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draw nearer to all the heavenly
creatures that surround us.
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February Self-Care Tookit.............................. 36
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celebrations, lifestyle, and interior photography. Based dogs, and lover of adventures around the Bonney Lake
out of NYC and Seattle, Belathée has photographed area. She enjoys photographing intimate engagement
weddings in 18 countries since starting in 2003. This sessions and weddings throughout Greater Seattle. This
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Louise Keyser, aka Dat So La Lee, was a celebrated Native American basket weaver.
A member of the Washoe people in northwestern Nevada, her basketry showcased
the handiwork of her Washoe people, and its prominence during the Arts and
Crafts movement caused newfound respect in her role as a community leader.
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REALIZE
UNLEASH
Friendship
with Marie Levey-Pabst
T
he older I get, the more I value friendships and friend texted me something funny one of her kids said. Our
connections, both with friends I’ve had forever and with following small text exchange cheered me up and reminded me
new friends I’ve made along the way. Ironically, the older that I can stay connected even when life is too busy for planning
I get, the more challenging it is to keep up with those friendships. a girls’ night out.
Shauna Niequist stitches together a series of In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown—a Dar Williams’ 2005 musical journey on self-
essays concerning her personal experiences master on living wholeheartedly and discovery and connection is as relevant both
overcoming a life filled with busyness, stress, authentically—presents us with a guidebook politically and personally today as it was 13
and feelings of inadequacy. After years of on how to do just this, with courage, years ago. “My Better Self” suggests rites of
mis-connecting in this frantic world, Niequist compassion, and connection. Ironically, passage, at a time in our lives when all sorts of
realizes that she’s missing out on the beauty connection starts with self-acceptance, and, "better selves" seem open to possibility. The
of everyday life with her family. This book according to Brown, is most authentic when we album is a tuneful reminder that “Every time
describes her journey of learning to reconnect no longer worry about what others think. If you you open to kindness, make one connection
with the people in her life, without losing her want to discover the benefits of vulnerability used to divide us, it echoes all over the world,”
sense of self and life of success. and imperfection in relationships, this book is as Williams sings on the track Echo.
a wonderful guide.
UNLEASH
Quality Time
with Julia Grimaldi
D
uring this short month, we may need a gentle nudge The best party is the one where you can you eat with a little
to invite friends over. Go ahead and pick up the abandonment knowing no one’s going to judge you.
phone—hear someone’s voice, ask for something you
need. Carve out some time for a true heart-to-heart with When we welcome and share who we are and what we
your girlfriends. value with those around us, our connections become
stronger. Allow yourself a love affair this month full of the
Keep the roasted roots off the menu and Indulge in some sweet, smooth richness of chocolate, with a side of real-life
chocolate. This decadent sweet tastes good, smells good, & connection. Quality time is a pleasure we could all use a little
feels good. The sensation of eating chocolate satisfies more more of.
than just our sweet tooth, and as I understand it, chocolate is
a health food – hallelujah!
Julia is a holistic health & food coach. Learn more about her at
Enjoy a rich chocolate dessert with your besties, those that CoachJuliaG.com.
truly know you, and benefit from connecting in real time too.
Friendship,
On the Rocks
with Crystal Cathcart
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REALIZE
Unleash Fitness
with Shana Schneider
Fitness is more fun when we connect it with the important people in our life.
F
inding time for fitness can sometimes feel like a tradeoff If you have kids, get out there with them and run around, and
between an activity that you may not want to do and not just after them (though that can be a workout in and of
the enjoyable things in your life—like spending time with itself!). Adults can go sledding too. Even if you don’t have kids,
family and friends. What if we could connect the two? engaging in some lowkey winter fun (snowball fight, anyone?)
will bring results you’d otherwise have to work out for.
The next time you catch up with a friend, instead of taking a
seat at the coffee shop to sit and chat, look for high-top tables Get moving with the people you want to spend time with—you’ll
where you can stand up; or, on a warm enough day, walk and find more time for fitness and enjoy it more, too!
talk. Standing or just keeping your body moving in some way
counts towards your fitness!
Learn to create your own Fit Style by following Shana on Instagram
@fitstylebyshana.
Photo by @jolyneh
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Companionship
Meet your book-loving companions with a bag just the right size
to hold your needed accessories: bookmarks, pens, tea (and your
favorite mug!), and enough essential oils to pass around.
