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Everything I agree with is highlighted in red.

The rest, I either greatly disagree with or just don’t feel a strong connection to.

Anyone who takes the time to read through all of this can truly say they have met all Enneagram
types and will have finally learned about me in relation to the Enneagram system.

ONES idealize a moral purity that both transcends reality and is the foundation of it. They see the world through their
perceptual filter of how things could be improved, the ideal as opposed to the real, which leads to
a constant dissatisfaction with reality. They are eternally frustrated with all the flaws around them and with their eye for
improvement feel it is their mission to fix them. They take pride in not wavering in their convictions no matter how unpopular
and in resolutely pointing out the right way everybody ought to abide by. When everyone adheres to the same rules/ideals/principles
there is fairness and order...and when people break the rules ones truly resent that. "You can't do that because if everyone did what
you did..." is a common type one stream of consciousness.

Ones have the strongest inner critic of all types and justify their moral authority to "point out the right way" by constantly putting
more effort into being good or virtuous than others. Due to their strict superego there is no type that feels as guilty for being "bad"
and harder on themselves to be perfectly good. They are not just conscientious disciplined competent and reliable people
who hold themselves accountable to do what they are supposed to do. They go further in the self-control department by continually
repressing their "dirty" desires and restricting their indulgences. The more self-control they consistently maintain the more upright
they are and the more they've earned both their right to point out how things should be and their duty to hold their enviornment as
well as themselves to ideals.

Ones being perfectionists tend to be uptight and anal-retentive about things and aren't the easiest people to get along with. They
practice what they preach however which many find sincere and refreshing in an image-dominated society filled with hypocrisy.
They continually hold themselves to their own high standards. They do their duty and are dedicated
to standing up for
what's right through thick and thin as those are extensions of their perseverance . They are also the
least likely type to be full of themselves, so much so one gets the sense that they couldn't promote themselves even if they tried.

Anger in particular is an emotion ones have problems with. Ones pride themselves in being stoic and see emotional expression
especially spontaneous outbursts as a lack of self-control, but being in the instinctive triad their dominant emotion is anger. Thus a
one's relationship to their anger is like a self-imposed noose around their personal volcano that wants to erupt at the slightest thing
that they see is wrong around them. The result is a seeping out of resentment agitation and overcriticalness unbeknownst to the
one that others find very palpable.

In enneagram theory type ones are (instinctive/gut)-(valuing/feeling/image)-(thinking/head) in that order. Due to their primary
instinctive center ones focus on living out their convictions and neglect to use their tiertary thinking center when it calculates an
exception to the rules. That's when they turn their thinking center over to their superego to resolve the conflict. Turning themselves
over to their superego also causes them to irrationally overvalue self-control which makes them take pride in repressing their
"dirty" desires and restricting their indulgences. Ones think they are more rational than they really are due to their stoic nature.
Much distortion springs from their overvaluing self-control. This is the root of a one's contractive temperment.

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TWOS are about love and other people and especially pride. Specifically twos are kind and gentle feeling types who take
pride in being considerate of others to feel worthy of being loved themselves. They take pride in seeing people as people.
They like people and want to feel closer to them. They take pride in recognizing the importance of others...the "I"..."you"...and "me".
They are receptive and responsive. They have strong empathetic feelings and take pride in being sensitive and compassionate
towards others. They are attuned to what others might need. This can include people they hardly know or even in an abstract
capacity.

Simply being caring and compassionate isn't enough though. Twos are natural givers and handpick themselves as the person to
make a difference in people's lives.
fulfill what others need. They feel drawn to be in a facilitating role where they feel they can
They take pride in considering all people important especially the disadvantaged and the neglected. No one is left
behind. They take pride in being willing to get involved in roles that require getting in the trenches. They are drawn to being
mentors and facilitators and volunteer roles in general. A two whom no one notices does the thankless job of stocking shelves in the
back. Another two dutifully answers your questions and does whatever you ask. Another two greets you warmly at the door and
offers to show you around the place. Another two organized all the twos together for the volunteer effort. While each of these twos
are different fulfilling other people's needs gives all of them a sense of pride.

Twos take pride in being strong enough to take care of themselves and not need help in addition to being strong enough to assist
others who do need help. Twos are image types and maintaining a sense of dignity is central to the considerate of others persona
they've cultivated. They don't need to "collect" for the good they have done for others. They take pride in not being a burden on
others and don't like admitting they have problems to fix and needs to be met. They prefer to deal with their issues themselves as
people depend on them not the other way around. It is others that need help and not the two.

This twoish blindspot of others needing them more than vice versa is caused by their pride. They don't see themselves well due to
their other-directed self-image orientation. They can be uncannily skilled at reading other people's emotional states
and responding accordingly but often don't recognize their own needs and underlying motives. While they take pride in their loved
need to feel essential to them in
ones' being better off due to them they need to be the main person in their lives. They
some capacity and have a knack for accomplishing that. If they have acted on good intentions they have earned
the right to be loved and appreciated. If they go out of their way for others and get overlooked then they hurt a great deal. Even
answering "no" is way better than not acknowledging their offer. They try to cover up the pain with their pride in being a good person
and that it's others' fault for not recognizing that.

In enneagram theory twos are feeling-gut-thinking in that order and pride themselves in being considerate of others. They go with
their feelings at the expense of looking at the cold hard realities of others and seeing themselves clearly. Their biggest fear is
being unworthy of love and no longer being essential to others they care about. Being superego compliant types they justify
being and existing in general by their willingness to go out of their way for others and suppress their ugly and
aggressive tendencies. They are tougher than the kind and gentle persona they project and being image
types their self-image must be protected at all costs. They take pride in their own humility by being self-effacing.
They note others who are more worthy. They also downplay themselves relative to others and say the kindness they displayed was
nothing major. They always seem to remember the special occasions about others especially birthdays and anniversaries. Every
good deed is an opportunity to score points with themselves over how unselfish they are. They try so hard to be unselfish that they
ironically become selfish in the process.

Living up to their "good" self-image also makes twos surprisingly perfectionistic


about meeting their own standards
and expectations. It's really more about meeting their demands than the demands of others. They willingly put themselves in
positions where they enjoy being accountable to the bar they set for themselves. Typical type two streams of consciousness are
"Does it make me a bad person if I don't trust him?"..."What will I think of myself if I don't live up to this? I have to do this!" Their
shame at not meeting their own expectations is a source of drive. Being image types the deeds they do equals who they are and
being superego compliant they have the hardest time forgiving themselves. They have a lot of pride in being considerate so
anything to the contrary is very difficult to swallow.

