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Oneunderstandingthatwillbringoutthe VIXENinher OneunderstandingthatwillbringoutherSOFT side MetaProgramsforColdReading OneoftheBESTWAYStoTRIGGERawomans Emotions HowtoLOCKINyourpositionwithawoman ThePrinciplethathopelesslydrawshertoyou HowtogetawomantodoANYTHING Onesurefirewaytoovercomeresistance DeepRapportBuilderTheme OneoftheBESTWAYStomakeawomanfeel comfortableandtoBUILDRAPPORT 2KEYStobuildingRapidRapportwitha woman
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ImaguywhocouldbeconsideredVERYsuccessfulwithwomen.Itwasnt alwaysso. Irememberalwaysbeinginterestedinwomen...eveninKindergarden.I remembertherewastheREALLYcutegirlnamedLaura.NowEVERYguyinthe classLOVEDher...andthiswasinKINDERGARDEN.Shehadthesecutelittle brownlocksandshewouldwearthoselittlerufflestights. Ievenrememberoneday,wewereallsittingcrossleggedonthefloor,andshe wasinfrontofmeandshestoodup...Icouldntresisttheurgetoflipupher dress!IgotbustedbytheteachersaidforthatIguessitallstartedearlyfor me. Thenin3rdgradeIremembersittingunderadeskwatchingamovieintheclass withthelightsturnedoffandtherewasacutegirlsittingundertherewithme. Thatwasmyfirstkiss! Anditwenton...in6thgradeIdatedGROUPSofgirlsandtheirfriends, switchingfromonegirltothenexteachweek.Itwasstillallinnocentbackthen... Now,incollegeIwasprettysuccessfulwithwomen.Ihungoutwithagroupof guysthatwereNaturalsandwewouldfrequentplacesthatchickshungout andalwayshaveagoodshareofwomenaround. NowitwasduringcollegethatIactuallystartedtoformallystudythisstuff.I learnedallkindsofdifferentsystemandreadallkindsofpoppsychology booksonrelationships. Aftercollege,IgotevenMOREintostudyingHypnosis,Persuasion,NLP, Psychology,Negotiation,Sales...younameit.AnythingthatIcouldapplyto Seduction.Andmyresultsstartedgettingmoreandmoreconsistent.Ivespent HOURSuponHOURSlearningthisstuffandactuallyDOINGIT. WhatsmoreisthatIfoundagroupoffriendsthatalsohadthesameinterestin thisstuffandwealllearnedandtaughteachother.Ivelistedtheseguysinthe specialthankssection.
Preface
ThisbookisaboutCharismaamongother things.Itsaboutskillfulhumaninteractionand mostofall,aboutGame. SowhatisthisthingcalledGame? Well,haveyoueverinteractedwithsomeone thatyouwerejustdrawnto?Maybeyoufeltan underlyingsenseoftrustandcomfort,and maybetherewascertainsmoothnessinthe waythattheyinteractedwithpeopleandthe waythatconversationjustflowed?And peoplewerejustdrawntothisperson naturally.Andthemoretimethatyouspend withthisperson,themoreyoufeelaconnection likebothofyouarecomingfromthesame placewheretimejustseemstostopandyoure completelywrappedupinthemoment engagedandcaptivated. HavingGameisaboutbeingabletocreate thesekindsofconnectionswhereveryougo withwhoeveryoumeet.Nowhowwouldyou liketohavemoreGame? Theunderlyingprinciplesdiscussedinthisbook canbeusedinvirtuallyanysocialcontextfrom dating,tothejob,tosocialinteractionswith friends.
NowGamecanbefurtherdividedintoInner gameandOutergame.Ivedoneextensive modelingofpeoplewhohaveGameandyoucan thinkofGameintermsofprocessandproduct. Productsarethesurfacelevelexpressionsof deeperintangibleprocesses.Itslikewhenyou seeripplesonthesurfaceofapond,andyou realizethattherearedeeperundercurrents whicharecausingthoseripples.Processesare thosedeeperundercurrents. IfirstofallpresentaMindset.Innergame thesearetheinternalbeliefs,attitudes,and valuesthatnaturallyflowfromasenseofwho youare,youridentity,andyoursenseofself meaning.Outergameskillsflownaturally fromagoodInnergame. InextpresentaSkillset.Outergamethese arethecapabilities,behaviors,skills,and strategiesthatcreateresults.Outergamecan feedbackintoInnergameaswellsothat whetheryoufocusonInnergameorOutergame
first,realizethatthetwoaretiedintoeachother andthatyourfocusiswhatsimportant. Wheneveryouseesomeonewhosdoing somethingthatworks,lookdeeper.Lookfor processaswellandyoumayjustfindsomething useful.Itskindofinterestingtonoticethat althoughtheoutergamemayvaryamong thosewhoaresuccessful,theInnergameis oftenverysimilar. Nowwhoisthisbookfor?Thisbookisfor anyonewhowantstoimprovetheirGame.If youreaSalesman,Marketer,Actor,Entertainer, Politician,Lawyer,Doctor,PublicSpeaker, Teacherthenyourpeopleskillsarevitalread on.IfyoureintheDatingGame,thenyoucan usethisbooktotakeittoawholenewlevel readon.Ifyouwanttoformadeepconnection withsomeone,orwithgroupsofpeoplethen readon. Ashumans,weneedhumaninteractiontonot onlysatisfyourneedsforconnection,buttohelp usdefinewhoweareandtomakemeaningout ofourlives.Wearecontinuallyconnectingand findingsimilaritiesanddifferencesbetween ourselvesandothers.Connectioniswhatmakes ushuman.ImprovingyourGamecantakethis towholenewlevel.
Mindsets,Identity,Beliefs, Values
HaveyourresultswithwomeneverbeenHitor Miss?Orsometimesitwaslikeyoujustdidnt FEELlikegettingAWESOMEresultswith womenwaspossibleforyou?Ormaybeyoufelt likegettingGORGEOUSwomenmaybe possible,butifyoudiditwouldjustbeLUCK!? Heyman,weveallbeenthereanditsnotafun placetobe.Imheretogetyouoverthatonce andforall.Inthisbookwegoingtocoveralotof groundandworkfromtheINSIDE OUT, fromMINDSETtoSKILLSET. BackinmyCollegedays,Ihadafriendthat ALWAYSseemedtohaveawomaninfact, SEVERALwomenthathecouldcallonvirtually everydayoftheweek.Hewasoneofthose FraternitytypeofguysalthoughIdontthink thatwashissecret.Hewasntparticularlygood lookingandhewasntricheither.Itwasntuntil
afterIstartedlearningthisstuffthatitbeganto makesense. NowwasthisguyjustaNymphomaniacorwas heaNymphomaniacthatIcouldactuallylearn somethingfrom!? OnedayIwasaskedhim,Sotellmeman,how isitthatyouseemtoalwayshaveawoman availableforyouandnotjustone,butseveral? Hetoldme,HowcouldyouNOT?!WhenI donthaveawoman,Ifeellikecrap.IguessI knowwhatIwantandIknowwhatIneed...I couldntimaginehavingitanyotherway. ThisguyLOVEDwomenandheknewit! Needlesstosay,thisisaguythatGOTIT. SonowthatIthinkbackonit,oneofthereasons hehadconsistentresultsisthathewasCLEAR onwhathewanted.Heknewthatwhenhe didnthaveawoman,hefeltlikecrapand havingawomanwasthebestthingintheworld. HewasavoidingPAINandpursuing PLEASURE.Talkaboutapowerfulmotivational driver!Ilaterfoundoutthatthiswascalleda PropulsionMechanismwhenyourmotivated bythePUSHofavoidingpainandthePULLof pursuingpleasure. Now,Ididntnecessarilywanttobecomea Nymphomaniac,buttherewassomepowerful motivationtheregoingonandIcouldlearn fromit. NowifIcouldjustcomeupwithawaytouse thatPropulsionSystemtomotivatenotonly MYSELF,buttheWOMENIwantedtobewith
NowImgoingtotalkalittleabouttheconcept ofInnerGamewhy?BecauseitsSOImportant. NowIveknownmanyguysthatwere Naturalsatseducingwomen.Guysthathave GAME.Now,Ihadalwaysbeenprettygood withwomenbutmyresultsbackthenwere inconsistent.Iwouldhangoutwithguysin collegeandwatchwhattheyweredoing.Id focusontheirstrategies,theirskillsand behaviorsbasicallyfocusingontheirOUTER GAME. Nowthethingwas,Istartedtryingsomeofthe thingsthattheyweredoingtheirtacticsand tricks,butIfoundthattherewassomething DEEPERgoingon.Theseguyshadacertainlevel
ofCONFIDENCEintheirskillswithwomen. Notonlythat,buttheyhadthingsprettywell togetherinotheraspectsoftheirlivesaswell. NowasItriedtheirtacticsandbehaviors,Idid starttogetmoreconsistentresultsbutONLYin proportiontohowtightmyINNERGAMEwas! YoucantaketheTIGHTESTskillsandtactics andteachthemtosomeoneandtheirresultsmay behitormissuntiltheygettheirINNERGAME builtup.
Creatively,andotherwise.AndIwasVERY confidentaboutmydirectionaswellasmy Musicianship.Nowthisfriendofminethatwas SOgoodwithwomenwouldsitinandplay guitarwithusonoccasioneventhoughhis musicalskillswerentallthatgreat. Wellafterpracticeoneday,Iwastellinghim aboutmywoeswiththis18yearchickandhe said,Youknowman,hereswhatyouneedto do...Youneedtohavethesamekindof confidencethatyouhaveinthisRockBand,with thisGirl. AndIthoughttomyself,Hesright! ItsapartofHAVINGVALUE,andthenatural confidencethatyouhaveinotherareasSPILLS OVERintoyourGAME.
deserve,thethingsthatyouarewillingtotake actionon...itallcomesfromwhatyoufocuson.
andAMAZINGbyanystandardsthatI wouldvehadbefore!
[Noticethatallofthesequestionspresupposeyour successwithwomen.Whenyouaskyourself questionslikethese,andreallyallowyourselfto goinsideandfindalltheanswerstothese questions...noticehowyourfocusshifts...notice howyoubegintoseeandfeelallthethingsthat workforyou...andsaythatasyourstateshifts, youwillbegintonoticethatyourfocushas changed...andnowyourbrainisprovingallthe thingsthatyouhaveaskedyourselftobetrue...]
A MENTAL SHIFT that will get you the BEST RESULTS with Women
Ifyouwereyouweretobelievethatsuccesswith womenmeantthatyouhadtogetlaidbyevery singlewomanyoumet...thenguesswhat...Your resultmaybehitormissatbest...andyoudbe focusedonfailureandthatwouldleadtomore failure.Whatfailurereallyis,isnotbeingableto feelanypleasurenomatterhowgoodyour resultswere.Dontsetyourcriteriaforsuccess toohigh. Forexample,thinkaboutthebaseballplayer SammySosa.Hemaynotbeabletocontrol whetherhecanhitahomeruneverytime.The ballmayspinacertainway,hitajetstream,or anoutfieldermayclimbthewallandcatchit. Thereareaninfinitenumberofvariableswhich hecantcontrol.Hecanfocusontheprocess: puttingapure,sweetswingontheball. Thinkingintermsofputtingleverageontheball andmaintainingthepoweroftheswinggives himmoreofanadvantage.Ifhethinksinterms ofhomersheactuallylosespowerandleverage byoverswingingandlungingatbadpitches.
2) Inthefirstbox,weseewhatyouwantmoreofor lackinyourlife.Andbytheway,thismodelof motivationalchangeappliesnotonlyto Seduction,buttoanyareaofyourlife.Theseare theReasonsthedrivesthatPUSHyouand theneedsthatmotivateyou.Asyougaina PHYSICALawarenessoftheselacks,a Dissatisfactionwithwhereyoureatnow BUILDS.Themotivationhereisprimarily PHYSICAL.ThishastheeffectofPUSHINGyou forward. GettingasolidKinestheticsenseofwhatyou lackHowdoesitFEELtonothavewhatyou want?FEELit 3) Inthelastbox,weseewhatispossible.Theseare theResultsthedrivesthatPULLyoufrom yourpresentcontextintowhatispossiblefor
you.Themotivationhereisprimarilycreated throughVERBAL/VISUAL/MENTAL stimulation.Asyoudothis,theanticipation BUILDS.SomeoftheVerbal/Mental/Visual techniquesthatcreatethisanticipationinclude: SelfValueElicitationwhichamplifiesyour motivationforchangeandputsyouontheright track Talkingaboutsex(Affirmations,Presuppositions Talkingasifyouvealreadyachievedyour results...) Thinkingaboutandassociatingyourselfinto yourresultsexperienceitasifnow,writeout anddiagramyourgoalsandresultstolockthem in Bearoundpeoplewhohaveachievedwhatyou wanttoachieve(Modelwhattheydo,gettothe rootoftheirbeliefsaboutwhattheydoandwho theyare,andhowtheyrelatetoothersandtheir environment
IrealizedthattherewereseveralthingsthatI wasdoingtocreateSexualTensioninwomen. FirstIfocusedonbuildingtheSexual Anticipation. Idothisbyhavingwomenfocusonwhythey likesex.AnddothisbyaskingSowhatisit aboutsexthatyoureallyenjoy?andasthey starttodescribeit,thetensionforitwithinthem startstobuild.ThenIask,Sowhatwoulditbe liketodothis?...andtheanticipationbuildsas theyimagineit. TheotherthingthatIdoistocreatephysical DISSATISFACTIONwithwheretheiratnow.In otherwords,Iteasethemphysicallyandmake themVERYHOT. These2thingstogether;ThePULLoftheSexual AnticipationandthePUSHoftheSexual DissatisfactionarewhatmakeuptheSexual TensionthatDRIVEStheSeduction.
OK,firstofall...getyourmindoutoftheGutter! Althoughtheremaysometruthtothat perspectiveaswellwewonttalkaboutthatfor now! Now,itspressurethatturnsarockintoa diamondright? ButyouwanttoavoidwhatIcallTheSuccess Trap.Satisfactionsapsmotivationfor improvingyourselfandsapsthefireina relationship. Sohowdoyouavoidstagnation:bothinyourself andinarelationship?KeepuptheTensionKEEP ITUP! Thatsright,itcanNEVERendbecauseonceit doesyoullstopgrowingasaperson,orina relationship,thingswillstaleout.
hot/coldphysicallyetc.)untilshehastoopenly wantitmorethanyoudo!Thesearethe REASONS. Andthenyoualsoguideherimaginationandlet hervisualizeandimaginetheSeduction.These aretheRESULTS. ThiscreatestheAnticipationandDissatisfaction THESEXUALTENSIONthatbuildsthe pressureuntilherbuyingtemperatureisabout readytoexplode!
