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Why Do People Commit Suicide?

Its hard to believe that after over 130 blogs we are now talking about suicide. Suicide is never
easy to discuss, but talking about it may save some lives. So if because of these blogs, one
person is saved from suicide, it will be well worth itespecially if that person is you.
Im amazed at the many powerful and wise comments I have received from you about suicide.
Last week, I asked you to tell me why you think people contemplate suicide and you had some
amazing insights. Its clear that its usually not just one thing that compels someone to feel
suicidal. You said its a combination of a lot of things, including:
pain
loneliness
rejection
abuse
deep sadness
guilt
depression
helplessness

More than anything, I believe


people who commit suicide feel hopeless. They are hurting so badly and want the pain to end,
but they cant imagine it ever going away. They cant see the light at the end of a very dark,
lonely tunnel. Have you ever felt this way?
When a persons thoughts get so negative, about their circumstances or even about themselves,
they cant find a reason to live. They think their problems are unsolvable and they feel completely
out of control. I believe first and foremost, hopelessness is a serious spiritual problem rooted in
lies and incorrect logic. Anytime you believe lies about yourself, youre listening to the wrong
voices.
People who commit suicide think their problems are unsolvable and they feel completely
out of control.
Jennifer said suicide has been a daily struggle for the past nine years due to being sexually
abused. I feel like suicide is the only option I have left, the only chance at peace Ill ever
have. Its as if something will always be missing and life will never be quite right. Theres
no denying that the pain of sexual abuse is tremendous. But the abuse is not Jennifers fault.
Shes the victim, but she doesnt have to take the punishment that is due to her abuser.
Additionally, the world is filled with thousands of people who have survived and overcame abuse
they have suffered. Jennifer, you can be one of them!
Have you ever gone through something so painful you were convinced the pain was never going
to go away? Many people who contemplate suicide say something like:I dont want to die. I just
want the pain to go away. They think, Because Im in intense pain today, I will always be in
pain. Its this incorrect logic that leads many people down the horrific path of suicide. As long as
you have a breath, there is always room for hope.
As long as you have a breath, there is always room for hope.
For a person who wants to commit suicide, the fear of the unknown in death is less than the fear
of living with pain for the rest of their lives. Suicide seems to be the ultimate escapethe ultimate
pain-reliever. But as someone said once, Suicide is too much medicine for the sickness.
Bob wrote: Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. My temporary
problems never seem to end, but one day they might, or I might learn to handle them, and
thats what I put my hope in.
The truth is: Pain is temporary. Suicide is forever.
Kas wrote: I think about suicide pretty much every second of the day. It seems like its my
only choice anymore. I know its not the answer, but at times I just feel like I cant move
on with this life anymore.
You are worth so much more than just being a quitter.
When you start to think suicide is the only option, you are incorrect. Thats convoluted thinking,
which also gets magnified if youre using alcohol or drugs. Some people try to escape their pain
by cutting, doing drugs, drinking alcohol, etc. In the end, these all failthey never address the
actual root of the pain, they only temporarily cover it up.
But by far, suicide is the greatest failure. When you kill yourself, you never give yourself the
opportunity to grow, to get stronger, to write a great story with your life, and to experience hope
and love from people in your life. You are worth so much more than just being a quitter.
Jordyn wrote: Some people have suicidal thoughts because they want to escape the
isolation, pain, and rejection from the environment surrounding them. Others simply feel
they have reached a state of loneliness and depression in their lives to the point where
their thoughts become so negative, they cant find any other reason to live. They would
rather not confront it because of the fear of hurt that comes along with it, than confront it
to rebuild their lives. I feel that when you go through times of depression and think about
committing suicide, God is there by your side. He will not abandon you. It is only a matter
of whether you reach out to Him through prayer that you will be free from these thoughts.
There are so many healthy ways to deal with pain and hurt. Even though the road to healing may
be long and hard, its a much better road to take than the shortcut of suicide. Amanda agrees
theres always another option besides suicide: Just because you get into a sticky situation or
face a problem does not mean you have to commit suicide just to get out of the situation!
God has made you very strong person and you will get through this.
Whatever you are going through right now is only temporary. It will pass. It may be difficult and
possibly the most challenging thing youve ever been through, but God has made you very strong
person and you will get through this. I promise.
Even rock stars struggle with pain, depression, and suicide, but there is always HOPE. Check
out this video by lead singer Jake Luhrs from August Burns Red:
If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, please
contactTheHopeLine at 1-800-394-4673 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-
800-273-8255, or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