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THREES are identity-seeking image types who believe they have the potential to become someone outstanding.
Just as cream rises to the top so do they see it is their destiny to reach their potential. They want, even need, to become "winners in
life" in the broader sense of the term, ie a positive version of anything but a "loser", to prove they have value and are valuable
relative to others. A three is acutely aware of their self-development and evolution as a person, (“who they
are" as a work in progress). They have a deep-seated awe of themselves, of their journey, as well as their destination.
They visualize "fulfilling the story of them" and "finally making it". They are resilient and bounce back from setbacks by
detaching from their emotions and having a positive attitude . If they face failure or rejection they visualize how
their journey must continue and pull themselves together to get back on track. They won't let circumstances get the
best of them. They need to be moving forward otherwise they feel like they are falling behind .

There is no type that is more aware of how they come across to others. They can seem confident and self-assured on the outside
yet have surprisingly fragile self-esteem on the inside. "Everyone loves a winner and no one loves a loser" resonates with all types
but particularly with type three. They need to feel they are "winners in life" to feel they have sufficient self-worth to silence their
internal voice of doubt. This causes a whole host of problems: focusing on becoming who they want to be instead of being who they
are, and confusing being who they are with doing what they do . They fear others being able to see through them
enough to discover they are not quite who they appear to be. This brings about deeper fears of possibly being meaningless and
worthless, and feeling they could be a loser beneath it all.

On a more subconscious level threes are aware of the inconsistencies


in their self-presentation that are caused
by their efforts to find the right angle with others. They can be either very boring or very fun for example. They may
feel others are on the verge of seeing that they are not quite who they appear to be. Without fully realizing it they hint to others that
they are "not just anyone". They excessively let slip clues like went to a good school, has a great sense of style, was good at soccer
as a kid, has a great career, how good they are at their hobby, etc. They subtly remind others of the interesting person they are or
forthright
the ideal person they are in the process of becoming. On a more conscious level they may even be excessively
about certain weaknesses to look more professional or to be seen as more humble, perhaps
overcorrecting what feels "off" in themselves. Their body language reflects a very subtle eagerness for one to mirror
back to them how they are doing in real time to give them a sense of direction. There's a lot on the line so
they try their best to hit the right notes with people.

This combined with confusing who they are with what they do can cause more superficial threes to confuse style with substance.
hard
They may have a checklist approach to self-definition and equate themselves with their resume. Not surprisingly it may be
for others to get close to the real them. In extreme cases the disconnect between who they are and what they project
can become so large that once the three achieves everything they feel like a sham and their lives take a drastic turn to reflect that.

Most threes aren't like that however. On the upside threes are very good at holding themselves accountable and aren't
averse to putting in the hard work needed to become the person they have in mind. In addition to being ambitious they tend to be
more responsible and more adaptive than the average person. While the more extroverted 3s are good networkers and
salespeople, many 3s are content to live their lives in private trying to become the best "them" they can
be.

In enneagram theory 3s are image center primary which is said to be disassociated from their thinking and instinctive centers. Much
of the three fixation can be traced to excessive consciousness in their image or valuing center. That is precisely why threes are both
the most aware of how they come across to others and most aware of their value in the eyes of themselves and others. 3s being
part of the 3-6-9 group have a very fundamental desire to find their place among people and the world . Their
awareness of how they come across to others makes them do that by becoming the best or most they can be. When healthy they
are able to get in touch with their real selves as they realize they don't
have to trade in who they are to become the
person they want to be. Healthy 3s are excellent at inspiring others how to reach their potential just as they have done.

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FOURS are image types who primarily identify with their feelings. They are moody and self-absorbed as well as very
sensitive. They are disdainful, hostile
even, towards being "normal" or "common" (although in my last year of
HS I had an issue with myself because I wanted to be more normal as I thought it would lead on to less
complications. I stand out easily more than I fit in. This is one of the reasons I’ve tried to work on my
social side. I’m thinking this could relate to type 9 though). On the deepest of levels they are "different from others"
and "true to themselves" and therefore significant, special, and unique. They are honest with themselves about how feelings are
central to their lives and unlike twos and threes appear to wear
their shame and vulnerability on their sleeve. Whether
warranted or not fours attach subjective
significance to their feelings from which they strive to create an
identity embedded with their own stylistic signature that is their "personal statement" of who they
are.

Their stylistic "personal statement" of who they truly are is the image that fours create and project to others. It can be dramatically
expressive, finely parisian, absurdly original, profoundly eclectic, or something else that reflects the four's aesthetic sense of how to
"weird" persona fours may take
fully express themselves and their opposition to normalcy. This eccentric, dramatic, or
on can be a method of countershame which serves to cover up the deep sense of shame fours
hold for themselves and transform it into an attack on the external world . To compensate for their shame
and feelings of defectiveness fours exhibit a subtle snobbery and elitism and see others as ordinary and trite. They feel their
outsider status, sophistication, aesthetic sensitivity, creativity, and personal insight place them above the "commoners". This is how
fours feel authentic.

Holding fast to living out their stylistic "personal statement" ideal to stay "true to themselves" despite seeming strange to others is
how fours maintain being authentic. Their sense of being flawed, misunderstood, and of not being seen for "who they really are" only
reaffirms to them that they are too different to live according to the terms and standards of normalcy as dictated by society. They
were born to be outsiders and in order to be true to themselves they must live out their outsider destiny. This the very crux of the
four's sense of identity and there is no type whose identity is as real to them as the four.

Fours are especially aware of their identity as a creative construct based on what resonates emotionally with them. While they
strive to be as true to themselves as possible they resonate most with an ideal image that has unattainable depth
and complexity. They perpetually fall short of their own personal ideal which causes shame and increased
self-consciousness over the rootlessness of lacking a stable identity. This makes them constantly feel
inadequate, defective, flawed, frustrated, melancholic, and envious of others who are better off. To make up for the
perennial sense of something essential missing inside themselves they indulge in amplifying their emotions in each
situation in the name of authenticity and searching for meaning. They internalize and personalize their
experiences to squeeze the emotional juices out of each situation. They probe the darker sides of life and deepest depths of
their psyche where most people don't dare tread. They introspect and observe themselves far beyond the average
person. They feel they have a cretain richness in their lives that other lack, for others haven't seen what they've seen, known
what they've known, and felt what they've felt.