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From Top:
VEGAN BACKPACK ($89) by Schumee ∙ LETTERPRESS BOOKMARK ($3) by Sarah and Maude ∙ GOLD PENS ($4) by Cynthia Rowley ∙
HERBAL TEA ($10) by New Moon ∙ TEA MUG ($30) by Heart Stone Gallery ∙ DOTERRA OIL COLLECTION ($70) by Lydia Mandell
UNLEASH
Life-Changing
Moments
with photographer Rachel Hegerty
The morning we played at the Tree House Village was the ultimate
fun. I was nervous to go zip lining but conquering my fear was
exhilarating – flying through the air, screaming my head off, taking
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pictures the entire time. At the waterfall, we
played on the rope swing, jumped from the cliff
into the pool, and swam together. I felt like a kid,
totally in the moment and totally at peace with
where I was and who I was with.
Unleash Intimacy
with Leigh Schwab
There’s a reason swapping makeup tips & products is a beloved pastime for women. (Hint: it’s fun!)
I
personally love sharing skin care and beauty tips with Of course, you don’t have to be a beauty consultant to take
others. This is a creative as well as emotional outlet for me. I advantage of shared interests!
get to help others find products that actually work for them,
as well as get to know my clients personally. Helping others You and your female friends can enjoy each other’s company
with self-care creates a personal connection between myself and also indulge in each other’s makeup faves or secret
and my clients. strategies. Host an intimate girl’s night where everyone brings
a favorite product, or throw a “clean out the makeup cabinet”
The personal connections I’ve made doing this work has party for your wider circle. The more women who attend, the
made me realize how intimate touch (in general) can be. more connections you can make!
I’ve also come to appreciate the simple but meaningful
connections between two women interested in similar things. continued on next page
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1
BeYOUtiful
There are plenty of ways to connect with others -
sharing a girl’s night with your friends, holding
hands with a loved one, or simply indulging your
own senses.
1 Impromptu Fun.
Sharing in a moment of self-care is an excellent way
to connect with those around us. Having a masks and
movies night with your girlfriends is a great way to relax
and reconnect with each other. This mermaid mask
contains nutrient dense Hawaiian spirulina and raw
honey that will leave you and your friends with glowing
complexions!
Leigh recommends...
Leahlani’s Mermaid Mask ($32)
2
2 Intimate Touch.
Skin to skin contact, like holding hands, is such an
incredibly easy and small way to make an intimate
connection with someone. Having soft hands makes this
moment not so rough (excuse the terrible pun). I have
been using a body wax full of healing ingredients like
blue tansy and blue yarrow to treat my hands overnight.
Leigh recommends...
Khus+Khus Bleu Body Wax ($68)
3 Intuitive Self-Care.
Connect with your inner self by buying a product you
have always wanted to try! Sometimes I will read about
a product for months on end before biting the bullet
and getting it … just let go and do it! I’ve come to
realize that trusting my gut is usually the right decision.
I lusted after Plume’s Lash and Brow Serum for months 3
and after using it for almost a year, I can fully say that I
will never again be without it.
Leigh recommends...
Plume Lash and Brow Serum ($95)
Leigh Schwab uses her love for skin care to help educate women about the
ingredients in their products and the need for proper skin care legislation in
our country. Learn more about her passion for a healthy and simple life on
Facebook and Instagram @leighschwab.
– M I N ESKA W H I TAKER
P H O T O by @ J O A N N A _ F I S H E R
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REALIZE
Unleash
Camaraderie
Connect to your sisters, and get some new clothes too!
A
clothing swap is just about the most beneficial (and fun!) In addition, you’ll gain perspective—That looks better on her
way to spend a few hours with friends that anyone’s than it ever did on me; compliments/self-esteem—She’s right, I
thought of yet. You mean, I get to hang out with other look good!!; and memories of a shared good time, not to mention
women, drink champagne, AND go home with a brand-new the possibility of more of the same—Wow! I never knew how
wardrobe? Don’t twist my arm! much I had in common with her. Maybe we should get together
for coffee sometime…
Okay—there is one catch. You have to be willing to let go. A
clothing swap, like connection in general, requires reciprocity. Go ahead, then. What are you waiting for? Call up some
You give and take, sometimes one more than the other. (I friends—or do it the modern way and create an event on
suppose you could attend for the champagne alone—but you Facebook—and get this swap organized. Or nominate someone
wouldn’t get nearly as much out of the experience!) else to do it, and volunteer to bring the champagne. Whatever
your part, you’ll leave feeling refreshed and just as excited as
Perhaps it helps to remind yourself of what you are getting in the last time you bought a new pair of shoes.
