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SIGNS SHE LIKES YOU

How To Tell If She Wants You To Make A Move

DATE SMART GIRLS

How To: Pick Up A Smart Girl
Two Things Smart Women Do to Attract Smart Men

MINE
PARTS
Eyes
Lips
Hands
Body posistion
Talking
Words
intonation

SMART COMPLIMENTS
- Her looks
- Her character such as her inteligence, sense of humor, etc.
- Flirting via emails
- You’re so right’ and ‘I like your style’

Show her that you’re interested in what she has to say. Women love when men actually
listen and respond to them. This is, by far, the best way to flirt.

A woman who is interested in you will constantly test you, in ways she may not even realize.
She’s just trying to figure out where your words and actions meet; not just what you say you
are, but if you can stand up to her feline heat. Relax. If she throws a snide remark your way
to see how you’ll react, ignore it. It’s just her way of saying she likes you.

PALM READING
Don’t constantly comment on her intelligence. It’s okay to kindly tell her she’s bright from
time to time, but avoid frequently saying things like “Wow, you’re so smart!” or “I never
would’ve thought of that!” It gives off the impression that you idolize her, which is
unhealthy and won’t come off as very attractive to her.[

Two Things Smart Women Do to Attract Smart Men

To attract a smart man let him have his moment.

You are on your first date with a new guy. He takes you to a nice
restaurant and you have the best table in the house. He tells you that
he hosts large business meetings here so they take very good care of
him. You smile, say “that’s nice” and proceed to tell him that you do
the same thing with another restaurant in town, in fact last week you
hosted a dinner with 20 of your top clients and it was a great success.

Maybe you were just sharing and showing him that you have things in
common. Or maybe you thought he was bragging and you wanted to
be sure he knew that you’re no slouch when it comes to being
“connected” and appreciating the finer things.

Doesn’t matter, because there’s a good chance you’ll never hear from
him again.

You see, his “bragging” was likely his attempt at impressing you.
That’s what men do when they like you: they try to please and impress
you. That’s one of the best things about dating grownup men – they
try…if you let them.
As woman in her 40s, 50s and beyond, it gets harder and harder for
men to “wow” you. Let’s face it: you’ve seen and done a lot, and
anything he offers you can probably do for yourself. The problem is
that the men you want are the ones who want to impress you. If you
don’t let him, he is not likely to call for another date and he definitely
won’t pick you as a partner.
Here’s exactly how to do it: It’s all in the delivery, girlfriend. You
can share your story…just not yet. Simply receive his information and
acknowledge it before you fire back. Take a breath, smile, and give
him his due appreciation.
Tell him how cool it is that he has this connection, especially since it
set you up to enjoy this lovely restaurant with him. In other words,
acknowledge you’re impressed and thank him for what he’s done for
you.

Let him be your hero, even for just a little while.

Then, if you feel it’s still significant, tell him about your connections
and your clients later. He’s already happy to know you’re a woman
who he can please and impress. Now it will be his turn to be
impressed. Bingo!
To attract a smart man give him the enchanting stuff first.
As the conversation continues, he asks you about your business. What
do you do? You tell him you run/work for a company that helps large
businesses with all their financial needs. Maybe you list some: their
investments, payroll, taxes…blah, blah, blah.

The conversation then takes one of two paths: talk about his career or
further talk about the financial needs of businesses. Oh…hot
conversation indeed!

Smart men want to hear about your successful career and want to
know that you can keep up, even surpass them, intellectually. But men
deal with the alpha-side of women all day long. At home, they want a
lover, not a colleague.

If this man is going to drive home anxious to see you again, you don’t
just want to stimulate his mind; you want to stimulate his spirit. (And,
yah, I know what you’re thinking…he’s looking for stimulation there
too.)
If you doubt this, it might help you to know that in study after study
men site “passion, compassion or caring” among the primary reasons
they were attracted to their wife or partner. This is the feminine energy
they crave.
Here’s exactly how to attract a smart man with your feminine
energy: Focus your answer differently. Instead of listing your
degrees, accomplishments and daily tasks, focus on why you chose
your career and what you get out of it.
Tell him you run/work for a company that helps large businesses with
all their financial needs then add “and I enjoy it because ________.”
The answers to “because” almost always come from your feminine.
It’s likely you chose your career because you help people, get to be
creative and/or enjoy your relationships with clients or co-workers.
Yah, you also like the challenge, professional recognition, etc. and
that’s part of the conversation. But can you see how talking about the
“whys and becauses” helps him see this side of you and also leads to
deeper communication?

It shifts the conversation from accomplishments and tactics (the

workplace) to one of feelings and values (the relationship place).

Now, I’m not saying you must shut up, smile sweetly and tell him
how great he is. The guys you want don’t want that either –
thankfully. Share your accomplishments and the things you are proud
of in your life, but do it in a way that lets him see the whole You.

All I have to do is look at my husband and the partners of countless

women who are friends and clients, and I know for a fact that
grownup men want smart, accomplished women as partners, lovers
and wives. They just want the softer and supportive side of you in
equal measure.

When you think about it, it costs you nothing to make these simple
shifts in communication, and the payoff can be huge: the love and
respect of a fabulous man. Try it on your next date, or even with the
men in your office, and let me know how it goes!

Here is your homework this week:

When you start talking about what you DO, add the phrase: because…
and fill it in.
Examples:
 I have two degrees in math…because I love the stories that
numbers tell about life, and how the world works
 I did three sailing races last year…because I feel so free when
I’m surrounded by the ocean.
 I’m so happy I got promoted to VP…because now I can finally
start rewarding the people in my department who really deserve
it.

How To: Pick Up A Smart Girl

1- Don't fake it
Remember that scene in Good Will Hunting when Ben Affleck tries to pick
up Minnie Driver at that Harvard bar? Remember how he tries to look all smart and
sophisticated, but instead he just ends up looking like a douche? Yeah. Don't be that
guy. When you're trying to pick up a smart girl, it's imperative that you don't, under
any circumstances, pretend to know something that you don't. First, she'll probably
see right through your sorry act. Second, trying to prove that you're her intellectual
equal (or superior) will only make you look insecure.

If you really want to know how to pick up a smart girl, you’d be wise to remember that
it's always better to seem inquisitive than authoritative. Trying to sound smart will
only make you sound dumb or worse: pretentious.

2- Don't defer to her intelligence

OK, so you don't want to act like a know-it-all, but don't get caught playing dumb
either. Obviously, if a woman has wit, intelligence and great conversation skills she's
going to get your attention.

Understandably, you're going to be attracted to her. Just don't fawn over her. Even if
you're legitimately in awe of her intelligence, don't let on. Giving her compliments like
"Wow, you're so smart" or "I never would have thought of that" may seem harmless,
but they don't necessarily reflect positively on you. Consider this: If you're constantly
telling a woman how smart she is, she'll probably start to suspect you don't spend
much time in the company of intelligent people. Not a turn on. Remember this point
when you’re navigating how to pick up a smart girl.

We have two more tips to help you figure out how to pick up a smart girl…

3- Be curious
Smart women respect intellectual curiosity. So show her you're interested in learning
new things. Tell her about the enriching experiences you've had or hope to have. And
if you don’t have many of those experiences, talk to her about how you've always
wanted to travel to Delhi, India or learn how to wakeboard. When talking to an
intelligent woman (or any woman) your conversation has to go beyond those initial
"What do you do?" kinds of questions? Take it to the next level. Ask her what it was
that made her want to be a lawyer or a teacher or a librarian. When she tells you
where she's from, ask her what it was like to grow up there. Ask great questions, and
you'll stand out from the crowd. You'll come off as thoughtful and she'll definitely be
intrigued.

And once you've figured out how to pick up a smart girl, maintain her interest by
planning dates that will engage your intellect.

Taking her somewhere like an art gallery or a museum are obvious options, but there
are lots of others. Intellectually curious people thrive on new experiences; take her off
the beaten path to a farmer's market or out for some foreign food.

4- Be honest about what you know

When you meet a really intelligent woman, you might find it difficult to carry
a conversation if the two of you don't share many common interests. Maybe the two
of you haven't read the same books or seen the same films. This is one of the many
challenges associated with trying to pick up a smart girl, but just because you haven't
had the same experiences doesn't mean she's out of your league. Everyone is an
expert on something. So what if she speaks six languages? Maybe you're a gifted
carpenter or maybe you love coaching basketball. You might not be able to relate to
her specific passions, but you do understand what it's like to be passionate about
something. Connect with her along those lines. Show her what you know and share
your passions with her. That's how to pick up a smart girl.

brainy babes
As long as you’re not a sociopath or an antisocial hermit, and as long as you have
the capacity to think critically, you’ll be fine. Smart girls, like anyone, are just people
looking for some stimulation. Whether that stimulation is intellectual, physical or
social, that’s for you to discover. Basically, don’t be intimidated and have pride in
yourself when trying to pick up a smart girl.

How To Tell If She Wants You To Make A Move

Reading a woman is difficult until you’re clear on how to know if she wants you
to make a move.

When you can correctly interpret the warm and open signs a beautiful woman is trying to
convey to you, everyone wins.

That’s why today I’m going to show you how to know if she wants you to make a move, so
you don’t have to stumble through anymore.

To get some context for the angle I’m taking here, check out this dilemma from a fellow
Introverted Alpha reader.

Can you relate to what he shared about leading to the first kiss?

“I want to learn how to make the first kiss happen without putting the other person in
awkwardness. After the first kiss, I can do anything. Everything is fine because I know that
things are mutual.

“Sometimes I talk over things with her beforehand, but this method can be a turnoff for some
women. So it is like a gamble because here they want us to make the move without giving us
any tips.”

In actuality, they are giving you tips.

LOTS of tips!

You just don’t know how to read them yet, and I’m about to help you with that right now.

Before I do, there’s something you need to know before any of this is going to click with
you, and that is knowing what women find attractive about you.
In any social setting, if you feel there are a lot of guys in the room who are objectively more
attractive than you, what’s going to make you think that her eye contact or body language
signs are favorable to you, instead of writing them off because there’s Dashing Dan over
there?

That’s why we have our free ebook that explains step-by-step how to find out what’s sexually
attractive about you so that you can confidently read and act on the signs that she’s giving
you. Download it here.

This is what we do. I founded Introverted Alpha to help introverted men date with natural
confidence as self-actualization. That starts with knowing what is most attractive about you so
you can bring that out for women to see!

Back to the task at hand re: how to tell if she wants you to make a move:

There’s a fine balance between not moving too fast or too slow. It’s all about reading well and
calibrating for both of you, which is strong leadership.

If you don’t know when to make a move, that can be stressful for both of you. She can sense
your tension, you asking yourself distractedly and anxiously, “Does she want me or not?”

That said, it’s GOOD that you’re not barreling through like a bull in a china shop.

It’s important to accurately read any subtle signs she wants you to make a move and take
them into account along with the full picture (how she feels towards you, how she is feeling in
general, and how she feels in the environment).

We’ll get into all that in this article!

Here’s what we’re going to cover today.

This is all about whether she wants you to take things to the next level:

(1) How to know if she does NOT want you to make a move at all or YET.

(2) How to know WHEN to make a move and IF to do so at all, based on…

 The way she is towards you

 How she seems to be feeling in the moment
 How she feels in the environment

Let’s go over how to know she does NOT want you to make a move:

This is important to pay attention to because you don’t want to be a disrespectful jerk, and
you don’t want to objectify her.
You don’t want to inaccurately perceive signs a girl wants you when in reality those signs just
AREN’T THERE.

OR they are covered over by signs she does NOT want you (as those are very important to
read and respect).

You ALSO don’t want to frustrate her and yourself by not making a move when you both
want you to, when there are actual green lights.

Don’t wait for her to make the first move when there is nothing but clear signs she wants you
to build the chemistry between you.

“No” Sign #1: She doesn’t really seem into you or even more clearly, she actually said
no.

If she said no, then 100% respect that. I don’t care how her “no” sounded; a “no” is a NO. If
she said “no” but meant “yes”, then she is not the kind of woman you want to be intimate
with.

Playing with “no” when she means “yes” is fine in a consensual loving relationship once
you’ve established trust and an understanding of what “no” can mean in different contexts and
have established safe words, et cetera.

But when you are FIRST getting to know a woman, “no” is NO. Period. Again, if she means
“yes”, then she can’t be trusted to be intimate with you. Standards go both ways.

“No” Sign #2: She seems tense or hesitant with one foot in, one foot out…

If she is uncomfortable, if her body seems tense or if she seems hesitant with one foot in and
one foot out, then only proceed to the next step of physical intimacy once she is NO
LONGER tense.

Err on the side of caution if you don’t want one or both of you to feel regret later.

This is an excellent post by Daniel Schmachtenberger on what to do when a woman is

hesitant and how to fully respect her, yourself, and the connection.

“No” Sign #3: She doesn’t seem comfortable in the mood or environment.

If both of the above considerations are green lights (she’s into you and feeling free and clear
about the connection between the two of you), but this is yellow or red…. then this would be
a no, at least for that moment.

For example, if it’s chaotic or loud or she feels self-conscious or uneasy in the place you’re in,
then that’s a “no” on the environment, not necessarily on “you” altogether.
In many cases, she will be hoping you make a move LATER once the environment has
changed!

While the last thing we want is for you to be making a move she didn’t invite, it is also not
good to NOT be making a move with a woman you’re really attracted to and feeling a genuine
connection with.

Reason being, meanwhile she is dying over there hoping and praying that you’ll get the
hint already because there might not be a next time!

So let’s look at how to know if she wants you to make a move based on…

(a) how she is towards you,

(b) how she is feeling, and finally
(c) the environment.

Note that each of these areas directly corresponds with the “how to tell if she does NOT want
you to make a move” section above.

What you’re about to learn are simply detailed signs that the direct opposite is happening,
which is a great thing! Let’s get into it:

“Into You” Signs she wants you to make a move:

These are good signs that she wants you to make a move, based on how she feels towards
YOU personally and if she’s into you.

Into You Sign #1. She is warm and open to you.

The first way to know if she wants you to make a move is to read her body language.

Is her body language receptive to you? If so, you’ll notice that she is opening her body
towards you, not away from you. She’s leaning in, interested in what you say.

Also, she enjoys being around you. She looks visibly relaxed and yet also excited by you. Her
breathing is either deeper and more relaxed or shallow with excitement.

The way to tell whether her shallow breathing is from excitement (good) or discomfort and
turn-off (bad) is to watch her facial expression.

Is she smiling genuinely, even if ever so slightly?

If she seems tense and forced, she’s not a happy camper.

On the other hand, if she seems open and happy, even if she’s a bit nervous, excellent! That’s
a great sign that she wants to connect more with you.

Into You Sign #2. She is moving closer to you.

The second clue into how to know if she wants you to make a move is whether she is subtly
(or not so subtly) snuggling up to you.

Maybe she touches your knee or your arm, and when she does, the chemistry you feel
between you is electric.

Perhaps she’s moved to where she’s sitting shoulder-to-shoulder with you or knee-to-knee. Or
perhaps you moved to sit near her that way, and she’s happily staying put to continue
touching you.

As the night goes on, maybe she takes the opportunity to snuggle close to you so that your
bodies are pressing together.

If she’s allowing/increasing physical contact in any of these ways, she likes you. As long as
you are feeling the chemistry between you flowing both ways, she is going to want that
sensual, sexy build-up to lead straight to the kiss!

Into You Sign #3. She is responding well to your touch.

The third way to answer how to know if she wants you to make a move comes down to
interpreting her response to your touch.

Sometimes the escalation of physical touch can feel like anything but a stair-step, especially
looking at how other guys do it.

You might wonder, “Do I take my time, or should I be aggressive? I don’t want to seem timid,
but I also don’t want to come on too strong or invade her personal space.”

Classic dilemma.

To answer this question, think back to the last time you were sitting on the beach.

Remember how sometimes the ocean tide would brush up ever so gently onto the shore in
front of you? And how other times it was a rushing torrent, overpowering everything in its
wake and rolling back to gain momentum for another wave?

You might ask which way is the “right” way: gentle or intense?

The answer is it depends on the vibe you have with her as things get more exciting. You must
build and be in tune with the CHEMISTRY flowing between you.
For the sake of this article, the easiest and most straightforward (yet still subtle and sexy) way
to do this is through this 3-Stage Sequence of Escalating Touch:

 Step 1: Friendly Touch (lightly touching on her arm, hand, or knee when making a
point)
 Step 2: Flirtatious Touch (stroking, hugging)
 And Step 3: Making the First Kiss Inevitable (more hugging, your hands through her
hair and on her jaw)

When you follow through these stages, your escalation can progress naturally and seamlessly.

At that point, the first kiss really does become inevitable, and it is so delicious!

The key is feeling comfortable and agile in all three stages, which you can only do by
learning them.

Once you’ve done that, as you go through friendly touch and then into flirtatious touch, you
are building her desire and anticipation, sparking her hope for you to go further.

Remember that women love to be teased. When we’re into you, we love to anticipate what’s
next!

One of my favorite things to teach is how to make her wonder, “Is he going to ask for my
phone number or not?” or, “Is he going to kiss me or not?” while she’s practically panting for
you to go ahead and do it already!

Her wondering this, WHILE feeling chemistry with you through your badass escalation
through the stages of touch, drives her crazy in the best way.

When she MOST wants you to make a move is when she has already been wanting it,
hoping for it… THEN you give it to her.

“Feeling Great” signs she wants you to make a move:

These signs are based on how she feels in her body AROUND you, and they all indicate a
desire for her to be alone with you.

Feeling Great Sign #1. She seems relaxed.

If she’s relaxed, she is going to be breathing more deeply with her shoulders down and back
(non-protective stance) and her movements gentle and open.

She’s also going to be engaged with you, which shows you that she’s not relaxed in a BORED
way, but in a great way that feels good for her.
Feeling Great Sign #2. She seems excited.

If she’s excited, she will be maybe bubbly or maybe just flushed, depending on how outgoing
or shy she is. Either way, she’ll be HAPPY while also being flushed, so that’s how you know
it’s a positive feeling of excitement rather than aggravation or tension.

“Right Environment” signs she wants you to make a move:

These signs on how to know if she wants you to make a move are based on how she feels in
the ENVIRONMENT you’re in together.

Right Environment Sign #1. She seems to feel safe.

It’s one thing to feel relaxed around YOU (in the point just above), and it’s another to feel
relaxed in the PLACE you are in. Wherever you are, notice how conducive it feels to her for
escalating intimacy.

Everyone is going to respond differently to different places.

For example, one woman may feel completely comfortable with you kissing her at a bar or on
a sidewalk with people walking by, while another one wouldn’t. Notice first the environment
and then how she seems to FEEL in that environment.

Right Environment Sign #2. The mood is right.

One big aspect of how good she is going to feel in a place is the interplay of SENSUAL
details, meaning what is she picking up through her senses?

If there’s soft lighting, if it’s clean and pleasant, if there is adequate privacy, she is much
more likely to feel on the same page with you and curious to be more intimate with you. The
right vibe builds sexual tension in a very fun way for both of you.

Here’s your takeaway on how to know if she wants you to make a move:

When you can start to read everything from hidden signs to obvious signs that she likes you,
you’ll be able to react in the moment and won’t feel like to have to wait for the elusive
“perfect time” because you’ll be able to sense it.

The more confident you are in your own skin and around attractive women, the less afraid of
rejection you’ll be and the more any nervous habits will subside.

As you get the sense of attraction is about two human beings feeling out a potential
connection, things become more relaxed and fun for both of you!

Now, let’s review what to pay close attention to:

You know she does NOT want you to make a move at all or yet if…

1. She doesn’t seem into you or said NO.

2. She seems tense or hesitant.
3. And/or she looks like she feels uncomfortable in the environment or setting.

Here are the 3 sets of signs that she DOES want you to make a move:

How to know if she wants you to make a move based on how into you she is:

1. She is warm and open to you.

2. She is moving closer to you.
3. Also, she is receptive to your touch.

How to know if she wants you to make a move based on how good she feels around you:

1. She seems relaxed.

2. She seems excited.

How to know if she wants you to make a move based on how the environment feels to
her:

1. She feels safe.

2. She feels that the mood is right.

It all comes down to reading her body well with an open, well-informed mind and sharp
intuition.

How amazing would it be to see women regularly showing you huge signs they like you? It’s
so much easier to feel out how to make a move once you know she will be receptive.

Also, dating is about a lot more than that. Sometimes you’re not going to have ALL the signs
from the attractive woman in front of you. What do you do then, when you don’t have much
time to think things over?

The key is to be prepared with the whole big picture of your dating skills…

How to make a move once you see the signs

Once you see that a woman is into you, how do you make a physical move? If you’re in a
group setting like the dance floor, you may want to keep things more lowkey and then move
to a more private place or simply set up another date with her.

As long as you continue to stay aware of how both of you are feeling in the moment in the
context of where you are and how the vibe is, you’ll be going in the right direction.
These resources can help you with other important aspects of dating and attraction:

 Peruse all articles on the topics of conversation and flirting.

 Go through our 6,300-word conversation guide for introverted guys.
 Remember why and how you are attractive as an introverted guy.

That’s where genuine confidence comes in: knowing what is most attractive about you and
why. This kind of confidence helps develop everything from high-quality standards in your
love life to a great sense of humor all around because you become comfortable in your own
skin.

The best way to go deeper on developing your confidence is by getting a copy of our free
ebook on finding your own uniquely attractive vibe.

And if you are ready to tackle dating and significantly improve your love life once and for
all, visit our dating coaching program page to see how we can help you 1:1. Our clients rave
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4 mýty, ktorými ťa neustále kŕmia ženské (aj mužské)
magazíny

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Je to už dlho, čo to viem.

A nedá mi nepodeliť sa s tebou o túto (pre teba) oslobodzujúcu vec.

Pretože keď sám neuvidíš tieto klamstvá, ktorými si neustále kŕmený, tak budeš navždy
neviditeľný pre atraktívne a zaujímavé ženy.

Poviem ti, čo ženy NECHCÚ. Pretože si bol klamaný. Celú tú dobu.

Prečo takéto magazíny klamú a zavádzajú?

Mýty ženských magazínov

Začnem hneď tým najväčším mýtom – PENIAZE

Myslíš si, že ženy chcú peniaze? Vlastne, vieš čo?

Je to tá najväčšia hlúposť a mňa to už rozčuľuje, že ma tým takmer každý deň niekto

bombarduje: „Ale keď ja nemám peniaze a ženy sú na bavoráky a norkové kožuchy.“

Bulšit. Keď som získal moju priateľku (teraz už manželku), tak na účte mi svietilo 0€.
Nekupoval som jej darčeky a nevodil ju na drahé večere.
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dávať peniaze ani na autobus.

A hádaj čo ďalej?

Ženy nepriťahujú ani veľké SVALY

Popravde, väčšinu žien skôr odpudzujú chlapi, ktorí vyzerajú akoby napumpovaní
steroidmia nemožno rozoznať ich krk.

Namiesto 6 kociek mám momentálne na bruchu jednu (teda skôr jednu tehlu). V období,
kedy som získal väčšinu žien, som bol chudý a v tom období som ani necvičil.

Telo nula bodov.

A taktiež to nie je o hlave plnej VLASOV

Podľa prieskumu v roku 2007 až 97 % žien pokladá v skutočnosti holohlavých mužov za

sexy! 97 %!

Uff, vtedy mi odľahlo. Pretože mám genetické predispozície na plešinu. Už teraz sa mi začína
tvoriť. Je hlúpe nosiť kvôli tomu prehadzovačku alebo vyhadzovať stovky eur na
(ne)fungujúce vlasové prípravky.

Plešina je sexy! Tak sa už prestaň kvôli vlasom trápiť.

Zjednoduš si ZOZNÁMENIE so ženami, ktoré sa ti páčia

Pozri si toto video a dozvieš sa, ako si môžeš zjednodušiť zoznamovanie a zvýšiť svoju šancu,
že sa žena bude chcieť s tebou ďalej baviť a dá ti na seba kontakt.
A už vôbec to nie je o úžasnom VZHĽADE

Čítal som interview s Bradom Pittom, kde

priznal, že keď prišiel do Hollywoodu, tak si nedokázal dohodnúť rande. Brad Pitt.

S ním mám však ja spoločné asi len to, že som blonďák. Nie som ani tak krásny, úspešný a
neadoptoval som si malého čierneho princa z Etiópie.

Pre vytvorenie príťažlivosti u ženy ti úplne stačí mať priemerný vzhľad.

Kto môže za to, že týmto hlúpostiam stále veríš?

Úspech u žien môžeš mať nezávisle na tom, ako vyzeráš, koľko peňazí máš práve v
peňaženke, alebo ako „dobrý“ v skutočnosti so ženami si.

Ale ak si si doteraz myslel, že peniaze, dobrá práca či čierny princ z Etiópie môžu za to, že
chlap priťahuje ženy… hádaj čo?

Nie si sám! Tak isto som si to kedysi myslel aj ja.

Pretože som to videl v médiách. Teda špeciálne v ženských (aj mužských) magazínoch.

Nekecám. Skús si to sám. Otvor si Divu, Feminity, EMMU, Fifíka (no dobre, ten je náhodou
kúl) a prečítaj si, čo tam píšu.

Je to plné bludov, ktoré majú na míle ďaleko od toho, čo muži od žien naozaj chcú.

Keby tie dievčenské magazíny povedali holú pravdu o tom, čo chlapi chcú, stálo by v nich
iba:

1. Buď viac sexi

2. Sprav dobrú fajku

P.S. …a možno ešte dobre navar

Čo priťahuje mužov a ženy

A teraz ti prezradím, čo nás mužov a ženy vlastne prirodzene priťahuje.

Keď sa pozrieš mnoho mnoho rokov dozadu, keď sme ešte nemali ajfóny, internet a ešte
hlbšie do minulosti až niekde k nášmu počiatku, tak chlap potreboval vedieť loviť a nebyť
ulovený iným predátorom.

To nás naučilo postarať sa o seba, naučili sme sa umeniu lovu, taktiky a prežitia.

Teda muži boli ochrancovia a lovci.

Žena sa starala o rodinu, vychovávala potomkov a zabezpečovala domov. Ženy sa starali

o zdravie a výchovu potomkov.

Jediná pôvodná potreba ľudí bola prežiť a rozmnožiť sa. Platilo to veľmi dlhú dobu,
takže to máme dokonale zakódované v nás.

Aj dnes ovplyvňujú tieto 2 potreby prakticky všetko, čo robíme.

Všetko čo robíš aj ty, robíš iba preto, aby si mal pohodlnejší život, zarobil viac peňazí (čím si
ho môžeš zabezpečiť), zaujal krajšie a lepšie dievčatá, mal s nimi kvalitných potomkov
a zachoval tak svoj rod.

Stále to odkazuje na tie pôvodné potreby.

Čo chceme my muži?

Muži v dnešnej dobe nemajú problém

postarať sa o seba a prežiť, ale schopní muži majú problém rozmnožiť sa.

Problémom pre dnešného muža je nájsť schopnú ženu.

Ak narazíme na nie príliš pekné a obézne ženy, tak to v nás evokuje menej schopných
potomkov, ktorí pravdepodobne „neprežijú“ v konkurencii a nebudú dostatočne silní, aby sa
ďalej rozmnožovali a šírili tak silné otcovské gény.

Keď vidíme krásne, sexi, vyzývavé a upravené ženy, tak to zasa v nás evokuje príťažlivosť
a ty sa chceš s nimi zoznamovať a mať s nimi deti. Preto si pri nich nervózny, vidíš ich ako
matku svojich detí a preto to nechceš pokašľať.

Ale, ideálna je pre nás koniec koncov žena do „koča“ aj do „voza“.

