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Identifying the Impact of our emotions and Core Beliefs
Name:___________________
My Dear Friend,
In session 1 we started to identify the roadblocks- the emotions and detrimental core beliefs
that influence our lives. Now we are here to identify the impact of detrimental beliefs.
(Referencing the work of Teal Swan.)
experiences/ evidence
*Take one of your earliest experiences that is tied to one of the core beliefs you identified in
the exercises from Session 1. Walk each floor of this emotional house from the perspective of
your relationship with yourself. and write down the bullet points from it.
2. There is a huge risk to trying to skip over the levels of grief and disappointment. If we are not
permitted to mourn, we will never be able to move beyond it to living a new life.
Here are some of the many kinds of losses that need the opportunity to be mourned.
Direct- an apparent lack of what was once there (ex death of a loved one, loss of a job)
Ambiguous- without closure, loss of something that you had an anticipation of having (ex
miscarriage)
Unrecognized- others don't understand why it is a loss to you (ex others not understanding why
giving up your desire to be a singer in favor of a more "responsible" career path for the sake of
supporting a family was so hard on you. )
Death of a dream/ idea- had an expectation of something turning out a particular way but it
didn't . (ex the loss of the dream of growing old with a partner when a divorce happens)
Conflicts of Self Concept- when your behavior or events do not confirm the idea of yourselves
to yourself. (ex I believe I am a high achiever but I got a poor grade on that test. That grade is
in conflict with the identity I have created for myself.)
*What are your top 3-5 losses that have most impacted your life - your emotions, beliefs that
have become your negative self- talk?
This can be an emotional process. Go back to the anchoring exercise from the first
session any time you need it. When you get distracted, identify what is happening by
labeling it as a "thought" or "sensation." Then focus back on filling your lungs deeply
and exhaling with that audible, calming breath.
*3. How do the stages of grief apply to these losses? What stages have you avoided? What stage are
you in right now? On separate strips of paper, write each loss and all the stages of grief, and the levels of
the emotional house as it applies.
*Bonus point for posting in the comments for this session the stage of grief you are in with one of your
losses.
4. When you have allowed yourself to truly mourn that loss, have a Funeral for the Unmourned Grief.
Gently, kindly, burn that strip of paper and let the ashes be the birthplace of your new life.
Wed 1/17 at 7 pm Central: I will be hosting a FB live to burn our papers together. * Point awarded for
this exercise by posting a pic of you burning your paper posted in the comments for this Session.
***Bonus points will be given for posting one of your losses in the comments for our Funeral . I
know this is vulnerable. But the more we are able to share these experiences, the better we
will be able to process them. Only positive, supportive comments will be permitted. This is a
sacred space and we are all safe here.
Bonus Exercise!
Gary Chapman's 5 Love languages help us realize all the many ways we express love to each other. This
is great for all our interactions , but how can you offer yourself some love and compassion? Can you
speak your own love language to yourself?
* Point for posting in the comments for this session a particular way that you loved yourself. :)
Copy paste this document into word if you want to type directly into it. Or just answer the
questions separately. You can e-mail it back to me and we will set up our 1 on 1! This can be
over skype, face time or in person. In this conversation we will be able to review these things
and I will be able to further personalize the process for you. Can't wait to hear from ya!