA COMMUNITY
LUTHERAN CHURCH, EDINA
THE REV. REBECCA VOELKEL,
MEMBER, LYNDALE UNITED
CHURCH OF CHRIST, MINNEAPOLIS
EMILY EASTWOOD, EXECUTIVE
DIRECTOR, LUTHERANS
CONCERNED/NORTH AMERICA
THE REV. ELIZABETH
MACAULAY, RICHFIELD UNITED
METHODIST CHURCH, MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. DR. ANITA L.
BRADSHAW, MEMBER, MAYFLOWER
UNITED CHURCH OF CHRIST,
MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. DOUG DONLEY, UNI-
VERSITY BAPTIST CHURCH,
MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. STEVEN L.
ROBERTSON, HOSPICE CHAPLAIN,
MEMBER, ST. PAUL-REFORMATION
LUTHERAN CHURCH, ELCA
THE REV. DR. JENNY MASON,
MEMBER, GRACE UNIVERSITY
LUTHERAN CHURCH, MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. LOWELL ERDHAL,
BISHOP EMERITUS, ST. PAUL AREA
SYNOD, ELCA
THE REV. JAYNE THOMPSON,
LUTHERAN CAMPUS MINISTRY, ST.
CLOUD
ART STOBERL, DIGNITY
[CATHOLIC GROUP], TWIN CITIES
THE REV. LAURIE A. EATON,
PASTOR, OUR SAVIOUR’S
LUTHERAN CHURCH, MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. JAY CARLSON, HOLY
TRINITY LUTHERAN CHURCH,
MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. MELISSA POHLMAN,
PASTOR, CHRIST ENGLISH
LUTHERAN CHURCH, MINNEAPOLIS
THE REV. DREW FLATHMAN,
PASTOR, LAKE NOKOMIS
LUTHERAN CHURCH, MINNEAPOLIS
WILLIAM RANDALL BEARD,
CO-CHAIR, WINGSPAN MINISTRY OF
ST. PAUL-REFORMATION LUTHERAN
CHURCH, ELCA
THE REV. JAMES ERLANDSON,
PASTOR, LUTHERAN CHURCH OF
THE REDEEMER, ST. PAUL
Nothing Ethical About
Courage
I just read the story in The
New York Times concerning your
article about the antigay pastor
and “Courage.” I just want to
say: “Hooray For You!” and
keep up the good work.
There is absolutely noth-
ing ethical about the work of
groups such as “Courage.”
These groups continue and abet
the vilification of the GLBT
community by continuing to
spread their false messages that
homosexuality is a “chosen
lifestyle,” or a disease that needs
to be “cured.”
It seems to me that your
publication is the exact opposite
of unethical. After all, isn’t it
unethical of other publica-
tions and journalists to ignore
the antics of these people and
the groups they support?
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Especially since they don’t often
hesitate to reprint the garbage
these groups and self-hating ho-
mophobes spew, without doing
any investigating of the people
spewing.
Thank you for speaking out
for all of us.
CRAIG NOVAK
Brock Is Dangerous
In my opinion, a person in
power—be it political or reli-
gious—relinquishes their right
to personal privacy. A person
who has influence over others
via their public agenda should
be expected to live up to that in
their private life as well. This
man has been living hypocrisy
in its truest form, and he’s been
guiding others to live a hateful
life along with him.
People should not hold out-
ing this man against the journal-
ist. I think it was something
that had to be done. Especially
people who pervert religious
love into hate, and everything
that is a weakness for him he
equates as demonic. This man
needs help, in a psychological
way. There’s just so much hate
there.
This reporter just did the
most humanitarian thing possi-
ble in outing this man. I believe
he’s dangerous, and should not
be in a position of influence.
BETH LAMPING
Comedian Offers Brock
Limerick
A Lutheran pastor named
Brock,
Preached hatred and lies to
his flock.
But now, he’s left pouting
Because of his outing;
Apparently, Brock likes the
c--k.
DREW JANSEN
Joe McCarthy Would Have
Loved Lavender
I am deeply disappointed in
this article…way over the line
July 16-29, 2010
ethically. I am an Episcopal
priest, have an out-of-the-closet
partnered son, worked in church
communications for over 20
years, with doctoral work in
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journalism, so I’m pretty com-
fortable in my comments that
this was way out of line on a
whole lot of levels.
People wrestle with all sorts
of things in therapies…and if
thoughts alone are your criteria,
then we are into an ethical
ballgame that no one can win
in. As a priest-psychoanalyst
friend of mine said years ago:
“If murderous thoughts were
actionable, the streets would be
littered with corpses. It’s why we
distinguish between impulses,
thoughts, and actions.”
For you guys to decide that
Catholic therapy doesn’t count,
because you disagree with its
premise, is so presumptuous as
to be ludicrous. It’s the church’s
“seal of the confessional” from
which virtually all over “profes-
sional confidentiality” laws have
in fact evolved from. Back off.
Journalistically, this is a
throwback to the worst of
Hearst “yellow journalism.”
Folks of all sorts of ideological
positions have tried over the
years to claim that their posi-
tion’s truth trumps all others…
and so, if they violate someone
else’s rights…well, what the
heck, “our cause is the only
thing to measure by.” Senator
Joe McCarthy would’ve loved
you guys on this.
Bottom line: Get some per-
spective. Hypocrisy is a much
overrated vice, but you guys are
doing a nice job of it with this
piece yourselves.
LEONARD FREEMAN
12-Step Process Needs
Anonymity
I believe that John Townsend
and Lavender Magazine owe an
immediate and sincere apol-
ogy to Reverend Brock. There
is no amount of vitriol that
Brock spreads, even over radio
airwaves, that warrants the type
of unethical journalistic practice
engaged in by the reporter and
sanctioned by this publication.
To go “undercover” and attend
a 12-Step meeting usually only
open to those struggling with
that particular addiction, and
then to break the confidential-
ity and anonymity of that group
and one of its members, is not
only unacceptable, it is danger-
ous for all people who attend
such groups in hopes of building
recovery.
Does opening this door
mean it is now justifiable for
someone from any publication
or media outlet to do the same
in any 12-Step group? Does this
mean that anyone can report
on attendance and the content
of discussions by any so-called
public figure in any 12-Step
meeting? And who determines
who is a public figure or what
content might be newsworthy?
I can imagine the kind of
chilling effect such action will
have on open and honest discus-
sion, disclosure which is at the
core of recovery from addic-
tion and compulsive behaviors.
With this kind of permission to
violate the tenets of anonymity,
and justify “spying” on groups
and their members, how can
someone trust in the 12-Step
process?
The fact that the LG-
BTQ population suffers from
substance abuse, addictions,
and mental health problems at
a higher level than the general
population means that tools for
recovery are vital to our health
and well-being. I am dismayed
that a publication that ostensi-
bly serves the LGBTQ market
can be so blind to the potential
consequences of its journalistic
practices.
Lavender Magazine has
opened a door that it should
quickly slam shut by admitting
that it was in error, and apolo-
gizing to Reverend Brock for
its methods. Hopefully, this can
contain the damage by prevent-
ing more unethical behavior on
the part of other journalists in
search of a story.
KATE LEHMANN
Gay and Disability Discrim-
ination Are Akin
I am a disability advocate,
and founder of Diabetics/
Disabled Anonymous, an
organization that seeks to
protect the disabled, seniors
and low-income persons from
discrimination and violation of
their rights. I have known John
Townsend for about 20 years,
and have always respected him,
his thinking, and his work as a
journalist and artist.
The recent articles by
Townsend in Lavender exposing
allegedly 12-Step-type healing
environments for homosexuals
immediately made me recollect,
and relate Townsend’s work to
the recent series of programs
done by Rachael Maddow of
MSNBC a few months ago. In
these programs, she exposed
similar behaviors and creed
on a national level regarding
alleged gay healing groups and
literature as the foundation for
agitation in Uganda to make
homosexuality a capital offense
there. The massive efforts
worked in Uganda, and the law
has been changed there to make
homosexuality punishable by
death. I did not take notes on
her programs, so do not have all
the names, places, facts, and fig-
ures. However, I am sure Mad-
dow would be happy to offer
this to anyone who wants more
facts and figures. Her analysis
essentially, from what I could
glean, was that these American
gay healing groups had a sinister
undercurrent and agenda that
had nothing to do with healing
gays, only with eliminating their
civil and legal rights.
If, hypothetically, a disability
organization were putting a
public face forward that they
were promoting rights and
healing for the disabled, but in
reality were covertly inciting
undermining such rights, and
even enabling laws criminalizing
and abusing disabled persons,
wouldn’t that be grounds for all
types of undercover investiga-
tion, inclusive but not limited
to journalistic investigation? I
think it would, and confiden-
tiality would not be a shield to
enable what is essentially a hate
crime, I believe, from going
undetected, and known for its
true substance.
While the disabled com-
munity and other similar
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minorities are not the gay
community per se, the peren-
nial hatred, discrimination, and
attempts to create new legal
systems that allow the worst in
human nature are virtually iden-
tical, and come from the same
place in the human heart—or
perhaps heartlessness is a better
choice of words.
This is never harmless, and
never a one-of-a-kind thing.
There is a relentless escalation
in such conduct that unfortu-
nately is intrinsic to the prejudice
itself, and even with safeguards
in place, this type of prejudice
reemerges all too readily.
REVEREND MARYJANE DUCHENE
Survived Harmful Ex-Gay
Experience
I recently read an article that
discussed the ethics behind the
reporting on this article.
As a survivor of Christian-
based, ex-gay deprogramming
over a period of about 12 years,
I would like to speak up, and tell
you that I don’t find any part
of the reporting or the tactic
unethical at all.
I don’t use the term “survi-
vor” lightly, either. Going back
into the closet walls enclosed
by self-loathing, disdain for
one’s true self was harmful and
destructive, and sent me into a
spiral of deep depression that
nearly caused my death.
Narcotics Anonymous and Al-
coholics Anonymous and groups
like them are based on sound
principles rooted in widely ac-
cepted psychology...and endorsed
by most (if not all) psychology
professionals as being helpful to
the recovering addict.
In contrast, the “ex-gay”
movement is eschewed by most
members of the mental health/
helping professionals as being
harmful to the participants.
Ex-gay programs are rooted in
condemnation and guilt, and
promote a very unhealthy de-
tachment from one’s self that can
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lead to any number of bona fide
psychological disorders (note:
homosexuality is not a bona fide
psychological disorder).
It is up to us to expose
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fraudulent, and downright ne-
farious ex-gay organizations and
“ministries” (and frankly, all of
Christianity) for the sham that
they are. What your reporter
did was a public service, and
I laud him for having had the
courage to do so.
ROLAND ST. GEORGE
Courage Is Sham 12-Step
Group
There is no such thing as a
“12-Step program to cure one’s
homosexuality.” No scientific
group of professionals would
sanction such a thing. To even
label a group as such is an insult.
God, if you believe in him/her,
made us either gay, straight,
bi, or transgender. It is natural.
It is akin to creating a 12-Step
program for those left-handed.
So, to all of you who are
crying foul because the author
broke the confidentiality of a
12-Step program: Get real. This
so-called 12-Step program is a
sham. It is bogus. It is designed
to create and maintain self-ha-
tred. It is sanctioned by no one
except homophobic faiths.
BRENT ODDEN
Needed To Silence Brock
Well done! My heart goes
out for Brock, who is clearly
afflicted by mental and spiritual
illness. But for the damage he
afflicts on others, this is a
needed step to silence, or at
least curb, Brock’s voice. I hope
and pray that Brock take this
as a moment to move closer to
Christ in coming to terms with
how God made him. I hope this
will assist nonheterosexuals in
healing and empowerment.
God bless you, John
Townsend! Keep up the great
work!
RYAN D. BIRKMAN
Brock Loves the Limelight
Having known Tom Brock
since 1982, this doesn’t surprise
me. I applaud your article.
Those who attend confidential
support groups should be aware
of their words and actions when
they are outside the group, as
well as in. If Tom Brock hadn’t
spewed outrageous and deadly
remarks at every opportunity,
he wouldn’t have had anyone
expose his homophobic self-
hatred in the media. What’s
really pathetic is that Tom is
undoubtedly relishing all the
press he’s getting. While he
loves the limelight, it doesn’t
suit his complexion.
LYN CARLSON
Ends Do Not Justify Means
I find Brock’s hypocrisy and
lack of compassion to be in
excusable. However, I am deeply
disturbed by John Townsend’s
breach of commonly accepted
journalistic ethics to get this
story. Attending a gathering at
which participants are granted,
by the very ground rules of the
meeting, confidentiality; not
identifying himself as a reporter;
and then disclosing what was
said by Brock in a published
story is irresponsible. Lavender
Magazine is equally culpable for
publishing this story that con-
tains ill-gotten gains. I am not
categorically against “outing,”
but in this case, the ends do not
justify the means.
CHRISTOPHER BARGERON
No Reason To Be Proud
I think it is reprehensible
what you did here. I don’t care
how you characterize the group,
I have to believe there was an
expectancy of confidentiality.
You have no reason to be proud
of yourself or what you have
done.
MARY HASSLER
Brock Violates Eighth Step
Brock declared war on gays!
Are we supposed to let him
annihilate us, because he hides
behind religion?
This is a sham of a 12-Step
program. Those programs are
designed to deal with addic-
tions and illnesses. Being gay is
neither.
Eighth step: “We made a list
of all persons we had harmed
and became willing to make
direct amends to them all.”
Brock is not only violating
that step, he is actively harming
gay people’s right to love, safety,
nondiscrimination, and the
pursuit of happiness. He wants
gays’ authentic-integral-self
destroyed, and replaced with a
self-loathing false-self. Misery
indeed loves company.
It is the responsibility of
every healthy gay person to out
self-loathing homosexuals who
are campaigning and influencing
others against their very lives.
Lavender did Tom Brock a
favor. He can now take pause,
and do an honest inventory of
his life.
“To thine own self be true.”
PAUL ANTHONY
War for Gay Rights
Gay people who are in a po-
sition of authority, yet demean
gays, should be outed by any
means possible. This is a war for
gay rights.
ROBERT H. MILLER
“Queen” Gets Taste of
Power
It’s the same old story. Some
“queen” gets a taste of power,
and wants to run everyone’s life!
CHET LINDSAY
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Saloon Bans Lavender
Subsequent to publication of
the June 18 Lavender with
the cover feature on Reverend
Tom Brock, when a Lavender
distribution person attempted
to deliver the magazine to the
Saloon bar in Minneapolis, a
management person told him
that if he left copies, they
would be thrown out.
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Photo by Sophia Hantzes
MAP Hosts 20th Anniversary
Celebration Honoring Teel
Lorraine Teel has served as Executive
Director of the Minnesota AIDS Project (MAP)
since 1990. She has been a leader locally
and nationally in the fight against HIV/
AIDS. The organization is hosting a 20th
Anniversary Celebration honoring Teel on
July 23, 3-5 PM, at its building, 1400 Park
Avenue, Minneapolis. Donations may be
made to MAP in lieu of gifts to her.
Photo by Sophia Hantzes
Fruit Bowl Offers Substance-Free
Alternative to Pride
The annual Fruit Bowl, a substance-free
alternative way to celebrate Pride, took
place on June 25 at Elsie’s Bowling Alley in
Minneapolis. Pride Institute, Tobacco-free
Lavender Communities of Minnesota, and
Neighborhood Involvement Program (NIP)
sponsored the tobacco-free and drug/alcohol-
free all-ages event. The evening included a
costume contest and prizes.
July 16-29, 2010
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Photo by Sophia Hantzes
Goldstar Sponsors Matthews
Appearance at Pride Festival
Ross Matthews, AKA Ross the Intern on The
Tonight Show, appeared at the Twin Cities
Pride Festival on June 26-27, sponsored by
Goldstar, which offers half-price tickets to
Twin Cities live entertainment. Join Goldstar
free at <www.goldstar.com/tcpride>, and
you’ll earn a $5 credit toward your first
purchase, plus a $3 donation will be made to
Twin Cities Pride.
Photo by Sophia Hantzes
Minneapolis Dyke March Proclaims
“Consent Is Sexy”
On June 26, the annual Dyke March in
Minneapolis began at Walker Art Center
and ended in Downtown. The theme was
“Consent Is Sexy.” It was organized by the
Twin Cities Avengers (formerly the Lesbian
Avengers), a queer, all-inclusive, direct-action
group committed to ending oppression of all
kinds. More than 200 people participated in
this event that has become a Pride tradition.
Passing |