return. Sure, in this instance, you might get a few “new to you”
clothing items, maybe a couple pieces of jewelry and a fabulous
pair of shoes. That’s just the obvious and physical stuff, though. Photo by Michelle Roycroft @thefilmstill
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REALIZE
Donella I love sending handwritten cards in the mail. Who doesn’t love
Wellness Diva getting mail? Not a bill, but a small handwritten note. Handwritten
notes are more personal. I love face-to-face time as well. Coffee
@iamdonella dates to people-watch with friends is another favorite.
Lisa use pictures to stay connected and feel like we’re “together".
For example, while working from home, I might send a picture
Founder
Living Fully Balanced LLC of the current view from my window, and each of them
will text what they’re seeing at the time. It's a fun way to
@livingfullybalanced
LivingFullyBalanced.com experience things together, even though we're miles apart.
Taylor
A handwritten note is the most intimate and genuine way to stay
Artist/Writer/
Homesteading Mother connected (nothing will ever change my mind about that). Social
media and phone calls will do... but even FaceTime can't replace
@living.ontheland
StudioOnTheLand.com the way humans feel while they discern another's expression.
Amy At least three days a year, my extended family gets together for
no other reason than to enjoy each other’s company and catch
Owner
Craftivate up. We may go to an aquarium, visit a vineyard, or just have lunch
February Self-Care
Spread some Love. Creatively tell
someone you love them. Write it on a
post it and leave it where they will see
it. Do something nice for them without
being asked and when they notice, tell
them you love them.
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fruit bowl /' froot bōl / noun
A give-and-take between
nature and nurture.
Fun on Display
with Erin Mahollitz
She wants laughter and joy in her home, call out to her loved ones—it’s not if they
so she makes space for games. She want to play, but what. She envisions
arranges them intentionally, letting a special event with popcorn + hot
the games spill out of their boxes: an drinks. On another day, she’ll challenge
invitation to connect, through play a close friend to a round of cards.
and spirit.
This woman is a wise woman. She
Her choice to decorate with games knows that play builds empathy which
is a visual commitment: While she increases connection. She has witnessed
arranges the cards, dice, and board how obstacles are removed when
games, she visualizes loved ones giggling the games are kept on display. Her
and cursing, playing and play-acting. smile widens, as she pictures her next
Inhibitions slipping away as individual party, full of fun, laughter, and play.
personalities come out. Relationships
growing with each shuffle of the cards.
See how Erin embraces the act of homemaking
At the end of her decorating, the games as sacred and feminist on Instagram
@mindfulhomemaking.
have all been freed. On display, they will
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Featured Space
@thegoddessspace is a sacred
space created to support women
in connecting back to their truth,
their power, and their femininity.
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DWELL
Gathering
Space
with LaToya Burton
O
ur living rooms are the public face of our
home, so they can be easily transformed
into a communal space for those we invite
in. Consider changing your living room into a creative
gathering space for a day.
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Dwell on This
Inviting fun into our lives and our homes is a
reminder of the importance of joy and how it can
be nurtured in creative ways. You can make room
for “gathering” in any part of your home, whether
temporarily or long-term, by remembering
the following:
1 Accessories = Freshness.
The willingness to change your space around gives
you freedom to bring in unexpected elements and
add a bit of drama. Try mixing up the items on your
mantel piece for the day; adding a large mirror
and a few candles might set the mood. Consider
incorporating over-sized leaves or lanterns or pots
you usually use in your garden, so you can enjoy them
year-round.
2 Texture = Flexibility.
You may feel strongly about that favorite pair of
curtains because you took so long in finding them—
that doesn’t mean you must keep them for 40 years,
though! Take a look around your space and assess
what truly feels outdated. Pillows, blankets, curtains,
and even rugs are a great way to update—or just
temporarily revise—a favorite space to lounge.
