by Gavin Sim
http://www.PurposeInYou.com
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Acknowledgements
I would like to thank my parents, Sim Tiam Huat and Jenny Tan, for their
unconditional love. I would also like to thank my wife, Chew Shi Hui, for
her unweavering support in my endeavours to touch more lives. I love
you all.
I would also like to give thanks to my mentors, in all fields. Mentors like
Yee Shun Jian, Ken Chee, Chris Duncan, and Joe Lee. Your words and
advices are what that always keep me going in the right direction.
Contents
Introduction ......................................................................................................................... 6
Chapter 1 - What are Rituals? ............................................................................................ 9
Chapter 1.1 - Daily Foundation ........................................................................................ 11
Chapter 1.2 - You Need a Success Journal? ................................................................... 13
What Goes in Your Success Journal? .......................................................................... 14
Chapter 1.3 - Daily Gratitude ........................................................................................... 17
Suggestions Of Things To Be Grateful For .............................................................. 19
Chapter 1.4 - Daily Motivation ......................................................................................... 21
Mental Input Notes ....................................................................................................... 22
Chapter 1.5 - Implementing Mantras ............................................................................... 24
Chapter 1.6 - Long-Term Goals ....................................................................................... 27
Chapter 1.7 - Daily Goals and Objectives ........................................................................ 30
Chapter 1.8 - Review of Chapter 1 .................................................................................. 32
Chapter 2 - Explosive Start............................................................................................... 35
Chapter 2.1 - Daily Priorities ............................................................................................ 39
Chapter 2.2 - 3 Buckets of Priorities ................................................................................ 42
The Power of Priority One ............................................................................................ 43
Your To-Do .................................................................................................................. 47
Chapter 2.3 - Momentum ................................................................................................. 48
Chapter 2.4 - Keep Starting ............................................................................................. 51
The 15-minute focus block ........................................................................................... 51
Tracking Your Completes ............................................................................................. 52
Implementing a Reward System .................................................................................. 53
Chapter 2.5 - Review of Chapter 2 .................................................................................. 54
Chapter 3 - Energy Maintenance ...................................................................................... 55
What is the right balance? ............................................................................................... 56
Prerequisites ................................................................................................................... 57
Chapter 3.1 - 3 Types of Energy ...................................................................................... 59
Chapter 3.2 - Your Sweet Spot ........................................................................................ 61
To Do: Your Disposition ............................................................................................... 62
Chapter 3.3 - Energy Measurement ................................................................................. 63
Exercise ....................................................................................................................... 63
Chapter 3.4 - Maximising Your Energy ............................................................................ 65
Introduction
Hi everyone.
First of all, thank you for downloading this eBook. Before you go on and
read the rest of the eBook to achieve massive breakthroughs, I would
like to share my story with you.
Humble Beginnings
The Rise
married, had a house, had a car, had several investments, and had no
debts except for my mortgages.
The Fall
However, I always felt empty. I was just moving along with life, moving
along with what others expected of me. To be fair, I was leading a
decent life, but I am not sure if it could be defined as successful.
Then it happened. I went home one day to see my parents sitting in the
living room, waiting for me. I was puzzled. They do not normally do that.
Something must be up.
Falling Deeper
I applied what I learnt, and within two years, I was able to see significant
results. I had over 30% compounded annual growth in my investments,
and I know that I would be able to retire comfortably.
With that, I checked my dad into a private hospital and arranged for an
operation with the best doctors at the earliest date. Thankfully, my dad
managed to recover, and we were able to cover the expensive medical
bills with the insurance payout.
Learning
However, the greatest lesson I have learnt is that I have not been
spending enough time with my loved ones. Be it with my spouse or
parents or close friends. I have always been busy with work, work, and
more work.
Back On My Feet
I read even more. I began to read not just on investing, but also on
personal development. I discovered that the joy comes not only in my
success, but seeing others succeed too.
In my journey, I made use of these four success rituals, that I still apply
daily, to help me achieve what I wanted in life. It had help me
tremendously, and I want it to help you too.
I hope that you will find this Ebook useful, and I wish you all the best.
Cheers,
Gavin
Founder
PurposeInYou.com
6. Priorities Ritual
7. Momentum Ritual
8. Keep Starting Ritual
9. 15-minute Focus Ritual
10. Tracking Ritual
11. Reward Ritual
Energy Maintenance Rituals
Here's a definition of the word ritual, pulled right out of the dictionary. A
ritual is an act or series of acts regularly repeated in a set, precise
manner.
You cannot even consciously recall half the things you do in a day.
Right?
That is the entire point of this book, is to help you develop rituals that will
guarantee your success. When I say guarantee your success, I mean
you follow through on the actions required to take you in the direction
that you want to go, that is most important to you in your life.
This is a point in your day where you will be able to create a state
that's conducive to your success, to your peak performance.
If you can get all three of these things congruent, if you think a certain
way, if you get yourself to feel a certain level of excitement about those
thoughts, then physically you can follow through on all of the ideas.
If you want to build a strong, successful life, the same idea applies here.
You want to start with a strong foundation, and that includes getting
yourself ready for success each and every day.
If you like writing with a pen and paper, grab a notebook. If you prefer
doing it electronically, that is fine, too. The key is that you do it.
Go ahead and do that now, before continuing with the rest of this
chapter.
Now, to build a solid foundation for success in your life, and you want to
establish this as a ritual, you are going to need the success journal that I
talked about. You already have that. Here is what goes into your
success journal.
First of all, the concept. What gets measured gets managed, and in
some cases, in most cases, improved.
Until you track something, until you become consciously aware of the
patterns behind something, it is very easy to let that thing slide.
For example, if you are trying to increase your fitness or lose weight; if
you do not understand or know where you are currently at and you do
not measure it from time to time, how do you have any clue, other than
maybe looking in the mirror or feeling how tight your clothes are?
You will have a very vague read on what your progress looks. The
same thing goes for every single aspect of your life.
If you are looking to improve an aspect of your life, you want to start
measuring it and measuring it frequently, so that you can begin
managing it.
You can see where you are on course and offcourse, and each and
every day you can adjust your strategy, you can adjust your thinking,
and of course your actions, to make sure that you get back on track as
quickly as possible.
Each and every day you are going to wake up in the morning, ideally at
a particular time, and open your personal success journal. Then you are
going to start with your three key questions.
If you can answer these three key questions every single day and
document your three answers to them, you will be far further ahead than
you were had you not done this, and ions and light years ahead of
people that don't even have a success journal.
So, this success journal will start with these three key questions,
and then it will help you document the following things:
I am going to deal with all of those in a few moments, but for now, you
have your personal success journal and each and every morning you
are going to open it up, and you are going to do the following.
Note today's date at the top of whatever page you are on, and ask
yourself the following three questions:
1. What went well yesterday? What did you do well? What were
you proud of yourself for? Document it down. Write it so you have
a log of it and you can revisit it in the future and remind yourself of
your successes.
2. What could have gone better? What could you have done
better? What could be improved on? What mistakes did you
make? Write all those down as well, so that you also become
consciously aware of what improvements you could be making in
your life.
You want both. You want the good the not-so-good things so that
you can document it, measure it, manage it and move forward.
3. What lessons did you learn? This usually stems from question
number 2, which is what you could have done better, but just in
general what lessons did you learn? Did you have an interesting
conversation with a friend or a mentor? Did you read a fascinating
article online that opened your eyes to a whole new world of
something you did not even know existed before?
All of this is important for you to not only contemplate and think about
but to also document in your journal so that each and every day you
have a running log of how your progression is going and how your life is
evolving over time.
Think about how exciting this would be if you were to start your journal
today and then in 30 days or even 60 or 90 days down the road, revisit
some of those lessons learned and watch and observe how it has
changed how you react and respond to the world.
Until you have a personal success journal, until you start doing this as a
daily ritual, you are missing out on this opportunity to grow.
Now, the rest of the chapter is going to flow quite smoothly, in the sense
of what you do next.
All you have to do is simply follow these steps. They do not take all that
much time. This entire process should take you no longer than an hour,
but it is going to force you to do things that get you ready for a
successful day, and then keep you feel inspired and motivated
throughout your day so that you can stay successful.