The four's picturesque inner landscape is equally rich if not richer, a vast and endlessly deep treasure trove of murky nooks and
crannies of emotional states to inhabit and indulge themselves in. They have a wistful side and dwell on the bittersweet nostalgia of
past memories. They also create their own "personal
story" filled with myth and metaphor and live it out as though it were as
real as reality itself. Indulging
their imagination to live out their emotional states and allow themselves
to feel intensely is necessary to feel true to themselves. Part of their disdain for the ordinary has to do with
feeling a need to amplify and intensify their feelings as ordinary experiences rarely satisfy them. Hence fours often find practical
matters difficult.

Such closeness with one's emotional states brings an aesthetic sensitivity most fours have in common. Fours have a natural
creative process that is necessitated by using their feelings to create an identity. They are often associated with being artists in
some sense even if they aren't in the literal meaning of the word. They seek out the beauty in every experience. As
fours are especially attuned to what gives light to meaning they breathe new life into their experiences and
transform them.

This need to live out and even amplify their emotional states makes for anything but a trite existence. Fours can be paralyzed with
self-hatred, and consumed with envy and even paralyzed with hatred for others. While fours are self-loathing they want to
be heard out and understood more than offered a "patronizing" practical solution to their pain. They'd rather wallow in their
suffering than have the depth of their turmoil trivialized and thus their feelings marginalized and invalidated. The combination of
belonging to the reactive triad and being a feeling type means despite the four's fragility they can get hostile towards the person who
clearly doesn't understand them. One should beware as there is no type that can hone in on another's emotional
vulnerabilities and pierce others with their words like a venemous four. On the flip side fours can be very devoted and
supportive. They can be deeply empathetic and very in tune with their partner's emotional states.
Thus fours tend to be high maintainence. They envy happy people and dream of finding that special someone who can rescue
them from their melancholy. This shows up especially in relationships as fours hold their partners to high expectations. While fours
are very accepting
of a partner's quirks one should expect to be tested constantly by their drama which is really a fear
of abandonment due to shame over their defectiveness. They are known for their "push-pull" behaviour
where they share their deepest darkest secrets with their partner and then recoil in shame at what they revealed. They preemptively
withdraw fearing their partner will see them as irredeemably flawed and will leave them. If their partner sticks
with them the process repeats as long as the four fears abandonment.

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FIVES are intellectually curious types who love to explore what interests them . They frequently
indulge in spending lots of time with what's impractical. While they put lots of effort into thinking about things
they have deceptively strong feelings however. They state their points dispassionately and insure what they communicate is well
thought out which make them seem less emotional than they really are.

Fives take it for granted they have an inherent ability to theorize and understand things more deeply than others,
something they'd never say openly. They are never quite "fully there" in their physical presence however. Their
sensitivity to emotional stimuli plus a lack of smoothness from their less developed instincts always makes them
removed to some degree to better handle situations. They withdraw from their environment and detach
emotionally from others to shut out intrusions in their time and space. From the safety of their minds they
can intensify their investment in their mental activities. They feel planning sufficiently and knowing enough can enable
them to survive and thrive in life despite being isolated . This overuse of their thinking center to navigate an
intrusive world from a distance causes them to be both idiosyncratic in how they perceive reality and eccentric as others perceive
them. This causes fives to exhibit a certain quirky cleverness.

Fives are far more sensitive than they appear. Being fear types they tend to feel a crippling anxiety that's usually only
noticed by close family and friends. Behind their distant exterior often lurks feelings threatening to overwhelm them. They prefer
their privacy where they can immerse themselves in whatever interests them. Their limitless curiosity causes them to be self-
motivated to learn challenging things and delve into subjects they truly enjoy, to the point of compulsion even. More than any other
type they are connisseurs of knowledge. As a result fives tend to have a few intellectual areas of interest they have a deep
understanding in which they take great pride in. Many fives withhold their knowledge just as they withhold themselves however,
hence the five stereotype of a reclusive expert that no one knows about.

Fives see an interdependent world that desires too much from them . It's not uncommon to see them cut out dead
weight and live minimalistic lifestyles to separate themselves from the world. They feel people want more of them than they have of
themselves to give. They are affected by others easily and withdraw because they don't believe they have what it takes to deal with
other people's demands and expectations. They are equally
aware of being a burden on others and withhold
both themselves and their emotions from others. Expressing emotions can make them feel
vulnerable as they fear that will backfire in front of people who clearly don't understand them . They
don't care for superficial small talk and limit themselves to authentic people who do have the potential to understand them. At work
they prefer to be given their assignment then left
alone. Even in relationships they may withhold parts of themselves and keep
wary of people or things that come with "strings
many secrets. Simply put fives are fear types who are always
attached". Because their instinctive center is weakest they fear "giving their power away" would lead to them
being a "sitting duck."

This fear of being a "sitting duck" leads fives to focus on having power. They remove themselves from external activity in order to
feel they have enough mastery of the situation to navigate it from a position of strength. They seperate what's important from what's
irrelevant and have an unrelenting focus to get to the bottom of things. They delight in "checkmating" others'
points that aren't as well thought-out as theirs along the way. Their intellectual curiousity for a subject is intense
enough to eventually turn into mastery. They imagine scenarios to understand the world well enough to
anticipate reality. They feel powerful trusting their own opinions over what society says. They think
things are under control if they know enough. They think they can get on top of things on their own
if they figure things out and plan sufficiently. They have delusions of grandeur that make them dream about how the
world would be if they had the ability to set things. They feel powerful knowing that others haven't thought about stuff as deeply as
they have and don't understand what they understand. This "claim" along with their borderline intellectual overconfidence is a cover
on a more subconscious level for their heightened sensitivity and inadequacy though. It's one thing to create theories but quite
another to put them into practice. They have trouble with simpler things that most people can handle spontaneously. They know how
odd they are and always feel fundamentally apart from others.

In enneagram theory fives are thinking-feeling-instinctive in that order. This causes them to intensify their efforts thinking up
scenarios to anticipate and handle reality at the expense of being engaged in the real world. Because they are instinctive center last
it is easy for fives to become ungrounded and spin out of control . They encounter new people in spontaneous
situations and instead of acting naturally they detach or "freeze" (a very minor form of shutdown) to intellectualize their
emotions("How do I express this emotion?") instead of using their feeling center to express their emotions(fear that could backfire on
them). Opportunities to reach out to others are missed and fives loses confidence in their ability to act naturally around people. They
spend more time alone with makes them more out of touch with the world . This increases their loneliness
and eccentricity which makes it even harder to relate to people, which makes them withdraw and isolate themselves even further.
Once a critical point is reached their cynicism and disdain for humanity accelerates. The scenarios their imagination comes up
with to understand the world become more disturbing and further removed from reality. Healthy fives though are able to both fully
participate in life and contribute to an interdependent society while also being able to give more of themselves and handle greater
degrees of emotional interdependency. Their greater engagement of life allows them to be more in touch with reality and better at
anticipating things.

