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SEPARATION
ANXIETY
1.
See
if
you
can
go
in
and
look
special
to
show
the
teacher.
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around
the
classroom,
and
meet
the
teacher
before
school
starts.
Whether
2.
Help
your
child
work
out
some
of
they
meet
in
person
or
not,
its
their
fears
in
advance
through
play.
In
anticipation
of
school
important
to
foster
a
relationship
with
Some
ideas:
separation,
some
children
may
the
teacher
in
advance.
Talk
about
-
Act
out
successful
and
loving
express
or
release
anxiety
going
to
school
in
positive
ways,
and
separations
and
reunions
with
toys.
how
delighted
the
teacher
is
to
have
through
crying
and
Reverse
roles
and
have
your
child
be
your
child
in
his/her
class.
Sometimes
in
charge
and
leave
you
at
home
or
emotional
outbursts.
more
anxious
or
sensitive
children
will
school.
Use
humour
to
make
it
fun.
Its
important
for
your
child
to
feel
want
to
attach
to
their
teacher
first
heard,
so
sitting
with
the
child
before
they
branch
off
to
befriend
-
Hide
and
seek
gives
your
child
safe
with
calm
confidence
is
important
other
children.
Some
ideas:
separation
practice
and
the
experience
during
these
times,
without
trying
of
being
found
over
and
over
no
-
Talk
about
shared
likes
and
interests,
to
convince
them
out
of
their
matter
what,
e.g.,
I
will
always
come
e.g.
I
heard
Mrs.
Johnson
loves
reading
find
you
a
million
times,
no
matter
what
feelings.
Think
of
it
as
unloading
books
about
animals,
and
you
do
too!
I
pirates
or
ogres
try
to
stop
me!
some
pent
up
worries
beforehand.
wonder
if
she
likes
trains
too?
(cont..)
Authors:
Stephenie
Gold,
Director,
LEAP
Clinic
(www.leapclinic.ca);
Dr.
Lynn
Miller,
Ph.D.,
R.Psych;
Katia
Jitlina,
M.Sc.
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Talk
about
how
you
cant
wait
until
after
school
to
see
encouragements,
instead
convey
your
belief
in
them
the
craft
project
for
the
day,
or
learn
about
what
story
the
through
your
patient
body
language
and
steady
tone.
teacher
will
read
or
what
game
the
kids
play
at
recess.
-
It
can
be
particularly
exasperating
when
your
distressed
-
Make
sure
you
are
transitioning
or
handing
over
your
child
resists
your
attempts
to
soothe
or
calm
down,
so
child
to
another
caring
adult
in
the
classroom
that
he
or
stay
tuned
into
your
own
emotions
and
behaviour
she
feels
comfortable
and
can
attend
to,
such
as
the
when
you
feel
your
temperature
start
to
rise.
Your
child
teacher.
will
be
very
sensitive
to
your
non-verbal
cues
and
have
a
heightened
focus
on
your
tone
and
body
language.
Try
to
-
Once
your
child
is
attending
to
the
other
adult,
give
a
maintain
a
stance
of
calm
confidence.
hug
or
kiss
and
say
goodbye
with
a
warm
confident
smile.
And
leave.
Resist
lingering
too
long
around
the
doorway
-
It
may
sometimes
be
less
emotionally
charged
if
or
sneaking
back
and
seeing
how
things
are
going.
another
trusted
adult
drops
off
the
child,
such
as
a
-
Finally
and
most
importantly,
have
confidence
in
your
grandparent,
older
sibling,
or
another
caregiver.
Consider
childs
teacher
to
handle
your
childs
feelings
and
take
going
with
a
school
buddy
or
a
neighbourhood
friend.
care
of
your
child.
And
importantly,
believe
in
your
childs
-
Some
children
may
not
exhibit
separation
anxiety
for
ability
to
cope.
a
few
weeks
into
school,
once
the
novelty
has
worn
off
and
it
really
sinks
in
that
this
is
not
temporary.
Or
a
childs
anxiety
may
reappear
after
long
holidays
or
after
an
Other
things
to
keep
in
mind:
illness.
Better
to
expect
it
will
happen
rather
than
repeatedly
get
surprised.
-
At
any
stage
in
this
process,
your
child
may
cry,
cling,
freeze,
or
become
excessively
controlling
or
aggressive.
-
Some
children
will
be
upset
and
have
a
meltdown
at
Your
childs
frustrating
or
difficult
behaviours
are
coming
pickup
when
they
see
you,
or
when
you
get
home.
This
from
deep
instincts
to
elicit
a
response
from
caretakers
to
is
likely
because
your
child
is
reminded
of
the
separation
take
action
and
remove
the
threat
(=
being
left
at
school).
and
may
feel
safe
enough
to
let
out
his
or
her
anxiety
and
The
child
just
wants
to
feel
better
again.
Your
child
is
not
frustration
at
you.
Or
your
child
is
really
tired
and
has
had
acting
this
way
to
upset
or
manipulate
you.
a
long
day
at
school.
Your
childs
brain
is
developing
and
learning
so
much
now,
and
there
are
many
new
things
to
-
Children
this
age
often
dont
know
how
to
calm
figure
out.
But
with
lots
of
love
and
confidence
in
your
themselves
down
in
the
moment,
and
are
dependent
on
childs
abilities,
youll
both
get
through
this
milestone!
adults
to
help
them
feel
more
safe
and
secure.
They
may
have
no
idea
what
is
really
making
them
anxious,
so
asking
why
is
not
going
to
be
very
productive.
Authors:
Stephenie
Gold,
Director,
LEAP
Clinic
(www.leapclinic.ca);
Dr.
Lynn
Miller,
Ph.D.,
R.Psych;
Katia
Jitlina,
M.Sc.
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