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ere halfway through the sum-
mer, and school with its sched-
ules, academic obligations,
and homework, homework, homework
are weeks behind us. Warm weather ac-
tivities, camp, and vay or stay-cation are,
clearly underway.
But dont let the rest of the summer
cause your children to stray from the
written word. Educators agree that if you
dont use it, you can lose it. So encour-
age them to read and write throughout
these weeks.
Here are a few tips to keep those liter-
ary muscles going.
Taking a trip
If youre going to be traveling, your young-
sters can help plan the trip. Whether its
a day trip or a longer and farther desti-
nation, you can have your children pick
a few travel books and research sites that
he or she would be interested in visiting.
Some places, such as historical Phila-
delphia or Williamsburg, Virginia may
even have fictional stories connected to
that place.
Staying closer to home? If youre visit-
ing an amusement park there may be his-
tory connected to a roller coaster such
as the Cyclone in Coney Island that can
be researched and read about. Children
can also read about the local museums,
science centers, or theaters they may
be visiting.
Pick out the author
Choose an author that your child enjoys
reading and go for it in a big way. Choose
the rest of the books in that favorite series
or other titles that the author has penned.
You may also want to help your son or
daughter learn more about the writer.
This could help him or her understand
where the stories and where the charac-
ters came from. Check out the authors
website to get more information. Your
child can write a note to the author after
he or she has read the book. It would be
exciting to get the authors response.
Follow a passion
What is it that peaks the interest of your
son or daughter? Find out which subjects
are most exciting: sports, fashion, gaming,
cooking, you name it, and this is a great
place to start on a reading adventure.
You can find age-appropriate books on a
number of nonfiction topics. You can help
your child make a project about the book.
If the child is artistic, he or she can make
a picture or a graphic novel about the
book. If your child likes mysteries, they
can write an alternative ending..
Family-friendly reading
How about reading together? A child need
not be young to hear a bedtime story
read aloud. There are plenty of wonderful
books that you can read together to each
other. If your child has a bit of dramatic
flare, all the better. Think of all the parts
you can read with emphasis, drama, and
even accents.
All the news thats fit to print
Who says that newspapers are obsolete?
They certainly are not. You can use a
newspaper to teach literacy to the young-
est of children. How about using the
newspaper and its big headlines to have a
child find and circle the alphabet? Or how
about cutting out a few photographs from
the newspaper and having an older child
write a story about the pictures? There
may be articles that are of interest to your
children, such as sports. And dont forget
to look at the funny pages.
Dear diary
For writing, you can help your child keep
a log of events that take place during the
summer. You may want to start with a spe-
cial notebook and even special colored
pencils. Your child can write a weekly
log of events and make it a narrative or
a fiction, as long as he or she is writing.
You may also want to include pictures
that can be pasted inside the notebook
to illustrate the events. This is not only
a good writing practice, but in time, your
child can enjoy looking at the memento
that he or she created of their sum-
mer adventures.
The plays the thing
After your child has read an interesting
book, whether its a novel or a nonfiction
title, help him or her create a play using
the characters and dialogue. You may
find yourself becoming a stage produc-
tion manager. He or she can enlist sib-
lings or friends and assign different roles,
come up with costumes, and then put on
a play. You can make it an event with an
cast after-party.
Loving that library
Libraries are summertime respites. Not
only is there often good air-condition-
ing, but there are myriad programs the
library offers to youngsters during the
summer months. Many local libraries
encourage reading projects for the sum-
mer. There is often a reward or prize
connected to completion of the books.
Listen closely
There is value in listening to audio books.
When there is no time to actually read to
your child or if youre the driver heading
somewhere, you can listen to an audio
book. While its not the same as actually
reading you can still discuss the book
with your family.
The generation gap
Make writing an intergenerational experi-
ence. Have your child write out a list of
questions about his grandparents lives
growing up. What did he or she do when
they went on vacation? What kind of mu-
sic was popular? Who were the celebrities
of the day? Then he or she can interview
the grandparents, record the answers,
and learn a little family history.
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a discarded snack wrapper, an earring,
a ball that rolled away.
The beach was as big a part of
my growing up in Brooklyn as it could
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his young life. He grew up in the South
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the requisite onion (for my father), a
thermos full of homemade sweetened
and lemony iced tea, and fruit rip-
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card games. There and themselves. On that day, the water
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ation on a lazy Sun- most foolish went full-body in.
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an empty patch of grass, wed head been on this same sand and surf years
to the water as it was getting late. ago, made me both nostalgic and hope-
On the beach and finally in the water, ful. For the weekend, for the summer,
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Seven Phrases To Put Peace in the House

