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RAHSIA KEYAKINAN

DIRI DAN
BERKARISMATIK

MEJAR(B) MOHAMMAD QAYYUM BIN A. BADARUDDIN


DR ALI SEMAN
5 CARA MUDAH JAGA PENAMPILAN DIRI
Penampilan diri yang bersih dan kemas dapat menarik minat orang lain terutama orang
tersayang mendampingi kita. Berwajah kacak adalah satu pakej tetapi perlu disertakan juga
dengan kebersihan seluruh anggota tubuh badan. Tambah lagi jika anda mahu memikat hati si
dia. Disarankan kepada anda, jangan sesekali memandang remeh terhadap perkara ini.

Okay boys, anda sudah tahu penampilan fizikal memainkan peranan penting. Kini tiba waktunya
anda memeriksa seluruh tubuh badan. Berdiri di hadapan cermin dan mulakan memeriksa
anggota badan satu persatu. Jika ada yang tidak memuaskan, lakukan sesuatu demi kebaikan
anda. Selain itu, tip yang diberikan ini dapat mengubah penampilan dan pastinya anda akan
berasa lebih selesa serta yakin. Si dia juga pasti mahu mendekati diri anda.

1. Rambut kemas, bersih dan sihat

Ada wanita menyifatkan rambut lelaki sama pentingnya dengan penjagaan wajah. Mungkin
kerana rambut adalah mahkota wanita, dan mereka juga mahu kaum lelaki memiliki rambut
yang kemas,bersih serta sihat. Tidak kiralah apa jua potongan rambut yang anda gayakan,
kebersihan dan kesihatan rambut perlu diutamakan. Bagi anda yang mempunyai masalah
kelemumur pula pastinya merimaskan orang lain. Begitu juga dengan rambut yang kering, ia
akan kelihatan kusut masai. Jadi, untuk mengatasi masalah ini, penggunaan produk bersesuaian
dengan masalah rambut dan kulit kepala adalah sangat penting. Rambut berkelemumur perlu
diatasi dengan syampu khas pencegah kelemumur. Manakala masalah rambut kering perlu
disertakan dengan penggunaan perapi atau pelembap selepas rambut disyampu.

Rambut beruban juga antara masalah yang mula menghantui lelaki muda. Masalah ini bukan
sahaja disebabkan faktor genetik tetapi juga faktor pemakanan. Sekiranya anda mengalami
masalah ini, atasinya dengan cara mewarnakan rambut. Bagi yang pertama kali ingin
mewarnakan rambut, disarankan anda mendapat khidmat dan nasihat dari salun. Tanya mereka
yang pakar untuk tip lakukan sendiri di rumah. Sekiranya anda memilih untuk berambut
panjang, pastikan anda menggayakannya dengan kemas.

2. Rawat Wajah Anda

Sejak beberapa tahun lalu, produk penjagaan wajah khas untuk lelaki bertambah dengan
cepatnya di pasaran. Pelbagai jenama mengikut masalah wajah boleh dipilih. Syarikat pengeluar
produk ini juga mula menyedari bahawa bukan hanya wanita sahaja perlu mengambil tahu soal
penampilan serta kebersihan wajah. Berbeza dengan produk wanita, produk penjagaan wajah
untuk lelaki lebih ringkas. Untuk lelaki, gunakan tiga produk asas yang mudah dan ringkas. Tiga
langkah asas itu termasuklah mencuci, menyegar dan melembap. Gunakan tiga produk ini
sekurang-kurangnya dua kali sehari. Sekiranya anda ingin menggunakan pelembap, pilih produk
yang mengandungi pelindung matahari untuk siang, dan gunakan pelembap malam sebelum
tidur. Gunakan skrub dua minggu sekali selepas mencuci dan sebelum menggunakan penyegar.
Tujuannya adalah untuk menanggalkan sel-sel kulit mati yang masih melekat di wajah.

Anda juga boleh menjaga kulit wajah dari dalam. Seperti kata Dr. Perricone, pakar anti
penuaan, untuk menjadikan kulit sentiasa sihat dan kelihatan muda, makan makanan yang
berkhasiat. Contohnya ikan salmon (mengandungi DMAE, astaxanthin and asid lemak), sayur-
sayuran berdaun hijau, cantaloupe, buah beri biru, rasberi, strawberi (kaya antioksidan),
kekacang, asparagus, brokoli, bayam dan sudah tentu minum air kosong lebih banyak.

3. Cukur atau trim rerambut

Sesetengah wanita menyukai lelaki yang mempunyai bulu atau rerambut di tubuh badan
terutama di bahagian wajah serta dada. Walau bagaimanapun, ini tidak bermakna anda perlu
melupakan soal penjagaannya. Bagi wanita lain pula, pasangan atau teman yang sentiasa
menjaga (trim) rerambut di wajah atau bahagian dada adalah satu kepuasan bagi mereka. Jadi,
jangan biarkan rerambut yang tumbuh di tubuh badan terbiar. Trim dan cukur di bahagian yang
perlu atau anda boleh memilih melakukan permanent hair removal.

4. Manicure Pedicure

Kebanyakan wanita menyukai lelaki yang memiliki tangan serta jari yang kuat. Tetapi jika
tangan dan jari anda kelihatan seperti sarung tangan buruk, sudah tentu mengubah minat
mereka. Mungkin manicure danpedicure jarang dilakukan oleh lelaki. Kononnya ia hanya
dilakukan oleh wanita. Itu dulu, sekarang manicuredan pedicure perlu menjadi satu habit dalam
grooming lelaki. Anda perlu lakukan proses ini sekurang-kurangnya sekali dalam sebulan. Kalau
boleh lakukan di salun kecantikan yang menyediakan khidmat ini.

5. Gigi Putih Bersih

Senyuman menawan adalah sangat penting. Walaubagaimanapun, senyuman tidak akan


menawan jika anda mempunyai masalah gigi dan mulut. Bukan sahaja mengeluarkan bau nafas
yang busuk malah gigi juga tidak bersih (berwarna kekuningan). Ini boleh menimbulkan rasa
mual pada orang lain. Pastinya anda tidak mahu menerima teguran yang memalukan itu.
Sekiranya gigi anda memerlukan rawatan, tanyalah doktor gigi anda mengenai rawatan
pemutihan gigi yang sesuai. Sebagai tambahan, gunakan juga produk pemutih gigi yang
terdapat di pasaran dan lakukan sendiri di rumah.
8 FAKTA SEKIRANYA ANDA MEMILIKI PENAMPILAN DIRI YANG MENARIK

Penampilan diri sangat penting untuk penilaian awal orang lain terhadap diri anda ketika
pertemuan kali pertama. Ini kerana melalui penampilan, orang lain akan cuba membuat seribu
satu andaian mengenai tingkahlaku, sifat, kerjaya dan sebagainya. Jadi, apakah fakta sekiranya
anda memiliki penampilan diri yang menarik?

(1) Berdasarkan kajian yang telah dilakukan, peratus seseorang yang berpenampilan menarik
berjaya didalam temuduga adalah 3 atau 4 peratus lebih tinggi berbanding orang yang kurang
berpenampilan menarik. Ini menunjukkan bahawa penampilan mempengaruhi penemuduga
dalam memilih pekerja.

(2) Kajian juga menunjukkan bahawa pendapatan lelaki yang berpenampilan menarik adalah
lebih tinggi berbanding wanita yang berpenampilan menarik.

(3) Seorang yang berpenampilan menarik mempunya peratus sebanyak lebih 80% untuk
mempengaruhi orang lain.

(4) Lelaki yang berpenampilan menarik lebih mudah untuk mendapatkan perhatian daripada
seseorang yang lebih berusia berbanding rakan sebaya atau seseorang yang lebih muda
daripada mereka.

(5) Berpenampilan menarik sebenarnya mempengaruhi minda separa sedar orang lain untuk
membina kepercayaan terhadap diri anda.

