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Shirley Paxtor

12A: Family Violence

February 11, 2016

If I were in an abusive relationship I would identify the problem and how it started. I

would see how to get out of it. I would tell him to stop, if he doesnt stop I would record what

happens in a journal. I would then report it to the police. I would get a restraining order and

move away from my house to avoid any more violence. Also, I would make sure to block him

off my social media website, avoid places where he usually goes and have a support system. I

would proceed to get a divorce, but if my spouse is having a mental illness that is affecting them

I would do things differently. If he has used alcohol or any other drugs that might have to do

with the violence, I would take him to rehab; take him to the doctor.

If they can attribute the violence and abuse they inflict and the hurt they cause as due to an

aberration or illness, then abusers can believe that their acts are not deliberately hurtful or

abusive. (Strong and Cohen, 441).

If my spouse were to abuse an elderly parent either his or mine, I would call the police. I

would then get his or my parents emotional and physical help. If my spouse were to abuse my

children I would pack up and leave. I would take them to a trusted friend, who would help me

get through the trauma. Next, I would get a divorce and get the custody of the children. Then, I

would move out of the house and get help from my trusted friends. Last, I would go find

somewhere else to live and move far away from my spouse. If my spouse became an alcoholic, I

would take him to the doctor and take him to rehab. If that doesnt work then I would get a
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divorce. I would try as many ways to get my partner the help he need. If it doesnt work I will

do what is best for myself and possible children.

There are some ways to prevent abusive relationships, by having a good relationship with

people who you trust and record things in a journal for later evidence. Have serious talks with

your partner and make sure to establish a nonviolence relationship.

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Bibliography:

Strong, Bryan, and Theodore F. Cohen. The Marriage and Family Experience. N.p.: Cengage

Learning, n.d. Print.