Having said all that, here is your next step. You have got your personal
success journal, you have got your three questions answered for today's
date.
Being grateful, as you probably already are aware of, is a very, very
important emotion. Many of us can get caught up in the stressors of life.
Many of us can get caught up in the things that we have to do.
Every one of us has a never-ending to-do list, where we are being pulled,
or we are being demanded to do things that sometimes we are happy to
do, and other times we just need to get it done. However, that can
override the sense of gratitude that we should be carrying with us as
often as we possibly can.
Look around you right now and start realising all the things that
you have in your life.
When you become disconnected from that, when you start wallowing in
the stressors of your life or things you must do or the problems you must
solve, you can become easily disconnected from all of the things that
you're so fortunate that you have.
When you do a daily gratitude, what you are doing is you are
conditioning empowering emotions.
You are reminding yourself of all the things that you are so
fortunate to have in your life.
Now, I get it. You might be facing many challenges right now. You
could be confronted with a whole stack of problems that you are forced
to solve right now, this week, this month, whatever it may be.
Having said that, there are still plenty of things that you are probably
grateful for if you took the time to sit down, write them down, dwell on
them, think about them.
That is what we are talking about here. When you do a daily gratitude,
you give yourself the opportunity to experience the empowering
emotions that come with realising that you have so much to be grateful
for.
You want to, every single day once you have gone through your
three questions in your success journal, rewrite your gratitude
statements every single day, in your success journal.
You might start by being grateful that you are alive, that you woke up
this morning, and maybe your health is not great, but some parts of your
health are okay. Start there. It gives you a baseline to work with, and
then evolve and expand from there.
The point being is if you start dwelling on what you have, you will
experience the emotions of having that and you will be able to carry
that through on your day, and it gives you a much more powerful
state to attack the rest of your problems in your day moving
forward.
Here's the thing. This should take you no more than about five minutes.
Five minutes is plenty of time, sometimes even less. You can go longer
if you want if you are enjoying documenting and writing down and
brainstorming and bullet-pointing all the things that you have in your life.
That is great.
When you reach that emotional state, now you are empowered to
take on the rest of your day.
If you need, refer to the accompanying guide below for a list of other
ideas.
When writing your daily list of “things to be grateful for”, you can use the
suggestions below to help you along…
• Your health
• Your family
• Your friends
• Fresh air to breathe
• Clean water
• Enough healthy food
• Shelter
• Safety/security
• Access to the internet
• Freedom of speech
• Holidays
• Technology
• Your cell phone
• Your computer
• Your vehicle/bike
• Electricity
• Eyesight
• Hearing
• Healthcare
• Music
• Movies
• Books
• Your free time
• Your freedom of choice
• Love
If you are having a hard time and saying, "Well, nothing is good in my life
right now, and everything stinks and I am stuck," and you do not know
what you are talking about, go to the suggested list we have provided to
you. Look at some of those things there.
I am going to guarantee you that at least five of them do, and probably
more. When you realise that, and you realise how much more you have
than perhaps other people in this world, you become grateful and you
experience much more positive emotions than the negative emotions
that come with overwhelm or looking at a giant to-do list or looking at
your problem list.
All right, so at this point you have got your success journal, you have
done your daily three-question task that we discussed, then you went on
and spent maybe five minutes or so doing your daily gratitude.
Because this stuff does not happen by default. It does not happen
naturally. We have to create it for ourselves.
There's a saying by Zig Ziglar that says "motivation often doesn't last,
either does bathing." That is why we recommend you do it daily.
These are all things that you can use to establish your mindset and get
you feeling that level of enthusiasm that I mentioned earlier so that you
can attack your day versus limping into it because of your giant to-do list
that bogs you down and then never gets done because your mindset is
so weak.
Here's the cool thing. As you go through and maybe read that
inspirational book or pull out a couple of good blog posts from your
bookmark list or maybe you are listening to a half an hour of audio from
a great speaker.
As you go through this, write down little key phrases or little lessons
learned.
I will never forget the time I read the book by Susan Jeffers called "Feel
the Fear and Do It Anyway". I realised there were so many things I had
no clue about when it came to facing my fears and how fears were
holding me back.
This is where your journal comes in handy again, because not only are
you establishing the things we talked about earlier when it comes to your
key lessons and your gratitudes, but you are also documenting new
things that you are learning. New insights that you are gaining that are
giving you a burst of inspiration at the moment.
You can go back in time. You can remember, "Hey, back on March 7th;
I remember that day distinctly. I got a lot done. I was feeling great.
Let's check out my journal. What kind of stuff was I reading? What was
I involved in? What kind of mental stimulus was I using to establish my
mindset that day?"
As you go through it, document the key lessons learned in your journal.
So this is your to-do. Make sure you take the time to do it each and
every day as part of your foundation ritual.
However, sooner or later, you forget. You forget about that emotion, or
you lose that passion. You forget about the thoughts that created the
feeling to begin with.
Before you know it, you are sucked back into a giant to-do list, being
pulled in multiple directions, having that feeling of overwhelm that we
discussed earlier.
This happens to the best of us, and it will control you if you do not turn
around and control it.
As you feed your mind every single day and as you learn things about
yourself, what inspires you, what motivates you, what makes you feel
secure and empowered to attack your tasks versus falling victim to your
duties?
All of these little insights that you learn and gain along the way as you go
through your success journal, become little hints for you like things that
you should be creating as mantras.
When you think back and you go, "Man, why was I so motivated that day
and why am I feeling so down right now?" using your success journal,
you can revisit those lessons. With mantras, you can have a series of
statements that you can use that will help you recreate the emotion
when you lose it.
If you document the mantras that work well for you and you write them
down every single day in your journal, then you can revisit, reread them
and rewrite them as often as you need, to recreate that powerful or
empowering state that we talked about earlier.
Or,
Or
A mantra to yourself might be, "I am brave and bold and express myself
fully every day."
This is the kind of stuff you can use to remind yourself and to train
yourself of the type of person that you are trying to become. Maybe you
are not there yet; maybe you are a little bit reserved. If you say this
particular mantra to yourself, "Hey, I need to be bold. I need to express
myself in every situation possible", gradually you become that person.
You may be feeling great when you do this ritual in the morning. You
are reading a success-based book, and you are reading all these stories
of people who have overcome challenges, and you're at the moment,
and you feel great, but as your day goes on you forget it.
When you have these mantras, not only in your mind but documented in
your journal so you can read them and then write them as often as you
need to, to recreate those emotions, now you are setting yourself apart.
So here's what we are going to do. Your to-do at this stage of the
game is to create a phrase or a sentence for each mindset that you
want to remember during the day.
Because sometimes the act of writing it will create the emotions more
powerfully than only reading it. However, because you have your journal
here and you are documenting things daily, then you have the
opportunity to do that as often as you see fit.
Now, moving onto the next part of your daily foundation, your daily
success ritual here, and that is reviewing your long-term goals.
If you do not have these, you have to create them. Knowing what your
long-term goals are; it might be from a business perspective; it might be
from a health and fitness perspective, relationships, financial.
Let's say for example right now, you are currently earning $80,000 a
year, and you want to double that. Your long-term goal would be to
make $160,000 a year.
You might have no clue how to do that right now, but that is your long-
term goal, and it gives you something to dwell on and think about and
plan on and scheme for every single day.
It is like your North Star. It is something that guides you and leads
you into the future, and ideally inspires you to keep going every
day, because that is an exciting possibility for the future.
If you do not set that as a long-term goal, how the heck do you know
what to do today?
That is the essential part of this, is your long-terms goals should be far
beyond your current capacity, and they should be about achieving your
full potential.
What are you capable of, if you push yourself? If you ask yourself,
"What am I capable of? What can I do that is far beyond my current
capacities? What excites me?"
The other question to that is what don't I like about my life right now that
I want to fix? If I am not happy with my financial situation, I can
complain about it, or I can decide and make a long-term goal to triple the
amount of money that I have and get excited about life again.