(6) Kajian juga menunjukkan bahawa majoriti seseorang yang memiliki penampilan yang
menarik bekerja dalam bidang media massa.

(7) Kepandaian seseorang yang berpenampilan menarik biasanya adalah lebih rendah
berbanding mereka yang tidak berpenampilan menarik.

(8) Seorang yang berpenampilan menarik lebih bersifat aktif dan mempunyai kemahiran
komunikasi yang tinggi berbanding mereka yang kurang berpenampilan menarik yang lebih
pasif dan pendiam.

10 CARA MEMBENTUK KEYAKINAN DIRI


1- Berpakaian menarik Pakaian banyak mempengaruhi emosi seseorang dan boleh
mengubah cara anda membawa diri serta berinteraksi dengan orang lain. Tidak perlu membeli
pakaian mahal kerana yang penting ialah bagaimana anda memadankan pakaian dengan
tudung, aksesori, kasut dan beg tudung supaya kelihatan menarik. Ketidakpadanan antara
pakaian dengan tudung atau aksesori boleh membuatkan pakaian mahal tampak murah.

2 Berjalan cepat sedikit Individu yang mempunyai keyakinan diri tinggi kebanyakannya
berjalan cepat kerana mereka mengejar masa. Walaupun tidak mengejar masa, cubalah
berjalan lebih cepat daripada biasa. Anda akan berasa keyakinan menjadi lebih baik.

Kaedah ini secara tidak langsung boleh menjadi senaman kerana anda memaksa badan
menggunakan lebih tenaga dan dapat menjimatkan masa. Anda akan mempunyai lebih masa
untuk melaksanakan tugas harian.

3- Belajar postur badan yang baik Jangan membongkok. Postur badan yang kurang baik akan
memberi gambaran kepada orang lain bahawa kita kurang keyakinan diri dan tidak merasakan
dirinya penting.

Mengamalkan postur badan yang baik sama ada ketika duduk atau berdiri secara automatik
membuatkan anda berasa lebih yakin dan selesa dengan diri sendiri.

4- Cari kelebihan diri sendiri Ramai orang tidak sedar mereka mempunyai lebih banyak
pemikiran negatif. Menurut Perunding Psikologi Klinikal, Paul Jambunathan, berdasarkan kajian,
apabila ditanya mengenai bentuk emosi, kebanyakan orang akan menyenaraikan lebih banyak
emosi negatif berbanding emosi positif.

Pemikiran negatif seperti inilah yang menyebabkan kita selalu melihat orang lain lebih baik
sedangkan setiap orang mempunyai kelebihan masing-masing. Cuba senaraikan kelebihan anda
dan buat satu karangan mengenainya. Bacakan karangan ini di depan cermin setiap kali anda
berasa kurang yakin dengan diri sendiri.

5- Bersyukur Luangkan masa setiap hari untuk bersyukur ke atas apa yang anda miliki.
Sebenarnya anda mempunyai terlalu banyak perkara perlu bersyukur kepada Tuhan, antaranya
perkahwinan, keluarga, dianugerahkan anak (walaupun anak angkat), pekerjaan yang baik,
kejayaan lampau dan kemahiran.

Jika tidak memiliki walau satu pun daripada disenarai di atas, anda masih perlu bersyukur
kerana diberi peluang untuk hidup dan menikmati keindahan alam ciptaan Tuhan.Kita berdoa
dan meminta banyak perkara daripada Allah untuk menikmati hidup tetapi Allah memberi
kehidupan supaya anda boleh menikmati semua yang diminta tadi.
6- Jangan kedekut dengan pujian Apabila kita berpandangan negatif pada diri sendiri, kita
secara tidak langsung (tanpa disedari) mempamerkan perasaan itu pada orang lain. Belajarlah
memuji orang dengan ikhlas.

Ia bukan saja akan membuat orang dipuji berasa senang hati tetapi boleh menjadi pembuka
kepada perbualan. Elak terbabit dalam gosip (mengumpat), terutama jika ia membabitkan
rakan sekerja. Mengumpat akan mengundang lebih banyak perasaan dan pemikiran negatif
kepada anda.

7- Duduk di depan Di seluruh dunia, tidak kira sama ada di sekolah, universiti atau
perhimpunan umum, kebanyakan orang lebih suka memilih untuk duduk di belakang. Untuk
meningkatkan keyakinan, belajarlah duduk di barisan depan bagi mengatasi ketakutan yang
tidak rasional itu.

Duduk di barisan depan membolehkan anda melihat, mendengar dan mendapat maklumat
dengan lebih jelas. Malah, mempunyai lebih peluang untuk bertanya. Dengan duduk di depan,
anda lebih mudah dikesan individu penting yang memberi taklimat.

8-Ambil peluang bercakap Di dalam perbincangan kumpulan, cuba bercakap atau memberi
pandangan walaupun sekali. Ini akan meningkatkan keyakinan anda untuk bercakap di depan
orang ramai dan lebih yakin dengan pandangan anda.

9- Bersenam Tahap kesihatan dan kecergasan memberi banyak kesan ke atas keyakinan
seseorang. Individu yang mempunyai berat badan seimbang biasanya lebih yakin dengan diri
sendiri. Kita akan berasa kurang yakin apabila tidak selesa dengan badan sendiri akibat masalah
berat badan dirasakan tidak cantik atau menarik. Bersenam bukan saja penting untuk
meningkatkan kesihatan, tetapi ia juga akan memperbaiki bentuk badan kita.

10- Murah dengan senyuman Senyuman memberi kesan positif secara langsung kepada diri
sendiri. Ia akan membuatkan kita berasa gembira dan tenang. Malah senyuman juga boleh
melindungi keresahan hati dan ia boleh membuatkan anda tampak lebih yakin.
BAGAIMANA MEMBENTUK KARISMA DIRI??

Umumnya karisma adalah sesuatu unsur yang membuatkan kita percaya bahawa sesorang
individu itu adalah orang yang berkelayakan, berilmu, pakar dan tulus ikhlas. Dengan kata lain,
karisma merujuk kepada sesuatu yang sangat positif. Salah satu cara untuk bersaing adalah
dengan membina karisma diri.

BINA KARISMA

Bagaimana membina karisma diri?

1. ILMU ATAU PAKAR - Ilmu pengetahuan dan kepakaran adalah unsur utama dalam membina
karisma. Jika anda diundang untuk bercakap mengenai sesuatu topik itu tetapi anda tidak
mahir, tentulah anda tidak akan dapat menyampaikan dengan baik dan gagal mempengaruhi
orang lain.

2. UNSUR KEIKHLASAN - Anda juga harus menunjukkan bahawa anda ikhlas dan tulus jika ingin
menyakinkan orang lain. Jika tidak, anda pasti tidak dipercayai sesiapa pun.

3. IMEJ DIRI - Anda harus mempunyai penampilan yang meyakinkan atau dengan kata lain
nampak 'presentable'. Imej begitu penting kerana ia menjadi tanggapan pertama terhadap
anda.

TIP untuk membina karisma diri :

1. Lengkapkan diri dengan ilmu pengetahuan atau maklumat mengenai apa yang akan
disampaikan.

2. Gunakan bahasa yang kemas dan tersusun.

3. Tutur kata elok tersusun, menggunakan gaya bercakap yang dinamis dan sangat
berkeyakinan.

4. Jangan campur adukkan bahasa ketika bercakap.

5. Pakaian kemas dan sopan.


6. Senyum.

7. Tonjolkan diri sebagai orang yang bertenaga, penuh semangat dan aktif.

8. Gaya berjalan, duduk dan berdiri juga harus diberi keutamaan.

9. Ikhlas dan tulus.

10. Mahu tahu sama ada anda berkarisma atau tidak?


SELF ESTEEM TIPS

1. Set an intention. Before you get out of bed, decide what kind of day you want to have. Make
a deliberate, conscious decision about how you want to create your day. Write it down. Play a
little with how it might feel. When you get up, act accordingly. Remind yourself throughout the
day of your intention. Look for ways your intention is playing out in your world. Suggested
intention: Today is full of joyful miracles!