A D I N A S O C LO F the milk spills they can grab a rag to clean the milk. In-
stead of yelling at their sibling for taking their prized toy

W
e are always looking for ways to make our
homes peaceful in this modern, chaotic world.
Here are some phrases that can instantly in-
fuse calm into your familys life.
1. Lets take a break.
Whether youre running around doing errands, doing
some marathon cooking or cleaning, everyone needs a
bit of a break. Using these phrase helps kids learn that
it is important to stop, relax and regroup. This phrase is
especially important when kids are having a tough time
with their homework. A drink, snack or some playtime
can help them get refocused. This phrase is also great to
use when kids are getting on each others nerves. Siblings
can find different areas in the house to take their breaks
from each other.
2. I need to think about it
When children ask us for that expensive pair of sneakers
that all their friends have or the new fashion craze that
doesnt meet with your standard of dress, your instant
no can quickly morph into a fight. Using this phrase
helps us press the pause button, giving us some time to
think about the request or come up with a solution (I can
pay half for the sneakers.) It can also give us time to for-
mulate the no in a way that our children can hear us,
(I know how badly you want that shirt. Can you think of
why it wouldnt work?)
3. We dont accuse; we focus on solutions.
This phrase tops everyone from pointing fingers and
teaches kids to move towards finding a solution. When
without asking, they can ask for it back. As for parents,
instead of getting angry that bikes were left outside, they
can calmly request that they be brought back in.
4. Since having a peaceful family is our goal,
how can we work this out?
This phrase is a bit corny and is best used with younger
kids. Its brilliant because it presupposes that having a
peaceful family is and should be our goal and that it is
our childrens goal as well. So when everyone is arguing
over where to go out for dinner, what to do for a Sun-
day activity or who should take out the garbage, this is
a great phrase to use. Also, if you start using this phrase time talking. You can also say, When would be a good
early, you might still be able to use it when your kids are time to talk? orI need a few minutes of your time to talk
teens. It will definitely come along with some eye rolling, about...when will you be available?
but it will still work.
7. I guess we had a miscommunication.
5. When will you be able to.? Miscommunications occur a lot in families, I thought
Instead of telling a child straight out, Take out the gar- you were picking up dinner! Your science fair is tomor-
bage or Set the table! preface the request with When row? I thought you said it was Thursday! The phrase can
will you be able to.? The phrase engenders good will smooth things over and teach kids that mistakes in the
and respect. It also implies that you know that the task form of miscommunications are part and parcel of life
will get done. If your child is known for wiggling out of and can be managed with equanimity. It should be fol-
doing their chores, or is forgetful, you can add on, Can lowed with, Oh boy, sorry for the miscommunication.
you give me a time when it will be done? You can also And some way to rectify the inconvenience of it, Ill put
say, If it is not done by 5 p.m., how would you like me to up some noodles! Lets all pitch in and help
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S LOV I E JU N G R E I S - WO L F F for family life. Much depends on how we at your spouse. What do you see? Is he joy your vacation, but you dont need to
train our eyes to zoom in on the positive. burned out? Is she feeling overburdened? take other couples with you online. Have