Then your daily success ritual becomes a lot more exciting because now
every single day you are thinking about how can I triple the amount of
money coming in. That is much more interesting than just living your life
day to day, just going through the motions.
This is very, very important. If you have never done this before, if you
do not have a few long-term goals right now pulling you in the direction
of your future, you need to create them, and you need to do it right now.
So here's your to-do. We have already talked about some to-dos in your
success journal. This is the second-to-last piece.
In your success journal, write each long-term goal down. You can
simply write it down as G-O-A-L put an underline and a colon, and
then get to writing.
Then document why you must achieve it. Think about all the
reasons, and not just because you want to buy more stuff if it is
money. What else does that mean to you?
What have you proven to yourself when you have taken your income
from $80,000 to $160,000? You have taught yourself a few lessons
about what you are capable of achieving, right? You could now retire
your parents? You could now spend more time with your loved ones?
So these are the reasons why, and you want to document the reasons
why you have these long-term goals. Remind yourself where you are
going and remind yourself why you are going in that direction.
From there, determine, out of this giant to-do list of all these
things that you have to do, determine which items feed and fuel
your long-term goals. In other words, which one of these elements
that you wrote down in your giant list of things to do today will
move you closer to those long-term goals that will bring you this
happy, successful, more empowered life that you want to live.
Once you have done that and you understand which of your daily
goals will move you in that direction, the third is key. Now it is
time to establish a top-down priority for each one of those
objectives. Let's say you have three long-term goals that are
guiding your life right now. A certain level of income, a certain
degree of fitness or health that you want to obtain, and maybe a
certain degree of relationship with your partner or your children or
whatever. These are three big ones.
Then you have a whole bunch of things you need to do that day.
You have to call your accountant, you have to take the car to the
shop, you have to do this and that. There's going to be some
things in there that fall under the umbrella of helping you achieve
those long-term goals of making more money, aching that higher
income level. Which one of those can you establish as the highest
priority action item? The highest objective for today. Write that
down as your number one priority, so that you can begin with
it. So that you can do that before you do anything else in
your day.
This is not always going to be a realistic scenario where the very first
thing you do each day connects with your number one long-term goal in
life, but for the most part, every day you go into your large task list with
some level of choice of what do I do first, second, third.
If you never establish a priority, you are probably just going to pick the
most convenient thing to do randomly. Whereas with this system, with
this approach, you are going to acknowledge what your long-term goals
are, then look at your daily to-dos and acknowledge this is priority one
based on my long-term goals, and choose to do that item first.
If nothing else gets done for the rest of your day because that item
took so long, at least you know you have moved closer to the most
important thing in your life.
If you live this way each and every day because you have established it
as a routine, as a ritual, what are the odds that you are going to be far
more successful, far happier with the results you are achieving in your
life after three months, after six months, after a year?
You already know what the answer is. However, it all comes down to
you following through and doing this system.
Let's put it into an action item, so you know specifically what to do.
Write down your main tasks and objectives for the day in your success
journal. Again, this could be everything. The high-priority long-term goal
related stuff, and the trivial things.
Pick three to five items as a top priority for the day. Most days you are
probably not going to achieve more than about five major things.
Then just simply place a one, two, three, four, five beside each of that
primary activity, and then get to work on doing them in that exact priority.
Again, your list may be 50 different things here, and that is fine. You can
document them and stay aware of all the things that you need to get
done, but this system and this ritual allow you to think about what's most
important to you constantly. It helps you build those decision-making
muscles that will guide you in deciding, "How do I attack each day.
What do I do first? When I get that done, what do I do second?
Each and every day, how do I get primed for success? What's my
foundation?
Start with your success journal. You should be living with this thing.
You may even show it to other to increase your accountability. However,
know this, it is yours and yours only.
Your success journal is all about the whole concept of what gets
measured gets managed.
Once you have that journal, you have a place to start; you have those
three questions to answer, then you can go into your daily gratitudes.
This is how you set yourself up for success, by creating emotions that
are far stronger than any negative emotions that might be associated
with overwhelmed or big to-do lists that we all get sucked into.
Imagine the difference of somebody who logs into their email and
Facebook every morning versus someone who does a five-minute daily
gratitude and takes the time to dwell on everything that they are grateful
for, that they feel good about in their lives.
Once you have done your daily gratitude, you are going to
establish your mindset.
As you do that and you learn more and more about yourself and
what works for you, then you want to implement those in the form
of mantras or reminders to yourself.
Little short statements or phrases that remind you of the type of person
that you are becoming. The type of person that you intend to be. The
kind of mindsets that empower you.
Maybe you used to become overwhelmed when you saw a big to-do list.
Now with your success mantras and the studying you have been doing
every single day as part of your daily foundation, you immediate
associate a big to-do list with you being a capable, powerful person who
gets through not only that to-do list but more.
If I think about all those things, this is really what I want and whom I want
to be. I need to write that down and document it and think about it and
dwell on it daily so that I get ideas about what to do for this last piece.
What are my daily goals? What are some of the actions I should be
pursuing today that move me in that direction of those long-term
goals that we have just talked about and we just covered?
Your journal contains all of that thought process, all of those decisions
and all of those actions that you have been taking along the way.
Conclusion
If not, then make sure that the time you do choose to do this stuff is
consistent so that you never forget to it.
The first concept is having a powerful start to your day, to set the
tone.
Imagine the difference between two different people in these two distinct
scenarios. Person number one, let's call her Sally, she wakes up every
morning with a very strict routine of putting on her shoes and going for a
run, coming back and reading a half an hour of empowering information
that inspires and motivates her to get her day going.
Put these two people side by side. I gave them arbitrary names and
random circumstances, but in Sally's situation, here we have somebody
that's already got off to an explosive start.
Whereas Doug still has to bring himself up to that level, because he has
had a very slow start about how he hopes to be the rest of the day from
a productivity perspective.
This is about the principle of starting in general. Think about people who
are extremely high achievers, highly productive. Hopefully that is you,
and hopefully, you can explore times in your past where you have been
extremely productive.
In general, people that are high achieving, that gets a lot done, are
always willing to start.
I have a lot of great ideas, and I am writing things down, but I was not
making any progress.
Now, this is before I could execute any of the other plans regarding
things like deciding who my customers would be, what business I was
going to do and all of the other incredibly important details that go with
starting a business.
However, embracing this concept of explosive start, I took the first step,
and that was learning from the gurus, putting my money down,
essentially locking myself in before any of those other conditions were
perfect.
In fact, there were no conditions whatsoever, other than the first situation
I created, by making the decision to learn from someone else.
I was pretty much tied in at this point. I was not only emotionally
invested; I was financially invested in making sure this thing
happened.
Otherwise, that money I paid to learn was gone. When you are starting
a business, you do not want to start off your head off into the reds.
The interesting thing that happened was once it was booked, all of the
other finer details eventually came into play.
I figured out what I wanted to do. I thought out whom my clients were
going to be and how to reach out to them, so on and so forth.
Lots and lots of details, and I had to learn it all on the fly.
I got started, and eventually because I got started, I was able to get
finished.
That is the key piece here. Explosive starts can be the difference
between success and failure, when you make the decision and
when you decide in favour of yourself and your goals.
It is great to embody this whole idea of, okay, I am going to get started, I
am going to snap my fingers and get my energy levels up and get going,
except you need to have some direction to go in.
So before we dive into becoming that explosive starter, let's make sure
that you know where you are going and what you want to do and what's
most important to you.
You can do this in some journal or notebook. If you want to write it down
on paper, or you can do it electronically on a smartphone device or your
laptop.
It does not matter how you do it. The key thing is to get everything out
of your head.
Get them all out of your head and written down, so that you can look at
them and examine them.
Once you have done that, you can start scanning through them and
eventually get to the point here where you determine your highest
priority tasks of the day.
There are probably going to be, on an average day, four, five, six, seven
things that you want to get done, that you consider "high priority"
regarding advancing your success. Be it in your business, your financial
life, your relationship life, whatever. It is up to you to make those
priorities.
The key piece here is you must choose, decide, pick, a single task
as your priority number one task of the day.
Meaning that you cannot let this day go by, you cannot do anything else
until you complete this priority number one task.