2. Be true to yourself. Live your life doing what feels right to you, not what someone else thinks
you should do. Its ok to listen to advice, but in the end, make the decision that feels best for
you. Being a people pleaser is a very frustrating way to live. Get in the habit of pleasing
yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness. Your feelings are important. "Our self-
respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart,
we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters." ~Dan Coppersmith

3. Change your mental diet. Read uplifting books. Listen to uplifting tapes and CDs and attend
uplifting workshops. What you focus on expands. What you put your attention on becomes
more real. So focus on what you want to create, on what makes you happy. Dont focus on
negativity. Stop watching the news. Avoid whiners and complainers. Walk away.

4. Be aware of what your monkey mind, the voice in your head, is saying. Widen back and
observe your thoughts. If a particular thought isn't kind or isnt serving you, note this and
redirect your focus to what you are wanting. This may take a bit of practice. Remember to be
kind to yourself as you are gaining awareness and strengthening your will.

5. Upgrade your physical diet. Processed foods contain very little nutritional value when
compared to raw, organic fruits and vegetables. Eat fresh produce rather than processed foods
whenever possible. Drink plenty of water, fresh juices and smoothies instead of caffeinated
beverages or energy drinks. Add nutrient dense superfoods to your diet. When you take care of
your body by supplying it with good nutrients, you will naturally feel better and have more
energy.

6. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you.
You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours.
You are a unique expression of the divine. Revel in it! If you want something to measure
yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.
7. Create an uplifting environment for yourself. This can be joyful colors, uplifting music, nature
photos, plants, uplifting posters, open windows you decide. Wear clothes that you feel good
in.

8. Celebrate your successes. Even the small ones. Don't wait to get perfect. Any progress at all is
worthy of celebration. When you celebrate, you are telling the universe I am loving this. Please
give me more! Yay!

9. Be grateful. You have much to be grateful for. Before you go to bed each night, write down
ten things you are grateful for that day and why. This is an important step. Gratitude alone can
turn things around for you. What are you grateful for right now?

10. Create a list of accomplishments and review it often. We tend to get overwhelmed looking
at whats left to be done and forget to give ourselves credit for how far weve already come.

11. Dont take yourself, or life, too seriously. Lighten up. Dare to have fun. Angels can fly
because they take themselves lightly ~ G.K Chesterton

12. Learn something new. Become an expert. Get curious and learn all there is to learn about
what interests you. Learning is growing, and it feels good.

13. Do things that stretch your comfort zone. Anytime you feel fear, as long as it isn't life
threatening, is an opportunity to grow! "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's
courage." ~Anais Nin

14. Do something nice for yourself. You deserve it! Maybe a massage, a bath or nap. Take
yourself out on a date. Treat yourself with the same honor, courtesy, respect and kindness you
would if you were taking someone else out that you really, really liked. The key here is to
enbrace and enjoy the experience. Feeling guilty defeats the purpose.

15. Do something nice for someone else. Volunteer. Being of service, without expectation of
reward, feels really good.

16. Spend time regularly doing things you find joyful. What make your heart sing? Do more of
it! Remember being happy is not a selfish act. Your joy is a gift to the world! When you feel
joyful, your joy is contagious.

17. Do something physical. Clean out a closet. Get out of the house. Go for a walk. Do some
gardening. Visit the nature preserve. Exercise. Fly a kite. Ride a bike. Exercise produces
endorphins that help you feel better. Also, being outdoors in the sunshine helps the body
produce vitamin D, which contributes to a healthier, happier you.

18. Spend time with supportive, uplifting people. We do exist!


19. Create positive affirmations about yourself. Post them about your home. Say them often
and out loud.

20. Allow yourself to be where you are. Just feel whatever you are feeling, without judging it or
judging yourself for feeling it. Let go of the story you have created around it and just be with
the feeling. Embrace it. Explore it. Feel it. All any feeling wants is to be felt fully. This can only
be done when you let go of your resistance to feeling it, which is kept in place by the story and
the judgment around it. Without the story and the labels, feelings are inherently neutral. Feel
the feeling fully, then just let it dissolve.

21. Remind yourself often you are a miraculous, sacred, perfect expression of Life.Amazing,
incredible you are worthy and loved always, without having to do a thing.

22. Spend some time just being. This is much easier in Nature. Go camping. Take a walk. Climb a
tree. Sit by a stream. Put up a hammock and climb in. In reconnecting with the Earth and
Nature, we slow down and have time for some inner reflection. Priorities become clearer. Who
you truly are is more easily recognized here.

There's No Limit to Your Self-Esteem

If you enjoyed these self esteem tips, check out The Self-Esteem Playbook, a resource-packed
guide to loving yourself, co-authored by Dan Coppersmith and Melissa Cantrelle.

Get a complete set of simple steps and workshop proven, uplifting exercises you can use to feel
better about yourself and your world. You deserve this, and all the goodness life has to offer.

Why Confidence Is So Important (and How to Improve Yours)

"Have confidence!" is one of the most essential pieces of advice you'll receive in life that makes
no sense if you've never done it. You know what confident people look like, the advantages
they get, and that it's something worth emulating. How do you get there, though?

What is Confidence Anyway?

In the purest sense, confidence is knowing what you're good at, the value you provide, and
acting in a way that conveys that to others. Contrast this with arrogance which typically
involves believing you are better in a particular area than you are, or low self-esteem which
involves believing you're less valuable than you think. The closer your self-assessment is to that
reality in the middle, and the more you behave accordingly, the closer you are to displaying
healthy confidence.

Why does this definition matter? Because if you want to raise your confidence to a level that
helps (rather than harms) you, it's important to know what you're aiming for. Blindly thinking
positive won't necessarily help, and it's possible to go too far. In some cases, the latter is
referred to as the Dunning-Kruger effect. Namely, it's when someone overestimates their own
abilities, displaying more confidence than their skill level deserves.

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What Does it Matter?

Confidence is one of those traits that can become an ethereal ideal that we all think is good,
but ask us to point to the specific reasons why anyone should want it and we can only point to
vague hypotheticals. Fortunately, science has our back. Here are just a few ways that tangibly
improving your own self-confidence manifests in real world benefits:

Confidence Can Be More Important Romantically Than Physical Attractiveness

A study published by the International Journal of Cosmetic Science showed that giving men
some cologne improved their confidence enough to be rated as visibly more attractive in
photographs. Similarly, researchers at Webster University found something as simple as a
confident, direct smile from a woman was enough to catch the attention of a potential date.

The importance of confidence in romantic relationships doesn't end at the dating phase, either.
Research published by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology showed that men in
particular can have a tendency to feel worse about themselves or their relationship when their
partner has a higher level of success. Of course, the moral there shouldn't be that women
should succeed less, but rather that, in those situations, men must work harder on improving
their own confidence level.

Confidence Early In Life Can Mean Upwards Mobility at Work


It shouldn't be a surprise that being more confident at work can mean more promotions.
However, a pilot study at the University of Melbourne found some correlation between
confidence levels as early as primary school and success in the workplace as adults.

This doesn't just apply to the workplace, either. A study by the University of Texas showed that
students who received some expression of confidence in their abilityeven while receiving
criticismperformed better later on than those who were simply told to aim for higher
standards.

Even Being Overly Confident Has Its Benefits2

The Univerisity of Edinburgh and the University of California-San Diego found that in a standoff
over a particular resource, unless you were sure you'd lose the fight, and as long as what you're
fighting for had value, being overconfident was most often to result in success. Even if you
weren't right, being confident can help you get what you want.