Afewyearsback,agoodfriendofmineJosh Swinggcat(checkouthiswebsiteandebookat www.realworldseduction.com)andIwere talkingaboutdistillingthecorebeliefsofguys thatweresuccessfulwithwomen. Ofcoursethereweremanyqualitiesthatwe cameupwithfromFlexibility,toCalibration skills,butoneofthemostimportantprinciples thatcameupwasBeingthePrize. SowhatdoesitmeantoBethePrize?Well,the CHICKequivalenttothisconceptisBEA CREATUREUNLIKEANYOTHERImthose ofyouthathavereadthatRULEbook recognizethis. IwouldsaythatbeingthePrizemeansthatyou knowatadeeplevelthatyouareacatchthat anywomanwouldbeluckytobewithyou.You haveValue. Nowheresanassignment: 1)Idlikeyoutomakealistofallthethings thatyouaregoodatandallthepositivequalities thatyouhave. Everyonehasthesequalitiesandeveryoneis different.Ifyouhaveanydifficulty,havea femalefriendhelpyoulistoutthesequalities andabilitiessothatyouhaveactualconfirmation
fromafemale.Ifyoudonthaveafemale availablegetanoutsideopinionfromafriend. 2)Now,asyouwriteoutallthesepositive traitsandqualities,takea2ndperson perspectiveandstarttoformamentalpictureof howsomeonewouldseeyouhavingallthese traitsandqualities. 3)NowIwantyoutophysicallySTEPIN, thatsrightgetoffyourbuttandSTEPINto whereyouseeyourself Now,youknowyouregreatandyoucanhave thequietselfconfidencethatifsomeonereally knewyou,theywouldthinkthesamething.If yougetaresponsefromawomenthatcouldve beenviewedasnegativebefore,fromnowon youknowthatitseitherbecausetheyjustdont knowyouyetoritsjusttheirautomatic behavior.Thequestionis,dotheydeservetobe withyou? 4)Cultivateyourself Findthethingsyouaregoodat,developyour interests,excelatwhatyouchooseasyour interests,andliveyourlifepassionately.Thisis whywomenareattractedtomenwhoaregood atwhattheydoandwhenamanexcelsinher presence.Ithastodowithdemonstratingvalue toher
DoesthisreallyseemlikeaNOVELCONCEPT!? Youknow,asbasicasitseems,therearetoo manyguyswillingtothrowtheirstandardsto thewindatthemereCHANCEofhavinga beautifulwoman. Thatsrightyouneedtoactuallyhave standardsandifawomanfailstomeetthose standardsthenyouneedtobeabletowalk away.Itsnotworthyourtime.Andyouknow what?Womenhaveasixthsenseandalotmore attractionforaguywithstandardswhoswilling towalkaway! Herearethe3questions:
Nowafteryouvedonethisfor3separatequalities, hereswhatIwantyoutodo: 1)Rankthesethreeinorderofimportancetoyou 2) Lookatthislist.Nowyouknowthatthisiswhat youarereallyafterinyourinteractionswith womenanythingelseisjustamomentary distraction.Ifawomancantfulfillthese qualitiesinthewaythatyouwantthemtobe fulfilled,orifshedoesntevenwanttotrythen yourewastingyourtimewithhermoveon. 3) Whenyouinteractwithwomenfromnowon, askyourself,Canshemeetmyvaluesina woman?Andthenyoucanchallengeherifyou thinkshemaybeableto.Womenrespondtoa challenge. 4) Forexampleifyouwantsomeonethats adventurousandopenmindedyoumaysay,I dontknowaboutyouitmaynotworkout betweenusbecauseyouseemalittleold fashionedandImlookingforsomeonewithabit moreofanedge.Ifshehasanyedgetoherat all,shellbemorethanhappytogooutofher waytomakesureyouseethatsideofher!
IwaswatchingaTVshowwithagirland DonaldTrumpcameonandshesaidtome,He issooohot!Ilookedatherandsaid,Sowhatis itabouthimthatshot?Shesaid,Wellhesa billionaireforonething...andIdontknow...hes justhot!AndIthoughtaboutthat.ThenIasked her,Sowhatwouldbemoreattractivetoyou someonewhowasbornintomoneywherethey inheritedafortune,orsomeonethatwasthe kindofpersonwhohadtheskillsandabilities thatactuallywentoutthereandmadetheir billiondollars?Shesaid,Theguywhohadthe skillsofcourse! Womenseemtohavebuiltinwinner/loser detectorsforsensingguysthateitherhave somethinggoingforthemvs.guysthatdont.Its probablysomekindofunconsciousevolutionary basedmechanismforfindingasuitablemate... AndnomatterhowtightsomeonesOuter gameis,iftheydonthaveanythingelsegoing forthem(Innergame)thenwomenwillknow itandbeoutofthere. Soifyoulookatthediagrambelow,youseethat OuterValueandInnerValueareinterrelated. OuterValueisthePRODUCTofthePROCESSof InnerValue.Sowhatcomesfirst,thechickenor theegg?Wellinthiscase,theycome TOGETHERtheyareBOTHreflectionsofeach otherasamatterofperspective.
seekingapermanentmate,womennotonlyseek menwithresources,butwithqualitiesthatlead totheaccumulationofresources likeambition,status,intelligence,age,health... 2)Realizethatallwomenwantsomething. Whetheritbeexcitement,adventure,security, love,respect...whateveritis,youneedtofind outwhatitisthat makesherhappyandwhatmakeshersmile. Findouthercriteriaforbeinghappy.AValue Elicitationcoulddothiseasilyand giveyouhercriteria(Howdoyouknowwhen youhaveX?andWhatisitlikewhenyouhave X?). Awomanwillchooseamanthatseemstobe abletodeliver.Shehastoknowthatyoucan deliver,andwhatisitthatyouare deliveringreally?FEELINGS. Manywomenhaveanunderlyingfeelingthat theyareheldcaptivebytheirwork,life,bills, REALITY...Whydoyouthinkthat womengotochickflickmovies,readromance novels,watchsoapoperas?Itsbecausethey haveneedsthatarentbeingmetand theyaretryingtheirbest(unconsciously)tomeet them.Work,home,bills,etc.allthingsthat TAKE...andyouaretheone thingthatseemstobeabletoGIVE.Howcanshe resist? 3)Mostwomenareneversatisfied Inallareas...fromsexualitytoselfesteemto career,toLIFE.Therearemanywomenthat wanttoliveinaTVworldwherenothingis mundane...wherethereisdangerand spontaneity...adventure...theneedtobe
rescued.Manywomenwillcreatethisdrama becausethey wantitsomuch. TENSIONatwork! HeressomethingthatIgotturnedontoby DavidDeAngelo( www.DoubleYourDating.com): WhatsheSAYS=WhatsheTHINKS(Which maybejustsocialandculturalprogramming), WhatsheDOES=WhatsheFEELS. THISisimportant.Thisiswhyifyoudontknow thislittlefact,womencanSEEMsoconfusing... sayingonethinganddoinganother. Appearingtochangetheirmindatamoments notice.Idsaythat99.99%ofmendontknow thislittlefactandiftheydid...wellthenit wouldbeadifferentworldoutthere. Thisiswhatisbeingspokenunderneathwhatis actuallyspoken.
Persistence Nowisthemomentofpower (everythingisrelative,powerincreaseswith sensoryattention) Love Toloveistobehappywith (Loveincreasesasjudgmentdecreases, Everythingisalive,aware,andresponsive) Confidence AllPowercomesfromwithin (everythinghaspower,powercomesfrom authority) Wisdom Effectivenessisthemeasureoftruth (thereisalwaysanotherwaytodoanything, themeansdeterminestheend)
Skillsets,Strategies,Techniques,and Tactics
Nowletslookatwhatsgoingonhere: 1) Inthecenterbox,weseewhereawomanis presently.Thisishercurrentsituationalcontext. Shemaybereadytohookup,shemayneedto bemotivated,shemaynotbeinthemoodyet Thisisalsothecontextoftheenvironment. Whereissherightnow?Isthisanatmosphere thatsconducivetoseduction? 2) Inthefirstbox,weseewhatawomanwants moreoforlacksinherlife.Thesearethe ReasonsthedrivesthatPUSHherandthe needsthatmotivateher.Asshegainsa PHYSICALawarenessoftheselacks,aSexual Dissatisfactionwithwheresheisatnow BUILDS.Themotivationhereisprimarily PHYSICAL.ThishastheeffectofPUSHINGher forward.Someofthephysicaltechniquesthat createthisdissatisfactioninclude: BeingphysicallyHOTandthenCOLDTurn heronphysically,thenSTOP,thenturnheron physically,thenSTOP Dothiswithteasingflirtatioustouchingand caressing,likemassagingherneck,brushingher neckwithyourlips,nibblingonherears, strokingtheinsidesofherarms Makesurenottocrossthelineintosexualtouch, dontfullonkissheryetortouchher breasts/genitalareayetyouwanttobuildthe
tensionFIRSTandmakeherphysicallyawareof whatsheLACKS. 3) Inthelastbox,weseewhatispossible.Theseare theResultsthedrivesthatPULLherfrom herpresentcontextintoSeduction.The motivationhereisprimarilycreatedthrough VERBAL/VISUAL/MENTALstimulation.Asshe isstimulated,theanticipationBUILDSandamps upherbuyingtemperature.Someofthe Verbal/Mental/Visualtechniquesthatcreatethis anticipationinclude: SexualValueElicitationwhichelicitsasexual state Talkingaboutsex(Describinghowanorgasm feels,howdifferentpositionsfeel) Thinkingaboutsex Visualizingsex(Canbevisualizedinmanuals, books,movies,etc.) 4) BothSexualDissatisfactionandSexual AnticipationcreatetheSexualTensionthat propelstotheSeduction.ThisisbothPushing andPullingatthesametimethroughboth PhysicalandVerbal/Mental/Visualstimulation
SowhatisOUTERGAME?Quitesimply,itsthe SKILLSETS,strategies,techniquesandtactics thatEVOLVEfromaninterplaybetweenInner Gameandwhatevercontextyouhappentobein. Thinkofitlikethis:Thesearethesurfaceripples onthepondandtranslateintowhatis OBSERVABLEinwhatyoudoandinyour results.Dependingonthecontextofasituation, differentskillsetsmayevolveandaswellas differentstrategies.Thelawofrequisitevariety statesthatthepersonwiththemostoptionsand choicesinagivensituationwillbethemost successful.Solearnasmanyskillsetsasyoucan andtrythemoutinvaryingcontexts.Youhave tofindwhatfitsbestforyouandwhatmostof allbringsoutyourownnaturalqualities. SeductiontakesplaceINTHEMOMENT.Now, thisconceptisoneoftheKEYStoseduction! Thinkaboutthis...thismeansthatawomanhas tobeASSOCIATEDintotheexperience.She cantbeDISASSOCIATEDfromtheexperience withyouandthinkinglogicallyorthinking aboutthedishesoranyotherworriesoftheday. Inthecomingchapters,Illtellyoumymethod forgettingawomanfullyassociatedintothe experienceandFEELINGrememberthat throughoutallthediscussionsaboutthis techniqueorthat,yourPRIMARYgoalistoget herfeelingbecausefeelingleadstoaction. Thisiswhatseductionisabout. YoucanalsobreakdownSeductionSequentially: MyfriendErikMysteryVonMarkovikhasa GREATformatfordoingthat.
Checkouthissiteatwww.MysteryMethod.com
1) EarlyGameAttractionstage Thisiswhereyouopen,yourapproach,your walkup.Therearemanydifferentideasabout thisstage,butmostofallyouneedtobe interestingandconveyvalue.Thesparkof attractionoccurswithinthefirst30secondsof whenawomansattentionisonyouItseither thereoritisnt.Butallyouneedisthatsparkand whatyoudointhenextstagecanampupthe attraction. 2) MidGameComfortandRapportstage MostofthematerialpresentedhereisforMid Game.Thegoalofthestageistogetawoman comfortable.Nowyouarenttryingtobea friendbecauseatthesametimeyouwantto keeptheattractiongoingandtocyclebackand forthbetweentheattractionandcomfortstages untilthemomentumofthesepropelsyoutothe EndGame. 3) EndGameSexualstage Thisisit.Thisisthestagewhereyouarealone withawomanandthevibeisright.Thecomfort isthereandyouveampedupthesexual attraction.Theenvironmentisperfect.Ipresenta fewofmymethodsforgainingmomentumin thisstageaswellasovercomingresistance.
How to communicate with a woman in a way that will BLOW her MIND!
DoyouwanttoBLOWawomansmindwiththe waythatyoucommunicatewithher?Idontcare HOWgoodlookingyouare,ifyoucant communicatewithherthenitllbeover,...or shelljusttellyoutoshutupandgetdownto businessifyouregoodlookingenoughandif sheshorny!Goodlooksmaybehowawoman decidestotalktoyou,buthowyou communicatewithherishowyoullgetLAID! Now,communicationiswhatitsallabout.This ishowweinteractwitheachotherandyoucant NOTcommunicate.Everythingthatyoudo,say, dontdo,dontsaythewayyoulook,what youwear,whatyoudontwearitallsays somethingaboutyou. Sothequestionis...whatareyoucommunicating topeople? EarlyonasIwaslearningaboutvarious seductionsystemsIhadafriendwhoIdgo hangoutwithandIdwatchhimapproach womenandwatchtheirresponses. Nownottomakehimsoundbad,buttheguy didntcombhishair,hehadbadacne,helooked somewhatdisheveledmostofthetime,hehad hiseyebrowsinapermanentscowl...hisbreath smelled,hisshirtwasuntucked...ImeanGeez!...
Yougetthepicture. HedjustWALKUPtoawomanandshedlook athimandsuddenlyherfacewouldgointo PANICMODE! Nowwetriedtohelphimwiththosethingsbut thatwasjusthim...hedidntreallyGETIT. Nowwhatwashecommunicatingtowomen beforeheevenopenedhisMOUTH!?Ihaveto giveittotheguythough...hewasan APPROACHMACHINE...kindoflikeaboxer thatjustWONTFALLDOWNaftergettingbeat andbeatandbeat...! Anyway,YouGETIT! Sonow,letslookatthewaysthatwe communicateandIllgiveyousomeofmy insightintotheseways: 1) WordsWHATissaid Alotofguyswillmemorizecertainthingstosay likepatternsthinkingthattheyhavetogetthe wordsperfectandthattheyhavetosaythe wordsinacertainorder.Alotoftimesitjust endsupsoundingunnaturallikeasales pitch. EventheirOWNEYESglossoverwhenthey startintotheirSCHPIEL!!! YoucanalwaystellwhensomeoneistalkingAT youvs.talkingWITHyou. Now,dontgetmewrongthough...Ifyoutalk withtherighttonalityandhavetherightbody language,itoftendoesntmatterWHATyousay, somuchasHOWyousayit.