T
hese four simple habits can change
the way you love and help you build
a home filled with peace, gratitude,
and kindness.
S: Smile
Greeting your spouse with a smile means
that no matter how difficult my day, I am
happy to see you. Its a small act that
yields a powerful impact. You may have
had a huge disappointment at work, a
child is wearing you down, and you are
feeling overwhelmed, but if you communi-
cate love the challenge will not leave your
relationship tattered.
Body language impacts us. A sour de-
meanor creates a chill in the air. A smile
draws us close. Even if you dont feel like it,
be sure to greet your spouse with a pleas-
ant face. One of my fathers favorite sayings
was Smile even if you dont have reason
to smile and God will give you the reason.
T: Thankfulness
Its easy to focus on what bothers us in-
stead of all that is good. We can enter a
room and see chaos or we can be grateful
Thinking thankfulness means that
each day I consciously take time to con-
sider my blessings. Do I cherish having
a spouse at my side? Do I appreciate the
sounds of children? Do I realize how for-
tunate I am to live in a place I call home?
Then there are the little moments
through which I can cultivate gratitude. A
warm dinner, a carpool driven, a listening
ear, if we decide to contemplate we will
undoubtedly uncover the gifts that our
relationship brings.
Marriage thrives on gratitude. A
thankless spouse grows into a thought-
less ingrate; expecting more while car-
ing less.
Think thankfulness and find a way to
express your appreciation. Watch the de-
light in the eyes of your spouse and see
your love grow.
book. We are so busy sharing with others
O: Open your eyes to the needs of
your spouse
We live in a selfie world where we focus
our lens on ourselves and all too often ne-
glect to observe those around us.
Take a step back and really look
Does your husband need a night out with
you? Could your wife use an hour to rest?
Relationships are all about loving-
kindness. We do for each other not be-
cause we need to even out the score
but because we desire to create an en-
vironment of goodness. Be kind to your
spouse. See what they see. Feel what they
feel. Ask yourself, what can I do for my
spouse today? How can I help make my
partners life better?
Opening your eyes to your partners
needs keeps compassion alive and shows
your spouse that you care.
P: Protect your borders
Some couples are in the toxic habit of post-
ing their lives online. Every gift, new piece
of furniture, dinner out, or beach vacation
is immediately seen on Instagram and Face-
we neglect to share the moment with our
partner. Besides, why the need to expose
our lives? Comparing is never healthy. Re-
sentment and jealousy grows.
The Talmud teaches us that blessing
comes from that which is hidden. Yes, en-
a great night out. But keep it private. Inti-
macy is both physical and emotional.
Make it a habit to put your phone
away when spending time together. Cre-
ate no phone zones like mealtime, date
night, the moment you awake in the
morning, and the moment you return at
night. Protecting your borders means
that you establish routines to maintain
your connection.
Be careful not to fall into the pattern
of confiding your spousal disappoint-
ments to family and friends. There is no
benefit to be gained. They may unknow-
ingly encourage you to damage your re-
lationship. If need be, find a professional
or Rabbi/Rebbetzin/therapist to help you
navigate any challenges. Guard this most
cherished connection, the bond between
husband and wife.
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Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting and
couples counselor and educator and the
author of Raising a Child With Soul, (St.
Martins Press). She is the daughter of the
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ED SILBERFARB
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hey called it The World of Tomor-
row, the 1939 New York Worlds
Fair, the second largest exposition
in U.S. history. Only the 1904 St. Louis fair
was bigger. For nine-year-old Ted it was
Magic Land. The Trylon and Perisphere
dominated. The Trylon was a 700-foot
shaft that seemed to pierce the sky, and
the Perisphere, a giant globe that, lo and
behold, one could enter after only a few
hours wait and look down from a moving
balcony to see a huge city in miniature.
That was just a prelude to what Gen-
eral Motors had to offer, The Futurama.
The wait on that line was even longer, but
once inside there was a ride on a movable
chair that gave Ted a spectacular view
of sleek highways, farms, towns and, of
course, cars of the future.
Then to the A.T.&T. exhibit, and more