The Real Things You Can Actually Do to Improve Confidence

Talking about confidence is about as useful as explaining quantum mechanics via interpretive
dance. It takes a minute to understand the difference between confidence and arrogance. If
you have a confidence problem, what can you actually do about it? "Be better," isn't practical
advice, so what can you do to practice?

Work out: The effects of working out on your confidence are so overwhelming that it can't be
understated. When you exercise, your body releases a cocktail of endorphins that make you
feel pretty good as is. When you're done, you have tangible proof that you've done something
constructive and everything in your body is programmed to second that response. If you keep
at it long-term, the results of a healthier body become more and more visible.

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Research how to dress better: If you've never taken steps to assess and improve your
wardrobe, you may not realize the dramatic effect it can have on your confidence level.
Everything from the style of your shirts to the color of your glasses frames affects how people
view you. When how you appear is in sync with how you want people to view you, confidence
can easily follow.
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Learn power poses: Much of how our mind works can be affected by what our body is doing.
Ohio State University has done research that standing in certain positionssuch as with
outstretched arms or fists in the aircan increase testosterone levels and help us feel more
confident.

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Explain something you understand well. Everyone has something they understand on an above
average level. Maybe you have intricate knowledge of UPS shipping paths (and can explain why
it takes three days for my package to get from Tennessee to Georgia). Maybe you have some
deep insight into which type of 401k will get you the best return on your investment. Maybe
you know something about football that I couldn't even pretend to give an example for.

Boost Your Confidence by Talking About Something You Know Well

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Giving someone a primer on a topic that you're knowledgeable about is a quick way to get the
confidence juices flowing. You know your territory, you're in a position of relative power (you
know something they don't), and being able to articulate it proves you have value. Some topics
might be difficult to find someone to sit down and listen to you, but if you're having trouble in
person, you can contribute to any number of forums seeking the helpful advice of strangers
(like our own comments!).

Enter competitions you can do well in: I know what you're thinking. "How will beating people
who aren't as good as me make me feel better?" Well, for starters, you're already thinking like a
winner if you can even ask that question. However, the snowball effect that comes from
winning can lead to even more confidence down the road. Remember what we said earlier
about elementary school students' confidence level affecting their job prospects?

This is a concept that gets touched on in the book Outliers, where it's explained that young
hockey players who were born in the first half of the year were more likely to succeed than
players in the last half of the year. Why? Because January 1st was the cutoff date for the age-
class. A player who turned ten on January 2nd would play alongside someone who wouldn't
turn 10 for eleven more months. While this didn't guarantee success, (and in fact, as you
approach the NHL, the trend almost completely reverses) being in a group that is slightly less
prepared for competition than you are can not only boost your confidence and prepare you for
higher echelons, it can result in more people paying attention to your skill level (which only
feeds confidence even more). It's important to note that this particular method doesn't
necessarily mean you have to beat other people. The goal is to do something that validates
your skills from an external source.

Fix things you don't like about yourself: As much as might hurt to say, sometimes the problem
isn't your attitude or your emotions. Sometimes you need to change some things. This doesn't
have to mean you're a bad person or not good at things, but it does mean that if you want to be
more confident in a particular area, the best way to do so is to get better. Feel crappy because
you can't play the guitar? Practice. Do conversations about politics or economics make you feel
unintelligent? Read up about it. Ask for help, even. There's nothing wrong with admitting you
don't know something, but pretending you do when you don't won't help your confidence.

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Underneath it all, most of this tricks all center around one theme: making you feel better about
doing things you're good at or who you are. There's no surefire pattern that will make you
100% confident overnight, but if you work at it, it can pay off.
SHOW TO BE CONFIDENT
Confidence is a tricky, tricky little thing. Feeling good about yourself is so easy to put at the will
of others when it should only be up to you. The good news is that you're driving this self-
assurance train and it's ready to depart from the station.

Appearing Confident

1 Look the part. Or, as the saying goes, "fake it 'til you make it." If you know that you look like a
confident, capable person, eventually you'll start to feel it, too. You should dress how you feel
best -- not what you think confident is. Try these tricks:

Devote a little time each day to personal hygiene and making sure you're presenting yourself
well. Shower daily, brush and floss your teeth, and groom your skin and hair. Dress for
confidence. You don't have to buy a whole new wardrobe to feel better in your clothes. As long
as you're clean, comfortable, and feel good, you're set up for confidence! Remember, you look
more confident when you are enjoying what you wear!

After all, you wouldn't wear a three-piece suit on a pizza delivery. If you think you look good,
odds are you probably do.

2 Perfect your posture. How you carry yourself communicates a lot to other people, so make
sure you're telling them that you're confident and in-charge. Keep your shoulders back, your
spine straight, and your chin high. Walk with purpose instead of dragging your feet, and sit up
straight. When you look like a confident person on the outside, you'll be approached as one by
the world around you.

You won't only fool everyone else -- you'll fool yourself too. Recent research shows that the
positioning of your body cues your mind to feel a certain way -- so positioning yourself
confidently will make you genuinely feel in charge. And to top it off, having confident body
language has been linked to lower levels of stress, too. [1]

3 Smile. Keep your grin in easy reach -- you'd be surprised how even the smallest of smiles can
disarm many a social situation and make everyone feel more comfortable. In fact, research
shows that smiling reduces stress hormones in the brain. Can you imagine approaching
someone who's scowling? No, thank you.

If you're worried your smile is fake, keep it small. A fake smile can be spotted from a mile away.
On the other hand, if you're genuinely happy to see them -- or just happy for the chance to
practice your new confidence skills -- flash those pearly white teeth.
4 Make eye contact. It's a subtle change, but it can work wonders on how other people
perceive you. Don't be afraid to meet the gaze of someone else; it shows not only that you are
a person worthy of communicating with, but it tells them you respect them, acknowledge their
presence, and are interested in the conversation. You don't want to be rude, do you?!

Our eyes are uniquely human. They are windows to the soul, if you will, and showcase our
attention and feelings. By making eye contact, you will improve the quality of your interactions
in addition to appearing more confident. In fact, you'll come off as more likeable and
trustworthy and those who converse with you will feel more appreciated.[2] If you can't do it
for you, do it for them!

5 Have approachable body language. If you see a person huddled in the corner pretending to
play games on their mobile phone, are you really going to come up and say hello? Probably not.
If you want others to approach you, make sure you're approachable!

Keep your body open. If you have your arms and legs crossed, you're telling the world that
you're not interested in welcoming them in. Same goes for your face and hands -- if it's clear
you're preoccupied with something else (be it a thought or your iPhone), people will take the
hint.

6 Hold your gaze. Now that you've got the eye contact thing down, it's time to put it into
practice. Did you know that other people are just as shy about eye contact as you are? Try this
out: make eye contact with someone and see who lasts longer. Do they avert their gaze before
you? See?! They're uncomfortable too!

Practicing Confidence

1 Embrace your interests. If there's a sport or hobby you've always wanted to be good at,
now's the time! Improving your skills will reinforce that you are talented, and subsequently
boost your confidence. Learn a musical instrument or a foreign language, take up an art form
like painting, start building projectswhatever it is that catches your interest.

Don't get discouraged if you're not immediately awesome. Remember that learning is a
process, and you're in it for the small victories and the relaxing recreation time, not to be the
best ever.

Take up a hobby you can do with a group. Finding like-minded people who share your interests
can be an easy way to make friends and build confidence. Look around your community for
groups you can join, or find kinship with fellow hobbyists.
2 Talk to strangers. Straight up, confidence is more than just a state of mind -- it's habit. That's
all humans really are. So in order to be confident, you've gotta do confident things. One of
those is making conversation with strangers. It's intimidating at first, but with each time you'll
be more and more unfazed.