Kedy dokáže nášmu potomkovi odovzdať silné a zdravé gény a bude zároveň schopná ho
vychovávať, viesť a postará sa oňho aj o domácnosť.

Byť krásna, sexi a nadržaná je síce fajn, ale to nestačí.

Čo teda priťahuje nás mužov na ženách?

Prvým kritériom, podľa ktorého muži hodnotia ženu, je ich VONKAJŠIA KRÁSA.

Je to jednoducho tak, nebudeme si klamať, že nám ide predovšetkým o vaše vnútro či

srdiečko.

Po tom vonkajšom vzhľade ďaleko, ďaleko nič a až následne prichádzajú na rad všetky
logické veci ako je povaha, inteligencia, charakter.

Prečo je to tak?

Chceme mať zdravých potomkov a takéto ženy nám ich môžu dať.

Nie len, že krásne vyzerajú, sú zdravé telom, starajú sa o seba, ale často sú aj v hlave
normálne a zdravé.

Muži nemajú problém prežiť, ale rozmnožiť sa (odhliadnúc od niektorých dnešných

chlapov, ktorí sa nevedia postarať ani sami o seba).

Spraviť zdravých, krásnych, ale hlavne konkurencie schopných potomkov, ktorým odovzdajú
svoje silné gény.
Čo si ako prvé všimneš na žene v bikinách?

Pred chvíľou som hovoril o tom, čo chceme

a hľadáme na ženách vlastne my muži.

Nebudeme si klamať, zaujíma nás predovšetkým ich vonkajší vzhľad, ich sexepíl,
obliekanie sa, postava, prsia, zadok.

Pred nejakým časom na jednom slovenskom ženskom magazíne uverejnili článok, na ktorého
konci som sa nestačil čudovať, čo za hlúposť uverejnili vo svojom magazíne (len aby sa
článok čo najviac zdieľal a ľuďom páčil, aby mohli následne predať sponzorom veľa
reklamy).

Bolo tam napísané: „Ozaj, viete, čo si na žene v bikinách všimne muž najskôr? Jej oči!
A nezameriava sa len na ich tvar a farbu, ale aj vyžarovanie, ktoré z nich vychádza. Na
rozdiel od žien, ktoré si na takto sporo oblečených mužoch, ale i ženách, nevšímajú oči, ale
predovšetkým postavu.“

„Mysleli by sme si, že je to naopak, však? Ukazuje sa však, že muži vôbec nie sú takí
„prvoplánoví“, ako by sme si neraz mohli myslieť.“

Tento článok dostal viac ako 1100 lajkov. Od koho?

Pre koho sú vôbec písané tieto články? Pre úplných idiotov?

Dovoľte mi páni (a aj slečny, ktoré ste sa zo zvedavosti dostali až sem) uviesť to na pravú
mieru.

Na žene v bikinách si v skutočnosti všimneme v prvom rade zadok, prsia, postavu, nohy,
brucho, plavky a už viac toho nestíhame, pretože sa snažíme schovať erekciu. Tak to
proste je.

To bolo o nás chlapoch.

Čo priťahuje ženy?

Pamätaj, že máme 2 hlavné potreby – prežiť a rozmnožiť sa. A je to v nás tak silno
zakorenené, že nás to ovláda takmer vo všetkom, čo robíme.

Ženy, a to hlavne tie krásne, nemajú problém rozmnožiť sa (prakticky môžu mať sex
s hocikým, s kým si zaumienia).

Majú, ale PROBLÉM prežiť!

Ony potrebujú, aby sa chlap postaral o ne a o ich potomkov.

To, že dnes máme samé kariéristky, feministky a samostatné ženy je len dôsledkom toho,
že chlapi spohodlneli a ženy sa museli naučiť postarať o seba samé.

Bohužiaľ.

Môžeme si za to sami, že potom nás ženy potrebujú a my im nemáme čo ponúknuť.

Akých mužov chcú ženy?

Áno, aj ženy zaujíma náš výzor, ale potom ešte k nemu milión ďalších vecí.

Ony nás vidia ako taký celkový balíček, do ktorého spadá aj myslenie, správanie,
vystupovanie, osobnosť.

Ženy chcú chlapa, ktorý ich dokáže ochrániť a cítia sa pri ňom bezpečne.

PREČO ženy priťahujú veľké ramená?

PREČO im chlapi kupujú veľké SUV?

PREČO ich priťahujú drsní chlapi, ktorí sa venujú bojovým športom?

Pretože ich vedia ochrániť.

Žena chce vodcu, dominantného alfa samca skupiny, so schopnosťou riešiť problémy,
ktorý má poslanie, ostatní ho nasledujú, je aktívny.

Žena chce muža, ktorý svoju rodinu dokáže zabezpečiť tým, že vie zarobiť peniaze a postarať
sa tak aj o prežitie ich potomka.

Vie zabezpečiť lekársku starostlivosť, kvalitnú stravu, strechu nad hlavou.

Toto všetko zaujíma ženy na podvedomej úrovni.

Teraz už vieš, že to, čo ženy priťahuje, nie sú PENIAZE, nie je to skvelý VÝZOR, nie sú to
veľké SVALY a taktiež to vôbec nie je hlava plná VLASOV.

To, čo ženy skutočne priťahuje, je tvoja HODNOTA. To je ono. To je všetko. Všetko

ostatné je obyčajné klamstvo.

Pri budovaní hodnoty ti pomôže, ak budeš mať aj zdravé sebavedomie.

6 VECÍ, NA KTORÝCH ŽENÁM ZÁLEŽÍ VIAC AKO NA VZHĽADE

Aj keď si možno ešte stále myslíš, že v prvom rade záleží na vzhľade, tak
ťa rada týmto článkom vyvediem z tohto dlhovekého omylu.

Je zopár vecí, ktoré si my ženy na mužoch vážime oveľa viac, ako len jeho
vzhľad.

Pýtaš sa ma, na čom nám záleží oveľa viac?

Skôr muži zvyknú byť tí povrchní a väčšina z nich uprednostňuje najmä fyzický
vzhľad ženy (rozumej trojky kozy, hnedé očká, ploché bruško či vypuklú riťku).
A vraj podla Divy sú oči to, čo si chlap všimne na babe v bikinách ako prvé.
Väčšiu sprostosť som už dlho nečítala.

U veľa chlapov, čo som mala doteraz možnosť poznať, prevažuje kvantita nad
kvalitou, zatiaľ čo my ženy (prinajmenšom tie inteligentnejšie) zvykneme
pozerať po kvalite potenciálneho uchádzača o náš vienok (no dobre, ten
je už skôr rarita).
Hľadíme na viac vlastností, keď už si máme vybrať nášho partnera. Ono, na
toto sa už vyjadrili slečny v prieskume dobrí vs. zlí chlapci.

Je však minimálne 6 vecí, na ktorých nám záleží viac ako na vzhľade,

aj keď dobrý prvý dojem je vždy veľmi dôležitý.

1. Ako s nami zaobchádza

Muži majú celkom jednoduché posudzovanie žien a svojho kamoša sa akurát
tak spýtajú, či je tá jeho nová baba kočka. Ženy to posudzujú trochu hlbšie.

Ak by si sa spýtal dospelej ženy, koho by si vybrala medzi pohľadným

darebákom alebo priemerným zlatým chalanom, odpovie ti toho zlatého
chalana.

V dlhodobom meradle s nimi bude ten dobrý zaobchádzať lepšie. Ten darebák
tu pre ne neskôr ani nebude. Pozeráme sa na vzťah skôr ako na investíciu
do toho muža.

2. Dokáže zarobiť peniaze?

Nie, že by bola žena, ktorá sa zaujíma, či muž dokáže zarobiť peniaze zlatokopka
(aj keď nikdy nevieš). Chce len vedieť, či to má s ním z dlhodobého hľadiska
zmysel a či sa dokáže postarať o ňu a o ich budúce potomstvo.

Dnes je najčastejším dôvodom rozchodov manželstiev hlavne problém peňazí.

Vidím to sama u seba doma. Naši sa hádajú hlavne kvôli nim.

A samozrejme, žena sa predsa nechce starať o dospelého chlapa. Buď

šikovný a nesťažuj sa, že nie je robota. Práve dnes je najviac možností, ako
zarobiť peniaze.
3. Máme spoločné záujmy
Už by si mal vidieť ten náš vzorec myslenia v tomto momente. Vzťah berieme
ako investíciu (času a energie) do chlapa. S chlapom, s ktorým nakoniec
skončíme, musí mať určité vlastnosti, aby náš vzťah mal väčšiu šancu na

prežitie. A silnejší prežije

Toto samozrejme zahŕňa aj spoločné záujmy. Nemôžeš mať krásny a

fungujúci vzťah s niekým, s kým nemáš takmer vôbec nič spoločné. Ty
chceš ísť do kina a ona do divadla. Ty máš rád metal a ona hip hop. Ty miluješ

trojky a ona má jednotky. Kompromisy alebo dovidenia

4. Cítime sa pri ňom bezpečne

V dnešnej modernej dobe vieme byť tak isto ostré a silné ako chlapi a dokážeme
vám občas nakopať zadok. Posilovňa, zdravá životospráva… To však ešte
neznamená, že nechceme chlapa, ktorý sa vie za nás postaviť, keď na to príde
čas.

Chceme vedieť, že máš v sebe ten inštinkt Alfa-samca, aj keď ho

(dúfajme) nebudeš musieť nikdy použiť.

5. Je vzdelaný a inteligentný
Veľa žien hľadí na inteligenciu a vzdelanie svojho partnera. Teraz sa však
nebavíme len o tom, koľko titulov máš pred menom a za menom, keď sa správaš
aj tak ako idiot. Emočná inteligencia je oveľa dôležitejšia ako tá, ktorú získaš v
škole.
Žiadna z nás nechce hlupáka. Je to aj o tom, ako si schopný učiť sa nové
veci, ako vieš napredovať a zapadnúť do spoločnosti a podobne. Prečo je to
tak? Pozri sa trochu späť na ostatné 4 príklady.

Chceme vhodného partnera, ktorý nám bude vedieť občas zložiť aj kompliment.
Niekoho, s kým si môžeme postaviť dom, dať mu deti a zostarnúť. No na čo by
nám bol primitívny hulvát? Krásny vzhľad nám vôbec negarantuje to, že
bude chlap kvalitný aj zvnútra. Ale tie ostatné vlastnosti zohrávajú v tomto
veľmi dôležitú úlohu.

6. Ako sa o seba stará

A nemyslím tým tvoju schopnosť vytlačiť na lavičke 300 kg Ale
tvoju schopnosť prekonať určité prekážky, ktoré ti život prinesie do
cesty. Chceme silného sebavedomého muža či už mysľou alebo telom z dvoch
jednoduchých dôvodov.

Prvý, žiadna žena nechce chlapa, ktorý sa nedokáže postarať sám o seba.

Druhý, povedzme to z tej biologickej stránky, hľadáme vhodného darcu spermií

na naše deti A chceme spraviť správne rozhodnutie.

Je lepšia šanca mať dobre vychované a zabezpečené deti chlapom, ktorý sa

dokáže postarať o seba, nás a rodinu, dokáže nás ochrániť. Začni teda zdravo
jesť, občas skoč do posilovne a kto vie, možno práve tam zbalíš svoju ženu.

Tieto sexuálne signály sú JASNÝ dôkaz, že s tebou žena flirtuje

55 % oznámení o názoroch a postojoch iného človeka sa k nám dostáva cez reč tela. 38
% zistíme vďaka tónu, rýchlosti a modulácii hlasu.

Iba 7 % je výsledkom toho, čo skutočne hovoríme. V tomto článku sa dozvieš, čo sú

to sexuálne signály a ako nimi zlepšíš svoje flirtovanie s krásnymi ženami.

Aj keď si s osobou, ktorá sa ti zapáčila, ešte neprehovoril, tak ona si už vytvorila 80 %

názoru o tebe len na základe toho, že sledovala tvoju chôdzu a postoj.

Môže sa ti zdať, že takéto prvotné dojmy o inej osobe sú urážlivé a príliš rýchlo utvorené.

Faktom však, bohužiaľ, zostáva skutočnosť, že takmer každý aspekt tvojej osobnosti je
rozpoznateľný z tvojho vzhľadu, držania tela a spôsobu, akým sa pohybuješ.

Ako teda spoznať, či tvoje telo vysiela tie správne signály?

A hlavne, čo je možno ešte dôležitejšie, ako si vysvetliť signály toho druhého?

Nauč svoje telo komunikovať.

Nauč sa rozoznať sexuálne signály flirtovania a budeš mať obrovskú (neférovú) konkurenčnú
výhodu oproti ostatným chlapom.

Ak ich podceníš, nemáš u krásnych žien šancu.

Ktoré sú to?

1. sexuálny signál – Pohľady (ale kam)

Ak sa pozeráš na človeka, s ktorým si nie si blízky, tvoje oči zažmurkajú. Pozrieš sa z očí do
očí a potom cez koreň nosa.

S priateľmi sa vaše pohľady pohybujú v tvare trojuholníka. Pozeráte sa z očí do očí, ale
tiež o trochu nižšie tak, aby váš pohľad zahrnul aj nos a ústa.
Akonáhle začneš flirtovať, trojuholník sa ešte zväčší. Rozšíri sa o spodnú časť tela druhej
osoby.

Čím intenzívnejšie sa flirtovanie stáva, tým viac sa ľudia vzájomne pozerajú do očí a na
ústa.

Ak sa pozerá niekto na tvoje ústa, keď hovoríš, pravdepodobne sa ti to zdá veľmi sexy.

Pretože premýšľaš, či si ten druhý predstavuje, aké by to bolo, keby sa s tebou

bozkával. A to je presne to, na čo tá druhá osoba myslí, keď sa na tvoje ústa pozerá.

2. sexuálny signál – Zrkadlenie

Zrkadlenie odlišuje dobrý flirt od úžasného

flirtu. Nič ťa nezblíži rýchlejšie a účinnejšie ako zrkadlenie.

To jednoducho znamená, že budeš robiť presne to, čo tá druhá osoba.

Ak sa k tebe nakloní, aby ti povedala niečo intímne, nakloň sa k nej tiež a pošepkaj jej
niečo.Ak sa zakloní v sedačke a zapozerá sa ti do očí, urob to isté.

Ak si sadne s hlavou v dlaniach, napodobni ju.

Teória zrkadlenia je založená na tvrdení, že sa ti páčia ľudia, ktorí sú ti podobní. Ak robí

iný človek to isté, čo robíš ty, máš pocit, že ste naladení na rovnakú vlnu.

Pri zrkadlení však musíš byť opatrný. Napodobňuj iba pozitívnu reč tela.

Všeobecné pravidlo je, že musíš počkať aspoň minútu, než začneš jednotlivé gestá a postoje
napodobňovať.

3. sexuálny signál – Blesková signalizácia obočia

Keď sa prvýkrát stretávaš s niekým, kto sa ti páči, tvoje obočie sa zdvíha a zase klesá.
Pokiaľ sa páčiš aj ty jej, jej obočie sa tiež nadvihne.
Celý tento proces trvá len niekoľko sekúnd. Tento nevedomý posunok robia ľudia po celom
svete.

Niektorí odborníci o ňom prehlasujú, že je to najrýchlejšie rozpoznateľný neverbálny signál,

ktorý signalizuje priateľský postoj (okrem úsmevu).

Trik je v tom, používať toto gesto, keď spoznáš niekoho nového, kto sa ti páči.

Ak chceš dať niekomu najavo, že sa ti páči, drž svoje obočie zdvihnuté dlhšie než jednu
sekundu a schválne ho zdvíhaj, keď sa vzájomne pozeráte do očí.

4. sexuálny signál – Ukazovanie prstami je tiež flirtovanie

Pozoruj, čo robia ruky a nohy ženy, o ktorú sa zaujímaš. Ľudia majú totiž tendenciu ukazovať
na tých, ktorí sa im páčia.

Stáva sa totiž, že pokiaľ sa ti niekto páči, podvedome na neho ukazuješ svojimi rukami,
nohami či prstami.

Je to ďalší neúmyselný sexuálny signál naznačujúci tvoj záujem o inú osobu. Tá si to často
podvedome všimne, ale nevie presne prečo.

To znamená, že pokiaľ sa ti páči nejaká baba v rohu, stačí sa k nej natočiť telom. Ani
nemusí prebehnúť očný kontakt a ona už vie, že sa o ňu zaujímaš.

5. sexuálny signál – Žmurkanie

Pokiaľ sa žene páči to, čo vidí, jej zreničky sa automaticky rozšíria a zvýši sa frekvencia
žmurkania jej viečok.

Ak chceš zvýšiť pravdepodobnosť svojho úspechu, skús zvýšiť frekvenciu žmurkania pri
druhej osobe tým, že sám začneš žmurkať viacej.
V prípade, že sa tej druhej osobe páčiš, bude sa snažiť udržať rytmus tvojho
žmurkania.Vďaka tomu budete prepojení a vzájomne ešte viac priťahovaní.

Verím, že si tieto sexuálne signály budeš odteraz pravidelne všímať a pritiahne to do

tvojho života nové zaujímavé ženy, ktorým dáš lepšie a nezabudnuteľnejšie zážitky.

Všimol si si niektorý z týchto sexuálnych signáloch na ženách, ktoré mali o teba záujem?
Podeľ sa so mnou a s ostatnými chlapmi o svoje skúsenosti dole v komentároch.

Ako na ženské testy a prečo nás ženy testujú

Mám pre teba tú chýbajúcu ingredienciu, ktorá ťa konečne nakopne do akcie a prinesie ti
ultrarýchle VÝSLEDKY (aj) u žien už v nasledujúcich 10 dňoch!

Spomeň si na tú chvíľu, kedy sa všetko vyvíjalo ideálne.

Skvelé rande s výnimočnou ženou. Všetko sa vyvíjalo dobre, smiala sa, zabávali ste sa a
užívali jeden druhého.

Nadišiel ten veľký okamih fyzického zblíženia (pusa, dotyky, bozkávanie a vyzliekanie).

A slečna začala byť divná…

Nedostupná.

Nečakane odmietavá a chrumkavá.

Dávala ti však všemožne najavo, že to „nechce“.

Poznáš ten pocit, kedy doslova vidíš na žene, že sa tvári, že to nechce, a pritom vieš, že po
tom túži?

Dáva ti vehementne najavo, že by si nemal pokračovať.

Že ideš prirýchlo… že ona to akože nechce…

Čo vedie ženy k tomu, aby chlapov neustále testovali?

Potlačili svoje biologické potreby (chuť na sex)?

Ako vznikajú ženské testy a prečo ťa bude každá krásna, výnimočná žena testovať (mala
by)?
Odpovede na tieto otázky sa dozvieš v tomto rozsiahlom článku na tému: Ženské testy pre
mužov.

Ako na ženské testy (testy ľudí) – ÚVOD

Možno ťa to prekvapí, ale testy nedávajú len (krásne) ženy, ale aj mnohé iné skupiny ľudí.
(Personálni manažéri a mentori svojim potenciálnym zverencom.)

Ja som napríklad za minulý rok dostal dosť veľa testov od skupiny podnikateľov, ku ktorým
sa snažím dostať bližšie.

Vždy, keď sa budeš snažiť získať niečo hodnotné, tak budeš podrobený testu, či si toho
hoden.

Každá (krásna) žena dáva mužom v jej okolí testy, aby zistila, kto sebavedomie hrá a kto je
naozaj skutočný chlap.

Ale nedáva ich každému mužovi.

Ktorým chlapom teda ženy dávajú testy?

Som rád, že ťa to zaujíma. Pokračuj ďalej v čítaní.

Prečo teda ženy testujú chlapov?

Aby odfiltrovali chudákov, klamárov a slabých chlapov, ktorí predstierajú určité

vlastnosti.

Pochopiteľne, žena to nikdy nemôže urobiť priamo a očividne: „Mojko, idem ti dať teraz taký
test, aby som zistila, či si pravý chlap.“

95 % chlapov by v takom prípade nahodilo nejakú umelú masku, aby sa dostalo k svojim
cieľom (sex, vzťah… ).

Absolútne najväčšiu silu a skutočný význam majú testy, len keď o nich testovaný subjekt
netuší (toto platí nielen vo vzťahoch, ale aj napr. na pracovných pohovoroch).

Preto sa ženy už od puberty naučili testovať chlapov skryto, podvedome a dokonca

neuvedomele.

„Šokujúce“ zistenie: Ženy testujú mužov!

Vezmi si mladé (a krásne) 16-17 ročné dievča.

Je plná ideálov, naivných predstáv a romantickej lásky (na celý život).

Keď je krásna, tak je pravidelne zvyknutá na pozornosť chlapcov, pozvania na rande, platené
drinky a samé komplimenty.

Je obklopená chlapcami/mužmi, z ktorých mnohí, aby sa jej dostali do nohavičiek, často

veci predstierajú.

Sebavedomie.

Sociálny status.

Povahové kvality.

Ide o obrovský záujem zo strany chlapov a mladé dievča by bolo padnuté na hlavu, keby
si nevyberalo len tých najlepších.

Po čase začne chodiť s prvým chlapom. Príde prvý sex, prvé odhalenie skutočnej tváre
daného chlapca (muža).

Pravdepodobne príde prvé sklamanie – zlomí jej srdce a opustí ju.

Príde druhý, ktorému už verí menej.

Potom tretí, ktorému verí ešte menej.

Ženské testy a systém testovania chlapa

Časom je každá mladá žena doslova dotlačená k tomu, aby si vytvorila vlastný systém, ako
bude posudzovať hodnotu chlapa.

A takto u každej ženy (nemyslím zúfalé ženy, ktoré idú s každým) vzniká podvedome a
neuvedomelo systém testov pre chlapa, ktoré majú odhaliť jeho skutočnú kvalitu.

Pamätaj na to, že každá krásna (nezadaná) žena je obklopená mužmi, ktorí ju chcú čo najskôr
dostať do postele.

Lenže ona chce mať sex len s mužom, ktorý je najkvalitnejší (má najkvalitnejší
genetický materiál).

Ako krásna žena posudzuje kvalitu a potenciál muža?

Podľa toho, ako obstojí v jej testoch.

Podľa toho, ako dodrží slovo, ako skutočný je jeho sociálny status a ako presvedčivé a
autentické je jeho sebavedomie.
Čím si je žena viac vedomá svojej hodnoty a vonkajšej krásy, tým prísnejšie a tvrdšie
testy je navyknutá chlapom dávať.

Keď v nich chlap neobstojí, tak tie ďalšie budú tvrdšie a nekompromisnejšie, alebo neprídu
vôbec a žena ukončí svoj záujem alebo v horšom prípade kontakt s daným chlapom.

Ženy sú biologicky programované testovať každého potenciálneho chlapa na vzťah či

sex.

Správanie sa na Facebook-u

Ďalším hnacím motorom pre testovanie ľudí (mužov) sú naše sociálne masky na
sociálnych sieťach.

Vezmi si spôsob, akým sa ľudia prezentujú na Facebook-u (alebo na iných sociálnych

sieťach).

Na FB sa každý prezentuje tým najlepším, najjagavejším spôsobom tak, aby vyznel(-a)

úžasne.

Prekrásne, sympaticky, výnimočne, dokonalo, úžasne, perfektne, reprezentatívne, pôsobivo,

charizmaticky, dôveryhodne.

Každý sa tam prezentuje tak, aby mal čo najvyššiu sociálnu hodnotu.

Lenže všetci dobre vieme, že v realite sme obyčajní ľudia so všetkými našimi
nedokonalosťami a chybičkami na kráse.

Lenže táto mentalita prezentovania len našej jagavej stránky v nás žije aj v realite a prejavuje
sa rôznymi tendenciami maskovať chybičky, prešľapy, omyly, zveličovať naše úspechy a
krásne stránky života.

Ženy (a tiež napr. aj personálni manažéri) preto nevyhnutne potrebujú mechanizmy a

spôsoby, ako odhalia pravú tvár človeka aj s jeho slabými črtami a nedokonalosťami.

Žena si ťa preto podrobí testom, aby sa ukázala tvoja skutočná tvár.

Môže ísť o predstieranie jej nezáujmu; falošné odmietanie tvojich dotykov; otázky na počet
žien, ktorým takéto hlášky hovoríš alebo môže ísť o úplne nevinnú otázku, aký dlhý bol tvoj
vzťah alebo čo od nej očakávaš.

Sám som si za posledných 10 rokov zažil tisíce originálnych testov a pripravujem aj

samostatný článok na podrobnú analýzu tých najčastejších.
Žena chce, aby si obstál v jej testoch

Toto ťa môže prekvapiť, no zistil som, že:

Žena, ktorá ťa testuje, v skutočnosti chce, aby si obstál v jej testoch.

Každá zdravá heterosexuálna žena, ktorá o tebe začne uvažovať ako o potenciálnom
partnerovi, chce, aby si v jej testoch uspel.

Nenápadná veta, no keď sa nad ňou hlbšie zamyslíš, tak zistíš, že ti dáva do rúk neskutočný
tromf a slobodu.

Tvojou úlohou bude vedieť, rýchlo odhaliť ženské testy a sebavedomo, autenticky ich
zvládnuť.

Komu ženy nedávajú testy?

Veľmi kľúčová otázka a tak jednoduchá odpoveď!

Chlapom, s ktorými nechcú nič mať.

Bútľavým vŕbam a teplým kamarátom.

Z tohoto automaticky vyplýva, že keď ti žena dáva testy, tak o tebe podvedome uvažuje
ako o sexuálnom partnerovi.

Čiže odteraz chcem od teba, aby si mal vnútorné presvedčenie: „Testy od ženy sú dôkazom
toho, že robím niečo správne.“

Keby ti testy nedávala, tak si pravdepodobne jej kamarát, s ktorým nič sexuálne nechce mať.

Alebo si o tebe myslí, že si teplý (based on true story, bro).

Alebo tretia možnosť – si jej klient na priváte – potom tento článok zavri a uži si svoju
hodinku „slávy“.

Teraz sa poď pozrieť na to, ako by si mal zvládať ženské testy:

Ako zvláda beta muž ženské testy?

(Poznámka: beta muž je slabý, nepríťažlivý, nevyspelý a vzťahovačný muž)

Keď takýto muž je podrobený ženským testom, tak začína byť vytočený.
Vyčíta si to.

Nadáva na ženu.

Obviňuje ju z toho, že sa na niečo hrá, je chrumkavá, nedobytná a nevie čo chce.

Jeho ego to nezvláda a na 99 % dané testy ani nezvládne.

Môže ísť tiež o sexuálne frustrovaného muža, ktorý nemá trpezlivosť so ženou a nedokáže sa
uvoľniť, pretože dlho nemal sex.

Tu ti odporúčam dať si pauzu od žien, vôbec ich neriešiť a na určitú dobu sa zamerať
na výrazné zvýšenie svojej životnej úrovne.

Takisto popri tom rozvíjaj svoje konverzačné schopnosti, vzdelávaj sa v oblasti humoru a
lepšie pochop psychológiu ženských testov.

Ako zvláda alfa ženské testy?

(Poznámka: alfa muž je silný, sexuálne príťažlivý a vyspelý muž, s ktorým ženy chcú mať sex)

Má nadhľad a dokáže daný test nielen identifikovať, ale v ňom aj vidieť skrytý záujem
zo strany ženy.

Má dostatok skúseností a vie, že je nejaký dôvod, prečo dostal daný test od ženy.

Ten dôvod je, že o ňom žena uvažuje ako o potenciálnom sexuálnom partnerovi.

Ako alfa pristupujem k ženským testom ako k zábavnej hre, ktorú miluje.

Usmievam sa, doberám si ženu a hravo jej dávam najavo, že čo to tu na mňa hrá.