waiting on line. Why? Ted wondered. He
soon found that out of every group of
10 on line, one person would win a free
phone call anywhere in the country. A
long distance phone call in those Depres-
sion years was a glittering prize, and, won-
der of wonders, Ted was a winner.
Who to call? He consulted his parents.
They knew no one in Los Angeles, Chi-
cago, New Orleans or Miami. They lived
in Jersey City. So did his grandparents.
He could call them, but they were just a
few miles across the river, hardly a long
distance call. Then they realized that Bal-
timore, where Teds aunt and uncle lived,
was a respectable 180 miles away, a dis-
tance worthy of what would have been a
scandalously expensive phone call.
Hi. Aunt Sylvia, this is Ted.
Ted, honey, whats wrong?
He calmed her with the extraordinary
story of the free phone call.
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It would be hard to equal the excite-
ment of the long distance call but West-
inghouse came close with Electro, the
talking robot that had a 700-word vocabu-
lary specializing in insults.
My brain is bigger than yours, it
told Ted.
The Heinz food exhibit had attractions
of a different sort. It offered little pins de-
picting Heinz products including minia-
ture pickles, bottles of ketchup and cans
of beans. Ted left, his chest adorned with
Heinz mementos.
R.C.A. astounded Ted with a magic box
that displayed a talking picture, seem-
ingly plucked from the air. It was called
television. One side of the box was glass
so Ted could see the tubes and wires. No,
it was not a hoax.
Across the way, two young women
were having a tug-of-war with a thread
made of something called nylon. They
were showing how strong it was, but Ted
didnt think it would be of much use
To escape the summer heat Ted and
his parents found refuge in the Chrysler
exhibit where they could see how a car
was assembled while they cooled off with
strangely refrigerated air. And in the I.B.M.
building, Ted saw a machine that could
actually solve his fifth-grade math prob-
lems, an electric calculator.
For a small fee one could enter the
amphitheater and see Billy Roses Aqua-
cade, a thrilling display of diving and syn-
chronized swimming, mostly by young
ladies scantily clad in bathing suits. Ted, The Fair wasnt just for spectators. though, he put to use eagerly. It was a
who had recently passed his fifth grade There were activities for the daring and bamboo Chinese backscratcher.
pool test, was awed by the swimmers for adventurous. Ted worked up courage and In 1939, soon after the Fair opened, Ger-
whom water seemed their natural habitat. rode the roller coaster, which went zoom- many invaded Poland and World War II
Two of them were famous, Eleanor Holm ing up and down hills, around curves and had begun. The Czech pavilion closed and
and Johnny Weissmuller, who wasnt just plunged downward before climbing up to wouldnt reopen the next year. Before clos-
a swimmer. Ted knew him as Tarzan of do it all over again. Ted was wobbly when ing its exhibit Great Britain moved its most
the movies. it was over. precious document, the Magna Carta, for
Nearby was a steel frame tower with a safekeeping to Fort Knox. The Poland pa-
ring of seats on top. People sat in the seats, vilion was closed and draped in black.
which dropped from a terrifying height, When the Fair closed in 1940, a year
then were caught just before hitting the before Pearl Harbor, Japans pavilion, one
ground. It was called The Parachute Jump, of the most dazzling of all the nations,
one of the most popular attractions at the displayed a mural dedicated To Eternal
Fair. Ted decided to pass it up. Peace and Friendship between America
From the rides and amusements to the and Japan. By then, the theme of the Fair
Esplanade of Nations was a giant leap to had been changed from The World of
the exotic. There were displays from 60 Tomorrow to For Peace and Freedom.
countries. Even China, which was being Ted hoped for another visit. There was
ravished by a cruel war halfway around still more to see and do.
the world, made its presence known at
the Fair. Teds favorite souvenir was a six- Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen
inch statuette of a Buddha made of pol- Record in New Jersey, then the New York
ished wood. He was told if he rubbed its Herald Tribune where he was City Hall bureau
round belly, a wish would come true. Ted chief. Later, he was a public information offi-
was reluctant to try. He thought it was cer for the New York City Transit Authority and
disrespectful. His other remembrance, editor of one of its employee publications.
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CO M P I L E D BY H E I D I M A E B RAT T