No, that won't creep strangers out unless you're a smelly, aggressive Quasimodo-looking KKK
member. If someone says, "Hey!", smiles at you, and asks you whether they should go to
Starbucks or Coffee Bean, how are you going to feel? Probably good. Everybody likes to be the
hero, talk to other people, and be spontaneous.[3] You're just brightening up their otherwise
dull day.

You don't have opportunities, huh? How about the barista at your coffee shop? The girl at the
check-out counter of your grocery store? Random strangers you pass on the street?

3 Don't over-apologize. Being able to say you're sorry is a good trait (and something too many
people struggle with). However, be careful to say it only when necessary. Apologizing when
you've slighted or inconvenienced someone is polite; apologizing when you haven't done
anything wrong, though, can make you feel subordinate and like you should be sorry. Before it
slips out of your mouth, take a second to make sure this is a situation that actually needs an
apology from you.

Use workarounds. You can express your sympathy or regret without actually apologizing. For
instance, if you're worried about inconveniencing someone, you could say "I hope this hasn't
been too much trouble" instead of automatically reverting to "I'm sorry."

Apologizing needlessly makes you seem unsure of yourself. That doesn't make sense because
you are inferior to no one. Why apologize if you didn't do anything wrong? After all, do you
really mean it? And if you apologize all the time, it loses value. Being sorry for everything means
you're sorry for nothing. Think of "I'm sorry" like "I love you." It should only be said with care.

4 Accept compliments gracefully. Don't just roll your eyes and shrug it off own it! You
deserved it! Make eye contact, smile, and say "thank you." Being nice about it when someone
else wants to compliment you doesn't compromise your humility; it shows that you're polite
and have a secure sense of self-worth.

Pay a compliment in return. If you're still uncomfortable taking compliments, try giving one
back after you've accepted. This can help you feel like the score is "even" and you haven't been
too prideful.

5 Build your confidence by helping others. Take time to pay someone else a compliment, or do
an unannounced good deed. You'll brighten their day, and you'll feel better about yourself.
When you become a source for positivity, others will seek to be around you, bolstering the
good vibes.

Lots of people aren't good at receiving compliments. Odds are if you give someone one they'll
respond with one in turn. Just make sure you mean it or they might respond skeptically -- "Hey,
I really like that shirt you're wearing. Was it made in China?" might not get the best response.

6 Drop those who bring you down. It's hard to be confident in a group of people that you feel
are constantly judging you. You could naturally be the most extroverted, loud, self-assured
person, but with these people, you turn into a puppy dog that hasn't been cared for well
enough. Those people need to be dropped like a bad habit. And now.

It's important that you surround yourself with others who you feel make you feel like you're the
best version of you there could possibly be. It's only around these people that you'll be able to
make the growth you want to (and can!) make.

7 Slow down. A lot of people don't do crowds. Even more people don't do public speaking. If
you find yourself in one of these arenas, it's important to slow down. When we're nervous, we
tend to speed up just to get everything over with. Don't do that. It's clue one that you're
nervous. And you're cuing yourself that you're nervous too!

Point number one is breathe. When we take short, sharp breaths, we're cuing ourselves to fight
or flight. Cut that out and you calm down a notch automatically. Humans aren't rocket science,
luckily.

Point number two is to consciously slow down your actions. Think of a six-year-old on a sugar
high -- that's you right now. Match your actions to your breathing. Bingo. Serenity.

8 Expect success. A lot of life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. When we think we'll fail, we don't
really try as hard. When we think we're not good enough, we often act not good enough. If you
expect success, you may just draw it out. Pessimism can actually undermine your abilities.[4]

Right now you're probably saying, "I'm no accurate predictor of the future! Expecting success
isn't logical -- weren't you just pushing logic a second ago?!" Well, yes, but think of it this way:
you often expect failure, so why not expect success? They're both possible circumstances and in
most, one is not more likely than the other. BOOM. Schooled.

9 Take risks. Sometimes the only way out is through. In order to get good at life, you've gotta
encounter experiences that force you to learn. You can't be awesome at it right off the bat. If
you keep doing what you've always done, you'll never get better at...anything. You gotta take
chances to grow.
Failure is inevitable. It always happens. And it doesn't matter. The only part that matters is that
you get back up. Everyone experiences set backs, but not everyone gets back up. It's the getting
back up that builds confidence, and you've got to fail in the first place to do so.

HIPNOSIS YAKIN DIRI TANPA HENTI

Pertama, kagumi kehebatan mereka. Jangan rasa marah, benci?atau cemburu. Jika anda benci
pencuri, adakah anda mahu jadi pencuri? Tidak bukan? Jika anda benci orang biadab, adakah
anda mahu jadi biadab? Tentu tidak juga bukan? Sama juga. Jika anda benci orang yang hebat
dan cemerlang, secara tidak sedar anda mendidik diri anda untuk bencikan kehebatan dan
kecemerlangan. Akibatnya, anda tidak jadi hebat seperti mereka.

Kedua, kata dalam hati, ?hebatnya awak ni! Bagus, saya juga akan jadi hebat macam awak tak
lama lagi. Orang lain pun akan rasa macam apa saya rasa sekarang setiap kali melihat saya.?
Ketiga, bayangkan diri anda hebat seperti orang tersebut. Bayangkan bagaimana cara anda
bercakap, berjalan, duduk, bekerja dan sebagainya jika anda sehebat mereka.

Aktiviti ini semua bukan sahaja akan mengurangkan rasa rendah diri kita malah ia akan
meningkatkan lagi semangat kita untuk berjaya. Jika anda kurang yakin dengan teknik ini (hehe,
kurang yakin dengan teknik keyakinan diri?. macam kelakar pula bunyinya..) apa kata?anda
cuba sahaja. Lihat apa kesannya kepada keyakinan diri anda.

25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any
experience that reveals the human spirit. E.E. Cummings

One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of
failure and the lack of self-confidence that I needed to overcome that fear.

Its something we all face, to some degree, I think. The key question: how do you overcome
that fear?
By working on your self-confidence and self-esteem. Without really thinking of it in those
terms, thats what Ive been doing over the years, and thats what helped me finally overcome
my fears, and finally pursue my dreams.

I still have those fears, undoubtedly. But now I know that I can beat them, that I can break
through that wall of fear and come out on the other side. Ive done it many times now, and that
success will fuel further success. This post was inspired by reader Nick from Finland, who asked
for an article about self-worth and self-confidence:

Many of the things you propose make people feel better about themselves and actually help
building self-confidence. However, I would be interested on reading your input in general on
this topic. Taking time out for your own plans and dreams, doing things another way than most
other people and generally not necessarily fitting in can be quite hard with a low self-
confidence.

Truer words have never been spoken. Its near impossible to make time for your dreams, to
break free from the traditional mold, and to truly be yourself, if you have low self-esteem and
self-confidence.

As an aside, I know that some people make a strong distinction between self-esteem and self-
confidence. In this article, I use them interchangeably, even if there is a subtle but perhaps
important difference the difference being whether you believe youre worthy of respect from
others (self-esteem) and whether you believe in yourself (self-confidence). In the end, both
amount to the same thing, and in the end, the actions I mention below give a boost to both
self-esteem and self-confidence.

Taking control of your self-confidence

If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that? Is your self-
confidence in your control? While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I
strongly believe that you can do things to increase your self-confidence. It is not genetic, and
you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence. And if you believe that
you are not very competent, not very smart, not very attractive, etc. that can be changed.

You can become someone worthy of respect, and someone who can pursue what he wants
despite the naysaying of others.
You can do this by taking control of your life, and taking control of your self-confidence. By
taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that
self-confidence, without the help of anyone else.

Below, I outline 25 things that will help you do that. None of them is revolutionary, none of
them will do it all by themselves. The list certainly isnt comprehensive. These are just some of
my favorite things, stuff thats worked for me. And you dont need to do all of them, as if this
were a recipe pick and choose those that appeal to you, maybe just a couple at first, and give
them a try. If they work, try others. If they dont, try others.