Again, this has to relate back to what's most important to you in your life,
and it goes back to your value system.
However, you choose to pick your priority one item is up to you. That is
a gut check. That is something that you are going to have to look at
your life and where you are trying to go, but ultimately you need to
decide on one thing as your priority number one for the day.
Circle it on your list, write it down again, whatever you need to do, to
highlight it as the number one priority for your day.
Then you can move onto the next piece, which is determining two
to three additional high-priority items.
This is assuming that you get priority number one done. Where would
you want to go next?
Because once you get in the mode, once you start being productive, you
do not want to sit and evaluate again. Take the time to evaluate all this
once so then you can just put your head down and go.
Finally, organise the rest of your lower priority items into your list for the
day.
I understand, and I am sure you do as well, that you are going to have
huge, big priorities that relate to significant life goals that you are
working towards, but that does not mean you can suddenly ignore
paying the bills or taking the kids to school or feeding your cat.
All those things still have to happen, but they are a lower priority in the
grand scheme of things. You can still document them, and you can still
organise them so that at least consciously you have an idea of where
they are going to get handled and when they are going to get handled.
You may find this similar to setting daily goals. It is, in essence, the
same but this chapter will break down into finer details for your to start
your day right.
That brings us to your first to-do or your first action item. So it is all
about getting organised, and again, use your success journal!
Three different areas that you can look at and evaluate as you go about
your day, from the time you get started until basically the time you shut
off the lights and go to bed.
There should only be one item inside of bucket number one, and that is
your biggest, most high-priority task of the day.
Put it in there, look at it, evaluate it and accept the fact that this is your
number one, you are going to be doing this thing today.
Second bucket. This is where you put your two to three additional
high-priority tasks.
Should number one get completed and get finished, then you know
exactly where you are going second, third, fourth and so on.
Once you identify those in the second bucket, then all of the lower
priority tasks that you know you need to get done, you have got to
fill them in here and there, you can put those in bucket number
three.
Have them written down, so you will not forget about them, but you are
not going to dwell on them all that much because you have bigger things
to focus on here.
You have a priority scale, and you have buckets that you can revisit
throughout your day. Do not waste any time finding where to go next. As
you attack your day, hopefully from a position of power and aggression,
you will get these things completed so you can be happy with your level
of productivity.
Now that you understand your priorities for the day and you have, most
importantly, identified a priority number one, let's talk quickly about why
this is so powerful, why it is important to have a priority one task.
Because what this allows you to do, when you understand your biggest
priority for the day in relation to your most important life goals, is to focus
all of your energy on completing a single task before you do anything
else. So that the rest of your tasks, the rest of your day, actually flows
more smoothly and seems relative to what you've already done, seems
easier.
Imagine if you were to do all of your low-priority stuff first that is really
easy to get done, but in the back of your mind, you are letting this big
thing grow into something that it probably shouldn't be.
When we are talking about success rituals, we want to make sure that
you create a routine of starting things, of understanding what your
priority is, so that this never becomes an issue for you, or at least you
drastically reduce the possibility of it becoming a long-term problem for
you.
When you understand your priority number one task, and you focus all of
your energy, probably first thing in the morning on doing that task,
completing it before you do anything else, be prepared for what I like to
call low priority mental nagging.
Because you have gone through your buckets, you know you have a
priority one, you know you have got some lower priority stuff, and then
you know you have got a bunch of to-do's that are going to be kind of
nagging at you behind the scenes or mentally.
Even if you were to spend your whole day getting rid of those low-
priority things, a whole batch of new low-priority things is going to
come in and replace them.
So those are always there, and you know that instinctively already.
If you can prepare in advance, mentally, know that as you go into your
day and you do nothing but priority number one, you will accept and then
ignore all of that mental nagging for those low-priority tasks, because
you are choosing to be a starter.
You are choosing to create a ritual of being somebody who gets the
most important high-priority item done first before you move on.
If you can prepare for that, know it's coming, do it more often, as you do
this daily and it becomes a ritual, those low-priority mental nagging items
will become less of an issue. To the point where you will be able to
ignore them entirely, because you are going to see the power of this.
You are going to live the strength of finishing your highest priority task
first, and you will see that you always have time left to do those low-
priority things.
You are going to get them done, and they are going to come back
up the next day anyways.
Just get started. That is the moral here. And then, of course, know
what to do, what to focus on, especially when you first get started
here, is the second half of that equation.
Knowing your priority one, your highest priority item for the day. That is
the main to-do that I would like to suggest to you here, that you walk
away with.
Your To-Do
So your to-do, your action item, is to take the priority number one item
that you identified in the previous exercise and complete it first.
If you are literally going through this as you start your day, then you want
to pause right now and go and do it.
Especially setting that tone for your day so that the rest of your
tasks seem easy or seem lower challenged.
That might mean that you give yourself an hour towards this task or the
morning. At your lunch break is when you stop, and you move onto your
other duties.
Whatever it is for your particular project, the main thing here is, without
really worrying about perfection, the main thing is whatever your priority
one task is, get started on it and give yourself a significant amount of
time to spend on doing it.
Again, this is before you do any of those lower priority "nagging" tasks.
You are going to leave them to the side for now so that you can focus
exclusively on this so you can receive the benefit of actually finishing
your biggest priority task and watch how the rest of your day then begins
to adapt to that completion and to that win, as you have started your day
off.
Why can't I put it off to a bit later once my day is going and I am
caffeinated, and I have got my phone calls out of the way?
For example, let's put these priority tasks and all these things to the side
for a minute and talk about something very fundamental in life.
I have used this example personally. I know other people that have as
well. The ritual of flossing. You want to become somebody who flosses
every single day. It is a small little habit. It does not take all that much
time to complete.
Then they go in for their dental checkup, and that is when they wish they
had done it more frequently.
Well, I remember putting the power of momentum into play for this
very simple ritual of flossing.
All I did was over the course of three days, I forced myself to floss. I set
reminders; I had a little thing on my phone, I had some different
strategies in place to make sure that I forced myself, no matter what,
before going to bed, for three straight days, I was going to floss no
matter what.
At the end of the third day, it had already become something that I was
proud of. It had become something that I realised, wow, this is not all
that difficult. An extra minute in my evening ritual and I am incorporating
a success habit, a health habit, that I want to have, that I simply forget to
do a lot of the time.
When the fourth evening hit, this little pressure sort of hit my brain, even
though it was no longer in my reminder set on my calendar anymore,
this pressure activated in my mind saying, "you have already got three
days going here. Let's make it a fourth."
That is what I am talking about with positive pressure. You can start
building a momentum in your life for all the positive habits that you want
to create, simply by forcing yourself to execute on it for a small number
of times.
This could be something like going to the gym or going for a run every
day. Sometimes it is even just starting your run. "I am going to run to
the first stop sign and see what happens." Very often, just getting there,
you say, well, I have already gotten this far. Let's see how far I can go
now.
There are plenty of examples of this that happen in your life all the time,
and it is simply the power of momentum taking you over. Over and over
and over again.
When you execute priority number one, and you complete it, you have
set yourself up for a momentum of productivity. The rest of the items on
your task list, on your priority list, are going to be far easier to complete
because you are now in energy or flow of momentum that you
deliberately created, knowing exactly how this would impact your life.
Here is exactly what I am going to suggest you do right now if you want
to put this into play, and actually if you want to experience the power of
momentum in your life, over and above the exercises we have talked
about here.
Pick a small habit. Something you can implement starting today. You
could use my dental floss example. It could be anything that doesn't
require a whole lot of thought or effort. It is simply something you have
to remember to do.
See the fact that you will want to execute this new habit on the fourth
day, simply because you do not want to break the streak.
After you have done this, you have picked a habit that you want to have
in your life anyway, so there's no reason to stop doing this at all.
Plan to keep going, but study your mindset. Consider what happens to
you with the positive pressure that gets created when you choose to
embrace the power of momentum.
Then we talked about the power of momentum, that can only occur once
you get started. And that's exactly what we want to drive home here.
That brings us to the final thought here, and that is the idea of you
need to keep starting.
