CAREER LIFE CONNECTIONS

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Guidelines for Promoting an Equal

Relationship
1. Be completely honest: that means not keeping secrets from each other as well as
talking straight.
2. Ask for what you want 100% of the time. Trust that you and your partner can
negotiate an acceptable cooperative agreement and both get a high percentage
of what you want with each other
3. Be conscious of competition and power plays. Be equals that cooperate so that
both win as much as possible.
4. Be equal in sexual responsibility.
5. Support can be gained through friendships. By recognizing and appreciating
qualities in friends, we are often made aware of our own qualities.
6. Friendships can be rewarding and supporting. It is possible to be friends with a
without it being a sexual relationship.
7. Have privacy for yourself, that is, be with yourself (as opposed to being “alone”)
in order to know yourself well and to be in good communication with yourself and
your own sense of who you are and what you want in life
8. Have inside yourself a ready, willing, and able “Nurturing Parent” ready to
produce your own self-creation and the struggles between you and your partner.
9. Don’t demand or expect perfection from yourself or another human being. Be
understanding of human error as a necessary part of growth and allow yourself
and others time and space to grow in.
10. Don’t make each other into commodities by trying to own or possess another in
the service of your insecurity. Allow yourself and your partner as much freedom
as you can