[ Jonathan Halverson ]
1974-2010

Photo by Sophia Hantzes

J
onathan James Halverson, 36, of
Bloomington, passed away unex-
pectedly on June 29 at University
of Minnesota Fairview Hospital in Min-
neapolis. He was born May 15, 1974, in
Paynesville, Minnesota.
Since 2007, Halverson had been an
Advertising Account Executive with Lav-
ender Magazine, where he worked with a
number of clients, earning their respect
and friendship.
Given Halverson’s winning personality,
not surprisingly, one of his favorite pastimes
was doing stand-up comedy at hotels.
Halverson leaves behind his Grandma,
Katherine Halverson; his friend/partner,
Bill Hart; his Lavender family; his loving
pets, Abby and Phoebe; and many more
family and friends. His mother, Doris
Halverson, preceded him in death.
A memorial service took place on July
10 at Lakewood Memorial Chapel in
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WICKED CAST INCLUDES TWO

FORMER TWIN CITIES ACTORS
INTERVIEWS WITH DON AMENDOLIA AND KRISTINE REESE
[ by John Townsend ]
July 16-29, 2010

22 Photo by Joan Marcus

B
eware of dismissing Wicked
as merely a commercial bo-
nanza. It compares with cul-
tural phenomenona like the
films The Godfather and E.T.,
or the novels Peyton Place and
Valley of the Dolls. Like it or not—and I love
it—Wicked registers the barometric pressure
of its time. The only American stage work
of the past 10 years that might compare is
Tracy Letts’s August: Osage County. In the
1990s, Rent was the equivalent.
Based on Gregory Maguire’s novel,
Wicked imagines an alternative back story
about the witches of Oz. We consider
just why the Wicked Witch of the West,
dubbed Elphaba, may have been such a
bitch, and that perhaps her rival, “Good
Witch” Glinda, wasn’t all that nice. I some-
times wonder what Margaret Hamilton and
Billie Burke—who portrayed the Wicked
Witch and Glinda, respectively, in the 1939
film classic The Wizard of Oz—would have
thought of Wicked.
In Wicked’s national tour, running Au-
gust 11-September 19 at the Orpheum,
Don Amendolia plays the Wizard, and
Kristine Reese portrays Nessarose (AKA
Nessa), Elphaba’s sister.
In the 1970s and 1980s, Amendolia
played Chanhassen Dinner Theatres and
Cricket Theatre, and was a company mem-
ber in the Guthrie Theater’s fabled Michael
Langham era. He also has been at the na-
tional epicenter of queer-infused theater.
Reese hails from the Twin Cities south-
ern suburbs. Only a decade out of high
school, she has been on the road with Mam-
ma Mia! and the Broadway revival of Les
Miz, just to mention a few of her successes.
I recently spoke with Amendolia and
Reese.
Amendolia observes, “Wicked speaks to
not only adults who grew up with The Wiz-
ard of Oz, but to teens and tweens, because
it’s all about being accepted. It speaks to ra-
cial issues, social acceptance, animal issues,
women’s rights, and so many things—and
especially young people. Some come back
15 and 20 times, because they see them-
selves in it. Teens and preteens always feel
awkward and ugly and misfit in the group.
It is, like the show says, looking at things
another way. That’s a constant theme
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Don Amendolia. Photo Courtesy of Hennepin Theatre Trust

that keeps being repeated, and it’s true.”

About the show you’ll see at the Or-
pheum, Amendolia shares, “Maguire was
very happy with it. He was actually at my
first two performances in Schenectady
when I started. He lives there with his part-
ner, and they have some adopted children
as well. He couldn’t have been nicer.

INTERVIEW WITH DON AMEDOLIA

I first saw you in the original New
York production of Caryl Churchill’s
Cloud Nine in 1981, and soon afterward,
you acted in and directed that comedy
for Cricket Theatre, which then was the
third major Minneapolis theater after
the Guthrie and Children’s Theatre.
Your production was a breakthrough in
local Equity theater history for its bold
queer and racial concepts. You played
the little girl in both productions.
Yes. And the servant, in the first act,
who must be played by a white man. It’s
all about contradictions. Tommy Tune, the
director, had other things to do, so there
wasn’t going to be a company of it going
out, even though it was such a phenome-
non. It was for small venues. I became part
of the contract, and that was how I began
directing. It was licensed to very specific Don Amendolia as the Wizard. Photo by Joan Marcus
places, and part of that agreement was that
I had to direct it.
ent director in New York. it was typed, and then given to us on pages
Tell me about being in Terrence Mc- the next day to try the scene. A very unusual
Nally’s Some Men. You were in Moises Kaufman’s multi- process, but very collaborative. Each time,
That came out of the Sundance White Tony-nominated 33 Variations last year. the piece became better and better.
Oak Project. That particular year was Some He’s a hero to the GLBT community
Men, and Grey Gardens was the other one. because of The Laramie Project. What It’s about a musicologist who re-
It changed drastically from the first pro- was that like? searches Beethoven’s Diabelli Varia-
duction. It’s really about same-sex relation- A very interesting process. I’ve done tions, and it bends time. What was it like
ships, and a look at same-sex marriage. We it three times now with him. We actually working with Jane Fonda?
July 16-29, 2010

all played many different parts. After that,
it went to Philadelphia Theater with cast
changes, and by the time it got to New
York, Terrence and I were the only two that
were constants. [Laughs] We had a differ-
didn’t have a script the first time when he
showed up. Moises likes to do a lot of im-
provising, so you kind of write the script as
a cast with him—literally, everything you
say. By the second time we did it at La Jolla,
She’s great. She’s wonderful. We’re
good buddies. Great humility as an actor.
Such respect for the process and the people
she works with. And fun! She’s fun to be
around.

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Kristine Reese as Nessarose. Photo by Joan Marcus
INTERVIEW WITH KRISTINE REESE
Nessarose is in a wheelchair in the
musical, but she has arms. Yet in Greg-
ory Maguire’s novel, she does not have
arms. Any thoughts about that?
I spent a lot of time focusing on the
wheelchair aspect of the character. In the
book, she doesn’t have arms. I think it’s just
kind of impossible to stage not having arms
July 16-29, 2010
for various reasons. I suppose technically
they could have done something to make
her have arms, but I think it would have just
been really limiting to the actor. Maybe in
a movie they could do it. It’s already hard
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not to have my lower body to perform. For
the stage, it wasn’t really necessary. You get
the point that she’s in a wheelchair. That’s
my opinion.
That makes sense. But you still main-
tain that she has a disability.
Exactly.
That’s central to how Nessa sees her-
self. Does that disability have something
to do with her possessiveness of Bock?
There are a couple of things I think it’s
also important to note—and I hope I’m not
Kristine Reese. Photo Courtesy of Hennepin Theatre Trust
tooting my own horn if I say this—but she’s
supposed to be very pretty and lovely. Her
clothes are very proper and buttoned-up.
She’s the perfect student and kind of a know-
it-all. I think she just kind of has this need to
feel not above other people, but almost com-
pensating for the fact that she’s in a wheel-
chair. So, I have to have the best grades. I
have to look the prettiest. I have to be pret-
tier than my sister. Definitely, with Bock, it’s
like she had something that was hers.
Does her father being governor add
social-class pressure that figures into
her compensating?
And the fact that her sister is sort of an
embarrassment to the family. Even though
Nessa is in a wheelchair, you think she’d be,
like, the black sheep. But actually, it’s her sis-
ter. Trying to fit in around all these people.
What was it like rehearsing?
I think Michelle Federer, who origi-
nated the role, is quoted something similar
to this when she was in rehearsals. I had
to spend all this time in the chair, kind of
just sitting around, and waiting for them
to say, “OK, now we’re going to run it.”
And it’s really hard, because even though
I don’t have a disability, you are ostracized
from the group, because you’re not up on
your feet, walking around, participating in
what’s happening, participating in the cho-
reography. There’s a community experi-
ence in that aspect of the rehearsal period,
and I wasn’t a part of it. On the one hand,
it helped me with my character, but on the
other, I was frustrated as a person of the
cast. I felt separated from them a little bit.
So, I can appreciate what it must be like to
have to live like that.
Wicked
Aug. 11-Sept. 19
Orpheum Theatre
910 Hennepin Ave., Mpls.
(800) 859-SHOW (7469)
<www.HennepinTheatreTrust.org>
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Project, a local nonprofit that ickle notes, “The critter room is
assists owners struggling keep the area of our facility where we
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basic supplies, connections to
veterinary care, and informa-
tion on pet-friendly housing.
Many businesses are support-
rabbits, guinea pigs, etc. It is tem-
perature-controlled, so that we
can provide additional warmth
and plenty of natural sunlight.”