Nowgetreadytoblowtheirmindsbecausethe nextlevelswillgetyoudoingjustTHAT.Thisis whenyoutalktothemonTHEdeeperlevels. 2)TonalityandBodyLanguageHOW thingsaresaid Tonalityandbodylanguagebothgivepowerto thewordsthatweuseandcanamplifythe meaningofwhatwesay.LikeIsaidbefore, sometimesitdoesntevenmatterWHATyou say,somuchasHOWyousayit.. 3)MeaningWHYthingsaresaidandthe interpretingthecontextinwhichthingsaresaid Haveyoueverbeentalkingtoawomanandshe goesONandONandstartssoundinglikethose littlecharactersfromthatSIMScomputergame? BLAHblahblahblah....blahBLAH?blah blah...!ohhhh...Blah...! Andyourethinking,whattheHellisshetelling methisfor!? Weveallbeenthere...buttheREASONthatshe keepsgoingONanONisbecauseshehasa NEED.andshellKEEPgoingonandONuntil ONE,eitheryouputyourhandoverhermouth, orTWO,youaddressTHATNEEDandlether knowyouHEARHERNEED. Now,mostwomenjustGETTHISlevel NATURALLY. TheyreALWAYSreadingbetweenthelinesand INTERPRETINGwhatissaid.Theyrelikelittle detectiveswhohavetotrytofigureeverything out!
Now,theresjustacertainwaythatItalk.Andif youdothistoo..andwomenwillfeellikeyoure LISTENINGTOTHEM. EvenifyourejustsayingtheWORDSImgoing totellyou.Inotherwords,youcanPRETEND, andGETAWAYWITHIT! Seriouslythough,Deepcommunicationiswhat givesyouinsightintotheirworld,intotheirview oflife,theirperspective,andmostofallishowI elicitaRomanticoranyotherstate. Heresanexamplethatillustratesthedifference betweenDeepandSuperficial Communication.
NowontotheWORDSTOSAY:SOWHATIS ITABOUT...?andSOWHATISITLIKE...? NowfirstwhatNOTtodo Question:Whatdoyouenjoy? Superficial(Thisiswhatyouwanttoavoid itsfineearlyon,butasyoubuildrapport,go forDEEPERcommunication) ExampleShesaysDancing: GuySowheredoyoudance? Girl:Atsuchandsuchclub. Guy:Sowhatkindofdancingdoyoudo? Girl:Ohtechnotype Guy:Sohowlonghaveyoubeendancing? Girl:Mywholelife. Seewherethisgoes...NOWHERE.Butthething isthatMOSTGUYScommunicatelikethis! NowcontrastthistoDeepCommunication (XandYjustrepresentherspecificresponses thatyoucanfilltheblanksinwith) Me:Whatdoyoureallyenjoy? Her:Dancing: Me:SOWHATISITABOUTdancingthatyou reallyenjoy? Her:IreallyenjoyXanddoingthistypeofthing. Me:SowhenyouredoingX,andyourereally startingtogetintoit,whatisthislike?(Youare EVOKINGTHEFEELINGNOW) Her:ItslikeY Me:YouknowwhenIvedancedbeforeits almostlikeyourexperiencewhereyoucando X....andfeelY...itsjustamazing(Andadding YOURperspectiveusingHERwords!)Bynow shesgoingglassyeyedbecauseshesFEELING soGOOD.
Heresanotherexample:ShesaysMusic IdwanttoavoidSuperficialresponseslike WhatkindofmusicWhatgroupsdoyou like?etc. GOwithDeepcommunication: Me:SOWHATISITABOUTmusicthatyou enjoy?oryoucouldsay,SOWHATDOYOU REALLYENJOYABOUTmusic? Her:ShesaysIfeelXorifshesaysIlikeX. ThenIdsaySohowdoesXmakeyoufeel? Me:Sowhenyourelisteningtomusicandreally feelingit...WHATISITLIKEforyou? Her:ShesaysY Me:Ilikethat...Youknow,Iknowformewhen Ilistentomusicitsalmostlikeyourexperience alsowhereyoucanfeelXandyoustarttoY.... itsamazing Again...Glassyeyed! NOWwhatsMOREisthatyoucanusethisto getawomanintoaSEXUALMODE: Me:SOWHATISITABOUTsexthatyou enjoy? Her:IlikeX Me:SowhenyouhaveXandyourereally enjoyingit,WHATISITLIKE? AndBooom...shegoesRIGHTINTOTHE FEELING!hermindhasgoneSEXUAL,you canBETthatshellbenotonlyFEELINGIT
PHYSICALLYbutthatnowshellbemuch morereceptivetoSEX.
Nowthefirststepintrulyconnectingisbeing abletostepoutsideyourownFILTERSandnot justseeingtheotherpersonsperspectivebut sharingit. Now,shockingasitmaybetherearealotof peoplewhoactuallyhavetroublewiththis! TheresabookonEmotionalIntelligenceby DanielGoleman.Youmayevenwanttocheck thisbookoutifyoudliketohavebetter connectionswithpeople. EmotionalIntelligenceisbeingableto understandoneselfaswellasothers,beingable tocontrolemotions(ornot),andbeingableto havetherightdegreeofemotionattherighttime fortherightreasonfortherightduration. NowthisguyGolemantalksabouthow EmotionalIntelligencecanapplytothebroader contextofliving,statingthatonesemotional intelligence(TheEQ)isevenmoreimportant thanIQwhenyoulookatthingslikebeing successfulinmanypartsoflifefrompersonal relationshipstoprofessionalrelationships,self satisfactionandselfgrowth. Sowhatisamajortoolthatyoucanusetoseeif whatyouredoingisworking?CALIBRATION noticeawomansresponses. Calibrationisfeedback.Wouldyouwantto driveacarwithoutthefeedbackofseeingthe road,orwithoutfeelingthesteeringwheel? Calibrationtellsyouwhenyoucanturnitonfull blastorwhenyouhavetotoneitdown.Its aboutgettingoutsideofyourownheadandinto theinteraction.
One MAJOR KEY to getting a woman to VALUE you Giveawomanthegift ofworkingforyou. Shellvalueyoumore forit.
2) Emotionalengagement Youcangetawomanemotionallyengagedby openingupheremotionalsideandsharingit withher.Shareherhopes,dreamsforthefuture, andvalues. Inaddition,youcantalktoheraboutthe FUTUREandbuildapictureofitwithyouboth togetherifshebringsitupfirstNowdothis onlyifyouMEANitOtherwiseyoudbe PLAYINGwithherheartandthatsbadKarma. Takeyourtime,andcalibrateher.Youcanalso letherdreamaboutyouandyourfuture togetherwithoutyouhavingtobringitup.This willcausehertoinvestalotofemotionalenergy inyouandinherhopesfortherelationship. 3) Timeengagement
ThemoreTIMEthatawomanspendswithyou, themoreTIMEENGAGEDshewillbecome.She willbealotmoredevotedtosomeonethatshe hasbeenwithforyearsthanastranger.Alsothe moretimeshespendswinningyouover,the morevaluableyouwillbetoher.Peopletendto placeahighervalueonwhattheyhavetowork hardforandwhattheyhavetopaymorefor. 4) Socialengagement ThemoreSOCIALTIESthebothofyoushare, thehigherthevalueoftherelationshiptoher. Whenyouvemetherfamily,friends,coworkers andyousharecommonfriends,andshesmet andsharesyours,shellvalueyouMORE.
One change in the way you SAY something that will get her to LINK what she FEELS to you
NowhowdoIputmyselfinthosefiles?Many differentways,fromactuallydemonstrating value,totellingstoriesabouthowinthepastyou metthosevalues,tousinglinkagewordslike THISperson(vs.THATperson)andTHESE things(vs.THOSEthings)thatassociateherinto theexperience. OnamoresubtleNeurolinguisticlevel,people willLOOKtocertainplacesandusecertain gesturesandsaycertainwordswhentheyopen theirparticularfiles.Noticingtheseiswhat calibratingisabout. Inoticethesethingsandmirrorthemback.These aresocalledAnchorsthatlinkexternalto internalreality.LikePavlovsDog. Itsbettertousesomeonesownanchorthan tryingtocreateanewone
PhonegameisaformofIsolationbecausein ordertotalktoyoushehastoengage.Sousethis toyouradvantage.Remember,thereare primarily2goalsofthephonegame: 1)ComfortbuildingThephoneisanother comfortbuildinglocation IfIdecidethatIwanttocomfortbuildwithagal, thenIllusesomeofmycomfortbuildingthemes onthephone.Butyouhavetokeepinmindthat thereisafinelinebetweentalkingtoomuchand talkingtoolittleonthephone.Ifyoutalktoo much,theymaygetstuckinfantasyland.You dontwanttostallthere.Findthatspotand keepitmovingtothenextgoalSettingupa meeting. 2)Tosetupameet Ifyourefollowinguponaphonenumberthat youvegotten,itsimperativethatyoutakeitto thenextlevelonthatfirstphonecall.Ifyou dont,youriskstalling...whichcouldlandyouin letsjustbefriendsland.Sokeepthemomentum fromtheinitialattractiongoing. Ifboththecomfortandattractionarealready thereandyouvegottengoodsignalsofinterest fromherindicatingboth,thenkeepthephone callshortandsweet.Theprimarygoalshouldbe tosetupameeting.
You:Sowhenyourewithaguy,whatquality wouldyouwanttohaveintherelationship? Her:Xquality(honesty,closeness, passionetc.) You:SohowdoyouknowwhenyouhaveX quality? Her:IhaveY/IdoY/IfeelY You:SohowdoyoufeelwhenyouhaveX,and youredoingY? Her:Z(fulfillment,awesome,peacefuletc.)
You:SoZiswhatyourereallyafterItsall aboutfeelingZ.
Youcanrepeatfor3values.
OneofthethingsthatIdoearlyonistogivea womanasensethatthereissomethingmore. Imaystartoffasbeingoverlyconfidentand teaseherjustlikeagoodseducerwouldbut thenIllletherdiscoverthatIkeepajournal... ordropalineaboutsomerandomactof kindnessthatIjustdid...ormentionsomething thatIdidformymomrecently(Itookmymom outfordinnerlastValentinesday)...asoft side. AndIjustleaveitatthat...aonesentencehint aboutwhatIdidordo,andthenmoveontothe nexttopicasifIdontreallywanttotalkaboutit. Iftheydontaskaboutit,youcanbettheyre thinkingaboutitandwillbringituplater. IftheydoaskaboutitImaymentionalittle moreandthensay,Itsnotreallyabigdeal... itsjustme.Andthenshebeginstofindout whatagreatguyyouare...andhumbleto becauseyoudonttalkaboutitmuch. IcallthistechniqueofmineBaiting.Because itswhatyouoffertohookthemin.
Youputonyourbedroomeyesandsexualsmile, andstaresintohereyes.Shelooksup occasionallyandsmilesatyounervously.Youre leaningforwardonyourelbows,headinhands. Youreachslowlytoherneckandpullher necklacefrombetweenhercleavage. Canyoufeelthevibehere? IknowtheresbeentimesIvefeltittooandIve triedtoputmyfingeronwhatitisthatmakes thispossible.Nowkeepinmindthatamajor portionofseductionispsychological,butthereis alsoaphysicalelement. PartofwhatmakesSexualRapportpossibleisa basicunspokenunderstanding.The understandingisthatSexisgoingtohappenand thatitisinevitable.Nowamancanprojectthis sexualrapportsoconvincinglythatitdrawsa womanin. NowhowdoyouknowthatSexualRapportis present?Well,thatsliketryingtodescribethe windortheripplesonthesurfaceofapond.All youcandoisdescribetheeffectsandsignsthat thewindisthereordescribetheripplesonthe surfaceofthepondknowingthatthedeeper currentsarecreatingthem.Theunderlying processesaredrivenbytheunspoken understanding,theassumption,andthevibe whenyouknowthatitson. Therearealsoenvironmentalcuestoaccelerate thevibe.Theseincludesoftmusic,flickering candlelight,thesoundofflowingwater,dim lights,andfood. Herearesomeofthephysicalcuesthatshow thatthisRapportispresentandalsobeaware
thatthisSexualRapportcanbemodeledaswell. Inotherwords,imaginethattheripplesonthe surfaceofapondactuallycreatethedeeper currents.Mindblowinghuh?Butintherealmof Rapportandhumaninteraction,thisishowit canwork. EarlyGame Bodyposture:stretchedout,layingbackrelaxed, stretchingarms,takingupalotofspace Eyebrowflashcombinedwithasmilecoy glance,anexpressioncombiningahalfsmile andloweredeyes Signsfromawoman:neckpresentation.The womansheadtiltedsidewaysOccasionallythe womanmaystrokeherexposedneckareawith herfingers Smiling MidGame facetoface,eyebrowflash,whisper Somebodycontact,handhold(brief) Sometimesplayingwithanobject,called objectcaress.Forexample,keysorringsare oftenfondled.,caress(face/hair) Strokingthethighandinnerleg,caress(leg) caress(arm),caress(torso),andcaress(back) BodypostureLeanforward/back accidentalbreasttouch/brushoccurredwhen briefbodycontact(lessthan5seconds)
Kneetouchthelegsmaybebroughtintocontact withthemanslegssothatthekneestouch,one anotherwhileseated Thightouch,seatedsidebyside Foottofootmayresultinthewomanmovingher footsothatitrestsontopofthemansfoot Gesturesshoulderhug:partiallyflexedarmwas drapedonandaroundanotherpersonsshoulder Lateralbodycontactmaybesimilartoshoulder hugexceptthatthewomanmovesunderthe mansarmsothathisarmisdrapedaroundher shouldersratherthanviceversa Frontalbodycontactoccurswhenthechestand thighsofthewomanrestsagainstthechestand thighsoftheman Play,thesebehaviorsconsistofonepinchingthe other,tickling,stickingouttheirtongue,of approachingfrombehindcoveringtheeyes Womenmaysitonthemanslap Wholebodymovement:Paradeconsistsofthe womanwalkingacrosstheroom,perhapsonher waytothebarortherestroom.Yetratherthan maintainingarelaxedattitude,thewoman exaggeratestheswayingmotionofherhips.Her stomachisheldinandherbackisarchedsothat herbreastsarepushedout;herheadisheldhigh Dancingbehaviorisoneofthemostfrequently seensignals.Itscalledthesolitarydance because,whileseatedorstanding,thewoman movesherbodyintimetothemusic. EndGame
Sohowcanitbeusefultoknowwhereyoureat intheCourtshipstages?Firstofall,Idont believethateverywomanwillfitintothese patterns,butithelpstoknowthepatternsthat mostwomenwillgenerallyfallinto,sothatyou knowhowtoadjustyourapproachandhavea generalideaofwhereyoureatintheprocess. AccordingtoEvolutionaryPsychology,women givecertainsignalsandsexualcuestomen thatinviteanapproach.Infactaccordingto socialscientistGivenstherearefourphasesof courtship.Andheindicatesthatitisoftenthe femalewhocontrolsinteractionintheseearly phases.EarlyGameisbasedonAttraction,Mid GameisbasedonComfortandRapport,and EndGameisbasedonSexualarousal. 1) Attentionphaseattraction Theessenceisofthisphaseisambivalence. Femalebehaviorsduringthisstagemayinclude primping,objectcaressing,andglancingatand thenawayfromthemale. 2) Recognitionphaseattraction Femalebehaviorsmayincludeheadcocking, pouting,primping,eyebrowflashingand smiling. 3) Interactionstagecomfortandrapport Inthisstage,conversationisinitiatedandthe femalemayappearhighlyanimated,excited, laughing,smiling,withfrequentgesturing. 4) Sexualarousalphase Touchinggesturesareexchanged.Couplesmay holdhands,caress,hug,orkiss. Inaddition,therearecertainstepsthatare commonlypredictableinamale/femalesexual interaction.AsocialscientistnamedMorris
suggestedthattherewere12stepsthatcouples inWesternculturegothroughfrominitial contactthroughintimacy.Heindicatedthatthe stepshaveanorderthatusuallyisfollowedin female/malerelationships.Thestepsareas follows: 1)eyetobody 2)eyetoeye 3)voicetovoice, 4)handtohand 5)armtoshoulder, 6)armtowaist 7)mouthtomouth 8)handtohead 9)handtobody 10)mouthtobreast 11)handtogenitals 12)genitalstogenitalsormouthtogenitals Nowifyouskipsstepsorfailtorespondtoa stepyoucouldbeseenasfastorslow.Butalso keepinmindthatnoteverywomanfollowsthis rule.Forexample,somewomenhavehangups incertainareaslikekissing.Dontletablockina certainpartofthissequencestopyoufrom progressingtooratleasttestingthenextone. Youmayevenfindyourownbridging techniquestomovefromonesteptothenext. Thepointistorealizewhatsequenceworksfor youandtobeabletoflowfromonesteptothe next.Also,havetheflexibilitytotakewhata womanoffersyouandtousethattogainthe momentumtotakeittothenextstep.
