Why I, Angel, Need to Stop Overstepping My Boundaries and Why I
Should Stop Being a Know-it-all, and How I Will Amend These
Traits, as a Feminine Submissive
November 13, 2010
Introduction
There are certain traits of a submissive. The submis-
sive must be open to his dominant and not pushy. The
submissive must be humble and not act like a know-
it-all. The submissive must constantly work on being
the best submissive it can be.
I am a submissive. However, I have been overstep-
ping my boundaries as a submissive. I have been push-
ing issues and suggestions with Ma'am and in general
not acting submissive to her. As a submissive, I am
allowed to make suggestions, but I should not push
issues. I should not do things without asking permis-
sion rst. I should look to my dominant for guidance.
Instead, I have been trying to guide my dominant. I
have been topping from the bottom. As the bottom, I
should be more humble and accepting of direction. I
should not be giving direction. I should not be pride-
ful.
I have earned the assignment of writing this essay
because of my pushiness and my know-it-all behavior.
In short, this behavior is rude, hurtful, and damaging
to my future. I will outline why I should stop these
behaviors, and I will give myself a path to construc-
tively stop these behaviors and become helpful instead
of pushy, and humble instead of a know-it-all. Then I
will become more valuable to and liked by my friends
and my dominant. I will learn what it means to be
the submissive. As I learn to be more submissive, I
will learn to be more feminine, which based on my
psychology, will reinforce my submission.
Why I should stop
overstepping my
boundaries
Overstepping my boundaries has caused me to behave
rudely. I have been pushy and overbearing. I have been
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leading when I should be following. I am by nature a
submissive, and I should act submissively.
When I behave rudely, I am upsetting to those
around me. People will not like me, and they will
not want to be around me. Along the same lines, po-
lite people are welcome around others. I want to be
welcome among other people. Therefore, I must act
politely, and not rudely.
I have been acting like a prima donna. My pride
has been getting in the way of my submission. I am
proud of myself and my accomplishments, but I need to
be accepting of the fact that I have not accomplished
everything, and I do not know everything. In fact, the
proportion of things I know to that which I do not know
is so small as to be insignicant to mention. Others do
not like prideful people.
Pride causes me to be overcondent in myself. Over-
condence means that I will nd myself wrong more of-
ten than I should. It will lead to mistakes that may be
unrecoverable. If I have the proper level of condence,
I should be able to avoid unrecoverable mistakes, by
planning for enough time or resources to correct any
potential mistakes.
Being pushy also exposes other people to potential
harm from my direction. If people are harmed and
not helped by me, I will not be appreciated. In fact, I
will likely be shunned by those I harm, and I will not
be welcome to help them in the future. I damage my
credibility and reputation with this sort of behavior. If
I stop being pushy, I will not be the cause of damage
to anyone.
I must be more aware of myself and my feelings. I
feel like I must be the best. I do not have to be the
best. I want to be submissive and of service to my
dominant. I only want to please my dominant. I need
to be open and submissive to her or him. If I stop
being pushy, I will be behaving as is more appropriate
for my nature and I will feel more fullled.
There are many reasons to not be pushy. It's rude,
it can lead to bad mistakes, it can hurt other people,
and it is behavior that leaves me empty and unfullled.
If I stop this behavior, I will get many benets, mostly
resulting in increasing my friends and avoiding many
problems.
Why I should stop
acting like a know-it-all
I do not have to know everything. I can be without full
understanding. I can defer to other people. It does not
mean I am any less of a person. In fact, defering to
other people is the smart thing to do, especially when
they really do know more than I do. In fact, every
single person on Earth probably knows something that
I don't know, and by not defering to others, I deprive
myself and others of the benets of their knowledge,
experience, and unique intuition.
I recognize that part of my psychological desire is to
make myself look better than other people. Part of the
drive for my know-it-all behavior is that I wish to be
considered highly by people. I want their respect, but
I am learning that I must not act on this urge.
I am not worthy of respect. I am only worthy in-
somuch as I am of service to my dominant. I should
not expect respect from my dominant. I should expect
to serve my dominant. I should not ask for respect,
nor should I be given it. I am a lowly submissive. My
purpose is to serve, not be served. My purpose is to
build up my dominant, not have my dominant build
me up.
When I truly do know something important, people
will listen more carefully. When I act like a know-it-
all, it's like the boy who cried wolf. The boy eventually
found that the townspeople didn't listen to him when
it was important and he was right. Likewise, people
will stop listening to me if I act like a know-it-all. They
won't pay attention to me even when I'm one hundred
percent right.
