Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is a common psychological disorder and can affect dating
and intimate relationships in many different ways. Here we discuss recent research on the
topic of dating and relationships when you have social anxiety disorder, as well as ways
to help your dating and relationship anxiety.
Dating Aggression
In a study of adolescents, fear of negative evaluation (FNE), one aspect of social anxiety
in which you're afraid of being perceived negatively, was found to significantly predict
male dating aggression.
Online Dating
Social anxiety can make online relationships and communication seem much more
doable, but use caution. A recent study showed that people with SAD have a tendency to
think of internet relationships as easier, safer, and better controlled than in-person
relationships. This thinking can lead to excessive internet use and a tendency to avoid
face-to-face situations, which, if you have SAD, you know is already difficult.
However, online dating can be a great way to meet people and get to know them through
messaging, texting, or email before you meet them in person.
Romantic Relationships
Unfortunately, SAD can take a toll on your ability to establish, develop, and maintain
romantic relationships.
Part of this is likely because it's difficult to let your guard down and feel vulnerable, even
with someone you love and trust. The higher your anxiety, the more difficult emotional
intimacy may be because you may see it as too risky.
For those that receive treatment and that are able to find the right supportive partner
though, a healthy and fulfilling relationship is not at all out of the question.
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Porter E, Chambless DL. Shying Away From a Good Thing: Social Anxiety in Romantic
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