Training and Supervising Analyst British Psychoanalytical Society; Training lead for
Child Psychotherapy Service, The Anna Freud Centre, London; Consultant Parent In-
fant Psychotherapist, The Anna Freud Centre, London; in private psychoanalytic practice
(adults and children), London UK.
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Solnit 1993; Mayes and Cohen 1996) etc., where the debates perhaps
don’t have the same contentious history as is the case in British psycho-
analysis (King and Steiner 1991). To help the discussion I am going to
use some clinical material from the analysis of a girl, whom I treated
for four years from the age of 9, to highlight some of the issues that
pertain to this debate.
Michelle was an only child, adopted from abroad by her single mother
at 5 months old. There had been difficulties between them for a long
time, seemingly from the early days of the adoption, and they were ex-
acerbated by the need for the mother to return to work when Michelle
was a year old and left in the care of a nanny. The mother remained
single although part of a wider extended family with whom Michelle
had much contact. On referral Michelle was intensely anxious around
separations and both hostile and clinging to her mother; they often
had physical fights and this had gone on for many years. Michelle was
not doing well at school and found it very difficult to make and keep
friends as she was demanding and very jealous.
From the outset of the work with me, Michelle was restless and suspi-
cious. She seemed not to feel relieved nor understood by my attempts
to talk to her about herself, and she left the room many times when the
comments I made were too near the rawness of her states. The usual task
of creating the analytic setting felt extraordinarily difficult as my attempts
to make contact with this child were rebuffed and I was catapulted into
the management of provocative, sometimes violent behavior. In calmer
moments Michelle began tentatively to play with the doll figures and the
wild animals that were in her box. Although she gradually seemed pre-
pared to play, there was no doubt that she found any direct links from her
play into her “personal concerns” completely unacceptable. I had to be
extremely cautious in deciding to speak, when and about what. Although
I felt I was bombarded by communication it was often impossible to do
anything with it but bear it. One might say we were in the territory of
Bion’s container-contained (Bion 1962), the communication of incho-
ate anxiety to which words could not yet give meaning. I know that this
is an all too common experience of working analytically with children
especially when there are fundamental problems in the narcissistic equi-
librium of the child and I have written about it elsewhere ( Joyce 2002).
Rose Edgcumbe in her 1995 paper about Anna Freud’s evolving
thinking about developmental disturbances wrote: “I think some of us
at least were aware of an inner tension between the wish to be ‘proper
analysts’—that is, doing ‘proper interpretative work’ with neurotic
patients—and finding ourselves obliged to do all sorts of other things
which we tended, in those early days, to think of as ‘non-analytic.’’’
Vignette 1
tion of play for a child: for this I will turn to Donald Winnicott, whose
vast experience with young children through his work as an analyst
and as a pediatrician led him to place playing at the center of a child’s
creative functioning, indicative of its “going on being” and aliveness
(Winnicott 1971).
Winnicott’s views about forms of communication do not differentiate
much between what he calls “the vitally important subtle communicat-
ing of the mother-infant kind” (Winnicott 1958), the child playing and
beginning to speak, and the adult talking. He saw them all as aspects
of the human repertoire of representation and communication. Thus,
verbalized, one might say conventional, interpretation is not privileged
but instead one of several modes that can reach children in an emotion-
ally real way, responding to their primary capacity for communication.
Indeed Winnicott’s views about the analyst’s response to the child’s play
is rather special; he was very clear that analyst’s job was not to disrupt the
play by interpreting its meaning prematurely. He saw playing in itself as
constitutive of the unfolding of the child’s personal pattern, of her pre-
occupations, those things she is ready for and is interested in. It is essen-
tially a transitional activity, full of potential and inconclusive. This quality
of openness is also linked to the function of playing as equivalent to free
association in the analytic setting. To pin it down through interpreta-
tion with particular (closed) meaning rather than to open it up through
playful extension would only risk inviting compliance or resistance: play
stops when one of the participants becomes dogmatic (Phillips 1988).
This then concerns the nature of the connection made with the child
to facilitate further imaginative elaboration of potential meanings whose
purpose is to promote his or her ongoing creative aliveness.
Lanyado (2006) observes that Winnicott’s accounts of his work with
children are “in a manner which seems to say ‘Here is something, an
idea to play with and if you find it interesting, we can play with it to-
gether.’’’ In that he sees play as “work,” his playing always had serious
purpose which made him judicious in his use of interpretation and
attentive to the provision of the appropriate setting. Play and inter-
pretation were part and parcel of the clinical work, but interpretation
should not pre-empt or disrupt the child’s enjoyment. For Winnicott
play is intrinsically worthwhile and “is itself a therapy” (1971, p. 58).
He said, “the important thing is not my talking so much as the fact
that the child has reached to something.” In the case of Bob, aged 6,
(1965, 1971) he observed that it was unlikely that the young child could
have put into words what he conveyed in the game, but through it
(the Squiggle game) he was able to communicate something of his ego
dysfunction. Winnicott assumed the playful, non-verbal communication
would reverberate through the child’s being and sponsor the impetus
toward healthy development.
