Communication
Skills
Effective Communication Skills
Contents
The Communication Cycle 2
The three Vs of communication 3
Effective communication across cultures 4
Understanding assertion, aggression & non-assertion 8
Assertive situations 9
Assertive rights and responsibilities 10
Wimp talk and power talk exercises 11
Create verbal impact using power talk 13
The Three Fs of assertiveness 14
Listening skills 15
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hears – or, in the case of emails and other business writing, reads.
Misunderstandings can happen for a number of reasons:
SENDER
SENDS
(ENCODES)
SENDER RECEIVER
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Visual
• Posture and bearing
• Body language
• Gestures
• Facial expression
• Appearance, dress etc
Vocal
• Volume
• Pace/speed
• Rhythm
• Pitch
• Tone
• Pausing
• Projection
Verbal
• What you actually say – words, expressions
• The structure of your sentences
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Stage 1
1 Define the situation in terms of your own cultural traits, customs,
or values.
Stage 2
1 Develop your observation skills – notice how people from other
cultures communicate. Build rapport by mirroring the behaviours.
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4 Avoid idioms
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5 Be careful of jargon
Watch the use of TLAs (Three Letter Abbreviations) and other
organisational language that may not be understood by others. If
you use them, provide in parentheses a description of what these
are so others can learn to use the same language you do.
7 Be specific
Spell out your expectations and deadlines clearly. Instead of, ‘Please
get back to me shortly,’ say ‘Please email the completed report by 5
pm Eastern Standard time on Wednesday, February 21.’
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10 Be patient
Cross-cultural communication takes more time. If not at all times,
certainly initially you cannot expect your communication to occur
with the same speed and ease as when you are communicating with
someone from your own culture.
First impressions linger forever. A person whose first language is not
the same as yours may have difficulty in understanding what you
are saying, and that may make them seem slow. The way you
handle that will colour your relationship for all time. Remember that
everyone has something to offer, and those from a different culture
can help you to refine your communication skills.
11 Respect individual
If your objective is to connect with the other person and
communicate well, acknowledge the person is an individual not just
a representative of the company or the country. The key word is
Respect. Build a relationship based on that.
12 Non-verbal cues
Each nation has its own communication style. The British consider it
impolite to interrupt, while the Latinos interrupt all the time. Notice
how a person from India says 'Yes' - they find it hard to say 'No' and
will often say 'Yes' even when it is hard for them to deliver. Avoid
eye contact in the Far East, and do not reach out to help an Arab
lady out of the car.
13 'Face'
This is one of the least understood concepts. In simple terms, you
should always avoid making the other person feel uncomfortable,
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14 Listen
Hearing is not the same as listening. You need to listen, not only for
what is being said, but also for what lies behind what is being said.
Some cultures (eg northern European) communicate the salient
facts. Others (eg Italian) value the process of communication more
as a means of connecting the emotions, confirming status and
reinforcing relationships. Others (eg Japanese) seek to promote
harmony. What can you hear?
Assertion
• Standing up for your own rights in such a way that you don’t
violate another person’s rights.
• Expressing your needs, wants, opinions, feelings and beliefs in
direct, honest and appropriate ways.
• Exercising choice.
Aggression
• Standing up for your rights, but doing so in such a way that you
violate the rights of other people.
• Ignoring or dismissing the needs, wants, opinions, feelings and
beliefs of others.
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Non-assertion
• Failing to stand up for your rights or doing so in such a way that
others can easily disregard them.
• Expressing your needs, wants, opinions, feelings and beliefs in
apologetic, diffident or self-effacing ways.
• Failing to express honestly your needs, wants, opinions, feelings
and beliefs.
Assertive situations
How to be assertive in a range of common business
contexts
Making requests
Make requests in an open and straightforward way rather than trying to
make it difficult for the other person to refuse. Don’t apologise (eg “I’m
sorry to trouble you…”). Be direct and brief (eg “I’d like the report by the
end of the week”) Give a reason for your request but don’t use flattery or
play on their good nature. Respect their right to say no and don’t take a
refusal personally.
Refusing requests
Keep your reply brief, but not abrupt, rather than a long rambling
explanation. Use a warm voice tone. Acknowledge the person who has
made the request and give the real reason for saying ‘no’. Ask for more
time or greater clarity about their request (eg “Do you need it by the end
of the week?”) If they persist in requesting repeat your refusal.
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with a slightly firmer tone (eg “I need to have these figures with the
board by Friday.”
Rights Responsibilities
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3 We normally charge $300 per unit – is that too much for you?
5 The report will be with you on Friday, all being well, I’m
waiting for something from Sarah in accounts, and I have
chased her, and she said I’ll have it tomorrow, though I’m
not confident, and I’ve got to call Peter for an update…..
8 I guess I could be wrong but I’m not sure what you’re saying
is true.
11 I hope I’ll be able to persuade you – I’ll try my best – but I’m
not always good at putting my views across.
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Direct Indirect
Solutions Problems
Positive Negative
Opinions Questions
Specific Vague
Short Long-winded
Assertive Passive
Conviction Uncertainty
Equality Deferential
Confident Apologetic
Can May
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Fact
Feeling
Future
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Future: "What I’d like you to do in the future is say what you
have to say without getting emotional.”
Listening skills
Active listening requires total attention. People sense if
you’re not fully engaged. When you listen effectively you are
in a better position to build successful relationships with
others
Good listeners
• Make regular eye contact with the speaker
• React non-verbally, with a smile, a nod or a frown as appropriate
• Ask questions for clarification
• Re-state or paraphrase some of the speaker's words to show
understanding
• Listen for the key ideas
• Display empathy by acknowledging feelings
• Pay close attention and don't let their mind wander
• Listen to the whole message without pre-judging
• Use their thought speed to analyse, sort and store material
• Remain objective – are aware of their personal prejudices
Bad listeners
• Interrupt frequently
• Jump to conclusions without waiting for the whole message
• Are so busy formulating their replies that they don't listen to the
speaker
• Let their thoughts take side excursions while the other person’s
speaking
• Get distracted by details
• Stop listening when the subject matter gets difficult
• Don't give any non-verbal indication they’re listening
• Only listen for what they like to hear
• Let their emotions take over
• Get distracted by the delivery rather than focus on content
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