The little known principle that will make her obey you completely
Haveyouevernoticedhowloverstalktoeach otherandhowtheyactaroundeachother? Duringcollege,Iwaswatchingaroommateof mineandhisgirlfriendinteractonedayandthis occurredtome.Theyweresittingthereonthe couchcuddling,holdingeachotherandtalking babytalktoeachother.Hewouldevencallher babyandyoushouldveseenhowtheyacted whentheythoughtnoonewaslooking.Iwas actuallykindofembarrassedforhim.Hewas thisbigmachoguyandshewasnormallya strongwilledconfidentwomanbutaround eachotherwhentheythoughtnoonewas payingattention,theybothbecamebabylike theybothregressed.Imsureyouknowexactly whatImtalkingabout.Youmayhaveevenbeen therebefore. Sowhatisregressionandhowdoesitplayinto Seduction?Quitesimply,regressionisareturnto apreviousstageofpsychologicaldevelopment. Somephilosopherswouldsaythatloveitselfis aregressionofsorts,andthatthedesireforlove isactuallymotivatedbyaparentalbondthat developedduringinfancyandchildhood.You canactuallyacceleratetheseductionprocessby regressingyourtargetbyusingsomeofthe followingtechniquesandconcepts. 1)Comfortandtrustareaprerequisiteto regression
RememberEricksonsstagesofdevelopmentin Psychology101?Thefirststageduringinfancyis Trustvs.Mistrust.Trustandcomfortarethe keysthatleadbacktothisstage. 2)Teasing Sowhydoesteasingworksowellforregression? Womenlovetofeelliketeenagersforonething. Ofcoursetheywouldneveradmittothisandit wasduringthistimewhentheywere discoveringtheirsexualityandwhentheywere havingfirstcrushes.Itwasalsoduringthis timethattheywereoutchasingboysmore actively,beforetheboysstartedchasingthem. Youcanteaseawomanverballyandalsoyou candothingsthatteaseherphysicallylike snappingabrastrap,givingheraraspberry, orevenanuggie.Althoughtheymaysaythey hateit,manywomenactuallylovethiskindof thing. 3)BeingtheTherapist Althoughthisapproachcanbecontroversial,it actuallycancausearegressionquiteeffectively maybeevendangerouslyso.Psychoanalysts havecalledthisregressioneffecttransference becauseasthepersontalksabouttheirchildhood andpastmemories,theytransfertheirparental fatherfigurebondtotheirtherapist.Freud actuallyusedthismethodinPsychotherapyand heendedupwithanumberofhispatients obsessedandfallinginlovewithhim. Sohowwouldyouusethis?Getthewomanto talkaboutherchildhood.Haveherdescribeher firstmemorieswithyou,whatshewaslikeasa littlegirl,ifshehadasafeplaceorafavorite
placethatshewouldgotoplay.Alsohaveher describeherfirstcrushandherfirstkisswhat itwaslikeandallthedetailsaboutit. 4)Youcanregressheroryoucanregresswithher Regressingawomanislikehavingthefather figuredynamic.Somewomenwantthisatan unconsciouslevelactuallyandyoullrecognize thesewomenbythedemandsthattheymakeon you.Theyarelookingforsomeonetotakecareof thememotionally,physically,mentally.Butit canbeverydrainingunlessthisisthedynamic thatyouknowaswell. Regressingalongwithawomanismucheasier Idontneedtosaymuchaboutthis,although dontbelikemycollegeroommate.Keepsome shredofyourmasculinityintact!Onedayshe maywakeupfromhertranceandthinkWhat awuss!Beingtenderandsweetattimesis enoughbutonlywhenshegoesfirstandwhen shesearnedit! 5)MoreonNonVerbalregression Cuddling Feedingher(yourhandstohermouth) Lettinghersuckonthings(yourfingers,candy, etc.) Protectivetouch:(yourarmaroundherina crowd) Spanking Playfultouch:(lightroughhousing)
Me:...andeventhoughyouveneverdoneX, thereisstillapartofyouthatwonderswhatit wouldbelike...holdthatthought...because maybetheresevenapartofyouthatreally wantstodoitandwouldreallyenjoyit. Her:Idontknow...maybe. Me:Soifyouweretostepintothispartof yourself...andimaginewhatwoulditbelike... whatkindsofthingswouldyouenjoyabout this...whatkindsofthingswouldyoufind yourselfreallywantingtodothis... ANewIdentity(AnewPart) TheclassicexampleistheDancername. 1)OnceyouveColdreadherandyouhave pacedhercurrentreality,youbegintointroduce theSelfImage.TheDancerselfimage. 2)YouNOTICEallthethingsabouther,her behavior,andherenvironment,thatvalidatethis selfimageandyouSupportthisallby commentingonit,havingherratifyit,describe it,reframeit...etc. BringingoutaPartofthemthathasbeen Repressed TheclassicexampleofthisistheShadow concept.Inthisconcept,youtalkaboutthepart ofpeoplethatisrepressed...thepartofthemthat correspondstoFreudsconceptoftheId.Thisis liketheinstinctual,biologicalhumanurgethat weasasocietyhavelearnedtorepress. ...Ofcoursethatwhichisrepressedgets expressed.Ofteninwaysthatwearentawareof andinwaysthatwecantcontrol.(Youveall
heardofthetermFreudianSlip.Well,thisis justasmallexample.) CarlJungwasaPsychiatristandPsychoanalyst thatstudiedwithFreud.Hetooktherepression ideaevenfurtherandbroughtintothe repressionconcept,thenotionoftheShadow. Ofcoursetalkingaboutsomethingmakesitmore realandinvestsitwithmentalenergy.Carl Jungsphilosophywastoachieveabalance betweenlightanddark...thepartofyouthatyou showtotheworldandthepartofyouthatis hidden(maybeevenfromyourself). GivingtheShadowitsownPersona,Identity anditsownVoicecanbeverypowerful...be carefulthough! HowTimeformsanOnionskinofParts Inthisidea,astimepasseswelayeronnew Partsjustlikethelayersofanonion.For example,underthemetaphoricalonionskinof parts,thereisthepartofapersonthatisstilla child. PeopleoftenhaveaPastselfconcept(Part)that isMOREREALtothemthantheirCurrentself concept.Thisisespeciallytrueinpeoplethat havemanylimitations.(TheycantMetastate andseethedistinctionbetweentheirPastself, theirCurrentself,andtheirFutureself.Alimited Pastthenbecomesbothalimitedpresentanda limitedfuture...aselffulfillingprophesy.) Akeyhereisthatsometimesyoucanageregress someonejustbypresupposingthatyouare talkingtotheCHILDpart.Talktothemasif theywereachild,Viewthemasachild,treat
themlikeachild,andtheywillliveuptoyour selfimage. Theycantarguewiththispresupposition becausebynaturepresuppositionsareunstated underlyingbeliefsfromwhichwespeakandact. Theyarewhatneedstobetrueinorderfora statementtomakesense.Andmoreoftenthan not,youcantarguewithsomethingthatisnt statedexplicitly. RealizealsothatpeoplehaveaFutureSelf Conceptaswell.Muchofseductionisbasedon embeddingyourselfwiththisFutureSelf Concept. ThePartofthemthatisOthers Thisisaninterestingconcept.Insideofus,weall carryaroundthePartofusthatisourparents, thePartofusthatisourfriends...etc.What reallysucksiswhenpeoplebringapartof themthatistheirparentfromwhentheywerea smallchildintoPresentreality.Andthenthey actasifthisrepresentationoftheirparentwas currentreality.ExternalandInternal representationsmaytotallybedifferent. OneofthethingsinNLPandGestaltPsychology isthatyoumusthavesomeoneresolveaconflict internallywiththePartofthemthatistheir parent(oranyotherconflictingpart),beforeany externalresolvingwiththeactualpersoncan occur. Howwouldyouusethis inPersuasion/Influence/Seduction? GetthemtoMetastate.
One principle that will get you IN with a woman every time
Thewilltosurviveisnotthestrongestinstinctin humans.Thestrongestinstinctistodowhatis familiarVirginiaSatir Peoplemaybeattractedtowhatisdifferentbut theyfeelcomfortablewithwhatisfamiliar.The keytoseductionisfindingthebalancebetween both. Whentalkingwithawoman,focuson commonalities.Findmoreandmorethingsthat youhaveincommonsothatyoustarttostack thesesimilarities.Youcanalwaysreturntothese iftheconversationstalls. Onceyouhaveenoughcommonalitiesinplace, youcanbegintoshifttheperspectivefromYou andItoUsandThem.Itisnowaboutyou andherbothtogetherlookingoutintotheworld. Thisisagreatwaytoacceleratecomfortand rapportintheMidGame.
IrememberthefirsttimeIdidacoldread.Ihad metawomanatacoffeeshopandafriendof minehadbeenchattingherupandtryingtoget agoodlevelofrapportwithher.Ihappenedto walkbyandIsaidtoher, YeahIknowaboutyouontheoutsideyoucome acrossastotallyuninhibitedandwild,andyoure reallyoutgoingandthelifeofthepartybut underneathallofthatyourejustsomeonewhos reallykindofshy,andyouwantsomeonewhocansee youforwhoyoureallyarewhereyoudonthaveto putonanactandyoucanjustrelaxandbe yourself.Infactthiskindofconnectionisreallywhat youwantmostofallandyouresomewhatofan emotionaltypewhereyouexperiencetheworld throughyouremotions ShesaidTakeme,Illgoanywherewithyouright now! Sowhatiscoldreadingexactly?Wellsome peopleactuallygetimpressionsaboutpeople.Can thisbedeveloped?SureItsapeoplereading skillanditjustrequiressomeattention. Butyoucanachievethesameaffectbyspeaking ingeneralitiesandhedgingyourlanguaging aswellasknowingwhenyouhaveahitor positiveresponse. Ifgivenwithenoughauthority,youcanbevery convincing. Coldreadingisprobablyoneofthebestwaysto buildRapportwithawoman.IuseColdreading inMidGameprimarily. Coldreadingdoesmanyofthethingsconducive toseduction.Hereareafew:
1) Familiarizeyourselfwithbasicpersonality types.Iveincludedthetwogeneraltypesof women(PhysicallyandEmotionallysexual female) 2) YoucanuseatoollikeTheCube.Thebook SecretsoftheCubebyAnnieGottleibis excellent.Othertoolscouldbepalmistryor handwritinganalysis,althoughathorough knowledgeoftheseisntwhatsimportant. Whatsimportantisconveyingauthorityand beingconvincing.Focusontheinteractionbe inthemoment. 3) Knowcertaincategorizations:Innervs.Outer ForexampleInnerhealthismuchdifferent thanOuterhealth.Outerwealthismuch differentthanInnerwealth.Outerrelationships aremuchdifferentthanInnerrelationships.
4) Usewhattheygiveyou.Watchtheirresponses
Now,IKNOWthisprofilewell.WhenImwitha womanwhoisPHYSICALinanywaylikeshe maybeintoworkingout,running,sportsIstart topaintthispictureofHERSELFforher. NowWHYdoIdothiswellthisiswhatCOLD READINGisaboutandIdothissoshellknow HOWTOACTwithme! Ok,sowhenIsayawomanisPHYSICALLY sexual,itdoesnotmeanthatshedoesntfeel emotions,butthatsheplacesherphysicalbody INFRONTofhertoprotectheremotions,and thereforerequiresagreatdealofphysical attention.Sheexperiencestheworldthroughher body.Nowheresthematerialyoucanusefor COLDREADINGwithPHYSICALfemales: Afemalecanbecomephysicallysexualata veryearlyageifshereceivesalotof physicalattentionfromherfatherorifshe isemotionallyrejected. Ifafemaleisinvolvedwithanemotionally sexualmaleasanadultandherejectsher, shewillbecomemorephysical. Ifaphysicalfemaleisdeprivedofphysical attentionshellbecomeevenmore physical APhysicalfemalewantstobetheimageof theperfectpartner
Sheisstronglyinfluencedbyhowotherssee
her,andisveryeyemindedherself,soher dressandoverallappearancebecomevery importanttoher Shespendsalotoftimekeepingupher appearance Shetendstohavemoreconfidenceinher attractivenessthantheemotionalfemale, andismoreabletoseeherbodyasbeing satisfactory Thephysicalfemalewantstopleaseher partner,andisdeeplyhurtifhecriticizes theactionsthatshehastakentoplease him. Ineveryrespecttheextremephysicalfemale attemptstoembodyfemininity,andthe specificconsiderationsdetailedbelowcan allbeviewedinlightofthisattempt Shethrivesonsexandlooksatmensexually Shemayperformsexuallyonceadayoras muchasfivetimesaday Shecanbesomewhatvainandtendsto exaggerateherneedtoprovesheis feminine Generally,shemaylackconfidenceinany situationwhereadeepemotional involvementispresent Shehasatendencytobeimmatureattimes, andisusuallyextremelypossessive Ifthephysicalfemaleiswithamalewhois withdrawnorundemonstrative,orwho doesnotcomplimenther,shewillfeel rejectedandbecomehurtorangry Shefindsherselfcateringtohermateand canbeeasilyhurtandcontrolledina relationshipbecauseofherneedand desiretobeaccepted Usuallyshefeelsthatsheputsmoreenergy intomakingarelationshipworkthanher partnerdoes.