Vo svojom podvedomí mám presvedčenie: „Moja, tak ty sa chceš hrať? Super… ja som veľmi
hravý chlapec – nebudeš mi stíhať.“

Kombinácia vtipnej drzosti, obrovského presvedčenia o svojej hodnote

a primerané dotyky(slovo primerané si niektorí chlapi potrebujú prečítať asi trikrát) vytvára
tie najlepšie predpoklady pre zvládnutie akéhokoľvek testu od ženy.

Asi najlepší doping pri zvládaní ženských testov sú bohaté životné skúsenosti, znalosť
ľudských povahových profilov, charizmatické rozprávanie príbehov a majstrovstvo skvelej
konverzačnej techniky s názvom Vtipná Drzosť.
Riešenie? Začni testovať ty ju!

Originálnym riešením pre pokročilých je testovanie ženy.

Opäť je to niečo protiintuitívne (niečo čo by ťa nenapadlo na prvé zamyslenie).

Myslím to vážne – testuj ženu ty. Dávaj jej najavo, že ty máš určité štandardy, nároky a
požiadavky od ženy.

Ale nech to preboha nie je niečo hrané, umelé. Pretože to ženy vedia veľmi rýchlo
prekuknúť.

Autenticky sa nauč vyžadovať od ženy určité kľúčové vlastnosti a charakterové črty.

A keď zistíš, že ich nemá, tak ti odporúčam hľadať inú.

Už nežijeme v praveku, kedy bol sakra veľký problém nájsť vhodnú samicu na párenie.
(Hrozne to znie, že?)

Dnes vďaka sociálnym sieťam, smartfónom a zoznamkám dokážeš nájsť novú ženu na
rande šialene rýchlo.

Viem, ľahko sa mi to píše, no viem, že sa to dá.

Maj svoje pevné nároky, kritériá a požiadavky pre každú ženu, ktorú by si chcel do vzťahu.

Spíš si ich a riaď sa podľa nich.

Budeš vnútorne poháňaný zisťovať či žena spĺňa tvoje požiadavky a nie naopak.

Ľahšie sa ti budú zvládať jej testy, pretože z teba vycíti, že ona sa musí snažiť splniť
nejaké tvoje kritériá.

(Poznámka pre „expertov“: na to, aby si mohol od ženy niečo vyžadovať, ty musíš byť veľkou
hodnotou, ktorá má veľmi veľa čo ponúknuť.)

Ženské testy vs. manipulácia od žien

Ešte jedna mega dôležitá vec – je ku**a rozdiel medzi primeraným (a potrebným) testovaním
od ženy a jej manipuláciou.

Pre tvoj úspech so ženami bude nesmierne dôležité, aby si dokázal odhaliť snahu ženy tebou
manipulovať.
Manipulácia u ženy vzniká, keď sa presvedčí, že si k tebe môže dovoľovať neobmedzene
veľa a dosahovať cez teba svoje ciele.

Testami sa chce presvedčiť, či za to stojíš ako chlap.

Manipuláciou chce dosiahnuť žena svoje plány, túžby, potreby a ciele a má na háku tvoje
prežívanie, pocity a život.

Vyzývam ťa preto k tomu, aby si (v rámci budovania zdravého sebaobrazu) vždy zaradil
spiatočku, keď ženské testy skĺznu do manipulácie.

Vezmi si príklad profesora na škole, ktorý dá študentom test, aby sa presvedčil či učivo vedia.
Chce im pomôcť tým, že ich podrobí testu.

Ak ti žena dáva testy, tak ti chce svojím spôsobom pomôcť.

Ak však profesor začne so študentami manipulovať , tak egoisticky a sebecky sleduje

LEN svoje ciele.

Lieči si svoje komplexy, zranené ego, je sociopat alebo mu je úplne jedno, aké prežívanie a
pocity majú jeho študenti (prejav narcistickej alebo psychopatickej poruchy).

Podobne sa takéto nezdravé psychologické tendencie rozvíjajú u niektorých žien, ktoré

si z chlapov často robia metly, slúžky, otrokov a poskokov.

Niektoré ženy sú totiž navyknuté chlapov testovať veľmi často a veľmi prísne, až to skĺzne do
bohapustej manipulácie.

Ak teda rozpoznáš u ženy sklony k manipulácii, tak moja rada (ktorá sa mi osvedčila)
znie: „Obmedzuj s ňou kontakt a nájdi si inú ženu.“

Viem, povieš si: „To sa ti, Silvio strašne ľahko teraz píše. No a realita býva omnoho
zložitejšia.“

Súhlasím.

No s odstupom času sa VŽDY presvedčíš, že obmedzenie (dokonca ukončenie) kontaktu

s takouto ženou bolo to najlepšie.

Váž si seba a netráv čas s ľuďmi a ženami, ktorí si nevážia teba.

Význam tohto článku

(Skrytý) význam tohto článku je však v tom, aby si žene NIKDY nezazlieval, že ťa testuje.
Nebuď NIKDY nasraný na ženu len preto, že ti príde nedobytná, chrumkavá.

Neurážaj sa na ňu, nezhadzuj ju, nevyčítaj jej to, nenadávaj jej za to.

Žena je a vždy aj bude biologický nastavená si overovať, či si „hodný“ vzťahu, (alebo) sexu s
ňou.

Toto môže byť jedna z najdôležitejších rád pre tvoj úspech so ženami a vie ti zachrániť veľa
vzťahov a krásnych okamihov.

Osobne som prišiel aspoň o 10 žien (potenciálnych

frajeriek, kamarátok, možných frajeriek, kamarátok s výhodami) len preto, že moje ego
nechápalo význam ženských testov.

Urážal som sa, nadával, vyčítal to žene a zhadzoval ju. Preto chcem, aby si ty takéto chyby
nerobil

Tvojou najväčšou výzvou so ženami môže byť ovládnutie tvojho ega a prijatie myšlienky, že
každá jedna žena je biologicky nastavená dávať ti testy.

Nech ťa to nerozhodí, nevytrhne z konceptu a nech to nevyvolá negatívne emócie voči

ženám. Pretože tým si len zbytočne zničíš u ženy hodnotu.

Horší scenár je, keď testy neprídu a žena ti dovolí všetko okamžite, hneď a „bez boja“.

Keď neprídu testy, tak niečo nebude v poriadku, a takáto žena na 95 % nedávala testy ani
chlapom pred tebou.

Ľudská myseľ totiž prisudzuje ľahko dostupným veciam (a správne dedukuješ – AJ

ľuďom) nižšiu hodnotu ako veciam a ľudom, ktoré je ťažké získať.
Testy nedávajú len sexuálne frustrované, nesebavedomé, neskúsené ženy, ktoré je ľahké si
získať.

Ak také však chceš, tak len smelo do toho.

Záver – Tvoje akčné kroky

Teší ma, že si sa v čítaní dostal až sem a som si istý, že ti tento článok pomohol pochopiť
význam a psychológiu ženských testov.

Mám tu pre teba výzvu k akcii, pretože keby ostalo len pri čítaní, tak asi by si sa veľmi
nezmenil.

Urob pre seba tieto 2 akčné úlohy:

1. Začni vnímať ženské testy ako niečo pozitívne, hodnotné a ako skvelý učebný
materiál zadarmo. Zároveň vnímaj jej testy ako dôkaz toho, že o tebe uvažuje ako o
partnerovi – sexuálnom alebo dlhodobom (žena netestuje svojich teplých kamarátov
a bútľavé vŕby)
2. Začni testovať ženy aj ty – „donúti“ ťa to k štandardom, požiadavkám a nárokom,
ktoré na ženy budeš mať.

Warning
Girls are smart. They will never ever let you know that they have a crush on
you. NEVER.

And if she wants you to know than also she will never come and confess ‘Hii Xyz, I
really like you’

This is not at all gonna happen. Girls are usually of this kind of attitude ‘Why would I
take an initiative.?’ ‘I don't want to look desperate’ etc etc

But here is a catch. If a girl really likes you her actions are going to prove
that.

Do you want to date a woman 10 years younger? 10 key

lessons
It’s every man’s dream, right? Dating a woman 10 years younger.
But in reality, what’s it like? And do you have what it takes to attract a beautiful and younger
woman?

I’m a 37 year old male and have been dating women 10 years + younger than me throughout
my thirties.

I’ve learnt a thing or two about the benefits of dating younger women, and how to make it
happen.

In this article, I’ll share the 10 key lessons I learned about life from dating younger women.

By the end of this article, you’ll know exactly what it takes to attract a lady who’s 10 years
younger than you.

Let the dating begin!

The scientific benefits of dating younger women

Before we get to the 10 most important lessons I learned, a few important points about the
benefits of dating younger women.

Research suggests that men who are with younger women live longer lives and are generally
in better health.

That’s already a great reason to date younger women!

However, there’s also research by the dating site OK Cupid that suggests women generally
prefer to go for guys closer to their age.

You therefore need to be at your very best if you plan on dating a younger woman.

Here are 10 key rules to follow if you plan on attracting and dating younger women.
Anecdotes to support the rules are thanks to our friends at AskMen.

Number 10: Treat her like your girlfriend, not a casual fling

It’s tempting to succumb to temptation and try and have a casual fling with a younger woman.

But this puts the cart before the horse.

You see, one of the most attractive things about an older man is his maturity.
A younger woman doesn’t want to horse around. She wants to learn from your wisdom and
experience in life.

And if you’re acting immature, she’ll just think you have Peter Pan Syndrome.

“When I date a guy around my age, I assume there’s a certain level of immaturity that I’m
inevitably going to have to endure,” says Mariah, 26.

“In both of my past relationships with older men, I’ve gone into them assuming that there
won’t be any games played, and that choosing to date someone who has had the time to make
past relationship mistakes will have learned from them.”

Number 9: Don’t make it all about what happens in the bedroom

This is a key mistake many men make.

They think women will judge you based on your prowess in the bedroom. Many older men try
to make up for their age by showing more vigor behind closed doors.

Women don’t actually care about this.

They want to feel an emotional connection first and foremost. When they feel emotionally
connected, the physical connection just gets enhanced.

It’s more about who you are and how you connect than your ability to have sex in many
different positions.

Women care about being emotionally engaged, and they’re probably turning to an older man
because he knows himself and knows how to open up his heart.

Number 8: Act your age

The reality is that younger women will have expectations about how you should act.

They don’t want to be your play toy as you relive your youth.

They want you to be a confident and established person.

“Most of the men I’ve dated have been older,” says Shekinah, 30. “If there’s a big age gap,
there are expectations. Depending on your age I’m looking for a certain level of maturity,
someone I can learn from, someone looking to have a long-term relationship, and someone
that knows who he is.”
Number 7: They don’t want you to be their “daddy”

This is a common mistake.

When you’re dating a younger woman, it’s tempting to try and nurture her. You know what’s
best, right?

But the kind of woman you want to date likely doesn’t want you to be this way. They’ve
probably got things figured out and want you to also learn from them.

“There’s a reason I prefer older men,” says Kristen, 27. “It’s because I don’t want to deal with
an immature, inexperienced, naive child… so don’t be one. Also, don’t assume we
have daddy issues that you need to nurture. I like older men because typically they have
already figured a few things out, generally are more financially stable, know what they want
to do with their lives, and are knowingly dating someone younger because typically they want
someone a bit spontaneous. You should be spontaneous too! I want to be spoiled but not
necessarily with material goods. Being the younger one I want to feel like you feel lucky to
have caught a young thing like myself, so don’t take me for granted. In a nutshell, be mature
enough to have your shit together but be young enough that you still want to have fun and
enjoy life’s thrills.”

Number 6: She wants to live a different life than you

While you’re an older guy and your younger woman wants to be inspired by your life
experience and maturity, she doesn’t want to follow you on your path.

It’s important to enjoy being at different points in life.

She doesn’t want to be pressured to join you on your life path. She’d prefer you to forge a
new path together, side by side.

Number 5: You’re not going to be young for forever, and neither will she

You’re the older guy, so it’s pretty obvious to you that she’s not always going to be attracted
to your youthful glow. You need to attract her with your character and other good qualities.

Women feel the same way. Even though she’s younger, she knows deep down that her youth
won’t always be around.

She wants you to also love her for who she is deep down.

“The things you admire us for in the beginning can become tiresome to you as we both get
older,” says Kristen, 32. “So please make sure to be honest without yourself about why you
are attracted to us, and if it’s for who we are — not how we make you feel.”
Number 4: Even though you’re older, you still need to keep up with her

Just because you’re older, though, doesn’t mean you can switch off from life.

Your loved one is younger. She’s got energy. She wants to enjoy new experiences in life.

“If age is nothing but a number, don’t act like a grandpa,” says Carly, 29. “We like going out
and doing things, so you better be ready to get that ass moving!”

Number 3: It’s not all about your money, stupid

It’s definitely important that as an older man you have financial stability. However, don’t
assume this is your most important drawcard.

Women are looking for a life partner, not someone who’s going to be their sugar daddy.

Number 2: Don’t avoid meeting her parents

You’re closer in age to her parents than to her? Don’t let that be a reason to avoid meeting
them.

This is often one of the biggest concerns men have when dating younger women.

But you need to know how important it is to meet her parents.

In many ways, you’re not just dating her. You’re building a relationship with her whole
family.

When you meet her parents, make sure you demonstrate your maturity and find a way to
connect with them in an authentic way.

Your woman will thank you for it.

Number 1: You’re going to get judged, so get ready for it now

One thing you’re going to have to face head on is the expectations of people around you.

People will judge an older man with a younger woman.

It won’t be just you they judge. They’ll also judge your woman.

In fact, it’s likely that your woman feels the wrath of people’s judgements more heavily than
you do.
 Here’s what Jasmine, 26, says:

“I was prepared for the typical challenges you face when you’re a younger woman dating an
older man, but nothing could have prepped me for the judgements that strangers felt they had
the right to make about my boyfriend and I to both of our faces,” says Jasmine, 26. “One of
the first times we were out at a bar together, the male bartender hit on me when my date went
to the bathroom. He leaned in and said, ‘I know he has more money than I do, but I can do
things to you that he’s too old for if you know what I mean.’ I was so angry that I couldn’t
speak. When my boyfriend came back I told him what happened. I expected him to say
something to the bartender or to at least be as upset as I was, but instead he told me that he
was sorry, and that this was going to happen, but that we couldn’t let other people’s ignorance
get in the way of our relationship. He was right, it happened multiple times after that night.
Dating a younger woman means you both need to have a thick skin and not care about
anyone’s opinion but your own.”

Conclusion: Dating a woman 10 years younger

Probably the most important takeaway from this article is that you need to be dating a woman
10 years younger for the right reason.

If you’re doing this because you’re unhappy with your life and want to relive your youth, ask
yourself this question:

Is this really fair on the woman you’re dating?

But if you genuinely like her for who she is, it’s worth pursuing.

Younger women can get the best out of you. You’ll be encouraged to live a life full of energy,
wisdom and maturity. You will want to be a role model while forging a genuine connection
with the lady you’re with.

How to Flirt

Flirting In-Person

Make eye contact. Eye contact is the best and easiest thing you can do to start
flirting. You can look deeply into the person's eyes while also taking the time to break
eye contact to keep things from getting too intense.[1] Consider using it in these ways:
 Get caught looking. Don't stare, but do throw small glances at someone. Keep doing
it until he or she catches you. Hold the gaze for a second, smile, and look away.
 Look into his or her eyes when you talk, particularly at meaningful points in the
conversation (for example, while you're paying a compliment).
 Wink or raise your eyebrows at your crush. It's cheesy, but it works if used sparingly.
Do it when you're looking at someone from across a room, or if you're talking in a
group and say something really meant for him or her.
 Girls can try looking at a guy, lowering your gaze, and looking up at the guy again
through lowered lashes.

Smile. You'll probably smile automatically if you're talking to someone you like, but
you can use your pearly whites to your advantage before the conversation even
starts. You can even smile at the person when you pass him or her by in the halls, or
just from across the room. You don't have to grin from ear to ear, either; just a
simple, subtle smile will do the trick.[2] Try these variations:
 Smile slowly. If you're looking at someone but not talking to them, try letting a slow
smile spread over your face instead of breaking into an insta-grin. Slow, languid
smiles are generally considered sexy.
 Smile when you make eye contact. If you're suddenly looking into someone's eyes,
toss in a smile for extra appeal. (If it's a genuine smile, the other person will see it
without even looking at your mouth — it will crinkle your eyes, and is known as a
Duchenne smile.)
 Try smiling with your eyes, not just your mouth. Make your whole face light up when
you smile.

Start talking. Introduce yourself — or maintain the mystery (optional). If you don't
already know the person you're flirting with, an introduction (or lack of one) can be a
great thing to build flirting around. Avoid the urge to have a cheesy pick-up line.
Saying "Hi" followed by an introduction or a simple question is much more effective
and less forced.[3]
 If your crush doesn't know your name and you're a naturally gregarious person, try
introducing yourself at some point. It can be as simple as, "Hi, I'm [name]. And you
are...?" Make sure you get the other person's name. To help yourself remember it, try
repeating it after he or she says it to you. (Such as "Lily. I love that name.")
 Or, if you want to make yourself seem like a bit of a challenge, work to keep your
identity a mystery for a little while. If the other person really wants to know, he or she
will ask around or keep pursuing you.

Initiate a conversation. Whether you already know the other person or not, a
conversation is the best way to move the flirtation forward. The person you're flirting
with will be impressed by your boldness and confidence. Here are a few guidelines:
 Talk to someone you don't already know. Perhaps the best way to strike up a
conversation is to start with an observation which ends with a question: "I can't
believe how much it's rained this week" or "This place sure is packed, eh?" What you
say isn't important — you are simply inviting the person to talk with you.
 Find common ground with someone you do know. If you've already met the other
person, strike up a conversation based on a shared experience or interest. For
instance, you might talk about a class you're taking together, or the train you both
take to work. Again, the topic itself doesn't matter — what matters is that you're
inviting him or her to interact with you.
 Gauge the response. If the person responds pleasantly, continue the conversation. If
the person doesn't respond or seems preoccupied or disinterested, he or she
probably isn't interested in flirting with you.[4]

Keep it light. Don't bring up anything too personal when you're talking. Talk about
the environment around you, the show you just saw, etc. Keep personal information
(such as religion, money, relationships, education, and so on) out of it, unless the
person enjoys intellectual debates without becoming over-emotional. Generally, it's
best to avoid debating topics personally relevant to either of you (such as either yours
or their religion) and to rather discuss topics you both don't have a personal stake in.
 It's easier to flirt when you're talking about more fun and lighthearted topics, such as
your pets, reality television, or your favorite vacation spots. This doesn't mean you
have to dumb yourself down to flirt, but it does mean you have to relax and avoid the
deep talk for a while.
 Be playful. Being playful means not taking yourself too seriously, being a bit silly,
playfully hitting your crush, or talking about something slightly offbeat or unexpected.
It also means not putting too much pressure on yourself over the course of the
conversation.

Use body language to communicate your intentions. Non-verbal cues can say a
lot more about how you feel than what's actually coming out of your mouth, so make
sure you're communicating how you feel.[5] Try the following:
 Keep your stance "open." Don't cross your arms or legs, as these are generally signs
that you wish to isolate yourself from the other person.
 Turn your body toward the other person. Stand or sit so that you're facing the person
you're flirting up. Angle your torso toward him or her, or point your feet in that
direction.
 Break the "touch barrier". Casually initiate physical contact by touching him or her on
the forearm as you talk, or by "accidentally" walking too close and brushing up
against the other person.[6]
 Play with your hair (girls). Playing with your hair is usually a sign of nervousness,
which is a good thing if you like the other person — you almost want him or her to
know you're nervous because it means you're interested. To consciously
communicate this, slowly twirl a strand of hair around your finger as you talk

Break the touch barrier. The first few times you touch your crush, be careful not to
"trap" him or her. Depending on the area, the contact should be long enough to be
more than accidental, but no more.[7] Avoid grasping a hand or arm, and instead try
gestures such as brushing an imaginary speck of dirt off of their arm, or "accidentally"
touching feet or knees without pulling away.
 All of these touches can be rejected without humiliation or offense, so if your crush is
not ready for that kind of contact, you will not be forcing them to reject you entirely.

Compliment the other person early in the conversation. It might seem too
forward, but letting him or her know you're interested in dating before a solid
friendship begins is the easiest way to detour around the friend-zone. Get confident,
and don't let the opportunity slip by — you never know when you'll get another
one.[8] Here are some techniques to try:
 Maintain eye contact while you're complimenting. Looking away might accidentally
make you seem insincere.
 Lower the tone and volume of your voice slightly. Paying a compliment in a slightly
lower register than your usual speaking voice makes it seem intimate and sexy. Plus,
it might also coax the other person to come closer to hear you.
 Use your crush's other interests to your advantage. If you know this person is dating
(or interested in) someone else, you can use this to your advantage in a compliment.
 Try weaving the compliment into the conversation. For instance, if the girl you like is
talking about how she had a terrible day, you could say something like "I hate seeing
someone as beautiful as you feel so unhappy. What can I do to help?"
 Be careful about complimenting looks. A girl might like it if you notice her eyes, but
she might label you as creepy if you say she has a nice figure too soon. Play it safe
and stick to these physical features:
 Eyes
 Smile
 Lips
 Hair
 Hands

Keep your interactions short and sweet. Remember that the key to creating
demand is making supply scarce, so try to limit your interactions with the object of
your flirtations. Don't talk to him or her every single day. Make it a special event and
save it for a few times a week.
 Don't let conversations drag on for more than 5 or 10 minutes. The longer they go on,
the higher your odds of running into an awkward silence.
 Let the other person come to you. After you've put in the work of starting up the
interaction and sparking an interest, pull back a bit and see if he or she seeks youout
for an interaction. This can be a good way to gauge interest, as well as build tension.

Close the deal. If your flirting has been successful so far, and you want to get to
know the other person better, it's time to see if you can turn it into a date. Here are a
few approaches:
 Ask if the other person has plans at a later date. For instance, you might say, "So,
what are you up to on Saturday night?" Try to keep this an open question, instead of
one that requires a yes or no answer — you'll get more information that way. Don't
ask someone what he or she is doing tonight, or even tomorrow. Try to schedule the
date a few days out so that you don't come off as overly desperate.
 Suggest a specific event and ask if he or she would like to come along. This is the
best approach if you're trying to arrange a group date. You could say something like,
"So a bunch of us were going to see a movie on Friday, and I'd really like it if you
came with us."
 Be straightforward. If you're feeling extra confident, go in for the kill without any
pretense. For instance, you could say something like, "I'd really love to take you on a
date. When are you free?"

Flirting by Texting or Chatting

Keep your approach casual. Don't let yourself get so nervous that you forget basic
conversational skills. Instead, try to stay calm and open the conversation in a low-
pressure way. If you've never chatted with the person online before, you may even
find an excuse for talking to him, like asking a question about homework or talking
about a sports team you both like. If you're texting a person for the first time, make
sure he or she knows who you are and that they don't feel creeped out. Here are
some ways to start a conversation through text or chatting:
 "Hey, how's it going?"
 "Did you see/hear [insert event you both know about here]?"
 "How's your week going?"

Don't talk about yourself too much. The majority of people are most comfortable
talking about themselves because it's a topic they know well. Instead of taking the
easy way out and discussing you endlessly, encourage the other person to talk about
him or herself. However, you can and should occasionally throw some personal facts
in the person's direction to help them to ask questions about you in turn. The key is to
leave it up to them to pursue an interest in things relevant to yourself.
 This tactic actually serves two purposes: Not only does it keep the conversation
going, but it allows you to find out more about your crush.
 You don't have to possess prior information about the other person to do this step. If
you don't know him or her very well yet, you can ask:
 "How did your day go?"
 "So, what do you do with your free time?"
 If you do know the other person a bit, focus on a hobby or interest you're already
aware of. For instance, maybe he's really into basketball, or you know she loves to
read. "Did you see the game last night?" or "Have you read any good books lately?"
would be great starts.

Know when to press for more information. You can keep the discussion lively and
interesting without probing too deeply on personal topics. For instance, asking your
crush what exactly he or she likes about running cross-country would be a great idea;
asking him or her for more details on family relationships or close friendships would
be too much, too soon. You can do it in a joking, flirtatious bantering way that doesn't
feel too serious, or like you're interviewing the person. Here are some ways to ask for
more information flirtatiously:
 "So are you planning on spending all night online or do you have more exciting plans
for this evening?"
 "Are you going to kick some butt in tonight's game?"
 "I've noticed the cute kitty in your profile picture. Is that who you spend most of your
time with?"

Compliment your crush early in the conversation. Don't chicken out and skip this
step — it might seem difficult, but it's incredibly important. A compliment
communicates that you're potentially interested in dating, and steers you away from
the dreaded friend-zone.[9] If you skip paying your crush a compliment and simply
keep the conversation on a friendly level, it might be too late next time. Here are
some basic compliments you could use:
 If you don't know your crush very well yet, but you're working on it, use a compliment
oriented in this direction. Say something like, "It's so easy to talk to you," or "I kind of
can't believe I'm getting to know someone as interesting as you."
 Try weaving the compliment into the conversation. For instance, if the girl you like is
talking about how she had a terrible day, you could say something like "I hate seeing
someone as beautiful as you feel so unhappy. What can I do to help?"

Be bold. If none of the suggestions above appeal to you, go for broke and pay your
crush a bold compliment. Try these possibilities, using the adjective that fits your
crush best or substituting your own:
 "I hope you know you're gorgeous/beautiful/amazing/my favorite person to talk
to/etc."
 "Sorry if this is too forward, but I have to say that you're incredible/an amazing
person/so beautiful/etc."

Don't come on too strong. Avoid loading compliments with feelings too early.
Leaving a person slightly uncertain of the extent of your feelings for them can
increase your attractiveness, giving you a bit of a mysterious edge. The point is not to
make the person question whether you like them at all, but to make them
wonder how much you like them. If you just openly say, "I have a big crush on you" or
"I've always thought you were so hot," then you're taking the mystery out of the
exchange.
 Instead, you can send a text or a message that says something like, "You looked
cute in your new sweater today" or another comment that is nice and flirtatious
without giving it all away.

Convince your crush to pursue you instead of having to do the work

yourself.Though flirting should let the person know that you like him or her, you
shouldn't make it seem like you're doing all of the work. Instead, you should be just
flattering enough so that the person knows you're interested, but leave him or her to
wonder just how much you care. To achieve this, try phrasing compliments
objectively rather than subjectively. Here are examples of objective vs subjective
compliments:
 "I really like your eyes, they're so pretty." On the surface, this compliment may seem
fine, and it probably would be appreciated. However, a common flaw in phrasing a
romantic compliment is to constantly use the words "I like/love *insert trait here*".
They tell the person that they've succeeded in winning your heart. This is great if
you've already built up a solid relationship, but early on it can make you seem "too
easy".
 "You have great eyes, they're very pretty". Although technically both sentences are
you conveying that you like the person's eyes, this one makes it more of an
observation than a personal opinion. It implies that you find the person attractive but
does not confirm it outright. As such, the receiver will feel both flattered and drawn to
figure out how much attractive you find them.

Tease gently. Because you can't use body language to communicate over text or
chat, you'll have to rely on your words to keep the mood light and fun. Rely on inside
jokes (based on events you were both present for), sarcasm ("Yeah, I'm SURE you
look like an ogre in the morning ;)"), and exaggeration ("You're probably a million
times better at this than I am") in the beginning.
 Make it clear that you're kidding. The drawback of using text to communicate is that
you can't always read the emotion behind the words. If you're going to flirt with
someone by teasing them, make extra sure that you're implying it's a joke. You can
use winking smiley faces, all caps, or exclamation points to communicate this. Just
don't overdo it with the emoticons or it'll begin to feel corny for the other person.
 If you've already sent something that could be interpreted the wrong way, make your
meaning crystal clear. Say something like "(joke)" or "jk" to make a quick save.

