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A New View of Anger Management

Compiled by Thomas Russell Anger Management is a popular term today but anger must be understood and dissolved at its source. It cannot really be managed any more than a tiger can be managed. A tiger caged may appear controlled, but all youve really done is suppress his tendencies, which can erupt at anytime. We must be careful not to mistake suppression of anger as the healing of anger. Understanding the tremendous importance of this subject, Vernon Howard wrote a remarkable 64-page booklet entitled, Conquer Harmful Anger 100 Ways. Understand anger and its real causes and you will go along way toward a supremely successful spiritual journey. Here are ten of Vernon Howards one hundred ways from his marvelous booklet: 1. NEW SELF Dont fear to drop your anger. Nothing bad will happen to you, nothing at all. What will happen is the arrival of everything good. When you first drop anger you will feel an emptiness which seems scary. You will wrongly assume that you are losing yourself, which you are not. What you are losing is all that has hurt and scared you all your life, which will be replaced by a new self. So the sooner you drop your anger the sooner you will be truly happy.

2. THE GORILLA Realize that anger serves no true need, that it performs no necessary service. It is as useless as a gorilla in a business office. But the habit of anger does not want you to see this, for like that gorilla, it likes to hang around to bully and bother you. A new power must enter to interrupt anger. That power is to SEE. When you really see something as useless, what happens? You let it go, you drop it. So just see anger as pointless. Your insight into it is power over it. 3. IN LOVE You become what you love. On the harmful side of this law, you may fall in love with negative thoughts which then become your habitual nature. On the healthy side, you can love what you sense is not a part of hostile thoughts, and you finally become this absence of hostility. You also love what you become. On the negative side, this is a state of hardened neurosis and self-worship. On the positive side, it is a flexible life in which you love only Truth. 4. SUPERB STUDY Use this exercise when a crisis tempts you to fall into anger. Just tell yourself, I can fight or I can learn. Which way is on my side? Answer in favor of learning. Use this everywhere. Suppose someones hostility makes you feel bad. Choose to learn all about the situation. You will then see that his hostility is not important to you. Only your learning is important, for you can study your distress out of existence. 5. BRAVE ACT One inner bravery is worth more than a thousand valorous acts applauded by society. Here is how to develop a bravery that takes complete command of life. Keep a mental or written record of the number of times you are angry within a single day. Make a note of every self-harming thought, feeling, remark, act. Your aim is not to condemn yourself but to reveal as wrong everything that masqueraded as right. The wrongness you face you also erase. 6. NEW LOVE Never feel ashamed to think about your angry nature. Shame has no place at all, for you are doing something truly brave, healthy, descent. Just pass thru the scare and you will meet the cure. Fear and guilt will try to take you over in an attempt to block your recovery, but just ignore them. Simply observe inner hostility as impersonally as you study a smoldering volcano. You will soon fall out of love with the false thrill of anger. A new love for life will replace it.

7. WEIRD WORLD Watch for these peculiar people. Dont let their madness make you mad. a. A man who needs a crowd of fifty-thousand to proclaim his independence. b. People who prefer attacking over understanding. c. Someone who wants to find you guilty. d. Helpful friends who make sure that you see they are. e. Anyone who comes close to warn you of pickpockets. f. Someone who would rather get mad than get free. g. A boldly talkative faker. h. Lost people who sell maps. 8. SECRET METHOD Relax your way upward! Deliberate and sudden relaxation is a secret power you should practice daily. Suppose you feel tempted to give in to someone when you know you should not. Instantly fall into internal relaxation. Breathe away your tensions. Your habitually anxious and resentful attitudes will fall away like leaves from a tree. They will be replaced by a clear mind that reveals what is best for you. Now you can do the best. 9. UNSEEN FUEL Want the fire of anger to fade out? Stop adding fuel! Try to see how you are tossing more logs on the fire without realizing it. Believing in a gloomy nature is fuel. Not seeing inner development as a law of life is more fuel. Obeying a harmful suggestion from your own mind is still more fuel for the fire of anger. Attention to this changes your whole appearance. The old fire gives way to a new glow, which is forever. 10. NEW THOUGHTS A famous spiritual teacher was noted for his short and pointed advice. One day a worried woman came to see him to repeatedly go over her sad story of loss, pain, persecution. When the teacher asked her if she wanted a complete solution to all her problems she nodded her head. The teacher then told her, Think about different things. He was telling her that solutions reside above the level of problems. So continue to climb upward. Happiness is higherness. If you treasure self-honesty and authentic spiritual development, dont miss this booklet. Visit the SuperWisdom Bookstore at: http://www.superwisdom.com/merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=SFNT

copyright 2004 by T.H. Russell copyright 1982 by New Life Foundation