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SIX is the most "human" enneagram type and arguably the most authentic in that respect. All enneagram fixations are coping
strategies to deal with the world and the six gestalt is most representative of the struggles of humanity throughout its history. More
than any other type the life story of a six is about "coming into their own".

Sixes are head types that view the world as inherently unpredictable. They feel they came into an everchanging world without
blueprints that account for the vagaries of life and have to play catchup. They see the danger that lurks just around the corner and
need to figure out how to either remove it or cope with it, as well as find some backup through allies or something else out there
that's a strong enough foundation. They have a base state of unrest they may not be aware of but their anxiety is visible to others.
Their worst fear is to come to the horrible realization that they put trust in the wrong people and find out the basis of everything they
believe in is a lie. Simply put sixes fear being "uprooted" so they construct a strong enough mental framework and/or support
system of people to navigate life with to prevent that from happening.

This means making sure as many things are as "clear" to them as possible. Due to their elevated
who?/what?/when?/where?/why?/how? and "what if?" head center cognition they notice and assess seemingly everything and then
some. They want to find out if a way of thinking is legitimate. They want points to be unambigious and motives to be
transparent. They want to see who knows what they are talking about and who is trustworthy. They want to be
able to intuit where you are coming from and where you are going with this. Clear intentions are a sign of honesty and no hidden
agenda and bring about parity and therefore fairness. Fives
naively downplay motives and are ignorant of
procedures and policies within power structures. Sevens blindly rely on the future and think they
can have their cake and eat it too. Sixes however refuse to take anything for granted until it passes their smell test. They
have a heightened awareness of catastrophic scenarios and worry the rug will be pulled out from underneath them when they see
bad things happen to innocent people. Heaven forbid any of these things should happen to their loved ones. They have little faith
things will work out on their own and are natural "what's plan B" people. They feel compelled to anticipate and figure out how
to cope with potential problems as they know what could happen if they don't.

How sixes cope ranges from avoidance(phobic) to aggressively facing their fears head on(counterphobic). Due to their head center
ambivalence sixes alternate between susceptibility and suspiciousness towards authorities and systems. They can instantly shift
from fearful to aggressive and vice versa. There is no type that exhibits contradictory behaviour like a six. On a less conscious level
they are on the lookout for someone or something worthy of trusting. On a more conscious level they keep a watchful eye
out for who or what is most definitely not. They are very aware of when things are unfair or uneven between people. They sense
who has power and who is likely to abuse it as they often see themselves as the underdog. This is frequently enhanced by the
perception of being mistreated by authority figures during their formative years. Sixes may appear as devils advocates,
skeptics, BS sniffers, self-doubters, pseudo-sevens, or something else but they all test for clarity and certitude and have an
underlying state of unrest. Ironically they are often less unsettled during a real crisis since their mind doesn't have the time to blow
things out of proportion. Even though the real source of anxiety is inside themselves it would be nice for things in life to be more
clear.

have a minimum amount of


Sixes see the world as inherently unpredictable so they feel they must be prepared and
certainty in their lives. Just as they are consistently loyal to who and what they believe in, the people close to them must
also be trustworthy and loyal to them. Many sixes choose to root themselves in friends and family instead of more external things
like systems and authorities. They form strong friendships and come across as genuinely honest and down-to-earth. They
like people who are authentic and dislike smooth-talkers. They can be selflessly supportive and stay loyal even to those
who are no longer worthy. Betrayal is the worst violation of trust so there's no way they'd let people close to them hang out to dry. If
people have managed to earn their trust(not an easy task due to their testing) it's only fair they stick by them in bad times as well as
good. In an uncertain world one must hold onto the few that are worth it. It's hard to find people who are honest and dependable and
who also do what they say they will do. True respect must be earned and those close to them have earned it .

Being able to earn their way in the world is also important. They value resourcefulness and contingency
planning, and find satisfaction in earning the fruits of their labors. They believe in a merit-based system where each person is
treated fairly and proportionally to how they deserve to be treated. They respect people who are deserving and don't
like it when people get to where they are unfairly. As long as working hard and playing by the rules is fairly rewarded they accept
their circumstances. They hold themselves to their own standards despite how unpredictably difficult the world is so all they ask for
is a fair shot in life. They intend to be treated fairly and for things to be okay as long as they follow the rules.

Sixes favor spelled-out rules that make things more out in the open and fair for everyone. They feel them being responsible and
following the rules despite how difficult things can be should count for something. Add to that they are already hard on themselves
and they often feel justified in making excuses when bad things happen. While they doubt their decision-making it's not their fault
the world's so unpredictably difficult. If they follow the rules it's not their fault if things don't work out. If they are responsible and
things go wrong it's not their fault. If they don't stick their necks out no one can blame them for anything. They may criticize
themselves to avoid criticism from others. They may even sabotage their success to avoid standing out and being a target for
criticism. In their mind if you saw how difficult things are for them you'd see things from their perspective. Their enhanced head
center cognition causes their superego to feel overburdened with constant self-criticism. They struggle to meet what they think is
demanded of them due to believing the only way of being okay is to be loyal and follow the rules. They fear not being able to do
anything right and that imminent punishment and criticism is just around the corner. They are looking for how to be or how to act.
They want to be good and rule abiding, not deviant or culpable.

In enneagram theory sixes are head center primary at the expense of their feeling and instinctive centers. Being in the center of the
head triad they may not be fully aware of their anxiety because they're so used to it. Excess cognition in a six's primary thinking
center can be compared to being inside the "eye of their hurricane". By looking at types five and seven outside the eye sixes are
reminded of the full extent of "thinking triadness" in themselves. Head types especially sixes have lots of
who?/what?/where?/when?/why?/how? cognition. This is the root of their underlying anxiety and the enviornment
merely exacerbates it. The head center also has to do with the focus, distractability, and scatteredness, as well as motor and
tempo. It contains the most hamster-wheeling and vascillating energy of the three centers. Type six has the most head center
energy and there is no type that has as much ambivalence as a six. While all head types overthink to predict and protect themselves
from the world, sixes are the types most prone to "thinking so much they fake themselves out" and turning to their superego to
resolve their cognitive dissonance.