To return to Michelle, as her analysis proceeded I had to restrain her
several times from attacking me when I linked her play too directly to
her feelings and thoughts about herself and her life, either in the trans-
ference or referring to other aspects of her life. She often experienced
me as disruptive of her being in this way rather than helpful. I came to
understand this in several ways but largely as revealing the overwhelm-
ing sense of shame and humiliation she felt about her adoption and
her lack of a father. She let me know many times that she found my
comments intrusive and nosey, but her own curiosity about me and my
life which could not be satisfied, felt too concretely as her banishment
from her birth family, where in fantasy she had a father and a mother,
and sisters and brothers. These happy (and unhappy) family scenarios
were played out again and again, in the narrative scenes where I could
talk to her there about the jealous rivalries, fears, wishes, disasters etc.
in displacement and she could use my contributions without being
overwhelmed.
From time to time I also talked to her about what I saw as her defen-
sive use of displacement, her fears about talking directly to me and her
greater ease in showing me in her play what she was concerned about.
Invariably this got a hostile response and many times led to the play
being interrupted. This invokes such concepts as the treatment alliance,
and analytic tact which refer to the necessity of the analyst even in the
face of acute negative transference, being able to establish and retain
with the patient the basic agreement about why they are meeting in the
way they are. In a more complicated way for work with children it also
points up the issue of consent to treatment, who gives it and how it is
sustained at the most difficult times.
Vignette 2
doing this, I said that she wanted me to put all the bits of herself
together so she could have a picture of herself and that she knew it
would take quite a long time for us to do that together. She quietly
listened. At the end of this session she wanted to leave the puzzle
with me to which I agreed. The following day she repeated the early
part of the session: wanting to do the puzzle, but soon went to the
toilet. She became despondent when she could not easily match the
pieces and I talked about her sense that this was going to be too
much, that the puzzle was enormous and that it would take a very
long time. She added, “if we ever get started,” and then abandoned
the task pouring the pieces over herself and me. With an edgy, de-
termined feeling we repeatedly had to collect the pieces together in
the box. After a while I said, “I imagine all these pieces of the jigsaw
puzzle are just like little pieces of you, Michelle, and they all belong
together like in the box, inside you; but sometimes you feel that all
the bits of you just pour out and like the jigsaw some might get lost,
so that the big picture can’t be completed.”
The affect in the room calmed but after again going to the toilet
the edgy volatile feeling returned. She initiated a game of “catch,”
and then insisted that I keep guessing what I could take away on a
fantasied holiday to California: I was always wrong and, after a com-
ment from me that she seemed not to want me to go, she erupted.
She approached me provocatively, and sat on top of me and going
for my glasses and T shirt in an insistent and forceful way, seemingly
to see my breasts. When my trying to set limits verbally failed, I had
to restrain her by holding her wrists, saying at the same time that
she was showing me how close she wanted to get to me— even be
my baby and me her mummy/analyst—but that these feelings were
very hard and so she also had “fighty” feelings to push me away. This
only inflamed her and she leapt up saying she was leaving. Although
I acknowledged her being upset at what I had said, Michelle re-
mained agitated and ran out of the room and up the stairs and then
down and back into the consulting room. She pushed me and tried
to kick me. I said to her that I wouldn’t let her do that, I needed to
keep us both safe, restraining her, but that we could try to under-
stand what she was trying to tell me. I continued, as Michelle stayed
close but agitated, and said that I thought she was feeling full of
the fighty feelings that she has when she wants to be close but feels
frightened. Michelle grabbed some pencils and threw them at the
light and ceiling and suddenly stopped as one hit the light. She was
immediately worried about what she had done, and I linked this
with her worry about hurting me when she was in this sort of state.
Michelle became somewhat calmer but was still quite agitated as the
session came to an end.
Vignette 3
Toward the end of the first year of treatment, Michelle played out
a story with the wild animals of a family that was breaking up be-
cause the violent father divorced his wife. The baby was to be taken
away because a judge decided that the now single mother could not
look after her. The mother frantically tried to keep the baby, secret-
ing her away but the mother was attacked by the father and other
wild animals. As I talked about this and the mother’s desperate at-
tempts to keep her baby, Michelle made the elephants smash the
mother against the wall. Then the game unravelled as she directed
her attacks toward me, threatening to throw an ornament from the
book case.
Because the work had now moved away from the displacement
probably as a result of Michelle’s agitation disrupting her capacity
to play, I decided to interpret directly what was happening and said
that it seemed I was like the mummy and she wanted to attack me
for not providing her with a Daddy who would stay. She immedi-
ately said that she did have a Daddy, that he was a secret Daddy; only
she and her Mum knew about him and he lived somewhere else.