Always leave your crush wanting more. As much as you might want to text this
person forever, it's best to bow out before the conversation goes stale (as all
conversations are bound to do at some point). The best way to avoid an awkward
pause is to leave before one happens. Ending the conversation on a good note will
lead your conversational partner to look forward to the next time you can chat.
 Set up your next interaction before you go. Throw out something like "Hey, so I'll see
you around tomorrow?" or "I'll talk to you soon."
 If you're chatting online, note that you enjoyed the conversation just before you leave.
It doesn't have to be complicated — a simple "This was awesome" or "I had a good
time talking to you" is enough. If you're texting, you can be a bit more casual about it.
 Be careful not to over-compliment your crush. Your compliments will have a lot less
meaning if you bestow them for every single positive trait the person has. Instead,
reserve them for meaningful things that are important to the person, such as
complimenting a skill they take pride in.

Don't take it too seriously. Keep in mind that flirting is supposed to be fun and try
not to be crushed if your efforts aren't successful — not every interaction will be a
 perfect 10. Stay positive, and try again with someone else. As with anything else,
flirting improves with practice. Flirting also doesn't have to have an endgame; not
every flirtation ends in a date. Sometimes, you may just want to flirt for the fun of it,
instead of hoping it will go somewhere.
 Flirting can help you meet new people, feel more comfortable, and learn to mingle.
You don't need to put any pressure on yourself to make it mean something or to be
perfect.

How to Tease a Girl the Right Way - PostGradCasanova

If you aren’t teasing girls the right way, you’re probably missing out on A LOT of
opportunities.

What’s worse, when you tease her the wrong way, you risk:

 Offending her
 Making her feel insecure
 Hurting her
 And overall causing her to dislike you

These are all things women don’t soon forget…

(She still may laugh at these teases, but it’ll still sting, and she’ll probably close up.)

The problem is, guys have misconceptions about what it means to tease women. Part of this
stems from the thinking that “you need to be a jerk” to attract women, and part of it stems
from general social inexperience.

But teasing is essential to a flirty, fun conversation that attracts her to you. It’s also important
for separating you from the pathetic “nice guys” who constantly try to kiss her ass and please
her.

For me, teasing has always been a bit natural. That’s because my dad is a comedian, and I was
lucky enough to attend many of his shows. He works the crowd like Don Rickles, and teases
everybody.

I began to internalize his style and slowly refine it. His delivery of teases is powerful (as you
can see below), and always draws laughs.

With this in mind, let’s break down teasing into two steps: 1) what to avoid and 2) how to
tease her the right way.
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you in the friendzone.

Sensitive Topics

Don’t tease girls about sensitive topics that may offend them. You should inherently know
what most of these topics are. Topics like:

 Physical features
 Fashion/style
 Social skills
 Intelligence
 Family

She’s likely to take these types of teases as insults.

So you’d want to avoid making jokes like, “I can’t believe you thought that was true. What’s
going on in that head up there?” (insinuating she’s dumb).

And you definitely, DEFINITELY, want to avoid making any sort of jokes about her weight.
There’s no quicker way to get yourself in the doghouse with a woman.

Critiquing Her

Don’t tease her about things you don’t like about her. That’s an easy way to come off
as passive-aggressive. For example, let’s say you don’t like the fact that she doesn’t eat
healthy….

It’d be kind of a dick thing to say, “You look pretty good for someone addicted to sugary
foods…”

Nobody likes hearing that they suck. What’s worse, she’ll feel like you’re judging her. And if
you’re judging her about one thing, what’s to say you’re not going to judge her for something
like sleeping with you quickly? In short, this is a good way to cockblock yourself and make
her feel shitty.

Putting Her Down

You also don’t want to make her feel bad for what she likes and dislikes. This puts her in an
awkward position because she feels bad for being who she is. And if she can’t feel like she
can be herself around you, you’re as good as done.

For example:

“What’s your favorite TV show? And please don’t say The Bachelor.”
Teasing the Whole Time/ Being a Clown

You should weave teasing into the conversation – but the conversation shouldn’t be one long
tease. Women will start to question why you’re never serious, and they’ll even start to get
annoyed. They’ll feel like you’re trying to hide something behind your mask of constant
humor.

Instead, try to strike a balance between teasing and having meaningful conversation.

Making Fun of Yourself

Self-deprecating humor can be funny around your boys, and it might draw a laugh from her –
but it usually won’t help you get a date. Things like making fun of your weight, your
difficulties with women, etc. A lot of comics do this all the time. But when it comes to flirting
and teasing women, self-deprecation usually isn’t worth the laugh.
Now you know what to avoid. But you still need to know what to do right. You can use these
techniques to tease women better than the majority of men (and she’ll love you for it).

As a note, you should deliver most of these with slight grin on your face (like the one we
talked about in “How to Have a Sexy Vibe Around Women.”

How to Tease Her the Right Way

Absurdify

Absurdifying is the art of taking a normal topic and making it a little ridiculous. This is a fun
and playful way to tease her, and one of my personal go-to’s. It also makes the conversation
more intriguing because it’s less predictable and more unique.

For example:

Her: “I’m from Pennsylvania.”

You: “Nice, I love Pennsylvania. Are you a city girl or did you come straight out of Amish
country?”

She has to qualify herself as to why she’s not from amish country, which is bound to be a
ridiculous and fun conversation.
Bring Yourself Into It

When you include yourself, it creates a fun, “we’re in this together” type of vibe, which is
important for building a connection.

My dad does a great job of this in his comedy routine (in the video at the top). Give it another
watch and see how he includes himself in all the teases, so both the crowd and the people he’s
teasing can feel good and get a laugh.

And here’s a conversational example:

“Oh, so you’re a psych major? You’re probably reading my mind right now, aren’t you? I’m
on to you.”

Stereotype Her in a Fun Way

Here, you basically play off the stereotypes of something she tells you.

For example:

“Oh, you’re a country girl? So what do you do when you’re not square dancing or listening to
“Chicken Fried”?

“A Boston girl, huh? So you’re not familiar with the letter “r”?”
Challenge Her

You can challenge her with something like a “thumb wrestle”. If you’re on the dance floor,
you can give her a playful “hip bump,” then step back and jokingly challenge her to a dance
off (this is a great way to attract women at the nightclub).

Mock Her

This is especially great if she has an accent and/or says a word particularly weird. You can
exaggerate her accent or mimic the particular word.

For example, a lot of Spanish speaking girls have trouble saying the “i” in words like “pill”,
“give”, and “pick”. They pronounce it like an “e” (i.e. pill = peel). So I always have a good
time mocking their pronunciations of these words.

Playfully Disagree With Her

Playfully disagree with her about something and turn your back.

For example:

“I can’t believe you don’t watch Game of Thrones. We can’t be friends anymore,” and then
turn your back and pretend to walk away for a few steps.

Accuse Her of Hitting On You

This is funny, but also reverses the roles. She’s used to being the prize, but when you accuse
her of hitting on you, you flip the script. Now she’s the one trying to seduce you.
For example:

“Are you hitting on me right now?

“I see what you’re trying to do. But I’m not that easy!”

“I saw you checking me out over there. I’m not a piece of meat you know.”

“Okay, we can go back to my place. But only if you promise not to try anything.”

The Takeaway

Teasing is all about being self-amused and light-hearted. You should be enjoying yourself,
and not aiming to impress her with the quality of your jokes. Teasing should help you connect
with herwhile also help you express your personality.

One more note – don’t be afraid to straddle the line with the occasional crude joke or sexual
innuendo. It’s okay to take risks, and fortune favors the bold.

Play around with these techniques a bit and start teasing women more today.

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Small Talk Secrets

20 Ideas for Making Small Talk with Women

When it comes to talking to women, it seems one of the hardest aspects for men is making
small talk. While most of you can probably make small talk… the question is… can you
make small talk fun, playful, and sexy?

Or do you just wind up boring the woman?

Let’s take the time right now to really break down the art of small talk, and really figure how
to make small talk exciting and attractive-rather than dull and boring.

Let’s understand:

1. What type of small talk women find boring

And then

2. What type of small talk women find fun

With this approach it will help us gain some understanding of the criteria that is most
important. And then I can give you some good small talk tips.

1. What bores women?

A.) Any type of small talk that seems forced or awkward is a really big turn off for
women. Women don’t like awkwardness. And if a woman senses that you’re shy, nervous,
or insecure around you, she is likely not going to invest in the conversation. And if she isn’t
interested in keeping the conversation going… it will make your job much harder.

B.) Women hate “interview style” small talk. “Interview style” small talk is when you just
continually ask a woman a series of questions about her job, school, family, hometown,
ect. This gets boring fast. This type of small talk is especially boring if she senses that you’re
not even listening to her answers. There is nothing worse than someone who is just asking
questions because he can’t think of any other way to keep the conversation going.

 15 tips for better conversations

 9 techniques to have better conversation with women

C.) One of the worst things you can do during small talk is to let there be a series of
uncomfortable silences. Brief silence from time to time is ok. But if you hear birds chirping
during your conversations with women… chances are she is getting bored. You must be able
to keep a conversation going if you want to make small talk that attracts women.

 Best way to avoid awkward silences during small talk

D.) You also want to avoid small talk topics that could lead to unnecessary ill feelings. While
a little playful “banter” with a woman is fine… Small talk topics like religion or politics
might wind up stirring up some ill feelings that could have easily been avoided if you stick to
some of the conversation topics we’ll talk about in the next section.

Understanding these issues, you really can’t blame for not wanting a weak, insecure,
inexperienced, boring, or disheveled man who can’t keep a conversation interested. Ask
yourself… do you enjoy this type of conversation?
Now let’s talk about…

2. What do women find interesting?

A.) Women love small talk that involves conversation topics that they find interesting. I’ve
identified 12 conversation topics that work best for connecting with a woman. Some of these
topics include music, food, childhood memories, observations about her, and traveling. If you
want to read more about this, read this article on the best conversation topics.

 Here are the best conversation topics for small talk

 10 Ways to make your conversations more interesting

B.) The best way to keep a conversation interesting is to draw out emotions out of the woman
you’re talking to. Woman love feeling emotions. This is why topics like traveling, childhood
memories, and music work really well for making small talk. Because these topics tend to
lead a woman into an emotional state. It is much easier to connect with someone when the
both of you are in a highly charged emotional state.

C.) The best type of small talk is when the conversation stays “in the moment.” This means
that you’re laughing and making jokes about what is currently going on around you. This is
because it identifies the two of you are connecting. You can stay in the moment by making
observations about your surroundings. Or you can stay in the moment by making
observations about her. Remember, women love talking about themselves.

D.) If you really want to make women enjoy small talk with you… you want to make sure that
you appear relaxed, confident, and playful. You also want to try to make sure that you’re the
one leading the conversation along. Women like men who take control. They don’t want the
burden of keeping the conversation going.

F.) Another good tactic for keeping small talk interesting is to tell good stories. A good story
will interest just about anyone you’re talking to. So instead of just reciting facts, tell stories
that evoke emotions.

 5 steps to telling an entertaining story

What are some examples of good small talk.

Most guys don’t know how to start a conversation, and then make small talk in a way that
creates attraction in a woman. Instead, most guys do the complete opposite. They make
conversation that bores the woman and has her searching for the next guy to talk to.

I have coached enough guys to know that most guys will freeze up in front of a beautiful
woman. Or, they will get so nervous that they come across as completely insecure and
boring.
Women expect a man to be able to guide the conversation along in a fun, flirty, and playful
way.

In brief, the art of small talk involves being fun, playful, and flirtatious. And below I’m going
to give you 20 ways to do this.

20 ideas for making small talk fun, playful, and flirtatious

1. When talking to women, focus on making statements and expressing opinions rather that
just asking her a bunch of questions.

2. Focus a good chunk of the conversation on her. Make observations about her sense of
style, traits of her personality, or your initial impression of her.

3. Don’t use “compliments” as a means to keep the conversation going. Excessively

complimenting a woman because you can’t think of anything else to say will not impress
her. It will bore her.

4. Find little games to play in your conversation. In my free report, Small Talk Tactics, I list
three really good games you can play with women.

5. Keep the topics of conversation focused on things like childhood memories, observations,
travel, unusual stories, or interests and passions.

6. Flirt. Learn how to banter with a woman. This makes the small talk incredible sexy.

7. Try to be a little cock and funny.

8. If you run out of things to say, and face awkward silence… instead of pretending it isn’t
happening, simply make a joke like “wow, we just had our first uncomfortable silence…
don’t worry, we’ll get through it.”

9. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion and disagree with her. It is better that you express
your personality.

10. Tell her engaging stories. Women like drama, emotions, and intrigue. Learn to tell a
story in a way that captures her attention.

11. Don’t treat small talk like a job interview. Instead, be relaxed and playful.

12. Use cold reading techniques. This is a great way to make observations about her. One of
the best is the Strawberry Fields Routine.

13. If you’re new to this, and don’t know what to say, don’t be afraid to use canned pua
routines. Eventually you’ll want to make up your own though.
14. Avoid complimenting a woman on her looks, eyes, or body.

15. Compliment a woman on her personality, her sense of style, or her “energy”

16. If the two of you are having a good time, don’t be afraid to introduce elements of
sexuality into a conversation.

17. Tease her.

18. Don’t be afraid to call a woman out on her bullshit. If she is saying something that is
obviously not true… call her out on it. It will impress her that you picked up on it.

19. Use “role playing” to keep a conversation fun. This is a technique that I talk about in
the Small Talk Tactics report.

20. Never apologize for your desire as a man. If you’re talking to a woman, and you’re
attracted to her in a sexual way… don’t be afraid to let her know. It will keep you out of the
friend zone, and it will make the small talk much more interesting.

So, there you have 20 ways to make small talk more fun, interesting, and playful.

I highly recommend you check out Make Small Talk Sexy where I can go further in depth
into what kind of games to play with women, how to use cold reading and role plays, and how
to make small talk fun, playful, and flirtatious.

Here is another article related to the subject: https://www.tsbmag.com/2018/03/08/how-to-

break-the-ice-and-be-interesting-without-saying-much/

Body Language Examples - Is She Interested?

How to consistently unlock your charisma and instantly charm anyone, anytime, and
anywhere...

A woman’s body language will tell you everything you need to know about how she is
feeling. To help you read these non-verbal signals, here are some body language examples
that will provide insight into how a woman feels when she’s around you.

Positive body language: Signs you make a woman happy

When we are in a good mood our body language becomes lighter and more energized. We
perform what body language expert Joe Navarro calls “gravity-defying” gestures (FYI most
of the tips on reading body language in this article were taken from his awesome book What
Every Body is Saying).
Gravity-defying gestures can be seen in multiple parts of the body. For instance, one common
body language example of a gravity-defying gesture is the eyebrow flash. If a girl is excited
her eyebrows will automatically shoot up for a brief instant (you often see this when someone
is surprised/happy to see you).

Another gravity-defying body language signal a woman might give off that displays a positive
mood is “happy feet”. If you get a girl happy or excited, you may notice her toes point up
(perhaps while rocking back and forth on her heels), her feet will bounce/wiggle, she’ll have a
spring in her step, or she’ll rock up and down on the balls of her feet. All these body
language examples can be associated with a woman who feels lively and in a positive mood.

Body language signs a woman feels comfortable with you

When people are uncomfortable they often develop a “freeze” response. That is, they will
move as little as possible in an attempt to avoid detection. So to see if a woman is
comfortable with you, look for body language signals of that freeze response.

One area where you might see a girl freeze as a result of discomfort is her arms. If a girl feels
uncomfortable her arms will be tense and close to her body. On the flip side, if she’s relaxed
her body language will signal that comfort and she’ll move her arms more. She’ll use her
hands more and more as she talks and her arms will swing freely at her sides when she walks
around the room.

Similar body language examples of comfort and the freeze response can be seen just about
anywhere in the body. For instance, if a woman always keeps her head straight and never
crosses her legs it can be a sign the woman feels tension and discomfort. When a woman
feels comfortable however, she will occasionally assume more relaxed and vulnerable
positions during the interaction by tilting her head to the side or crossing her legs (when
sitting or standing). Body language signals like these show a woman who is relaxed and at
ease.

(Bonus tip: if you’re sitting next to a girl and she crosses her legs toward you, it’s a sign she’s
interested in you and engaged in the interaction. If she crosses her legs away, she’s putting up
a barrier and isn’t quite comfortable with you yet.)

Body language signs that a girl is interested

Women will sometimes feign interest in a man for the sake of being polite. But you can tell if
a girl is genuinely interested in you simply by looking at her body language.

The more engaged a woman is the more attention you’ll get from her body. What you want to
look for then, is that her head, torso, and feet are all facing you. All of that together is a
powerful signal she likes you/the conversation you’re having. However if her head and torso
are facing you but one or both feet are pointed elsewhere, that body language is a sign she’s
not fully engaged. (To learn more about body language and attraction, check out the Pickup
Podcast toolbox episode on how to attract women with body language)
Another body language sign that can be used to gauge how interested she is in you is flared
nostrils. When a person flairs their nostrils, it shows they are excited, physiologically
aroused, and are preparing for something physical. In the right context flared nostrils may be
a signal that she is ready and willing to get physical with you and is a sign she wants to be
kissed.

How to tell if a girl is nervous

Body language that shows a girl is nervous can be a great thing to see. After all, if a girl is
nervous it can be a sign she likes you and wants to make a good impression. It also gives you
a chance to help her calm those nerves – which is a surefire way to get a girl to like you and
want to be around you more often.

Some of the most common body language signals women give off when they feel nervous are
pacifying behaviors. These are self-soothing behaviors that make her feel more at ease. A
few examples are: playing with something in her hands, stroking/touching her neck or face,
playing with a necklace, rubbing her thighs… pretty much any form of lightly
touching/caressing herself can be a pacifying behavior.

The key to reading pacifying behaviors – and to reading body language examples in general –
is to not just look for one signal, but multiple signals that show the same thing. That way you
are less likely to misinterpret the body language signals women give off. (For more
information on how to read a woman’s body language effectively, check out Pickup Podcast
interview with body language expert Blake Eastmen)

How Women TEST You and How to Handle It… — Dating

Advice for Men Who Love Women
If you want to attract a woman, have her fall deeply in love with you, and make sure she
STAYS in love with you, you have to pass her tests…

There’s no way around it.

And here’s the thing: If a woman’s attracted to you she HAS TO test you to make sure you’re
really the guy she thinks you might be.

Now, she might not test you consciously or actively create tests for you on purpose…

But even the sweetest, most flexible, giving, awesome woman WILL test you in some way if
she likes you.

Why?
Because she’s (subconsciously) looking to see if you have the internal qualities she
requires…

And for her to allow herself to become more attracted to you and/or fall completely in love
with you, she must be reasonably sure that you have those qualities for real.

And that means that she can’t simply ask you if you have them or let you convince her that
you have them because you could easily mislead her.

And she can’t easily tell if you really have all of those qualities right away…

So, she has to find out if you actually have them by looking at your ACTIONS and
REACTIONS over time (that’s why it takes longer on average for a woman to fall in love vs.
a man – it takes longer for her to be sure that you have the qualities she’s looking for).

In other words, the best way for her to find out if you have the qualities she’s looking for
is to TEST YOU to see if you have them or not.

And what does female testing mean?

It means that a woman pays attention to how you ACT and how you REACT to various
situations over time to determine whether or not you’re (still) worthy of her interest.

And again, you absolutely MUST pass these tests at least most of the time if you want to keep
her interested in you…

[RELATED: How to Tell if She’s Testing You vs. Just Not Interested]

So, in this article, we’ll cover a few of the most common tests you might face when you’re
dating a woman and how to handle each of them like a champion.

*If you prefer listening to audio, check out this presentation:

==>Click here to watch on YouTube…

How Women TEST You and How to Handle It…

Remember: If you pass a woman’s tests, they’re actually golden opportunities to make her
more attracted to you.

So, here are five of the most common tests you might face when you’re talking to or dating a
woman and how to pass each of them with flying colors:
1. Initial Attraction Test

The FIRST test you must pass if you want a woman to be attracted to you or fall in love with
you is the “Initial Attraction Test.”

In other words, she has to be a little bit attracted to you or at least OPEN to you when she first
sees you in order for you to have a chance with her.

This test is the most obvious one because men (primarily) use this one too.

In fact, one reason you may not be aware that women use many more tests than men is that
physical attraction is the MAIN component of what you’re looking for vs. being A component
of what women are looking for (so, she passes her main test in 3 seconds while you pass your
main tests over 3 dates).

Listen, women are interested in looks too (and, of course, men are looking for other qualities
as well)…

So, while it might sound obvious, we can’t just skip over this fact of life: Nothing will happen
if she’s not at least open to you when she first sees you.

HOW TO PASS THE INITIAL ATTRACTION TEST:

Now, you can’t control whether any particular woman will find you attractive or not when she
first sees you…

Even if you’re the most handsome man in the world, some women won’t be attracted to you
for whatever reason.

However, you CAN increase the chances that women in general will be attracted to you when
they first meet you by:

1. Lifting weights and eating well…

Listen, the lean, muscular version of you will have many more options than the pudgy version
of you.

That might sound obvious, but lots of guys skip this advice even though it’s a huge factor in
attraction.

And, while you can’t control your genes, you CAN control what you eat and how often you
work out.

2. Working on your body language…

The way you move and hold your body is very important when it comes to initial attraction
and the way she perceives you.

So, make sure your body language is on point.

(Click here for our comprehensive guide to attractive male body language…)

3. Developing your own sense of style…

Make sure your clothes FIT well. A few tailored shirts are better than lots of nice shirts that
don’t fit as well.

And, try to dress one level above your environment. You don’t have to wear a tuxedo to a
coffee shop, but a sport coat wouldn’t hurt.

Also, make sure your shoes are clean. Women tend to notice them.

4. Working on your social skills…

The more a woman sees other people enjoying being around you, the more attractive she’s
likely to find you.

Etc.

There are other things you can do to increase your odds of being physically attractive to
women, but these 4 things will give you a great head start.

And then, once you pass her initial attraction test, the REAL testing begins…

2. Direct Verbal Challenge

This is probably the most common test you’ll face when you’re first interacting with a
woman.

When you’re having one of your first few conversations with her, she might tease you, put
you down, or say something negative to you or about you.

And the way you REACT to this tells her a lot about the kind of man you are…

HOW TO PASS THE DIRECT VERBAL CHALLENGE TEST:

You have three excellent options for how you can handle this one like a champion. All of
them have the same effectiveness, so you can choose the one you feel most comfortable with
and go with it…or, you can use the one you think is best for each situation you face.
When a woman challenges you verbally, you can:

A. Ignore what she said completely.

Just keep going as if she never said anything at all…

This one works extremely well and can save you if you don’t have a “witty comeback” or her
comment catches you a little off guard.

Be cool, stay playful, and act like she never made the comment at all.

B. Agree with what she says and then exaggerate it.

So, if she says, “You’re such an a$$shole!”

You can say, “I know, right…just the other day I went around punching babies and puppies. It

was SO FUN!”

Or, if she says, “You’re a player, aren’t you?”

You can say, “Definitely. You should see me at Bingo Night over at my grandma’s retirement

home…The old ladies CAN’T GET ENOUGH OF ME!”

Instead of disagreeing with her, DISARM her by agreeing with her and exaggerating it to the
point of silliness.

Not only will you PASS HER TEST when you do this, it’s also really fun.

C. Respond to her comment as if it was a HUGE compliment.

So, if she says, “You’re so ugly…”

You can say, “Thanks! What else do you love about me?”

Or, “Awww…you’re SUCH a sweetheart…” =)

Or, “Have I told you lately how nice you are?” =)

Or, “Listen, I know what you’re doing and it’s not going to work…your compliments aren’t

going to get you anywhere with me.”

Etc.
Effective?

Definitely.

Fun?

For sure…

Especially when you start to feel her attraction increasing because you just passed her
adorable little test.

3. Jealousy Test

Show a woman that you don’t have the negative quality of JEALOUSY and you’ll get HUGE
points…

And, there are two main ways that a woman might throw a jealousy test your way.

These are golden opportunities if you take them:

1. During your first conversation with a woman, she might mention other men to see how
you’ll react:

“So, I was dating this guy on the USC football team for a while and he…”

Or, “You know, riding in my ex’s Lamborghini was fun, but…”

Etc.

2. If you’re at a party with her or out at a public place with her, she will notice how you react
when she talks to other men.

HOW TO PASS THE JEALOUSY TEST:

1. When she talks about other men, NEVER put them down…

For example, even if she talks negatively about her own ex, you still don’t put him down:

“Well, he must have had something going for him if you were with him…”

Always take the high road and never put other men down.

Remember: It’s your turn now…all those other guys don’t matter AT ALL.
And, they have no effect whatsoever on her interest in YOU unless you get jealous and start
saying things to try to make them seem less attractive or get upset about her talking about
them. That’s how you fail this test.

Now, if a woman keeps talking about one of her exes or continues to talk about her problems
with other men every time you hang out with her, stop dating her and move on.

Otherwise, take her mentioning other men for what it is: A test to see how you’ll react.

Show her you’re internally strong by saying positive things about them or just ignoring what
she says about them and being cool about it.

2. When she talks TO other men, don’t react…

Just let her come back to you on her own.

If she’s interested in you and she’s a good woman, SHE will handle other men for you.

For example, if you’re on a date with her and you hit the restroom for a few minutes only to
find another guy flirting with her, don’t get mad.

See how she reacts (now you’re testing her!).

If she’s interested in you and she’s a good woman, she’ll shut him down quickly and get back
to you as soon as she can.

If she doesn’t, it’s a huge red flag.

Exception: If it’s her long lost friend or relative, she should introduce him to you and make
you feel like you’re part of the interaction, but of course it’s cool for her to chat with him for
a bit.

No matter what, BE COOL.

Same thing goes if you take her to a party, a guy comes in the front door, and she RUNS over
to him, gives him an enthusiastic hug, and starts talking to him…

In this scenario, don’t react either.

Let it play out and see what happens.

If it was a good friend of hers or a relative that she hasn’t seen for a while, she’ll come back
to you eventually and say, “Hey, that was X from X! I haven’t seen him in like 3 years…sorry
about that.”
And then, because you didn’t react negatively, she’ll think to herself later: “Hmmmm…he’s
the first guy that didn’t react when I talked to another guy…I think I’m really starting to like
him…” <==In other words, you PASSED this test.

Now, the best thing to do when she starts talking to another guy in a situation like that is to
start talking to another woman if you can.

Then, when she comes back to you later, she might say, “Hey, that was X from X! I haven’t
seen him for soooo long. Sorry about that…by the way…who was that girl you were talking
to?” <==This is the sound of you gaining MASSIVE points…

What you definitely don’t want to do is to create some kind of negative confrontation with
her. That’s how you LOSE points and fail this test…

And, again, if she kisses the other guy, never comes back to you, or doesn’t treat you the way
you deserve, stop dating her and move on.

Otherwise, think of it like this: All other men in the world are like her brother or cousin to you
now. Act accordingly and you’ll knock this test out of the park.

4. Flake Test

A flake test happens when a woman agrees to go on a date with you and then calls or texts
you 3 hours to 30 minutes before the date and cancels on you OR she simply doesn’t show up
for the date.

This one’s tricky because it can either mean a woman’s simply not interested in you (95% of
the time), or it could mean that she actually had something come up that made her unable to
make it or that she’s testing you (5% of the time)…

And, it’s always best to assume that she’s not interested in you in this case.

Luckily, what you do either way is EXACTLY THE SAME…

HOW TO PASS THE FLAKE TEST:

When a woman flakes on you, what you do is simple: Assume she’s not interested in you and
move on.