Sixes excessively try to use their head center to nagivate life. The mental framework they construct for themselves is really a form of
"shorthand" to map life's numerous contradictions to that their overactive who?/what?/when?/where?/why?/how? and "what if?"
cognition burdens them with(anxiety by definition). By mapping to this internal shorthand they can be certain that at least most of
what they conclude will be correct. In contrast to the fives's "nothing sacred" attitude sixes have an investment in
keeping their own way of looking at things intact. They reject information to the contrary to protect the way of thinking they are loyal
to. On a deeper level they know their defense mechanisms reduce anxiety via clarity but distort reality. They yearn to be able to get
in touch with their "quiet mind" so that they can "just know" how things really are.

When this "shorthand" gets taken far enough it becomes "projection". They may see a person act in a certain way and based on
their history project that person had such and such motivations behind that action. On a more subconscious level delving into further
analysis could cause cognitive dissonance so they go for the answer that is most "clear" to them. This may be what they would do if
they were in their shoes or what "side" or group that person appears to be most aligned with. If a person supported something
politically they might be more inclined to project that person has the same belief system of others that had the same yes/no position
on that issue. Due to projection sixes are prone to confusing what's clear to them with what the truth is. In order to find out if what's
clear to them is not correct they have to go against their way of thinking before they have "proof" so there's internal resistance to
going down that murkier mental path. This is most obvious in their implicit bargain with the world: how it's "clear" that they will be
okay if they are loyal and follow the rules. To
"realize" one may be screwed even if they follow a particular
set of rules is to open a pandora's box of possibly never being safe no matter what. This may be more correct but is anything but
nice and clear.

Sixes are the most likely types to believe in Murphy's law: "whatever can go wrong will go wrong". Unhealthy sixes are very
programmable due to their head center being "short-circuited". They succumb to their anxiety and either become sheep..." I can't
cope so you do my thinking for me since you are authorities"...and/or excessively project their insecurities onto others.
Healthy sixes have learned to access their "quiet mind" to manage their fears and put them into perspective. Once they have
What was "us vs
mastered their internal anxiety they can become pillars of strength without losing their gift for being "human".
them" is now the courage to fight for something bigger than themselves (which in my case equals
to either growth or winning/being right and so flowing with the world once again – not sure if this is type
six related…). Healthy sixes like Joe Gibbs have a talent for leading while remaining "one of the guys". More than any other
coach he made the redskins a family centered around "core redskin values" where no player was unfairly above another. Winning
three different superbowls with three average quarterbacks was a testament to his ability to get the most out of his players.

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SEVENS are gluttonous fun-loving types who believe in experiencing what they want in life without
restrictions or obligations. They want a lot and are gnawed by their wants enough to see them as needs so they "need"
that juicy steak and "need" that vacation. They take care of their stuff themselves and aren't a burden on anyone so why
shouldn't they be entitled to a good life? These natural optimists have a hard time accepting the stark reality that the world isn't
as accomodating as they would like. Being head types they understand that but sevens are
sevens so understanding something and coming to grips with something are two different things.

Sevens have a blind faith in the future working out for them. Their jumping-the-gun streams of consciousness cause
If they keep their options open a little longer they are
them to distort the future as being just around the corner.
sure to get what they want. They also frequently believe they can have their cake and eat it too. They
enthusiastically plan out rosy scenarios in their mind . The future hasn't yet made the details apparent that might
show their optimism is misplaced, nor does it make demands on them or slow them down like people in the present do. They feel if
they keep moving and anticipating they can stay one step ahead of being bogged down by all that.
It goes without saying they don't sweat the small stuff and are always on the lookout for shortcuts that
would get them to their happier more fulfilling future faster.

Sevens have addictive personalities. They tend to be adventurous, impulsive, exciting, and enthusiastic. The more
common sensing-perceiving sevens tend to be focused on more physical gluttony and are the typical party animals. The less
mental stimulation as a need for physical
common intuitive seven is no less addictive but has as much a need for
stimulation. All sevens need the potential for a more fulfulling life more than anything. They need something
better in their future to look forward to. The one thing a seven wouldn't relate to in a million years is contentment and a
lack of wants.

With their monkey minds sevens tend to be mentally agile and versatile enough to quickly pick up the basics of
many things. They frequently have a wide range of intellectual interests and can converse about anything. They tend to find it
difficult to focus however and are easily distracted by the temptations in life. More importantly they often overestimate
their abilities and confuse what they know with true mastery. More than any other type they tease others with their unrealized
potential.

Between experiencing the fullness of life in the present and restlessly thinking up rosy future scenarios their mind is in high gear and
their attention is diverted. On a more subconscious level coming to grips with sobering realities in the present and unflattering things
about themselves is put on the back burner. Wants are reframed as needs and real inner needs are neglected. Emotional pain is
seen as unpleasantness and avoided. These
potentially painful feelings are compartmentalized and take
awhile to hit home but when they hit they hit hard . On a more conscious level the seven primarily fears being
trapped or stuck in a rut. Being bored or deprived from experiencing life triggers "rut" fears. Sevens
find it much easier to acknowledge that they fear a "rut" than they fear "pain". The fear of being stuck or
trapped in a rut conveniently relegates the fear of emotional pain to a more subconscious level in the fear queue.

Sevens are image center last which makes them shameless, insensitive, and cocky. Like eights they don't
see how they
come across to others well. Sevens move the enviornment towards them to accelerate their mental gears to distract
themselves. Fives in contrast remove themselves from their enviornment to deal with things from a position of strength. Sevens are
unprententous and young at heart. Don't
let their youthful energy fool you though . Sevens have one of the
stronger egos. Should they face obstacles these resilient types have confidence that they'll land on their
feet...and they do.

Sevens are naturally egalitarian. They don't like playing power games and would rather just be concerned with themselves. They
tend to give people the benefit of the
are grateful for their "lucky" lot in life which makes them fun to be around. They
doubt. While sevens generally aren't nitpicky of others' minor flaws they often underweight or even overlook major ones.

In enneagram theory 7s are thinking-instinctive-feeling in that order. Their default emotion is fear and their principal defense
mechanism is distraction. They accelerate their thinking center mental gears to escape the need to come to grips with inner
issues in their feeling center. They conjure up potential rosy scenarios, crazy schemes, exciting ideas, and creative ways of looking
at things. They use all that to keep mental activity high enough to keep their mind off coming to grips with unflattering inner issues,
unpleasant feelings, and sobering realities. It's much like running around to keep their kite in the air. Once it's time for follow-thru,
examining the details brings them closer to reality which is a drag: the sticktoitiveness needed for that job training, that having a
website business means having to cold-call to get customers, having to get up at 5 am for that job you thought you wanted, that cute
girl sure is clingy. Once details are involved the grass isn't as green on the other side so the seven finds new
grass starting from the mental realm and repeats the process.

