Rachels lighthearted and fun book can make even the most
fearful of irters jump in with condence. This is a must-read
for everyone who wants to get their irt on!
Bela Gandhi, Founder, Smart Dating Academy
If you have ever wondered What if? about someone you
thought was cute, but didnt have the guts to approachthis
book is for you.
Julie Spira, CEO, bestselling author, online dating expert and
CEO Cyber-Dating Expert
Rachel DeAlto
NEW YORK
Flirt Fearlessly
The A to Z Guide to Getting Your Flirt On
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For amazing singles everywhere who might need that little extra
push to go after what (or who) they want. Give it a shotyou
might be surprised with the results!
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CONTENTS
Preface x
Introduction xiii
CHAPTER ONE
Ready. Set. Go! 19
CHAPTER TWO
Where to Get Your Flirt On 35
CHAPTER THREE
Your Right-Hand Wingman (or Wingwoman) 57
CHAPTER FOUR
Safety First 67
CHAPTER FIVE
5 Steps to Super Flirt 83
CHAPTER SIX
Breaking the Ice 113
CHAPTER SEVEN
Moving Your Body 123
CHAPTER EIGHT
Thats Why They Make Strawberry and
Mint Chocolate Chip 133
CHAPTER NINE
What the Heck Do I Do Now? 145
CHAPTER TEN
The Digital Flirt 161
CHAPTER ELEVEN
Taking Over the World 177
CHAPTER TWELVE
The Quiz 183
Conclusion 189
About the Author 191
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P R E FA C E
INTRODUCTION
the lives of others. Flirting is an art form and when its done right,
it will never, ever, feel dirty or wrong.
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As you can see, I believe the FLIRT as dened does not stand
for anything related to sex. Of course, there are many people who
believe that irtation is synonymous with sexual seduction. While
it can denitely be used for that, its potential usefulness is actually
far broader. Flirtation is a tool, and like any very useful tool, it has
a multitude of applications.
What situations can we irt in? Flirting is truly about bringing
positivity to yourself and others, and it can be used in nearly any
situation. You may not realize it, and you may not have ever thought
about it, but people irt in business, in platonic relationships, and
in almost every situation in which people are thrown together.
However, I am pretty sure that you bought this book to focus
on the more seductive form of irting, which I am all about as
well. Flirting romantically hasnt changed a whole lot from the
prehistoric days through the 21st centuryminus the man throw-
ing the woman over his shoulder and taking her back to the cave
to mate. Much of irting involves biology and has been used since
the beginning of time to assist in procreation. It has been sug-
gested by evolutionary biologists that those who irted well were
the most successful at nding mates and reproducing, and because
of that, all humans attempted to adapt irtatious behavior. We
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