Here they are, in no particular order:

1. Groom yourself. This seems like such an obvious one, but its amazing how much of a
difference a shower and a shave can make in your feelings of self-confidence and for your self-
image. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little
thing.

2. Dress nicely. A corollary of the first item above if you dress nicely, youll feel good about
yourself. Youll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing
nicely means something different for everyone it doesnt necessarily mean wearing a $500
outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable.

3. Photoshop your self-image. Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize.
We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves.
But this picture isnt fixed and immutable. You can change it. Use your mental Photoshopping
skills, and work on your self-image. If its not a very good one, change it. Figure out why you see
yourself that way, and find a way to fix it.

4. Think positive. One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, what
how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How I can actually change
my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able
to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale, but
my goodness this works. Seriously. Try it if you havent.
5. Kill negative thoughts. Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but its so important that I
made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have
about yourself and what youre doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to
say, This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV. Well, I soon learned to recognize this
negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine
that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs.
When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then
replace it with a positive one. (Cmon, I can do this! Only one mile left!)

Know yourself and you will win all battles. Sun Tzu

6. Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy
very, very well. You cant defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when youre trying to
overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get
to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself,
and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative
thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the
things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether theyre real limitations or just
ones youve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and youll come
out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.

7. Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually,
is the key to developing self-confidence. Its one thing to learn to think positive, but when you
start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you
change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of
telling yourself you cant, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your
actions. Youll soon start to notice a difference.

8. Be kind and generous. Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of
you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you
have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image. You act in accordance with the Golden
Rule, and you start to feel good about yourself, and to think that you are a good person. It does
wonders for your self-confidence, believe me.

One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.


Arthur Ashe
9. Get prepared. Its hard to be confident in yourself if you dont think youll do well at
something. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Think about taking an
exam: if you havent studied, you wont have much confidence in your abilities to do well on
the exam. But if you studied your butt off, youre prepared, and youll be much more confident.
Now think of life as your exam, and prepare yourself.

10. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles upon which your life is built? If
you dont know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. For myself, I try
to live the Golden Rule (and fail often). This is my key principle, and I try to live my life in
accordance with it. I have others, but they are mostly in some way related to this rule (the
major exception being to Live my Passion). Think about your principles you might have
them but perhaps you havent given them much thought. Now think about whether you
actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but dont act on them.

11. Speak slowly. Such a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive
you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who
feels that he isnt worth listening to will speak quickly, because he doesnt want to keep others
waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Even if you dont feel the confidence of
someone who speaks slowly, try doing it a few times. It will make you feel more confident. Of
course, dont take it to an extreme, but just dont sound rushed either.

12. Stand tall. I have horrible posture, so it will sound hypocritical for me to give this advice, but
I know it works because I try it often. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel
better about myself. I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the
rest of my body straightens accordingly. As an aside, people who stand tall and confident are
more attractive. Thats a good thing any day, in my book.

13. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent.
And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to
be a more competent writer, for example, dont try to tackle the entire profession of writing all
at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing.
The more you write, the better youll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write (for example), and
the practice will increase your competence.

14. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon,
and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more
achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. Youll feel good about
that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better
youll be at it, and the better youll feel. Soon youll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals
and achieving those too.
15. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing
things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up.
Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When youve accomplished it,
youll feel like a million bucks.

16. Focus on solutions. If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now.
Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your
confidence and your career. Im fat and lazy! So how can you solve that? But I cant motivate
myself! So how can you solve that? But I have no energy! So whats the solution?

17. Smile. Another trite one. But it works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to
be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad
investment of your time and energy.

18. Volunteer. Related to the be kind and generous item above, but more specific. Its the
holiday season right now can you find the time to volunteer for a good cause, to spread some
holiday cheer, to make the lives of others better? Itll be some of the best time youve ever
spent, and an amazing side benefit is that youll feel better about yourself, instantly.

19. Be grateful. Im a firm believer in gratitude, as anyone whos been reading this blog for very
long knows well. But I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for
what others have given you, is a very humbling activity it can also be a very positive and
rewarding activity that will improve your self-image.

20. Exercise. Gosh, I seem to put this one on almost every list. But if I left it off this list I would
be doing you a disservice. Exercise has been one of my most empowering activities in the last
couple years, and it has made me feel so much better about myself. All you have to do is take a
walk a few times a week, and youll see benefits. Start the habit.

21. Empower yourself with knowledge. Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best
strategies for building self-confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest
ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. This is along the same vein as building
competence and getting prepared by becoming more knowledgeable, youll be more
confident and you become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying. The
Internet is a great tool, of course, but so are the people around you, people who have done
what you want, books, magazines, and educational institutions.
22. Do something youve been procrastinating on. Whats on your to-do list thats been sitting
there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. Youll feel great about yourself.

23. Get active. Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course,
doing something could lead to mistakes but mistakes are a part of life. Its how we learn.
Without mistakes, wed never get better. So dont worry about those. Just do something. Get
off your butt and get active physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.

24. Work on small things. Trying to take on a huge project or task can be overwhelming and
daunting and intimidating for anyone, even the best of us. Instead, learn to break off small
chunks and work in bursts. Small little achievements make you feel good, and they add up to
big achievements. Learn to work like this all the time, and soon youll be a self-confident
maniac.

25. Clear your desk. This might seem like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it
might not be so small). But it has always worked wonders for me. If my desk starts to get
messy, and the world around me is in chaos, clearing off my desk is my way of getting a little
piece of my life under control. It is the calm in the center of the storm around me. Heres how.

Somehow I cant believe that there are any heights that cant be scaled by a man who knows
the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be
summarized in four C s. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the
greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and
unquestionable.
13 WAYS TO TEACH YOURSELF TO BE MORE
CONFIDENT
How do you teach yourself to be more confident?

1. Put your thoughts in their place.

The average human has 65,000 thoughts every day, Blalock says, and 85 to 90 percent of them
are negative--things to worry about or fear. "They're warnings to yourself," Blalock says, and
left over from our cave-dwelling past. It makes sense--if we stick our hand in a flame our brain
wants to make sure we don't ever do that again. But this survival mechanism works against us
because it causes us to focus on fears rather than hopes or dreams.

The point is to be aware that your brain works this way, and keep that negativity in proportion.
"What you have to realize is your thoughts are just thoughts," Blalock says. They don't
necessarily represent objective reality.

2. Begin at the end.

"There are so many people that I've asked, 'What do you want to do? What do you want to be?'
and they would say, 'I don't know,'" Blalock says. "Knowing what you want is the key.
Everything else you do should be leading you where you want to go."

3. Start with gratitude.

Begin the day by thinking about some of the things you have to be grateful for, Blalock advises.
"Most of the 7 billion people in the world won't have the opportunities you do," she says. "If
you start out with that perspective, you'll be in the right frame of mind for the rest of the day."

4. Take a daily step outside your comfort zone.

There's a funny thing about comfort zones. If we step outside them on a regular basis, they
expand. If we stay within them, they shrink. Avoid getting trapped inside a shrinking comfort
zone by pushing yourself to do things that are outside it.

We've all had experiences where we've done something that terrified us, and then discovered it
wasn't so bad. In Blalock's case, she was visiting a military base and had gotten to the top of the
parachute-training tower for a practice jump. "They had me all hooked up, and I said, 'I'm sorry,
I can't do this, I have a small child at home,'" she recalls. "The guy took his foot and pushed me
off the tower. When I got out there I realized it wasn't that bad."
We won't always have someone standing by to kick us out of our comfort zones, so we have to
do it for ourselves. "Just act!" Blalock says.

5. Remember: Dogs don't chase parked cars.

If you're running into opposition, questions, and doubts, there's probably a good reason--you're
going somewhere. That doesn't mean you should ignore warning signs, but it does mean you
should put those negatives in perspective. If you don't make changes, and challenge the status
quo, no one will ever object to anything you do.