On a smaller scale sevens may engage in wordplay or other shamelessnonsensical "crazy funny" behaviour to
distract themselves simply because they got the "itch"
to discharge their excess head energy into their
enviornment. Many sx-firsts think they have more seven in them than they do because sx is a
probing deeply energy to squeeze the most out of an experience while sevenness is about staying
in motion to keep their kite in the air to avoid coming to grips with inner issues and feelings.

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EIGHTS are strong-willed rugged streetsmart types who like feeling "grand" about themselves. They are
competitive and decisive. They are gluttonous types who like to "live life hard"...like "work hard play hard"..."I
want to really
sink my teeth into that juicy steak." They delight in seeing themselves as animalistic yet think about
things more deeply than they let on. Eights "just know" they have an inherent "gravitas" that most people don't
have. They are anything but apologetic for taking up space around them . Others can immediately feel an eight's
physical presence from their uninhibited "I am aligned with myself not you" expansiveness that is a reflection of their grand
personality. They are naturally
confident enough to not need to prove their strength to others or
themselves. They simply assume they are both formidable enough and mentally tough enough to do
whatever they gotta do, no discussion necessary. As tough as eights seem on the outside, what largely seperates
eights from eight-lookalikes is how eights are even tougher from the neck up. They stomach the harsher realities of life that most
others find unsettling. They are the least likely type to crack or break down psychologically. While they prefer being
independent they know they can lead should they choose to . On the flip side they know deep down they are
outsiders who can never fully be "one of the guys" .

In a dog-eat-dog world eights feel they must


be masters of their own destiny. They are unwilling to be
controlled in any way. They tend to either run things or be independent contractors. They are wary of any
interdependent setup where they aren't calling the shots. The eights that do work for others place a premium on
getting financially independent as soon as possible. Even the mere possibility of being controlled triggers a need to prevent that
from happening at all costs. That means controlling others if necessary whether it be dominating them or taking charge in a more
how they want things to be. When that
formal capacity. The eight delusion is that they intend for reality to comply with
doesn't happen it feels like losing control. Basically the eight reframes not getting what they want as losing control
which triggers increased anger and dominating behavior. This invites needless friction and makes them have to repeatedly
learn life's lessons the hard way. Where it really costs eights is emotionally though . They pit
themselves against the world so much that they deprive themselves from experiencing what it's like to be fully
human. They miss what it's like to feel elated and discouraged, to be awed and apalled, to feel other emotions fully other than
pure visceral anger. Letting their guard down and opening up is difficult for them.

Eights have a very strong sense of justice. There is nothing that ticks them off more than getting a raw deal. Eights have the
biggest tempers and the english language often feels too trite to express their anger with. If there's one thing the eight feels
compelled to do it's cuss. As eights don't
like to be "moved" against their will, they are very aware when
others are unfairly "moved" against theirs. They have a soft spot for innocence as it reminds
themselves of what they've lost and are eternally trying to reclaim. In a dog-eat-dog world full of bad people
it's one of the few things that makes them think the world isn't broken beyond repair. When they see innocent people getting the
shaft it makes them very angry. Their protective instincts quickly kick in. They know someone's going to feel some pain
and it's not going to be them. Eights are comfortable seeing themselves as monsters and have no inhibition against being "badder"
than the bad to meet out punishment. "Judgment day" is where they feel most at home , where they are judge, jury,
prosecutor, and most importantly, executioner. "Executioner" in this case means due to the eight the life of the perpetrator will never
be the same.

Eights donot trust easily but once you're in you're in to stay unless you really screw up . If an eight yells
silent treatment which
at you he sees you as a decent person who did a bad thing. That's not as bad as him giving you the
means he's cutting you out. Eights like to test people not to see where they stand but more to
putting the finishing touches on whatever they have compiled on you . They pride themselves on having the
ability to see what makes a person tick. They prefer to enter the fray only at the very end when they are about to finish things as
opposed to lashing out in the middle of things. When an eight starts testing you it means he already found a red
flag, like an "any last words before I get rid of you". They don't like to show their full hand until the end. Of course if you betray
them you are gone.

Due to their more unconscious sense of self they aren't


as aware of how they come across to others. They
do not feel the need to justify themselves in
shamelessly assert their selfishness which others find refreshing. They
the least. They do they feel the need to hold themselves to any standards . Their streams of consciousness
are "I choose to" as opposed to "I feel obligated to" or "I hold myself to". They revel in being "bad" and in not needing
validation. In response to being called a thug, they may respond "damn straight" while kneeling down to give a child a free ice cream
cone. They assume others don't like them until proven otherwise and therefore they don't need
validation from others. When they don't get validation it confirms their self-image of someone who doesn't need validation.
They also like to have a disconnect between them and others' perceptions of them to reinforce
what others think of them doesn't matter. It reinforces their outsider nature, how they are "here" others are "there".
That's how things were always fated to be. It goes without saying as outsiders eights also view many societal rules as
stupid.

In enneagram theory eights are instinctive-thinking-feeling in that order. On a much deeper level eights really want power to
make sure they are never vulnerable. Eights unconsciously do everything from a position of strength. They have a nose
for what detracts from gravitas in realtime and avoid that. They live large and move against the world at the expense of feeling soft
and tender emotions, and coming to grips with neglected feelings. They "trivialize" emotions and avoid both feeling
them and coming to grips with them. The eight fixation in its purest form is an aversion to being "moved" by soft and
tender emotions that make them feel weak. During a "moment" they become even more grand to avoid being moved
emotionally. Their speaking becomes more measured as if to try to slow down time itself. With their fear buried deep in the
unconscious position they can walk and talk like they have gravitas. The inhibition against being "moved" also applies to the
physical and thinking realms. Everything seems so clear when they keep themselves pitted against the
world. They know who their enemies are. They have a purpose and a mission. Simply put they feel engaged and alive.
But it only serves to keep their mind off of coming to grips with their feelings they've put off
processing. Their internal landscape feels like a purgatory as they forever battle unresolved emotions and issues
that linger. They feel emotions most deeply when they leave them behind as if to finally give them a proper burial after a long
period of neglect. They are much more sentimental than they let on and feel regret and nostalgia over not having
felt more in the moment that had come and gone.

