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Chapter 4: Annexes 90
A. HHO Workshops
Workshop 1 - Conducting One to ones 91
Workshop 2 - Leading a Prayer Meeting 94
Workshop 3 - Worship Leading --- In the House 99
of the Lord
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The past 20 years of CFC Singles for Christ is God’s affirmation of His great love for us
and the ministry. We are thus entrusted with the great and essential task of paving
the way for the next 20 years of our ministry’s life and mission. Your role of training
our new Household Heads is vital in making sure that all our members will
experience the same love that will nourish and form them to be future bearers of
God’s light. We honor you for saying ‘YES’ in leading this training. This manual will be
your guide to the new SFC HHT.
This training is catered for SFC members who were chosen and discerned to be
potential household heads. They should have finished at least the SFC Covenant
Orientation Weekend.
1. Equip the members with the knowledge and skills they will need as
household heads.
2. Educate the members on their roles and responsibilities as well as the culture
they should help build in their areas as household heads.
3. Empower the soon to be household heads to carry out their anointed role
relying on the grace of God and the power of the Holy Spirit
1. He or she must be an active member of SFC for at least one (1) year.
2. He or she must have attended already the Covenant Orientation Weekend
(COW).
3. Candidates are recommended by their existing Household Heads for the
approval of the Chapter Leaders before undergoing the training.
1. The HHT is to be conducted at the chapter level led by the SFC Chapter
Leaders.
2. The HHT has two parts: Part 1 - Household Heads Orientation and Workshops
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The Household Heads Orientation (HHO) aims to set the hearts of the newly
discerned leaders for the task ahead and to equip them with the basic leadership
knowledge and skills that are needed.
1. The HHO is a 1 whole day (or 2 half days) activity conducted on a Chapter
level. It is recommended that this is done during the last quarter of the year.
(see related Table 1 on page 8)
2. Chapter leaders will facilitate the HHO with the help of the Unit Heads and
the existing Household Heads.
3. After the HHO, the Household Heads Training Series (HHTS) should follow
immediately to support the continuity of their formation and growth.
Sessions
Day 1
12:30 PM Arrival & Registration
1:00 Opening Worship
1:15 Ice Breaker
1:30 Talk 1: Being a Servant
2:15 Talk 2: The Household
3:00 Break / Team Building Energizer
3:15 Talk 3: Building Relationship
4:00 Workshop: How to Conduct One to One
5:00 Closing Prayer
Day 2
12:30 PM Arrival & Registration
1:00 Ice Breaker
1:15 Workshop: Leading a Prayer Meeting
2:15 Workshop: How to lead the Worship
3:15 Snacks / Team Building Energizer
3:30 Talk 4: Zeal and single-mindedness for God
4:15 Open Forum
5:00 Closing Prayer
1. The worship may be led by an SFC Unit Head or an SFC Household Head.
2. The talks are encouraged to be given by an SFC Chapter Leader, SFC Unit
Head or an SFC Household Head.
3. The workshops may be given by an SFC Chapter Leader or an SFC Unit Head.
4. The open forum is handled by the SFC Chapter Leaders.
5. Creative activities (e.g. ice breakers, energizers, team-buildings, etc.) are
included in the program to facilitate ample interaction among the leaders
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Table 1: Proposed Scheduling of HHO and HHTS with respect to our yearly Calendar.
Month Activity
CFC Conference
January Evangelization Training
HHTS
SFC Icon
February
CLP Training for Batch 1
CO Weekend for Batch 2
March
CLP Batch 1
April CLP Batch 1
CLP Batch 1
May
ANCOP Global Walk
June CFC Anniversary Week
ReCon
July
CLP Training
ReCon
August CO Weekend for Batch 1
CLP Batch 2
ReCon
September
CLP Batch 2
CLP Batch 2
October HHO
HHTS
CLP Batch 2
November
HHTS
HHTS
December
Christmas Party
Legend:
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Expanded Outline
A. Introduction.
Why do we serve?
Who are we as servants?
How do we serve?
b) In order to answer these, we need a vision of reality that can clearly point
out to us the whole approach to service that we are to take. We need to
see the reality in the world around us not in the way that the world sees it,
but in the way God sees it.
a) There are two kingdoms opposed to one another, the kingdom of darkness
under Satan and the kingdom of light under our Lord.
Satan has real spiritual power (Ephesians 6:12). He has forces under
his control which are opposed to God and His followers.
Our enemy is not principally social problems, human weakness, lack of
education, etc., but a whole kingdom. Our battle is a spiritual one.
Thus anything we do that involves taking someone from the dominion
of Satan into the kingdom of light will involve us in this battle for the
hearts and minds of men. Any Christian service is automatically
spiritual warfare.
The fundamental problem of the world is not social ills (this is just the
manifestation of the problem) but sin.
Man needs to be reconciled with God, and only Jesus is able to do
this.
We are the instruments that God uses to bring other men back to
Him.
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c) The above two realities should form our vision for our Christian service.
3. Christian service is not simply what you do, but who or what you are as you
do it.
B. There are three important New Testament passages that we will examine in order
to clarify our understanding of what it means to be a servant.
a) We have lost touch with the real meaning of the word "servant" as
understood in Jesus' time.
During those times, a servant (or slave) was someone who was another
person's property and had no rights whatsoever.
Thus Jesus' story must have been amusing to his listeners. They could
not comprehend a situation where the servant is served by his master.
b) We are the Lord's servants. We have been bought at the price of his blood.
We no longer own ourselves. We are to be men and women who serve the
Lord without regard for ourselves.
Jesus' example.
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C. Obstacles to obedience.
a) We often think first of what is good for us, what will fulfill us.
Realize that a servant of the Lord never goes into a situation for
himself, but always looking out for how he can serve others.