6. Get ready to bounce back.

"It's not failure that destroys our confidence, it's not getting back up," Blalock says. "Once we
get back up, we've learned what doesn't work and we can give it another try." Blalock points
out that the baseball players with the biggest home run records also have the biggest strikeout
records. Taking more swings gets you where you want to go.

7. Find a mentor.

Whatever you've set out to do, there are likely others who've done it first and can offer you
useful advice or at least serve as role models. Find those people and learn as much from them
as you can.

8. Choose your companions wisely.

"Your outlook--negative or positive--will be the average of the five people you spend the most
time with," Blalock says. "So be careful who you hang out with. Make sure you're hanging out
with people who encourage you and lift you up."

When she quit her C-suite job to write books, she adds, some people were aghast and
predicted that no one would read them while others were quite encouraging. It didn't take her
long to figure out that the encouraging friends were the ones she should gravitate toward.

9. Do your homework.

In almost any situation, preparation can help boost your confidence. Have to give a speech?
Practice it several times, record yourself, and listen. Meeting people for the first time? Check
them and their organizations out on the Web, and check their social media profiles as well. "If
you're prepared you will be more confident," Blalock says. "The Internet makes it so easy."
10. Get plenty of rest and exercise.

There's ample evidence by now that getting enough sleep, exercise, and good nutrition
profoundly affects both your mood and your effectiveness. "Just moderate exercise three times
a week for 20 minutes does so much for the hippocampus and is more effective than anything
else for warding off Alzheimer's and depression," Blalock says. "Yet it always falls of the list
when we're prioritizing. While there are many things we can delegate, exercise isn't one of
them. If there were a way to do that, I would have figured it out by now."

11. Breathe!

"This one is so simple," Blalock says. "If you breathe heavily, it saturates your brain with oxygen
and makes you more awake and aware. It's very important in a tense situation because it will
make you realize that you control your body, and not your unconscious mind. If you're not
practicing breathing, you should be."

12. Be willing to fake it.

No, you shouldn't pretend to have qualifications or experience that you don't. But if you have
most of the skills you need and can likely figure out the rest, don't hang back. One company did
a study to discover why fewer of its female employees were getting promotions than men. It
turned out not to be so much a matter of bias as of confidence: If a man had about half the
qualifications for a posted job he'd be likely to apply for it, while a woman would be likelier to
wait till she had most or all of them. Don't hold yourself back by assuming you need to have
vast experience for a job or a piece of business before you go after it.

13. Don't forget to ask for help.

"Don't assume people know what you want," Blalock says. "You have to figure out what that is,
and then educate them." Once people know what you want, and that you want their help, you
may be surprised at how forthcoming they are. "People are really flattered when you ask for
advice and support," she says. "If someone says no you can always ask someone else. But in my
experience, they rarely say no."
7 LANGKAH BERKESAN MEMBINA &
MENINGKATKAN KEYAKINAN DIRI
Keyakinan diri ialah kepercayaan bahawa dirinya boleh mengendalikan kehidupannya dengan
baik serta segala cabaran yang dihadapi dengan jayanya. Artikel motivasi ini memaparkan 7 tips
/ langkah-langkah utama atau cara-cara bagaimana membina atau meningkatkan tahap
keyakinan diri anda.

1. Bina Prinsip Hidup yang Mantap

Prinsip atau pendirian amat penting dalam kehidupan. Orang yang berprinsip ertinya
mempunyai ketegasan sikap dalam hidupnya. Apakah prinsip hidup yang anda pegangi ketika
ini? Apakah prinsip hidup anda itu cukup memandu anda pada saat-saat yang paling mencabar?

Antara prinsip-prinsip hidup yang mantap adalah:

Menghadapi semua cabaran dengan senyum ketenangan.

Mempelajari serta mengambil hikmah dari pengalaman atau cabaran yang dihadapi.

Mengatasi cabaran dengan keyakinan.

Lebih mantap prinsip hidup yang anda pegangi, lebih yakinlah anda melangsungkan kehidupan
anda. Oleh itu, binalah prinsip-prinsip hidup yang mantap agar keyakinan diri anda kekal
sewaktu keyakinan diri anda tercabar.

2. Tetapkan Matlamat Hidup

Matlamat-matlamat hidup adalah antara sumber-sumber utama kepada pembinaan hala tuju
serta pemantapan keyakinan diri seseorang. Seseorang yang tidak mempunyai matlamat hidup
yang jelas akan seolah-olah meniti kehidupannya dalam keadaan samar yang tidak pasti akan ke
mana arah dan tujuan kehidupannya. Oleh itu, tetapkanlah matlamat hidup yang berkesan agar
anda akan lebih berjaya meniti kehidupan.

3. Bina Pelan Tindakan Mencapai Matlamat

Mempunyai matlamat yang jelas memang amat penting untuk memperteguhkan keyakinan diri.
Namun, tanpa perancangan atau pelan tindakan untuk mencapai kejayaan, sesuatu matlamat
hanya akan menjadi angan-angan. Dengan mempunyai pelan tindakan jitu, keyakinan diri anda
akan semakin mantap. Ianya pula menjadi asas tindakan-tindakan proaktif anda untuk
mencapai matlamat-matlamat yang anda telah tetapkan.
4. Tingkatkan Ilmu Pengetahuan

Ilmu pengetahuan adalah antara sumber-sumber utama pembangunan diri seseorang. Semakin
tinggi ilmu pengetahuan yang seseorang miliki, semakin meningkat keyakinan dirinya. Oleh itu,
dengan sentiasa meningkatkan tahap ilmu pengetahuan khususnya dalam perkara-perkara yang
anda perlu ketahui atau kuasai, anda dengan sendirinya melakukan sesuatu yang mengarah
kepada peningkatan keyakinan diri anda. Membaca buku-buku, menghadiri kursus-kursus atau
seminar-seminar, bercambah idea-idea dengan rakan-rakan serta membuat lawatan ke tempat-
tempat menarik adalah antara langkah-langkah yang anda boleh lakukan untuk
memperkayakan ilmu pengetahuan anda.

5. Tingkatkan Kemahiran-Kemahiran

Kemahiran-kemahiran juga adalah antara sumber-sumber utama kepada pembangunan diri.


Semakin tinggi kemahiran yang anda miliki, semakin meningkatlah keyakinan diri anda.
Seseorang yang tidak mempunyai kemahiran yang mencukupi, sudah pasti akan kurang, malah
mungkin tidak yakin atau tidak mampu melaksanakan sesuatu tugas yang diamanahkan
kepadanya. Tidak mempunyai kemahiran yang mencukupi dalam bidang pengucapan awam
misalnya adalah antara sebab mengapa seseorang tidak yakin berucap di hadapan audiens.
Antara cara berkesan yang boleh dilakukan untuk mengatasi ketidakyakinan sebegini ialah
dengan mempelajari secara serius setiap aspek pengucapan awam.

6. Tingkatkan Kualiti Kesihatan Diri

Kesihatan diri juga amat mempengaruhi keyakinan diri seseorang. Jika kesihatan diri kita kurang
baik, badan kita akan menjadi lemah; fikiran akan turut menjadi kusut. Ini akan menjejaskan
keyakinan diri. Jika kesihatan diri kita baik, badan serta minda menjadi cergas dan cerdas. Ini
akan menjadikan kita lebih bermaya dan lebih berkeyakinan. Oleh itu, usaha menjaga dan
memastikan tahap kesihatan diri kita agar sentiasa dalam keadaan cemerlang adalah seiring
dengan usaha memantapkan keyakinan diri.

Membina tabiat berfikiran positif, menjaga kualiti pemakanan, tidur secukupnya / rehat (7-9)
jam sehari serta mengamalkan pergerakan fizikal / senaman setiap hari (5 minit - 2 Jam) serta
mendapat rawatan yang sewajarnya dari pakar-pakar perubatan apabila diperlukan adalah
antara perkara-perkara yang perlu kita lakukan untuk memastikan tahap kesihatan diri kita
sentiasa dalam keadaan terbaik.