Sheneedsplentyofpersonalattentionand
affection,suchashavingherhandheld, doorsopenedforher,etc. Ifsheisacceptedsexuallyandfeelssexual gratification,sheinterpretsthisas emotionalacceptance. Thephysicalfemalefunctionsonphysical feelings,andasaruleisveryintuitive. Shecanthereforesometimesbeirrational anditmaybedifficulttoexplainany logicalideaortodiscussthingswithher whensheisupset Shemaylikeroughsexandheavilyphysical stimulation
threetosevendays,andsometimesonly onceamonth. Inthebeginningsofarelationship,she wantssexoften,butastherelationship goeson,hersexdrivewanes. Immediatelyaftersexshedoesntwanttobe touched Shecannotbecomearousedifshefeels overlypossessedorifargumentsprecede sex Sexualstimulationstartswithhermind,not inherbody,sohermindhastoberelaxed beforeshecanenjoysex A100%emotionallysexualfemalewillhave littleornoarousalfromkissingorheavy physicalstimulationandmayevenbe irritatedbyit TheEmotionallysexualfemaledoesntwant tobeexpectedtohavesex.Ifshefeelsthat herpartneriscominghomeexpectingsex, andifthisfeelslikehabit,shellstartto dreaditandwillbegintothinkofwaysto avoidsex Shemaystarttomakeupexcusesnotto havesex.Andstayuplateafterher partnergoestosleep.Shemayfakea headacheoractuallydevelopone.Ifshe works,shemaysaythatsheistootired. Themoresheispushedsexually,themore shebacksupintohershell
Nowthisstuffiskindoftechnicalandkindof ADVANCED,sountilyougetreallygoodat COLDREADING,youmaywanttoskipthis sectionandcomebacktoitlatertofurther enhanceyourcoldreads. NowthesearecalledMetaprogramswhich arepatternsofbehaviorthatpeopleoftenrepeat withoutrealizing.ThesearetheDEEP STRUCTURESbehindtheSURFACE STRUCTURESofbehavior. 1)FocusofInterest PeopleOriented ActivityOriented ThingsOriented PlaceOriented DataOriented 2)Matchvs.Mismatch Matcher Youlooksforsameness Youseewhatshappeningnowassimilarto whathappenedinthepast Youlookforwhatisthere Youtendtolookforthingsintermsofwhatthey haveincommonwith Youtendtolookforhowthingsfittogether YouMatchwhatpeoplesaywithwhatyou alreadyknow Mismatcher YoutendtoLooksathowthingsaredifferent Youcanseehowthingsdontfittogether Youcanfindwhatisnottherethatpeopleoften miss Youmaysortforwhatismissing Youmoreoftenlookforwhatisnotpresent Youmaylookmoreathowthingsaredifferent
3)Necessityvs.Possibility Necessity Youaremostlymotivatedbyneed,obligation, responsibility,pressures Youmaybemotivatedtodosomethingbecause youmustratherthanbecauseyouwantto Youhaveatendencytotakewhatcomesand acceptit Youaremoreinterestedinwhatisknownthan whatisnotknown Youractionstendtobeplanned Yougivetheimpressionthatyouhavetodo things Youmayhavethesensethatyoueitherreally donthavechoiceormaybethatyouhave troublemakingchoices Youlookforprovenways,howto,andstep bystepways,whathasworked Possibility Youhaveadesiretolearn Youcanlookatthingsandseewhatispossible Youaremotivatedtolookfornewoptionsand newchallenges Youareveryinterestedinpotential Youcanbegoodatdevelopingnewwaystodo things Youarealwayslookingtoexpandsyour horizons 4)Towardvs.Away Toward Youmovetowardyourgoals,Movestoward outcomes Youmovetowardwhatyouwant YouMayhaveatendencytohavedifficulty seeingwhatneedstobeavoided
Yousometimesmayminimizenegative consequences Away Youmoveawayfromwhatyoudontwant Youaregoodatidentifyingproblems Attimesyoumayhaveatendencytofocuson problems Mayhavetroubledefiningorarticulatingtheir goalsorwhatyoudowant Youmaybecomeeasilydistractedbynegative consequences 5)Specificvs.Global Specific Youcanhaveatendencytoperceivethingsin termsofitsparts Youregoodatbreakingdowntasksandthings intosmallerparts Youreverydetailoriented,Youwantdetails first Youcansometimesgetcaughtupinthedetails, andmisstheoverallgoal Youfeellikeyouneedtohavethedetailsin sequence,whattodo,whereandhowtobegin, andwhattodonext Youneedtoknowhoweachstepcontributesto overallgoal Youneedtohaveconcreteexamples Global Youtalkandthinkintermsofgeneralities YoureveryBigPictureoriented Youconcentratemoreontheoveralldirectionof aprojectortask,ratherthaneachstepoftheway YouwanttoseetheBigPicturefirstthenthe details Youcantendtosummarizethingsusinggeneral termsandabstractexamples
Youmayhavedifficultyfollowingstepbystep procedures Youoftentalkaboutoverviews,leavingout specificdetails Youmaytalkabouteventswithoutattentionto sequences 6)Associatedvs.Dissociated Associated Youtendtoseetimeasaseriesofeventsand relatedepisodes Cangobacktoamemoryandreliveitvividly Youtendtobelessawareofhowtimepasses whenyoureintosomething Youcaneasilygetcaughtupinthenow Youtendtomakedecisionsquitequickly Youhaveahighdrivetocompletesomethingin theshortrun,butinthe longrun,youcanhavetroublecompleting things Youaremorerelatedtoafeelerratherthana detachedthinker Youaremoreintouchwithyourfeelings Dissociated Tendencytoseeeventsasaseriesofrelated episodes Timecanbelinear,longattimes Awareofthedurationoftime Youcantendtogothroughalongprocesswhen youmakedecisions Youareabletodetachyourselffromemotions andbeobjective Youhaveatendencytobeontimeandimpatient withanyonethatislate Youremorelikelytoreviewasituation,rather thantoreliveit Morerelatedtoanalytical,thinkerratherthan feeler
7)Focusofattention:Selfvs.Others Self Youbasicallyperceiveinteractionsintermsof whatisinitforyou Youattendtoyourownthoughtsandfeelings Youcanbecompelledtorespondtoyourown innerworldneeds Youcanbeinsidealotandsometimescanhave adifficulttimeconnectingwithothersthoughts andneeds Youevaluateyourfeelingsaboutothers primarilybywhatisgoingonandhowyoufeel Others Youbasicallyperceiveinteractionsintermsof whatyoucandoforotherpeople Othersarethefocusofyourattention Youfocusontheoutsideworldandpay attentiontopeople Youprimarilyrespondtoothersthoughtsand feelingsprimarilybywhatresponsesyouare gettingfromothers Youorganizesituationstopleasepeople Youtrytoanticipateothersresponsesandneeds Takentoextremes,canbecodependent 8)Externalvs.Internallocusofcontrol Internal Yourvalidationandsourceofauthoritycomes fromwithin Yourelyonyourowncriteria,evaluations,and judgments Youevaluatethingsonthebasisofwhatyou thinkisappropriate Youuseyourownfeelingstoknowwhenyouve doneagoodjob Youmayalsobeyourownharshestcritic
Youareconvincedbythingsthatyoualready knowtobetruebyyourownexperience Youresistwhensomeoneelsetriestodecide whatisrightforyou Youhavetoknowforyourselfthatsomethingis rightforyou External Validationissoughtfromoutsideofyourself Yourelyonothersevaluations,judgments,and feedbacktodevelopyourownopinions Yourequiredirectionfromothers Youcandrawconclusionsbasedonothers reactions Youoftenhavetoaskotherswhattheythink aboutthings Youmaytendtoconformtootherpeoples standards Yourelyonexternalsourcesforknowingthings aretrue Yourespondtotheexternalworld 9)Powervs.Achievementvs.Affiliation Power Youlookforbeingincontrol,makingchoicesfor yourselfandmaybeforotherpeople Achievement Youareinterestedinthegoalsyoucan accomplish,theresultsyoucanget Affiliation Youareinterestedinthepeoplethatyoucanbe with,whoyouareseenwithandaffiliatedwith 10)BeginningprocessorCompletion Beginningprocess
Youenjoystartingnewprojects,ideas, beginnings Completion Youenjoyfinishingthings,seeingwhatyoucan markoffyourlist 11)Positivevs.Negative Positive Youareoptimistic,Theglassishalffull Yourethekindofpersonthatcantakeadversity andbegintoseethegood,thesilverlininginthe darkness Youcanseethebenefitofhowexperiencesmay worktogetherforthegoodinyourlife Negative Youtendtobemorerealisticratherthanoverly optimisticaboutthings 12)Sequentialvs.Random Sequential Yourthoughtpatternstendstobemore sequential,andlinearattimes,organizedfrom pointatopointb,verylinearaswell Random Yourthoughtstendtoseemunorganized althoughyoumaytalkaroundatopicandmay runoffontangentsattimes Youcangetdistractedsometimesfromwhatyou wereoriginallytalkingabout Yousometimesgetcaughtupinthetangents 13)Independentvs.Proximityvs.Cooperative Independent Youliketoworkalone
Proximity Yourefinetakingresponsibilityfortask,butyou liketobearoundotherpeoplewhenyouwork Cooperative Youenjoysharingworkasateamandworking withothersinagroup 14)Convincerfilters:Numberoftimesvs. Lengthoftime Numberoftimes Youareconvincedbysomethingbythenumber oftimesthatyouexperienceresultsandhow manytimesyougettheseresults Lengthoftime Youareconvincedbysomethingbyhow constanttheresultsareforyouoveraperiodof time Consistent Youneedtobeconvincedeverysingletimeand areneverreallyeverfullyconvinced
1)MeetawomanWHERESHESATmentally, emotionally,andphysically.Fromhereyoucan leadthemintootherplaces...orcreatenewones. 2)FindherLINKSbetweenINTERNALplaces andEXTERNALplaces NowthisgetskindofDEEPsounlessyourein themoodthenjustskipthispart...butifyou reallywanttolearnsomeGREATunderlying principlesthenREADON. ThereisadifferentiationbetweenInternalreality andExternalreality,althoughwithout consciouslythinkingaboutitweexperiencethe worldasoneIntegratedreality.Infact,because weexperiencerealityasthisIntegrationof Internal/Externalfactors,thereisnorealtime distinction(withoutstepping)betweenthetwo... hencemydefinitionofananchorisalink betweentheExternalandtheInternalworld.In otherwords,physicallycueingtheExternal worldcreatesInternalcuesthroughthislink... ThereareInternalPlaces(emotions/states)and ExternalPlaces...andthetwoareoftenlinked (anchoredtoeachother).Thisbringsmeto elicitation/evokingemotionsasaplace...and importantlyplacesasemotions. Illaskawoman,Whatisyourfavoriteplacein theworld?...tellmeaboutit...orIfyoucould beanywhererightnow,wherewouldyoube?... orWhatwasyourfavoriteplacewhenyouwere growingup?...andastheydescribetheplace... theFEELINGSstarttocomeback.
Whiteisonlyaswhiteasblackisblack. Letmeillustrate.Haveyoueverseenachickthat wouldgoforBADboyjerks...oneaftertheother andthengettiredofitandgorforateddybear NICEGUY,andwhenshetiredofthatshedgo fortheBADboyjerksagain.Wellshesonethat needsCONTRAST. OneisonlyasgoodastheotherisBAD...but thenagain,sometimesBADcanbeGOOD! WerealwaysCOMPARINGand CONTRASTING.Likeitornot,awomanis instantlycomparingyoutoeveryboyfriendshes
everhad...Sodontyouhatethoseguysthat breaktheBELLCURVE!? Well,nowyoucanBEoneofthoseguys... SohowdoesthisapplytoSeduction?Giveher thebestofBOTH...neverbepredictable...this HOT/COLDtechniquecancreateanunderlying TENSIONthatwillkeepherHOOKED! AnotherapplicationistheBaitingtechnique whereyoumayshowanoutwardStrongside withahintofinnerSensitivity.Thisisalso CONTRAST.
Theresthestoryofthefrogthatisputintothe potofwaterastheheatisturnedupslowly... andthefrogdoesntjumpoutbecausethe changeissoslowthatitisunrecognized. Youcangetawomantodovirtually ANYTHINGusingthisprincipleandgiven enoughtimeandpatience.Butinorderforitto workBEST,youhavetoBREAKUPthetension turniton,turnitoff,turnitonmore,turnitoff... Justthinkofitascontinuallytestingand CONDITIONINGforRESPONSIVENESS.When womendecidetohaveSEX,itsbecausetheyare Responsive...menontheotherhandare Persistent
youmayevenfeelawarmfeelingrighthereinyour stomachandmaybeitspreadsalloveryourbody whenyourwiththispersonwhereyoucan losetrackoftimeandgiveyourselfcompletelytothis experience NextyouneedIntimacy.Thisiswhereyoufeelan emotionalconnectionwiththisperson,likeyouve knownthembefore,andlikeyouwerealways meanttoknowthispersonlikethiswasmeanttobe andwhereyoufeelcompletelycomfortableandclose andyoumayfeelitrighthere inyourheart ThenyouneedCommitment.Philosophershave calledthisasenseofdutywhereyoufeelsecure, knowingthatthisissomeonethatis hereforyou,thatwebothchoosetobetogetherand thisissomeonethatyoucanseeyourselfwithnow andinthefuture Now,allrelationshipsarebasedonvaryingdegreesof eachoneoftheseelements. Forexampleifyouhavejustpassion,butnointimacy orcommitment,thenthatwouldbelikejustphysical infatuation.Likeaonenightstandor somethingnothingmore,nothingless Ifyouhavejustintimacy,butnopassionor commitment,thenthatwouldbejustfriendship.And weallhavethose Ifyouhavejustcommitment,butnopassionor intimacy,thenthatwouldbeanemptyrelationship. Likealotofmarriedpeopleouttheresosad. Thenyoucanhavepassionandintimacy,butno commitment.ThisislikeaRomanticaffairand maybetheknowledgethatitissomethingthats
noworneverorthatyouhavenoguaranteesabout, makesthepassionandintimacyevenmoreintense Andyoucanhavepassionandcommitment,butno intimacy.Thatislikepeoplewhostaytogether becausetheyreallylikethesex. Andyoucanhaveintimacyandcommitmentbutno passion.Thatwouldbelikegrandmaandgrandpa whoaretogetherforcompanionship,but cantrememberthelasttimetheydidit. Andofcoursetheideal,aswithallthingsisabout balance,whereyoucanhavejusttherightamountof passion,justtherightamountofintimacy, andjusttherightamountofcommitmentwell nowthatIthinkaboutit,anextralittlebitmore passionwouldbenicewhatdoyouthink? Endtheme
One of the BEST WAYS to make a woman feel comfortable and to BUILD RAPPORT
TellingstoriesisoneofthebestwaystoBuild ComfortandRapportintheMidGame.Itgetsa chickENGAGEDandwheneveryones attentionisonyou,itsaysalltheRIGHT THINGS! HereareacoupleoftipsaboutthewaythatItell stories. Gettothepointwhereyoucanimproviseyour storiesbasedonthemesNEVERmemorize storieswordforword...andbesure tothrowinlittledetailsthatthepersonthat youretalkingtocanidentifywithdetailsin yourstorythathavesomesimilarcharacteristics withthesituationorthegalyouretalkingto. OnethingthatIdoistolinkthewomanImwith toacharacterinmystory.Andthatcharacteris inasimilarsituationandofcoursethe characterdoesexactlywhatyouwhatthegirlto do.alsokeepinmindthatyoucanusethis sametacticasateaseifthestoryisabout adorkygirlthatsheremindsyouof. Forexample,heresonethatIuse...Ifthereisa girlthatyouarewiththatiskindofsexually inhibitedyoumaysay,
Youknow,youkindofremindmeofthisgirl thatIknow...Actuallyyoulookalotlikeher... MyfriendJen,andIremembershewas tellingmeabouthowshewaswiththisguy once,andshewastotallyturnedon...theyrelike overatherplaceonhercouch,alone, lateatnight...themoodwasperfect...candles wereon,theyhadthewineout...andtheyre heretotallymakingout,andgetting allintoit...butyouknowwhatshetoldmewas thatshehadbeenkindofshywhenitcameto sex...(ImPacingherhere)butshetotally wantedit.Butyouknow,itkindoftookher awhile,anditwasjustlikeareflextokeep pushingherboyfriendaway...(morepacing) Iguessitwasjustlikeapatternthatshegotinto, andshereallyjustkeptdoingitoutifreflex,not evenreallythinkingaboutit. Soanyway,attheendofthenight,herboyfriend hadbeenpushedawaysomuchthathejust stopseverything...nokissing,no touching,nothing...andhegetsupandsayskind ofinamatteroffacttone,Imgoinghome... goodnightAndhestartswalking towardthedoor. AndthenJentellsmeshedidntknowwhatgot intoher...(leadingnow)shejustjumpsupand startsrippinghisclothesoff,herclothesoff, pullshimtoherbedroomandshesaidthatit wasjustanincrediblenight...theytotallywentat it...shesaiditwaslikeeverything thatshehadalwaysreallywantedtodo,she did...totallyuninhibited.Shesaiditwasjust awesome...sonow,whatdoyouthink? Andendingthiswithaquestion,Igetto calibrateherevenmore,andofcourseshes identifiedwiththecharacterinmystory(Jen).