RESOURCES
ing the effort by collecting un-
opened bags (aiming for 5,000
pounds) of pet food slated for
area food shelves. Participants
Hinickle adds, “We’ll accept
any companion pet, as long as
our staff have the expertise to
care for it—even Phaedron, a

HELP
can “shop for a cause” at several
businesses, with funds going to
The Pet Project for veterinary
bills, or they can drop off un-
Monitor lizard. These animals
take some extra and differ-
ent types of care, but we have
a knowledgeable staff, and are

METRO
opened food July 19-August 1.
Pet adoptions will be avail-
able at Frattallone’s Ace Hard-
ware, 1676 Grand Avenue, St.
able to accept these pets, too.”
Problem: your pup’s hyper-
active.
Solution: doggy day care.

PET
Paul. Rescue groups will offer
information about adoption
and fostering.
Hendrickson adds, “We also
Hinickle explains, “We offer
this activity seven days a week, or
as an added activity to a board-
ing stay. Dogs have access to a

OWNERS
have a new Pet Picks Contest
presented by Minneapolis Picks,
where owners can enter a photo
of their pet to become the Paws
on Grand 2011 Poster Pet.”
For more information, visit
<www.grandave.com>.
[ by E.B. Boatner ]
NOW BOARDING PETS
PAWS ON GRAND Paws on Grand, which takes So, you’ve got to be in Atlanta
4,000-square-feet outside area
covered in an artificial K9 grass,
with pools and water spritzers.”
Sweltering in Atlanta, you’ll
envy Beauregard.
Profits from Now Boarding
support any and all programs of
the Animal Humane Society.
Now Boarding, 6002 28th
Avenue South, St. Paul, is ad-
jacent to the Minneapolis-St.

J
aimee Hendrickson,
Program Director of
the Grand Avenue
Business Association,
shares, “I bring my yel-
low lab, Max. He loves Grand
Avenue, especially during Paws
on Grand, when he gets to fill
up on treats, and check out all
the other animals. He’s a fan of
the doggie pool at Grand and
Victoria, where he can splash
around and cool off!”
According to Hendrickson,
PAWS ON GRAND
July 16-29, 2010
place August 1, Noon-4PM,
began five years ago in partner-
ship with the Humane Society
for Companion Animals (now
the Animal Humane Society)
as a day to shop, dine, and en-
joy Grand Avenue with one’s
pets, while creating awareness
about pet adoption, rescue, ed-
ucation/outreach, and services.
In all, 12 local rescue groups
are involved.
The event’s pet food col-
lection partners with The Pet
tomorrow–what about Beaure-
gard, your Irish Wolfhound?
Fortunately, Beauregard’s
immunization papers are in or-
der, and a call to Now Boarding
Pets books him into one of 96
private dog suites. While you
toil in the boardroom, he will
enjoy pool time, playtime, and
Frosty Paws ice cream treats.
Now Boarding also offers 34
cat condos, a cat atrium, and a
critter room.
General Manager Lisa Hin-
Paul International Airport
For more information, visit
<www.nowboardingpets.com>.
THE WILDCAT
SANCTUARY
Christine Dietsche, Pro-
gram Coordinator of The
Wildcat Sanctuary (TWS) in
Sandstone, Minnesota, relates,
“I remember sighting a pair of
blue herons flying overhead,
and then noticing that Titan
the Tiger had spotted them as
well, and was calmly watching
their flight. This simple mo-
ment underlines how intercon-
nected we are with nature and
other living things.”
TWS is not a zoo, nor is it

open to the public. It is a non-

profit, no-kill refuge where
rescued wildcats—native cats
that cannot be returned to
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Photos Courtesy of Now Boarding Pets
the wild—live out their lives
in peace. TWS does not buy,
breed, trade, or sell animals.
“Cats” includes big—lions,
tigers, and leopards; medium—
bobcats, servals, and Siberian and
Canadian lynx; and small—Jungle
cats, Geoffreys cats, and hybrid
Bengals/Savannahs/Chaussies.
TWS’s mission—“keep the
wild in your heart, and not your
home”—applies not only to
big cats, but also to these wild/
domestic crosses. Briefly, hy-
brids—Bengal, for example is
an Asian Leopard Cat /domes-
tic cross—are touted as having
the wild look but the person-
ality of a domestic. Unfortu-
nately genetics isn’t this neat.
These cats, which have inbred,
debilitating physical problems,
cannot be litter-box-trained re-
liably. The TWS website offers
heart-breaking testimonials
from ex-owners.
TWS Director Tammy
Thies points out, “We’re a
THE WILDCAT
SANCTUARY
100-animal facility, always at
capacity. We turn away about
300 cats per year, given budget/
facility limitations. That’s why
we spend a lot of time on edu-
cation and advocacy to end the
private breeding and exhibit-
ing of these animals. About 60
percent were privately owned
by individuals who got in over
their head; 30 percent come
from seizures due to cruelty
and neglect; 10 percent are na-
tive, nonreleasable wildlife.”
Asking people to support an
organization not open to the
public is difficult, but TWS
has a strong-rooted belief that
animals should not be used for
commercial, entertainment, or
amusement purposes.
At TWS, all cats have spacious
enclosures with room to run and
play, as well as perches, pools, and
toys for stimulation. They are fed
fresh meat on a daily basis. They
are vaccinated annually, and have
onsite veterinary care.
Photos Courtesy of The Wildcat Sanctuary
Building an enclosure runs
$7,000 to $25,000; tempera-
ture-controlled dens cost $520;
and the winter monthly elec-
tricity bill exceeds $1,000.
Rachelle Wood, TWS Vol-
unteer and Board Member—
who lives with, in her words,
“five kitties and one beautiful
partner”—remarks, “We come
to the sanctuary for one purpose:
to help the cats have a better life.
It doesn’t matter if you’re gay or
straight. Animals don’t care who
you are or how you live your life.
They see your soul.”
For more information, visit
<www.wildcatsanctuary.org>.
PINS FOR PETS
Chuck & Don’s Pet Food
Outlet is sponsoring its third an-
nual Pins for Pets on August 15.
Lavender spoke with Dana An-
dresen, Director of Operations,
about the event, which funds
spaying and neutering of pets.
NOW BOARDING PETS
Your motto is “Bowl for
the Fix.” How did Chuck &
Don’s become involved?
Through our animal wel-
fare ties, we had sponsored a
bowling event facilitated by the
Humane Society for Compan-
ion Animals [HSCA]. When
that was discontinued, we de-
cided to try our hand at an an-
nual event that would help to
fund spay and neuter initiatives
in Minnesota. Our goal this
year is to fill Flaherty’s Arden
Bowl with 216 bowlers, and to
surpass $50,000 in donations.
With the current funds raised
this year, Minnesota Spay Neu-
ter Assistance Program [MN
SNAP] will be able to sterilize
approximately 511 owned pets.
Exactly how do you help
folks get their pets neu-
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Due to the laws in Minne-
sota, it is difficult to find
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low-cost spay and neuter ser-
PINS FOR PETS
vices. Through these types of
fundraisers, people having dif-
ficulty affording these surger-
ies have access to low-cost or
completely subsidized spay and
neuter surgery.
Are people becoming
aware and concerned about
the issue of pet sterilization?
You hit on a very important
component to reducing pet
overpopulation: education. We
don’t advocate that every pet
owner sterilize their pet. What
Photos Courtesy of Pins for Pets.
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we advocate is responsible pet
ownership. This fundraiser is
one of the avenues to fund spay
and neuter services to the un-
derserved pet-owner communi-
ties in Minnesota.
Bowling sounds convivial!
The atmosphere is excite-
ment! It is an opportunity to
meet “The Chuck Anderson”
of Chuck & Don’s, to see Ka-
tie K-9 broadcast live, and to
meet Ian Punnett of MyTalk
107.1FM. The participants
have a fabulous time—winning
door prizes, having a late lunch,
visiting with other pet lovers,
and just having fun!
For more information, visit
<www.pinsforpets.org>.
COLLEGE OF
VETERINARY MEDICINE
Clinical veterinary work
first began at the University of
Minnesota in 1888 with the ap-
pointment of the institution’s
first veterinarian, Michael
Treacy. For the next 60 years,
veterinary medicine was taught
and practiced as part of the
School of Agriculture curricu-
lum, until, in 1947, the School
of Veterinary Medicine was
established, later reorganized
into the College of Veterinary
Medicine (CVM).
Especially important today
are CVM’s research programs,
involving many of its nation-
ally and internationally recog-
nized faculty. Areas of particu-
lar research strength include
infectious disease, genomics,
comparative medicine, public
health, and epidemiology—
plus dairy, swine, and avian
medicine—also carried out in
the St. Paul Raptor Center and
Leatherdale Equine Center.
CVM Chief Development
Officer Bill Venne says
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> Pets
that in addition to maintain-
ing working relations with both
the Minnesota Zoo and Como
Zoo, “We have treated all types
of animals, including pro-
lecular biology and immunology
necessary to administer gene
and immune therapy. Outcome?
Batman is back home—tumor-
free since last August—and the
VETERINARY MEDICINE
of a multidisciplinary team
that will include Tufts Uni-
versity [Medford/Somerville,
Massachusetts]. The project,
called RESPOND, is one of

duction animals—pigs, cows,
chickens; domestic animals—
cats and dogs; and zoo animals,
including giraffes and raptors,
through our Raptor Center.”
Venne, who adds that ani-
mal research is aimed toward
improving the health and well-
being of both animals and hu-
mans, notes, “Research with
dogs is an important area of
CVM’s cancer studies.”
A case in point was Batman,
a Belgian shepherd mix diag-
nosed with a fatal brain tumor,
that was brought to the atten-
tion of John Ohlfest, PhD, and
Elizabeth Pluhar, CVM sur-
geon, both members of the Uni-
versity’s Masonic Cancer Cen-
ter. They merged her surgeon’s
skills and his knowledge of mo-
July 16-29, 2010
COLLEGE OF
doctors gained valuable insights five that will work together to
on transferring their findings to preempt or combat the first
human patients. stages of emerging zoonotic
Venne stresses that one of pandemics—diseases that can
the most rewarding things at spread between animals and
CVM “is the tie we have with humans.”
our animal friends—whether it
is helping our own pets to be- For more information, visit
come healthier, or the wildlife <www.cvm.umn.edu>.
such as eagles and owls that
are treated at the Raptor Cen-
ter. We share this planet with
them, and we need to keep
them healthy. Also, it is very
rewarding to see how much joy
animals give people.”
Research continually is pro-
gressing, according to CVM
Communication Director
Brian Graves Sr.: “We recently
were awarded part of a $185
million USAID grant as part
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Pride in Pictures
2010
PRIDE PARADE, June 27, Hennepin Avenue, Minneapolis

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2010
PRIDE CONCERT, June 26, Loring Park, Minneapolis
July 16-29, 2010

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2010
PRIDE BITCH-N-BRUNCH, June 27, Seven, Minneapolis

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 Big Gay News >
[ Written & Compiled by Bradley Traynor ]

LOCAL
JUDGE DIDN’T BAR ANTIGAY
ACTIVIST FROM PRIDE FESTIVAL
A federal judge ruled in June that
Twin Cities Pride could not prevent Brian
Johnson, an antigay, born-again Christian,
from handing out Bibles during the Pride
Festival in Loring Park, Minneapolis.
Organizers had asked for a temporary re-
straining order against him. They argued
that their lease of park space allowed them
to determine who can hand out literature.
The Minneapolis Park and Recreation
Board decided previously that Johnson
could attend, as long as he didn’t disrupt
the event or harass participants.