Even though you have had an explosive start to your day, even though
you have picked a priority number one and you have chosen deliberately
to complete that, in order to create a momentum for your day and
ultimately for your life, you must now realise that you have to keep
starting.
Even once you have reached the end of priority number one and you've
done your big task for the day, you now need to move on to your next
task.
If you developed the ritual, the habit, the mindset, the conditioning of
always starting something new, then you can begin to implement this
and achieve all the things you want to achieve.
I have three different ideas you can run with. Let them sink in as
you begin to implement these concepts into your life.
Often what will happen is you will set your big priority for the day, or
maybe you are moving on to your next priority, and you will hit a bit of a
mental or energy block where you do not really feel like getting started,
or you have some self-doubts. You are not sure what to do first.
Instead, recognise that it is a block for you, and then force yourself
to spend a 15-minute focus block doing nothing but thinking about
the task at hand.
This does not mean that you create the pressure that you must complete
this right now, at this moment.
What you will find happens, nine times out of ten, is that your 15-minute
focus block allows you to activate some energy. You will get an idea,
and now you know how to get started, and you can begin diving into
your task at hand, be it your priority one of the day or whatever action
you are moving onto right now.
As you go through your day, as you complete your big priority items and
you move into the lower priority or even small priority ones, you want to
make sure that you write down and consciously recognise all the things
that you have done throughout a given day.
You actually might surprise yourself that when you get to the end of the
day, you think back and you think, "oh geez, I only completed this one
thing or these two things." However, when you track your completes you
might get to the end of the day and realise there were three dozen things
that you got done, over and above these high-priority tasks that you also
committed to.
You close your day off feeling successful, feeling empowered and
recognising your achievements.
It does not have to be extravagant, it does not have to be over the top,
but you need to put some system in place to reward yourself for not only
starting but sticking to and completing all of the things that you deem a
high priority in your life.
In closing, the lesson here, the main message I want you to walk home
with is a starter.
Every task can be broken down into something that you can take action
on right now and will always fit back into the perspective that it needs to
be in.
You will look at it for what it is, and you will take action, you will get
started on what needs to be started at the moment.
What we want to do for you today is give you some ideas and strategies
and tips as to how you can go about your day as a high achiever, as
somebody who likely has a lot of goals and things that you are looking to
build into your life, and keep your energy levels high.
Now, this is not necessarily an area that many people spend much time
on. What we want to do here today is raise your awareness or help you
become conscious of your energy levels and the amount of energy you
bring, how that plays a role in your overall success in your life, and
particularly how you can take proactive steps to manage and ultimately
maximise your energy levels.
Before we get there, I want to share a quote with you from Tony
Schwartz. He says, "We create the highest value, not by how many
hours we work but by how much energy we are capable of bringing
to whatever hours we work. We create the most value as human
beings when we find a dynamic balance between work and rest."
I emphasise the word balance here because I believe this is the area we
all struggle with the most.
You are reading this eBook right now because you are a success-
oriented individual and high achiever. Alternatively, you want to be. You
would not have picked up this program if you were not.
There are going to be times where you are pedal-to-the-metal, and you
are putting in the hours, and you realise you have not taken enough
down time to let yourself recharge and come back and be your best self,
bringing that high-quality energy to your working hours.
At the same time, maybe you have tried to take some breaks and take
your foot off the pedal a little bit, and maybe you did it a bit too long, and
you found that your breaks were almost hurting you, to an extent.
The rituals we help you define today will help you find that balance,
but also maximise your energy levels when you do choose to
expend that energy.
Second, help you identify rituals, so you do not have to think about it all
that often, you just do these things, so you can use these to maximise
your energy levels on a daily basis. Sometimes you are going to need
this on an hourly basis if you are really pushing hard and have much
stuff on the go.
Prerequisites
Now, to get the most out of this training, we have a few assumptions
here, I call them prerequisites. I just want to make sure you go into this
with the right frame of mind.
If you do not fall into these assumptions nicely, in other words, if you
have not hit all of these as prerequisites, then I am going to suggest you
take a few minutes to make sure that you meet these prerequisites.
It should not take you all that long, as somebody who is already an
achiever and goal-oriented, you probably have a lot of this stuff on the
go already.
First, you have clearly defined goals. You know where you are
going. It could be in multiple areas of your life.
I do not know what it is for you. There are probably multiple areas, but
they are clearly defined.
Now, you may have some huge goals, and you do not know the exact
steps and processes you are going to follow to reach the end state of
those goals, but you have a plan that you are working.
Maybe that plan is changing on a daily or weekly basis, but you have a
plan that you are following. In other words, you have some action that
you are taking towards these goals.
Obviously, any hours that you do spend working on your goals, you want
to get the most out of yourself so those working hours are very, very
useful.
If you are running on empty, if you have not slept enough or maybe you
skipped a whole night of sleep to get a project done, you are going to
realise very quickly that your productivity and energy is going to be
impacted by that.
You want to be able to make sure that you have plans in place to
maximise your energy, so you are not affected by these kinds of
scenarios.
This could include things like thinking, your focus, your imagination, your
visualisation. How energetic do you feel when it comes to your mental
energy?
Focus is probably the biggest one here. If you find yourself as the type
of person who's easily distracted, a good example would be social media,
do you almost have an addictive personality where you check social
media more often than you should, where it interrupts high, critical,
important tasks that are relevant to you and your goals?
For some reason, the social media, or maybe it is email, or you are
checking texts on your cell phone, whatever it may be, your focus is
being diverted away.
That is an indication that your mental energy may be suffering.
The second energy type that you want to take into consideration
here as we go through this is emotional energy.
This deals with your sense of well-being. A big one is your self-talk.
What is the kind of phrases or thought patterns that are going through
your mind? In turn, how are those making you feel? What's your
general level of happiness?
These are all descriptive phrases that will kind of give you an indication
of what your emotional levels of energy are at.
Third and finally, and this is probably the most obvious, things that
you feel on a daily basis, your physical energy.
If we can balance all three levels here, we will then feel a maximum
level of energy that we can then bring to the quality hours that we
want to put in, in our productive working time.
To help you get the most out of this chapter and pick and develop the
rituals that will work best for you and your energy maintenance plan, we
want to help you uncover your sweet spot.
This will be the sweet spot where you are expending just the right
amount of energy so that you feel good, you are productive, at the
same time you are not overdoing it and feeling burnt out.
Too much of something can cause pain. At the same time, too little of
that same thing may also cause pain.
Look no further than the fitness world. How often you work out and use
your muscles and use your body plays a perfect role here.
If you are the type of person who goes crazy and tries to work out
multiple times a day, you will quickly realise that your body is going to
burn out and will be less effective with that level of intensity, over a long
period.
Either example here, you are going to get pain, and you are going to feel
like you are out of sync. In other words, you are not in the balance.
That is what the sweet spot is all about. Finding a place where your
energy expenditure is in the balance with the type of personality that you
are.
That brings me to your complex. You are likely going to be one of
two. You are either going to be the complex of somebody who's a
worrywart or a superhero.
If you are a worrywart, you are the type of person that probably thinks to
themselves, "I am overdoing it, I am working too many hours, I am going
to burn out," and you start getting stressed out about how much energy
you are putting forth towards your goals and your endeavours.
Opposite end of the coin, maybe you have a superhero complex and you
feel like burning out is just a myth. That cannot happen to me. The
more hours I work, the more successful I would be, to your detriment.
You do not even see what's going on, as you run yourself into the
ground and become less successful over time because you are
overdoing it.
So are you the type of person who under does it a little bit, or are you
overdoing it? Either way, you are probably going to have pain, because
you are not maximising your energy and you are not maximising the
hours you bring into that productive working time.
To Do: Your Disposition
Your first to-do will be to pause right now and take the time to brainstorm
your general disposition.
Think about it. Honestly and truthfully on a daily basis, are you
more prone to overdo it or underdo it?
Be honest with yourself here, because let's say you are the type of
person who overdoes it and thinks you can work 20 hours a day and
never have any negative consequences to that.