SoshegetstobeJenforthedurationofmy story...andsothatwhenthatmomentcomesfor uswhereweretheonesmakingouton thecouch,shellhavealreadygonethroughboth theresistanceandthengivinguptheresistancein hermindthroughJen. Ivealsousestoriesaboutafriendthatagal remindsmeof,todothingslikebringout bisexualqualities,bringoutthenaughtyside, openupagaltothefriendsplusframe,getting galstoroleplay(beingaho/stripper),getting galstoexperimentandmore...
Togiveyouanexample,thedaybefore yesterday(Wednesdayafternoon),Iwenttopick upa28yearoldblondwithatightbodyand longlegsfromherhouse. WhenIcalledheronthephonethatdayshe asked,Sodoyouwanttomeetsomewhereor doyoujustwanttopickmeup? Wellifawomangivesyouanopportunityto isolate...takeit! Wehadmetatacoffeeshoplastweekandtalked brieflyandIwasjustfollowinguponit. WellIwenttopickherupandaswesatonher couch,Ithoughttomyself,Sheenoughintome thatwedonthavetogoout! SoIbuiltsexualattractionandcomfort(using someofmySexualRapportmaterial)and BAM...wewereofftoherbedroomwithin 30minutesnovenuechanges...justisolation.
Nowallchickshaveanautomaticresponseforaguygetting physicalwiththemItsjustsomethingthatsBUILTINthrough evolutiontoprotecttheirproductiveresources.Andwhenyouthink aboutit,theyHAVEtohavethisinplacebecause thentheywouldendupabeingaHOorbepregnanttheirwhole lives! Sowhatarethetypicaltriggers?Illlistacouple: Whenaguygetstoosexualtoofast WhenaguystopstalkingandjustgoesintoLUSTmode beforeshedoes WhenshegetthefeelingthataguyjustwantsherforSEXorjust seesherasanobject Whenaguygoesstraightforthecrotchmostofthetimeatleast Whenaguyseemstooeagertogetdownherpants Whenaguyseemssneakyanddishonest Yougetthepoint.Thekeyistogoslow,keeptalkingtoher,be suggestivewithoutbeingovertlysexual,andwaituntilSHEgoesfirst withbeingphysicallysexual. 3)Theyengageherlogicalmind Justimaginethis:youreonthecouchwithachick,maybewatching amovieortalking,andyoustarttonoticetheVIBEasthesexual tensionisbuilding.YouknowthatitCOULDbeGAMEONifyou playyourcardsrightNowwhatdoalotofguysdo?Theygetall nervousatthispointandstarttalkingaboutGUYstuffLOGICAL stufflikework,school,analyzingthisandthatBIGmistake! YouwantherlogicalmindOFFatthispoint.DontsayorDO anythingthatcouldengageherlogicalmind.Youdontwanthersolving MATHwhileyouretryingtogetherinbed! ThefocusshouldbeontheFEELINGS.GetherarousalAMPEDUP. Buildthesexualtension.Inmybook,Igointodepthonhowto buildthisusingaPROPULSIONmechanismandforthoseofyou thatdontknowwhatthatis,itsamotivationalsystemwhereyou havebothPUSHfromavoidingpainandPULLfrompursuing pleasure.
4)Theydontbuildupthecomfortenough AchickwillRARELYgetphysicalwithaguythatshesnot comfortablewith.Youneedtobuildupthecomfortandrapportbefore yougointoENDGAME.Whenyouhearachicksay,ButIhardly knowyou!Thenyouknowyouneedmorecomfortbuilding! InmybookIextensivelycoverMIDGAMEwhichfocuseson ComfortbuildingandRapportsoCheckitout! 5)Theytakethefirstsignofresistanceasfailure Nownotallchickwillgotobedwithyouthefirsttimeyoumake yourmove.Mostofthetimes,chicksneedREPEATEDattempts whereyouFLIRTwithhercomfortzone.Youknow,everychickhas acomfortzonealinewherethingsgofrombeingRatedR tobeingratedX.Andifyoupushthatlinetoomuch,itmayshut herdownsoFLIRTwiththatline.Whensheoffersresistance, PULLBACK.AndImtalkingANYresistanceandIpullWAY backandgobackintocomfortbuilding(MIDGAME). ThenasIapproachthatlineagain,IcancomethatmuchCLOSERto thatlineuntilIhavetopullbackagain.Asthismayberepeated severaltimes,yougetthatmuchcloserandclosertohercomfort zonelineuntilbeforesheknowsit,youreINSIDEher! (ItalkaboutthisinmybookinthechapterontheGradient Principle) 6)TheyfollowTHEIROWNautomaticresponsesanddontmake theboldmove YouknowthatONEPOINTinthedate,whereyouknowitcouldgo onewayortheother.Andyouknowthatwhatyoudoatthatpoint couldMAKEorBREAKtheseduction?Haveyouguysbeenthere?I havetoomanytimes,butIvelearnedsomething. ToomanytimesbeforeIwouldjustGOWITHTHEFLOWandto tellyouthetruththatsjustnotconducivetoseduction!
Howmanytimeshaveyoubeenoveratachickshouseitslateat nightandyoucantellthatitcouldbeGameOn,andthen shetellsyou,ItsgettinglateIshouldgotobedandyousay, OkwellIenjoyedhangingoutwithyouandIlltalktoyoulater Thenasyouhearthedoorshutyourewonderingwhereyouwent wrongyoucouldbeinBEDwithherrightNOW! Sohowdoyougetoverthis?Wellfirstofall,beAWAREofyour automaticresponsesandhersaswell.Andknowthatyoucanuse whateverawomangivesyou.Likeintheexampleabove,whatif youweretosayGotobed?!ButIhardlyknowyou!Imnotthat easybutIcouldbeifyougavemeamassage! Soyouseehowyouneedtointerrupttheautoresponse!Andhumor worksbestfollowedupwithasuggestivecomment. 7)Theydontfocusonthemoment AtthisphaseintheGame,alotofguysareintheirownheadsand notfocusingonthemoment.Theymaybethinkingofthelast patterntouseorwhattosaynextbuttotellyouthetruthatthis stageinthegame,youneedtothrowthoseoutandfocuson gettinghertoFEELintheMOMENT.Thisiswhereseduction happens! Andyouwanttogetherassociatedintothemomentaswellby gettinghertoFEEL(includingbodyfeelings).Thethingabout FEELINGSisthattheydrawapersonintothemoment.Likewhen someoneisangryforinstanceandtheycantthinkabout anythingelseorwhensomeonefeelspainthatsVERYrealin themoment.Thesamegoesforfeelingpleasureandfor feelingAROUSEDsexually. 8)Theythinkthatthewomanwillleadthembythehand Atthisstageinthegame,evenwomenthatseemsexuallyaggressive willwanttheMANtotakeactionfirst.Onechickthat IwaswithsaidshewantedaguythatwasConfident.Iaskedher, Sohowdoyouknowwhenaguyisconfident?Shesaid,
WhenhesabletodowithmewhatIreallywanthimtodowithout metellinghimhowtodoit. Whenyougetcertainbuyingsignalsfromawoman,youneedto closeQUICKLY.Nownotallbuyingsignalsareequal.For example,asuggestiveflirtatioussmilewhenyouoffertomassage herismuchdifferentthenwhenshepullsherpantsdownand bendsover!Letyourbuyingsignalstellyouhowquicklytomove 9)Theyreattachedtoomuchtotheoutcome OnethingthatwomenhaveradarforisNeediness.Infactaguy whoswillingtowalkAWAYfromherhasmorepower thanshedoesinthenegotiation. Insteadoffocusingontheoutcome(thehomerun),focusalittleon theprocessbutmostlybeintheMOMENT. Ifawomandoesatakeawayfromyouandyoudontrespondit tellsherthatYOURincontrolanditcommunicates thatYOUhaveCHOICE.Afterall,howmanyguywouldactually declineanofferofsexfromanattractivewoman? Andifshesensesthatyouwouldthenyouveuppedyourvaluein hereyesaswellasmadeyourselfachallengeforher! 10)Theygotoofastandoutofhersequencewithoutampingup thedesireenough Remember,buildingdesireisaboutbuildingthesexualtension. Taketimetolethergetherbuyingtemperatureup.Teaseher, playhot/cold,FLIRTwithhercomfortline(thelinewherethingsgo frombeingratedRtobeingratedX)untilSHEcrossesit. Andgothetypicalphysicalsequenceunlessshegivesyou resistanceinwhichcaseyoupullbacktoMidGame,thenasyougo backintoEndGame,youtestagainattheNEXThigherlevel. IcalltheseCourtshipStagesandItalkwaymoreindepthabout theminmybook.Thesearethetypicalphysicalstepsina
seduction.Nowtheorderdoesntalwaysapply,butforthemost parttheydo.Forexample,ifyougostraightfromhandtohand toHandtoGenitals,mostchickswillresist.Soknowthisnatural sequence. Heresanabbreviatedversion: handtohand=>armtowaist=>mouthtomouth=>handtohead=> handtobody=>mouthtobreast=>handtogenitals=> genitalstogenitalsormouthtogenitals Towrapup,wellthereyouhaveitguys,mytop10EndGame Mistakesandhowtoovercomethem!
Now,wouldyouliketolearn3AMAZING questionsthatwillgetawomantoJUMPYOU!? Well,READON. Firstofall,beforeevenattemptingthis,there mustberapport.Imakesuretoonlydothis whenIhaveherinaplacewhereIcan logisticallycloseher...(i.e.youandheraloneina lockedroom(orprivateplace)withlittlechance ofinterruption,whetherthat beatyourplaceorhersoranyothersetup)... ThisisalsodoneaspartoftheImpulseCloseto buildupthechemistryandsexualtensionwhere thereisaphaseshiftintoasexualstate. 1)TheSexualValue:X WHATABOUTSEXREALLYTURNSYOU ON? Thequalityitselfthatagalenjoysaboutsexand wantsmoreof.(i.e.Romanticsex,Nastysex, Bondagesex,taboosex...)
2)TheRule:Y HOWDOYOUKNOWTHATYOUHAVEX? Thisisthewaythatsheknowsthatshehasthat quality...Whatshe/hedoes.i.e.Herprocess. Howdoyouknowwhenyourehavingreally _______sexoryourefeelingreally_______?What kindsofthingsdoyoudo,ordoes theotherpersondo?Howdoyouknowthatyou havethissenseof_______whenyourewiththis personthatsclosesttoyou... 3)InteractionbetweentheValueandtheRule:Z SOWHATISITLIKETOHAVEXWHERE YOUREDOINGY? andBOOM!shegoesintoSexualFEELING mode! 4)RepeatbackX,Y,Z (Value)=X,(Rule)=Y,(Interaction)=Z Sowhenyourewiththispersonwhereyoure havingthemostXsex,whereyoure/theyredoingY, andyoufeelthissenseofZ Thisiswhatyoureallyenjoyaboutit,isntit... NowanotherExample: 1)WhatisitaboutSEXthatyoureallyenjoy? Shemayrespondwithfeelingskinonskin (ThisisreallyY...whattheydo therulei.e.howtheyknow) Focusbackonthequality: Sowhatdoesfeelingskinonskingiveyou?
Thentheymayrespondwithsomethinglike Closeness.NOW,Closeness(X)isthequality thatyouareafter. 2)Closeness(XQuality)Skinonskin(Y Rule)totheInteractionbetweenthetwo(Z) SOWHATISITLIKEwhenyouhaveasenseof closenesswiththisperson,whereyoucanfeelskinon skin...? 3)ItfeelsCOMPLETE(ZInteractionbetween qualityandrulei.e.WHATITGIVESTHEM) 4)Youthenrepeatitallbacktothemasyou anchorthestate. Sosaythatyourewiththispersonwhoisclosestto you,whereyoufeelthiscloseness,thisfeelingofskin onskinwhereyoufeelthissenseof completionwherethisissomethingthatyoureally enjoyandsomethingthatyouwant,isntit
Therearemanymanysexualstoriesoutthere. Andtherearemanywaystointroducesexual themesandfromthereitsahop,skip andajumptothefullcloseprovidedthelocaleis appropriate. WhenItellasexualstoryorintroduceasexual theme,Imayapproachitasfollows: 1)Astoryaboutafriendsexperience 2)AsexualJOKE 3)AstorythatIjustmakeupthatseemstopace thecurrentsituationbetweenherandI 4)AstorythatIwantheropiniononandthat cangivemeinsightintothewaythatwomen think 5)Youcanpickupanywomansmagazinelike Cosmopolitanetc.andfindmanyarticlesonsex (fromattitudes,beliefs,techniques, shoulds/shouldnts,totaboos,howtos,etc.) Thisprovidesanendlesssupplyofmaterialand themestoaskherabout. 6)AspartofaColdReading...ifsheseems overtlylikeaPhysicaltypeIllincludea readingaboutherSexuality.