Unhealthy eights are totally out of touch with their feelings. They are often outlaws. They brag about having no conscience and more
importantly they mean it. They are totally insensitive to others and have no remorse. They focus exclusively on living hard and large.
They can be very destructive. In extreme examples they are brutal dictators. Saddam Hussein was a good example but not just
see it
because he was a brutal dictator. Eights in general don't like feeling they need to understand the world to navigate it. They
as the world "telling them what to do". But most eights come around to reality and do what they gotta
do to survive. Saddam was totally delusional. He ignored the advice of his generals and drew up the battle plans himself
without regard to logistics. His plan was to have his army fall back in concentric rings around Baghdad despite there being a limited
number of crooked roads. He had no desire to play his hand the best he could. He just didn't care he was out of touch with reality
anymore. Healthy eights in contrast are magnanimous. They acknowledge
their emotions. Although they are
naturally self-validating they accept being "touched" by others. They are willing to make
themselves vulnerable emotionally as the hardest person to conquer is oneself.

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NINES are the most patient and tolerant types in the enneagram. They have an innate belief that other people are
similar to them underneath in a way they can't explain that makes them anything but megalomanic. They are truly
accepting of peoples' faults and are biased to give others the benefit of the doubt. They are good listeners and one can
talk to them about almost anything. They are able to see where others are coming from and can genuinely
sympathize with what it feels like to not be listened to . They can make people feel good about even the deepest
gloom.

They are easygoing and low-maintainence. They enjoy


relaxing and letting their minds wander. They like
immersing themselves in their hobbies and are often drawn to the outdoors. They don't impose
their preferences and aren't sticklers over little things. They don't need for things to be spelled out.
They are good-natured and unflappable. They have the ability to stay hopeful as well as level-headed and calm*
during a real crisis. Whether they are anxious, fustrated, angry, excited, or enthused, they show less than most people and
appear stable no matter what*.

*Unless I spazz out haha

They see being united and coming together in a positive light. They believe in "flow" , whether it's going
with the flow, idealizing a reality or philosophy that has flow, synchronizing themselves with the ebbs and flows of life, or being
attracted to what naturally flows. They have a knack for waiting for the right time when things to come to them instead of
them forcing the action. They have just enough of a positive outlook to favor letting things work out on their own but are anything but
full of themselves. They have a good balance between being competitive and someone to simply hang with. All in all nines tend to
be likeable.

As gut types nines are very "present" in their bodies in a naturally grounded and inert way. From being in the center of the gut triad
they are saturated with enough earthy energy to make staying in their comfort zone their main priority, to the point where they
block out the harshness and complications of life, and whatever doesn't "jive" with them in general. They want as much as possible
for things to go smoothly and resist what bothers them. Their autonomy is important to them and a lot of things that
make life more complicated aren't worth the trouble. With their instinctive energy trapped inside them they tend to stick with what's
familiar, sometimes to the point of inertia and complacency. They go with the flow and are reluctant to assert their preferences
outside of their comfort zone. They
like feeling invited and feeding off others' energy but not to the point
of no longer being able to slip in and out seamlessly. They lack strong personal boundaries in that they rarely tell
people to go away so they don't want to risk a level of involvement that could lead to unwanted obligations. When they don't take the
initiative to make themselves heard it often leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy of others ignoring them. They hold back their fustrations
although they may not realize how much they do this.

On a much deeper level the underlying current of "anger" in gut types is traced to the eternal fustration of not being able to see
themselves well due to being overly present in their bodies, similar to the fustration of groping in the dark. Inner needs like
cultivating an identity have trouble being met with an unconscious
sense of self, which in conjunction with
being "held back" by their inertness makes it hard to get out from inside of them what they really mean
and how they really feel. This constant low-idle "groping in the dark" rhythmic body-consciousness from which frustration and anger
springs is the primary backdrop of the "overly present in their body" gut triad, similar to anxiety and shame for the head and image
triads respectively.Although nines may deny their annoyance and irritation as forms of anger, they
loathe being pushed or bothered, and especially anything that even faintly smells of obligation .
Like eights and ones a nine's underlying fustration is there but instead gets redirected into less visceral forms like stubbornness
and digging in their heels. If they are dragged into doing something they grit their teeth and make the
best of it. Nines have an easier time accessing sadness, fear, hurt, confusion, numbness, than anger itself though ironically they
get mad at themselves for saying yes when they didn't mean to.

Nines being very present in their bodies comes at the expense of having a conscious sense of "self" or awareness of having a
persona. This makes them seem the least "put on" and adds to their likeability. On the flip side this lack of an identity makes them
prone to self-neglect and introjecting aspects of others without them realizing it. That's why nines have difficulty
vocalizing
what they want or how they are feeling. When they say yes to the possibility of something in
general others misinterpret that as committing to a real yes. They also have difficulty saying no with
enough conviction for others to get the message that it's non-negotiable, especially when
they feel pushed to defend
and justify the no to someone who refuses to take no for an answer. This is a source of frustration
for them and only adds to why they think communicating their wants and needs isn't worth the trouble. In an external sense nines
tend to believe "everything will turn out fine"..."no need to get panicky"...”there
are ways to work around that and
we'll find them”, while on an internal level nines have lowered expectations and are less positive thinking. They tend to see a
bland neutral world with many shades of grey and prefer to be positive as they find negativity draining .
That is why nines are more positive outlook than pure optimists like sevens.

Nines see the waves of conflict between them and others larger and more treacherous than they really are. They
can be unnerved by focused negative energy and to a lesser extent relentlessness. What others see
as a spirited discussion they see as a needlessly argumentative atmosphere. They don't like it
when people feel compelled to fight over stuff in raised voices rather than try to discuss and
merely understand each other. They feel people interrupt them and never give them an opportunity to say something
important. They settle for an illusion that if they don't invite conflict or rock the boat everything will be
okay. They bury their anger and fustration and are happy that their boat is still floating even if it's just drifting
out of inertia. Steering the boat through problems would require a sense of direction so they are content to let it drift along. By
ignoring problems they make them worse which causes them to ignore them even more and a negative feedback loop ensues.
When there's too much swept under the rug to "numb out" any longer they finally erupt. This
takes others aback and reinforces to them that anger is bad . On a more subconscious level they try to
neutralize their anger by seeing the good in people.