NATIONAL
WISCONSIN SUPREME COURT
UPHOLDS SAME-SEX MARRIAGE
BAN
The Wisconsin Supreme Court upheld
the state’s constitutional ban on same-sex
marriage and civil unions. A lawsuit had
challenged the way the 2006 constitu-
tional amendment was put before voters.
The court ruled 7-0 that the amendment
properly was placed on the ballot.

WISCONSIN COURT SAYS GAY

PARENTS DO NOT HAVE EQUAL
RIGHTS
A Wisconsin state appeals court decid-
ed in June that not all gay parents have full
parental rights of their adopted children.
It ruled against a woman who was seeking
guardianship of two adopted children she
helped raise with her former partner. Un-
der Wisconsin law, only one person can
become an adopted child’s legal guardian.
Even though the woman was the chil-
dren’s stay-at-home mother for years, the
appeals court held that she is not a parent
under state law.

US SUPREME COURT SAYS

CHRISTIAN GROUP CAN’T BAN
GAYS
The US Supreme Court ruled against a
Christian student group that refused to al-
July 16-29, 2010

low openly gay and lesbian members. The

Christian Legal Society at Hastings Col-
lege of the Law in California required its
members to sign a statement of faith that
regarded “unrepentant participation in or

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advocacy of a sexually immoral lifestyle”
as unacceptable. The college revoked the
society’s charter, saying it would not rec-
ognize a group that excludes people based
on religious belief or sexual orientation. A
lower court decided that the college did
not violate the society’s free-speech rights.
The high court upheld that decision 5-4.

JOAN RIVERS URGES GAY STARS

TO “STAY IN THE CLOSET”
In a recent interview with The Advo-
cate, comedian Joan Rivers urged gay stars
to stay in the closet. She noted that show
business is still difficult for them. She
thinks they’d be better off keeping their
sexual orientation hidden. Rivers said, “If
you’re going to be a romantic idol, and
try to get every teenage girl to love you,
then you’d be an ass to come out, and say
you’re gay.” She went on to praise singer
Ricky Martin for waiting to come out un-
til after he was financially successful.

HAWAII GOVERNOR VETOES

SAME-SEX CIVIL UNIONS BILL
In July, Hawaii Republican Governor
Linda Lingle vetoed legislation that would
have legalized same-sex civil unions in the
state. She said at a news conference that
the bill was “essentially same-sex mar-
riage by another name.” She added that
citizens, not their elected representatives,
should vote directly on the issue.

WORLD
UGANDA GAY ACTIVIST FOUND
BEHEADED
The severed head of gay-rights activist
Pasikali Kashusbe was found in a latrine
on a farm in Uganda. A youth worker for
Integrity Uganda, a GLBT rights group,
he had been missing for almost a month.
Police say they also discovered what is
likely Pasikali’s mutilated torso about half
a kilometer from the farm where his head
was found. A number of suspects have
been arrested and questioned about the
murder.

ICELAND’S PRIME MINISTER

MARRIES LESBIAN PARTNER
Iceland’s openly lesbian Prime Minis-
ter, Johanna Sigurdardottir, married her
longtime partner, writer Jonina Leosdot-
tir, in June. The marriage took place on
the first day same-sex marriage became le-
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gal in Iceland. The couple, who have been

in a registered partnership since 2002, did
not celebrate the occasion with a formal
ceremony.

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 News & Politics |
The Aliveness Project Announces
Challenge Grant Opportunity
Capital Campaign for New Building is Under Way
The Aliveness Project, a leading Minne-
sota nonprofit addressing the needs of men,
women, and children living with HIV/
AIDS, recently announced a challenge
grant opportunity. Proceeds will support
the organization’s Capital Campaign.
Randy Hornstine, President of The
Aliveness Project Board, said, “A major
challenge has been initiated by Still Ain’t
Satisfied—A Foundation with Attitude and
its trustees, Shayna Berkowitz and Phyllis
Wiener. This philanthropic group has con-
tributed $50,000 in challenge funds; sub-
sequently, an additional $50,000 has been
pledged—in order to offer a $100,000 chal-
lenge to our community.”
The Aliveness Project has purchased
a larger building for its new headquarters
and program site at Nicollet Avenue and
38th Street in South Minneapolis. Just
July 16-29, 2010
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a few blocks from its current home, the
building will offer 12,000 square feet of
custom-designed space; full handicapped
accessibility; nearby public transportation;
and other features that will serve the or-
ganization and its members/clients for the
foreseeable future.
Joe Larson, Executive Director of The
Aliveness Project for the past eight years,
noted the serious need for a new build-
ing: “The number of people we served has
grown exponentially in recent years. Unfor-
tunately, the number of new incidences of
HIV/AIDS has been increasing, just as the
general public seems to believe the disease
has been, at least partially, resolved. This
challenge grant led by Still Ain’t Satisfied
and its Trustees helps heighten the visibility
of the problem and The Aliveness Project’s
responsiveness to it each day.”
In 2009 alone, The Aliveness Project
served 33,900 meals in its dining room; dis-
tributed 87,000 pounds of food and hygiene
products via its Food Shelf; offered 30,000
hours of volunteer assistance; and provided
a total of more than 5,000 case manage-
ment and “integrative therapy” sessions.
Since 1985, it has served more than a mil-
lion meals to people living with HIV/AIDS
and their families.
The $100,000 challenge-grant oppor-
tunity invites individuals of all giving capa-
bilities to have their contributions matched
on a dollar-for-dollar basis.
Persons interested in contributing, or
with ideas of organizations that may wish
to participate, are encouraged to call Tim
Marburger, Director of Fundraising and
Special Events, for more information at
(612) 822-7946, extension 204.
Arts & Entertainment |
Twin Cities Black Pride Revives Fierce Love
In the early 1990s, the Postmodern
African Homosexuals (PAH) performance
group, better known as Pomo Afro Ho-
mos—Djola Branner, Brian Freeman, and
Eric Gupta—fueled puritanical Republican
Senator Jesse Helms’s efforts to disman-
tle the National Endowment of the Arts
(NEA). North Carolina’s 1991 Black The-
atre Festival rejected the troupe as well.
A generation later, Twin Cities Black Pride
(TCBP) is reviving PAH’s unapologetic com-
edy Fierce Love: Stories From Black Gay Life.
Branner reflects, “Fierce Love continued
the conversation which filmmaker Marlon
Riggs started with Tongues Untied [1989].
Pomo Afro Homos picked up where he left
off by commenting on popular images of
black men in mainstream, LGBT, and Af-
rican-American communities, and drawing
from autobiographical experience. We em-
bodied three-dimensional representations
of ourselves, and found humor, of course—
and sadness and anger and fear—and cel-
ebrated our own lives.”
Another 1990s theater icon, Harry Wa-
ters Jr., played the original Belize in the
Broadway production of Tony Kushner’s
Angels in America. Now in the director’s
chair with Fierce Love, Waters has had to
educate his seven young actors about van-
ished symbols—like bandanas.
Waters shares, “In the original, the ‘re-
claiming’ of the power of the bandana colors
was primarily about the red bandanas: fuck
me. But when you move it to around your
neck or head, it is celebrating the stories of
grandfathers and working mothers sweat-
ing to make a difference. In our produc-
tion, Kevin Moore, AKA KAOZ612—icon
of the Hip-Hop movement—has rewritten
and once again reclaimed the commentary
on sexual practices, hustling, history, and
[ by John Townsend ]
compulsion through the use of 21st-Cen-
tury Hip-Hop.”
TCBP organizer Earnest Simpkins
points out, “In the Twin Cities, no space
exists in which black gay men can just be.
Instead, we find ourselves struggling with
being ‘too black’ in this space, or ‘too gay’
for this space, or not black or gay enough.
As a result, we have taught ourselves how to
compartmentalize our identities in order to
cope with this reality. Fierce Love introduces
a new reality.”
Simpkins adds that all races and orienta-
tions are welcome to attend.
Fierce Love: Stories from Black Gay Life
July 30-31
Pillsbury House Theatre
3501 Chicago Ave. S., Mpls.
(612) 787-3642
<www.pillsburyhousetheatre.org>
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The Drowsy Chaperone. Photo by Maureen Kvam
THE KEYS EXPERIMENT
July 29-Aug. 1
Artery Festival Twentyten, Soap Factory
514 2nd St. SE, Mpls.
(612) 623-9176
<www.arteryperformance.com>
Named for lead scientist Ancel Keys, the
Keys Experiment, also called the Minnesota
Starvation Study, researched conscientious
objectors during World War II who volun-
teered as human guinea pigs to starve them-
selves, so that more might be understood
about the nature of famines expected after the
war’s end. While in high school, performer/
writer Sheila Regan learned about it when
undergoing treatment for an eating disorder.
Regan says her multimale-character solo
performance piece makes “the connection
between the war happening over in Europe
at this time and the inner war happening to
the men as a result of starvation. I think of
war as being ‘male,’ so by setting the char-
acters in my own body, I guess I’m trying to
imagine what I would have done if choosing
whether to fight was ever a decision I had to
face. These very altruistic men were unwill-
ing to fight because of their beliefs, but they
were willing to go through the extreme sac-
rifice of starving themselves for this study.
July 16-29, 2010
They wanted to help mankind in some way,
and this was how they did it. At the time,
COs were really looked down on for not
fighting in the war.”
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Toyota! The Runaway Musical Hit! Photo by Joe Lampi
THE DROWSY CHAPERONE
Through Aug. 7
Minnetonka Theatre, Arts Center on 7
18285 Hwy. 7, Minnetonka
(952) 401-5898
<www.minnetonaktheatre.com>
This 2006 Tony-winner for Best Mu-
sical follows flights of a lonely gay man’s
imagination, as he listens to a vintage re-
cording of a roaring Jazz Age musical fic-
tionally titled The Drowsy Chaperone. The
characters come to life in his flat. They
flesh out the action right onstage through
dream sequences and mistaken identities.
Greta Grosch stars.
Choreographer Michael Matthew Fer-
rell shares, “The ’20s are one of my favorite
periods. There is a freedom and wild aban-
donment that drives the movement. It is also
sassy, sexy, and unexpected. The challenge in
all this is to organize and refine what might
easily turn to chaos. With two gay charac-
ters, we are well-represented: Trent Boyum
as ‘The Man in Chair’ and Kathleen Hardy
as Trix, the Aviatrix. The very nature of the
show lends itself to crossing the lines of gen-
der. And in the gaiety of it all, it is totally
acceptable for men to dance with men, and
women to dance with women.”
[ by John Townsend ]
TOYOTA! THE RUNAWAY MUSICAL HIT!
Through Aug. 14
Brave New Workshop
2605 Hennepin Ave. S., Mpls.
(612) 332-6620
<www.bravenewworkshop.org>
I was expecting these comics to floor
the satirical accelerator, with all the excess
of brazen corporate corruption and human
tragedy that has been made unmistakably
clear. Though the show is fun, the hei-
nous Toyota scandal never is addressed.
Instead, it has some dizzy vignettes about
people trapped in runaway Toyotas—one
is Lauren Anderson as a teen passenger
who upsets her driver dad (Josh Eakright)
by listening to lurid rock lyrics, not truly
realizing their meaning.
Non-Toyota content actually rules here.
Zany Ellie Hino sparkles as easy target Mi-
chele Bachmann—spouting some of the
Congresswoman’s most fatuous quotes. But
I wanted Hino to flesh out a more fully re-
alized impersonation, like Tina Fey’s Sarah
Palin. And Hino has the chops to do it.
Ditto Bobby Gardner’s drag turn as last
year’s overnight middle-aged sensation,
Sarah Boyle. His imitation convinces, but it
needs to go somewhere. After all, the media
circus around her is rich in irony.
Gardner shines more fully in the Mu-
sical Terrets segment, where a man is as-
sumed to be gay because he breaks into
song from classics like The Sound of Music
and A Chorus Line. This piece charmed
me, but the “terrets” aspect is potentially
dubious. Is this at the expense of the plight
of persons with disabilities? Though I’m
the last to deny that gay men love musi-
cals, as I see many of them, many straight
men attend, and love them, too.
Toyota!’s best scene spoofs a Christian
heavy metal band. Jesus warns: “Don’t
have sex!” Eakright’s raspy voice and
reptilian tongue action as a Satanically
possessed drummer brought the house
down the night I was there. This vi-
gnette cuts the edge, as the controver-
sial Christian rock scene is starting to
hit the broader radar.