Ale a year ago


I so want to die. Tried cutting my wrist today, and i did succeed to some
extent. My home environment is just like hell. I have an 8 years old son, he
always seems scared because of the fights between me and my husband. My
husband lost his job 2 months ago and since then there is too much fight in
the house. My father also is an extremely cruel man. I am 32 and he still
beats me with my husband. My mom doesnt stop them, keeps sitting there
and keeps watching everything. I have no hope to live. I just want to die.
Nobody cares about me. Nobody loves me. I have no place to go. I feel the
only option i am left with is suicide. I have been thinking about it for last so
many days n did succeed, i read this article today n stopped myself from
hurting me more. But i dont think so i will be able to stop myself in a day or
so.

Thanks for saving me from committing suicide. I was about to do it!


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Allie Ale 8 months ago


Hey. I've had someone commit suicide before and it hurts. I'm not
gonna make this too long. But I do want you think of your son. If you
leave he may be stuck with the same thing our going through. Do you
want that for him? I'm not trying to ruin your life but honestly the best
thing you could do is get in your car and leave. If you are scared of
your husband and dad then do not talk to them about it get your son
and a little bit of clothes and leave and get help. You should not have
to be abused. It is not right and I hate that you have to I bet you are
beautiful and strong and don't let them get the satisfaction they
want
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Nick Ale a year ago
It is a very hurtful situation.. I have had the thought of ending my life
much too often as well... But seeing your pain, I have realized that
there are people in much worse conditions who have only just started
thinking of committing suicide. Like YOU.
uptil now, I was feeling low and hopeless and just as a joke on myself,
I thought I'll turn to the internet for help(I mean, no one living could
help me yet, maybe the internet might?) And that is when I came
across this site, our of countlesscountless others and read on till I saw
your story.

And it got to me like a wake up call. You gave me hope that if YOU are
in such a horrible situation and still alive, pulling through so strongly, I
have much MUCH less to complain about life...

Honestly, if you can give someone hope, I think you're far better and
worthwhile to end your life like this... You're strong enough and I'm
sure God is proud of you somewhere. He's got some plan for you
because someone who can give another person HOPE is well... The
most important person that we all need at some point.

God bless you.


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Dena Mcclain Nick 7 months ago


Very nice to thank her & wonderful how her story saved you &
she did it unknowingly! That is awesome! Chin up : )
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leanne Nick 9 months ago


please dont give up.People care.You just cant see it,your not
alone
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celeste Ale a year ago


I am so happy about you just be like this don't you ever think about
that. you know why, imagine the life of your son about you if he knew
that you are dead maybe he will think that he was the reason and he
will be dead too, so always be wise and don't forget you family loves
you because they won't leave you
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alana Ale a year ago


Hey beautiful think of your son! SAY TO YOURSELF I AM BEAUTIFUL I
AM WORTH IT, say this prayer...Dear Jesus come into my life you have
made me whole you have made me right with you, I am yours You are
my Friend You gave me beauty for ashes, You gave me breathe of life
I receive you now Lord Jesus, You have given me Peace and Health
and Eternal Life You have Given me Hope!!!! In Jesus mighty name
Thank you for loving me and dying for all my pain I have felt in the
past...You Jesus have set me Free thankyou my friend In Jesus Name
Amen xxxooo
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Nalla Ale 7 months ago


Hi. I don't know if you have updated but I hope you have battled your
demons and looking back at this time wondering why! I'm 25. I just
lost my father to suicide. He hung himself two days before my
youngest sister turned 9 and a week before my second youngest
turned 10. Words cannot express the heartbreak it caused them. I
know that life sometimes seems really bad but with the will to change
it.. You can. Look at your sons face. Find the love in his precious smile
and eyes. Even when it's rough. Remember that when you're gone..
You never come back and unfortunately the only person who feels
more alone is your boy. Idk why my dad did it but my sisters will
never be the same. To lose someone to natural causes is easier. To
lose someone to suicide... The pain is more. I know it's crappy to say
"look at the bright side" because some people don't have a bright
side.. But look at your boy. Let the love conquer the hurt and
depression. No one needs you more then him. My sisters need my
dad and I know if he knew the pain he caused them, it would've
changed his decision. I hope you're doing ok. I really do :)
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James M Nalla 7 months ago


Suicide is such a complex and individual matter. It defies logic
but the painful thoughts are clearly overwhelming. Impossible
to reliably predict, no good evidence for any effective
treatment despite lots of kind and well meaning people.
Numbers are increasing. The suggestions for prevention sound
good but don't seem to work. Numbers continued to increase in
Australia when a major investment in prevention was
undertaken.
I have had 2 years with every waking hour filled with thoughts
of suicide, a lovely family, good income, but was tricked by a
financial adviser and can't get over my foolishness. I am
obsessed with trying to find an answer and a way out but just
seem to get more involved with this thinking. Maybe talking
about it and these websites make it more likely. I've tried all the
treatments, but am stuck with myself, my past choices and
regrets. These thoughts are like a cancer that I can't get rid of.