Dino Days of Summer

At Liberty Science Center
Now through Sept. 4 at Liberty Science Center in Jersey City, Dino-mite
days are happening. Visitors can channel their inner paleontologist by dig-
ging for fossils in 35 tons of sand at Jack Horners Dino Dig, meet and greet

The Feisty Eloise the scaliest residents, and learn about the relationship between reptiles and
dinosaurs, or practice removing fossils from blocks of rock. There is also

Comes Back to New York City

a Dino Tales story time, a find the Rex raffle, and a discount for kids who
come in dinosaur costumes. Liberty Science Center, Liberty State Park,
222 Jersey City Blvd. 201-200-1000, www.lsc.org.
The New York Historical Society celebrates the charm and audacious spirit of
Eloise, who continues to be a picture book superstar more than 60 years after her
debut. Eloise at the Museum reveals the collaboration between Kay Thompson
and illustrator Hilary Knight that brought the precocious character of Eloise to life.
The exhibition showcases more than 75 objects from original manuscript pages
to sketchbooks, portraits, photographs, and vintage dolls. New York Historical
Society,170 Central Park West, Manhattan, 212-873-3400, www.nyhistory.org.

Eileen Stauber, left and Cassie Romano

RPM Raceway Friendship

Is Raring to Go Solutions Opens in Hackensack
Pole Position Raceway in Jersey City is now RPM Raceway. The new brand,
A new after-school social skills program for students is set to open in Hackensack
RPM Raceway, is Americas ultimate all-electric indoor go-kart and entertain-
for the start of the school year. Friendship Solutions, the brainchild of Eileen Stauber
ment destination for children and adults, providing an authentic, exhilarat-
and Cassie Romano, both experienced board certified behavior analysts with Bergen
ing and memorable indoor track racing experience second only to climbing
County Special Services, will work with students 4 to 18 years old who, because of
into an actual race car. This move, company officials said, will better posi-
varying reasons, have social skills deficits. By learning and practicing these skills in a
tion the company to deliver enhanced racing and entertainment experi-
fun and supportive environment, said Ms. Stauber, these students will increase their
ences. RPM Raceway, 99 Caven Point Road, Jersey City. 201-333-7223,
social skills and improve the quality of their lives. Friendship Solutions,141 Main St.
www.rpmraceway.com.
Second Floor, Hackensack. 201-390-8019, friendshipsolutionsllcgmail.com.

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Monday, July 31
Stettheimer Summer Monday: Illustrate stories
using watercolor crayons within unique accordion
books based on the images found in Florine
Stettheimers artwork, an exhibition on display.
1 to 4 p.m. Ages 3 and up. Free with admission.
The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Manhattan.
212-423-3200, www.thejewishmuseum.org.
Tuesday, August 1
Toddler Time at the Teaneck Library: Story time
for children up to 2 years old. Meets at 10 a.m.
and 11 a.m. Teaneck Public Central Library, 840
Teaneck, Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171. www.
teaneck.org.
Free movie in Bergenfield: Kung Fu Panda
3 plays for free 10 a.m. at Bow Tie Bergenfield
Cinema 5, 58 S. Washington Ave., Bergenfield.
201-385-1600.
Wednesday, August 2
Free movie in Bergenfield: Kung Fu Panda
3 plays for free 10 a.m. at Bow Tie Bergenfield
Cinema 5, 58 S. Washington Ave., Bergenfield.
201-385-1600.
Thursday, August 3
Lap Time at the Teaneck Library: Story time for
infants not yet walking. Meets at 11 a.m. Teaneck
Public Central Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org.
Broadway in Bryant Park: The most popular
shows on and off Broadway perform their biggest
hits. 12:30 to 1:30 p.m. Bryant Park, W. 42 St., and
6th and 5th Avenues, Manhattan. www.bryantpark.
org/programs/broadway-in-bryant-park.
Friday, August 4
West Side Story at bergenPAC: The Performing
Arts School at bergenPAC will be presenting
West Side Story through special arrangement
with Music Theatre International (MTI). West Side