I will benet by ceasing to be a know-it-all. People
will like me more. I will annoy people less. I will be
able to serve my dominant better. People will listen to
me when I really do have something to say.
How I will stay within
my boundaries and stop
acting like a know-it-all.
I am going to amend these traits by taking several
steps. I will listen more. I will focus harder. I will
ask myself if I am really an expert. I will keep track
of the times I do misstep, and I will be punished for
those mistakes. I will actively attempt to become more
submissive.
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I will be listening more to my dominant. I will listen
to her fully and attentively. I will pay close attention
to her concerns, and not push my own agenda. My own
perspective is known by her. She understands why I
see things the way I do. Her experience means she
usually knows what is best for me. She will help me
to self actualize myself. She is reliable and wise. I am
merely her submissive. I hope that I will please her in
this way.
I will try to remind myself constantly that I am not
an expert on just about everything. I have knowledge
of a lot of things, but that doesn't make me an expert.
It just makes me potentially good at conversation with
a lot of dierent people. I should focus more on asking
questions to elicit their expertise as opposed to trying
to show o my own knowledge.
I will be noting when I am not compliant with my
dominant. I will be focusing on staying within my
boundaries and stopping being a know-it-all. As the
submissive, I should be open to and compliant with
whatever my dominant suggests or tells me to do so
long as it is not a hard limit as we would have discussed
prior.
When I nd myself about to hold forth with my ex-
pert opinion, I will stop myself. I will ask myself if I
truly am an expert on the subject. The answer will
generally be no, unless perhaps the situation is truly
an area I have both studied and worked extensively in.
Having studied many areas, I tend to act as if I am an
expert since I retain some of the knowledge gained from
those studies. However, I lack experience in many of
the areas I have studied. Asking if I have the required
experience will greatly reduce the times I act like an
expert when I am not.
If I do step outside my boundaries by being pushy,
or by acting like a know-it-all, I will keep track of these
times that this happens. I will be punished with 5 min-
utes of corner time for each time I make this mistake.
This punishment is fair and just, and I will gladly sub-
mit to it because it will cause me to be careful not to
behave this way. It will give me a incentive to be mind-
ful and careful. The time sacriced in this punishment
will be compensated many times over.
Unless it's a hard limit, I should always be open to
whatever my dominant recommends or does. There-
fore, I will be more submissive in my relationship with
my dominant as well. I will ask her to continue to teach
me submission. I will actively seek to submit. I will
attempt to become the best submissive I can be within
the constraints of my vanilla life. In my vanilla life, I
will seek to please others, instead of merely seeking my
own ends. I will attempt to help others reach the goals
they have for themselves instead of pushing on them
what I think their goals should be. I will defer to their
knowledge and experience, in all cases except when my
own knowledge and experience are in abundance and
are called upon to be helpful in some way.
Results So Far
I have found that it is easy to avoid doing these things
when I am not interacting with other people. However,
as I interact with them more and more, I keep nding
my impulse to behave like an expert in things I am not
an expert in. I also nd myself acting in a directive
role.
For example, today I was with a bunch of people
socially that I should network with for business. I kept
reminding myself, they are very intelligent people with
a lot of ideas to oer. However, when talking, I found
myself very tempted to be pushy and act like a know-
it-all. In some cases it was because it was an area I
have experience with and knowledge of and therefore
justied. However, there are at least three particular
instances when I overstepped and acted like an expert
when I would not be able to justify it.
I also had my landlord asking me to help him buy
something on ebay. I helped him nd the least expen-
sive item, and essentially told him to sign up on ebay
and then I told him to sign up for a paypal account to
pay for it. Instead, I should have explained the ben-
ets and drawbacks of each, and asked him if that is
what he wanted. Therefore, that is two more instances
of me being pushy.
So today I have counted a total of ve times I
have acted against my nature and in oense to oth-
ers, whether they noted it with me or not. Therefore,
I have 25 minutes of corner time waiting for me. This
time in reection will encourage me not to behave in
such a way again. I will spend the time thinking about
how I have been arrogant and selsh and rehearsing
the experience in my mind thinking about how I should
have behaved, in a thoughtful, humble, and submissive
manner.