After some more potentially violent behavior she transformed what
was happening into a “show,” singing a song she had sung before,
repeating the words “when it seems all your hopes and dreams are
a million miles away I will be there for you . . . ” I silently listened to
her and after she had ended said that she wanted me to be here for
her no matter what she did. She allowed this without further com-
ment and the affect in the room was calm.
telling me a literal truth, talked about her being like the pigeon
in need of care. She laughed at me saying it was a joke. I felt very
confused and in my mind I linked this familiar sense of confusion to
a story from yesterday’s session about a vulnerable child. However,
as I began to speak, Michelle quickly changed the subject talking
loudly over me; in no time we were playing hide and seek. I spoke
about her disappearing and then hiding and her wanting to hide
something from me; she carried on playing, wanting me to be under
the cushions, to erupt like a volcano out of them. But I sat on the
chair beside the window and she jumped on me; she was very close
and took my hand looking at my wedding ring. She said she knew
where I lived and that my husband or son had rung up her house so
she had spoken to them. I said she very much wanted to know about
and maybe have contact with my family but . . . and, almost before I
had got the words out of my mouth she said she was going as she had a
headache. For the next 10 minutes she was in and out of the room
leaving to go to the bathroom; when she eventually returned I said
it was so hard for her to want to be close to me and to be looked
after by me especially when she felt that other people like my fam-
ily got in the way; and that she had to get away from me when I
understood something like this that was so important to her. After
some provocation with the furniture she initiated a game of “pass
the pinecones” which felt quite precarious; it could develop into
something antagonistic. I talked of her keeping us together by this
game, perhaps also letting me know how frightened she felt when I
talked to her about these painful things.
The game did not descend into something hostile, and in fact she
helped to tidy up the room after she had been to the toilet again.
Michelle both wanted and did not want me to know about her need
for care of the very vulnerable girl she was; in the transference her
curiosity about my family was so full of poignant envy and jealousy, so
linked to her sense of not getting what she needed and wanted. Over
time these concerns had become more elaborated in the analytic pro-
cess so that they were now expressed in the imaginative narrative of her
play and here were more directly articulated in her relationship with her
analyst. However it is also clear how difficult it was for her to hold this
in her mind, and how even after nearly two years of treatment, the agita-
tion in her body expressed so eloquently what could not easily be borne
in mind. My interpretation of her needs, anxieties, and wishes were
only partially successful in holding and containing her. Over most of
her time in analysis she found that thinking about her feelings directly
was overwhelming. Her capacity for affect regulation was very flimsy
and easily rendered useless when subjected to floods of unmodulated
stimulation. Often my interpretations would push Michelle back into
the action mode of functioning. When as in this vignette she seemed
closer to recognizing the links between her play and her self I could
risk articulating them, but it felt for the most part very risky. I had to
find ways of being with her that did not avoid the painful affects but
allowed their recognition to be bearable.
Vignette 5
more messy than today, with the 15yr old girl having a baby but later
losing him. I said that I had got the message that she wanted me
to know that she was struggling with these thoughts about where
she had come from and how she came to be with her Mum. She
had been talking loudly over me but at this point she stopped and
looked straight at me and said “I know drrrr!!”
The point to be highlighted from this material is the way the play
moves on under the pressure of the developmental process. This is a
particularly Anna Freudian perspective, which gives great significance to
the power of the drives and their impact upon the mind. In this story
Michelle incorporates her budding adolescent interest in sex into her
fantasies about her origins and her implicit question as to whether this
will also be her fate. Will she be a girl (like her birth mother) who loses
her baby because of some arbitrary rule? She makes the baby a boy, per-
haps a thinly veiled attempt at disguise, but it is interesting also to think
about how this might point to gender conflicts that are now emerging as
she moves into puberty and the arrival of her adult sexual body. It is also
of interest that she is able to represent a parental couple who remain
interested in their lost baby, although they are subject to the arbitrary
intervention of the man who takes their baby. And this time it is a man
who takes the baby away in contrast to the Goddess in the first vignette
above. Her latency obsessional defenses are brought to bear on these
fantasies as she retreats in the subsequent session into ordering and sort-
ing cards. I feel the affect in the room as a straightjacket of boredom to
constrain the potentially explosive nature of these fantasies.
Before concluding it is important to mention something about not
being able to play. I have earlier quoted Winnicott’s view that the capac-
ity for playing is a fundamental indicator of good mental functioning
and his dictum that psychoanalysis is a highly sophisticated form of play-
ing is well known. Also well known is his assertion that “when a patient
cannot play the therapist must attend to this major symptom before
interpreting fragments of behaviour” (Winnicott 1971). Michelle was
not such a child, although in these vignettes we can see how her play-
ing was constantly at risk of disruption by the eruption of her anxiety
manifest in the relationship with her analyst.
Clinical experiences where the absence of the capacity for play and
playing is to the forefront is common for child analysts, and not only
Conclusions
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