Story is one of the most memorable musicals
and greatest love stories of all time. 8 p.m. Also
Aug. 5, 8 p.m. and Aug. 6 3 p.m. bergenPAC,
30 N. Van Brunt St., Englewood, 201-227-1030,
www.bergenpac.org.
Tuesday, August 8
Free movie in Bergenfield: Hotel Transylvania
2 plays for free 10 a.m. at Bow Tie Bergenfield
Cinema 5, 58 S. Washington Ave., Bergenfield.
201-385-1600.
Toddler Time at the Teaneck Library: Story
time for children up to 2 years old. Meets at 10
a.m. and 11 a.m. Teaneck Public Central Library,
840 Teaneck, Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171.
www.teaneck.org.
Wednesday, August 9
Free movie in Bergenfield: Hotel Transylvania
2 plays for free 10 a.m. at Bow Tie Bergenfield
Cinema 5, 58 S. Washington Ave., Bergenfield.
201-385-1600
Crafts at Bergen Town Center: The Summer
Craft Series at The Outlets at Bergen Town
Center features a different craft each week in
Center Court. Children must be accompanied
by an adult. 1 Bergen Town Center, Paramus,
bergentowncenter.com
Thursday, August 10
Lap Time at the Teaneck Library: Story time for
infants not yet walking. Meets at 11 a.m. Teaneck
Public Central Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org.
Broadway in Bryant Park: The most popular
shows on and off Broadway perform their biggest
hits. 12:30 to 1:30 p.m. Bryant Park, W. 42 St.,
and 6th and 5th Avenues, Manhattan. www.bry-
antpark.org/programs/broadway-in-bryant-park.
Friday, August 11
Shabbat in Paramus: The JCC of Paramus/
Congregation Beth Tikvah hosts an open house/
Jersey Shore Comics & Costumes Summer
Garden: A child-friendly hike in the gardens
woodlands where youll learn about plants and
Jersey Shore Comics & Costumes Summer
Show, see Sunday, August 20.
barbecue/family service/gym time, for prospective
families and their children, 6:30 p.m. East 304
Midland Ave. Free, but reservations are required.
(201) 983-9430, email hblesq@yahoo.com, or
go to www.jccparamus.org. Tuesday, August 15
Tuesday, August 15
Free movie in Bergenfield: Cloudy with a
Chance of Meatballs 2 plays for free 10 a.m. at
Bow Tie Bergenfield Cinema 5, 58 S. Washington
Ave., Bergenfield. 201-385-1600.
Toddler Time at the Teaneck Library: Story time
for children up to 2 years old. Meets at 10 a.m.
and 11 a.m. Teaneck Public Central Library, 840
Teaneck, Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171. www.
teaneck.org
Teaneck. 201-837-4171,www.teaneck.org.
Dog Days of Summer Newark Museum:
Outdoor movies for dogs and their pet owners.
Free for members, Newark residents, children
under 10 and furry friends. $10 others. Showing
Good Boy! 8:30 to 10 p.m. 49 Washington St.,
Newark, 973-569-6550.
Sunday, August 20
Show: Comic book festival featuring vendors, art-
ists, writers, costume groups, crafts. Raffles, door
prizes, costume contest. 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Toms
River Elks, 600 Washington St., Toms River. 609-
242-7756, www.jerseyshorecomicbookshow.com.
Maywood Summer Street Fair: Entertainment,
live music, kiddie rides, food, pony rides, clowns
and more. Free. 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. West Pleasant
Avenue, Maywood.
Family Woodland Hike at New Jersey Botanical
animals. Younger children may need to be car-
ried. Wear sturdy shoes. Meet at the Carriage
House Visitor Center. Free. 1 p.m. 2 Morris Road,
Ringwood. www.njbg.org.
Monday, August 21
Enrollment Night at My Gym, Glen Rock: Check
out what My Gym in Glen Rock is about. Meet the
staff and see the clean and bright facility. Specials
will be offered. 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. 522 South
Broad St., Glen Rock. 201-444-4644. www.
mygymm.com/glenrock.
Thursday, August 24
Dog Days of Summer Newark Museum:
Outdoor movies for dogs and their pet owners.
Free for members, Newark residents, children
under 10 and furry friends. $10 others. Showing
Hotel for Dogs 8:30 to 10 p.m. 49 Washington
St., Newark, 973-569-6550.
Summer Reading Party Finale: Fun, snacks, and
prizes. Doors open at 6:30 p.m. Teaneck Public
Central Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-
837-4171, www.teaneck.org.

