Citation for this research instrument: Bleske-Rechek, A. L., & Buss, D. M. (2001).
Opposite-sex friendship: Sex differences and similarities in initiation, selection, and dissolution. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 27, 1310-1323.
Reasons for Dissolving a Friendship
(seven point scale, Not at all important to Somewhat important to Very important)
_______ 1. He was not trustworthy.
_______ 2. He cancelled plans with me repetitively. _______ 3. He did not show enough concern for me in time of need. _______ 4. He kept secrets from me. _______ 5. I wasn’t physically attracted to him. _______ 6. He failed to physically protect me when I was in danger. _______ 7. He talked about me behind my back. _______ 8. I found other friends. _______ 9. He was selfish. _______ 10. He started paying attention to other women. _______ 11. I became jealous of him. _______ 12. My romantic relationship interfered with our friendship. _______ 13. We started dating. _______ 14. We competed over sports. _______ 15. He wanted a romantic relationship and I did not. _______ 16. We had no common interests. _______ 17. He tried to control me. _______ 18. He smoked too much dope. _______ 19. He pressed me to have sex with him. _______ 20. He spent more time with his romantic partner than with me. _______ 21. He was emotionally unstable. _______ 22. He was jealous of the other men in my life. _______ 23. He made mean remarks about me. _______ 24. He hurt my feelings. _______ 25. He was jealous of my athletic ability. _______ 26. I fell out of love with him. _______ 27. He became sexually attracted to me and I wasn’t attracted to him. _______ 28. We had different religious beliefs. _______ 29. We had sex. _______ 30. My romantic partner did not like me being friends with him. _______ 31. We had a hard time communicating. _______ 32. He became jealous of me. _______ 33. He was not intelligent enough for me. _______ 34. We never went out and did stuff together. _______ 35. He lost sexual interest in me. _______ 36. We did hot have similar values. _______ 37. He had friendships with other women. _______ 38. He wanted to start dating and I did not. _______ 39. We competed over academics. _______ 40. I was jealous of his success at school/work. _______ 41. He didn’t want to have sex with me. _______ 42. He made hurtful jokes about me. _______ 43. Our personalities were nothing alike. _______ 44. Our friendship was long distance. _______ 45. I lost my sexual attraction to him. _______ 46. He didn’t respect me. _______ 47. I became romantically involved with a man. _______ 48. I started having romantic feelings for him and he didn’t have those feelings for me. _______ 49. He spent all his time with his new romantic partner. _______ 50. He didn’t express his feelings to me. _______ 51. His romantic partner did not approve of our friendship. _______ 52. He started having romantic feelings for me and I didn’t have those feelings for him. _______ 53. We had opposite points of view on important issues. _______ 54. He talked to others about his problems instead of coming to me. _______ 55. He didn’t get along with my family. _______ 56. He wanted more than a friendship between us. _______ 57. He drank too much. _______ 58. I didn’t trust him. _______ 59. He tried to turn others against me. _______ 60. I was jealous of other women in his life. _______ 61. We bickered constantly. _______ 62. We lived in separate cities. _______ 63. I wanted to spend more time with my other friends besides him. _______ 64. He annoyed me. _______ 65. He wanted to spend a lot of time with me. _______ 66. I lost my physical attraction to him. _______ 67. He was romantically interested in another woman. _______ 68. We kissed and I didn’t want that to happen. _______ 69. He chose his romantic partner over me. _______ 70. He made me feel worthless. _______ 71. He was jealous of my romantic partner. _______ 72. Our friendship was boring. _______ 73. He wanted sex more than I did. _______ 74. We didn’t communicate well. _______ 75. He wasn’t always there for me. _______ 76. Hew told other people about our private conversations. _______ 77. He lowered my self-esteem. _______ 78. He started rumors about me. _______ 79. Other men became more attractive than him. _______ 80. I became sexually attracted to him and he wasn’t sexually attracted to me. _______ 81. He didn’t listen to me when I needed him to. _______ 82. He was jealous of my success at school/work. _______ 83. He tried to be more than friends and I didn’t want that. _______ 84. We argued. _______ 85. He was verbally abusive to me. _______ 86. He failed to provide intellectual stimulations. _______ 87. We didn’t spend enough time together. _______ 88. There wasn’t enough sex in our relationship. _______ 89. We spent a lot of time together. _______ 90. I fell in love with another man. _______ 91. He made me feel bad about myself. _______ 92. Another man came along and I became romantically interested in him. _______ 93. He found other friends. _______ 94. He got angry too often. _______ 95. He lied to me. _______ 96. I didn’t feel physically safe when I was with him. _______ 97. I was jealous of his athletic ability. _______ 98. Our friendship interfered with my other friendships. _______ 99. He was not sensitive to my feelings. _______ 100. We had different political views.