3. Human rebelliousness.
4. Lack of trust (in the Lord, our heads, our brothers and sisters).
Realize that God calls us to serve Him and will care for us as a loving
Father.
Realize that God puts other people in headship position over us and He
works through them.
Realize that God has called us into SFC to experience brotherhood and
sisterhood in the Lord.
1. The Lord does not just want us to be enthusiastic and willing servants, but he
wants us to be mature Christian servants. He wants people he can truly count
on.
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b) Relationships (both with the Lord and with one another) are strong and
full.
d) You are men and women of your word. You can make commitments and
stick to them.
e) You are working on the various obstacles and shortcomings in your lives as
Christians.
Though God and SFC do appreciate your efforts, our motivation is not
reward or recognition.
We simply serve out of our love for God and neighbor.
E. Conclusion.
Expanded Outline
I. THE HOUSEHOLD
A. Definition
A household is a grouping of singles who meet regularly during the week for
personal sharing and for mutual support and encouragement in the Christian
life. As such, the household is the basic unit in the pastoral structure of CFC
Singles for Christ (SFC).
B. Purpose
C. Composition
In succeeding years (at least, after one year), there would be occasions when
households would be reorganized. During these occasions membership will
be changed and redistributed to other households, units and chapters.
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Every SFC member is to belong to one household as one of its members. SFC
leaders (Household Heads, Unit Heads, and Chapter Leaders) all belong to
households for their own personal support in the Christian life. Thus, every
SFC leader participates in two households, one which he leads and the other
where he in turn is led.
1. Definition
The household head is the SFC brother or sister appointed to take care
of a household.
meeting
sharing/discussion
honor and respect
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g. He/she supports the life in SFC and the decisions of its elders.
a. Availability
b. Formation
growing spiritually
good order in personal life
a good appreciation of the vision, mission and culture of SFC
faithful to SFC commitments
has taken the COW
c. Personal Characteristics
emotionally stable
able to accept correction and direction
has a good reputation
d. Skills
1. He/she must have the mind and heart of a servant. Just like the Lord
Jesus, he/she must come to serve rather than be served. His/her service
should be an expression of love for the Lord. He/she should be humble in
service and put the interest of his/her members first. He/she should be
obedient to the Lord and to those whom the Lord has put in charge of
his/her service.
2. He/she must look upon the singles under him/her as being given by the
Lord, to be cared for adequately. He/she has the responsibility to look
after their spiritual welfare, a charge coming directly from the Lord.
3. The household head must love them as brothers or sisters. They are not
just good friends, but family.
4. He/she must serve with gladness and joy. No matter what one’s
difficulties are, how badly the day went, how strained one’s relationships
with his/her family and friends are at the moment. The household head
needs to have the joy of the Lord, the joy of serving Him, the joy that
transcends all earthly difficulties. How he/she conducts himself/herself
will provide a living example to those who have been put in his/her care.
5. He/she must serve in trust and confidence. He/she needs to realize that
since the Lord has called him/her to do His work, then the Lord will equip
him/her with the wisdom and guidance necessary to be an effective
instrument of His will.
The household head should refer all serious pastoral concerns to his/her Unit
Head, who is the pastor of the members of the unit, which includes the
household. Of course, the Unit Head can direct the household head to handle
the situation himself/herself, with some input from him/her. But ultimately it
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is the responsibility and concern of the Unit Head. Putting it within the
context of a family (which a household is), the household head is the big
brother/sister while the Unit Head is the father/mother.
Some examples of issues that need to be referred to the Unit Head are:
H. Practical Considerations
Some of the concrete things the household head can and should do are:
3. Be prayerful.
a. Pray for each member regularly during his own personal prayer time.
b. Spend time praying before the household meeting and entrusting it
to the Lord.
c. Pray over members when appropriate (birthdays, anniversaries,
when sick, for inner healing, etc.)
4. Be prepared and have an agenda. In other words, rely on the Lord, but
also do your part.
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I. Others
2. Refer all frequent absentees to your Unit Head. Together you can discuss
the particular situation and decide on a course of action. Remember: the
strength of the body will depend on its members' faithfulness and
commitment.
4. Study and read, especially the books we publish. Keep ahead of your
members.
6. If for any reason you feel you cannot do the job as a household head
adequately, discuss this with your Unit Head so that appropriate action
can be taken. Don't just let it go, with the result that your household
members suffer.
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1. Openness – One has to be open to what the Lord wants to give through
the household group. One should realize that this is part of God's work
and in conformity with His plan for each person, and should therefo re be
expectant and desirous of what is in store for him/her. Concretely, one
should share about his/her personal life and relationship with the Lord in
a spirit of openness.
5. Love – The idea, after all, is to foster active concern and commitment to
one another. One has to look on the other members of the group as not
just so many new friends, but as brothers and sisters in the Lord, among
whom mutual love is the common denominator.
B. Attendance
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SFC. Of course, certain obstacles will come up, such as sickness. What is
important is that one should accord top priority to these meetings and
really desire not to be absent from them.
2. Since attendance is part of one's commitment and since the very purpose
of household groups would be defeated by frequent absences (indicating
a lack of interest), such absences form sufficient ground for one's
separation from SFC. Household heads should follow up on absent
members and try to renew their interest and commitment. If
unsuccessful, the matter should be referred to the Unit Head for
appropriate action.
A. Frequency
a. During the weeks when the monthly Chapter Prayer Assembly and
Chapter Teaching Assembly are held.
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4. When a whole household serves in a CLP, the household will still meet
for their regular prayer meetings at a minimum of twice (2x) a month.
B. Venue
Having the household meeting in the homes of the household members has
the following values:
1. Worshipping the Lord in our homes makes the truth that the home is a
small church a concrete reality. And God's blessings will surely descend
upon the home where God's people can be found, worshipping Him
together and growing in their faith together.
