asthmatic’s life into hell. Anything that goes to my chest is nearly guaranteed to get me started
on a coughing spree and develop into a more serious lung infection like bronchitis or pneumonia.
I remember lying in bed in our Brooklyn apartment in the middle of a chilly October
night, oxygen saturation falling to 85 percent, and my RN mother waking me out of my half-
dozing stupor and calling 911. Everything moved at a snail’s pace, and every inhale of breath
I often get asked what asthma feels like. It’s different for everyone, and it depends on the
particular attack or flare-up. Usually, it’s as though there’s something heavy sitting on my chest.
Other times, it’s like someone is gripping me around the neck and squeezing harder and harder
with their fleshy fingers. Even now, I can’t bear having my neck touched, nor do I wear tight
turtleneck sweaters in the winter. For eleven years, I refused to wear scarves.
That night, a paramedic and an EMT came banging on our door, blue nitrile gloves
already on and asking if I needed help getting down the stairs from the fourth floor to the lobby.
Even thirteen-year-old me was too prideful to allow herself to be carried. I walked with the
I made it outside to the eerie quietude that fills New York streets at three AM and sat on
already tried taking. The bright lights in the back of the ambulance made my eyes sting, and I
started to cry. My entire body convulsed as the paramedic tried to soothe me and put her hand on
the potential to be fatal, I had never felt the weight of what that meant until then. For the very
Everything hurt. When the body is in survival mode, it becomes hyper-sensitive. Each
breath made my chest ache like someone was trying to stretch it out like a rubber band. My
collarbone was protruding and I could feel the muscles struggling to relax beneath it. My mind
was muddled. My reaction times were two seconds late. I wanted to sleep but thought I’d never
wake up.
I was happy to be going to the hospital—it seemed safer than home. I’ve always had
profound faith and respect for medical professionals, since both my mother and sister are
registered nurses, and every time my weak immune system would fail in the past and make my
lungs burn with pain, a nurse or a doctor never failed to help me. Medicine was always there for
The one positive of not being able to breathe is that you never have to wait to see a doctor
in the ER. Respiratory or cardiac distress instantly bump you up to the top of the priority list—
bonus points if you’re brought by ambulance—so I was quickly brought to a bed. A pediatric
pulmonologist hovered around me. He had a sleeve over the tubing of his stethoscope with
yellow ducklings on it, which I guess was meant to put the five-year-olds he would examine at
ease, but it made my early teenaged self even more embarrassed. I was at that age when one’s
albuterol and then steroids, and every time he came back to check on me, he would ask, “Are
As optimistic as ever, he would flash me a smile and joke, “You’re killing me here. What
He ordered a chest x-ray and informed my parents that my cold had developed into
pneumonia. Not long after that, he announced I’d be going to intensive care.
“They’ll be able to look after you better there,” was his reasoning, but I had become an
expert at disseminating medical talk from all of my previous encounters with doctors, and it
sounded to me like I think you’re too sick to be here and might have to be intubated.
Now the true fear was setting in. I’d never been in the ICU before, and it didn’t sound
The new critical care doctor responsible for me was the elusive attending physician in the
pediatric ICU—the kind of doctor who usually sits in an office somewhere, and you never hear
from them unless someone is on the verge of death, as they normally send a resident or a
The attending physician was a stocky, middle-aged black man in wire-framed glasses
who exuded competence but was in no way as comfortable with children as the pulmonologist in
the ER. He asked my parents a lot of questions. When he was finished with his interrogation, he
finally peered at me over his glasses as though I was a science experiment that had gone wrong
but could easily be tinkered with and said, “Don’t worry, kid, we’ll fix you.”
He placed me on a BiPAP ventilator which shoots oxygen into your lungs and makes
every exhale feel like it’s being suctioned out. The mask that came with it felt like someone was
vacuuming my face off because of the intense pressure. I kept thinking, This is it, I’m going to
die. I want to sit with my friends in the school cafeteria again. I’ll never write Jonas Brothers
fanfiction again.
My parents went as far as to have the priest from the Catholic church we attended come
and bless me—anointing of the sick, it’s called, and it normally happens when you’re dying of
“May the Lord in his love and mercy help you with the grace of the Holy Spirit,” Father
After a round of antibiotics and non-stop albuterol and oxygen over the course of a
week, I improved. The attending physician dutifully checked in on me. A few days into my stay,
he started lightening up. I think we bonded over my spiral into anaphylactic shock—he
attempted to give me IV ceftriaxone for my pneumonia, and my throat promptly began to close.
He flushed epinephrine into my IV, examined my throat, and joked with one of the nurses that
my dilated pupils made me look like I was doped up on cocaine. In retrospect, that probably
wasn’t the ideal joke to make in front of a child who had just experienced a severe allergic
reaction, but I found it funny nonetheless. New Yorkers have a very specific and very vulgar
sense of humor.
He watched me like a hawk after that incident and said, exasperated, “You’re a special
It’ll soon be eight years since that hospitalization. I didn’t know how precious my life
was until I thought it would be taken from me. All of the things that happen on the daily—
arguments with friends or family, missing your bus or train, heartbreak, hating your job—it’s
meaningless. When you’re left staring at the ceiling and every breath feels like another nail being
hammered into your coffin, you forget all of that stuff. All you crave are the stupid little things
you love about your life, like morning cups of coffee and biking across the Brooklyn Bridge, or
being so in love with a song that you want to get up and dance in your room.
I see the physician who treated me walking outside of XXXXX Hospital for his lunch
break sometimes, white coat safely tucked away in his bag as he goes into Dunkin’ Donuts, and I
wonder what it would be like to go up and talk to him. I know he doesn’t remember me, but I
“Hello, sir, thank you for not letting me get intubated when I was thirteen and for saving
“I know many people don’t take the time to thank you, so thanks.”