By Molly Hoyne
Founder and Executive Director of Stratejoy, Inc.
WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild IS THIS YOU?
and precious life? Mary Oliver You downloaded this Gutsy Girls Guide to Success
hoping it was a:
There are a few things I know about you already. Checklist of 10 life hacks you could conquer and
then POOF! instant success
You are a Gutsy Girl. You want to be Successful. Quick read that you could cruise and then
You get all tingly at the phrase Extraordinary on ignore, continuing on with your safe life
Your Own Terms. Self help ego boost telling you that you are
already perfect and thus a success and thus
You and I have a lot in common. Extraordinary
If youre shaking your head already, thinking, Oh If any of those ring true, Im afraid you might be
man, I wish I were gutsy or Im about as far from disappointed. Lets chalk it up to no chemistry
successful as one could be right now or and go our separate ways. No harm, no foul.
Extraordinary? Hah! Ill settle for ordinary Stop it
right now. Stop thinking yourself down and out. ON THE OTHERHAND, IS THIS YOU?
You downloaded this Gutsy Girls Guide to Success
Give yourself credit for taking the step to obtain this hoping it was a:
Guide, downloading it and actually reading it! Juicy, thought-provoking Manifesto on living an
Believe me, its a lot further than most people will Extraordinary Life
go. Youve got to celebrate the small stuff! Inspirational Guide to discard stagnant
expectations, create your own happiness or
Before we go any further, I want to make sure youre break out on your own
the right woman for this Guide. I dont want to Way to learn what Stratejoy is all about and to
waste your time if youre not up for the challenge find out how to join the Authentic Happiness
Im about to deliver. Movement
In case this wasnt already obvious, Im Molly, the I know that settling is never the answer, that fulfilling
founder, voice and big dreamer behind Stratejoy. I others expectations is useless is in the long run. I
lead lifestyle design workshops online and off, believe in your uniqueness.
provide keynotes on authentic happiness and head
a website full of resources and inspiration to conquer I believe in that big, bold juicy version of your life
the Quarterlife Crisis*. I love what I do. and your ability to embrace it, to create it, to make
it your reality.
Oh, and it is not pronounced Straight-Joy. It is
Strata-Joy, as in Strategies for Joy. That is something Im providing this Guide to Success because I love
I know for sure. when were all on the same page. And trust me,
this is an incredible page to be on together. It is a
This guide is my public proclamation to help The declaration to the Universe that you believe in your
Tribe kick ass as you realize your own authentic capacity to create an extraordinary life on your own
success and joy. Welcome to The Tribe! terms.
WHAT ELSE DO I KNOW FOR SURE? Hold on to your hat sister. The road ahead is full of
I know that by clarifying your personal definition of surprises, pit stops for Rainier cherries & dancing in
success and cultivating powerful habits, you can the moonlight. Well probably have to change a
lead an authentically joyous life. I believe in your flat or two. Were going to be awed by vistas
capacity for growth, for success, for truthful living. I undiscovered, fueled by roadside lemonade and
know that the day-to-day can be more than a to- amazed by every new town, every new friend.
do list. I believe that you can feel at peace with
yourself and energized about the path you are on. Why? Because life is Extraordinary. Youve just got to
be following the right map. Your Map.
*You do not need to be in the midst of a Quarterlife Crisis to read this
guide. But if you are, it will be insanely useful.
CONNECT WITH YOURSELF And all of this is dangerous! In the midst of others
expectations and social personas, you can easily
(Step One of the Joy Equation) end up chasing a life that wont fulfill you, because
If you stripped down to the very base of yourself if you dont recognize who YOU are. You just keep
we took away your job, your bank account, your fulfilling expectations or changing cloaks to fit into
schooling, your relationship status who would you situations, to please others, to behave
be? appropriately.
I am giving you permission right now to be YOU. What do I really care about when the chips are
You dont need a handy little tag line the nice girl down? What are the true habits of my heart? When
next door, the wild adventurer, the wicked smart you clearly identify your values, youll feel a sense of
corporate go-getter you just need to allow yourself relief because youve articulated whats most
to shine through. Explore your whims. Relax into important to you.
your quirks. Celebrate your strengths and accept
your weaknesses. Allow yourself to practice Just in case youre interested, the values Im
authenticity in aspects of your life. Trust that YOU operating from right now are Love, Authenticity,
are enough. Dedication, Inspiration, Delight, Connection, Vitality,
and Exploration. Yes, I have those memorized. And
How? Good question. Do whatever it takes to yes, they required lots of self-exploration to really nail
recognize who YOU are and how YOU show up them down.
in the world. Practice listening to your intuition,
voicing an opinion instead of relying on, I dont DEFINE SUCCESS
care, whatever you think, making lists of YouJuice*, (Step Two of the Joy Equation)
standing up for yourself, allowing space for
Its a big word. Success. What does it conjure up for
exploration and shooting down limiting beliefs.
you? Unless you live in a cave, there are probably
aspects of money, power and perfection woven
Questions To Ask to Connect with Yourself:
What do you have to offer? into your vision. These are the social definitions of
What makes you extraordinary? success present in our western world. Not that
What repels you? What attracts you? money, power and perfection are inherently evil.
What makes you feel alive? We need a bit of all of them to make a difference in
the world.
My clients favorite exercise in connecting with
And Im not turning down a big lotto win or speedy
themselves is identifying their core values. I once
metabolism if they happen to fall into my lap
*YouJuice is anything that reminds you of yourself: quotes, lists,
pictures, people or places.
You may have to adjust your course, but youve If you want to join me on this quest for Authentic
already made the commitment to move forward. Happiness, Id be honored to walk with you. Our
Theres no option to bow out or retreat, only to paths may be different, but our destinations of
respond to the challenges with gracious flexibility fulfillment are the same. Lets do our part to make
and patience for pit stops. life a celebration, a joyous occasion to make a
difference by living authentically.