blown out, rejected to the point where your ego is crushed. Point is to eliminate the
attachment of your self confidence to your ego. To the point where your self confidence
is independent of your ego.
Don’t be apologetic for approaching just do you
Need to stop being so reliant on your looks or self image. Regardless of what the person
thinks of how you look or what they think of you should be independent of your approach
and energy or action. “What does the person think of me, how do I look, am I good
enough”, should not be the thought process. Rather you should approach with the
objective of giving value, sharing value, adding some fun to their night or day.
Persistence and being fun, keeping it light, having action and intent without outcome. If
they want to have a good time with you – fine, if not, also fine because you will continue
to have a good time
Talk about what feels good to you, what’s silly, what’s funny to me, how can I let go and
have fun
Girls respond to energy, and girls love guys that don’t give a shit and give a challenge,
who are playful, funny, mysterious and lots of emotions
Girls don’t care about predictable guys who aren’t mysterious and are talking about stuff
they don’t care about
What is the girl experiencing, how does she feel, what does she feel like? HES Funny,
hes leading, hes letting go, validation, emotions, challenges – that’s all shes thinking and
feeling. Not how you look, not your image.
Leading: You can lead even when youre not actually leading. If she has an objective or
destination, play ball and pretend to take the lead. She wants to find her friends, make it
your idea, “hey lets go/ where going to find your friends”. YOU NEED TO TAKE THE
LEAD, very important aspect – women fear passive guys that don’t know what to do. Be
the man with the plan, imagine Tyler screaming in horror when you don’t lead. It’s a
weakness, pathetic and WRONG in every way if you do not lead the girl. Don’t be a
passive guy that’s confused and just sits there, make decisions and choices to lead in your
interactions and if it doesn’t work out, apologize back off and try something else.
Take away: When shes enjoying the feelings shes getting from you, you walk off so she
feels the loss, to miss you for a moment.
Challenge: To spike her emotion, keep her engaged by playfully pressing her emotions
like saying shes stuck up, she thinks shes all that.
Back off: Backing off is a good way to build comfort with girls, girls love guys that back
off because it shows you care and will know you are a good guy. Don’t feel bad for
backing off and apologizing it gives you value.
Time physicality: Making her laugh makes her feel good and then using that timing to
hold her hand shows that whenever you touch her or grab her hand it feels good because
shes laughing. Don’t GRAB at because that’s weird and uncool.
Dont be afraid of her, dominant, don’t be intimidated and put her on a pedestale.
Let girls qualify themselves to you
Girls hate being manipulated, so you need to give a shit, vibe with the girl, chill with her
and just have fun with her instead of trying to get some sort of outcome out of her:
INTENT without outcome.
Creating playful friction, fuck where you’re from, spikes her emotion, teaches you that
nothing bad will ever happen
Never be an obstacle to her goal
Don’t react, you get shoved into your own head, whenever you start reacting you lose
Rejection is gradual, she wont hate you right off the bat over a single mess up
Warming up is natural, take your time and don’t force yourself into getting into state right
away
If you want to draw her in, function at a different frequency, if everyone is dancing like
crazy the guy who stands out is the one moving slowly, if the place is very quiet the one
who stands out is the guy who is louder and having fun
Have to make a decision, cannot be wishy washy need to decide even if it’s the wrong
decision make a decision/choice
Let go of the situation, don’t get all hung up, let her do her, and just go meet a lot of
people – have abundance. Meet women, do a lot of opens, from the opens that go well, I
feel abundance, the more abundance I have, the less apologetic I feel, the less I care, im
more in the moment and less stifled in my communication. Then more girls will like me,
the more girls like me the more indifferent I become. The more indifferent I become and
the more girls like me the more I open and not care of the outcome.
Acknowledge that you are just trying to become social, allow the warm up to come
naturally and be honest with the feelings you have, enjoy yourself, free of outcome
Acknowledge the group or friends it’s a huge factor
Clarity of intent, good intent, freedom of outcome, congruent with self, having a good
time, presence, offer value, theres no down side for her. Don’t be clingy.
You can literally talking to anybody, you have the right to talk to literally anyone
anywhere anytime because you have entitlement, there is no downside
Don’t pick and choose open all so you link SEE GIRL OPEN GIRL
Using good emotions and making them feel good or happy allows you to lead or pull,
they need to feel good and amazing
Excuse builds excuse building momentum
Don’t let your criteria of success be too high, stick to the process, building a cake, one
step at a time, stick to the process instead of expecting some sort of reward or expectation
Lower criteria of success, lower standard of girl to approach, approach all, every
approach is a win
Just say hi to somebody, it doesn’t have to go well, stop trying to control everything and
the outcome or expect something out of it, let go of your ego and view it as a win
Don’t waste energy on self attack, making excuses is attacking yourself and your brain
Love yourself, small wins and take actions, relax small victories and enjoy yourself
Don’t try too hard too early in the night, only when you’re comfortable with yourself and
have abundance. Otherwise it comes off as try hard and needy. Only works if youre not
needy. Don’t use tactics that are trying to make you seem less needy because itll make
you seem needy
Be at ease own it accept it, don’t need to do more and control and instead let go stop
trying to qualify yourself
Don’t be pissed that its not easier, be happy that it’s a challenge
Don’t be stupid and make her choose to stay or not go, it doesn’t make it more
meaningful its bad game, begging is bad
To best others you have to be bested, you have to lose to get better
More relaxed, more chilled, not making a big deal out of shit, kicking it, having fun, not
giving a fuck
Getting all hung over a girl you don’t even know, because you have scarcity
Ten game
1. Get out of your own way
Stop caring about your appearance, self image, what she thinks, what people think,
everyone will judge regardless of how rich successful beautiful you are. Aim to have a
good time, to have fun regardless of the outcomes.
2. Offering value
Focus on what you’re able to give, good emotions, hanging around cool guy, increasing
their fun, making them laugh
You should be able to offer all those values without wanting or having anything in return
HERE check this out, have some fun, here take THIS have some fun, look at this fun im
having come
Don’t take value, don’t need anything, don’t need her acceptance or her
acknowledgement to have value
Being fun, happy joyful, not giving a fuck, passionate and care free, at ease, relaxed,
excited to be part of a passionate vibe. FUN CAREFREE PASSION
What you say or do should make you feel a certain way, and hopefully a positive way
What you say or do isn’t important, how you feel when you say or do is whats important
Once youre able to make yourself feel good, you no longer need the girl to make yourself
feel good. Since you’ve let go of the outcome, you’re already feeling good, you no longer
need anyone or anything else to give you that outcome since you already have it.
4. Being real
5. Communicate Clearly
Can she hear you, are you loud enough, otherwise you’re not in the interaction
Are you smiling
Am I holding eye contact, am I facing her, am I getting close enough for her to
experience me
6. Think Win-Win
Whats the girls goal, whats my goal, and how can I make this win win
No girl wants to feel like a slut, you will get rejected