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jim adams James M 6 months ago
James M, i believe you'r correct in it being an individual
matter. Probably why prevention attempts fail. For most,
you too, it does defy logic. People want to help but can't,
they don't feel your pain. like everyone you have handled
mistakes and failures before, but this one hurts you, you
were swindled and feel foolish, it seems there's no way to
repair the damage, you tried. This man beat you, in front
of your family, making you seem foolish. But he didn't
take your family away, that you die for. Realize, you were
outsmarted and you can't fix it. Accept defeat or you will
give this man the power of taking your family by you
losing their faith, interest and love. It will feel as if they
left you for the man that beat you down. You will surely
die soon after this mans actions causes you to lose any
real reason to live. Your wife, your Family. Losing hurts.
It's done. focus on something else, if not you'll never find
another opportunity or your worth, EVER. It defies logic
because it's not for you. People have died just minutes
from civilization because they loss focus and felt
defeated. All they had to do was venture a half mile. This
last year and a half i have never come so close to act. my
depression is crippling, emotionally, But i'm going for the
ride, whichever, i'm going to live, make love to a woman,
laugh no matter what those people took from me. (more
than money) no one believes, but i know it. Once you
decide, you can have the same. i still got a little to go,
but i see it. I won't if i act on it or die for it.
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Amber jim adams 5 months ago
Sorry, got cut off...

I just thought you should know that you are a very


gifted writer and have a very thoughtful and
interesting voice. I think you have a lot to say that
would make a great contribution to this world.
Maybe just try and give some energy to that
voice...in some form...


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Amber jim adams 5 months ago


Jim,


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Matt S James M 2 months ago


But with your situation you have the skills and tools to
get over what you did and make better decisions in the
future. Be thankful you have that. Not all of us do.


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James M Matt S 2 months ago


Unfortunately that knowledge just leaves me
frightened as to where this is all heading. I seem
stuck within my own nightmare


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kimyoung Matt S 2 months ago


hello there my name is Mohamed I have about my
father few month ago I was committed suicide but
that was didn't work out for me everytime I try is
work out ever I cut my wore didn't work I took pill
is not working II have never done anything bad my
ret of life but I m still working on
to take way my life my own father make me
second citizenship I have no face to see or to live



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stella Ale 7 months ago


Leave your husband and Father and get to a safe house. There are
organizations that can help you find them.
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leanne Ale 9 months ago


stop,you need to get out of there,this is not your fault and you dont
deserve this but you need to think about your son and you,you dont
need to go through this and keep going for your son,one day he might
be feeling how you do now and need his mum
i hope your alright you wont feel like this forever
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blu paws Ale 9 months ago
Ylou have a son, I cant have a child as a 31year old this makes me
feel ive lost out, get the number of a hostel, social services, womens
aid, u owe itto ur child, to not let the child. Live in fear of his dad, u
also owe it to him to. Carry on, sort ur life out
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Marissa Ale a year ago


I feel happy that you saved your life and also take the suggestions
below.
and don't forget family is important more than any thing in the world.
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Marwa Mohamed Ale 5 months ago


Hi Beautiful, your comment shown as 8 months ago, I am really really
hoping that things are much more better with you now . And that you
have grown more strong and more beautiful. Look, I am not an expert
and I am not going to pretend to but I know one thing, you came her
because you really want to stop your self from committing sucide ,
even if you really feeling you can't.. but you CAN, and you will.
what ever going on in your life fight to fix it and this is what I am
telling myself, you never know when things will get all right, just don't
go for the easy way and quit, and don't be so hard on yourself.
live for yourself and your son.
And always pray for a stronger you.