2. The people in our home – our brothers and sisters, maybe our parents,
our household help, the people who are closest to us and whom we love
– will be aware of what we are involved in and what we do every week.
To them we will become people who are living their Christian faith
openly and powerfully.
All three are very important and none should be skipped or simply glossed
over.
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1. Worship.
singing
praising
thanksgiving
prayers of petition
intercession
Every member should become familiar and comfortable with our way
of worship and praise, and the household head shows the way.
e. Ideally, someone in the group should play the guitar. A piano or other
musical instrument would be alternatives, if available and practicable.
If no one can play, then it would be advisable to make use of our song
tapes/cds, where songs have been arranged in groups of three
precisely for use in household worship.
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b. Practically speaking, there would not be enough time (at least quality
time) for everyone to share.
Other than that, the male and female households would meet
separately. Anyway, interaction among the households occur
twice (2x) a month during the monthly Chapter Prayer Assembly
and Chapter Teaching Assembly.
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4. The evening ends with a short closing prayer by the Household Head.
D. Duration
Worship – 30 minutes
Sharing/teaching/discussion – 60-90 minutes
Fellowship – 30-60 minutes
3. The meeting should not end too late, say, not later than 11 p.m. If the
meeting can start earlier, so much the better. If the meeting goes beyond
11 p.m., this should be the exception rather than the rule.
E. Social Night
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A. For the first year (for the new members right after the CLP), the household
meetings are used to follow up on the topics in the teaching formation.
In the second year and beyond, the topics of the household meetings are also
a follow up of the SFC teaching formation (Topics can be found in the
Household Heads Manual) or it could either be any of the following:
Personal Sharing
Bible Sharing
Topical discussions
Aside from the household meetings, the members will still have their regular
monthly Chapter Prayer Assembly and Chapter Teaching Assembly.
B. Personal Sharing
Personal sharing is telling our brothers and sisters about what has been
happening in our lives for the past month, with a particular focus on what the
Lord has been doing in our lives. Personal sharing is an essential element in
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building up our relationship with our brothers and sisters. As we open up our
lives to them and they become an intimate part of our lives.
1. If the household head opts for personal sharing, it can either be done by
just encouraging the members to share as they are led, or by using a set
of questions which can guide the members in their sharing. As a
framework to provide shape and direction, questions can be an effective
means to lively personal interaction. One can develop and use one's own
questions, just so long as they suit the needs of the members and can
effectively draw out people.
a. How have you grown in your relationship with the Lord? Have you
come before the Lord faithfully in personal prayer?
b. In what ways were you aware of the Lord's presence or action in your
life during the past week/month?
c. What has the Lord been telling you in your prayer time or Scripture
study this week/month? How have you responded?
e. In what ways has the Lord used you to serve others this past
week/month?
f. What change has the Lord been asking you in order that you might
grow in loving your brothers and sisters?
C. Bible sharing
Bible sharing is a way for us to be more familiar with the Word of God, as we
share about it every month. Bible sharing is not Bible study as such, but a way
of drawing insights from the Bible and allowing God to speak to us personally
through His written Word. Various methods of Bible sharing could be utilized.
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D. Topical discussion
This is a time for formal discussion of a Christian topic. These topics could be
anything that has to do with the Christian life, which would be profitable for
our members to gain greater understanding. Especially recommended are
those topics that have to do with the life, mission, covenant and culture of
SFC.
It should be noticed that this cycle of topics for the second year and beyond
is such that there is no burden on the household head to be always thinking
up of what to take up during the household meetings.
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1. For personal sharing, the household head would simply moderate the
sharing and keep the interaction active and life giving.
2. For the Bible sharing, the household head merely chooses the
particular verses to be taken up.
3. For the topical discussion, the household head chooses the topic,
taking from the vast array of materials available to him/her. Thus he
simply moderates the discussion. Thus the household heads are not
burdened by "technical" preparation for the meetings, but can focus
more on "spiritual" preparation.
This cycle is something the household head is free to follow or not. The
household head has a good amount of flexibility as to how to handle the
household meeting and what to take up. The important thing is that the
conduct of the meeting contributes to the achievement of the stated purpose
of our having households and that is to build an environment of support for
the Christian life of our members.
V. GROUP ACTIVITIES
A. Aside from what has been taken up as proper to the activities of a household
group, there are many other things that can be done as well. It is up to the
household head to discern the needs of his/her members individually and as
a group, and to act accordingly. These other activities may be in lieu of the
normal household activity (with approval of the Unit Head) or in addition to
it. Some such activities are:
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Expanded Outline
A. Introduction.
a) This is very important work. You are leaders of cell groups which make up
the basic support structure for CFC members.
2. You are all new to this kind of pastoral leadership. God is doing something
new.
a) Do not feel unworthy, for God Himself Who calls you will also empower
you.
b) You are all learning and growing in your ability to serve in this new way.
3. You yourselves are all under pastoral care, not only for your personal lives
but also for your service.
a) We leaders in SFC are not serving in isolation from one another, but rather
as a network of pastoral leaders serving together.
b) Just be open to those over you regarding any aspect of your service.
a) He/she is committed to you and the members of your group. You can call
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b) His/her desire is to see you develop and grow in your service and in your
life and to see your members grow in the Lord.
c) Don't hold back from telling him/her your problems in leading the group.
Don't think that you've always got to give a good report. We are
looking for a realistic assessment to see God's will regarding your
group.
Don't protect your members from him/her.
a) The Household.
b) Individual members.
Daily prayer?
Problems if any.
Have some goals in mind for the whole household and discuss them
with your Unit Head. What do they need?
Have some goals for the individual members in your household. What
does each one need? Do not be ruled by what each member wants.
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What are the extra demands of your household that pulls you down?
C. Note that your role as a household head is not just to relate to your unit head.
1. You are to reach out also to your members and help move them on in their
relationship with the Lord and as brethren in CFC.