Analysis
Analyzing my behavior in this way makes me feel very
sad. I feel like I am a horrible person sometimes. In
middle school, I used to have both a resentment and a
strong attraction towards the beautiful and bossy girl
that was in many of my classes. I knew that I didn't
want to behave like her, but I loved her bossing me
around.
In high school, there was a girl in one of my classes
that would put lotion on me. She would rst put it on
her hands and arms, and it was very sweet smelling,
almost like candy. She sat in front of me. After putting
it on her hands and arms, she would turn around and
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grab my hands. She would then rub it into my hands
and up and down my own arms. I tried to resist a
little, but she was insistent. She didn't talk, she just
did it, and it turned me on so very badly.
As I read about dominant/submissive relationships
online as a teenager, I realized that I wanted very badly
to submit to a strong woman. I wanted her to take
away my freedom. I wanted her to make me hers, and
make me to please her no matter how. I wanted her
to emasculate me, and to treat me like a girl, not like
a man. In this way I began to realize that I am a
submissive, and that I can submit most easily as a
feminine submissive.
Another factor which helped me realize my submis-
siveness was my strong interest as a child in behav-
ing like a chivalrous knight, giving of himself to a fair
maiden. As I grew older, I realized my attitude was
sexist, and that in all fairness, I should expect to give
as much as I get. I realized that the fair maiden was
strong enough without me, but that I could serve her.
I also realized that if I expected her to give of herself
physically, that I should be willing to give of myself
physically.
To expect her to accept penetrative sex would mean
that I should expect to accept penetrative sex. I
learned more about receiving penetrative sex, think-
ing that I may not like it. But as I learned more about
it, it occurred to me that I would learn to like it. Af-
ter learning more, I began touching myself in my back
passage, and found it to be quite pleasurable. I began
to learn to open myself so as to accept her penetration
there.
I also began to realize that she may wish to share me
with men, and that feeling such great sexual pleasure
from being penetrated, I might also quite enjoy being
shared. So I began to practice on realistic dildos, both
sucking, and receiving them inside my pussy, which I
began ushing with water to ensure cleanliness.
All of these things caused me to begin to realize
that I am a submissive. As I know now that I am
a submissive, I also am coming to realize that while I
need to and would feel self actualized as an expert, I
need to be an expert in a submissive role. I need to
ask people what they want to achieve instead of telling
them what they want to achieve. I need to ask people
what their goals are instead of telling them what their
goals should be.
As I write this, I am sitting in a skirt and light
hoodie, with a bra and panties underneath. I am hop-
ing that I will become the little submissive girl that
I should be instead of being the bratty diva that I
have been. Feeling feminine helps me feels submis-
sive, and feel less pushy and less like a know-it-all.
As I write, I feel the pressure of the bra on my skin
around my breasts, and I feel the skirt around my bare
legs. I'm feeling vulnerable and sexy. I know my room-
mate might come in any time, and I will be forced to
quickly remove the skirt for some pants or shorts, and
pretend nothing is changed. This makes me feel even
more excited knowing that there is a chance I could be
discovered. Even still, I don't want to be discovered
because I am hoping for future business to come from
our relationship, even though I am more casual than
others. However, my roommate probably is aware that
I remove my body hair and attempt to stay hairless.
His knowledge of this is ne and I wonder if maybe he
should learn more about my femininity.
As I feel feminine and submissive, I am encouraged
even further to avoid my pushiness and know-it-all be-
havior. It feels even more natural to be humble and
gently accepting. As a submissive, I must be open to
the dominance of others. Whether my I am told to
write an essay or suck a cock, I must do it without
complaining or questioning. In order to be open to
this, I cannot be pushy or positioning myself as the
expert in the situation. Instead I must be open to my
dominant and closed to myself as the driver. I must be
the follower. I must be the best follower ever. I must
be the best submissive ever.

Conclusion
I have examined myself and found myself lacking. I am
pushy and an arrogant know-it-all. These habits will
hold me back in my personal and business relation-
ships. I am hereby resolving to cure myself of these
bad habits. I will take specic steps to stop these bad
social behaviors. I will continue to learn how to be sub-
missive and feminine. I appreciate my dominant friend
for pointing out this mode of behavior modication to
me, and I am glad for the experience in writing this.
The bad behaviors described here are the behaviors
of a selsh egotistical jerk. The good behavoirs are the
behaviors of a giving and humble submissive. I des-
perately want to avoid the former, and become more
like the latter. I am asking my dominant for help with
this.