Don’t text her again.

Don’t ask her out again.

If she is interested in you and something really did come up or she was subconsciously testing
you, she’ll figure out that you’re not going to contact her again (you’re showing her that you
won’t tolerate her behavior with your ACTIONS vs. getting upset and telling her) and then
SHE will contact YOU to get things going again…

At that point, you can decide if it’s worth it to ask her out one more time or not.

And, if she’s not interested in you, she won’t contact you and you won’t waste any of your
precious time pursuing her. That gives you strength and self-esteem you can carry with you
when you meet the next woman you want to date.

One ninja trick you can try if you want (up to you, this has worked well for some of my
clients in some cases):

When she texts you something like, “Hey, I can’t make it tonight because X…sorry!”

You can say something like, “Ok cool. My friend invited me over to watch Moana so I’ll just
head over there now. Thanks for letting me know =)”

Why is this a good response?

A. It shows that you’re okay with her flaking…

B. It implies preselection…

In other words, it implies that you have other good options without saying that other women
are attracted to you directly.

When you say that your “friend” invited you over to watch the movie Moana, she will most
likely assume that your friend is a woman because that movie is probably not something your
male friend would invite you over to watch with him.

And, if she’s interested in you at all, this will make her more attracted to you and make it very
unlikely that she’ll flake on you again.

This might be “playing games” a little bit, but hey – if a woman flakes on you, you might as
well play back a little bit if you feel like it.

Or you can just move on.

Either way, don’t show her that her cancelling on you had an effect on you even if it crushes
your heart into a billion pieces.

One last thing about this: Ask women to meet up with you for activities you enjoy whether
they show up or not…
That way, if a woman flakes on you, you might still be able to enjoy what you got ready to do
at least a little bit. And, who knows, maybe you’ll meet another awesome woman while
you’re there.

5. Favors Test

During the initial stages of dating (the first time you meet her and the first 2-3 months after
that), a woman may ask you to do small and/or large favors for her.

Whether she knows it or not, these requests are tests.

HOW TO PASS THE FAVORS TEST:

A. Whenever she asks you for a small favor, don’t just do it easily.

Ask for something in return before you agree.

So, if she says, “Hey, can you hold my purse while I hit the restroom?”

You can say, “Will you grab me a drink on the way back?”

Then, when she replies, “Sure, no problem.”

You can say, “Of course you can leave your purse with me.”

Or, at the very least, make her say, “Please…”

So, if she says, “Pass me the salt…”

You can say, “What do you say?”

Then, when she says please, go ahead and pass her the salt.

Or, if she says, “Pass me the salt, please…”

You can say, “Sure, but only because you said please.” =)

And, if she won’t say please, don’t pass her the salt.

Now, doing these little things for her might not seem like it’s a very big deal…however, it
is when it comes to attraction.
You don’t have to be a jerk; just don’t be too easy when it comes to doing these little favors
for her the first few times you hang out with her and you’ll pass this test.

B. Don’t do ANY “big” favors for her until she’s your official girlfriend.

So, if you’ve been on three dates with her and she asks you to help her move to a new
apartment, mow her lawn, wash her car, etc…politely decline.

Her: “Hey, can you come over and mow my lawn on Saturday? I’m super busy and it would
help me out a lot…”

You: “No thanks.” =)

Or, “Nah, I’m not gonna mow your lawn haha. You can come over and cook me dinner

instead though…”

If she asks for LOTS of these kinds of favors the first few times you meet up with her, stop
dating her and move on because she’s just trying to use you (vs. actually dating you).

Now, once you’re in a committed relationship with her, she’s already in love with you, she’s
your official girlfriend, and you’ve been dating her for 2 or 3 months, you can do a big favor
for her if you want.

Until then, she has friends who can help her move across town…So, let all the other guys who
are chasing her do favors for her while you actually date her.

And that’s how you pass some of the most common tests a woman can throw your way…

If you apply everything you just learned, you’ll be able to make a woman more attracted to
you instead of chasing her away. And, when you do, everyone wins.

Never forget: She WANTS you to pass her tests.

I sincerely hope you found this article helpful.

Good luck and let me know how it goes.

Persuasion 101: Ask Yes/Yes Questions

You'd have a hard time telling by my posts (let alone my Twitter stream), but I'm supposedly
a psychologist or something, so I thought it was time I did a little psychologizing here on the
Moz blog. One thing I like to think I've learned over the years is the subtle art of persuasion –
not the manipulative, why-won't-my-clients-be-reasonable variety, but the art of
communicating in a way that helps promote win-win situations with clients, prospects, and
partners.

This post is the first in what could be a series (if you like it) about the art of professional
persuasion. Whether it's your boss, client, prospect, co-worker, or website visitor, your
success often hinges on the ability to communicate persuasively.

The Yes/No Question

Every web designer has a version of this story – you work your little fingers to the bone to
come up with the perfect design, research your client's color preferences, industry
competitors, and TiVo playlist, finally present your masterpiece to them, and then gasp in
horror as they rip your baby to shreds like a pack of wolves on tainted Slim Fast. What
happened? Whether you realize it or not, you forced your client against a wall by asking them
a Yes/No question:

On the one-hand, you have your design, and on the other hand, nothing. Your client can only
approve or disapprove. If they approve, great; if they don't, then they start to do what all
people do: rationalize their decisions. On a gut level, there's something about your design they
don't like, so they look for things to pick apart. You (naturally) get defensive, and it's all
downhill from there.

The Yes/Yes Question

So, what happens if you give your client two options? You've turned a Yes/No question into
an A/B question. Instead of "Do you like it?", you've made the shift to "Which one do you
like?":
Not to over-illustrate what may be obvious by now, but you've just asked a Yes/Yes question,
and the answer to a Yes/Yes question is almost always "Yes".

Isn't That A Lot of Work?

I know what you're thinking, because I thought it for years: isn't creating two designs a lot of
work? Pardon a tangent, but I should say that design is just one example – you can apply this
principle to proposals of just about any kind (except maybe the marriage kind – "Will you
marry me? How about Chad?").

A designer friend finally turned me on to the secret – take the original proposal and make
some modifications you can live with it. At first, I have to admit that this seemed like
cheating. If you just tweak a couple of colors and fonts and act like it's a whole new proposal,
isn't that a bit shady? Well, no, and here's why. First, what amounts to "just tweaking" for you
only seems easy because you're a professional. Second, every one of us, in the process of
creating anything, inevitably makes choices along the way. Many times, we make a decision
because we have to, but we could've gone more than one direction. Revisit those decision
points, and use them to generate a second proposal. Ultimately, you'll be able to present
people with options that aren't too difficult to create and still maintain your integrity.

What if They Mix and Match?

There's another worry people have with this approach, and it is justified in some cases, if a bit
overblown. What if you present two options, and your target audience mixes and matches in
ways you can't live with? This could be true for designs as well as sales proposals. The
complicated answer is that you eventually learn to engineer your choices in a way that makes
mixing-and-matching a bit more palatable.

The short answer is: So what? Would you rather have a discussion about how Element B
doesn't fit Site A and have to get creative or have your client tell you why Site A sucks and
they don't want to pay you? If you can get your client to mix-and-match, then at least they're
telling you what they like. Hearing a laundry list of what someone doesn't like is useless –
hearing what they do like gives you options.
How Much Choice Is Too Much?

So, by my own logic, if two choices are good, how about three or more? More is always
better, right?

Sorry, got carried away for a minute there. Unfortunately, more choices won't necessarily
yield more excitement for your target audience. Recent research certainly suggests that there's
such a thing as too many choices. In most cases, 2 options will be sufficient – in some
situations, especially where a lot of money is involved or the risk of a bad decision is high, 3
or more choices may be required.

Let your own decision path be your guide. If you naturally encounter points along the creative
path where you can't decide which of two options is better, that may be a good place to
diverge and create a second version of whatever you're working on. If this happens frequently,
then 3-4 versions may be natural. Just don't invent versions for the sake of bombarding your
audience with options – the goal is to give people a choice, not overwhelm them to the point
of decision paralysis.

A Few More Examples

I've used the website design example to illustrate this concept, but there are many more cases
where I think Yes/Yes questions can help you persuade someone in a win/win way:

 Sales proposals - Try 2 package options or pricing levels

 Boss proposals - Bosses love choices - 2+ options boost the odds you'll get 1 of them
 Copywriting - Provide a long and short version (if applicable)
 Logo design - Consider color options to allow for client preference
 Christmas lists - I would like a (1) Upscaling DVD player or (2) HD TiVo - it's your
choice ;)

Of course, never present an option you can't live with. The whole point is to create a choice
that helps you get an end result that's positive for both you and the client/boss/etc. Get
creative, and you'll be amazed how often a little extra work up front can save you hours of
headaches down the road.
How to Flirt With a Girl – 6 Foolproof Steps to Improve Your
Game
One of the most useful methods you can employ to get the girl is knowing how to flirt with
a girl.

You may think you know how to get a girlfriend but if you’re not flirting, you’re going to
have a tougher time than normal.

In this article we’ll explain the importance of flirting with a girl, what it is, how flirting
works, and most importantly…

We’ll teach you the surprisingly easy steps to successful and natural flirting.

I recommend reading through all of these 6 steps on how to flirt with a girl to find your
absolute favorites… but if you’re looking for something specific, you can click the links
below to jump to that section:

Contents
What, Exactly, is Flirting?

The Merriam-Webster definition of “Flirt” is this:

“Behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than
with serious intentions.”
So basically, flirting is acting silly and showing interest in someone simply because it’s
fun. But that definition isn’t entirely true…

…Because people flirt with serious intent all the time. Why?

It’s an exciting and low-risk method of starting a conversation with someone you’re attracted
to. And it works. Flirting is lighthearted chatting that involves teasing, physical touching,
cracking jokes, giving compliments, and being slightly absurd but not weird.

People flirt when they’re attracted to someone but don’t want to come out and say it right
away(which is smart because doing so might scare off a potential mate.)

It’s a delicate art that takes practice and confidence, and if done correctly, will make talking
to every girl infinitely easier. And that’s why we’re going to show you how to do it.

But first you need to learn why flirting is necessary to get the girl…

Why is Flirting So Important?

You can approach a girl and simply ask her any of our questions to ask a girl, but that’s a
boring way to start a conversation.

Those questions are meant to create a dialogue, while flirting is meant to get you an
invitation to said dialogue. A girl isn’t going to talk to you unless it’s clear you have
something to offer her.

…And one thing you can offer her:

A fun and interesting interaction. Well it just so happens that flirting is a surefire way of
doing exactly that.

How to Flirt With a Girl: 6 steps

Remember: Flirting is a low-risk method of talking to girls…

This is because flirting requires you to not take yourself too seriously, which is a trait
thatwomen notice and find attractive.

No girl wants to date a guy who can’t laugh at himself and flirting is the quickest and easiest
method of showing a girl you like that you know how to have a good time.

Again, flirting takes practice. The more you do it, the more you’ll see what works and what
doesn’t.

So when you’re flirting with a girl, give her your undivided attention and keep an eye out for
the subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) cues she’s putting off.

Does she look distracted while you’re talking? Then ask her a question about herself.
People lovetalking about themselves and it will hopefully bring her back to the conversation.

Is she maintaining eye contact and laughing at your jokes/teasing? Keep doing what you’re
doing! She’s probably interested!

My point is this: During each of the following steps of the flirting process on how to flirt
with a girl, you should constantly be performing status checks on how the interaction is
going and reacting appropriately.
Over time, you’ll get better at it, but in the meantime…

Here are the 6 powerful steps on how to flirt with a girl:

Step #1: Approach Her

Trust me, I’ve been there countless times… Knowing how to approach a girl the most
challenging part of meeting women.

You get stuck in your head and instead of psyching yourself up, you end up thinking
of all the reasons why she wouldn’t want to talk to you. So before your mind can convince
you otherwise, you just have to do it and walk up to her.

Or…

If you can control your approach anxiety, all you have to do make eye contact and smile a
couple of times before walking up to her. If she reciprocates, she’s giving you an
invitation to come say hello. If she doesn’t, go say hi to her anyway.

The only things you have to lose are a few words and some time and she’ll let you know
if she’s not interested.
Step #2: How To Flirt With A Girl : Compliment Her

This step is an easy one but if you need some inspiration on how to compliment a girl we’ve
written up a list of compliments for girls that are guaranteed to make her blush.

Here’s the basic gist of giving compliments:

The main thing you have to do is pick one thing you like about her and simply tell her you
like it.

But you have to be genuine about it. You have to mean it. This is easily accomplished by
picking out your compliment before you approach her.

Some of my favorite examples:

 “This is a nice jacket, where’d you get it?” (A good one for initiating touch. Lightly
touching her arm is your safest option.)
 “I saw you over there and just had to tell you that I like your style.” (Explaining you
noticed her will make her feel good about herself and like you more.)
 “Your eyes are gorgeous!” (This works best if said with enthusiasm and excitement.)

If there’s one rule you should follow when complimenting a girl it’s this:

Do not use pickup lines (unless you have a hilarious one or can masterfully recover from her
eye roll and keep her interested.) They’re corny and have a pretty low chance for success.

As long as you stick to normal compliments, smile, and make sure you mean what you’re
saying (she’ll see right through disingenuous compliments), you’ll be just fine.
Step #3: Make Her Laugh

One of the most enjoyable aspects of flirting is how casual it is (if done correctly). Flirting
isn’t some sacred conversational formality. It’s fun.

And making a conversation fun and hilarious is easier than you might think. But of
course, howyou make a girl laugh depends on your personality and sense of humor. We can
help you with that, but only you know what works for you.

So experiment with good and bad jokes, playfully tease her, and smile and laugh often.

And while we’re on the subject of teasing, here are a few good examples of playful teasing
that are sure to make her giggle:

 Stereotype her in a silly way. (If she tells you something she likes, say, “Oh you’re one
of those people.” and roll your eyes. Then immediately give her a cheeky smile.)
 Give her a silly nickname. (The more absurd the better. For example, if she’s wearing
green, call her “green bean.” It’s fun to say out loud, not rude, and doesn’t point out
any of her potential flaws.)
 Accuse her of hitting on you. (Example: “Hey, I know my butt looks good but my eyes
are up here.”)

Remember: Teasing is playful, not hurtful so be careful not to say anything that could hurt
her feelings.

And flirting is inherently silly so the more you make her laugh, the better your chances
ofgetting her number.
Step #4: How To Flirt With A Girl : Initiate a Light Touch

This step is one of the most important ones on this list because when someone we’re
attracted to touches us, we get excited, which results in an increased heart rate.

But even if we’re not attracted to said person, a light tap on the arm or shoulder surprises
us, which has the exact same effect on our physiology. Increased heart rate.

So in a flirting scenario, even if she’s not 100% sold on you yet, a light touch
can quickly change that.

Below are some examples of what I mean:

 When passing through a doorway, put your hand on her lower back and guide her
through ahead of you. (It’s a very sensitive part of the body and will arouse her
because it’s so close to her butt. Just remember to aim high so you don’t get slapped.)
 Touching her arm between her shoulder and elbow is always a safe bet. (Pair it with
something reasonable like a compliment or a comment on her tattoos or outfit.)
 Lightly push her if she teases you back. (Be aware of your surroundings and avoid
pushing her into furniture or other people.)

Keep in mind social norms about personal space and if she recoils as you go in for a
touch, you’ve made a mistake in your flirting process and might have to abort.

Gauge the situation and leave her alone if you think she’s not interested. Continuing to
bother her is a huge turnoff and will only waste both of your time.

But if you think you can recover, move onto step 5.

Step#5: Keep the Conversation Moving

When learning how to flirt with a girl, you need to know how to keep a conversation going
with her.

There are countless different tactics to make sure you never run out of things to say but here
are the key things you should always do:

 Ask her questions about herself. (It shows your interested in her. Do this often.)
 Share your own stories. (Don’t make her do all the talking!)
 Ask follow-up questions. (She says she went to Australia once? Ask her if she saw any
sharks.)
Don’t forget: You should be doing steps 2-4 multiple times throughout the conversation.
They’re not “one and done” actions.

Just be the most confident and best version of yourself you can be and you’ll do just fine.
And remember to have fun!

Step#6: How To Flirt With A Girl : Close

If you’ve done everything correctly up to this point, she’s probably waiting for you to ask for
her number.

And that’s exactly what you should do.

So as long as you’re feeling good about the interaction, you should have no problem thinking
up a way to get her digits.

But just in case, here’s a reasonable formula for asking:

 Tell her you enjoyed the conversation but it’s time for you to part ways.
 Tell her you should do it again sometime.
 Ask for her number.
 Smile.

“Hey, so this has been fun and we should do it again some time, but it’s time for me to go… I
just need your number before I leave.” Smile.

When you phrase it that way, you’re not asking. You’re telling, which shows
assertiveness and confidence.

Or you can use humor:

“Hey, so this has been fun and we should do it again some time, but it’s time for me to go… I
just need your phone and social security numbers, mother’s maiden name, and the name of
your first pet before I leave.” Smile.

How you close depends on the type of person you are, but if you’ve made it this far, you’ve
already got her hooked.

All you have to do is ask.

How To Flirt With a Girl Over Text

Flirting over text uses a few of the same principles as flirting in person.
But flirting with a girl over text is easier than flirting in real time because you have more
time to think of clever things to say. Of course, if you’re too unlike yourself over text, she’ll
notice the difference when you’re together.

We’ve done a whole write-up on how to flirt with a girl over text that has more information
on this topic but we wanted to give you a pointer here on how to flirt with a girl and how
to keep her engaged when you’re not together.

Send her flirty texts

Flirty texts take creativity and quick thinking to come up with, so if you struggle with
that, don’t worry…

…We’ve got you covered with a ton of our best flirty texts for her.

Here are a few of our favorite flirty texts:

 “You found me on the internet! Nice job, creeper :)” (I used this one last week after
she added me on Facebook. We’re hanging out tomorrow. Don’t forget to tease!)
 “I wanted to wait a day longer to text you, but I couldn’t wait that long to talk to
you again.” (I know, it’s kind of cheesy, but lots of women like cheesy. It’s charming.)
 “Send me a picture so I can send Santa my wish list.” (No matter what time of year it
is, you can always justify using this one.)

Girls like texting when they’re bored. And while you shouldn’t bend over backwards for a
girl, if you want to keep her interested…

…You have to be entertaining.

More Tips on How to Flirt With A Girl

Getting the girl has never been easier if you follow our other awesome articles.

1. Make talking to girls easier with our post on how to talk to girls.
2. We can also teach you how to ask a girl out if you’re struggling there.
3. Knowing how to get a girl to like you is easier than you think.

In Conclusion

If there’s one takeaway in this article it’s this: Flirting should be fun for everyone involved.

So as long as you’re engaging, interesting, and smooth when you flirt, you’ll be able
to keep her interested.
But I get it… If you’re nervous about approaching girls you find ridiculously attractive,
you’ll never get better at flirting. So for easy practice, I recommend you stick to the standard
definition of “Flirt” and try flirting without trying to get the girl.

When you flirt for fun, you’re more relaxed, less nervous, and more inclined to try different
flirting techniques.

Doing so will help you understand the nuances of how to flirt with a girl as well as develop
your own flirting style and when you see a girl you REALLY like, you’ll be comfortable
and confident knowing you can flirt with her.

Just relax and remember: If one girl isn’t interested, it’s not the end of the world. There
are countless others out there who will happily accept your advances.

Good luck, and happy flirting!

Is it flirting or just friendliness? The definitive guide to

interpreting whether you are being wooed
It always goes so well in the movies. Man sees woman. Woman locks eyes with man. They
miraculously and seamlessly move closer together. And hey presto, a new romance is born.

But in real life, it turns out that only 28% of people accurately detect when they are being
flirted with.

In a study by University of Kansas in America, researchers monitored over 100 heterosexual

strangers as they engaged in conversation with another participant. When each person was
asked if they flirted during their interaction or whether they thought their partner flirted with
them, it was only noticed 28% of the time.

A follow-up study found that observers watching from the outside, who were not involved the
actual interaction, were even less accurate when detecting flirtation.

It might be the universal language for courting someone - anthropological research shows that
flirting is to be found, in some form, in all cultures and societies around the world - but it
turns out it's not as explicit as a peacock's tail.

We're often too oblivious, too awkward or over-analytical to wholeheartedly feel confidant
when it comes to making or receiving romantic advances.

So to help break down the confusion and myths behind it, we've uncovered what science
officially defines as flirting.
When it's most likely flirting

They dominate the space around you

In one study, researchers had two opposite-sex strangers meet and recorder their interactions
for 10 minutes. They then asked each person about their romantic interest and compared
it with their behaviour in the test. Males who were more interested gave off dominance
signals, such as taking up space and leaning forward during a conversation. Similarly, women
who were more interested changed their body presentation to accentuate physical features.

They mirror your behaviour

When people are attracted to each other, they tend to unconsciously copy each other's
physical gestures and posture.

Psychologists call this 'postural congruence' or 'postural echo' explains the Social Issues
Research Centre. "Mirror-image postural echoes – where one person's left side 'matches' the
other person's right side – are the strongest indication of harmony and rapport between the
pair. If the position of your partner's body and limbs appear to 'echo' or 'mimic' your own,
particularly if his/her posture is a mirror image of yours, the chances are that he/she feels an
affinity with you."

But as a BBC report explains, mirroring also marks good communication and shows
our interests are being reciprocated, which means it can also happen when talking to close
friends.

They're consistent

According to social psychology pinoneer Harold Kelley’s 1967 'Attribution Model' - the
theory of how people interpret and make sense of behaviour - consistant flirtation over time is
a good signal for attraction. Pyschologist Theresa E. DiDonato observed Kelley's study in
detail and suggests there are three key questions that can help decode flirting.

1. Are their interactions consistent across time (do you seem to flirt every time you see each
other)?
2. Is the person’s behaviour towards you distinctive or unique (not how he or she acts toward
everyone else)?
3. How do you behave? If there’s a general consensus that most people interact with this
person the way you do, your interactions are less likely attributed to mutual attraction.

DiDonato adds that high consistency, high distinctiveness and low consensus might suggest
that you have a connection with the other person.

The importance of touch

"The behaviour that participants rated as reflecting the most flirtation and the most romantic
attraction was the soft face touch, followed by the touch around the shoulder or waist, and
then the soft touch on the forearm," says Pamela Regan, psychology professor at at California
State University and author of Close Relationships.

"The least flirtatious and romantic touches were the shoulder push, shoulder tap, and
handshake. Thus, touching that is gentle and informal, and that occurs face-to-face or involves
“hugging” behaviour, appears to convey the most relational intent."

Identify their flirting style

Every person has a different tactic for communicating attraction, according to a study by the
University of Kansas in 2013, which observed 51 pairs of opposite-sex heterosexual
strangers in a questionnaire.

"We found that as people became more attracted to their conversation partner, they showed
that attraction in ways that revealed their flirting style," said Jeffrey Hall, associate professor
of communication studies. He identified five flirting categories:

 Traditional: Those who believe men should make the first move and women should
be more passive. The traditional flirt was more likely to lean into the interaction and
adopt an open body posture. Traditional females acted in more demure way, by
palming -- or showing their wrists and hands -- and gently teasing their
conversational partner."

 Sincere: Those who communicate attraction through self-disclosure and focused

attention. They are attentive and less fidgety in a short interaction. "Female sincere
flirts laughed and smiled more, and more frequently showed a telltale sign of interest
- the coy gaze," said Hall.

 Polite: "A polite flirt tends to be very hands-off and respectful, but as you can
imagine, this type of flirting isn't obvious to the people they're attracted to," Hall
added. "They lean back, create even more space and are more even in verbal tone.
For most people, it signals a lack of closeness, but polite flirts do it more the more
attracted they become."

 Physical: Those who express sexual interest through body language and feel most
confident at parties and busy night spots. "They offer fewer compliments when they
are attracted to a potential romantic match and are a bit stymied talking alone in a
room, one-on-one."

 Playful: Those who are less polite than physical flirts and tend to be highly
extroverted, throwing caution to the wind when flirting.

When it's most likely not flirting

Locking eyes a few times

Unfortunately, exchanging glances with someone doesn't always hold romantic connotations.
In one study where the encounters of opposite-sexed strangers were directly observed, the
behaviours early on in the interactions were not indicative of actual interest. In fact, women
with low and high interest gave off the same amount of solicitation signals. Real interest was
only noticeable if women kept giving signals over time.

In one groundbreaking experiment in generating closeness between strangers in the 1990s,

researcher by Arthur Aron found that it takes a lot more eye contact to make a connection. In
his study he asked various pairs of strangers to share intimate details of their lives with each
other for 45 minutes and then spend four minutes staring into each others eyes without talking
for four minutes. Many of the couples confessed to feeling deeply attracted to the other and
two of his subjects even married afterwards.

As summarised by the Social Issues Research Centre people don't usually hold each other's
gaze for more than a second. If it's longer than this or the person looks away and then back at
you again, that is strong evidence that they are flirting.

A few laughs
The amount of laughter itself can not detect flirting according to one study on non-verbal
flirting. It's only when laughter is accompanied by the right body postures and movements,
such as mirroring and dominance.

Closed posture
In the same study both sexes communicated a lack of interest through closed postures such as
folded arms and crossed legs.

Mirroring Body Language: 4 Steps To Successfully Mirror

Others
Mirroring can be funny, but anyone who has grown up with a sibling who repeats everything
you say and do knows echoing actions and words can go from being funny to annoying pretty
fast.

 Why mirror anyone other than to be on Ellen or to be a YouTube sensation?

 Why do experts from sales trainers to pick-up artists tout the benefits of mirroring?

Because it works.

When done right, research consistently demonstrates its power. Here are just a few examples:

 Waitresses gained higher tips (Van Barren et al., 2003)

 Sales clerks achieved higher sales and more positive evaluations (Jacob et. al., 2011)
 More students agreed to write an essay for another student (Gueguen, Martin, &
Meineri, 2011)
 Men evaluated women more favorably in speed dating (Gueguen, 2009)

But when done wrong, it’s a disaster, so let’s turn to some science to make sure you get it
right every time.
Monkey Business

Early in the 1990s, researchers at the University of Parma in Italy were doing work with
macaque monkeys. Quite by accident, when one of the researchers reached to grab his food,
he noticed that the neurons in a nearby research monkey became active as if it was reaching
for the food even though in reality it was sitting idly by. Startled by this finding, the
researchers tested and found they could repeatedly make the monkey’s brain think it was
taking action just by watching the researchers. This became the foundation for what are now
called “mirror neurons”.

Later, in 2010, Kuhn et. al., found that when someone mirrors your behavior, the areas of
your brain that activate are the same ones that process rewards and make you feel good.

So not only is mirroring hardwired in your brain, but it is also rewarded!

It is this hardwiring that you need to take advantage of to do mirroring the right way.

The 4 Steps to Mirroring Successfully

When done correctly, mirroring can build rapport and a strong connection with others.
Ironically, if your goal is only to find ways to make others connect with you and you just
mirror what they are doing, you may at best just irritate them.

Why?

Mirroring to make others feel a connection is perceived as inauthentic immediately.

Here is how to do it the right way.

1. Build Your Connection First

If you remember nothing else, remember this:

Your key to building rapport and a strong connection is to first feel that connection
yourself. If you aren’t feeling it, they aren’t feeling it.

Here’s how:

 Fronting: To start, you want to give the other person your complete attention. Start
by fronting the other person, that is, squaring your body so you are directly facing
them. They need to literally be the center of your universe.

 Eye Contact: A funny thing about eye-contact, too little and you will seem tentative
and too much you might seem creepy. Go for the middle ground (see tip#1 in this
 post for more info!). This not only demonstrates your interest level in the other
person through your undivided attention, but according to Dr. Kerstin Uväs-Moberg
in his book The Oxytocin Factor, making eye contact releases Oxytocin, the hormone
that creates those warm feelings we feel when making a close connection.