7)AspartofananalysislikeTheCube:Which includesaSexualanalysis(TheHorse) 8)Indirectly/Covertly:byusingsexualmetaphor (phalic/feminineintercoursesymbology)and languagewordslike:Penetratingyou,wet, hard,slidingindeep,feelitdeepinside,filling youup,comingetc.Iftheyevercallmeonit,I justplayinnocentandsay,Youdont wanttothinkaboutsexallthetime,DOyou? Yourekindofperverted!Ibetterbecareful aroundyou.Reversestheframe) Thegoalduringallthistalkistogether FEELINGthesensationsINHERBODY.When tellingastory,gointothesensualdetails... explicitly, tellingitasifshewereinthefirstpersonmode experiencingitherself.Whenaskingher opinions,andaboutwhatshelikes, youcouldNormalizeitbyatfirstmakingitnot abouther,butwhatmostwomenlike,thengether togointodetailabouthow shefeelsitinherbody,where,whatcomesfirst... thennext,etc. Womengetsoturnedonandreadytogojustby havingthemdescribewhatafemaleorgasmfeels like...stepbystep,whattheydo, howtheyknowitscoming,howtheyfeelit... whatitslikewhentheygettothatmoment...
5)EarlyLightTouching:Thereisadifference betweentouchingthatsendstheIminterested message,andtouchingthatgetsthem comfortablewithyoutouchingthem.Idothe latter...whichmayconfusethemmorebecauseI dontoutrightcrossthatlineatfirst. AndbecauseIdontgetoutrightphysicalwith them,theyfeelOKaboutgoingbacktomyplace toWatchavideoorHangoutforawhile. (Ivehadmanygalstellmethattheywerentsure ifIlikedthemorifIdidntuntilwewerealone) WhenAlone: 6)Recapitulate/RepeatSexualthemes:Then whenalone,Ibringupthesexualthemes/sexual valueelicitationcombinedwith: 7)HeavytouchingtoClose:Ipouronsexual rapporttouchingatthesametime,lookforgreen lights,andifalllightsaregreen,Idont stopuntiltheClose.
Herearesomeofthecategoriesandthesearent necessarilywhatwethinkofconsciouslymuch ofitisunconsciousandjustkind offormsagestaltandanimpression.Inother words,thisiswhattheunconsciousanimalpartof usthinksthepartofusthathas beenselectedforbyEvolution. 1)ValueThesubcommunicationisWhatwillI getoutofbeingwiththisperson?Thisisbased ontheperceptionofstatus, socialproof,resources... Formeneitherhavingorhavingthepotential fortheaccumulationofresources(having characteristicslikeambition,intelligence, industriousnessetc.) Forwomenthephysicalcharacteristicsof beauty,health,sexualcapacityetc.aswellas status,etc.thatconferasocietalvalue 2)PhysicalThesubcommunicationisDothey havegoodgenes?andCantheyprotectme? Ithinkthisisalittledifferentthanthesexual communication.Foramaninteractingwitha woman,physicalcommunicationis aboutbeauty,youth,healthandinevolutionary termshowwellshewouldbeabletobear offspringaswellashavehealthygenes Inotherwordsawomansreproductivecapacity. Otherthanreproductivecapacity,anattractive womanalsohasapositiveinfluence onthesocialstatusofaman. Forwomeninteractingwithmenthistypeof communicationhastodowiththeabilityto protectresourcesandisapartofsecurity.
Thereasonwhyphysicallystrongmenaremore desirablethanweakmenisbecausestrength communicatesfitnessandgoodgenes aswellastheabilitytoprotectaccumulated resources. 3)SexualThesubcommunicationisIsthis personabletopassthegenesdown?Thislevel ofcommunicationIthinkhastodo withtheabilitytobefertileandtobearoffspring. Formeninteractingwithwomen,ithastodo withtheperceptionthatshellbeagoodlover, sexualattractivenesswhichismorelikelyto leadtoorgasm. Forwomeninteractingwithmen,thishastodo withhisvirility...ifheisabletobothhaveand giveheranorgasmthusincreasingher chancesofconception. 4)TheavailabilityofresourcesThesub communicationisIsthispersonlikelytoshare theirresourcesandcommitthemtoonlyme? Forwomenevaluatingmenthishastodowith thelikelihoodofcommitmentofresourcestoher andheroffspring.Traitslikegenerosity, kindness,andlovemakethismorelikely.Also commitmentisimportantbecauseitequatesto securityaboutaccesstohisresourcesand nothavingtosharethemwithotherpotential(or past)matesandoffspring.Thissub communicationisalsoabouttrust. Formenevaluatingwomenthishastodowith herfidelity,andthelikelihoodthatshewillonly matewithhim,thusincreasinghischances
ofhavingoffspringwithher.Apromiscuous womanislessattractivetoamanasalongterm mate,becauseitmeansthepossibilityof allocatingresourcestooffspringthatarenthis, aswellashavingtocompeteforherresources (sex/sexualreproduction). NowregardingSexualCommunication,some wouldsaythatappearingtoGetitisenough... howeveritsnotenoughforme. UnderstandingSexualcommunicationisnot enough...youhavetoactuallybeabletoUSEIT! andUSEITWELL! Andthisisjustoneofthesubcommunication levelsthatarealwayspresent.Thisisjustone aspectofTheCode. Sotobringthisfromabstracttoconcretelevels: 1)Beawareof,demonstrate,understand,and communicatethecodeona: Sexuallevel Valuelevel Physicallevel Trustlevel
Youknow,Iwasthinkingaboutsomethingtheother day...aboutpolarities...aboutthewholeconceptofthe YinandYang...abouthotandcold...blackand white...lightanddarkness.Andhowoppositesare reallythesamething...justvaryingdegreesonthe samespectrum...ofpossibilities...andhowoneis definedinrelationtotheother...andhowthereareno absolutes. AndthenIrememberedsomethingthata Psychologistfriendofminesaidonce...Shesaid,I havetogofeedmyshadow...andIwasntquitesure whatshemeantatthetimeuntilIreadsomethingby Jung.HesaidthateveryonehasaShadow...adark side...aplaceofforbiddendesires.Thisisthatpartof youthatyouhidefromtherestofthe world...maybeevenfromyourself...whereyoucan experienceandimaginethose...thoughts...the thingsthatyouwouldntwantanyonetoeverfind outthatyoulongforanddreamabout...whereyou wanttoexperiencealltheexcitementofthis moment...toletgoofallthethingsthathadbeen holdingyoubackbefore...tojustletgo... andenjoyallthatlifehastooffer...TheShadowisa goodthing,hebelieved...becauseitbringsasenseof balance. Now,thissenseofbalanceisveryimportantbecause theconceptthatwhateveryourepressgrowsand beginstospilloverintootherpartsofyourlife.If yourshadowisrepresseditgrowsand grows...untilitjusttakesyouovercompletely. JungsaiditwasliketheRisingSun...becauseinthe morning,astheSunrisesinthesky......
itgetshigherandhigher...closerandclosertothe highestpointinitspath(midlife)...untilatmiddayit changespolaritycompletely...andeverythingthat wasonce truehasnowchanged...andnowtheoppositeis true...andthesungoesdown.Thiswastheconcept behindmidlifecrisis.(Iusuallyanchorthepathofthe risingsunwithmyhand) Itslikethemoreyoutrytodenyyourshadow,the moreintenseyourshadowbecomes...andthemore intenseyourshadowbecomesthemoreyoufeelthat underlyingtensiongrowingwithinyouforittojust comeout...untilonedayitjusttakesover completely. Sobalancethenisagoodthing. Nowwhatifyouweretostepintoyourshadowright now,andseetheworldthroughtheeyesofyour shadow.Whatwouldthatsayaboutthepersonthat youare nowvs.whoyouwerebefore.Whatisitthatthis shadowmostwantsanddesiresrightnow?Whatdo youdeservetoenjoynow
Everyoneneedssomething.Thisisthekeyto VictimTheory.FindwhatyourWOMANneeds orwantsmoreofandthenappeartobeableto giveittothem. Theywilltellyoutoo,eitherdirectlythrough wordsoractionsorindirectlythroughlooking attheirpastrelationships.Itmaybeadventure, attention,romance,anaughtyexperience,mental orphysicalstimulation.Onceyouidentifywhat itisthattheylack,youcanbetheonetogiveitto them.Learntoseetherealitybehindthe appearance. Nobodyinthisworldfeelswholeandcomplete. Whenyouseethepeoplearoundyou,alsonotice whatsMISSINGintheirlives.Itsbeensaidthat someonewhodoesntNEEDanythingCANTbe seduced.Soiftheydontseemtohavethat NEED,CREATEone! Victimtype 1)TheReformedPartyGirl Abouther:Sheisaphysicaltype.Thistypeof womanisonewhousedtohavenightswhenshe wouldgooutwiththegirls,flirtwiththeguys,
maybeevenhadonenightstands.Shemaybein alongtermrelationshipnowormayhavesettled downduetoherage,responsibilitiesandstage inlife.Yetthereisstillapartofherthatyearns forthosewilddaysandremembershowgood theywere.Maybeshewasquitetheseductress andcouldgetanyguyintoher. Whatsheneeds:Atasteofthewildside. Howtoseduceher:Crossherpathandofferher thechancetoexperienceevenjustonenightof herwilddays.Talkaboutheroldpartydays, whatsheusedtodo,whatsheenjoyedaboutit. ThengoDOit.Gooutonthetown,toherold spots,dosomeofthethingssheusedtodo, partyitupandtheiroldwayswillcomeback. Whattoremember:Makeherthinksheisthe onecorruptingyou,andseducingyouand introducingyoutothewildside. 2)TheHopelessRomantic Abouther:Thistypeofwomanisonewhohasa richinnerworldoffantasyanddreams.She imaginesonedaymeetingthemanofher dreamswhowillsweepheroffherfeetandtake herawayfromlifesdaytodayconcerns.She longstoliveintheworldofLove,Romance,and richemotionsandshedoesthisthroughthe Romancenovelsthatshereads,theSoapoperas, whenshegoestothatRomanticcomedyatthe movies.Theymayhavehadtosettleforan ordinaryguyatsomepointbutapartofthem stillyearnstobesweptaway.Theymay suppresstheirpassioninlifeanditmaycome outintheirhomefurnishings,thepicturesthey putontheirwalls,andtheirloveforartand music.
Whatsheneeds:Romance,theillusionofthe ideallover,scarcityandmystery. Howtoseduceher:Giveherjustapartofwhat shewants,likeatouchofRomanceand mystery.Letherimaginetherest.Inthistypeof woman,forseductionpurposes,lessismore. Herinnerworldoffantasyisfarricherthanwhat youcouldcreatewithyourwords.Talkwithher aboutherideasoftheidealman,theideal romance,theidealrelationship.Openupthis worldwithinher,showafewromanticgestures andthenmakeyourselfscarceyetbalancing andatthesametimeactingoutthatscarceness withromanticgesturesthatshowyoure thinkingabouther. Whattoremember:Neverletrealitybreakthe Romanticillusion. 3)TheDaddysGirl Abouther:Thistypeofwomanwasspoiledasa child.Shewasgiveneverythingherheart desiredasachildandasshegrewolder,she becameboredandnowcontinuallylooksfor variety,switchingfrompersontopersonand placetoplacebeforeboredomsetsin Whatsheneeds:Variety,tobepampered,a daddyfigure. Howtoseduceher:ThekeyistoofferVariety. Providealotofdistractionnewplacestogo, newthingstodo,newthingstodiscover. Maintainacertainmysterytoyourcharacteras wellsothatsheiscontinuallydiscoveringnew thingsaboutyou.Oncetheygethooked,they cangrowdependentonyou,justasshewoulda daddyfigure.
Whattoremember:Neverofferalongterm relationshiptothesetypes,insteadfocuson spoilingthemandofferingnewandexciting thingsandastheygrowdependentonyou,they willbetheonestoinitiatealongterm relationship.Focusonvariety.Theyarelooking fortheonepersontheparentalfigure,whocan givethemthespoilingthattheycrave. 4)TheConservativeGirl Abouther:Thistypeofgirlisultraconcerned withappearancesandwhatisproper.These aregirlswhohavetheirRulesandtheyare afraidoflookinglikeaslut.Sincetheyareso concernedwithwhatispropertheoppositeis secretlytrueaswell.Theyarefascinatedbythe improper,anddeepdownareintriguedbydark sinfulpassions.TheysensethisandrunThe otherway.RemembertheShadowtheory thatweallhavebothasideweshowtheworld andashadow.Themoreextremethecharacter trait,themoreextremetheshadowis. Whatsheneeds:Tobeawakenedtotheir shadow. Howtoseduceher:Makeherawareofher shadow.Drawherintothehelpingyou reformmode.Givethemopportunitiestoletgo oftheirselfcontrolandtolettheirshadowout. Synesthesiademosworkwellwiththistypeof girl,allowingherpassiontocomeoutinthe formofasymbol/colorandthensymbolically amplifyingitandfractionatingitspreadingit throughoutherbody. Whattoremember:Dontpayattentiontowhat theysay,payattentiontowhattheydo.Get themtoopenuptheirshadowsidebytalking aboutitanddoingthingsthatwouldgetthemto imagineitandthenletitout.