THE TALENT SHOW

Through Aug. 15
Walker Art Center
1750 Hennepin Ave., Mpls.
(612) 375-7600
<www.walkerart.org>

Curator Peter Eleey makes us acutely

aware of how one’s personal image too
easily can be owned by others in one’s
own egotistical quest for recognition.
Andy Warhol’s proverbial 15 minutes of
fame notion sets the tone for this unique
exhibit. As we enter, his Screen Test: Robin,
shot in the mid-1960s, projects a close-up
of a young woman simply being. Who she
is exactly is unknown.
In the slide presentation Freefotolab,
Phil Collins has selected rolls of undevel-
oped film sent to him under condition that
the photographers relinquish all rights to
him. The results are often mundane, but
sporadically, something like two young
women together in a bubble bath pop up,
or a happy head of a young man cradled
by a pair of thighs.
Museum patron-as-voyeur continues
with Gillian Wearing’s arresting Domin-
ick, which at first look is a hip airbrushed
painting of a pretty young man. But ask
the gallery monitor to adjust it for you,
and behind the painting, you’ll see ordi-
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nary photos of the actual subject in which

he was far more attractive, not to mention
a bit more rugged—as both the monitor
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The Blue Thumb Guide to
Raingardens: Design and
Installation for
Homeowners in the Upper
Midwest
RUSTY SCHMIDT, DAN SHAW, AND
DAVID DODS
WATERDROP INNOVATIONS
$17.95
This informative, accessible
guide tailored specifically for
Planting Zones 3, 4, and 5 is a
must for local gardeners looking
to delve into this new, blue hor-
ticultural technology. Raingar-
dens, simply put, are gardens set
into depressions—existing or
man-made—that are designed
to catch and control rainwater
runoff in your yard. As the
authors emphasize, a raingarden
will provide an attractive land-
scaping feature while utilizing
plants to mitigate drainage or
erosion problems. Clearly set
forth and amply illustrated, the
text leads the reader through
chapters like “Understanding
Water Flow on Your Property”
and “Places to Avoid,” as well as
describing in detail how to plan
and landscape a garden tailored
to your property. The extensive
chapter on “Raingarden Plant
Choices” has 29 pages of plants,
names, and requirements—
an excellent resource for any
gardener. The book even has
blueprints for sizes and types of
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gardens—what to plant when
and where. This excellent re-
source ranges from the general
to the very particular.
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My Queer War
JAMES LORD
FARRAR, STRAUS AND GIROUX
$27
Lord’s memoir is at once a
coming-of-age and a coming-
out, as well as a record of
disillusionment with his fellow
man. His narrative opens in
1942, when he was 21, a newly
minted soldier, using language
that lapses into juvenile preten-
tiousness, then matures, as does
the author, throughout the
book. He mentions his diaries,
and it would seem that when
he wrote My Queer War in his
later years (he died in 2009), he
drew directly from them. This
intimacy of language uniquely
colors Lord’s descriptions of
events: his flowering sexuality
in Boston’s gay haunts, and his
brash visits to Picasso in Paris.
Lord fired but one shot during
his military service, but the
things he saw and lived were
etched into his soul, teaching
him: “The drama of imprison-
ment applies to the captors as
pertinently as to their captives.
The dehumanizing factor
inevitably prevails whenever
captors not only administer
with impunity but superintend
with complacency the misery of
their prisoners.”
Set Sail for Murder: A Polly
Pepper Mystery
R.T. JORDAN
KENSINGTON PRESS
$22
Not chick lit, not a gay romp,
R.T. Jordan’s Polly Pepper
novels defy categorization—
until you notice on the jacket
blurb that Jordan “is a senior
publicist with the Walt Disney
Studios.” All that in-house
backbiting and sarcasm has to
come out somewhere. What
better venue than the heav-
ily lipsticked mouth of an
aging, yet ever-agile, “iconic
Polly Pepper, musical comedy
superstar of yesteryear”; her
devoted, gorgeously gay son,
Tim; and her doggedly loyal,
um, retainer, Placenta (I’m not
making this up)? Inveigled onto
a celebrity cruise by another
has-been coworker on the Polly
Pepper Playhouse, all Polly wants
is undivided attention from her
fans and a plentitude of Clos
du Mesnil (try a word count on
“champagne”). But the detested
coworker is murdered, her
throat slit by a sharpened DVD
of Season Six in the PPP Col-
lector’s Edition, and Polly is off
after the killer. Pop a cork, and
settle in for a Kool Krooz with
Polly & Co.
[ by E.B. Boatner ]
Snowman: Beach
Reading 4
MARK ABRAMSON
LETHE PRESS
$15
Tim Snow—“Snowman” to his
lover, Nick—finally is recovering
from injuries incurred in Russian
River Rat, Abramson’s third
Beach Reading volume. Warm
spring days are emerging. Tim’s
restless, and his ever-present
leitmotiv of paranoia has kicked
in, whispering that Nick, who
cared for him devotedly while he
was laid up, is tired of him. (Or
maybe vice versa?) Tim leaves to
“take a break,” getting no farther
than the lavish hacienda of Aunt
Ruth’s boyfriend, Sam, where
Tim learns body parts have been
found in the dumpster behind
Arts, the restaurant where
Sam works. The plot thickens,
enveloping the usual cast of
characters: Aunt Ruth; bar own-
ers Atrie and Arturo; dipso-
maniac neighbor Teresa; Nick;
Adam, a hunky straight black
man to whom Tim disturbingly
is attracted; and Dianne, Tim’s
loathsome Texas cousin. Abram-
son escalates the plot nicely,
ratcheting up the suspense and
macabre ambience, all the while
preparing the reader—and
Tim—for the revelation of some
long-kept family secrets.
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[ by George Holdgrafer ]

Annette Bening (left) as Nic and Julianne Moore as Jules.

Photo Courtesy of thekidsareallrightmovie.com

The Kids Are All

Right Is Must-See
Film for Rainbow
Families
For rainbow families—as well as any-
one else GLBT or straight—The Kids Are
All Right, directed by Lisa Cholodenko
(High Art and Laurel Canyon), and written
by Stuart Blumberg and her, is a must-see
film. The title derives from the song “The
Kids Are Alright” by The Who.
At the beginning of the movie, Nic
(Annette Bening) and Jules (Julianne
Moore) are a middle-aged lesbian couple
who have been together since at least the
early 1990s. They have two teenaged chil-
dren by artificial insemination: daughter
Joni (Mia Wasikowska) and son Laser
(Josh Hutcherson). The family’s seem-
ingly placid existence is disturbed when
the kids contact their sperm-donor father,
Paul (Mark Ruffalo). Not to be a spoiler,
let’s just say that all hell breaks loose!
Throughout, The Kids Are All Right
alternates between hilarious comedy and
poignant drama. All the acting is superb,
particularly Bening as Nic, an uptight
medical professional who finds her com-
fortable existence transgressed by Paul’s
role in the family’s life.
By the end of the film, you’re not sure
if you’ve just seen a romantic comedy or
a family drama. Nonetheless, it’s a great
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19 W. 15th St., Mpls. 420 S. 4th St., Mpls.
(612) 871-5553 (612) 354-3846
Shoot pool or play darts at your neighborhood bar------ <www.ticklesbar.com>
the Twin Cities’s oldest GLBT establishment. Live Piano Music. Full-Service Menu, Happy Hour,

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Sports on 10 Flat-Panel TVs, Pool, Darts. JESSE
02 BRASS RAIL
422 Hennepin. Ave., Mpls.
(612) 332-RAIL (7245) 10 TOWN HOUSE
<www.thebrassraillounge.com> 1415 University Ave. W., St. Paul
Completely remodeled elegant lounge featuring variety
(651) 646-7087
<www.townshousebar.com>
of entertainment: live piano, karaoke, male dancers.
Fun neighborhood bar with a great mix of men and WHO
women. Karaoke. Drag shows. Jesse
03 CAMP
490 N. Robert St., St. Paul
(651) 292-1844 WHAT
<www.camp-bar.net> Recipe: Bacardi Long Island
An upscale but casual spot with great video, dancing, 1/2 oz. Bacardi Dragon Berry
cabaret, and the friendliest staff in town!

04 COALE'S
•
Superior 1/2 oz. Bacardi Grand Melón
1/2 oz. Bacardi O
719 N. Dale St. 1/2 oz. Bacardi Razz
St. Paul, MN (651) 487-5829 Somerset• Wisconsin Orange Juice
Areanna Coale, proprietor. Opening soon. Grenadine
An eclectic enigma filled with joy and happiness. Garnish with an orange and a cherry.
Everyone welcome!

05 FUSION
2919 Hennepin Ave., Mpls WHEN
(612) 824-6300 Wed.-Sun. • 9 PM-2 AM
<www.fusionmpls.com>
Daily Happy Hour 4-6 PM. 1/2 price beer, sushi,
spring rolls. $4 signature martinis. Bottomless glasses
WI BOOTLEGGERS BAR & GRILL
235 Main St.
of wine! Somerset, WI (715) 247-2668 WHERE
<www.bootleggerssomerset.com> Rumours/Innuendo
06 GAY 90’S Just 25 minutes east of Twin Cities. Fierce: A Show For
Everyone every Saturday.
213 E. 4th St., St. Paul
408 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. (651) 225-GLBT (4528)
(612) 333-7755 <www.rumours-innuendo.com>
<www.gay90s.com>
Upper Midwest’s Largest Gay Entertainment WI THE FLAME
Complex. Serving reasonably priced menu in main 1612 Tower Ave., Superior
bar Wednesday-Sunday. (715) 395-0101
<www.SuperiorFlame.com> WHY
“Laid-back, no-attitude atmosphere.
07 GLADIUS We like to have fun! Great DJs on the
1111 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. WI THE MAIN CLUB
(612) 332-9963 1217 Tower Ave., Superior
weekend. Free parking in the ramp.”
<www.gladiusbar.com> (715) 392-1756
The New York Chic of Minneapolis. Gladius God- <www.mainclubsuperior.com>
desses Tuesday. Killer B's Karaoke Wednesday.
July 16-29, 2010

08 RUMOURS/INNUENDO
213 E. 4th St., St. Paul
(651) 225-GLBT (4528)
<www.rumours-innuendo.com>
Rumours: hottest dance club with fabulous DJs.
Innuendo: casual, intimate "Cheers" ambience for
quiet conversation.