 Triple Nod: The triple nod does two important things. First, research shows when you
do the triple nod, the other person will speak 3 to 4 times longer making them feel
listened to and important. And second, when you nod, you are basically agreeing
with what the other person is saying and this builds what scientists call a “yes set”. It
is like when a salesperson asks you a couple of simple questions like “Is it still June?”,
or “It sure is warm today isn’t it?” you say yes (even if only in your mind) and
research shows once you start saying yes, the more likely it is you will continue to do
so. Yes sets build connections. So when you nod, you build your own yes set and
further strengthen the connection you are making.

 Pretend, then stop pretending: At this point, you are fronting the person, making
appropriate eye contact and using your triple nod. Likely you are already feeling a
very strong connection, but to fully complete it, use the power of your imagination.
Do this by pretending the person you are with is the most interesting person you
have ever met. Really imagine it and act accordingly. Then stop pretending.

Throughout all of this, a lot of mirroring is likely happening naturally on its own, but here are
some mirroring techniques you can now use to build and amplify their connection to you.

2. Pace and Volume

Many times, people think of mirroring as mimicking physical actions, but mirroring refers to
all non-verbals. Start with mirroring the pace and volume of the other person’s speech. If
they are a super fast talker and loud, increase your volume and animation. If they are soft,
slow and more relaxed, match them at this level instead. Pace and volume matching is easy to
do and much less obvious than physical mimicry.

3. Identify their Punctuator

Because you have been carefully paying attention to the person you’re mirroring with the
entire time, you will have noticed a favorite punctuator that the other person uses to make a
point. It could be an eyebrow flash (quick raise of the eyebrows) or some type of hand gesture
like politicians often use. Here is story of how I used a punctuator: Earlier this year when I
was having lunch with a physician who was pitching a public, private and institutional
partnership, I noticed that when he was particularly adamant about an issue, he would bring
both hands in front of his body and thrust them vigorously up and down. As he spoke, I
prompted him on by nodding in pace with his plea and when he came to his conclusion, I
mimicked his double-handed gesture as he made it himself. He stopped, looked at me, cocked
his head and said “Yes! You understand it completely!” and smiled with a nod.

The thing is, I hadn’t said a single word.

4. Testing the Connection

This last part is optional, but if you really want to test your connection, make an overt action
unrelated to your conversation and see if it is mirrored back.

During the break following a keynote speech I had given, an audience member came up to me
and we discussed the similarities that he and I had with our fathers who had both been in
World War II. At one point while he was talking, I had an irritating itch on my nose which I
quickly scratched but then I noticed he reached up and scratched his own nose all the while
continuing on with his story. It seemed so out of place, I decided to test this to see if it was a
fluke. A moment later, I scratched my head and he suddenly did exactly the same thing. It was
so odd I almost laughed out loud.

Warning: Do not do repeated testing as this will quickly break the connection!

One final word of caution: When you mirror, make sure that you are mirroring positive non-
verbals and nothing negative like turning away, blocking with your arms folded, closing your
eyes or looking away.

So get out there and make those connections, and if we are doing mirroring right, we’re
making two reflections into one (and yes, I did just quote Justin Timberlake).

Great, now that song is going to be in my head all day…

How To (Properly) Flirt With A Woman

You know those scenes in romantic comedies where a character is at a bar and his buddies are
trying to get him to go talk to a beautiful woman? And for some reason, the guy is usually
taking deep breaths and slamming down shots like a Civil War soldier about to get his leg
amputated?

Those scenes are part of the reason why guys tend to have such a hard time flirting with
women: they treat flirting like it’s Thunderdome and they’ll be fed to the wolves if they aren’t
successful.

When you hear the word “flirt”, what do you think? If you look it up on everybody’s favorite
online encyclopedia, you get this: “Flirting is a form of human interaction between two
people, expressing a romantic and/or sexual interest. It can consist of conversation, body
language, or brief physical contact.”

Now, do you think this first line will help you learn how to flirt with a woman?
Naturally, you may be reluctant to “express a romantic and/or sexual interest” in a woman just
like that: what if you come off as weird, she gets annoyed, defensive, what if she flat-out
rejects you? That would make flirting a quite unpleasant experience.
On the other hand, if you really understand how to do it, you can make any flirt what it’s
meant to be: a light, fun interaction with a breezy sexual vibe and sweet validation.
flirting – It’s light! It’s fun! Nobody will be fed to wolves!

When I hear the word “flirt”, I think of witty, smiley banter, laughing, good feelings, slight
sexual tension, and most importantly: no particular outcome. It may be a fun prelude to casual
sex, a steady relationship or simply nothing at all – none of these things make or break a good
flirt. The only two ingredients it needs are “good” and “flirt”. It is what it is and if you’re
doing it right, it shouldn’t be stressful.

The goal is to get her to smile.

Getting a girl to smile is half the battle to successful flirting during a date

Here are some ways to successfully flirt.

Words Alone Won’t Help You

It’s been said that 93% of communication is non-verbal — that is, body language, tone, and
facial expressions. [R] This isn’t entirely true; try speaking to a woman for 7 seconds, then
spending the next 93 posing and wiggling your eyebrows suggestively. Odds are, you’ll have
to explain yourself to the police.

While that statistic is a bit distorted, there is some truth to it. Saying the right words will only
get you so far; more often than not, what you say is less important than how you say it.

Body Language

Body language isn’t just how you non-verbally express your interest in a woman — it’s also
how women express their interest in you. Surprisingly, 90% of the time, women are the ones
initiating a romantic encounter, and they do it through body language. [R] In our article
on how to tell a girl you like her, we illustrate an example where a lack of understanding of
body language can lead to disaster.

When flirting with a woman, you need to send non-verbal signals that you’re sexually
attracted to her; in fact, those are the only signals you should be sending at first. (In other
words, do not walk up to a woman and say “I desire a sexual encounter with you, milady.”)

“90% of the time it is women who show signs of interest through body language”

So what are some examples of positive body language?

Eye contact is an easy way to express that you’re interested in her; not only that, it’s an easy
way for you to gauge whether she likes you. If she’s not making eye contact, odds are she’s
not comfortable or relaxed. [R]
Eye contact is one way of sure what of determining chemistry between you

Smiling can be disarming and help take some of the awkwardness out of the initial encounter.
Just be sure not to smile too much or too frequently; at best, she’ll think you’re a simpleton,
and at worst, she might think you’re a creep.
A smile can be disarming and help remove awkwardness for a successful date

At the same time try and gauge her smile. Work out if her smile is genuine or fake, this will
make it a lot easier to know if she is interested.

Good posture conveys assuredness and confidence; in other words, it lets her know that
you’re feeling positively about approaching her, which signals that it’s okay for her to feel
positively about being approached.
When you meet in person take the right steps to convey confidence through posture

You want to be careful with them: let your facial expressions mirror your emotions. Many
guys will just plaster a smile on their face all the way through an interaction in order to please.
Instead, change your face according to your inner reaction to what she does. If you disapprove
of something, there’s no need to hide it! You’re not there to please her.

Mirroring Courtship Ritual

According to the Center for Nonverbal Studies, mirroring is a crucial element of the courtship
ritual. [R] Examples of mirroring are crossing your legs towards someone after they’ve done
the same or taking a drink after she does. But be careful: there’s a thin line between mirroring
someone and imitating them.
Mirroring is a crucial element of the courtship ritual.

What You Say Does Matter

Some pickup artists believe that you don’t have to say anything meaningful as long as you
tick all the non-verbal boxes, but that should just be yet another example of why nobody
should listen to pickup artists. Yes, words alone aren’t enough to successfully flirt with
someone, but you can’t just grunt your way through it, either.

Keep It Light & Fun

Remember, this isn’t a do-or-die situation; it’s a conversation with a pretty woman. It should
be fun, so have fun with it! Keep the conversation breezy — don’t immediately jump into
your thoughts on nuclear proliferation as an icebreaker. In fact, don’t ever jump into your
thoughts on nuclear proliferation unless she asks about them.
A successful date starts with conversations that are light, fun and breezy

You want to come across as “cocky but funny,” but don’t overdo it. Women are as turned off
by an “I’m doing you a favor by talking to you” attitude as they are by a “I don’t deserve to
talk to you” one. Don’t think of “cocky” in the sense of an ‘80’s movie bully; instead, think of
it more as a mildly-exaggerated sense of confidence. (And don’t tell her to “smile more” —
women hate that.)

Be Positive & Don’t Care About The Outcome

Sure: you’re talking to the girl because you’re attracted. But let the interaction be self-
sufficient: if you are having fun with a cutie and nothing more, then the girl will enjoy it.
You’re both in the same place at the same time, you’re good-looking and blithe, and you’re
enjoying each other’s company! That’s why the most important rule for you is to be positive.
If you embrace that she’s there and she’s a wonderful person, you’re already halfway there!

Make Her Flirt With You

It’s very important that you get the woman to flirt with you as well! There is a technique in
the book Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo that actually shows you what to do in the
first 5 minutes of the interaction to set yourself apart and get the woman flirting with you first.
I strongly recommend you read it.
A good sign she is flirting back is when she plays with her hair

The Wikipedia article on flirting describes it as a way to gauge interest or a prelude to casual
sex. “In other situations”, the article goes on, “it may be done simply for immediate
entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship.” To my mind, this is
the best way to go: once you know how to entertain yourself with another person’s company,
you’ll know how to flirt with a girl anywhere you want. There is always an amount of
personal interest involved, and don’t be afraid to hide it: but don’t let it take over and try to
steer the conversation to a certain outcome. The only outcome you want right there and then is
a great feeling.

Feel Sexy & Make Her Feel The Same

Assume attraction. You know that you are sexy, and no matter if she’s “taken”, lesbian, a
happy single, she likes to feel desirable. You’re in a position to give her that feeling. You can
open up the interaction with a line as simple as this: “Hi. What’s your name?” You can also
establish a mystery: “You’re drinking green tea, right? That tells me a lot about your
personality.” Then don’t tell her what it is. Right before approaching, you can start humming
or softly singing to yourself, it bridges the gap between not speaking and speaking – you’re
already in “talk mode” when you say your first words to her.
Tease Her (But Don’t “Neg”)

Playful teasing is a great way to break the ice and get her smiling and laughing. If she says
something like “My friends sent me to the bar to get their drinks,” you can respond with
“Jeez, sounds like they needed a break from you!”

One good piece of advice is to tease her while chatting

Alternatively, you can make it even lighter hearted and play it safe by accusing her of staring
at your butt while you were making a point.
The key here is the non-verbal portion, so do it with a smile to let her know you’re joking.

Make sure not to overdo the teasing, though; you’re trying to flirt with her, not roast her at the
Friar’s Club. Speaking of which, you may be familiar with the term “negging.” If not, here’s
how Wikipedia describes it: [R]

“Negging is a rhetorical strategy whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded

compliment or otherwise insulting remark to another person in order to undermine their
confidence in a way that gains approval.”
Why anyone would think the key to winning a woman’s affections is to make her feel like
crap is beyond me, but for some reason, some people put a lot of stock in this idea. Don’t be
one of those people — negging is a gross and demeaning practice, and more importantly, it
doesn’t work. [R]

Source: Taylor & Francis partner desire study

The case study demonstrates that “sensitivity” is the second most desired characteristic in
married women, with “honesty & trustworthiness” in first place… polar opposite
characteristics to negging.

Playful Opportunities With Double-entendres

Statements that can have two meanings: formally appropriate and sexually suggestive. She’s
talking about her travels: “I spent a lot of time down south.” Say: “Down south?! You dirty
girl!” Look for opportunities to introduce playful sexual innuendo into a conversation – if you
set your mind to it, you’ll be amazed at how many things you can “accidentally misinterpret”
as sexual hints. At some point, tell her: “Look, I realize I’m hot, but please stop your constant
innuendos. I’m not that easy.”

Don’t Compliment Her (At First)

One of the rules is not compliment her

right away, she already knows you are interested

A lot of guys think they have to compliment a woman to make it extra-clear that yes, they do
find her sexually attractive. While your honesty is certainly appreciated, it’s also overkill; she
already knows that based solely on the fact that you’re approaching her.

Part of the fun of flirting is the implicit admission that each person finds the other attractive.
Explicitly stating it is like handing someone a birthday present and announcing “It’s a book”
before they can open it — it takes all the mystery out of the encounter.

A Note About Confidence

Many people struggle with flirting because they think they lack the self-assuredness to
effectively pull it off. It’s true that these tips really only work if you present yourself as
confident; otherwise, the results will be less than stellar. (Probably somewhere between
“awkward” and “nightmarish,” if I had to ballpark it.)

Now, this would ordinarily be where I’d divulge some extremely simple method that would
magically instill you with boundless confidence. Unfortunately, that’s not how confidence
works; it’s just one of those things that comes with time and, yes, practice. If you’re lacking
in confidence, all you can do is fake it ‘til you make it.

Q: “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?”

A: “Practice, practice, practice.”

It may feel a little disingenuous at first, but I assure you, it isn’t. Confidence doesn’t come
naturally to anyone, and everybody has had to pretend to be confident at some point in their
lives. Some just start the process earlier than others. The more you fake it, the less
you’ll need to fake it. Using this guide will help you flirt and seduce with confidence and,
most importantly, have fun doing it while you learn.

Now for a little secret provided by one of the hottest programs on the market that will not
only help establish your confidence quicker, but also teach you how to dial up the laws of
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Resources & References

Would you like some additional information on women and how to flirt with them? Here are
some additional sources and references:

1. How much of communication is really nonverbal by The NonVerbalGroup

2. 6 scientific facts about attraction you can use the next time you flirt with someone by
Cecily Trowbridge (Thought Catalog)
3. Interesting insights by alpha m. on how to approach and flirt without being creepy.
 4. The body language of the eyes – the eyes reveal what the heart conceals by Joe
Navarro M.A.
5. 9 wordless ways someone says, “I love you” by Paula Spencer Scott, Alzheimer’s
caregiving expert
6. Negging – A definition by Wikipedia
7. A woman’s perspective by Marni Your Personal Wing Girl on whether she is flirting
with you or just being friendly?

What’s She Really Saying? The Non-Verbal Side of Dating

What’s She Really Saying? The Non-Verbal Side of Dating

There are two layers to any type of conversation.

First, there are the words being said, and the literal meaning of the dialogue between two
people.

In the case of a date, this usually consists of pretty boring topics—your favorite breed of dog,
where you went to college, what you do for fun—and isn’t necessarily going to give you
much valuable information about what the other person is actually thinking.

Conversations, especially on dates, are sometimes just ways of filling in silence and avoiding
an uncomfortable interaction.
While it may seem like the best form of getting one’s point across, the verbal component of a
date is only a small percentage of the whole picture.

A guy who really knows how to kill it on a date looks deeper than just the words that are
being said. He knows that women and people, in general, communicate nonverbally, whether
they know it or not.

To a guy who’s been on lots of dates, the sub-communication, or the meaning behind the
meaning, is really what’s most important when he’s trying to make a strong bond with a girl.

Nonverbal communication is sometimes, even more, telling because, a lot of the time, what’s
being said through body language or through eye contact is unconscious.

The person may not even be aware of what they’re indicating with their eyes or with the way
they’re sitting, but to the person on the other side of the table they’ve pretty much completely
given themselves away.

If you aren’t paying attention to a girl’s body language on a date, then you’re shortchanging
yourself, and possibly missing out on signals she may be trying to send you.

Being able to interpret non-verbal communication is also valuable in situations where it may
be helpful to calibrate your behavior.

Is she uncomfortable, attracted, nervous, horny or upset? It’s almost impossible to tell just by
talking to her, but her body language and mannerisms may betray any one of these emotions.

You just have to be able to focus and have a keen eye for certain behaviors with deeper
meanings.

For example, creating distance or placing physical objects between the two of you is one way
of knowing she isn’t comfortable yet.

She could be leaning back in her chair, putting her drink in the middle of the table to separate
the two of you, or leaving her phone or purse between the two of you.

It’s essentially the unconscious brain putting up a physical wall for protection against
someone it isn’t sure of yet. Another possibility is that she has her arms on the table, crossed
in front of her body.

She’s creating a barrier because she’s still making up her mind about you, so if you see any of
these signs, just know that you have a long way to go before she’s okay with letting things
progress. In short, you have work to do.

A more positive display of nonverbal communication is eye contact. If you make eye contact
with your date, and she doesn’t break it or look around the bar at something else, she is very
interested in what you’re saying.
Eye contact is an extremely intimate thing, and if someone isn’t comfortable with it, it can be
creepy and they will almost always look away.

However, when a girl is attracted to you, she will want to look into your eyes because there is
something undeniably sexy about it. It indicates comfort, attraction, and a genuine interest.

On the other end of the spectrum, is a girl who looks everywhere except into your eyes, no
matter how much actual talking you’re doing.

Maybe she doesn’t necessarily dislike you, but she is either…

A) Uncomfortable
B) Not considerate enough to focus on the date

In either case, you can calibrate, or cut the date short and move on.

Body contact is another huge thing to look out for.

If a girl touches your arm in conversation or grabs your hand in a fit of laughter, it may not
necessarily mean she’s ready to jump into bed with you, but it does mean that she likes you
enough to actually touch you.

Sex, in a very simplified way, is a form of extreme touching and usually is the result of the
progressive escalation of less intense forms of touching.

If she lets you hold her hand, put your arm around her waist, or even just flicks your ear to
tease you, it probably means she likes you and you can continue doing what you’re doing
without worrying about her retreating.

Another few things to look out for are subtle grooming signs. Early human females, when
found in the presence of an attractive male, would groom themselves and makes sure they
appeared desirable.

Nowadays, the leftover mannerisms are as follows: scratching of the hand, and flipping with
or playing with the hair.

She will probably do both without realizing it, but it’s a form of unconscious energy
manifesting in a physical action.

Her brain is telling her you’re an attractive, desirable man and her evolutionary circuitry is
telling her to groom herself.

Obviously, we live in a modern world, where most grooming takes place in private, but the
instinct is still there and if you look closely you’ll see that these little ticks can say a lot about
what she thinks of you.
Twirling of the hair, scratching of the hand and pushing the hair out of her face are three good
examples, but essentially any adjustment she makes to her appearance is her way of saying
she might just be into it.

It goes without saying, but if she shows up in sweatpants and doesn’t seem to care at least a
little bit about her appearance, she probably doesn’t care about the date either.

It takes a little practice and some keen observation skills, but over time you can start to use
these little nuances to your advantage.

Understanding body language on a date puts you one step ahead and gives you the
opportunity to see things from the girl’s perspective.

It’s almost like mind-reading, so whenever you’re out with a girl, pay attention to what she’s
really saying.

In one way or another, she’ll thank you for it.

Why Flirting Matters

Flirting has a bad name. Too often, it seems a supreme form of duplicity, a sly attempt to
excite another person and derive gratification from their interest without any corresponding
wish to go to bed with them. It looks like a manipulative promise of sexual affection that, at
the last moment, leaves its targets confused and humiliated. In our sadness, back home alone
after the nightclub or the party, we may rail against the flirt for ‘only’ flirting, when it had
appeared there would be so much more.

But this kind of pattern represents only one, unedifying and regrettable possibility around
flirting. At its best, flirting can be a vital social process that generously lends us reassurance
and freely redistributes confidence and self-esteem. The task is not to stop flirting, but to learn
how better to practice its most honourable versions.
© Flickr/Charlie Allom

Good flirting is in essence an attempt, driven by kindness and imaginative excitement, to

inspire another person to believe more firmly in their own likability, psychological as much as
physical. It is a gift offered not in order to manipulate, but out of a pleasure at perceiving what
is most attractive in another. Along the way, the good flirt must carefully convince us of three
apparently contradictory things: that they would love to sleep with us; that they won’t sleep
with us; and that the reason why has nothing to do with any deficiency on our part.

Good flirting exploits – with no evil intent – an important truth about sex: that what is often
most enjoyable about sex is not the physical process itself so much as the idea of acceptance
that underpins the act, the notion that another person likes us enough to accept us in our most
raw and vulnerable state and is, in our name, willing to lose control and surrender aspects of
everyday dignity. It is this concept, far more than the deft touching of skin, that is what
contributes the dominant share of our pleasure as we undress someone for the first time or
heed their request to call them the rudest words we know.
© Flickr/Peter Morgan

The good flirt knows this and is therefore spared a guilty sense that they might not be in a
position to offer their lovers anything valuable. They are wisely convinced that it is eminently
possible, simply over a dinner table or in the kitchen at work, to gift a person just about the
most wondrous aspect of sex itself – simply through the medium of language.

The good flirt is an expert too in how correctly to frame the fact that there won’t be sex. By a
deeply entrenched quirk of the human mind, it is generally hard for us to hear such news
without at once reaching one overwhelming and crushing conclusion: that it is because the
seducer has suddenly found us deeply and pervasively repulsive. The good flirt loosens us
from such punitive narratives. They powerfully appeal to some of the many genuine reasons
why two people might not have sex that have nothing to do with one person finding the other
disgusting: for example, because one or both party already has a partner, because there is an
excessive age gap, a gender incompatibility, an office that would disapprove, a difficult
family situation or, most simply, a lack of time.
© Flickr/David Holmes

Freed from the rigid and blunt supposition that flirting has to be the prelude to actual sex, the
good flirt can artfully imply how different things might have been if the world had been more
ideally arranged. And the recipient of the flirt can, with equal grace, ascent to the story
without a need to twist it through self-hatred.

We all stand in need of reminders of what is tolerable and exciting about us. It is a desperate
foreshortening of possibilities to insist that such reawakening can only be justified by actual
intercourse. Understood properly, flirting can beneficially occur across the largest gulfs: gulfs
of political belief, of social, economic or marital status, of sexual inclination and (with
obvious caveats) of age. The 26-year-old corporate lawyer and the 52-year-old man behind
the counter of the corner shop can flirt; and so may the cleaner and the CEO. It is all the more
moving when they do so because it signals a willingness to use the imagination to locate what
is most attractive about another person who lies really very far from one’s own area of
familiarity. The question of what, if I considered someone, anyone sexually, I would find
charming is one of the most intimate, interesting and necessary questions one can ask.
© Flickr/Nicola Jones

The good flirt needs skill to home in on the less obvious – but still very real – ways in which
every one can be attractive. They might, within an elderly or rather large person, draw
attention to a nicely shaped elbow or to an intelligent characteristic tilt of the head. They must
actively search for the location of another person’s sexual allure, piecing together a portrait
like a great novelist gradually revealing the hidden charm of an apparently ordinary character.
Like Jesus, they are giving attention to the secret goodness of someone whom (to the hasty
glance of others) will appear an outcast or a sinner unworthy of love.

We have for too long been warned against flirting by an unfortunate Romantic ideal of total
coherence, one that implies that either we are completely sincere in flirting and so must make
love or we are, in effect liars. In many Romantic novels of the 19th century, ‘flirt’ is,
therefore, a term of abuse. No hero or heroine could ever adopt a playful, semi-erotic tone
with anyone except their true love. But they would thereby miss out on an important
enlargement of their sensibilities.
© Flickr/Anthony Posey

The ideal flirtation is a small work of social art co-created by two people; a civilised artifice
that acknowledges limitations, worries about consequences and knows the importance of not
letting momentary impulses damage long standing commitments. It knows that avoiding sex
is usually very wise, but is intelligently invested in sharing some of the benefits of sex without
the act itself.

The good flirter isn’t making things up; they are not merely flattering or manipulating. They
are offering us a view we very rarely get of ourselves as desirable. A few people, of course,
have an excessive belief in their own attractiveness. But mostly, we suffer gravely in the
opposite direction. We generally learn – through a rich sequence of rebuffs and criticisms and
via intelligent modesty which quickly alerts us to our own shortcomings – to see ourselves as
far from ideal. We know we’re in some ways not terribly lovable or exceptionally alluring.
This picture of ourselves is not inaccurate but is isn’t entirely true either. So the good flirt
carries out an important psychological mission: to restore balance to our view of ourselves.
They remind us that, for all our failings of character and bodily liabilities we are, in fact, in
certain ways, properly appealing and in a better situation than the one we find ourselves in, a
truly interesting person to want to spend a night with. The flirt supplies an antidote to a
characteristic sickness of maturity: an excessively negative view of ourselves. It is because we
are so prone to self-hatred, so liable to forget how to appreciate ourselves properly, that we
need more vigorously, and with fewer qualms, to engage in the important business of flirting
with one another.
© Flickr/Anthony Posey

The good flirt is doing (via a well timed smirk, a coyly arched eyebrow, a quiet observation or
an expectedly warm remark) crucially important social work. They understand that being
recognised as erotically appealing is a hugely beneficial and ethical need of the soul, for
feeling desirable is key to rendering us more patient, more generous, more energetic and more
content. It is a quiet tragedy that this widely consequential need should so often be expected
to pass through the desperately narrow gate of sex.

The good flirt is wisely and liberally rebelling against such a stricture. Their mission is to give
erotic endorsement (and all the benefits this brings) a larger opportunity in life, liberating it
from the tiny, difficult window of opportunity offered by an actual requirement to start to
make to love. The flirt knows how to broaden the circle of attractiveness, they know – in
essence – how to love someone without needing to give more than they should ever
realistically be expected to. The ideal flirt is a pioneer in a crucial democratic science: they
are attempting to correctly identify attractiveness in a way that will serve the many rather than
the few. We should not only be grateful to good flirts; we should try to become good flirts
ourselves.

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Many of us have had tons of these ‘relationships’ over the course of our young adult lives, yet
never a proper boyfriend or girlfriend.

But - although it is rare - sometimes one of you actually does want something serious after
all.

Maybe you’re a couple of months in, and after a series of grown-up sleepovers and evenings
spent eating and drinking together, they realise they want to be - shock horror - exclusive.

Perhaps that’s what you want to hear, perhaps it would make you run for the hills, screaming
at the prospect of any sort of commitment.

So it can be good to have a heads-up that your current ‘more-than-friend-but-not-boy-

/girlfriend’ may be in the market for an actual relationship.

Here are the signs to look out for:

1. They ‘accidentally’ leave something at your house

New research from Match has revealed that 36 per cent of Brits have deliberately left
something at a date’s house in order to give them an excuse to return.

Interestingly, the study found that this is a tactic employed by men more than women, with 45
per cent of males admitting to intentionally leaving something behind, compared to 31 per
cent of ladies..

Perhaps unsurprisingly, a toothbrush or phone charger tend to be the first items they’ll
conveniently forget

2. They invite you to leave stuff at their house

If they suggest you keep a toothbrush or hairbrush at their house, that is a Big. Deal. Even if
you haven’t had the exclusivity chat yet, that pretty much means they’re not going to be
having anyone else round for grown-up sleepovers.
According to Match dating expert Vicki Pavitt, “Making physical space for your date reflects
the emotional space that you have for them to be in your life, and your capacity for
commitment.”

You have been warned.

3. They want to meet your friends

And no, not just the flatmates they awkwardly bump into on their way back from the
bathroom.

If someone is dropping hints that they want to hang out with you and your friends, you know
they don’t think this is a casual thing any more. It can go something like this:

 Him: What are you doing this weekend?

 Her: Oh, going to see Lion at the cinema with some of my uni friends.
 Him: Really? I’ve been dying to see that for ages…

Reeeaaaaal subtle. Not.

4. They invite you to events further in the future than you’ve been dating

Also known as ‘the date-time continuum’, as so wisely named by How I Met Your Mother’s
legendary love guru Barney Stinson.