3 Color = Freedom.
What if you were throwing a party? Would you choose
the colors everyone expects of you, or would you
choose your very favorite palette? Lively colors set a
fun mood; soft pastels invite and soothe. Choose your
favorites! And pay attention to the mood you might
be making space for.
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C O - C R E AT I O N A S C O N N E C T I O N
continued on page 50
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Feeding people is a
way of loving them.
– SHAUNA NIEQUIST
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I will be honest, sometimes it would have been so much While in the process, my husband and I found ourselves
easier to just buy something new or to hire an expert (i.e. often annoyed at each other’s very different work styles
plumber). For example, the China-made reproductions of and sometimes our differing design styles created difficult
antique bin pulls for the cabinets were easy to find and moments that led to going to bed cranky. However, in the
WAAAAY cheaper than the actual rusty antique ones. end, the creation is more beautiful than what we could have
However, my manifesto helped me stay true to my values and created alone. For example, the dark countertops weren’t
wait until just the right EBay listing came up. Decisions like what I envisioned in my light on white kitchen but my
this are much easier with our manifesto in place! husband assured me it would be awesome and now I love the
depth that the darkness brings to the space.
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Get Creative
͞Paint over old flooring or existing cabinets with a
low/no VOC paint. Cover existing countertops with
concrete or paint. If you want the look of natural
wood, you can make your own stains from vinegar,
onion skins, red wine, or coffee. Or find a natural wood
stain line such as Saman. Milk paint or chalk paint can
be made at home and is great for a whitewashed look.
Also, our differing approaches were what got us through
Or just protect natural wood with pure tung oil.
those moments that needed extreme creativity and
diverse ways of seeing things, like when we had to
move the plumbing without any plumbing knowledge 1 Get Crafty
or overcome a wood filler that turned our countertops Use a sustainable source of plywood to create faux
bright purple! As a result of letting my husband have his farmhouse plank flooring. For cabinets, you can add
say on the countertops, I’m now considering bringing in on bead board before painting or remove doors to
more of the dark color when we repaint the floors. create the look of open shelving. Upcycle cabinets
from old dressers, buffets, dry sinks, sideboards,
workbenches, credenzas, or kitchen islands. There
C O - C R E AT I O N B R I N G S O P P O R T U N I T Y are many tutorials online if you want to make your
own countertops from wood planks.
Co-creating with those you love has its complications
and frustrations, and doesn't work for everyone;
however, many people’s relationships can be taken to 2 Get Choosy
new depths by experiencing the process of creating
It’s easy to walk into a big box store and grab the first
together with their partner, friend, community, or child.
sink they have for sale. For us, finding cabinet pulls
Some of the most beautiful things in the world are a on eBay and a used sink on Craigslist was a way to
result of people coming together to MAKE things. adhere to our values and still get a good bargain.
We even chose to use a non-toxic wood filler, which
In the end, through creativity and commitment to our
we had to order online because there weren’t any
values, I got my dream homesteading kitchen even with available options at the usual hardware stores!
our tiny budget. More importantly, through being co-
creators in the dream, my husband and I forever share
the pride of making something together, the memories 3 Get Coached
and funny stories of the process, and a kitchen that we If you really want a custom look but can’t afford to pay
can now fill with our love, laughter, and yummy food. for it, Pinterest is about to become your best friend.
We are forever bonded by what we’ve made together. There are countless tutorials, blog posts, and pictures
about every home renovation project you can think
of. Whether you’re making cabinet pulls from loops of
Tessa Chittle is a Homesteading Mama, lover of upcycled leather or re-wiring an antique light fixture, someone
creations and beautiful design, and visionary of how to do things out there in Pinterest land has already done it and
differently whether it be in business, life, or parenting. You can has shared about it online. Why not make the most of
follow Tessa’s homestead journey on Facebook, Instagram @
their experience?
tessachittle and Pinterest @TheFarmstay.
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Touchstone
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Benjamin Moore
2115-10
Airy + Tender
corresponds to
Benjamin Moore
CW-105
Turn Up
the Fun!
corresponds to
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RECL A I M CO N N ECT I O N
Turquoise
Divine
corresponds to Connection is both pure and honest; reclaiming our right to be attuned to our homes
Benjamin Moore and our loved ones will, therefore, bring us a feeling of greater authenticity—not
658
to mention pure, unadulterated fun. In the kitchen, connection happens often,
sporadically and naturally. Pay attention to these times and bask in the memories
you’re creating.