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Yeah Ale 6 months ago


Please no matter what u do get help next time I feel like that my dad
took his life my girlfriends dad also took his life changed us as people
for ever so think of your family and get help hope things get better


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maggie Ale 8 months ago


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Snitty a year ago


My nephew hung himself in April... I just keep asking myself why why why?
He didn't even leave a note. Sometimes I feel angry- why did he leave us?!
How could he think that no one cared? If he would've called and said he was
hurting and needed someone to be there he would have! His death (only age
19) has had such an effect on the whole family... so many tears and
heartache. I just keep wondering why and will never know...
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M1979 Snitty 8 months ago


It's not his fault he didn't feel he could reach out. Maybe you and the
rest of the family gave the impression that you wouldn't care, and
now suddenly act all concerned now that he's gone. Family and
friends always pretend to be shocked and concerned after a suicide,
never before.
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Toughy M1979 7 months ago


I agree. I don't think my family would be that shocked. I'm sure
it would hurt them, but that would never be my intention. My
family knows how tough it's been and I think could
understand...
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Toughy Snitty 7 months ago


Personally, I don't think people reach out because they feel ashamed.
There is also the threat of being hauled off to the looney bin, losing
your job and forever being branded as suicidal. Nobody wants to tell
someone, "Hey, by the way, I think I'm going to kill myself". Again, I
don't think anyone who commits suicide intentionally wants to hurt
anyone else. They just want the pain to end...
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Niki Toughy 7 months ago


Toughy, I agree with you 100%. My brother committed suicide 3
weeks ago today. He was a very private person and couldn't
easily open up. I know he wouldn't have been able to face "the
looney bin" again. He went there 5 years ago after a
breakdown, due to his wife having an affair, and subsequent
divorce. She had a smart lawyer, and he had a soft heart. After
all she put him through she walked off with half his finances
too. For months now he has been under financial stress. I think
the continued stress spilt over into depression. I know he
couldn't face going through again what he went through 5
years ago. My heart breaks because I knew he was stressed. I
reached out to him on many occasions, but he wouldn't admit
the depth of his despair. I live in another country so I couldn't
talk to him directly but rather on the phone, what'sapp etc. He
had an exceptionally good Easter and 50th birthday weekend
with friends and family. Then on the night of easter Monday he
hanged himself. I so wish it was different, but he must have
been in too much pain for too long. What an immense loss to us
his family, his girlfriend, his young children and his friends
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Tirsa Pozo Toughy 3 months ago


suicidal as I understand is a self punishing: is the denial of self
pardon, is the frustration of acts that are impossible for us to
change, the denial of aware self , they are thousands of
negative reasons. it s time to start counting the positive facts in
ur life and informed doctor our feelings and pains and lock of
interest in life, do not be ashen, depression is a sickness like
any other. my doctor toll me 23 years ago there has been
struggles no more bigger than the power of my love for my 2
daughters that at that time the little one was 5 years old . My
husband take me to the doctor and I was declare major
depression and offer me a bed to stay as long as I need. saying
that there was women that has 2 or more years there, my
respond to the doctor was: I can't, I have a 5 years old child to
take care of , return home and start taking my medicine for life.
I still live in the same home with my same family. thank GOD , I
will ask the lord to full fill your heart with love for others
because given is how you received .


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leanne Snitty 9 months ago


its not your fault. stay strong and make him proud


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Celeste Snitty a year ago


I am sorry for your lost I know that you are wondering but only god
knows no one knows how it feels really so stop wondering and look
forward one day god will give you the answer


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Juliet a year ago


what's the rseason for living????? there isn't one. case closed.
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TheHopeLine Mod Juliet a year ago


Juliet, Please, please, please never give up! You have so much in your
future that will bring you happiness that you will never know about if
you give up. This challenging place in your life is temporary. You are
worthy and valuable. We are here for you and we truly want to listen
to what is going on in your life and offer you some ways to deal with
it.
Would you be willing to call us or chat with us at TheHopeLine today?
We are open 24/7 and all you have to do is call 800.394.4673 or you
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MarthaMyDear Juliet 3 months ago


Agree with you Juliet!

To others who say, 'Life is what you make of it', I say, 'Ha!'. I didn't
make this life. This life was made FOR me!

Product of an unwanted pregnancy to a mentally ill mother...father


who married due too young...no money, no food.

Be glad when it's all over.


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MadaraChan Juliet 8 months ago


It's up to you, you can choose whether to make your life meaningful
or not..


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Faith Lopez Juliet 10 months ago


there is a reason in life, but it's up to you to figure that out on your
own.