This will help you pick which energy maintenance rituals will be the
most useful for you, just like somebody who under-do it will have
to have a different set of energy maintenance rituals.
So pause now, make a decision as to your general disposition and then
use that moving forward.
Now that you have done that, it is time to take a look at your energy
measurement, and this is where you get a read on how you have been
to date.
You want to learn how to read your mental, emotional and physical
energy levels at any given time.
Again, you probably haven't done this very often before. You are a goal-
oriented person, and a high-achiever. You are never probably given
much thought to your energy levels on an hourly basis.
What causes your energy to peak, and what causes your energy to dip?
Have you ever actually thought about those things?
Have you ever noticed maybe you are in a funk, well, what caused you
to get into that funk? Was it a comment from somebody? Did
something go wrong at work? Did you just happen to have a bad
morning and for no reason, you are suddenly out of your normal flow
state that you like to be in?
If you never really take the time to assess it and to audit what's
determining or impacting your energy levels, then how can you
possibly correct it?
You cannot. This is the exact purpose of this particular point that I am
going over right now.
Exercise
Again, this will give you tremendous insight into what determines your
energy levels, because each and every person is a little bit different.
As an example, a negative comment from a colleague or a peer or a
friend or even a family member may motivate one person to make them
extremely productive while for another person it might cause them to go
into a funk, where they're feeling depressed and angry and sorry for
themselves and they get nothing done.
These are the kind of indicators you want to look for and do this for all
three areas.
Think about your mental energy levels. Think about your emotional
energy levels, and also your physical energy levels.
So again, what times of day your energy peaked, times of day your
energy dipped and the factors that contributed to both the peaks and the
dips.
Now that you have done that, you are ready to start looking at various
strategies, techniques, tips that you can begin implementing as rituals,
into your daily life, for maximising your energy.
We are going to do this for three different areas. We are going to
come at this from three different perspectives if you will:
1. How you work.
2. How you adapt daily.
3. How you live generally.
All three of these areas have a huge impact on the amount of energy
you will experience and feel at any given time, and we want to start with
how you work.
What we are talking about here is how you spend your time in your
productive working hours.
People are working extremely long hours, with very few breaks in
between.
The post is called "The 90-Minute Solution: Why Less is Truly More,"
and I would like you to read just a short segment from it here.
So if you have been pulling 8, 10, 12, 14-hour days, you need to stop
that right now and develop a new energy maintenance plan.
Start with one today, literally today. Do not go any further throughout
this eBook or your work day without doing this one.
Create a work block and a break block and force yourself to stick to
it. Do it once today, once tomorrow and start building upon this, to
the point where this is your only mode of operation.
You work in the 90s and you rest for the 30s, knowing that this will
maximise your energy levels and will make you the most productive you
can be when you are on. And when you are not, you disconnect entirely
and disengage from what you are doing, and that will ensure you have
maximum levels of energy.
At the same time, when you are focused, when you are turned on and
getting your work done, there are going to be opportunities for your
energy to dip, and you have probably seen this before.
You have got a deadline, you cannot afford to hit an energy lull right now,
but sometimes it happens.
It could be mentally, emotionally, physically, some combination thereof.
The following tips and advice can be things that you can start
implementing, rituals you can start creating, that will help you maximise
your energy when you need it the most.
Shadowboxing Ritual
What you want to do here, it works best with pen and paper; you can
also do it with a tablet or a laptop where you type it out, but the key thing
is to do it and do the following.
Write a series of empowering statements to yourself, reminding
yourself how you want to be.
It is almost like you are speaking to yourself, but you are doing it in the
form of print or written.
What you will notice begins to happen, just after a minute or two of
doing this, is you will feel an energy shift. This is an excellent way
to reconnect with the higher side of your personality, the most
potent part of your personality.
The only difference here is this one you are speaking out loud to
yourself.
The previous one, maybe you are in an office environment, and you're
surrounded by many people, and you do not want to do this technique,
that one works great.
If you work alone and there's nobody around, or you just don't care, then
you can use this.
Note this one down as another potential ritual you can incorporate.
Physical State Change Ritual
Next one: Physical state change. This one is huge, and it is something
that not very many people use.
Clap your hands. Shout out loud. Anything that moves you from low
physical energy to high physical energy.
This can take impact within 30 seconds.
Imagine screaming out loud and clapping your hands together that, "I
can do it," whatever that statement may be to yourself while moving your
body around.
You are getting your heart rate up. You are physically changing the
state of your body. This will impact your emotional and your mental
state as well.
Once again, note this down as a potential ritual for you to incorporate.
Meditation and Relaxation Ritual
Now, going to the other end of the spectrum here, meditation and
relaxation.
Sometimes taking your mind off of everything and simply thinking about
nothing might be the exact solution you need to revive yourself and feel
a new sense of energy spur up from within.
In this case, you can find a good guided meditation on a place like
YouTube. You can find some relaxing music, put on some
headphones and simply close your eyes and decompress, for at
least 15 minutes.
This is important. This one takes a little bit longer because it takes your
body a little bit of time to calm down from a high-stress state.
So this is something you might want to wait to incorporate during one of
your 20-minute decompression or break blocks.
Note this one down as another potential ritual for you to use daily.
Mental Stimulation
It might have something to do with your industry or the business that you
are in. It might have something to do with a goal you are working
towards. Maybe you have some side project you are working on, and
you're following a master, somebody who's incredible at designing
kayaks, and you want to be able to design kayaks at the level they do it.
Well, maybe just watching them perform their craft and perform their
artwork for 10 minutes gets you so excited and motivated about your day,
about what you are working on, that it shifts your energy from low to high.
Sometimes that mental stimulation, seeing it on a video or reading
a short chapter in a book, will give you just the energy boost you
need to get back on track in your focused block of concentration.
So note this one down and don't forget to use it anytime you feel your
energy dip.
Every day for the next seven days, choose one energy booster that
you will use, the moment that you notice your energy beginning to
dip.
You are going to start noticing this all the time because of this chapter.
You are becoming consciously aware of your energy levels on an hourly
basis.
When you notice the energy dip, pick one of the boosters that we
have discussed here, give it a shot and then document them.
One of these might work better than some of the others, so find the ones
that work the best for you and use that one as often as you need to, but
don't forget that variety is also important.
So create these as rituals, but don't be afraid to switch from one to the
other.
The key thing is that you develop an energy maintenance plan that gives
you the energy you need to accomplish the tasks you need to perform.
So have some fun with it, but make sure you develop it as a ritual. Do it
once every day for the next seven days.
We have talked about how you work, and we spoke about the 90-minute
blocks. We talked about how you adapt daily, and we have given you
some potential rituals that you will begin incorporating into your life right
now.
And this is something for you to start thinking about and start
making some long-term decisions on, but we did not want to leave
it out, and it is how you live generally.
With that, I would like to leave you with one final exercise that you can
use to address how you live so that it can have a positive impact on your
energy levels, and you can incorporate this into your energy
maintenance plan.
What I would like you to do is pick one area that we covered in the
how you live section that will have the highest impact on your
energy improvement.
If you want, you can create another category for yourself as well, but
these are the big ones.
Picking the highest impact one for you, spend the next seven days
"fixing" that area.
Let's say, for example, you know that your fitness levels can be
improved. You do not do enough with your body, you are not all that fit,
and it is causing you to have huge dips in your energy, and it is actually
impacting your ability to achieve your goals.
Over the next seven days, every single day, do something that improves
your fitness. Go for a walk, go for a jog, do a 10-minute in-home
workout or maybe join a gym and start working with a personal trainer.
Again, the key here is to pick one, the highest impact one, so that you
can begin working on it immediately and building it as a ritual.
You have now become more conscious, more aware of your energy,
your energy levels and how it impacts your productivity.
Hopefully, you have decided on particular rituals that you can begin
incorporating, based on your personality type or your complex, and you
have a series of activities you can begin using immediately. Especially
those we covered over the next seven days, that will change your
personality and change what you do on a daily basis, that will have the
hugest impact you can have, on your energy levels.
This is something that many people that are driven for success, people
that are very goal-oriented and have much stuff they want to achieve,
very often forget to do.
