Initial Romance/Crush:

By freezing up utterly around them.

By avoiding them actively to avoid the freezing up.

By going from fully confident to zero self-confidence in three seconds flat around them.

General stiffness and awkwardness.

Actual love/affection

By becoming experts in the person so loved, to the point of accurate prediction of that person's actions
and thoughts from observed data.

By yielding some of the precious autonomy to put that person's interests first.

By careful study of sexual technique to transfer to passion in the bedroom.

By extreme thoughtfulness in interaction, in marked contrast to thoughtlessness normally characterizing

INTJ social interactions.

Perceivinghow we focus our attention and gather information

Cognitive
Basic (Passive) Use Developed (Active) Use
Process
extraverted Notice sensory data in the Trust your instincts and take action relevant to
Sensing (Se) environment. the moment and current context.
introverted Recall tangible data and Stabilize a situation by comparing it to what is
Sensing (Si) experiences. expected, known and reliable.
extraverted Notice abstract patterns Shift a situation's dynamics and explore
Intuiting (Ne) as they emerge. imaginative potential possibilities.
introverted Receive "ah-ha" insights Persue a greater level of awareness to
Intuiting (Ni) and realizations. transform who you are and how you think.

Judginghow we organize our experiences and make decisions

Cognitive
Basic (Passive) Use Developed (Active) Use
Process
extraverted Follow steps, points and Create structure, reason by measures and
Thinking (Te) time tables. evidence, and implement complex plans.
introverted Adhere to definitions and Analyze a problem using a framework, and find
Thinking (Ti) impersonal principles. an angle or leverage by which to solve it.
extraverted Honor others' needs and Connect with people by sharing values and
Feeling (Fe) preferences. taking on their needs as yours.
Adhere to personal
introverted Evalute situations and choose what you believe
beliefs about what's
Feeling (Fi) is congruent with your personal identity.
important.

Development is more than basic or developed use of processes in isolation. Excellent use of a
cognitive process involves both basic and advanced use as appropriate, and ability to deploy
other processes in its service. Average to good use usually means we can use the process in
limited situations or use it well but only with the aid of other processes. Poor use means basic
use at most. Finally, we may get ourselves into trouble when we don't use a process at all.

Your Cognitive Development Profile

The forty-eight questions you rated earlier tap into the eight cognitive processes. Some questions tapped
into basic or developed use of a process used by itself, while other questions tapped into use of multiple
processes at once. The profile below is based on your responses. The number of squares indicate
strength of response. The equivalent numeric is shown in parentheses along with likely level of
development.

Cognitive Level of Development (Preference, Skill and Frequency of

Process Use)
extraverted ******************* (19.2)
Sensing (Se) limited use
introverted ******************************* (31.4)
Sensing (Si) good use
extraverted ******************************** (32.3)
Intuiting (Ne) good use
introverted ******************************* (31.1)
Intuiting (Ni) good use
extraverted ************************************* (37.4)
Thinking (Te) excellent use
introverted ************************************* (37.4)
Thinking (Ti) excellent use
extraverted ******************** (20.1)
Feeling (Fe) limited use
introverted ******************************* (31.1)
Feeling (Fi) good use