7. Tingkatkan Kualiti Penampilan Diri


Menjaga dan mencemerlangkan ketrampilan diri anda bererti juga anda menjaga kesihatan,
kebersihan dan kekemasan diri serta tempat kerja anda, rumah anda, kenderaan anda dan
sebagainya. Dan, sudah pastilah juga anda akan lebih yakin diri apabila anda dapat membina
serta menampilkan imej terbaik diri anda.

Kesimpulan

Keyakinan diri adalah berpaksi pada diri anda. Anda perlu menjananya. Anda perlu yakin pada
diri sendiri dahulu sebelum mendapat keyakinan orang lain terhadap diri anda. Ingatlah bahawa
anda adalah peneraju kejayaan diri anda sendiri. "Aku tidak akan mengubah nasib kamu kalau
kamu tidak mengubah nasib DIRI kamu sendiri." - Maksud Firman Allah SWT
5 POWERFUL WAYS TO BOOST YOUR
CONFIDENCE
Confidence gives you the power to conquer the world. Here's how you can learn to be
confident in all you do.

Self-confident people are admired by others and inspire confidence in others. They face their
fears head-on and tend to be risk takers. They know that no matter what obstacles come their
way, they have the ability to get past them. Self-confident people tend to see their lives in a
positive light even when things aren't going so well, and they are typically satisfied with and
respect themselves.

Wouldn't it be amazing to have this kind of self-confidence, every day of the week? Guess
what? You can. "Low self-confidence isn't a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned,
practiced, and mastered--just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will
change for the better." --Barrie Davenport

It comes down to one simple question: If you don't believe in yourself, how do you expect
anybody else to? Try some of the tips listed below. Don't just read them and put them on the
back burner. Really begin to practice them daily, beginning today. You might have to fake it at
first and merely appear to be self-confident, but eventually you will begin to feel the foundation
of self-confidence grow within you. With some time and practice (this is not an overnight
phenomenon), you too can be a self-confident person, both inside and out, whom others
admire and say "Yes!" to.

1. Stay away from negativity and bring on the positivity

This is the time to really evaluate your inner circle, including friends and family. This is a tough
one, but it's time to seriously consider getting away from those individuals who put you down
and shred your confidence. Even a temporary break from Debbie Downer can make a huge
difference and help you make strides toward more self-confidence.

Be positive, even if you're not feeling it quite yet. Put some positive enthusiasm into your
interactions with others and hit the ground running, excited to begin your next project. Stop
focusing on the problems in your life and instead begin to focus on solutions and making
positive changes.

2. Change your body language and image

This is where posture, smiling, eye contact, and speech slowly come into play. Just the simple
act of pulling your shoulders back gives others the impression that you are a confident person.
Smiling will not only make you feel better, but will make others feel more comfortable around
you. Imagine a person with good posture and a smile and you'll be envisioning someone who is
self-confident.

Look at the person you are speaking to, not at your shoes--keeping eye contact shows
confidence. Last, speak slowly. Research has proved that those who take the time to speak
slowly and clearly feel more self-confidence and appear more self-confident to others. The
added bonus is they will actually be able to understand what you are saying.

Go the extra mile and style your hair, give yourself a clean shave, and dress nicely. Not only will
this make you feel better about yourself, but others are more likely to perceive you as
successful and self-confident as well. A great tip: When you purchase a new outfit, practice
wearing it at home first to get past any wardrobe malfunctions before heading out.

3. Don't accept failure and get rid of the negative voices in your head

Never give up. Never accept failure. There is a solution to everything, so why would you want to
throw in the towel? Make this your new mantra. Succeeding through great adversity is a huge
confidence booster.
RAHSIA STRATEGI UNTUK MENAMBAHKAN
KEYAKINAN
Home Erti Kecemerlangan Dunia dan Akhirat Rahsia Strategi Untuk Menambahkan
Keyakinan Terhadap Diri Sendiri

Jika Barat memfokuskan soal belief hanya kepada keyakinan terhadap diri sendiri di mana self
confidentbermaksud yakin boleh, manakala Islam pula sebaliknya mentafsirkan lebih daripada
itu.

"Soal belief dalam Islam dikaitkan terus dengan keyakinan kepada Allah dan hari akhirat."

Keyakinan kepada Allah S.W.T akan mempengaruhikeyakinan seseorang terhadap diri sendiri.
Siapa yang paling kuat keyakinannya kepada Allah, maka dialah yang paling kuat keyakinannya
terhadap dirinya sendiri. Ini kerana, orang yang kuat keyakinannya kepada Allah S.W.T, berasa
yakin bahawa Allah S.W.T menciptanya bukan untuk disia-siakan. Dia mempunyai misi yang
telah ditetapkan oleh Allah S.W.T untuk dilaksanakan di dunia ini.

Dan untuk melaksanakan misi itu, dia juga yakin bahawa Allah S.W.T telah memberikannya
semua kelengkapan dan sumber yang diperlukan. Maha Suci Allah, sudah tentu Allah tidak
mencipta manusia untuk gagal. Setiap manusia dicipta untuk berjaya. Justeru, Allah S.W.T tidak
akan menzalimi manusia dengan hanya memberi tugasan tetapi tidak memberi segala
kelengkapan untuk melaksanakan dan menjayakan tugasan itu. Orang yang
mempunyaikekuatan iman adalah orang yang mempunyai keyakinan yang tinggi.

Dia yakin segala kelengkapan (zahir dan batin) telah dibekalkan oleh Allah S.W.T untuk dia
berjaya dalam hidup. Jadi, dia tidak berasa rendah diri, teragak-agak atau [hasad dengki]
dengan apa yang ada pada orang lain. Sebaliknya dia berasa apa yang diberikan oleh Allah
S.W.T kepadanya sudah cukup lagi memadai untuk mencapai kejayaan dengan kelebihannya
yang tersendiri.

"Dia yakin dunia ini tidak akan sempurna tanpa kehadirannya, maksudnya dia ada peranan yang
khusus dan istimewa di dunia ini."
Oleh itu, pakar psikologi ada menyatakan bahawa setiap manusia adalah unik. Tidak ada
manusia yang sama antara satu sama lain, hatta kembar siam sekalipun. Manusia bukanlah
produk yang dicipta serba sama. Pengeluaran manusia tidak seperti pengeluaran kereta yang
berjenama dan sama jenis. Dan setiap manusia juga mempunyai bakat, kecenderungan dan
kemahiran yang tersendiri. Dengan segala keunikan itu manusia ber-[potensi] untuk berjaya,
dengan syarat dia mempunyai keyakinan untuk memperkembangkan segala [potensi] itu ke
tahap paling maksimum.

Ya, cabarannya ialah bagaimana segala yang telah diberikan oleh Allah S.W.T itu hendak
dimanfaatkan dan diperkembangkan secapa [optimum]. Dan apabila dia berdepan dengan
masalah, dia yakin Allah akan membantunya. Atas keyakinan kepada Allah S.W.T ini. barulah
adanya keyakinan terhadap dirinya sendiri. Maka dapatlah ia kecerdasan rohani yang tidak akan
memudahkan seseorang itu kecewa dan berputus asa dalam hidup, Insya Allah. Firman Allah
S.W.T: Maksudnya: "Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad): "Wahai hamba-hambaKu yang telah
melampaui batas terhadap diri mereka sendiri (dengan perbuatan-perbuatan maksiat),
janganlah kamu berputus asa dari rahmat Allah, kerana sesungguhnya Allah mengampunkan
segala dosa; sesungguhnya Dia lah jua Yang Maha Pengampun, lagi Maha Mengasihani." (Surah
Az-Zumar ayat 53).