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BRASS RAIL
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BAR FLOATS IN THE PRIDE PARADE

June 27
Hennepin Avenue, Minneapolis

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For club addresses, phone numbers, and Web
sites, see “Bar Advertiser Guide” on page 46. FRIDAY, JULY 16 Jimmy Martin
For events not at bars, see <LavenderMagazine. Gary Collins 7 PM. Tickles.
com/calendar>.
5 PM. Tickles.
Mia Dorr FRIDAY, JULY 23
9 PM. Tickles. Gary Collins
Foam Party 5 PM. Tickles.
Gay 90’s Mia Dorr
9 PM. Tickles.
SATURDAY, JULY 17
Steven Yorek Candidate Fundraiser SATURDAY, JULY 24
Imperial Court of Minnesota Roxie Hart Candidate Fundraiser
Benefit for The Aliveness Project’s Imperial Court of Minnesota
New Animal Help for People with HIV Benefit for Harvey Milk Foundation
7 PM. Gladius. 8 PM. Gladius.
Jeff Olson Toast of the Town House Pageant
9 PM. Tickles. 9 PM. Town House.
Pro Wrestling Fundraiser for Minneapolis
Movie Bears 2011 Minnesota AIDS Walk SUNDAY, JULY 25
Team Town House Rangers
Rumours/Innuendo Softball Team Fundraiser
4 PM. Town House.
SUNDAY, JULY 18
Singles Pool Tournament
4 PM. 19 Bar.
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Cuisine > Off the Eaten Path

OFFERS TRADITIONAL AND FUSION FILIPINO CUISINE

SUBO
[ by Heidi Fellner ]

onday through Friday, Nicol- Though that atmosphere may suit many a Blu-
let Avenue in Minneapolis is a etooth addict, if you truly want to unplug and un-
blur of high heels and power wind, a veritable oasis waits just one block east at
suits—the frenzied hive of the Hell’s Kitchen’s former digs: Subo. Since opening
nine to five. The restaurants last December, it has brought the essence of the
along this manic circuit often Philippines to Minneapolis by way of cocktails;
have no choice but to assume the tone of their traditional and fusion cuisine; and an airy, calming
M
harried clientele.
Sea Scallops: black sea salt, gazpacho relish, Spanish olive oil. Photos by Hubert Bonnet
interior that encourages guests to linger.
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Steamed Mushroom Rolls; duxelle, sake, shallots, garlic, chives, tofu sheet. Dining and bar area.

{ SUBO’S SMALL-PLATE CONCEPT PROVIDES THE PERFECT AND OPPORTUNITY FOR

MINNESOTANS TO EXPLORE THE MANY FLAVORS THE PHILIPPINES HAS TO OFFER.
Before dinner, take the time to sit at the
bar, and explore the cocktail menu with an
open mind. The creative, evolving, and of-
ten meticulous drink list is designed to in-
troduce traditional Filipino ingredients and
flavors to Subo’s Minnesotan guests. While
the sake, wine, and beer list is impressive,
I appreciated the spirit of the cocktail in-
troduction to cuisine, and so began there.
I tried the refreshing Hypnotiq Caipirinha
($8), made with Cachaca Pitu (Brazil’s na-
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The bar staff also is more than happy to
make you something off-menu, and if you
encourage them to play, they will reward
you with brilliance. We were treated to
what only can be described as a summery
version of eggnog, and it was exquisite.
Introducing Filipino food to the Twin
Cities presents a unique challenge. Be-
cause of the unique history of the Phil-
ippines, its traditional cuisine heavily is
influenced by Spanish, Chinese, Japanese,
{
emphasis on food quantity may disagree
with me, but I think that Subo’s small-plate
concept provides the perfect and only op-
portunity for Minnesotans to explore the
many flavors the Philippines has to offer.
Subo has caught some plate-size flak from
the Filipino community, and I personally
feel the criticism is undeserved. The price
ratio is very reasonable, and a guest certain-
ly is capable of ordering as much food as
he or she wishes. Moreover, with the qual-

tional drink), Hypnotiq liqueur, kalamansi
juice (a Southeast Asian citrus fruit), pars-
ley, and lime. The sly concoction rendered
the sugar cane rum base almost undetect-
able, so a word to the wise: Pace yourself.
Vietnamese, Malaysian, and American fla-
vors. The result can seem a little all over
the map, especially when you add classic
French cooking techniques.
Some Filipinos who enjoy their culture’s
ity of food coming from Chef Geoff King’s
kitchen, I wonder if the “quantity” criticism
isn’t a compliment in disguise.
For a larger plate experience, order
Adobo Chicken Wings ($8.50) with its

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Ukoy: shrimp fritter, vegetables, chili vinegar sauce.
perfect companion, Coconut Rice ($4). The
traditionally prepared chicken wings are
wickedly good, and falling off the bone.
However, if you are in a meandering
kind of mood, begin with Embutido ($9),
a ground-pork, quail-egg, and chicken-sau-
sage meatloaf served cold with homemade
banana catsup. Take a bite of the meatloaf
before dipping it too liberally into the cat-
sup—the condiment is delicious, but packs
more flavor than tomato catsup.
Follow with Steamed Edamame ($6).
King uses black Hawaiian sea salt and a
dash of basil lime oil to jazz up his delight-
fully firm soybeans. The result is very dif-
ferent than what you may have snacked on
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before your sushi.
At this point, my dining partner and
I had moved from cocktails to wine. Our
server’s picks of the dry La Sauveuse rosé
($5.5/$8/$5/$25) and the acidic Nessa Al-
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Embutido: ground-pork, quail-egg, chicken-longanisa meatloaf, banana catsup.
barino ($6.50/$10.50/$27) paired so well
with everything we tried that if either tick-
led your fancy, I’d encourage you to spring
for a bottle.
Ukoy ($9.5)—essentially, a lightly
breaded shrimp and vegetable fritter with
traditional dipping sauce—was next, along
with Garlic Fried Rice ($4) and absolutely
heavenly Steamed Mushroom Rolls ($8). I
am not a mushroom lover, but I would re-
turn for these moist, sake-sweetened, gar-
licky wonders.
If you consistently are leaning toward
the Asian influences, Lumpia Shanghai
($7.50) is a lovely play on an egg roll, wrap-
ping ground pork tightly into a long, slen-
der wrapper; giving it a fry; and serving
it with mild mandarin orange chili sauce.
However, I also marveled over the tender
Pan Seared Scallops ($9), which showcase
the Philippines’s Spanish influence with a
dab of gazpacho relish.
I must admit, I am beginning to wonder
why Filipino food has not made a bigger
splash here in Minnesota—we love fusion
cuisine, rich sauces, and comfort foods, and
we aren’t so big on spice. Surprise—neither
is most Filipino food! Given our long and
brutal winters, I can’t be the only one crav-
ing a breath of fresh, South Seas air now
and then.
But if you’re still on the fence about it,
the Subo dessert list includes New Orleans-
worthy Beignets ($7) with kalamansi curd
spiced sugar, and a warm Kalamansi Me-
ringue Tart ($7).
I rest my case.
Subo
89 S. 10th St., Mpls.
(612) 886-2377
<wwsuboexperience.com>
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[Text & Photos by E.B. Boatner ]

Minneapolis-St.
Paul Frontrunners
Holds Run for
Equality 5K
A record 104 entrants participated in
this year’s Minneapolis-St. Paul Front-
runners Run for Equality 5K. It netted
$3,000 for Project 515, a nonprofit orga-
nization whose mission is to ensure that
same-sex couples and their families have
equal rights and considerations under
Minnesota law.
The course encompassed one lap
around Lake Calhoun In Minneapolis,
with prizes for the first two male and
female entrants. This years top runners
were Kyle Brandon (male) at 17:21 and
Kelly Russ (female) at 19:33. Other nods
went to First Runner Finishing With a
Dog, Morgan Paldron, 32:15; and First
Runner Finishing With a Child, Nathan
Lewis, 37:56.
A total of 18 companies and individu-
als, including Lavender Magazine, spon-
sored the event.
Minneapolis-St. Paul Frontrunners is
a running and walking club welcoming all
interested GLBT individuals people and
friends. The organization offers weekly
runs and walks, followed by convivial din-
ing, as well as periodic social events.
For more information, visit <www.
mspfrontrunners.org>.

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LAVENDER
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FRIDAY, JULY 16

Photo Courtesy of Minneapolis Aquatennial

Aquatennial. Enjoy the 71st summer civic celebra-

tion of the City of Minneapolis. Residents, workers,
and tourists have come to love and appreciate all
that the City of Lakes has to offer during the festival.
Participate in the Lifetime Fitness Torchlight 5K and
the annual Block Party. Top it all off with the astound-
ing fireworks display on the Mississippi Riverfront.
Through July 24. <www.aquatennial.com>.
River of Passion. This second show of The Flower
Shop Project’s 2010 season, by Bethany Hummel,
Brenna Jones, and Stephen Moeller, is an experi-
ment: a live-action soap opera with a new episode
every week. The cast and crew are having a wonder-
ful time preparing the tales (in the bedroom and the
boardroom!) of two rival families in a soapy, fictional
version of Minneapolis and St. Paul. July 16, 23, and
30. Bryant-Lake Bowl Theater, 810 W. Lake St., Mpls.
(612) 825-8949. <www.bryantlakebowl.com>.
Rochester Pride Kickoff. Show your pride at the
13th annual Rochester Pridefest. Enjoy performances
by Guest Emcee Gosh Alice Jones, along with a Sat-
urday night Performance by the Rochester Girls. Cel-
ebrate at the Rochester Bears Barbecue and Fund-
raiser. Through July 18. <www.glcsmn.org>.
Target Arts & Wonder Free Family Events. Target
is granting free admission to cultural institutions for
the entire weekend. Participating venues include
Walker Art Center, Minnesota Orchestra, Minnesota
Children’s Museum, and more. Through July 18. Visit
July 16-29, 2010

<www.target.com>, and click on “Community.”

THURSDAY, JULY 22
Mill City Live: Aby Wolf. Mill City Museum’s out-
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Courtesy of Mill City Museum and Minnesota Historical Society

Aby Wolf. The event offers outdoor music by some

of the best local artists. Admission includes concert
and museum entrance. Food and drink by D’Amico
Catering. 4-9 PM. Continues every Thursday through
Aug. 19. 704 S. 2nd St., Mpls. (612) 341-7555. <www.
millcitymuseum.org>.
Medical Services_____
SATURDAY, JULY 24
Tangletown Gardens and Art Tour. The self-guid-
ed tour features some of the best gardens in the
Twin Towns, along with local art. Proceeds from the
event fund public art, charities, and garden projects
throughout the Twin Cities area. 9 AM-4 PM, rain
or shine. Tickets $25 in advance or $30 at the door.
5353 Nicollet Ave., Mpls. (612) 822.4769. <www.tangle
towngardens.com>.

THURSDAY, JULY 29
Sawdust. Fame. Fortune. Glitz. Grit. Circus Juventas
presents a tale of two young men chasing a dream
during the golden era of traveling circuses. Featuring
performances by advanced youth who will be joined
by legendary circus stars. Highlighting traditional cir-
cus acts, including: teeterboard, acrobatics, swinging
trapeze, and more. Through Aug. 15. Circus Juventas
Big Top, 1270 Montreal Ave., St. Paul, (612) 699-8229.
Tickets for all reserved seating on sale now. <www.
ticketworks.com>.

SUNDAY, AUGUST 1
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Caffetto Arts and Crafts Fair. 40 local artists and ar-

tisans offer jewelry, bike accessories, bags, woodwork,
and more. Enjoy live music performances and food.
Aug. 1. Noon-6 PM. 708 W. 22nd St., Mpls. <www.fa
cebook.com/CaffettoArtCraftFair>.

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Pet Products Tickets

TICKETSOn Sale
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Courtesy of the Hennepin Theatre Trust

Real Estate_________ Glamorama 2010. Explore fashion through the music

of Macy Gray and Eric Hutchinson. This year’s show
unites fashion, fantasy, music, and magic in a runway
fashion. The annual event benefits Children’s Cancer
Research Fund®. 2010 designers: Jean Paul Gaultier,
Just Cavalli, Marc Jacobs, Versace, and more. Aug. 6.
8 PM. Orpheum Theatre, 805 Hennepin Ave., Mpls.
(612) 339-7007. <www.hennepintheatretrust.org>.
Wicked. Something wicked this way comes…again.
The musical sensation known as Wicked is making its
way back to Minneapolis, with more than a monthlong
stay this time. It’s the story of the Wicked Witch of the
West. Find out the truth behind the fable. Tickets on
sale for season ticket holders, donors, and groups of
20 or more. Aug. 11-Sept. 19. Orpheum Theatre, 910
Hennepin Ave., Mpls. (800) 982-2787. <www.ticket
master.com>.