Making plans more than a week or two ahead is one thing, but if they ask if you want to get
tickets for a show or go with them to a wedding in three months’ time, but you’ve only been
seeing each other for eight weeks, you know it’ll be your wedding they’re planning next.

5. They post a pictures with you on social media

Arguably one of the biggest milestones of all in the early stages of a relationship, posting a
picture or making any reference to someone on social media is almost like declaring your love
for to the world. Sort of.

Even if they make no reference to you being any sort of romantic companion, it sends a clear
message to you that you’re not just a casual fling. All your friends, family and exes will be
speculating. It’s legit.

Is She Interested? 7 Common Flirting Signs [From Her]

It’s no secret that understanding women, especially in a dating context and deciphering
flirting signs, can be a confusing, seemingly impossible task for men.
…And one of the most confusing hurdles during dating is determining if a girl you want to
date is flirting with you… or not.

That confusion happens because the incredibly subtle nuances of a girl’s flirtation are
often completely missed by men, who look for more direct, straightforward flirting signs.

Unfortunately, girls will rarely ever be straightforward with flirting…

…so I used my insider knowledge to put together this list of the 7 most common signs that a
girl is actually flirting with you.

7 Common Signs She's Flirting – SUBCONSCIOUS Signals a Girl Wants YOU

Is She Interested? 7 Signs a Girl is Flirting

Next time you find yourself wondering whether or not you have a chance with a girl, look for
these 7 common signs of flirting:

1. Her Voice Gets Faster And/Or Higher

One of the best ways to determine if a girl is flirting is to listen to the tone and speed of her
voice.

Check it out:

The next time you’re in a group with the girl you like, listen to how she speaks to her friends,
and to other guys in the group.
Girls usually don’t speak to their girlfriends in high-pitched tones… usually their tones
are slightly deeper and mellower.

…And they usually don’t speak quickly and excitedly to guys they’re not interested in.

On the other hand:

When a girl speaks to a guy she finds attractive, she’ll often subconsciously raise the pitch of
her voice (in an evolutionary attempt to appear more feminine), and her adrenaline makes
her speak noticeably faster.

So does her voice become more high-pitched and quick-paced when she’s talking
with you?

If so, she’s probably flirting.

2. Flirting Signs : She Uses Flirtatious Touching

While touching is a common and well-known indicator of romantic interest, not all touches
are flirtatious.:

If the tap she gives you on the back is somewhat firm, and she says the words, “Awwwww”
or “Alright!” in response to something you’ve done…

She likely thinks of you as a friend, and isn’t using touch to communicate a deeper
interest.

On the other hand:

She’ll show her interest with a romantic touch (on your shoulder, middle back or knee).

She might also place her hand on your arm while you’re having an intimate conversation… or
playfully shove you and giggle if you tease her.

…So next time your love interest touches you, ask yourself what kind of touching it is. If it’s
a deliberate touch that feels more intimate, she’s likely flirting.

3. She Gives You More Intense Eye Contact

Check this out:

Intensely holding eye contact is a surprisingly intimate action, and is one of the most
commonly missed flirting signs.

…And in fact, a study conducted in 1989 showed that prolonged eye contact can even make
people fall in love.

In that study, opposite sex participants were asked to gaze into each other’s eyes for two
minutes. After the two minutes, the participants stated they felt a significant increase in
feelings of passion and love.

…So naturally, we seem to hold eye contact longer with people we like. Use this knowledge
to your advantage:

If a girl looks at you (when she’s not already conversing with you… think in a group
setting when someone else is talking) for 2-3 seconds on average, she’s very likely into
you.
Pro Tip: if you make eye contact with a stranger multiple times in one setting, you better have
yourbest pickup line ready to approach her.

4. Flirting Signs : When She Smiles, You See Crow’s Feet

According to a study by Paul Ekman, there are 18 different types of smiles…

…And when any girl is flirting, she’ll probably be flashing the

incredibly sincere “enjoyment smile.”

How can you recognize that smile?

When a person smiles sincerely (because they’re feeling true joy), it causes a small muscle in
their upper face to contract. This contraction causes tiny wrinkles at the corner of the
eyes known as crow’s feet to form.

Typically, one that people don’t consciously control that muscle, so if it contracts, it indicates
true happiness (unlike a fake, forced smile).

Now:

If the girl you like smiles at you and crow’s feet appear and her cheeks visibly lift, it’s almost
certainly a genuine smile… meaning she’s very likely interested in you.

And PS: Girls will laugh/smile more in general at guys who they’re interested in. If she
laughs at all your jokes (even if they’re not that funny), she’s probably into you.
5. She ‘Flirts’ With Her Body Language (Non-Verbal Flirting)

You’ve probably been in this situation before:

You’re at a party and the girl you like is there… but in a room full of people/distractions,
it’s incredibly hard to read the common signs of flirting (it might be dark, you and/or her
might be tipsy, and there might be too much going on to have an intimate moment).

Body language is extremely helpful in that exact situation.

Notice the following two body language flirting signs that many women do subconsciously:

1. Mimicking

A simple way to tell whether she’s flirting with you is to subtly shift your position (cross your
legs/arms, scratch your stomach, yawn, etc.)

Here’s why:

People tend to mimic the behaviors of people they’re attracted to… it’s an evolutionary social
tactic to ‘fit in’.

…So if she replicates your movement, she’s unconsciously showing interest. If she misses
your cues, her attention is elsewhere.
Direction of Her Feet

Another quick and easy way to see if she’s interested is to look at which direction her feet are
pointing.

Unconsciously, people point their feet at what they want or what they’re focused on.

…So if her toes are pointed at you, she’s probably interested.

6. Flirting Signs : She Shows You Her Hands (Literally)

As you talk to the girl you like, ask yourself:

What’s she doing with her hands?

A girl’s hands can tell you a lot about where her attentions/affections lie. Hands are a
huge way that people get attention (waving, clapping, touching), so if she likes you, she’ll
subconsciously move her hands to attract you.

Is she playing with her hair as the two of you talk, twirling it around one of her fingers? Is she
touching her mouth in any way as she’s smiling and listening to you? These are two telltale
signs that this girl is into you.

On the other hand:

Is she hiding her hands by placing them on her hips, crossing her arms, or stuffing them in her
pockets? Then she’s definitely not trying to get your attention.
7. She Talks a Lot

Now, with the above tips:

Be sure not to focus too hard on her facial cues and body language that you forget to notice
what’s she’s saying. For example:

If the flow of conversation between you is quick and effortless, it’s a really strong sign that
she likes you.

On the other hand:

If you’re doing most of the talking, and she’s not offering a lot of responses, she may not be
as interested.

And PS: she might be twirling her hair and laughing at your jokes… but if she looks at you
and tells you “I have a boyfriend,” that doesn’t mean “please keep flirting with me though
because I’m twirling my hair.”
Watch Out for ‘The Natural
Flirt’

One thing guys need to watch out for is the girl who’s a ‘natural flirt.’

This type of woman will show all the signs of flirting listed above, but is most
likely notromantically interested in you (she just enjoys people, and flirting). She’s either
completely unaware of what she’s doing, or she loves the attention she gets from flirting.

Many men will mistake a natural flirt’s love of conversation for genuine interest, and waste a
lot of time trying to get her attention.

Here’s how to tell if a girl is a natural flirt:

Watch how she interacts with other guys. Is she flirting with everyone in the room, moving
from one conversation to the next?

If so, be careful… her interest is probably not genuine.

In Conclusion

Breaking down the most common flirting signs into simple checks can help men recognize
when a woman is flirting.

While none of these tips are 100% accurate in every situation, paying attention to these small,
subtle signs can dramatically help determine whether a girl is romantically interested… or
not.
 Robin Sutherns

Robin is Mantelligence's expert on dating and relationships, and loves helping men really
understand women. She’s based in Austin with her long-time boyfriend, Will, and American
heeler, Crockett, and she lives to eat breakfast tacos, watch space documentaries, and visit the
zoo.

How to know if a girl loves you secretly

Signs that the girl is interested in you

 Making long eye contact. We all make eye contact with each other at some point.
But, if the woman is making a long contact and literally is unable to take her eyes off
you, this might be one of the signs that she likes you. This especially shows when you
are involved in a conversation with her – you can get a lot of information from how she
looks at you. When she likes you, her eye pupils can also dilate, so if you have such a
possibility, you can look into her eyes. The red sign is when the woman is looking
around or grabs her phone every two seconds to avoid the conversation. This clearly
shows that she is not that interested and even uncomfortable with how it is going.

 Smiling with her eyes. Obviously, women smile when they genuinely like a person
they are talking to. But there are different types of smiles, and in many cases, the
woman is just being friendly and supportive. There is a bigger chance that she loves you
when she is smiling with her eyes because quite often women are trying to subtly show
their interest in men in such a way. Smiling with the eyes means that her mouth smile is
genuine. To spot an eye smile, you should look if there is a crease appearing at the edge
of the eyes. It is a good sign if there is.

 Occasional touches. If you and the woman have already been acquainted and are just
getting to know each other better, you should also be very attentive to her behavior.
 First of all, she might be naturally touching you – such as your shoulders, chest, or
hands. In case you make a joke, she might playfully slap you. And if you sit right next to
each other, there is a possibility of your shoulders or legs starting to touch naturally
because of no distance between you. Examine her behavior during situations like these.
If she looks comfortable and is alright with touching, this is a clearly good sign. And
finally, the woman who likes you would often accidentally bump into you or give you
random touches to get noticed by you. However, you should also remember that not all
women get entirely comfortable with touches, so you should not instantly assume the
worst if she does not do that. Perhaps, she thinks this would be too much, and is waiting
for this gesture from you.

 The feet signals. A lot of psychologists who study body language will agree that even
the legs are able to say something about our intentions. So, if the woman has been
looking away, but her feet are facing towards you, this is often a subtle sign of her
interest in you on her side.

 She is talking to you. If the woman has an interest in you, she will talk to you, call
you, and respond to your texts. In case she does none of this and keeps ignoring your
initiative and avoiding the conversation, you could assume she is probably too shy and
waiting for the first step from you, but the truth may be that she is simply not
interested. The woman who is taking time out of her day to talk to you, and not just in
the short messages like “ok” or “good”, but actual detailed conversations, then you
should be happy knowing she at least has some kind of good feelings for you. Whether
they are romantic or not, this is a nice start.

 Smile. The woman who likes you will always be smiling around you. This is the clearest
signal that she has an interest in you. You have to learn to distinguish between friendly
and flirty smiles. Sometimes, the girl sees you as a friend who she is comfortable with,
and she will laugh around you a lot. But when she is flirting, even her eyes give her
away. Always observe the way she smiles, and do not forget to smile back at her.

 Nervousness. Most often, women are nervous and anxious in the presence of their
crushes, because they definitely would not want to make a fool out of themselves. There
are different ways in which women show nervousness. For example, the girl can touch
her neck, lips, and collarbones a lot when she is talking to you. She can also play with
her hair strands and run her hands through her hair. You should also look out for the
signs of her imitating you – like you doing some move, and her repeating it a couple
seconds later. This could tell that she is into you.

 Compliments. If the girl is interested, she will try to make compliments to subtly tell
you that you are the man she desires. She can say that you have beautiful eyes, or
compliment on your athleticism and ask if you play sports, or praise your brains. Observe
how she behaves during complimenting you, and if she does it often and is seemingly
smitten by you judging from her body language, this might be the evidence of her crush.

 Her friends. Believe it or not, but the girl’s friends can also be a large indicator of her
interest in you, so you should pay close attention to their reactions as well. If her friends
are often looking at you with smiles and giggles, it might mean that they are teasing her
about her crush. Quite often, when you come up, she and her friends might suddenly
 stop talking, which probably means that they were discussing you before. Sometimes, if
you are lucky, one of this girl’s friends can even come up and directly inform you that
she likes you.

 Her style. The girl who really likes you will obviously try to impress you, and not only
with her behavior but also with her looks. If you noticed that the girl starts wearing more
stylish clothes and puts on makeup around you, the chances are that she likes you. You
should remember, though, that every girl has an absolutely different sense of style. So,
not every girl will instantly change it for you or will be too bothered about her looks in
your presence. Some girls will instead try to impress you with other signs. However, you
should keep an eye on her dressing a little more fancily when she is around you – this
could be a hidden sign of affection from her.

 Teasing. When she really likes you, she will inevitably tease you about some things you
say or do. The example is given, she can call you out on an unfunny joke, make
harmless fun of the clothes you are wearing, or tease you jokingly about any of your
hobbies. She will also try to do it very gently and not go over the top, because she
knows teasing has a risk to go too far and offend someone, and this would be the last
thing she wants.

 Making excuses to talk to you. She may talk to you every day if you are studying or
working together, send you random texts, and like your posts on social media. These
may be clear signs that she wants to know you better. This one can be tricky because
the girl who likes you can do these things, but so can the girl who just wants to be your
friend. However, the guts will never let you down. If she shows a lot of body language
signs and is complimenting you more than usual, this might be her way of telling you
that she likes you.

 Mentioning your relationship status. When you are already acquaintances or friends
with the girl, and she wants to know if you are single, she might casually try to get this
information out of you. For instance, she might mention your girlfriend or try a more
subtle approach. Your job is to discover these occasions and use them for flirting back
with her. Like, if she says something along the lines of “You will go to the movies with
your girlfriend, right?”, then you can say that you do not have a girlfriend, but still want
to go to the movies with someone, and invite her along. This might be the most accurate
sign of her crush on you because if she did not care about you at all, she would not look
for ways to ask you about your relationship status.

 “Damsel in distress” moments. The girl who has a crush on you could pretend to be
in a vulnerable situation to get closer to you and check your reaction. For example, when
she says that she is cold when you are outside, it might be a hint that she wants you to
suggest her your jacket. She might pretend at not understanding some part of the
homework or her work tasks, therefore asking you for your assistance. By the way, you
can also ask for help sometimes to test her reaction and get closer, but do not do it too
much, otherwise, you will seem as a nuisance for her. Bear in mind that if you are not
the only person in the room and she asks for help, she will clearly be glad if it is you who
offers it. If she likes someone else, she will probably look disappointed if it is you who
suggests her to help. In this case, the good thing will be that it is at least clear how she
feels about you, and you can move on.
 See how she acts around other people. Not every girl who flirts with you will
necessarily like you. Some girls just have an outgoing personality. In some cases, they
do not even notice how it sounds. So, the best way to see if it is only you who she treats
differently from other people will be observing her interactions with others. If you are
treated in a clearly different way – either she holds eye contact with you for long or is
more gentle when she teases you – then it might suggest that she likes you.

Sometimes the signs can be confusing, and you can get the completely wrong message
from the woman’s behavior. To understand whether she is romantically interested in
you, or perhaps is just being nice, you should take the context of the situation into
account. Everything we have said here is completely individual, depending on the
situation.

Consider such example: if you are communicating with a woman one-on-one, and she
touches your arm for a couple seconds, this could be interpreted as her flirting with you.
But if she just taps your shoulder quickly and tells you something casual, it is just a
polite gesture without the hints of flirting. Also, the conversational practices of all people
are very different. So, if you are talking to a girl and she is making a long eye contact,
she can just be interested in what you are saying and paying close attention, or trying to
make you acknowledge her points, and it does not exactly mean that she likes you
romantically. But, if the girl has been making eye contact with you for a long time
without talking, or shyly lowers her gaze the second you look back at her, there is a
chance that she is intrigued.

Still, all the situations and contexts are very different, and even if the girl shows signs of
a crush, there is always a chance that you are wrong. Never push yourself on a girl,
even if she did confess that she is interested in you. Your relationship should develop at
a natural pace, so both parties are comfortable with how things are going.

Telling if a girl is falling in love with you

 Cutting off other men. It is quite common for people to play the field, looking for the
person who they have the most connection with. However, when they have already
found this perfect someone, it is logical to stop casual dating and reject other people
who may be interested. If she has big plans for you and your relationship, she should
focus on it fully, and cut off all the other men who might see her in a romantic way. This
does not mean she should completely stop communicating with all men except for you.
But if she takes you seriously, she will limit them to simple friendships.

 Making long-term plans for you both. There is an obvious difference between the
big and small plans. While the small plans may be weekend dates or trips or hanging out
at someone’s home, the bigger plans are family events, long travels, and vacations. The
good sign is when your girlfriend is planning a date which is months away – this means
that the breakup is not in her plans. Usually, this long-term commitment comes from
people who are in love. There are also big plans when your girlfriend would actually
change something in her life so it would suit both of you and bring you closer. It may
not just be moving in together, but also transferring her job, or moving away
somewhere – she might ask you these questions just to check if you would be ready to
 be in a long-distance relationship with her. If she is prepared to plan her life around you
and your own plans, she might be seriously in love.

 Getting meaningful gifts. A lot of women put efforts into their gifts and try to get
their beloved one something really special to show how much they care. Meaningful gifts
are not always expensive. They show that she is really on the same wavelength with
you, and understands you without words. For instance, you could have mentioned a
book that you have been planning on reading for a long time already, and soon
afterwards, you get this book as a surprise for her. Or you have told her about one of
your interests, and she got you something that relates to it closely. This is what the
proverb “It’s the thought that counts” is trying to say to us.

 Finding your quirks and flaws cute. Every person has something that would be
annoying to other people. But when you fall in love, it definitely does an interesting thing
in your perception of the surroundings. You start seeing irritating things in your partner
as something special and endearing, and this is one of the signs of unconditional love.
So, if you have found a girlfriend that accepts your quirks and loves you for them, she
must be telling you that she has totally fallen for you.

 Talking about you both as a couple. If she uses a pronoun “we” when she talks
about you both, this shows that she already considers your union serious, and thinking
of you as a whole. You are not just another boyfriend of hers who she is casually
hanging out with, and she sees your happiness as something that could not be
separated from her own. Language reflects how people feel about each other.

 Telling you directly. Sometimes feelings are so obvious, but our own doubts and
misconceptions get in our way, and it becomes harder for us to understand what is
going on. If the girl tells you that she is in love, then she takes it seriously for sure.
People do not drop such huge statements on each other if there is no truth. So, if she
said these words, she must have meant them. You should acknowledge how significant
these three words towards you are, and not take them for granted.

Signs That She Likes You

1.She Smiles at You Eagerly

A lot can be said about how a girl feels by the way she smiles. If you are constantly getting a
stream of bubbly and cute smiles from a girl who you have been crushing on, maybe she has
a crush on you too.
Don’t let this assumption create a false perception that every girl who smiles at you has a
crush on you. Look out for this generic sign of attraction only when you have been flirting
with a girl who seems to be reciprocating your flirty ways.

2. She Puts Her Hand on Your Thigh Way Too Often

The "hand on the thigh" move can be interpreted as a sign that a girl is trying hard to grab
your attention. A one-off pat on the thigh may be dismissed as isolated, but if she keeps
doing it again and again, she is probably trying to send you a sign.
Guys who are really shy may feel uncomfortable and nervous when this happens. If you can
relate to this, make sure you don’t flinch when she does that. Play it cool and just continue
looking in her eyes.

3. She Flutters Her Eyelids Every Time You Exchange Glances

The fluttering of eyelids is one body language that signals attraction and has been
immortalized in movies, literature, and all forms of popular culture. It is one of those things
that might even come as a natural and involuntary reaction when a girl locks eyes with the
guy whom she has a crush on.
It may be hard to tell if the fluttering is subtle. But, if you notice that she is deliberately
batting her eyelids and smiling while looking at you, she might be just as smitten by you as
you are with her.

4. She Flirts With You via Text

You can be pretty sure that a girl likes you when you notice that she uses a flirty tone in all of
the texts she sends to you. Excessive use of winks and smileys, leaving sentences unfinished
for obvious interpretations, and naughty exchanges via text are some of the telltale signs
that she probably wants to go out with you.
The key to being sure about her intentions is to note a consistent pattern of flirting in her
texts. Don’t mistake an isolated flirty interaction as an indication that she wants to be more
than just friends.

5. She Has Joked About Going on a Date With You

Joking around about dating and the possibility of seeing each other might be a girl’s way of
getting you to ask her out. Don’t get carried away by the slightest of mention of dating, but if
it happens again and again, her jokes could actually be hints in disguise.
Playful and flirty rants about how you would both be a nice couple may be her way of telling
you that she is just waiting to be asked out.

6. You Have Heard a Rumor That She Likes You

A girl may have confessed to her best friend that she has a crush on you. Her friend could
very well have blurted this secret out to a couple of more friends in your class, college, or
workplace. The confession can slowly snowball into gossip that finally reaches your ears.
This is how a rumor about a certain girl having a crush on you may have made its way around
your friend circle. So if one of your trusty friends tells you that a girl likes you, it could be
true.

7. Her Behavior Suddenly Changes When She Sees You

Do you notice a sudden change in a girl’s behavior when she spots you? Here are a few signs
she is trying her best to impress you:
 She corrects her posture every time she sees you.
 The tone of her voice changes.
 She behaves differently than how she normally behaves when she is with her friends.
 She tries to be excessively cheerful.
  Her body language becomes controlled.
 She gives her personality a flirty twist.
All of these changes to her body language are signs that she is trying to put up an attractive
image when you are around.

8. She Playfully Looks Away When Your Eyes Meet, and Then Looks at You Again
A classic sign of flirty behavior is when a girl smiles, looks away, looks at you again, and then
bursts into a cute fit of giggles. (Such an expressive interaction may not happen if she is a shy
girl.) But a nervously sweet exchange of glances will definitely be there if there is a spark of
attraction between the both of you.

9. She Laughs at Your Jokes Even If They Aren't That Funny

You can almost be sure that a girl likes you if she laughs at all your jokes, even when they are
not funny. She might not even be doing it deliberately. Even seemingly fake laughter might
be genuine, simply because she desperately wants to impress you.
This can seem slightly irritating but don’t get annoyed. She might be, subconsciously, trying
to make you feel like she is really in awe of each and every word that you say.

10. She Compliments You Way Too Often

Does she compliment you way more than what you deserve? Are her compliments are a way
of flattering you to a point where you feel awesome when you are with her?
The next time she calls you handsome and hot, even when you know you are looking your
worst, take it as a sign that she has a crush on you.

11. She Deliberately Twirls Her Hair While Looking at You

The act of twirling hair has always been understood as a sign that a girl is trying to get a guy’s
attention. If you notice a girl looking at you with those fluttery eyes while twirling her hair in
cute little circles, it is highly likely that she is trying to flirt with you.
Before you jump to a conclusion, test the water by giving her a friendly smile. A few glances
and a few smiles later, you will probably find yourself indulging in flirty conversations.

12. She Pulls You Aside from Your Friends When She Wants to Speak to You
Does she always pull you aside from your friends when she wants to speak to you? Does she
always excuse herself when she is hanging out with her friends so that she can talk to you in
private? If you can relate to these situations, take it as a sign that she is trying to be alone
with you.
Whether this translates directly to the fact that she is head over heels for you is something
that you will have to judge for yourself while also considering some of the other stuff that
has been pointed out here.
13. You Sense a Strong Vibe of Attraction When You Are Together
There are times when you can just sense attraction. Although hard to describe, these raw
vibes are a mix of nervous glances, edgy conversations, and uneasiness in overall body
language.
You will literally be able to feel that there is a strong pull of attraction between the both of
you. If these vibes are really strong, you will both feel yourselves gravitating towards each
other.

14. She Keeps Asking Why You Are Single

When a single girl keeps playfully asking you why you are still single, there may be more to
her question than just curiosity. An easy way to find out if there is a deeper meaning behind
her question is to avoid answering it and instead, ask the same question to her.
If she replies something along the lines of, "The right guys never ask me out," or "I really
wish someone would, but I’m not going to say who," then it is likely that she is trying to give
you a hint.

15. When a Girl Is Shy, She Seems Fidgety and Nervous Around You
A shy girl’s behavior might come as a curveball that you can completely miss. She might not
exhibit any of the common signs of attraction and instead, she could withdraw into the shell
of her shyness.
This behavior is not unusual because if she really has a crush on you, her emotional state of
mind will be a volatile mix of excitement and nervousness when she sees you. Watch out for
fidgety hand movements and nervous expressions when you speak to her.

How To Know If A Girl Has A Crush On You

There’s “hush-hush” signs and pretty straight up signals that a girl has a crush on you and
oodles in between. And the more expert insight you have in your brain the better.

*Are you actively searching for hits she really does like you?

*Does she keep touching your hair or shoulder, what does that mean?

FACT – Today there are just too many technology avenues of connection that totally confuse
both men and women when you are trying to find out whether someone is interested in you or
not.

Did you know that according to AskMen experts, 1 in 5 couples meet via a dating app?

That is seriously scary to me, probably because I am old!

Too bad our world is past the natural intrinsic attraction because it takes too much time and
effort. We want faster and better, and that just complicates things.

It can all be very confusing but here are a few solid signals telling you a girl just might like
you…Lucky you!

Signal #1 – She enjoys talking to you!

If a girl makes herself available and is engaged with whatever you are saying or doing, you’ve
got a good solid signal she has all eyes on you.

Think about it for a minute. If she didn’t like you, she would be nowhere to be found.

Signal #2 – She’s the first to crack a smile or laugh at what comes out of your
mouth

If she’s actually belly laughing instead of giggling, that’s even better. And if you are both
laughing together, that’s just bonus.

When a girl makes a point of making sure you know she thinks you are funny, whether you
are or not, that’s just magical.

Signal #3 – She’s shy of your eyes

What this means is that she gets a little sheepish when you are staring directly at her. Kinda
cute, don’t you think?

This isn’t about a lack of confidence. It’s about caring about what you think and not yet
comfortable with your gaze. Give it a little time and who knows where it will lead.

Signal #4 – This girl makes a point of noticing you

This one comes in all different shapes and sizes but when a girl makes sure you know she is
wary of your presence, that’s an excellent sign she wants to know you better.

Signal #5 – Licking her lips just happens

This one is for you to ponder. When a girl is licking her lips, it’s gotta be all good, right?

Signal #6 – Your smile lights her up

This should be one of the first rock solid indicators you see shouting out to you and the world
that she really likes you. It needs to be one of those real smiles that make her eyes crinkle –
Magical.
Signal #7 – Flirting with other chics is a no-no

This is a tough one to read but if you notice her demeanor changing when you are around
other potential candidates, that’s a good sign. She might leave, slink off into a corner, or act
busy with her friends.

Regardless, if you can tell she doesn’t like you around other girls, the ball is in your court.

Signal #8 – This girl loves the hugs

It doesn’t matter whether this is a gentle hug, half hug, or a full-on bear hug. When she loves
hugging you, she is definitely into you. End of story.

Signal #9 – She loves the touchy-feely stuff

If she is making a clear point of touching your clothing; your shoulder, back or whatever, this
is a clear-cut signal she really does like you.

Signal #10 – This girls friends are on the bandwagon

Girls are very different than boys in this instance. When a girl has a crush on a guy, her
friends are the first to know. The good news for you is they will give you hints she likes you.

Perhaps they will giggle when you walk by. Or they might start causally asking you questions.
No worries. This is all good.

For Bonus – If you are in the good books with her friends, you are golden in the crush
department.

Signal #11 – Searching far and wide to find you

That sounds a little more dramatic that it really is. However, if she lingers around to see you
after everyone else has left or she randomly shows up where she knows you will be, that’s an
absolute indicator this girl has a crush on you.

Signal #12 – This girl is looking to like what you like

This one may sound a little weird but it’s for all the right reasons. Perhaps she wants to go to a
concert with you to listen to the bands you love? Maybe she is suddenly interested in learning
about your hockey passion?

When a girl is willing to step outside of her comfort zone to learn what you love and what has
meaning to you, then you are on the right track thinking she has a major crush on you.
Signal #13 – The cheeks light up around you

This is something she really has no control over. But if she is blushing sheepishly when you
are around, there’s no doubt she has a crush on you.