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kyllean a year ago


I wanted to die since I was 9 im now 17. i have tried multiple things to take
my life.i drank a mixture of cleaning supplies,i tried strangling myself with a
belt I tried suffocating myself I even took pills. I cut my wrist open about a
year ago. I still have thoughts I have to injure myself to distract myself. I feel
if im gone their wont be any worries.i wont be anyones exscape goat when
there mad. I just want it all to end. I want to stop being angry I want to stop
feeling like nothing. I want to finally be at peace. I wanted to be at peace
today but I read this idk y I got her something inside told me to I guess. so
thank you for now
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Olivia Princeten kyllean 6 months ago


i have a question do you have friends, brothers of sisters, parents,
coworkers? If you do then I feel the need to tell you to think about
them, how they hearts will break, some light will leave their eyes,
they will be left with a giant gaping hole that you left there. People
you never meet will feel horrible and stay up at night and wonder "If I
just knew them, maybe I could help them." Because let me tell you a
eternity of nothing is a whole lot worse than a life of feeling. Live for
the shows you're going to watch live for the books you are going to
read, live for the people you love but most of all, LIVE FOR YOURSELF
because you matter.


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tetea a year ago


I have suffering from severe depression from the last 8 years.I just don't know
how to overcome this depression...I've been always thinking about
committing suicide but I am still alive today..but i may really do it if it's not
going away..life is hopeless.I've tried a thousand times to defeat this feeling
but i can't..I can't enjoy this life anymore...maybe it is better not to live
anymore
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Tiffany tetea 10 months ago


I agree with you that is where I'm at right now. Maybe its better not to
live anymore


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Rebecca Peterson Tiffany 8 months ago


Yes, i have had thoughts of suicide but im better now. I also had
a friend kill himself and i hurt inside to understand but i know i
need to stay and become a better person to see,feel,live,to
know that life can't beat me down. I truly feel for everyone who
feels that they can't live. I understand that so so much. If
anyone wants to just talk im here,i can be there for you. I have
been through a lot in my life of only be 40 but i truly want to be
there for another person that feels so low,and i care about
people and love God to be able to let me live. I encourage any
one to get help ,to talk to live stonger.


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amy Rebecca Peterson 7 months ago


Hi I know this was 5 days ago. I've never gone online to
talk about these things. I usually read everyone's replys n
stories for hope. You said if anyone wants to talk so here I
am. Help please.
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Tirsa Pozo amy 3 months ago


Depression is cause for an imbalance of brain cells
your doctor can prescribe a medicine BUT he needs
to know every detailed of how you feel or if you
see shadows every thin so hi can help u . you are
going to be ok. do not give up the gift of living your
life.


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Erik Heinze-Milne 9 months ago
You say the problem is temporary. People have been telling me that for 22
years. When is it no longer considered "temporary". When am I allowed to
stop the pain without being judged by people who don't even know how I
feel?
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blu paws Erik Heinze-Milne 9 months ago


People. Are not judging. You, they want to help you.. life is very tough,
but. You must keep trying,imagine where you will be in a year


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Sam a year ago


I think about suicide all the time. I have a firearm so it would be quick
and easy. Unrealized ambitions. Physical problems. Financial insecurity. No
friends or close family. I'm now 35 years old. The hopelessness that I have
towards the future is overbearing and relentless. I can't imagine things
getting better because they have been bad for so long. I just want to end the
pain and suffering.
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Sunshine Sam 10 months ago


Please don't ever give up on life. It's so precious and you have your
entire life to live. My mom attempted to take her life 12/25/14 late
evening. She put the gun to her head told my step dad deal with this
and pulled the trigger. My mom was 4 times the legal limit when the
life flight helicopter got her to Savannah Ga which was 6 hours after
the actual gun was fired. She pulled through the surgery to stop the
bleeding in her brain and is making a recovery however the bullet
severed her optic nerve. She most likely will be blind (Only god can
say that forsure) medical professionals told us she would be blind.
She also has bilateral brain damage which affects behavior, impulse
and motoring. Please don't ever think it could end quickly. And please
remember god loves you!! Find a church or support group to help
you!!
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SorR Sunshine 2 months ago
I'm sorry for what your mother did, but for some people it
simply is the only good way out. It's like telling a homeless
mans in chain that one day if he tries he'll get food to eat, and
the only thing that's left is reality is more and more hunger 'till
he can't live anymore.


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karina Sunshine 9 months ago


Sunshine,

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radio host, and author. He is the founder of Dawson McAllister Association and
TheHopeLine and host of the national radio program Dawson McAllister Live, which is
aired on Sunday nights. Dawson has been speaking to and in support of teenagers and young
adults for over 40 years.

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