Much of a nine's issues surface in relationships where it's about two people getting what they want from each other. It's not
protect themselves emotionally in
uncommon for nines to seem apathetic and invest less of themselves in something to
case things go bad. To others they can seem emotionally disconnected or "numbed out" . In
relationships they are often able to shrug off disappointments easier because they had already left internally to some degree. It's not
a matter of them not being accepting enough for if anything they hold out too much hope. They feel that people ignore them as well
as don't pay attention or listen to them. Once they've determined things are passed the point of no return, they try to get the other
person to leave by being unavailable and unappealing so that they have a guilt-free conscience. They don't think they make waves
or invoke strong feelings in others. This way they confirm to themselves that they are invisible enough to slip in and out of situations
without making enough waves to be responsible for whatever happens. In prematurely resigning themselves to being less visible
surprised at how blindsided close ones can be. (You
they underestimate the effect they have on others and are
hear that, heroic blog responders? Why don’t you go and read descriptions once again before assigning
the wrong characteristics to the wrong types to the wrong person without considering mutual consent.) –
At least they motivated me to dig into my Enneagram head-on.

Because nines are less "present" on the inside their cognition has less "form" or "definition" and
therefore less of the restrictions that accompany them. This enables nines to gloss over negative scenarios just
enough to think they can live a simple and easy life without disruptions, provided they don't invite conflict that could lead to
fear being separated from
estrangement from others(9w1), or make life more difficult for themselves(9w8). They especially
loved ones(9w1), or losing loved ones permanently(9w8). Emphasizing they are distinctly separate individuals goes against their
ego in not having self-importance(9w1), or in their self-importance not mattering(9w8).

With their ability to subtly gloss over what's uncomfortable to think about nines are able to drown out what disturbs their peace of
mind(9w1), or their rhythm(9w8). While the seven's jumping-the-gun cognition makes them clearly see positive scenarios before the
future can disprove them, the nine's more elastic cognition makes them block out what they consider disruptive. Due
to having
less "form" or "definition" their cognition is often more in symbols and images and other things of
a less conscious nature than concrete words. They can be complacent and selectively not remember things. Any
one thing can possibly lead to anything, for unlike fives there are no dead ends or other cognitive restrictions to their thinking
process. They tend to explain things in stories where one thought naturally flows to another. This type of internal wiring though can
make it harder to discriminate between what is essential and what isn't, and makes it more difficult to find their calling in
life and set priorities. Although their ability to see many shades of grey gives them a talent for mediating others' disputes, it makes
it harder to isolate what they really want in life.
In an everchanging world they are reluctant
to commit on the spot as they feel a need to have something
"jive" with them to tell if they really want it or not. They fear being swept up in the wrong thing and the obligations
that come with it..."do I really want this or not?" Enough stress makes them hunker down and avoid everything as well as numb out.
"Why bother?"..."which way to go?..."it doesn't really matter does it?"..."I don't know so I'll stay here and hope it goes away."
Therefore their top priority remains to be as comfortable as possible with what's familiar, internally as well as externally. To achieve
this their more amorphous cognition makes them block out what is outside of their comfort zone, particularly the harshness and
complications of life.

In Enneagram theory nines are instinctive(gut) center primary at the expense of their thinking and identity centers. This leads them
to become more "checked out" and numb to their feelings in response to conflict or another stessor, as well as overfocus on living
comfortably at the expense of critical thinking beyond their comfort zone and a developed identity. Howevera sense of self
even if it's false helps one "get out there" and have one's self-perception and version of reality
regularly tested. On a deeper level nines take pride in their invisibility as otherwise it would be too much of a blow for their
invisibility to be "confirmed" by others on top of not being able to see themselves. Twisting their perceived invisibility into a strength
also enables them to use it as an excuse to do whatever they have to do to stay in their comfort zone. On a deeper level they want
A person needs to be a part
to be stay in their comfort zone and avoid taking responsibility for their true needs and desires.
of themselves before they are a part of anything though. Hence nines need to see themselves as distinctly seperate
to connect with greater humanity.

Nines attempt to reach a state of premature comfort and/or enlightenment. Seeing friction and a lack of fluidity in eights and
ones next to them may awaken some nines to the possibility that an easy life without disruptions may lead to missing out on
essential parts of the human experience like being involved. Other nines may immerse themselves in activities to feel more alive to
counteract inertia. Yet other nines may be surprisingly intellectual and even indulge in introspection, though the latter is usually on
their terms. Similar to sixes there can be a wide range of nines. While it's not uncommon for nines to seem like fours, fives, sixes,
and sevens even, what all nines have in common is presuming that things will be okay if they stay in their comfort zone by
minimizing conflict and tension as well as blocking out the harshness and complications of life, numbing out what's unpleasant, an
attraction to "flow" or willingness to go with the flow, and an underdeveloped sense of identity so that they often feel "invisible".

To get healthier nines need to wean themselves off autopilot mode or away from any delusion that they can ascend to a nirvana-
like state without going through the arduous process of figuring out who they are and what they really want in life. They need to
accept the reality that emotional pain cannot be numbed or escaped and instead comes with simply being present. They then need
to learn to put themselves out there and allow for the discomfort that comes from being more emotionally honest and engaged with
others. They need to stand by their own convictions and accept the risk that they will find conflict and come up against others'
whatever happens happens. If others
opinions. To live a more honest life they have to lay it out there and accept that
reject their right to see things the way they do they are rejecting their truth which is unacceptable .
Thus conflict can finally lead to closure. Once they see that anger is conviction in their truth (just like what I wrote
here above in grey and why my responses to those people on my blog were full of annoyance…
otherwise why would I effin’ care, right?) they can see it as a constructive force that they could and should experience in
realtime. When healthy nines are able to stay focused and rational during anger and let it run its natural course. They can then
utilize their strength at seeing the merits of others' views without losing themselves in the
process. With new self-assertion victories their sense of identity is developed enough to enable them to escape inertia instead of
pain. They can become more "alive" and begin the positive feedback loop of engaging life more fully, releasing the logjam of
instinctive energy that's trapped inside them.

The instinctive triad seems to "just know" compared to the relatively ungrounded cognition of other types so being in the center
nines present an interesting paradox. They are more in touch with less conscious processes and the
collective unconscious, yet have a tendency to be disengaged and subtly gloss over things that
go against their preferred way of seeing reality. They have a knack for going with the flow and waiting for things to
develop instead of forcing the action, but are also more prone to seeing what they want to see and living in their own bubble.
Being in the center of the instinctive triad they are saturated with enough of the less conscious gut energy(not to be confused with
not being intellectual) that it can be difficult to overcome their inertia and "get up and go". It's similar to sixes who
"what if" so much they fake themselves out and threes who try too hard to hit the right notes with people.

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