One step further…If she loses her words around you or fidgets with nervousness, this girl is
totally into you.

This should be flattering to you…Just saying.

Signal #14 – The twirly hair card gets played

This is a simplistic unconscious sign that a girl really likes you. If she is twirling her hair in
her fingers, it means she is thinking about you playing with her hair.

If she is smiling when she does it, you are one lucky guy.

Signal #15 – Infrequent bumping is present

If she suddenly seems to bumping into you left, right and center, that’s an excellent signal that
she has a crush on you. If she didn’t want anything to do with you, then she would make
herself scarce – just trust me once again on this one.

Signal #16 – She loves showing off her curves

If a girl is dressing nicely and trying to get your attention, it definitely means she has a keen
interest in you. To what degree is up to you.

Understand, most women are very self-conscious of their bodies and when they are willing to
put them on display for you, it really does mean something. Please treat it with respect.

Signal #17 – Her arms aren’t crossed

If you talk with body language, experts note you will learn that if a girls arms are crossed, she
is closed to any sort of connection. So if her arms are relaxed by her side, she is telling you
that she wants to get closer to you.

Talk about an awesome signal.

Signal #18 – She will halt conversing with her friends to talk with you

This is absolutely amazing. When a girl shuts off her girl talk to give her undivided attention
to you whenever you appear, that’s just fantastic.
Need I say more?

Signal #19 – This girl isn’t afraid to tell you that you are looking amazing

When a girl makes a point of letting you know when she notices you have put effort into your
look, that’s a great sign.

No doubt she has a crush on you if this is the case.

Signal #20 – Her single status is crystal clear

She might come right out of the gates and tell you that she is single or better yet, she might
ask your status.

Take this as a positive sign.

Signal #21 – She is all set to hang out with you

This is a tough step for some girls. But if a girl suggests that you hang out or opens the door
to that, then you’ve got a winner.

What you do with this is up to you.

Signal #22 – Open door policy

When a girl lets her guard down and opens up to you, there’s no doubt she is totally hot for
you. Sometimes girls will throw their hat to the wind and hope the right man catches it.

Think about that for a minute and make a good decision.

Signal #23 – The future talk pops up

If this girl is talking about anything in the future, it’s another sweet signal she has a crush on
you.

Read between the lines and figure this one out. You’re a big boy.

Signal #24 – Her phones goes missing when she is with you

Ha! I know that’s a little extreme. However, when a girl ignores her phone when you are
around, that means oodles.
There is zero doubt that she wants some undivided attention from you. End of story once
again.

Signal #25 – She is making the effort to make room for you

Perhaps you think this is basic but if a girl is making space for you in any shape or form, you
sure as hell better see this as a signal she is into you.

Is she leaning in toward you?

Is this girl trying to get closer and closer to you when you are together?

Experts tell us straight up, if any women is inviting you into her space she likes you.

Signal #26 – This girl isn’t afraid to use the word “we”

This is just a ginormous step. If a girl is willing to use the word “we”, you are on the right
track. There is zero doubt she has a crush on you.

Fact – It does take time for a girl to get comfy with another man. And if she is unconsciously
using the term “we”,you can take that as a solidified signal she wants you bad.

Truth be told…If she is talking about “we” then she certainly is into you. Talk about your
lucky day!

Signal #27 – Little miss fidget

When a girl is fidgeting, it means she seriously does have an interest in you.

Truth – If she didn’t care what you thought she wouldn’t react in any way, shape or form.

Another one to think about for a minute. Maybe you need to ask her to fidget for you just to
see what she will do?

Signal #28 – Body position matters

When a girl is showing you with her body that she is into you, then you need to take it as it is!
If a girl has a crush on you, a sincere one, and she’s not to0 nervous, she will show you with
her body language she wants a little more.

Some boys have a hard time with this one so I’m going to clear things up for you.

If this girls is pushing away from you or has her arms and legs crossed, sadly she has no
interest in you…Sorry.
 However, if she is leaning in toward you, wants your shoulder to lean on, or is openly
touching any part of you, well, you’ve struck gold.

If this is the case there is zero doubt this girl has a crush on you.

NOTE:The only thing that can make these scenarios false is if the girl in front of you has her
beer goggles on…I just want you to be aware.

Final Words

When it comes to figuring out whether or not a girl has a crush on you it takes a heck of a lot
of knowledge and personal experience to figure it out.

Use these tips and tricks, follow your gut, and you will do just fine!

Wish you the best of luck and let me know how you do!

How to Tell if a Girl Has a Crush on You

Notice What She Does

Try to catch her staring at you. This one is a giveaway. If you look across the room
in class or at a party and catch her looking right at you, then she may have a crush
on you. If she sees that you've noticed her staring and looks away and blushes, or
gives you a little smile, then she may be acknowledging that she may like you.[2]
 Just don't be too obvious about trying to catch her staring at you, or she may think
that you're the one staring at her.

See if she blushes around you -- a lot. This is another sign that she may have a
crush on you. If every time you walk by or talk to her, you find her turning red or
getting flustered, then this may be a sign that she likes you and is shy and
embarrassed about talking to you or saying the wrong thing.[3] If you do see her
blushing, don't tease her about it or mention it, or that may scare her off from talking
to you.
 Just make sure she's not the kind of girl who blushes whenever she talks to any guy -
- she could just be shy around guys.

See if she giggles a lot around you. A lot of girls giggle a lot around the guys they
like because crushes make them feel a bit giddy and lightheaded just for being
around the guy that they like. If you find the girl always giggling or laughing a lot
around you, even if you've barely said anything funny, then she may like you. She
could just be feeling giggly because she likes you, or she could really think that
everything you say is funny because she has a big crush on you.
 Next time you talk to her, see how much she laughs. Try a small joke and see if she
laughs way too much -- this may mean that she has feelings for you.

See how her friends act when she passes by. A girl's friends can tell you a lot
about how she feels about you without saying much. Next time the girl walks by with
her friends in the halls, see if the friends giggle when they see you, elbow her, or just
nod in your direction, trying to tell the girl that you're around. This is a not-so-subtle
way of letting you know that the girl may have a crush on you.
 If the girl's friends always greet you with a knowing smile, then they may be telling
you that the girl likes you.

See if she looks for excuses to hang out. If the girl has a crush on you, then she
may want to be around you as much as possible. If she likes you, she may be looking
for excuses to hang out, like asking for help with her math homework, or even asking
you to see a movie or to go to a concert with you.[4] She could be very casual when
she asks you to hang out to hide the fact that she likes you.
 If you're in the same social circle, but she's been around a lot more lately, then it may
be because she has a crush on you.

See if she pays more attention to her looks around you. If the girl dresses up a
bit more whenever she's around you and pays more attention to her hair and
makeup, then she may be trying to impress you. If you're just hanging out with her, or
hanging out in a small group, but she spends a lot of time putting on lipstick or lip
balm, looking at herself in the mirror, or just fidgeting with her clothes, then she may
be trying to impress you.
 If you see her unexpectedly, and she's dressed down a lot more, then she may be
dressing up to impress you.
 If you see her at the grocery store or somewhere unexpected, and she makes a joke
about how casual she looks, then she may be embarrassed that she's not more
dressed up for you.

Notice her body language. The girl's body language can say a lot about how she
feels about you. If she's always making eye contact, leaning closer to you, and
turning her body to you when you talk, then she may like you. Here are some other
things to look for:
 If she plays with her hair when she talks to you, then this may mean that she's
nervous because she likes you.
 If she shifts her weight from foot to foot, she may be a bit nervous about talking to
you too.
 If she breaks eye contact and looks at the floor once in a while, it may be because
she likes you.
 See how she acts around other guys. This is an important point. You may think the
girl likes you, but it could turn out that she's flirty, talkative, and playful around many
guys. Some girls just have a lot of crushes on guys at once, or just like hanging out
with guys -- some even prefer hanging out with guys to hanging out with girls. You
may be misreading the signs and thinking a really friendly girl has a crush on you.
 Check out how the girl acts around other guys. If she's the same way with everyone,
then it's just part of her personality.
 If she treats you differently, however, and pays more attention to you -- or less
attention, because she feels shy about talking to you -- then she may have a crush
on you.

Notice What She Says

See if she teases you. If the girl teases you, then it's another sure-fire sign that she
has a crush on you. Teasing is just one form of flirting, and it's her way of letting you
know she has a crush on you while being playful. If she teases you, then she'll make
fun of your clothes, playfully push or shove you, or even make fun of your hair or new
shoes. Don't be offended -- this is just her way to let you know that she's paying
attention to you.[5]
 See if she teases all of the guys, or just you. If she teases everyone, then she may
just be a playful person. But if it's just you, then you're special to her.

Notice if she compliments you. If the girl is always giving you complements, then
there's a good chance she has a crush on you. If she tells you she likes your new
shoes, that she liked your history presentation, or that you did great in the baseball
game though all you did was strike out, then yeah, she probably has a crush on you.
If a girl has a crush on you, she'll like every little thing you do, and she may not be
afraid to tell you about it.
 See if she's the type of girl who is just really nice and gives everyone compliments, or
if she only says flattering things to you. Who knows -- maybe she's just really, really
nice. But probably not.
 If she compliments a new shirt or a new haircut, that means she notices when your
wardrobe or looks change, which already is a strong sign that she has a crush on
you.

See if she looks for every excuse to talk to you. If a girl has a crush on you, then
she'll try to talk to you as much as she can -- unless she's really shy. If you don't
have many mutual friends or other reasons to be around each other, she may come
up and ask you an obvious question, like something about the math homework that
she could have easily asked another friend. She may even call or text you to ask an
obvious question, hoping it could lead to more conversation.
 If she likes you, she may even try to talk to you about something she know that you
love, like a sport or favorite TV show. She could come up to you just to ask if you saw
last night's game or to ask what you thought about the season finale of your favorite
 show. She could share your interests too, of course, but she could also be using
them as an excuse to talk to you.

Notice if she asks if you like anyone. The girl may think she's being subtle when
she asks if you like anyone, or when she asks you if you're going out with any girls
this weekend, or asks if you have a crush on a specific girl, but you'll be able to see
right through her. If she's asking if you have a crush on anyone, she's really asking,
"Do you like me?"
 There's only one other option -- she could be asking if you like anyone because one
of her friends like you and she's acting as a go-between.
 If you tell her you don't like anyone, and she says something like, "How can you not
like anyone?" "You must like someone..." Then she really wants you to tell her that
you like her.
 Even the fact that she takes any interest in your love life shows that she has romantic
feelings for you.

Notice what she says about any girls you hang out with. Does the girl subtly try
to put down the other girls you hang out with? Does she mention that any girls you've
dated in the past aren't good enough for you? If so, then what she's really saying is
that she thinks she's the one for you. If she puts down any girls you hang out with, or
even any girls she just sees you talking to in the halls, then she's just jealous that she
doesn't have all of your attention.
 It's okay for her to be jealous before you start dating -- just make sure it isn't a
problem if she does end up being your girlfriend.

See if she hints that she wants a boyfriend. She may think she's just dropping a
hint, but if she often says things like, "It would be cool to have a boyfriend," or "being
single is so not fun," or "I wish I had a guy to go to the movies with," then she's
basically asking you to be her boyfriend. If she's always making subtle comments
about how much she wants to date someone, that person is you.
 There's only one other option -- that she wants to date one of your friends. But if she
never asks about any of your friends, then chances are that she has her eye on you.

See what she says about other guys. If all she says about other guys is that this or
that guy isn't good enough, or that he isn't nearly as great as you, then she's
basically saying that she has a crush on you. She may even say that she wished this
or that guy possessed a certain quality -- one that you have.
 If she says she wishes that a guy she went on a date with had a better sense of
humor and she always praises your sense of humor, then she's basically telling you
that she wants to date you.
 If she's always comparing you favorably to other guys, then she's letting you know
that she likes you more than any other guy around.
 See if she calls or texts you a lot. If she's always texting you or calling you, then
chances are that she has a crush on you. If she sends you a lot of cute smiley face
emoticons, or calls you just to say "hi" or for a dumb excuse like asking for the
homework for a class that she could get from anyone, then she's just looking for
reasons to talk to you.
 If she texts you a smiley face or just a word like "hehe," then she's flirting with you.

Find Out if She Likes You

Ask your friends. Your first resource should be your own buddies. Ask your friends
if they've seen you and the girl together and ask their honest opinion about whether
or not the girl has a crush on you. Your friends may have more perspective on
whether the girl actually likes you, or if she's just playful and flirtatious with everyone.
Ask them to be honest -- if they don't think she likes you, they should let you know.
 Your guy friends may also know if the girl likes someone else instead of you. This
could be helpful information before you try talking to the girl yourself.
 Just try not to ask anyone too chatty, or a guy who is very friendly with the girl. If you
do, the guy may tell her that you asked, and he'll blow your cover.

Ask her friends. Asking the girl's friends if she likes you is basically as good as
asking her yourself. But if you really trust one of her friends and don't think she'll
report back to her friend, then go ahead and ask if the girl has a crush on you. Her
friend will mostly likely know whether or not she likes you -- it'll just be a matter of
whether or not she'll tell you.
 Don't make a big deal about it. Don't reveal your feelings about the girl.

Ask her. If you like the girl too and want to know her true feelings, don't be afraid to
ask. Just find a time when you're both relatively alone and in a quiet place, and ask
her if she has a crush on you. If you like her, you can even tell her first that you have
a crush on her and want to know if she likes you too. Just speak calmly, make eye
contact, and give her all of your attention to let her know she's important. But don't
make it seem like too much of a big deal or you may scare her away.
 If she does admit she has a crush on you and you like her, then ask her out on a date
and see where it takes you.
 If she says she doesn't have a crush on you, react the right way. Don't get all upset
or offended -- just play it cool and show her what a great guy you are.

How to tell if someone likes you: 28 surprising signs they're

into you!
Finding it hard to figure out if someone likes you?
Romantic love is often difficult to find and even more difficult to keep.

But when you are sweating in your boots wondering if someone likes you or not, the last thing
you are thinking of is five years down the road and your 2.5 kids.

The tension and stress of trying to figure out if someone is into you are almost enough to
make you run in the other direction.

But it’s always worth it, isn’t it?

If you are wondering what might come of all this flirting and constant contact, here’s how you
can tell if someone likes you so you can start making moves on that knowledge:

1) Exchange eye contact

If your glances are met with their glances and your eyes lock on a regular basis, two things
could be true: you’ve got something on your face and they don’t know how to tell you or, and
this is probably more likely, they like you.

If you’ve got low self-esteem or you’ve been burned before, it might be hard to imagine that
someone is interested in you.

But if you find yourself making eye contact on the regular, smiling, exchanging glances, and
even getting a little embarrassed by how many times you’ve looked at one another, they are
probably into you as much as you are into them.

Of course, you don’t want to stare at them to see if they look back.

According to behavior analyst Jack Schafer, there’s a technique you can use to see if they are
really looking at you because they like you:

“You can increase mutual gaze by maintaining eye contact as you turn your head to break
the gaze; the other person does not perceive your extended gaze as staring because your
head is turning. If the person you are with maintains eye contact, they like you.”

2) Casual touches

Sitting near one another or passing in the hallway, you’ll experience casual touches. You
might find that they place their hand on your shoulder or gently touch your hand.

People don’t do that for just any reason, they do that so they don’t have to say that they like
you.

If they are making an effort to come into contact with you, chances are that they are excited to
be around you and want to be closer to you.
Here’s a great example of touching that someone might do if they if someone likes you:

“If you walk near each other, he’ll place his hand near the small of your back to guide you
through a noisy party or bar. Plus, he wants to show all the other men that he’s got this. Plus,
it’s a reason to touch you and seem like a gentleman all at the same time.”

3) They are using the same body language and words as you

If it suddenly feels like you are looking in a mirror when you are talking to someone, there’s a
good chance they are not doing that on purpose.

When people like and connect with one another, they subconsciously start to act like them.
Sitting in the same position, taking on the same posture, and even quickly adopting the same
language and word usage.

All of these mirroring acts mean that the person you are talking to likes you – it doesn’t
always mean they like you romantically of course, but it could be.

If they “see themselves” in your actions, it could be for real.

This is actually rooted in the brain’s Mirror Neuron System.

This network of the brain is the social glue that binds people together.

A greater level of activation of the Mirror Neuron System is associated with liking and
cooperation.

4) Leaning in

When someone is interested in what you have to say, they’ll move closer and lean in. This is
another subconscious action that tells the onlooker (you) that the person likes you.

They may lower their head, lean in while you talk, and even move their body closer to yours –
all without even realizing they are doing it.

People are funny like that.

It’s interesting to watch people who aren’t together, but whom like one another, interact: they
do a lot of the same things and are leaning in so much it looks like they might fall over.

5) Remove things that get in the way

When we feel stand-offish and don’t want to be around someone, we’ll put up physical
barriers in their way.
For example, you may cross your arms when talking to your cranky boss. It’s a subconscious
way of telling your boss to back off and stay out of your space.

But when you like someone, you are more likely to spread your body wide and make sure that
they feel welcome in your space.

If someone is uncrossing their arms around you, it’s almost like you’ve disarmed them and
they are welcoming you into the conversation.

It also means they like you. When they don’t feel like they have to protect themselves around
you, that’s a good thing.

So when evaluating body language, here’s what to look for:

 Crossed arms might indicate that a person feels closed off or defensive. Open body
language indicates the opposite.
 Hands behind their back may indicate that they are feeling bored, or angry.
 Fidgeting can also indicate that they are bored.
 Open posture involves keeping the trunk of the body open and exposed. This can
indicate opennesses and friendliness.

6) They point their feet toward yours

One of the strangest ways to tell someone likes you is if you look at their feet and they are
pointed in your direction.

Even if they are turned to talk to someone else and their attention is occupied, if their feet are
in your direction, you might have a crush on your hands.

Again, our bodies like to give us subtle ways of letting us know that we like someone.

You might feel anxious or uptight about something and later realize that it’s because you find
yourself attracted to someone and didn’t know what to do with that information in your body.

7) They laugh at everything you say

Someone who likes you is going to think you are the funniest person on the planet…even if
you are not.

So if you are wondering if your crush likes you back, just tell a lame joke and see how they
react.

Our sense of trying to make people feel important and acknowledged when we like them is so
high that we will go out of our way to make ourselves look silly (aka laughing when we
shouldn’t be) so that the other person is raised up. Love is a tricky thing, isn’t it?
8) They are obviously trying to stand next to you

Whether the room is crowded or you are the only two at the bar, they make a point of standing
next to you or sitting next to you.

It might be obvious that they want to be near you, especially if they actually push someone or
try to move someone quickly so they can snag the seat next to yours.

We see this in romantic comedy movies when the man is enamoured with a woman and can’t
seem to find his footing as he tries to squeeze into the last seat on that side of the table.

9) They remember the weirdest things

If they show up with a present or a token of appreciation to commemorate a particular time or

date or event, you better believe you are important to this person.

When someone likes you, they can’t help but absorb all of the things that might seem
unimportant to you.

If you mentioned your dog’s birthday is next week, your crush might show up with a treat for
your dog.

Or at least, text you to say happy birthday to your dog.

Weird, no? Perhaps. But it’s a surefire way to tell if someone is into you.

10) They blush

If you enter a room and find your crush blushing or trying to turn away so that you can’t see
them blushing, you can go ahead and count your chickens on that one.

They are into you for sure if their body is having a physiological reaction to your entrance.
You might even find that you are having the same reaction.

Men and women blush and it’s something we can’t really control.

When we receive an unexpected compliment, we can’t help but get a pink tinge on our face
from embarrassment.

So if you find that they blush around you, it’s a great sign that they like you.

However, it’s important to figure out if they blush easily around other people as well.

Isn’t love grand?

11) They’re chatting to you constantly on social media

When we’re on social media, it’s our free time, so we can literally do whatever we want.

So if they’re using that time to respond to you and properly chat with you, it’s a sign that they
want to spend that time with you.

However, what you need to keep in mind is whether they are just giving you one word
answers, or they’re taking they’re time to respond to you.

Perhaps they’re just being polite by responding.

But if their responses are thoughtful, that’s a good sign that they like you.

12) They stand taller, pull their shoulders back and suck their stomach in

This is a great sign that someone likes you.

Why?

Because subconsciously they want to impress you and that means that their body will react
accordingly.

A great way to check out their posture is when they walk past you. If they like you, they’ll be
very conscious that you’re looking, which means they’ll push their shoulders back, puff their
chest out and suck their stomach in.

13) They’re drunk dialing you

You’ve probably heard the saying: “A drunk person’s words are a sober person’s thoughts.”

Alcohol makes you honest with your emotions.

So if they’re calling you or texting you when they’re drunk, it’s a great sign that they like you.
If it becomes common, then they are definitely into you and you might want to ask them out.

14) Friends make an effort to leave you two alone

This is a big one and a fairly obvious one at that.

If their friends leave when you come around or make it obvious that they want to leave you
two alone, there’s a fair chance that they know how their friend feels about you.

Leaving you two alone is a way to help out their friend.

15) They’re asking personal questions

These aren’t the normal “getting to know you” questions.

These are questions that really try to get to know you for who you are. The questions might
even have an emotional bent to them.

For example, instead of asking what your job is, they’ll ask you what motivates you to do
what you do. It will be questions that you’re not really used to.

After all, they want to get to know deeply becMuse they’re intrigued about you and they like
you.

16) They are up in your grill. In a good way

Sounds nasty, but it’s not. If they are doing everything they can to be near you but crawl onto
your lap, they’re into you. And if you are crushing on them and they’re hanging around like
they want to be your lapdog, you’re good.

It can be intimidating to have someone hanging around you like that all the time, but watch
for the subtle ways they want to be near you. If they’re being creepy about it, move on. But if
they’re sweet about it and they want to be closer to talk to you, they might be a keeper instead
of a creeper.

17) They smile at you

Everyone is so busy these days that if someone takes the time to smile at you, you might want
to sit up and pay attention – especially if it’s someone you are crushing on.

Just look at how many other people in the bar didn’t smile at you!?

If they’re laughing at your jokes and making lots of eye contact and flashing their pearly
whites at you from across the room or even from across the table, they’re hooked.

18) They are present and accounted for

When someone is into you the way you are into them, they’ll let you know by leaving their
phone in their pocket.

We’re on call 24/7 these days and if they’ve been gazing into your eyes all night long and
hasn’t picked up their phone once in the last ten minutes, they’re setting a new world record.

We’re so distracted by our phones these days. People who are worth liking are the ones who
look up from their phone and talk to you for real.
Questions, concerns, compliments: they are there and they are checking all the right boxes.

19) Their friends are into you

If you aren’t sure if they’re into you, look at what their friends are all about.

Are they paying attention to you? Are they making eyes at them and pointing in your
direction?

Do they like you as a friend and invite you to things? Are you just “one of the friends” to
them? It could be that they’re into you.

People don’t easily let people into their circle. If you’ve broken the fence and gotten in with
their friends, you might be in luck.

Plus, hanging around their friends is a great way to get them to spill the beans on how they
really feel.

20) They say the right things

When their close and paying attention to you, reading the menu aloud sounds sexy.

Pay attention to how they express themselves and how they talk to you. If they are saying all
the right things, it could be a match made in heaven.

If not, at least you’ll have fun finding out! You might find that shy people – don’t discount the
shy people! – also, say all the right things, but it takes a little longer for them to feel
comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings.

Be patient. If your crush is known for keeping to themselves but they are inching their way
across the bar one foot at a time, you might be in for a relationship after all.

21) They’re preening themselves

Preening refers to the act of “fixing oneself” in different ways.

It could be adjusting their clothes, running fingers through their hair, or touching their face.

After all, if they like you they want to look better around you. And of course, people are
naturally fidgety when they’re anxious and nervous.

And if they like you, it’s likely that they’ll be experiencing nervous tension.
Preening is a subconscious way to advertise one’s interest and encourage you to escalate the
seduction.

Here’s an example of a female preening yourself:

22) Their pupils dilate

This is a great sign to look for as it’s something we can’t control.

Research from the University of Kent found that eye dilation happens when you’re looking at
someone or something you’re attracted to.

Our eyes dilate to take in more of the pleasing surroundings.

Interestingly, the research found that you need a lower level of arousal for your pupils to
dilate than you would for other physiology measures. So the eyes really can give them away.

Make sure you check their pupils in constant, standard level light to work out if they’re bigger
than average.

23) They’re using open body language

If they’re comfortable around you and there’s strong rapport, they’ll most likely be loose with
their body language.

Are they spreading their arms and legs? That’s a great sign that they’re comfortable and
warm.

While feeling comfortable is a good sign that there’s a strong rapport between the two of you,
it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re attracted to you. This will probably depend on
context. If you haven’t known each other for very long and they’re feeling comfortable, then
that means that things are going pretty smoothly and they might be attracted to you.

But if you’ve known each other for a long time, then feeling comfortable is obviously to be
expected.

24) They’re visibly shy or nervous

If they like you, and they don’t really know you, then they’re likely to get nervous around
you.

After all, they’re feeling the pressure of making a good impression.

According to Business Insider, there are six signs to look for to tell if someone is nervous: –
1) They touch their face: This can include rubbing their forehead, pushing their cheek and
squeezing their face.
2) They compress their lips.
3) They play with their hair: This is a stress-reducing behavior.
4) They blink more frequently: Eye-blink rate increases when someone is nervous.
5) They contort and rub their hands together.
6) They yawn excessively: Yawning helps regulate our body temperature (the brain gets
warmer when we’re stressed).

So if they are showing these signs around you, they might be nervous because they like you.
You’ll also want to get a baseline of how they act around other people, too.

25) They’re trying to figure out whether you have a partner

This can slide past a lot of people’s heads. And I’m not talking about if they ask you: Are you
single? That’s an obvious sign that they’re into you.

Instead, they’re probably going to be a little more subtle. They might mention that they’re
single in the hope that you reveal your status.

Maybe they’ll talk about how they went to a wedding by themselves on the weekend.

Keep on the lookout for little signs likes this.

If they’re trying to figure out if you’re single or not, there’s a good chance they like you and
want to see if this can lead anywhere.

26) They start to reveal their quirky side

When someone becomes more comfortable around you, they’ll reveal more of who they truly
are.

First impressions are important to most people and they tend to hide their weird side.

So if they are revealing their quirky or geeky side, they’re confident that you’ll accept them
for who they are.

Now, this by itself doesn’t mean they like you. A friend can feel comfortable with you. But if
you’re not friends yet, this is a good sign that they are picking up what you’re putting down.

27) They’re telling you personal details about their life

In the same vein, when they’re comfortable around you, they’re willing to reveal more of
themselves.
This is an excellent sign that they see you as someone they can trust. They also may be more
willing to talk about their plans for the future to see if you will fit in those plans.

Keep in mind that if you’ve been friends for a while, then they’ll undoubtedly reveal more
about themselves as time goes on.

But if you aren’t particularly good friends, then this is a great sign that they’re letting you into
their world because they might see a future with you.

28) Conversations between you two seem effortless

If you the conversation just flows, this is an excellent sign that there is genuine chemistry and
rapport between the two of you.

And with chemistry and rapport, there’s a high chance that feelings are developing. After all,
if you both like each other, then you’ll both be motivated to keep the conversation going.

You should both be talkative and asking questions. This makes the conversation work and
flow nicely.

In Conclusion

Human beings are amazing. Our bodies often tell the world how we are feeling before we
know it ourselves.

We do things to send signals to one another and we don’t even realize it’s happening.

It’s why your friends know you like that girl before you know you like that girl.

It’s why your mom can tell when are crushing on someone before you even mention that you
met someone. We act differently when we are around people we like.

So if you are wondering how you can tell if someone likes you, keep in mind the above list of
28 things they might do and you’ll know for sure.