Wednesday, August 16 Sunday, August 27

Hip Hop Day Festival: An all-day dance fest in
Free movie in Bergenfield: Cloudy with a Jersey City that pays tribute to the four elements
Chance of Meatballs 2 plays for free 10 a.m. at of Hip Hop, displaying B-Boy& B-Girl, Emcee
Bow Tie Bergenfield Cinema 5, 58 S. Washington Battles, Turntablism and Graffiti artists 1 Exchange
Ave., Bergenfield. 201-385-1600. Place, Jersey City.
Tzofim Friendship Caravan in Wayne:
Celebrating more than 40 years of excitement,
energy and friendship to North American. They
take the stage at Rosen PAC. Free. 7 to 8 p.m.,
Rosen PAC, 1 Pike Drive, Wayne. 973-595-0100.
Donny & Marie at bergenPAC: Americas beloved
sibling entertainers are bringing their summer
tour to bergenPAC. Donny and Marie mix the
spirit of their early television specials and record-
ings with a nostalgic look back on their storied
career in a dynamic stage show showcasing fan
favorites. 8 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 N. Van Brunt St.,
Englewood, 201-227-1030, www.bergenpac.org.

Thursday, August 17
Lap Time at the Teaneck Library: Story time for
infants not yet walking. Meets at 11 a.m. Teaneck West Side Story, see Friday, August 4
Stettheimer Summer Monday, see Monday, July 31 Public Central Library, 840 Teaneck Road,

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Friendship Circle End-of-Summer Camp

While many parents struggle with the sev-
en to 10-day gap between the end of sum-
mer programs and commencement of the
new school year, parents of children with
Births special needs find this period especially
challenging.
Children and teens with special needs
can have their break transformed into an
exciting camp experience, filled with ac-
tivities, sports and fun. The Friendship
Circle of Passaic County will be holding
an end-of-summer camp from Aug. 28
through Aug. 31. Camp will run from 9:30
a.m. to 1:30 p.m. and take place in the low-
er level of The Chabad Center, 194 Ratzer
Road, Wayne. The cost is $20 per day and
includes lunch.
Volunteers, along with a registered
nurse, will be focused on encouraging
the childrens participation and enjoy-
ment under the guidance staff members.
If you or someone you know could benefit
from this experience, or you would like to
volunteer, please call at 973-694-4970 or
register at fcpassaiccounty.com under
programs or volunteers.

Family-Centered Services
Sadie and Aidan Gomberg
Sadie Gomberg was born on June 16 at
Noa and Ella Gomberg
Meital and Matthew Gomberg of Valley
At Temple Beth Tikvah
Holy Name Medical Center in Teaneck to Cottage, N.Y. She joins a big sister, Ella
Leah and Alex Gomberg of Fair Lawn. She Liat, 2. Their grandparents are Debbie and Temple Beth Tikvah in Wayne is offer- other high-holiday services will continue
joins a big brother, Aidan, 3. Their grand- Kenny Gomberg of New City, N.Y., and ing new family-centered high holy days as usual.
parents are Debbie and Kenny Gomberg Osnat and Haim Geri of Aventura, Fla. services where families will help lead Children of all ages are welcome.
of New City, N.Y., and Michele and Avi the participatory services, which will The new Gates of Repentance for Young
The girls, first cousins, both weighed 7
Mazala of Roxbury.
pounds, 4 ounces, and were both 19 include conversation, prayer, song and People, a Machzor (High Holiday prayer
Noa Mati Gomberg was born on July 9 at inches long. storytelling. book) designed for families with children
Holy Name Medical Center in Teaneck to The new Family-Friendly Services are aged 8 and older, will be used
not childrens services. Rather, they are For more information, tbtritual@
designed for parents to worship with their gmail.com or notify Lisa George,
children. Grandparents are welcomed, as 201-406-8677 or JLGeorge17@aol.com.
RYAN WIEN well. It will replace the late morning ser- Temple Beth Tivkah, 950 Preakness Ave.,
Ryan Wien (Ruven Levi), son of Julie and Lawrence Wien and vice on Rosh Hashanah Day 1, and the Wayne, is a Reform Jewish Congregation
brother of Tyler, is attending New York Universitys Steinhardt late morning service on Yom Kippur. All founded in 1956.
Summer Intensive Art Program for high school students. He
is one of 54 accepted students worldwide. The program runs
through August 6, and in September, he will begin his junior year at
High Northern Valley Old Tappan High School.

School
Corner
Ryan has special needs and has overcome many obstacles
throughout the years. His passion is in digital art enjoys painting
and drawing. The family belongs to Chabad of Old Tappan led
PARTY
by Rabbi Mendy Lewis. His grandparents are Edith and the late
Stephen S. Wien of Alpine, and Kenneth H. Lynn and Susan Lynn of
Farmington Hills, Mich.

B'nai Mitzvah

973-661-9368

MOLLIE GOOD
Mollie Good, daughter of Julie and Charles
Good of Oakland, and sister of Benjamin,
10, celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah
on June 10, at Barnert Temple in Franklin
Lakes.
Include:
1 hours of skating (during public session)
Private decorated party room
Off ice party attendant
Skate rental
JENNIFER MASON Invitations for party guests
Jennifer Mason, daughter of Mindy and Pizza and soda
Daniel Mason of Oakland, and sister of Personalized Carvel ice cream cake
Favors and candy
Krystal, 11, celebrated becoming a bat mitz- FREE skating pass for future use
vah on June 3 at Barnert Temple in Franklin Birthday child receives FREE Ice Vault T shirt
Lakes.

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