Is your kitchen already fun-fun-fun? Here are other areas of the home where you can
incorporate this color palette:
Authentic
Boho Bedroom Modern Lounge
Tones
Wanderlust is both grounding and freeing. Balancing formal with fun in a casual space
corresponds to
Fill your bedroom with natural elements offers more dimension. Include a backdrop of
Benjamin Moore
to pay homage to your roots, and add in your favorite neutral colors and let turquoise
2143-70
pops of turquoise and your favorite shiny seep in where least expected – on a lacquered
trinkets, as reminders that earth and spirit are side table, for example, or a paint-splattered
inherently intertwined. tablecloth repurposed as art.
with Nadia
What's one aspect of your daily life that How do you encourage connection in For you, what is the relationship of fun
is fun? your physical dwelling space? & connection?
Cooking daily as a creative outlet, I have a passion for tea. In the French culture, Connections can enhance fun and fun can
experimenting with new recipes. Kola, our tea time is a ritual that invites intellectual increase connections! It’s reciprocal. Getting
dog, brings me the ball when I have been conversations. The numerous teas displayed together with people adds energy to any
being idle for too long—reminding me of the on my kitchen shelf remind me to pause and activity. Also Play makes any connection
necessity of down time. I sometimes challenge sit down with family members and friends. easier. When people are in a playful mode,
myself to pay attention to everything I find they tend to be more true to themselves and
playful and fun, or makes me smile. I take a therefore make more authentic connections.
mental picture of it or collect photos of what
is fun in my iPhone.
A Conversation with
Nadia Stieglitz
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Words by The Lee Lee
l
p ayed
last time you
T
his is the question Nadia Stieglitz, a “play coach” of the challenge to take seven B & W pics in seven days, and
sorts, prefers to ask when she meets someone new. found that to be an easy to way to get into a state of play.
Instead of hearing about what you do, she wants
to know what kind of person you are. Knowing how you “Play is different for everyone,” says Nadia. What you’re
play—and how often you play—reveals your personality and doing isn’t as important as “how it makes you feel.” What
Nadia, laughing. When Nadia first works with women who’ve “lost their
sense of play,” she encourages them to just go throughout
Nadia herself can spout off a list of several ways she plays the day, as normal, and “notice everything that makes you
through her day – from singing opera to dancing along smile.” Another suggestion she gives is to take a walk down
with an Earth, Wind, and Fire song, to giving in to her dog’s a familiar route and look for new things. This will bring
demands to pay him attention. She also recently accepted “peace” and “presence.”
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W H Y I S P L AY S O H A R D ?
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has witnessed a positive “ripple effect” on families, which in turn effects
communities and, eventually, society as a whole.
continued on page 69
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Connect
with Nadia
@nadiastieglitz
@miceatplay
NadiaStieglitz.com
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to align your innermost thoughts
with your
ever-evolving perspective
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Rudbeckia
Rudbeckias, also known as Black-
eyed Susans, grow with ease, quickly
and effortlessly. It’s no wonder these
flowers are considered “friendship
flowers,” their bright yellow florets
carrying the message of encouragement.
One of the first flowers to bloom after
a natural disaster, these resilient
flowers resemble the unconditional
connection and loyalty that occurs in
friendships, especially in times of need.
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Coming Home
to Your Body
with Casee Marie
Settling into being can boost your energy and your emotions.
A
s both an introvert and an empath, I tend to be easily In fact, this seemingly inconsequential action is really an act
overwhelmed by other people’s energies. The empath of connecting with our bodies. When I’m alone I can connect
in me feels emotions deeply while the introvert to my breathing, whether I need a few restorative deep-
requires solitude to recharge. In our hyper-connected culture, belly breaths or I just need a few minutes of slow, connected
with its penchant for social interaction and multitasking, it breaths. I’m not trying to escape from a situation; rather to
can be a real challenge to find meaningful ways to escape the invest in restorative presence.
noise and find the connection I crave.