ONGOING
Ongoing

Fabulosity. The Midwest Divas partner with The Min-

Psychotherapy_______ nesota Ovarian Cancer Alliance (MOCA MN) for the

first annual Fabulosity: A Shopping, Pampering and
Networking Experience. A percentage of the pro-
ceeds goes to MOCA MN. The event, with many won-
derful offerings for women, is hosted by the W Hotel
(Foshay Tower), 821 Marquette Ave., Mpls. Aug. 7.
Noon-7 PM. <www.midwestdivas.com>.
The Fantasticks. It’s no surprise that this whimsi-
cal, poignant, and universal musical ran 42 years
Off-Broadway because of songs such as “Try to Re-
member” and “Soon It’s Going to Rain.” Audiences
have cared for the two young lovers and their warring
families for decades. You’ll enjoy it all even more in
the intimacy of Theater in the Round’s arena. Through
July 31. Theater in the Round Players, 245 Cedar Ave.,
Mpls. (612) 333-3010. <www.theatreintheround.org>.
The Music Man. Professor Harold Hill arrives in River
City, Iowa, with the intent of swindling the community.
He poses as a bandleader, and attempts to con the
locals before he skips town with cash. Watch the 70
Fridley Community Theatre actors, as they find good,
bad, and deceit in Mr. Hill. Through Aug. 1. <www.
fridleycommunitytheatre.org>.
The Mystery of Irma Vep. Help Jungle Theater cel-
ebrate its 20th season with this outrageous, sidesplit-
ting comedy by Charles Ludlam. This hilarious send-up
of Victorian melodrama and gothic romance is the tale
of a sympathetic werewolf, a vampire, and an Egyptian
princess. Laugh as murder and mayhem break out.
Through Aug. 1. Jungle Theater, 2951 Lyndale Ave. S.,
Mpls. (612) 822-7063. <www.jungletheater.com>.
A Streetcar Named Desire. This play delivers an un-
forgettable dramatic ride, filled with love, loss, and the
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July 16-29, 2010

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Through Aug. 2. Guthrie Theater, 818 S. 2nd St., Mpls.
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Backtalk > Dateland [ by Jennifer Parello ]

Malaise
I
went to my neighborhood coffeehouse—Malaise— I was touched by her notion that infatu-
ation can be tamed through careful plan-
this morning. I generally avoid this place, because ning, and the use of sophisticated software
Malaise lives up to its name in every respect. The programs. The sad truth was that she had
staff is disenchanted and glum. They bitterly resent as much hope of controlling the wild emo-
tional trajectory of the affair as I did of con-
that they have to stop scribbling nonsense in their vincing the coffee waitress to stop sniffing
journals just to wait on your sorry ass. her fingers, and fetch us a refill.

I stood at the counter for several min-

utes before a stick figure with a buzz cut
and a minefield of facial piercings finally
approached me. She walked to the counter
warily, like a sick dog would, doing her best
to avoid eye contact. Then, she slouched
her way to the coffee pot, and groaned
when she lifted a cup, as if the action were
draining the last of her life force.
In retaliation, I rapidly tapped my fin-
gernails on the counter, a gesture I picked
up from my mother, who uses it quite ef-
fectively to intimidate poky clerks, bridge
opponents, and my father.
My impatience was lost on Miss Ane-
mia, who was like a superhero armed with
spectacular powers of passive-aggression,
which she used to defy all laws of motion
and civility. When she finally shuffled over
with my coffee, I handed her a $10 bill, and
told her to keep the change, hoping she’d
use it to buy herself some multivitamins.
As I was leaving the shop, I heard some-
one call out my name weakly. I turned to
find my friend, Ingrid, huddled at a tiny
table in a dark corner, looking more like a
smudge mark than a girl.
“I’ve been up all night,” she said, “trying
to figure out how I can have an affair with- On Ingrid’s laptop was a spreadsheet But I rarely am asked to be the voice of
out hurting Wendy. And I think I’ve come that graphed the planned lifeline of the af- reason, and from the desperate look in In-
up with the perfect plan.” fair. It would begin with some frantic grop- grid’s dilated pupils, it was clear she wasn’t
Ingrid handed me a notebook filled with ing in a piano bar, and end six months later in any mood to be talked off the ledge.
manic scrawl that clearly charted her har- with a handshake and hearty good wishes So, I said, “It seems like a foolproof
rowing journey through caffeine-induced all around. No harm. No foul. plan,” trying not to place too much empha-
psychosis. The penmanship swerved dan- “The beauty of the plan is that it doesn’t sis on the “fool.”
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crackpot justifications for engaging in a said, looking up at me with crazy eyes. “It’s cold dregs of an espresso, I noted that she’d
“purely sexual” affair with a woman she has just sex. So, no girlfriends will be injured in be in need of something much stronger
had a long-simmering flirtation with. the process. What do you think?” than coffee the next time we met.

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Backtalk > Consider the Source
Unapologetic Masculinity
T
he military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy doesn’t
surprise me. After all, these unhealthy, out-of-
touch policies all stem from one old-boys-club
dinosaur school: The Citadel.
The Citadel, South Carolina’s once
all-male military academy, is still writhing
with bitterness after losing its fight to keep
Shannon Faulkner from becoming the first
female cadet in the school’s chauvinist 152-
year history.
It’s hard to understand why school of-
ficials think having a woman around would
interfere with a traditional military educa-
tion. On the other hand, the D Day sur-
prise attack might not have turned out so
well if the troops had been trained to knock
before entering.
What the Citadel needs is a new legal
strategy. The school should seek protection
under the Endangered Species Act. It ought
to declare itself a refuge for Unapologetic
Masculinity, and call out the lawyers against
anyone who tries to disturb the species in
its natural habitat.
Say good-bye to specially constructed
bedroom suites for girls. No arguments
over haircuts, no Midol in the first-aid kits,
no need to make those class rings in wom-
en’s sizes.
Hey, nobody tells a spotted owl to be
more sensitive.
Women would like to be promptly escort-
ed off the premises. Bothersome questions of
constitutional rights just melt away when the
future of a species is at stake. And rightly so.
Extinction, after all, is permanent.
And if ever a species were threatened, it
is this one. From locker rooms to law firms,
Unapologetic Masculinity is under fire.
Even in that once-sacred preserve of testos-
terone, junior high school, a boy can’t snap
a bra these days without triggering a sexual
harassment conference.
So, The Citadel can save its own skin,
and preserve an important part of American
history at the same time. There hasn’t been
an opportunity like this since the last auto-
motive bailout.
Those federal dollars will really flow
once the school’s new mission is estab-
lished. The cadets will need plenty of
weight benches, eight cylinder engines, TV
remote controls, and big stereo speakers.
They’ll probably want a four-year supply
of Arnold Schwarzenegger movies. And
you just can’t have too many satellite dishes
during the football season.
[ by Julie Dafydd ]
Excessive you say?
Well, can we do less for the cadets than
we did for the condors?
The benefits to society may not be ap-
parent to everyone. But soft-spoken do-
cents will educate the public on daily tours
of the grounds.
“Take nothing but pictures,” they’ll say.
“Leave nothing but footprints.”
Visitors will be led past groups of cadets
roaming free on the campus, unrestricted
by sensitivity guidelines.
“Listen to them closely,” the docent will
whisper. “At one time, the entire Earth was
populated by men who would say things
like that, and not be sued.”
Nostalgic Navy officers, aging corpo-
rate CEOs, and half the United States Sen-
ate will be drawn to The Citadel for that
wonderful flood of warm memories.
The Citadel will need those friends in
high paces when the lawsuits start. The lo-
cal homeowners will be filing complaints
over the noise from the Saturday afternoon
tractor pulls.
Some people just don’t appreciate nature.
And when the first feminists sneak past
security, there’s going to be trouble. They’ll
be in court before you can say Victoria’s
Secret, demanding to tear the centerfolds
right off the walls of barracks.
“Motion denied,” the judge will tell the
offended females. “You may not destroy the
habitat of a protected species.”
The Citadel will thrive under its new
status. This strategy will almost guarantee
that the school forever will be full of swag-
gering, macho men who treat all women as
mindless sexual playthings.
Any volunteers?
Oops. I shouldn’t have asked. I forgot
about that pesky Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell
LavenderMagazine.com
policy.
But, hey, consider the source.
Bye for now.
Kiss, kiss,
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 Ms. Behavior© |
[ by Meryl Cohn ]

Bothered Bubbe
Dear Ms Behavior:
I am old-fashioned, but I have tried to
change with the times. My daughter, who
is gay, is married to a wonderful girl. They
adopted the most beautiful baby in the
world. Of course, that’s not the problem.
The problem is the Internet.
My daughter and daughter-in-law have a
blog, and they write about every single thing
that’s going on in their lives. Plus, they put
tons of pictures of my grandson on it.
Granted, he has the cutest little ca-
boose in the world, but must it be avail-
able for everyone to see?
Plus, they have their names, phone
numbers, address, and birthdays on this
blog.
First, is this ethical?
My grandson is only a year old. He can-
not yet form complete sentences such as,
“Mommy, take my tuchus off the Internet.”
Second, is this safe?
I fear someone will kidnap the little
guy in the middle of the night.
Third, should I say something?
My daughter is stubborn, so I’m afraid
she will feel criticized, and stop speaking
to me. If I talk to my daughter-in-law, my
daughter will feel I went behind her back.
So, maybe I should forget the whole
thing?
Still, it keeps me up at night.
—Bothered Bubbe

Dear Bothered Bubbe:

Although the baby hasn’t offered his con-
sent to be a supermodel, the problem seems
more an issue of safety than a lack of ethics.
Because blogs are public, and usually
meant to attract a wide audience, it’s not
wise to post your home address along with
naked photos of your infant, yourself, or
even your alluring Pomeranian bound and
gagged, and dressed in a tutu.
Granted, your daughter and daughter-
in-law are not creating kiddie porn. But
the world is full of creeps and perverts—
and, of course, angels and unicorns, for
those who need reassurance—so display-
ing to an array of unknown readers one’s
baby-in-the-raw (or even fully dressed)
July 16-29, 2010

along with location info is at least a little

naive, if not downright disturbing.
Instead of telling your daughter your
feelings about this, which she indeed may
perceive as criticism, try casually men-

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tioning you recently learned that some
people keep their kids’ photos “locked”
on their blog or website, and offer the
password only to trusted friends and ac-
quaintances. This option may help keep
the pervs at bay.

Dear Ms. Behavior:

Our two dear old lesbian friends, Tricia
and Patsy, who are in their 60s and 70s, have
gone mad. They’re about to quit their jobs,
sell their house, buy a recreational vehicle,
and travel around the country for “a year or
two.” They’re used to a large home, so be-
ing stuffed into a 30-foot camper probably
will make them kill each other.
These feisty older women obviously
haven’t thought it through. They have
no health care, plus no plans other than
hobbling into a camper, and driving away.
Once they’ve spent all their money on gas,
fast food, and RV parking, they won’t have
a home, other than the RV.
Tricia and Patsy have no children to in-
tervene. So, if anyone cares, it’s us. We’ve
tried to discuss it with them to no avail.
This whole ill-formed plan makes us terri-
bly anxious. Also, if they drive off into the
sunset, and come back broke, we’re afraid
they’ll need to spend the rest of their lives
in our guest room.
How can we stop them?
—Betty and Veronica

Dear Betty and Veronica,

Instead of trying to talk them out of
their hare-brained scheme, act supportive,
while helping them build a safety net.
For example, help them to rent out
their house, instead of selling it. Help
them find an RV to lease, instead of buy-
ing one, so that when they drive each oth-
er mad in their tiny home-on-wheels, they
have a way out. If you really want to help,
go online, and download applications for
travel insurance or short-term medical in-
surance for when they’re on the road.
They may object to your interference,
but at least you’ll have done something
concrete to try to avert catastrophe. These
concrete solutions may be more effective
than simply telling them they’re crazy and
irresponsible.
Meanwhile, let them know that you’re
changing your guest room into a home
gym, or a sewing room, or an S/M lounge,
so they won’t be planning to land there
after blowing their remaining $5 on a
LavenderMagazine.com

cheeseburger on the road.

© 2010 Meryl Cohn. Address questions and correspondence
to <msbehavior@aol.com>. She is the author of Do What I Say:
Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Mifflin). Signed copies are available directly from the author.