1. Gentleness (v.7).
But teach them to be reasonable in seeking you out (e.g., not in the
middle of the night, except if there is a real emergency).
4. Integrity (v.10).
b) It is not just a question of not sinning, but of not doing anything that can
subject you to criticism.
5. Encouragement (v.11-12).
c) Keep in touch with their concerns (family, health, school, occupation, love
life, etc.).
d) Be able to laugh and cry with them. Identify with their joys and sorrows.
Empathize.
When someone first opens up, be able to hold them up with your
support.
They should not experience their life changing just independently, but
rather, you carry them in your heart, and this is sometimes expressed
to them.
An important and interesting note: Notice that the above involves the
whole range of caring that happens within a family. The household heads
in certain ways act out the roles of mother, brother, sister and father to
their members.
E. The effect of evangelistic headship. What is the desired response from the
members?
1. Love
a) This is the call to every Christian. We are all to love one another as
brothers and sisters in Christ.
b) But the caring relationship should reinforce and strengthen the members'
love for their leaders.
2. Confidence
They can let go of their self-protectiveness. They can put down their
defenses.
It frees them to give of their whole selves.
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They become more ready to hear God's word coming from you.
It does not become necessary to question all you say.
3. Respect
Don't be a know-it-all.
- You don't know everything and you can't solve all problems. Be
willing to say "I don't know".
- Don't bluff. It will boomerang and you end up with even less
credibility.
If the above desired response from members happens, then the result is
that they become more open to the word of God through you. They
become more open to the work of the Holy Spirit. 1 Thessalonians 2:13.
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F. Conclusion.
1. You have the privilege to guide new SFC members in their new life in the
Lord.
2. People grow in confidence as they see you grow in holiness and in Christian
character.
b) They must know that you can take them as far as God has taken you.
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Expanded Outline
A. Introduction.
1. Those who do no evil, yet do not devote themselves faithfully to doing good.
2. Those who refrain from evil and also devote themselves to frequent good
deeds, yet, while they do not neglect to do what good they can, they see no
need to do more than that.
a) Just so much prayer, service, almsgiving, etc., are enough for them.
They do not burn with a desire for a more complete holiness.
b) They remain quietly content with this spiritual level, and abandon
higher things to others.
a) They eagerly desire the spiritual and internal virtues --fondness for
prayer, intimate knowledge of God, experience of divine love.
b) However they are not inflamed with fervent zeal against the vices of
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others or the dangers of their sins. They want everyone to be good and
live in grace, but feel no wound of sorrow when they see the opposite.
c) They remain intent upon God and themselves. They might put off caring
for other people in order to preserve their own peace.
4. Those who avoid wrongdoing, practice virtue, are afire with zeal for
personal righteousness, and have zeal for winning souls.
C. Zeal for righteousness stems from the very basis of our Christianity, namely,
love of God and of neighbor.
1. A person who loves God not only desires to enjoy his goodness and be close
to him, but loves to see his will accomplished, his worship carried out and
his honor exalted. He wants all people to know, love, serve and honor God
more than anything else.
2. A person who loves his neighbor desires not only health and prosperity for
him, but even more, eternal salvation.
4. Although all Christians should love their neighbor, this love for others is
especially necessary for those who are leaders.
a) Their position demands that they act on God's behalf. Thus their hearts
should be as much moved by love of righteousness and hatred of evil as
is God's heart.
b) Psalm 45:8. "You love justice and hate wickedness; therefore God, your
God, has anointed you..."
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D. Areas of concern (exercise of zeal) in our own lives and in the lives of our
household members.
a) All SFC members have freely and willingly made their commitment to
the Lord and to the body. They should live up to it.
b) Deuteronomy 23:22-24.
4. Areas not essential for salvation but desirable for making spiritual progress.
d) Submission to headship.
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Correction
a) Psalm 141:5.
b) How?
c) Be authoritative.
a) You are God's representatives. You have been given responsibility over
God's people. Your members look up to you and obey you because you
have the Lord's place.
You would be guilty of neglect for not doing what your duty called
for. Wisdom 6:4-5.
You would bear the guilt for the faults of your subordinates, in that
you could and should have corrected them but didn't. Ezek. 33:8.
This is not to scare you, but to show the seriousness of your work.
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Encouragement
a) Matthew 3:17.
b) How to encourage:
Comfort.
Support (situation where one cannot cope). Through words, advice,
prayers or just presence.
Urge on/exhort. Motivate. Not so much comfort, but challenge.
Praise. E.g., honoring.
4. There is plenty of bad news around and unfortunately, people quickly respond
to discouraging news.
a) God looks for eternal optimists, who can share that spirit with others.
God's news is good news, not bad. We are to bring the good news
of liberty, joy, release, hope, comfort, etc.
1. They seem to have given up. They were disappointed because of wrong
expectations (v.21).
2. On the positive side, they went back to the disciples after breaking bread
with Jesus.
a) The wrong reason can easily lead us to change course. John 6:26-27, 66-69.
2. We need to open up our hearts and let the word of God burn in our hearts.
This way, our motivation becomes pure.
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b) Practical application:
Many of us come into a new life in the Lord, but we keep our boats
in reserve, so that if necessary we can return to the world.
We need to forego all other options. In our new life, there should
be no turning back.
a) Prepare for the long haul. Moving on in the Christian life is the task of a
lifetime.
a) Jesus did not promise that if we followed him there would be no more
problems.
b) In fact, the Christian life is a life of embracing and loving the cross of
Christ.
b) Ask the Lord to show what virtue you can grow most in. Some examples:
- The most villainous person she has met is described by her as "Jesus
in a very distressing disguise".
Jeremiah 29:11.
a) This is not only the proper attitude, but a practical and realistic one. Every
one else can fail us, but God never will.