Prior to this realization, I often felt that retreating into my
As an introvert, I’ve always felt a little burdened, moving body was an act of hiding because I focused on my going
languidly with my home perched upon my back as the inward purely in contrast to being comfortable enough to go
extroverted hares run freely around me, sometimes causing outward. In effect, I reinforced self-esteem issues more often
me to stumble in their tailwinds. My introverted nature made than I found healing which caused me to bully myself into
me feel like an outsider in comparison to the extrovert’s more inactivity and physical disconnect.
socially-acceptable outgoing personality. I’ve learned, though,
that there are some particularly special qualities of being an When the belief of not being comfortable changed to a
introvert that, when harnessed, can benefit an intentional life. belief of not being worthy, I all but abandoned ownership of
my body. A preference for softer forms of embodiment—for
The wonderful thing about being an introvert and an empath example, mindfulness and meditation—over rigorous exercise
is the capacity I have for feeling and awareness. To be able to led me to believe I wasn’t allowed to inhabit my body in
retreat into my body, my inner solitude, when things around moments of physical connection and movement.
me begin to get overwhelming is a comforting practice.
People who identify as introverts will understand the popular
practice of locking oneself in a bathroom to escape from a
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crowded place.
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your physical energy and connecting with your body is an
act of great self-compassion – an invitation to live life fully
and deeply.
When you tend to your body, you tend to the home of your
soul. What could be more worthy of permission?
we are committed to our own wellbeing, and making every Casee Marie is a motivational writer living in Wallingford, Connecticut
effort to love ourselves. with her rescue pup, Blaze. She is the author of the online journal
Hope & Harbor where she writes to encourage a deeper relationship
with compassion and vulnerability. You can connect with her at
Giving ourselves permission to be connected and present in
caseemarie.com.
our bodies is especially challenging in a culture that views
self-love as self-indulgence. Remember that inhabiting Photos by Amanda Luisa, MandaLuisa.com.
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is strange. Then, a master of avoidance and
crippled by social anxiety; now, writing to you
about social relationships–and having real, inspiring
experience to draw from.
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BE VULNERABLE
When you reach a point in your life where you feel an outpouring
of love not only from yourself, but from those around you, too,
you’ll realize your worth. You don’t have to wait until you’re “pretty
enough,” “educated enough,” or “enough” of anything else. You have
worth right now.
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Take time to reflect on your strengths and BE AUTHENTIC
weaknesses, and set goals for yourself with
How do we meet these individuals, and how do we get them—and keep
every passing day. Soon, you’ll get to a place
them—in our corner? There’s no app for that. There’s no magic button or
where you want to take care of yourself not
browser extension we can click on to find a support group that will love
because you feel you have to, but because you
on us when we’re in need of it most. To unleash authentic connection in a
know you deserve goodness.
busy world, you’ve got to put in a little leg work.
enlighten your path more. and take, making small sacrifices here and there will only
strengthen our relationships in the long run. Think of it this
way: If you want others at your side as you take the world
BE REALISTIC by storm, you’ll need to show a little love for their favorite
pastimes now and again, too.
How many times have you attended an event—be it a birthday
party, happy hour, or networking conference—and felt out of How many people can you handle at one given time? Never
place? How many times have you struggled finding someone mind “introverts” vs. “extroverts” — no matter who you are,
to connect with, unsure of how to begin a conversation? Some
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it’s likely you can only handle so many personalities at once.
Allow yourself the space to figure out the environments in
which you thrive. If you know you prefer small groups, a large
conference setting will present a challenge. Conversely, if you
can’t stand being alone, maybe bigger is better.
B E B R AV E
What do you love? What makes you tick? What’s your guilty
pleasure? This is the type of information others are hungry for.
We all have that magical person with whom we share common
ground. When we find them, conversation is so much easier.
If you do the same things over and over again, for example
always grabbing brunch at the same restaurant, it may be time
to try something new. If you cancel plans that may have you
stepping outside of your comfort zone, take small steps to
widen that boundary.
BE CONNECTED
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B E AU T H E N T I C , S TAY CO N N E C T E D, U N L E A S H F U N
@StudioStrata
# BFF
What’s a world without any connection? Connection to each other is what makes the world go
‘round and creates the bonds we gratefully rely upon. These connections are created with a little
dash of fun! In every friendship exists that little bit of fun that bonded the souls together. Show
us your connections by sharing a picture of you and your best friend doing something fun!
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FEBRU A RY MA N T RA
It is through simplicity
that I magnetize soulful
connections to me with ease.
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Connection
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