We can hang our hat on the fact that every day we put maximum effort
into what we do, and that is necessary for success.
However, you can overdo it. You can go overboard here and reach
a point where you get a diminishing set of returns on your efforts.
I think you understand this concept if you have ever pushed yourself
kind of beyond your limits. Maybe you have pulled a couple of all-
nighters, and you started to realise what happened to your body when
you did not give yourself a chance to recharge and renew.
You are working hard, you are working diligently toward your goals, but
you're also planning your times to recharge and renew so that the time
when you are working is fully productive and fully maximised for your
efficiency and long-term success as well.
Maybe you are taking on many commitments, and over the next week,
you are going to be putting in double the hours that you may want to do
or you may be planning to do on a regular basis.
However, you are prepared to make that sacrifice because it gets you
closer to your goal, it moves you up the next step in your success ladder
or whatever that may be.
So the first concept we are going to talk about here is having a planned
stopping time.
We are starting at the end of your day here. I am going to assume that
you have already been a hardworking individual. You have already
accomplished a lot of the tasks that you want to accomplish, or at least
made strides towards those.
We want to acknowledge right now the fact that you also need to plan a
time to stop so that you can build in these recharge and renewal rituals
that we are going to be talking about here.
Any time you give a direction to your mind where you are extremely
clear about the outcome, you have a far better chance of success at
whatever it is you are going to do.
You are playing a game of darts. You are aiming for the middle. You
know exactly where your brain is trying to throw that dart. Whether you
hit that or not probably depends on your amount of experience with that
particular sport, but you get the idea.
If you know where you are going, there's a very good chance you
are going to get there eventually.
Same thing goes with building a recharge ritual into your life. If you give
yourself a planned block of time for work and then a planned stop time,
where there's no wiggle room, where you're actually going to commit
yourself to stopping. Now you've given yourself a framework for success
when it comes to building in a recharge ritual into your life.
Knowing that you are going to have a planned stop time, how will you in
your life hold yourself to the commitment that I plan to stop my workday
at 3 p.m., at 5 p.m., at 7 p.m., whatever it may be for you?
You will have to make the call on the amount of time required to reach
the success you're trying to reach for, but acknowledge the fact that
whether your day is a 5-hour day or 12-hour day, you do need to
recognize that stop time and hold yourself accountable to ending at that
time.
What you will find is happening as you commit to this and as you do this
more often, your designated work times now are very concise. They are
very clear to your brain.
Maybe you start your day at 8 a.m., and you have committed to stopping
at 4 p.m. Now your work blocks will have an increased sense of urgency.
You know that you have got to get all the stuff done, whatever you have
assigned yourself for that day, by 4 p.m., no if's, and's or but's.
Your level of urgency will increase. Naturally, what will happen at this
point is the amount of wasted time of your mind floating around, maybe
wasting time on social media or your cell phone texting when you should
not or maybe addictively checking your email. That will have a far less
chance of happening now because you have this focused block of time
to work in.
The last point I want to make here is the fact that when you do this,
you commit to an actual stop time, what you are doing is removing
ambivalence or this sense of choice.
When you remove the choice, your mind and body naturally accept this
commitment that you have made, and you almost enter the state of
surrender, where you will do what you have committed to do.
Your willpower fades, and you start eating the cookie or the bad food,
the fried food, whatever it may be. Removing that choice, removing the
ambivalence and committing to a stop time will ensure that you will
create the time to build in your recharge rituals which we will now dive
into.
However, first, let's make sure you lock this in. So your to-do right
now is to set an absolute, drop-dead time where you will stop work
completely each day.
I understand this may have to vary. It may have to change from day to
day. If you can stop at the same time every day, even better, because it
has a higher chance of becoming a ritual or routine in your life.
Do that now. Set it up for yourself so that it starts today and you can
move beyond.
Moving along our time scale here, once you have decided to stop work,
an important step is to bring some closure to your day by reviewing your
completes and reviewing your incompletes.
What happens here is that you are going to remove all this chatter or
worrying or concern or whatever it is from your mind, and assign it to
paper.
It gets it out of your head and puts it down so that you can review
and assess it and deal with it later on.
Remember, your goal here is to stop what you are doing. To stop the
work so that you can invest in the recharge phase.
By removing any other limiting factor, i.e. things that are pulling you back
into your to-do list or back into work, this will increase your chances of
actually sticking with your recharge phase.
So get it down on paper and worry about it later on. You cannot do
anything about it now because you are done your work day.
Very often, you are going to do this little exercise, maybe spend a few
minutes documenting what you finished that day, and it will blow your
mind. It is like, "Oh my goodness, look how much I finished today. I
stuck with my commitments. I got much stuff done, I even went beyond
some days and got even more done than I expected to do."
At the same time, it allows you to audit your time and look for any
inefficiencies.
Maybe there were a few segments of your day when you were not firing
on all cylinders, where you did waste some time, or you are not fully
committed or fully heads down on what you should have been. This lets
you acknowledge that, kind of review why it happened, and make sure it
does not happen again moving forward.
This is how you start building in long-term success habits into your
day.
Create a column for completes and then a column on the other side for
incompletes, and then spend 10 to 15 minutes maximum, this is after
you have stopped your work day, you are going to take the next 10 to 15
minutes to fill in both columns.
Write those down after your stop time. Do that today, and ensure you do
that every day is moving forward, as a new ritual.
Now, one final step here before you officially close out your day
after you have stopped work is to look at your next day priorities.
This is huge.
If you only implement this one tip from this training, I believe you will
walk away with a tonne of value and some real life changing advice. So
make sure you execute on what we are going to be talking about here.
Your job is to think, plan and ultimately prepare your next day, entirely in
advance.
You can allow your subconscious mind to sort of process what it is you
want to do the next day.
It is also a great time to set your next day's priorities right at the
end of your work day, because everything you have just finished,
your completes and more importantly your incompletes, are fresh
on your mind.
You can look at everything that is not done and decide at that moment,
what should I get back to work on tomorrow and are there some new
priorities that I need to put ahead of even some of these pressing
concerns right now.
It allows you to think about it, set a priority on it and understand moving
into your evening and ultimately the next day, exactly what you want to
be doing, eventually giving you a running start for your next day.
So your productivity will go up, but also your wasted time will go down
because you do not start your next day thinking about, "All right, what's
today's agenda? What's on my plate? Where did I leave off yesterday?"
It has already been handled the day before, and your mind, your
subconscious mind has had the entire night and even some of the
early parts of the morning to start preparing you for your day.
Here's what we are going to suggest doing here. Using the same pen
and paper, journal/electronic device, whatever you chose in the previous
exercise, looking at your incompletes and anything else on your plate
that you want to be achieving today and this week, choose between
three and seven priorities for your next day.
You might have heard this term, or this concept of the mind can
efficiently process three to seven things.
Anything beyond seven, you are going to start forgetting and getting
confused. So really try to stick within that range.
Then, write each one of these priorities down. You do not have to do it
in order right away. Take some time to look at them really, and then
before you are done, assign a number to each one. Number one being
the highest priority item and likely the thing you want to start first
tomorrow, down to seven, if you did a total of seven or whatever number
you stopped at.
Make sure you give a tangible, hard number priority to each one.
Do that as your to-do right now. Begin this today, and start doing this
every single day as a recharge/renewal ritual for your success.
Now, once you have gone through the concepts discussed so far and
you have done the to-do's or the exercises we have suggested, you are
really at a point now where you can begin your full recharge ritual. You
can disconnect from work.
That is exactly what we are going to be talking about here, are setting up
some disconnect activities that you will execute every single day.
The purpose here is to take your mind completely off your work or
whatever goals you are working towards right now.
What happens here, is you might have experienced this before in your
life, is when you disconnect and disengage fully, meaning you are not
even considering thinking about this thing or working on it, it produces a
very optimal creative state.
You might have noticed it when you were in the shower or maybe on
vacation, and some of your best ideas would strike your mind, seemingly
out of nowhere. It always comes from this state of not thinking about it,
not putting any effort towards these big goals you are consumed with,
during your work hours for the most part.