Matthew 11:28-30.
a) We should not only be resigned to God's will, but actively and eagerly pray
that His will come to pass in our life.
But be careful. God delights in such prayers, and will grant them.
J. Conclusion.
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3. Our zeal for God grows into perseverance for God’s call to righteousness is
very difficult. It entails us to serve Him with utmost dedication and
commitment.
4. We can only move on in these areas as we become more and more focus on
the Lord and our life and mission in Him. Let us be single-minded for God.
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After conducting the Household Heads Orientation (HHO), the Household Head
Teaching Series (HHTS) should be immediately scheduled to follow up and sustain
the growth of the incoming Household Heads.
1. The HHTS should be conducted on a Chapter level for a more intimate set of
mentoring sessions of the soon to be SFC Household heads. Logistical
requirements will not be demanding since it will be like a household meeting
set up only.
2. Chapter leaders will facilitate the HHTS with the help of the Unit Heads.
3. Sessions must be finished within 6 months from the time the HHO was
conducted, ideally, one session per month.
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Speaker’s Outline
I. Introduction
1. 1 Peter 5:2a
2. Our example is Jesus Himself. John 10:11
1. Mark 10:45
B. Attitude of Humility
1. Mark 10:35-44
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A. As Expressed by Jesus
James 2:14-17
1 John 3:17-18
Jesus was also available to the sinners, to the sick, and to the
relatives of His disciples.
3. Expression of affection
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In the case of the rich young man who asked about everlasting
life, Jesus looked on him with love as he gave his answer (Mark
10:21).
a. Romans 15:1
2. Encouragement
a. Isaiah 35:3-4a
We would not only disappoint the Lord, but could also incur
His wrath.
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IV. Conclusion
A. We are all brothers and sisters in SFC. And you are all called upon as
household leaders to serve the rest.
1. Our model is Jesus Himself. Even now, He continues to love and serve
us all, His brothers and sisters.
2. The brotherly love required of us is not from the spring of our own
hearts but from God's. Let us tap into His own heart – the true
wellspring of endless love.
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I. Introduction
The chief end of man is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever; but
we cannot begin to enjoy God until we spend time with Him.
A. Humility
3. Prayer is not insisting on our own way, but we must believe that God's
way is perfect and that in everything He works for our good.
God is far more willing to bless us than we can imagine. But we can
frustrate His will for us by rebelling.
Luke 18:15-17
B. Honesty
3. As we are honest with God, He will work gently in our lives to mold us
more and more into Jesus' likeness.
C. Compassion
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a. We do not pray only for our circle of friends, our SFC activities or
evangelistic programs.
b. We need to be concerned as well about social injustice and needs
– unemployment, poverty, discrimination, the homeless and
oppressed, the sick, the lonely, etc.
D. Expectancy
1. When we ask for something in prayer, we should start looking for the
answer and expect God to work.
a. Ephesians 3:20
b. Mark 11:24
a. Mary. When promised the gift of a son, she began to praise God
that it was now true, saying "God who is mighty has done great
things for me". Luke 1:30-49
b. Jesus. About to raise up Lazarus from the dead, he prayed
"Father, I thank you for having heard me." John 11:41
3. To help us pray with expectant faith, we need to know and claim the
promises of God in the scriptures.
E. Persistency
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2. Though God may answer even our casual prayers, normally He waits
until our whole being is concentrated on Him.
F. Forgiveness
a. Mark 11:25.
b. An unforgiving spirit can easily spoil our relationship with God and
with one another.
c. If we hold on to sin in our hearts, God will not listen to us.
d. It is only when we forgive others that God can forgive us. And it is
only when God forgives us that we can pray at all.
III. God always wants the best for us and He wants us to come to Him to ask for
these things.
1. Matthew 6:32b-33
2. Jesus tells us to come to Him in times of difficulty and He will refresh
us. Matthew 11:28-30.
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3. The reason we can come and approach God with confidence is due to
our special loving relationship with our Father in heaven as His
children through our baptism.
IV. Intercession
down his hands to rest, Amalek had the better of the fight. Moses
mediated between God and the Israelites.
b. We intercede not only for general things like world peace, peace
in our country, economic recovery, etc., but for very specific
situations.
a. Moses prayed for God's mercy for the Israelites who worshipped
the golden calf.
b. Jesus prays, "Father, forgive them for they do not know what they
are doing".
c. Let us intercede for our people: "Lord, forgive them for they do
not honor their commitment to you; their prayer life is not
regular; they are not forgiving one another; they are not gracious
in their speech, etc."
1. Genesis 18:20ff. Things were happening in Sodom that invited the ire
of God. Abraham bargained and haggled with God. God finally
destroyed Sodom but not before Abraham did his part of interceding
for his people.
2. We have a basis for confidence. 1 John 5:14; John 14:14
3. The lessons we can learn from these are:
A. Have great love for the people you intercede for. Be ready to offer
practical assistance to meet the needs for which you intercede.
B. Have great faith that God could do things like what He did to Sarah, that
he could part the waters of the Red Sea, that He can and will do the same
things for us in whatever difficult situations we find ourselves in.
VI. Conclusion
D. Prayer is crucial to the life and mission of SFC. We are all part of God's
army, needing to receive our instructions from our Commander-in-Chief
each day.
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Expanded Outline
I. Introduction
1. Exodus 34:6-7
2. 2 Timothy 2:11-13
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2. Then God gave the messiah, despite the knowledge that He would be
rejected and put to death by those He came to save.
3. Then came 2,000 years of Christian history, during which time the
Church often went astray. But God continued to call it back.