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 Yellow Pages > Advertiser Index
Adult
Hardline Gay Chat ...................... 73
Megaphone .................................. 72
Arts & Entertainment
Art Institutes International
Minnesota ..................................... 21
Ordway Center for the
Performing Arts ............................. 27
The Kids Are All Right................... 43
Automotive
Hagen’s Auto Body...................... 63
LaMettry’s Collision ..................... 13
Morrie’s Subaru ........................... 39
Bars & Nightlife
Bar Advertiser Guide ................... 46
19 Bar ............................................ 53
Bootleggers................................... 51
Brass Rail ....................................... 48
Camp ............................................. 53
Coale’s .......................................... 51
Fusion: Restaurant Bar Lounge .... 53
Gay 90’s ...................................... 49
Gladius .......................................... 51
Rumours/Innuendo....................... 48
Tickles ............................................ 51
Town House ................................. 50
Beauty & Relaxation
Anew Aesthetic Medical Center . 43
Barbers on Bryant ........................ 63
Garden of Eden ............................ 6
Homme by Maric Group ............. 6
Beverages
Budweiser...................................... 75
Miller Lite....................................... 47
Surdyk’s ......................................... 57
Communications
89.3 The Current .......................... 72
AM950, The Voice of
Minnesota ..................................... 21
Minnesota Public Radio ............... 72
Qwest ............................................ 3
Radio K 770 ................................ 41
July 16-29, 2010
I’m going to Big Jack’s dressing room.
Je vais dans la suite privée de Big Jack.
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Dating Services
Simply Introduced ........................ 63
Events
Lavender First Thursdays .............. 40
Lavender’s THIRSTdays ............... 52
Minnesota Zoo ............................. 45
NORC-Home for a Lifetime ......... 62
Summer of Pride ........................... 7, 61
Financial
Harbor Group Inc. ....................... 11, 63
Moltaji, Roya ................................ 13
Palm, Karen ................................... 7
ROR Tax Professionals ................. 63
US Bank ........................................ 11
Wells Fargo Bank ......................... 15
Floral & Garden
Landscape Junction ...................... 64
Tangletown Gardens.................... 2
Food
Vinaigrette ..................................... 57
Funeral Services
Johnson Hannah, Barbara ......... 63
Gifts
Fantasy Gifts ................................. 8
Grocery Stores
Wedge Co-op ............................... 59
Health, Wellness & Recovery
Advanced Foot and Ankle Care . 38
Blue Cross & Blue Shield of
Minnesota ..................................... 5
Burns, Steve................................... 66
Chase, Lisa .................................... 66
Fleet Naturals ............................... 8, 9
Heffelfinger, Kate ......................... 66
Homecare Assist ........................... 13
Minnesota Department
of Health........................................ 13
Pride Institute ................................. 63
Rainbow Health Initiative............. 19
Running Tiger Shaolin Kenpo...... 45
Shaklee.......................................... 63
He is the most famous porno actor.
Il est l’acteur porno le plus célèbre.
University of Minnesota,
Infectious Diseases ....................... 17
Uptown Dermatology &
SkinSpa ......................................... 65
Home Furnishings & Accessories
Moveables Consignment ............. 41
Home Services
4 Quarters Design & Build........... 30
A-Z Electric ................................... 65
Bauer Floor Covering................... 64
Bluestem Construction .................. 64
Boe Plumbing ................................ 27
Good Stuff Moving ...................... 65
Granite Transformations............... 31
Greenway Pavers ......................... 64
Hi-Tech Installations...................... 64
Matt’s Tree Service ...................... 65
Personal Pride Construction......... 64
R. Davis Construction ................... 64
Restoration Professionals ............. 33
Ryan’s Tree Care .......................... 65
Seal King ....................................... 15
Soderlin Plumbing, Heating
& Air Conditioning........................ 64
SOS Homecare ............................ 64
Tangletown Design and Interiors 64
The Tile Shop ................................ 31
Twin City Heating and Air ........... 41
Vujovich ......................................... 33
Insurance
AAA Minneapolis Insurance
Agency .......................................... 9
American Family Insurance ......... 7
Baldwin, Davina ........................... 65
Wagner Insurance-Financial
Services ......................................... 65
Wolfson, Steve .............................. 65
Jewelry
Max’s ............................................ 15
Legal
Cloutier & Brandl .......................... 32
Davis Law Office .......................... 21
Dean, Jeff ...................................... 11
Family Solutions Law Group ....... 15
Heltzer & Burg .............................. 39
It is easy to arrive…
C’est facile de s’y rendre…
Moshier, Becky ............................. 7
Terry & Slane ................................ 9
Malls & Shopping Centers
Mall of America ........................... 76
Mortgage
Lozinski, David ............................. 6
Organizations
The Aliveness Project .................... 40
Grand Avenue Business
Association .................................... 25
Pet Products & Services
Now Boarding ............................. 27
Cat Nap Inn .................................. 66
Larpenteur Animal Hospital ......... 27
Nokomis Pet Clinic ....................... 30
Pampered Paws Savage .............. 66
U of M College of Veterinary
Medicine ....................................... 32
The Urban Dog ............................. 66
The Wildcat Sanctuary ................ 30
Real Estate & Rentals
Calfee, David................................ 66
Farinella, Marilyn ......................... 66
gayrealestate.com ........................ 66
Grunewald, Mark......................... 38
Leviton, Ann................................... 66
McGee, Michael .......................... 38
Minneapolis Grand Apartments . 9
Ruzick, Amy & Johnson, Kay ....... 6
Restaurants
Christos .......................................... 57
Duplex Restaurant and
Wine Bar ....................................... 53
French Meadow Bakery & Café 53
Fuji-Ya ............................................ 59
Jakeeno’s Pizza & Pasta .............. 57
KinDee Thai Restaurant................ 53
Roat Osha ..................................... 57
Sushi Tango................................... 60
Toast Wine Bar & Café ................ 53
Uptown Diner/Calhoun Grill/
Louisiana Café/Grandview Grill 60
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$ LESS THAN $15, $$ $15-$25, $$$ MORE THAN $25

Our Guide to the Metro Eateries Featured in This Issue Lav-

ender Magazine’s Dining Guide is your resource to GLBT-
friendly restaurants. We recommend calling restaurants be-
fore visiting to confirm information.
Lavender’s cuisine section and updated dining guide appears
each issue. Please direct questions about the directory and
cuisine advertising to dining@lavendermagazine.com.
Roat Osha. Photos by Hubert Bonnet

CHRISTO’S $ THE GRANDVIEW GRILL $

Greek American
Serving classic Greek fare for over 13 years, we specialize in dishes Fresh hand ground hash browns, French toast, omelets, pancakes,
from the island of Cyprus, offering food from the traditional to the coffee, juices, soups, salads & sandwiches.
contemporary. Breakfast, Brunch, Lunch
Lunch, Dinner 1818 Grand Ave., St. Paul (651) 698-2346
2632 Nicollet Ave., Mpls (612) 871-2111 • 15600 Hwy 7, Minnetonka, Mon – Fri: 6:15 AM – 2:30 PM • Sat: 6:15 AM – 3 PM • Sun: 8
(952) 912-1000 • 214 4th St. E., St. Paul Union Depot, (651) 224-6000 AM – 3 PM
www.christos.com
HONEY $$
DUPLEX $ Small Plates
French, Italian, American Fine cocktails, wine, small plates and artisan chocolates in an inti-
Unique entrees, moderately priced, cozy space with up-beat staff. mate setting.
Brunch, Lunch, Dinner 205 Hennepin Ave., Minneapolis (612) 746-0306
2516 Hennepin Ave., Minneapolis (612) 381-0700 www.honeympls.com
www.duplexmpls.com
JAKEENO’S PIZZA & PASTA $
FRENCH MEADOW BAKERY $ Italian
Certified Organic Bakery Traditional red sauce pastas, thin crust pizza & homemade sauces.
Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner Lunch, Dinner
2610 Lyndale Ave. S., Minneapolis (612) 870-4740 3555 Chicago Ave. S. Minneapolis (612) 825-6827
Sun – Thurs: 6:30 AM – 9 PM • Fri – Sat: 6:30 AM – 11 PM Mon – Fri: 11 AM – 11 PM • Sat – Sun: 4 PM – 11 PM
www.frenchmeadow.com Midtown Global Market, 920 E. Lake St., Minneapolis (612) 767-
1102
FUJI YA JAPANESE RESTAURANT $$ Mon – Sat: 10 AM – 8 PM • Sun: 10 AM – 6 PM
Japanese & Sushi www.jakeenos.com
Authentic Japanese food, finest sushi available, Uptown Minneapo-
lis, downtown St. Paul. KINDEE THAI $
600 W. Lake St., Minneapolis (612) 871-4055 Thai
Mon: Closed • Tues – Thurs: 5 PM – 10 PM • Fri – Sat: 5 PM – 10:30 This isn’t your traditional everyday Thai restaurant.
PM • Sun: 5 PM – 9 PM Lunch, Dinner
465 N. Wabasha, St. Paul (651) 310-0111 • Mon – Fri: Lunch 11:30 719 S. 2nd St., Minneapolis (612) 465-8303
AM – 2 PM. Dinner 5 PM—10 PM • Sat: Dinner 5 PM – 10 PM • Sun: Mon: Closed • Tues – Thurs: 11:30 AM – 9 PM • Fri: 11:30 AM –
Closed 10:30 PM • Sat: 11 AM – 10:30 PM • Sun: 11 AM – 9 PM
www.fujiyasushi.com www.kindeethairestaurant.com

GINGER HOP $$ THE LOUISIANA CAFÉ $

Asian Fusion American
Specializing in pan-Asian classic dishes. As we like to say, “East Fresh hand ground hash browns, French toast, omelets, pancakes,
meets Northeast”. coffee, juices, soups, salads & sandwiches.
lavendermagazine.com

Lunch, Dinner Breakfast, Brunch,

201 E. Hennepin Ave., Minneapolis (612) 746-0304 • 613 Selby Ave., St. Paul (651) 221-9140
www.gingerhop.com Mon – Fri: 6:30 AM – 2:30 PM • Sat: 6:30 AM – 3 PM • Sun: 8
AM – 3 PM

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 Roat Osha.

The Grandview Grill. New Uptown Diner.

NEW UPTOWN DINER $

American
Fresh hand ground hash browns, French toast, omelets, pancakes,
coffee, juices, soups, salads & sandwiches.
Breakfast, Brunch, Lunch
2548 Hennepin Ave. S. Minneapolis (612) 874-0481
Mon – Wed: 6 AM – 3 PM • Thurs – Sat: 24 Hours • Sun: Close at 6 PM

ROAT OSHA $$
Thai
Uniquely crafted authentic and American influences. Decor that in-
vites conversation
Lunch, Dinner
2650 Hennepin Ave. S., Minneapolis
Sat: 11 AM – 11 PM • Sun: 11 AM – 10:30 PM
www.roatoshathai.com

SUSHI TANGO $$
Japanese
Exciting and eccentric mix of Japanese cuisine and Uptown atti-
tude.
Lunch, Dinner
Calhoun Square, (612) 822-7787
Mon – Wed: 5 PM – 1 AM • Thurs – Sun: Noon – 1 AM
www.sushitango.com

TOAST WINE BAR AND CAFÉ $

Wine bar with Italian influence
Neighborhood wine bar serving pizzas, cured meats and small
plates.
Dinner
415 N. 1st St., Minneapolis, MN (612) 333-4305
Tues – Thurs: 5 PM – 11 PM • Fri – Sat: 5 PM – 12 AM • Sun: 5
PM – 11 PM
www.toastwinebarandcafe.com

THE WOODBURY CAFÉ $

American
Fresh hand ground hash browns, French toast, omelets, pancakes,
July 16–29, 2010

coffee, juices, soups, salads & sandwiches.

Breakfast, Brunch, Lunch
Bielenberg & Tamarack, Woodbury, MN (651) 209-8182
Mon – Fri: 7 AM – 2:30 PM • Sat: 7 AM – 3 PM • Sun: 8 AM – 3
PM

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