This might include things like participating in sports. Maybe you want to
join a local volleyball club or something like that. Watching movies.
People very often look at movie time as a waste of time; I do not want to
watch TV or movies because I could be doing something productive.
The whole point here is not to be productive. To let your mind kind
of flow and do what it needs to do outside of your focus hours.
You will be surprised what happens here.
It might also include volunteer work. It can still be work. You can still do
things that are making you feel like you are productive, but it is going to
You might also want to look at using this disconnect session for quality
time with your family. How often are you spending time with your kids or
your spouse or extended family, if you have it?
Maybe you evaluate some of your time habits over the course of a year
and realise, "I do not spend enough time with my parents or cousins or
sisters and brothers." Here's your time to build that back into your life,
and it will serve you in the form of disconnecting and allowing your brain
to recharge.
This can also happen in other types of recreational activities. Things like
rock climbing or going bowling may cost you a few bucks, but the
experience is so fun, and you can immerse yourself in that activity, have
a tonne of fun and at the same time get these benefits we are talking
about here. These creative states that only happen when you force
yourself to renew and recharge.
Finally, this could be a good time for you to work on maybe a hobby or
some skill development that has nothing to do with work but that will
have that rewarding feeling. This will give you something to look forward
to outside of your hard driving goals that you are focusing on each and
every day, as a success-oriented person.
So your to-do right now is to take the next five days, five work days
specifically, and select in advance one disconnect activity that you
plan to do for each of the five days.
It could be the same thing each day, or it could be one new thing times
five days, five different things, for the next five days.
So select those five right now and ensure that you begin them
today, as you go through your recharge ritual phase.
Now, creating rituals in your life that allow you to recharge or renew so
that you are fresh and productive each and every day, can take a few
different formats.
Right now, I would like to share with you some mental rechargers that
could come in handy, and walk you through some very specific tips on
how to use each one of these.
All three of these can be used as a means to help you kind of build
rituals, to renew and recharge your mind and body for the next day, and
each one of these may or may not come in handy, depending on your
style.
We will go through these, and then you can pick and choose which ones
work best for you.
From there, they would then be able to talk you through a series of
suggestions that would gradually change your beliefs on a particular
topic, until you eventually came away feeling different and better than
you did before.
But how would this work if you were both the patient and the hypnotist?
That is the key question here.
There are a few ways to practice self-hypnosis, but one of the most
effective and most similar to getting hypnotised professionally is to
use scripts.
What is a script?
The idea with a script is simple. You are going to be writing down the
part that would normally be spoken by your hypnotist, and then
recording it so that you can play it back to yourself or in some format.
Now, you can sit somewhere quiet and feel relaxed and listen to the
recording as though it were a professional hypnotist talking to you, or,
you might decide to memorise and repeat the script to yourself, like a
series of positive affirmations. Alternatively, you could even read it to
yourself.
Most, though, will choose to prerecord the script in a spoken form and
then go through it that way.
The tricky part is knowing how to write your script and what you want to
put in it. This is really up to you and you can find much guidance online
to help, but it should start in most cases with a section designed to help
you relax and get into a suggestible state.
After this point, you begin with the script design to have some
effect by getting you to take certain beliefs onboard.
You can achieve this, for example, with phrases designed to weave in
statements as presuppositions. Saying, "You feel confident," may be
met with resistance by your unconscious mind, whereas "You love the
feeling you have of being confident, which is happening more and more,"
is a much more gentle and more likely way to take effect into your brain.
Now, the next mental recharger that you might want to try out is
meditation.
I will give you a few quick tips on simple ways you can start meditating.
The best thing about meditation is it does not require much time.
You may want to use the following steps to set up your routine for
meditating, and aim to at least once a day, if not twice a day.
First, select a time. You want to choose a time that's convenient for you,
and then during this period ensure that you are not going to be disturbed
or having anybody bothering you.
You need to be able to feel fully relaxed, and your mind should be
free of any worry.
Many people enjoy meditating either as the sun comes up in the morning
or sets in the evening. If possible, you can even meditate outside, if you
can set that up.
Next, also consider your position. You need to make sure you are
sitting comfortably while you are meditating.
However, make sure you are in a position that's going to allow your body
and mind to fully relax, without getting any levels of discomfort
throughout your body.
If you eat a large meal, you often feel tired and lethargic. This is why it
is best to meditate before you eat when you still have a pep in your step.
Don't try to meditate if you are on the verge of getting really hungry
because then you will be breaking your concentration that way.
What you will want to do is right before a large meal or before your
general eating times, when you are still feeling good and comfortable in
your body.
So with any other type of exercise, the same idea, you will want to warm
up. Even if you are just going to be sitting down for your meditation, it
helps to get your blood flowing and getting it flowing to all areas of your
body and brain.
So you might want to stretch out a little bit, get your arms and legs
moving, so that you feel like of in that place mentally and physically that
you can get into this thing and truly meditate with purpose.
Another quick tip that works for many people is just the act of
smiling.
Smiling can help you feel more relaxed and comfortable and have a
general sense of calm throughout your body. Remember, you are going
to learn how to relax and allow your mind to wander as you meditate.
So feeling happier is certainly going to help you make this happen more
effectively.
In the same way, you do not want to jump up and answer the phone.
Allow your body to return to its conscious state again naturally.
Just by following some of the tips I have given you here, this will enable
you to start meditating and reap the benefits of these short 20-minute
sessions and make sure you can build these into your life on a daily
basis as we said earlier.
One 20-minute session a day is maybe all you need for a full recharge.
Build this in as one of your rituals today.
The third and final mental recharger that you might want to try as part of
your daily recharge routine here, or rituals, is the practice of mindfulness.
This is what mindfulness is all about, and look no further than the
martial arts world.
Likewise, repeating the same punch over and over again, the martial
artist can reach the point where they are able to hit perfectly. At this
point, they have strengthened the neuropathways required to deliver the
perfect technique, and thus, it reaches the point where it is second
nature.
You can begin here, and then you can evolve further. Simply do a
Google search on other additional mindfulness techniques that you want
to get involved in, but start here and see if mindfulness is a ritual you
also want to build into your daily routine.
Our bodies are very rhythmic. Our bodies become accustomed to doing
things the same way day after day, and you can enhance your ability to
fall asleep more quickly if you create a pre-sleep ritual.
This might be doing things in a certain order, from winding down, maybe
watching a program, to reading a book, to the order in which you take a
shower, brush your teeth and do your flossing and what have you.
What you will want to do here is study your body and your energy
patterns. You will find that an optimal sleep schedule for you may be far
different from the people that you do business with or your spouse or
members of your family or friends or whoever.
So you will really want to take some time to study it, look at your
energy levels and explicitly link back how your rest is impacting
your productivity.
From there, you can build a pre-sleep ritual and decide on your sleeping
and waking times effectively.
So your final to-do here is to take some time and think about this.
Think back to the nights where you had a excellent rest, where you felt
great. What were the contributing factors?
First, determine your ideal pre-sleep routine. What things that work well
to help you get relaxed and wind down and ultimately fall asleep quickly?
Second, determine ideal sleep time. Are you a night owl? Do you like to
wake up super early? Determine a good time for you to fall asleep and
ultimately a good time for you to wake up.
Once you have chosen all three, design this plan, lock it in and use it for
one week. Every single evening, every single morning with your wake-
up time, and stick with it for an entire week, to evaluate how it impacts
your ability to recharge.
Use this as your final step in your recharge ritual process and
watch how your energy levels peak and your productivity peaks, as
you become more aware and ultimately take more control of your
ability to renew yourself.
I hope that you have taken some time to develop your recharge and
renewal rituals, and that you stick to them at least for the next week to
see how it impacts you, and then adjust and evolve from there.
Don't forget to do it. I know you are a hard-working individual, but also
make sure you work hard at renewing yourself and recharging for the
next day.
Last Words
I hope that you have found this eBook useful and that it will help you in
achieving more, as per how it has helped me in my own life.
In this instance, if you have gone through the whole eBook, but have yet
to action upon any of the to-do items, probably nothing has or will
change in your life.
To your success,
Gavin Sim
Founder
PurposeInYou.com
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