Romans 3:3-4a
2. Noah
B. A Personal Application
3. Let us then be men and women of faith, seeing that God has proven
Himself faithful.
a. Let us not look at our lives with human eyes or allow events to
distract or discourage us.
b. Let us be like Abraham with the knife at Isaac's throat, like Noah
building his ark, like Mary abandoning all her cares to God.
c. Let us fully trust that He who began a good work in us will indeed
bring it to completion on the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6
C. Growing in faith.
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1. What looks good on the outside might not necessarily turn out so;
and vice versa.
2. Many of us would probably not have thought of ourselves as
becoming leaders over God's people.
a. We are not perfect; let us admit it. In fact, we are sinful and are in
dire need of God's mercy.
b. Example of Peter and Judas. We need to admit our mistakes, face
Jesus again, and accept His forgiveness.
A. Jesus pointed to leaders who said the right things but did the wrong
things.
1. They tell people what to do but do not provide the necessary help,
guidance and resources with which the people can move on. (v.4)
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The leader, being in touch with the Source, should help others get
in touch with the Source.
There is a tendency in fallen human nature to bend the gifts and call of God
to conform to the personal needs and ends of leaders. We need to beware of
the following:
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3. We may have a tendency to rely more on our group, our leaders, our
movement, our way of doing things, etc., rather than on the Lord
himself.
a. Our faith should not lie in our size, our success, our human
wisdom.
b. Our faith is not in the movement, but in the Mover of the
movement.
2. It is Jesus who saves, who comforts, who fills with the Spirit.
3. Our global evangelization is aimed at making Jesus known.
1 Corinthians 13:13
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A. A law of God's kingdom: He raises up the humble, but He cuts down the
proud.
B. We can learn the ways and means of leadership, but most important and
basic is to simply know Christ crucified.
IX. Conclusion
B. We need to have faith in God, is His mission for SFC, and in the call to us
to leadership.
C. With our faith and God's faithfulness, CFC Singles for Christ can become a
very strong and effective instrument of God's action in the world.
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ANNEX A
Dear Sir:
Thank you for submitting the resumes of the twelve men you have picked for
management positions in your new organization. All of them have taken our batte ry
of tests and we have not only run the results through our computer, but also
arranged personal interviews for each of them with our psychologist and vocational
aptitude consultant.
The profiles of all tests are included and you will want to study each of them
carefully.
As part of our service and for your guidance, we make some general comments,
much as an auditor will include some general statements. This is given as a result of
staff consultation and comes without any additional fee.
It is the staff opinion that most of your nominees are lacking background, education
and vocational aptitude for the type of enterprise you are undertaking. They do not
have the team concept.
Simon Peter is emotionally unstable and given to fits of temper. Andrew has
absolutely no qualities of leadership. The two brothers, James and John, the sons of
Zebedee, place personal interest above company loyalty. Thomas demonstrates a
questioning attitude that would tend to undermine morale. We feel that it is our
duty to tell you that Matthew has been blacklisted by the Greater Jerusalem Better
Business Bureau. James, the son of Alphaeus, and Thaddeus definitely have radical
leanings, and they both registered a high score on the manic depressive scale.
One of the candidates, however, shows great potential. He is a man of ability and
resourcefulness, meets people well, has a keen business mind and has contacts in
high places. He is highly motivated, ambitious and responsible. We recommend
Judas Iscariot as your controller and right hand man. All of the other profiles are
self-explanatory.
Sincerely,
Jordan Management Consultants
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Expanded Outline
I. Introduction
a. faithfulness to meetings
b. punctuality
c. affection for brethren
d. speech
e. financial support
3. If we don't live out our covenant and culture, we can't expect our
members to do so.
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3. Don't be a know-it-all.
C. Maturity:
1. In personal conduct.
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c. But not just wisdom about living, but household leaders need
pastoral wisdom, a practical understanding of how to build up the
body of Christ, how to care for the lives of Christians.
D. Integrity
a. Note: We are not talking of sinlessness (we all still fall into sin),
but refusal to justify, etc. In other words, we can make mistakes;
but how do we handle these?
b. E.g., David. Psalm 78:70-72. The Lord chose David to shepherd his
people "according to the integrity of his heart"
He didn't excuse his sin with Bathsheba when his sin was
exposed by Nathan.
a. Morals
c. Ministry
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1. Many teachings are and will be given in SFC. But it is the household
head who sees to it that such teachings are integrated into one's life
and fully lived out.
2. Conversely, a household head showing bad example will nullify
whatever value might have been received in a teaching.
IV. Aside from leading by example, our headship in SFC over people ought to be
evangelistic, not authoritarian or legalistic.
A. Often, new SFC members are not immediately eager about being under
headship. This is a new situation for most. Most are used to answering to
no one but themselves.
B. Thus you need to establish a good, personal relationship first.
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1. Some do not experience full conversion during the CLP. For many, it
will be a continuing process.
2. It does not mean that such people are in a bad situation. They are
just not used to their new life in the Lord.
C. Those who have been with SFC but have had past bad experi ences.
1. This is more difficult than the other two. It is not just a question of
drawing one into the new life, but first, of overcoming what are
obstacles caused by past experiences in SFC.
2. You need to be able to take them where they are at and help them
make a healthy transition.
A. Emphasis on qualities like grace (vs. law), patience, giving others the
benefit of the doubt.
a. They need to know that you are for them. Express this openly and
often.
b. Show that your role is not to run their lives, but to guide them as
an older brother/sister.
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D. Be a good listener.
a. Make sure you know what they are like, what they need to hear.
b. Do not just jump in right away and start telling them what to do.
2. Listen to them.
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F. With all the above, think about the particular situations of your members
and try to piece together a better understanding of where they are at.
2. You should get to know them well enough such that you can get
insights into their life, which they themselves do not have.
VII. Conclusion
D. Through your efforts, SFC members will more and more enter into their
new life in the Lord and develop greater faithfulness to their life in SFC.
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Expanded Outline
I. Introduction
C. What do we do?
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A. First, understand that the correction we will talk about here is in the
context of Christian personal relationships.
A. How to Correct
B. In Case of Disagreements
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D. Be willing to learn.
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12. Am I able to bring encouragement to those who have hurt me? Can I
bless those who have hurt me? Can I bless those who have
persecuted me as Scripture admonishes?
13. Have I looked for creative ways of affirming my younger brothers and
sisters (my children if CFC) so that they grow up loving themselves?
14. Have I recognized how encouraging God is to His whole creation? To
me?
(Those who passed – "yes" to 12 out of 14 – may now leave)
B. Here's another survey from the book "Encouraging One Another" by Gene
Getz.
1. Are you able to get excited about the good things that happen to
others? Are you able to tell them that you're glad? Can you enter
into their joy? If you can, you are an encourager.
2. Are you living a committed Christian life? To what extent are you able
to encourage others "to remain true to the Lord with all their hearts"?
If you can, you are reflecting your own commitment to Christ. You are
an encourager.
3. Are you able to accept other people for who they are? Do you see the
best in people? Do you freely associate with people who are different
from you? If you can, you are relatively free from prejudice and you
are an encourager.
A. God's plan is to continue the work of His Son through the Holy Spirit.
Thus, when Jesus left his disciples, he promised to send them this Holy
Spirit – identified in the Bible as "counselor", "comforter", "helper".
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1. He brings comfort.
2. He stands by us.
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Hebrews 10:25
2. Turn to Scriptures.
Listening is healing.
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IX. Conclusion
B. Correction is something done out of love for the other person. We need
to take it seriously as one very important aspect of loving our neighbor.
C. We do not have to look very far or worry too much about our task as
household leaders. Much can be accomplished by taking on the ministry
of encouragement.
D. There is much in our new life to be encouraged and be joyful about. Let
us continue to point these out to ourselves and to the people we lead.
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Expanded Outline
I. Introduction
A. Our goal in serving in CFC Singles for Christ is to be the best for the Lord
and for the people He has entrusted to us.
C. Our attitude should be that we want our service evaluated openly and
honestly.
B. For Christians, what comes first is our relationship as brothers and sisters.
C. Our perspective: members of the body have different gifts and functions.
1Corinthians 12; Romans 12:3-8
A. Feedback
a. We are all in this together. Responsibility does not lie only with
the leaders.
b. The Lord speaks to every member and can use anyone to point
things out.
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B. Evaluation Sessions
a. Households can evaluate how their meetings are going and how
relationships are developing.
b. The chapter can regularly evaluate how its evangelization is going.
c. The music ministry can evaluate how effectively they are
contributing to communal worship.
C. Evaluation by Heads
1. First, set the context. Begin with an overall view of the situation or
impression.
2. Then, concentrate on the positive before the negative.
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B. Be careful to give evaluation in a way that does not question the heart or
commitment of the individual or group.
3. Real love seeks what is best for others, correcting them if necessary.
Hebrews 12:5-9
A. We should be grateful to have brothers and sisters who care enough for
us to give us evaluation.
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1. The wise man appreciates being shown his errors. Proverbs 9:8-9
2. This frees us in our service, with the knowledge that we can count on
others to point things out to us.
VI. Conclusion
B. But God wants to use us in spite of ourselves, as long as we are open and
willing to learn from Him.
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ANNEXES
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Expanded Outline
Introduction
One to one is a very important pastoral tool wherein the household head talks
individually to each member to address concerns that cannot be brought up in the
household. It is also a venue where the household head can get to know each
member in a deeper way. One to one is done, not only to address concerns but also
but more essentially, to help the household head guide and pastor his or her
members.
On the minimum, one to ones should be done regularly once a quarter. If serious
and urgent concerns will arise, a one to ones should be done even if it is not in
schedule.
a. Personal Life
b. Family Life
c. Career Life
d. Prayer Life
e. Love Life
f. Service Life
3. Give advice on the topic of the one-to-one so that he/she can also pray for
leading, revelation.
Appropriate venue – a place where both parties can discuss with ease
and comfort; a quiet, private place.
- preferably at home of either party.
- free from disturbances, phone calls.
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2. As soon as he/she arrives and settles down, leader should start the one-to-
one.
4. Then state the purpose/direction of the one-to-one; what the activity hopes
to accomplish; and how it will help you pastor him in his spiritual life.
5. Initiate the first question. But in the ensuing discussion, leader should be
more of a listener trying to absorb as much of what he/she is trying to say.
7. Leader should take note of pastoral issues that need to be discussed more
incisively. An action plan to address the pastoral issues raised must be
discussed.
C. Post One-to-Ones
1. One-to-one dialogue between the Household head and the member should
be scheduled every quarter. The entire dialogue may take a maximum of two
hours.
3. Leader should follow through with the SFC member action points of the one-
to-one in between the scheduled sessions.
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2. Leader’s intent should be more about knowing the member better through
what he/she is sharing, more than giving correction, reprimanding.
3. Leader should have a mental picture of the key points of the sharing,
especially those items with pastoral implications.
4. Writing down key points is NOT an option as this can intimidate the member
and affect the openness with which the sharing is being made.
5. Leader should take care that the discussion does not fall into a corporate vs.
personal tone. This is still a personal dialogue, even if guidelines are given for
order and efficiency.
Workshop Proper:
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Expanded Outline
I. Introduction
This workshop aims to give the Household head a basic guide on how to deliver talks
or share a personal testimony that can be a source of learning and life for his/her
members in the household.
3. Prayer
Let the Holy Spirit guide you. Ask the Lord what He wants
you to say to your audience.
1. Prayer
3. Clarity
5. Posture
Be confident
Avoid mannerisms (e.g. letting your hands play around)
Walk around. Use helpful gestures.
6. Dressing Decently
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7. Time
C. Attitudes
a. Don’t impress. Speak only what the Lord wants you to say.
if you have prepared, you’ve done your part. The Lord
does the rest.
b. Your goal is not to make the participants cry or to convince
them, but to tell the truth.
“ The word of the Lord is never spoken in vain.”
c. Speak your best, because it is the Lord who is asking you --
-Be a faithful mouthpiece of the Lord.
4. Love the people you are speaking to. As Christ allowed you to
experience this love, He wants the people you are speaking to,
to experience it as well.
5. Remember that they need the Lord, and that’s why you are
speaking to them.
6. Availability
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1. Personal Testimonies given after a talk is used to show that what is said in
the talk can actually happen. These are stories of “bad to good” or “good
to better” situations in our lives.
Choose one aspect in your life that the Lord is working in, one that is
related to the talk being given. (e.g. resentment)
B. Attitudes
Whatever you are sharing, somebody out there needs to hear your
story. Somebody will be able to relate with your experience.
As the Lord continues to work in new areas of your life, so will your
sharing evolve as well. Update your sharing.
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Workshop Proper:
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Expanded Outline
“I have asked the Lord for one thing, one thing only do I want: to live in the Lord’s
house all my life, to marvel there at His goodness, and to ask for His guidance.”
Isaiah 27:4
I. Introduction
It is said in John 4:24, “God is a Spirit and they that worship Him must worship
Him in spirit and truth.” When we come to God in worship, we put things in their
proper perspective: Who is God and who are we? In doing so, we must understand
what worship really is and what it is for. In context, worship is:
2. Coming into the loving, healing and mighty presence of God and eventually
being in communion with God.
3. Paying homage to our King. Just like in the ancient times where people
regularly pay “tribute or tax, etc” to their king, we come to God admitting
everything we have is His and that He alone is worthy of our praise and
sacrifices.
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4. A foretaste of heaven. It is the time when we, in our “fallen, sinful, and
human natures,” are able to connect to God in spirit—the way it was meant
to be before our sins made it impossible for us to continually be in God’s
presence (as Adam and Eve were). It allows us a foretaste of the kind of
relationship we will have with God when we are made perfect in heaven.
When we say worship is putting things in proper perspective, it only means that we
acknowledge God’s greatness and marveling in His goodness - that He alone is
worthy to be praised.
As we are taught in the community, there are three levels we usually go through
when we worship.
2. The second is WORSHIP – this is when we start saying how we feel and when
we begin to truly realize God’s greatness. In this level, people start to “offer”
themselves to God saying “I belong to you…my life is yours”.
3. The third is GLORY – this is when we actually come into the holy presence of
God. It is at this level that God speaks, we listen then we respond. This is
where we receive prophecies, visions, where we cry at the realization of
God’s love and mercy, where emotional and “physical’ healing takes place.
All these levels are just phasing to the one thing that we wish to achieve:
communion with God; that in our fallen state, we can actually bask in God’s
presence and experience heaven on earth.
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b. How do we exhort?
Deliver your exhortation with confidence and clarity, remember your goal
is encourage if what you say is vague and confusing you will miss the point.
Keep your exhortations simple and relatable but still inspiring.
2. Invite your members to worship and make the sign of the cross.
To formally engage in the presence of God make the sign of the cross. Through
this we acknowledge that we are in God’s presence and we are ready to praise
and worship him.
3. Sing songs; sing the two (2) fast songs first followed by the slow song. Do
some simultaneous praising after each fast song and after the slow song
invite your members to sing in the Spirit.
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In choosing your songs, choose songs that glorify/worship God and are
familiar to your members. Your members will have a hard time worshipping if
they do not know the song and if the song is not suitable for worship. Choose
songs that are intended for praise and worship, avoid songs that are intended
for contemporary/pop music.
Days before your household pray and discern for the songs you will use, as
much as possible they are in line with your exhortation. Songs are very
important in worship because they act as vessels for us to worship fully. They
aid us in leading. That is why we need to choose the songs we will use
carefully.
After singing a lot an ample time for listening to God, exhort your members
to listen to what God is telling them and then share it to the group. As the
leader, you can share a bible verse or gospel for the day or a personal
message from the Lord based from the leading of the Spirit.
5. Prayer proper
This is the part where you vocalize your prayers. You may follow the ACTS
(Adoration, Contrition, Thanksgiving, Supplication) format. Encourage your
members to vocalize their prayers and express themselves in prayer.
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6. Concluding prayer. End by reciting Catholic Prayers (like the Our father, Hail
Mary and the Glory Be) as a sign of our faith.
2. Be a Model
Don’t expect your members to pray and worship hard if they cannot see it in
you. Human beings learn from example, be a model to your members. Be the
first ones to sing and clap, to raise hands in worship, to vocalize a prayer,
especially when your members are new or shy.
Be patient with our members. Do not expect that they are in the same
spiritual level as you are. But patience alone is not enough, you must also
learn to encourage and guide them. That way, they would know that you are
concerned with their growth and you want them to genuinely experience
God.
4. Persevere to improve
Have that desire to improve as a leader, keep on studying and learning how
to lead effectively. Read books and ask your leaders for tips. Observing other
people will also help. We do this so that we will become the best leader for
our members and we will glorify God in the process.
VI. Conclusion
“And all of us, with our unveiled faces like mirrors reflect ing the glory of the
Lord, are being transformed into the image that we reflect in brighter and
brighter glory; this is the working of the Lord who is the Spirit.”
2 Corinthians 3:18 (NJB)
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Like Moses, when people are brought into God’s presence, they are changed –
from “one degree of glory to the next”. This is the privilege we have as household
heads and leaders of our community—to help people experience the pure joy
and ecstasy of God’s presence in worship. It should be our intention to always
bring people into this level of communion and reconciliation with Jesus in spirit
and our own joy to see them somehow changed.
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