5)TheInnocentVirgin Abouther:Thistypeofgirlisinexperienced.She isintenselycuriousaboutthewaysoftheworld andaboutsex.Sheisstillidealisticandwants romance.Mostofherideasofwhatsexand romanceislikecomefromthemediaandfrom moviesandromancenovels.Sheissecretly intriguedbythewildsideofsexandwantsto experienceallthethingsshesheardabout. Whatsheneeds:Tobecorrupted,romanced, sweptawayandshownthewaysoftheworldby someonewithexperience Howtoseduceher:Talkaboutallthethingsthat sheisintriguedby,aboutsexualityandthekinds ofthingsthatpeopledosexually.Giveherthe hintthatyouareveryexperiencedsexuallyand takeontheframethatyouareopeningupanew worldtoheratouchofromancewithatouch ofcorruption. Whattoremember:Dontgooverboardwiththe corruption,shemaygetscaredaway.Keepit romanticandidealistic.Gethertofantasizeand leadherimaginationdownthepathoffantasy. Thengiveheropportunitiestoopenupslowlyto thissexuality.Makeitcorruptaswellattimes, talkingdirtytoherduringsex,experimenting witheverykindofsexualkinkthatyouknowof orhaveexperiencewith. 6)TheDramaQueen Abouther:Thistypeofwomanalwayshassome dramagoingonandwithoutitgetsboredvery easily.Sincethepainofdramaisactuallya sourceofpleasureforher,sheisattractedtothe jerktypeofguyandunconsciouslycravesto bemistreated.Shemayhavegrownupina
familywheredadwasverballyorphysically abusiveandthishassetupherpatternsforwhat sheiscomfortablewithandwhatshehasknown allherlife.TheydespiseNiceguysandsee themaswussies.Theyconfusemeannesswith confidenceandarrogancewithassertiveness. Theylovetocomplaintotheirgirlfriendsabout howbadlyyoumistreather. Whatsheneeds:Dramaandsomeonetobea jerktoher Howtoseduceher:Giveherwhatshewants. Drawherinfirstandthenpushheraway.Go HotandthenCold.Ignorehersomedays.Make commentsabouthowhototherchicksareand nevercomplimenther.Sheneedstomakethe connectionthathergivingyoupleasureequals youbeingniceatfirstandthenmeantoher. Theyunconsciouslylovethedramaandloveto betreatedlikeshitonceinawhile. Whattoremember:Onlybeniceafteryouve mistreatedher,neverbefore.Ifyouareniceto herbeforeyouvebeenmean,thenyourunthe riskofherflippingtherolesandcreatingan argumentwithyousothatshecanstartthe dramacyclewhichwillleadtothenicemakeup feelingsafterwards.Theonlytimeyougiveher nicetreatmentiswhenyouaremakingupfor howmeanyouvebeentoher.Makeup nicenessistheonlykindofnicenessthatisseen asrealtothem. 7)TheCodependent Abouther:Thistypeofgirlprobablygrewupin adysfunctionalfamilywheretheburdenof fixingthingsfellonher.Sheisattractedto peoplewithproblemsbecausewhentheycan helpsomeonewhohasproblemsitsecretly
givesthemasenseofsuperiority.Thesetypeof girlsaregoodlistenersandwilltrytogetyouto spillyourgutsaboutanyissues.Theywillbe supportiveandmothering. Whatsheneeds:Tofeellikesheissavingyou. Howtoseduceher:Lethergetthesensethat youhavehadtodealwithalotofissuesandthat youaretroubled.Thatyouvedonebadthingsin thepastandthatyoufeelguiltyaswellasbeing sadaboutneverfindingsomeonetofeel connectionwith.Youhaveproblemsandyou drawherinbytalkingaboutyourfeelingstoher, talkingtoheraboutissues(whetherrealormade up).Betroubled,sadandvulnerable.Youcan alsobethesexuallytroubledmanwith uncontrollableaddictionsthatsheneedstohelp youwith. Whattoremember:Alwaysbetheunderdog, theonewhogetstheshortendofthestick,the rawdeal.Lethershareyourlossandtogiveyou encouragementandfeellikeshessupporting you. 8)TheImmatureMatureWoman(MILForSugar Mama) Abouther:Thistypeofwomanwantstoholdon toheryouth.Sheisolderandhasahighsex drive.Shemaynothavedoneallthethingsthat shewantedtodowhenshewasyoungsoisnow tryingtorecaptureherdesirability.Shemay havebeenattractiveandhadguysalloverher whenshewasyoungerbutnowthatshehas gottenolder,shecravestheattentionthatshe oncehad. Whatsheneeds:Attentionfromayoungstud.
Howtoseduceher:Givehertheattentionthat sheoncehad.Makeherfeeldesirableandsexy. Shewantstofeelyoungagainandsheslooking foraboytoy.Letherfeellikesheiscorrupting youaswellandshowingyounewsexual pleasuresandopeningupnewworldsof experiencetoyou.Beimmatureandcrazyand actliketeenagerstogether.Shewantstodo thingslikemakeoutinamovietheatreandgo havesexinthebackofthecarafterwards.She wantstogotoahilloverlookingthecitylights andmakeoutlikeateenager. Whattoremember:Dontforgetthatshewants tobeboththesugarmamaandtheteenagerat thesametime.Actimmatureandbringoutthe immaturebehaviorinher.Dosexually adventurousthingswithher.Spontaneoussex andsexinpublicplacesapply. 9)The10 Abouther:Thistypeofwomanhasalwaysbeen lustedafterforherlooks.Guyswilleitherbe intimidatedbyherorwillflockaroundherto feedtheirlust.Shemayhaveonlyhave developedherappearanceandmaybelackingin depthofcharacterorknowledgebutnot always.Sheismostinsecureaboutherlooks becauseitisoftentheonlythingthatsetsher apartandmakesherspecial.Becausesheis alwayspursuedbymen,shesecretlywantsa manthatshewillhavetoworkhardtoget.She longstobevaluedforherpersonality, intelligence,andcharacter.Thussheoftenfeels alonealienatedbybothwomenandmenwho neverseepastherappearancetowhosheisasa person. Whatsheneeds:Someonetoseeherasaperson,
tostimulatehermindandvalueherforher personality,characterandintelligence. Howtoseduceher:Treatherlikeanormal person.Shehastochooseyou.Dontfocuson herappearanceyetdontignoreitaltogether becauseofherinsecurities.Drawherinandthen playHotandColdwithhersoshecanfeellike sheneedstoworktogetyou.Demonstrate value. Whattoremember:Stealherframeofbeingthe objectofdesire.Seepastherappearanceand makeherearnyouraffection. 10)TheNovelgirl Abouther:Thistypeofgirlgoesforallthings thatareexoticanddifferent.Forexamplethisis thewhitechickwholovesethnicguys.Theymay alsobeintriguedbydifferentworldreligions andintoNewAgeandyogaortheymaybea Rebelpunkrocker,oragirlfromasmalltown whowantstoseethebigcity.Inanycasetheir Identityistiedupinbeingdifferentandunique. Theyreallyloathetheirowncultureand themselvesatadeeplevelandlooktotheexotic togivethemtemporaryescape. Whatsheneeds:Atouchoftheexotic,escape fromnormality Howtoseduceher:Playupwhatmakesyou different,Peacockthemoreextremethebetter, varyitupoftenbecausewhatisexoticandnovel nowwillsoonbecomemundaneandordinary. Samewithsex.ThesewomenLOVEdoingkinky thingsandpushingthelimitsofsexuality.These arethetypesthatenduphavinggroupsexand doingkinkyshitwithanimals.
Weveallbeenthere.Itslateintheeveningand thesexualtensionisampedup.Youresittingon thecouchwithawomanandjustmakingout. Youknowthatyouneedtogethersexual arousallevelampedupandthenyougoforthe boldmove.Sheresists... Itsnotthatshesnotintoit...shemayjustnotbe READY!Thisjustmeansyouhaventgottenher buyingtemperatureuphighenoughyet.You needtocontinuetoSOFTENHERUPandfocus ongettingherFEELINGandmoreRECEPTIVE. Orheresanothersituation.Youwantawoman todosomethingforyouandsheobjects. Well,hereareasomeobjectiondestroyersthat Ivebeenusing.Keepinmindthatsomeofthese useRewardandsomeusePunishment motivation.Agoodpropulsionmechanismuses bothtogetheratthesametime...Sothesecanbe usedincombinationwitheachother. 1)SheasksWhy?objectiondestroyer TheObjection:Ihadan18yearoldamateur adultfilmactress(Shewasbeautifullonglight
brownhairkillerbody)Shewasmovingaway soItoldher,Weneedtogettogetherandhave somefunbeforeyougo.Shesaid,Why?(asif sayingwhatsthepoint?) TheResponse: SoIsaidtoher,Actually,thebetterquestionis... WHYNOT? 2)TheCrowbarMentalismobjectiondestroyer TheObjection:Ivehadseveralwomenthat havebeenfirmaboutcertainthingslikenot comingovertomyplaceonlikethefirstor secondtimesthatwevemet.AndsoIllsay, Ok...thatsfine,butwhydontwedothis... Guessanumberbetween1and10andifIcan tellyouwhatthisnumberis,THENyouhaveto comeoverOK... [Sidecomment:]Nowwhatthisdoesistakeher fromherSolidpositionandmovehertothe moreflexiblepositionofpossibilityofWellifhe getsthenumberrightwhichIdoubthewill, THENIllgoThisisalsoknownasthe Crowbarmethodinsalesandpersuasion. TheResponse:Ihaveherguessthenumber, getoutmyPalmpilotandopentheprogram whereyoucandrawonthescreen. ThenshethinksofanumberandIactasifIam writingitwithmypalmstylus.youreallydont writeanythingatall. ThenIsay,Ok,tellmethenumber Ifsheobjectsjustsay,Itsok...justtellmethe numberandIllshowwhatIwrotedown. ShetellsmehernumberandImholdingthe styluswithmyotherhandandmypalmpilotin theother,withthescreenfacingdown. IhavetheNOTEprogramopenonthePalm
PilotandwithmyTHUMBIwritethenumber thatshetellsmeasshetellsittomesothatit takesonlyasplitsecond...youhavetopractice thistogetitsmooth. IthenshowherthenumberthatIWrote downandsay,Letsgoalwaysworks! 3)TheWHATIFobjectiondestroyer TheObjection:Ivehadsomewomenholdback, resist,testmeconstantly,sometimesjustbeing allaroundbitchy.Inadditiontocallingthemon itaftergoingthroughonetestafteranother(And hotyoungwomenareespeciallygoodatgiving shittestssomearejustonebigconstantshit testuntiltheyremoaninginpleasureinyour bed!) TheResponse: Youknow,yourekindofmean...areyoulike thistoeveryone? ...Justwhatifbysomemiracleyoucouldlook intothefutureandseethatIwastheperfect personforyouwhereyouretotallyhappy... whereyouhaveeverythingthatyouvealways wantedinsomeone...thefutureofyour dreams...justwhatif...andlookingbacktonow knowingthis,Howdoesthischangetheway thatyoureactingtowardme? 4)ThePolaritySelfImageObjection Destroyer TheObjection: Shedoesntwanttodosomethingandshesa polarityresponder/mismatcher.(Hersorting strategyisthatshehastomakeupherOWN mindaboutthings,ifsomeonetellsher something,shelooksatallthereasonsNOTto doitfirst,andwhatisNOTtrueaboutwhatis
saidfirst.) TheResponse: Yes...actuallyyouseemtooNORMALtodo that...andmaybetoooldfashioned.Youdont seemlikethetypeofpersonwhocanjustdothis andhaveagreattime...No,youSHOULDNT dothis,andyoushouldntbeenjoyingthis,and youdefinitelySHOULDNTjustletyourselfgo withit!ThendoatakeawayandACT uninterested. 5)GoodoldGuiltObjectiondestroyer TheObjection: Shedoesntwanttodosomething. TheResponse: Itsokthen...youdonthavetodothis...even thoughitwouldbereallyniceofyou...even thoughitwouldtotallymakemyday...even thoughitwouldbetotallyspecialforme... maybeyoujustarentthatway...thatsfine... Thendoatakeaway. 6)TheTradeObjectiondestroyer TheObjection: Shedoesntwanttodosomething. TheResponse: OK,Illtellyouwhat...letsmakeatradethen... WhatwouldIneedtodoforyou,foryoutodo thisforme?Thenlistenandagree. AnothervariationistheTaketurnsapproach whereyousay,Ok,youdothisthistimeand nexttimeitwillbemyturn. 7)TheWhatwouldneedtohappenObjection
One method that will have her screaming for more Blake Richard's Orgasm Technique
Firstofall,afewwordstotheconservativeones outthere.SexisNATURAL.ItshowweGOT hereandtheEnergyfromsexualdrives havebeenredirectedandsublimatedandhave shapedourmoderndaysociety.Nowofcourse Imnotopenlyadvocatingcasualsex... Sexinacommittedrelationshipcanbea beautifulthing!Andofcourse,beresponsible andsafe... Okguys,nowtotheDIRT!
Hereitis...myownspecialtechniquethathas beenperfectedthroughtrialanderror.This techniqueROCKSandisthe bestthingIcanassureyouthatmostwomenwill experienceintheirLIVES! Hereitis.Stepbystep. 1)Ofcoursethemoodhastoberight.Shehasto bereadytogophysically. 2)Onceyouaremakingoutwithher,godown, kissherneck,thenherbreasts,thenherstomach, thentheinsidesofherthighs... 3)Thengobackuptohermouth,thenkissher neckagain,thenherstomach,thentheinsidesof herthighsagain...andyoumayeven wanttobitesoftlyherasscheekoneitherside... thenstartsuckingontheinsidesofherthighs... closerandclosertoherpussy... takeyoursweettime... 4)BythistimesheshouldliterallybeDRIPPING wet.YoushouldbeabletoSEEthemilkyjuices flowingdown 5)Thengorightinandlickrightupthemiddle allthewaytothetopofherclitinonesweep. watchherreaction... 6)Thenputyoufingersinsideher.(2ifpossible) Iwillusuallyputtheindexandmiddlefingersof myrighthandinside)andput themALLthewayintotouchthespotdeepin theuppervaginalwallrightontheupperrimof hercervix.
7)KeepyourfingersSTRAIGHTasyoureach backforthatspotthenpullyourfingerstoward thefrontinagentlesweepingmotion. GoDEEP,backandforthanddothisslowlyand rhythmically.Keepitsteadyandkeepitslowat first. Thenbringyouotherhandtorestyourpalmon topofherpubicmoundandpressINwithyour palmasifyouweretryingtogentlytouchyour fingersinsideher withthepalmofyourotherhandfromthe outside. 9)Continuetodothisrhythmically...slowly... deliberatelyandgently...lettingherpleasure build. 10)Addyourtongueonherclitsothateachtime youmassageUponhermoundwithyoupalm handyouareliftingandexposing herclittoyourtongue. 11)Dothisallslowlyanddeliberatelyandasshe getsmoreandmorearousedandcloserto orgasm,yougofasterandfaster... buildingyourstrokesuntilshehasthemost intenseorgasmofherlife! 12)Ifsheistooarousedorhasmultipleorgasms, youcanbreakitupbyjustgoingtostraightoral withyourtongueeverynowand then...inLONGstrokeswithyourtongueright upherslit...overandover...alternatingthatwith suckingandshorttonguestrokeson herclit...thengobackintotheorgasm technique...
Onemorenoteontechniquejusttobeclear... whenyoubringyourfingersinsideforward,you arekeepingupwardpressureofyour fingertipsontheupperpartofhervaginalwall. andthenyougobacktothatspot,thenbring yourfingersforwardkeepingupward pressureonthetoppartofhervaginalwall... Andtothisyouaddtheotherhandspalmonher moundfromtheoutsidemassaginginwardand addyourtonguetoherclitaswell. Nowwhenyouhavesexwithherafterthis,she willbesoexquisitelysensitive,wetandaroused thatitwillalsobethebestSEXshe haseverhad!
OnethingdoesgetyouthegirlintheEndGame ThewaysheFEELS. Therearemanywaystogettothisfrom demonstratinghighervalue,challengingher, fulfillingherneeds,cockyandfunny,social proof,elicitingstates(mypersonalfavorite)yet alloftheseleadtojustonething... ThewaysheFEELS. Awomandoesntfallinlovewithyou,neither doesshedecideconsciouslytoneedyou,andits nottoooftenthatawomanwilljustdecideon anintellectualleveltohavesexwithyou... Shefallsinlovewiththewayyoumakeherfeel. Shehassexwithamanbasedonthewayhe makesherfeelandwhatshegetsfromthe interactionandevenifshesaysshedrather givethanreceivepleasure,mostofthetime thatsjustsomethingthatsoundsnicebecause evenifitweretrue,shesusuallygetting something(likeemotionalpleasure)outof givingphysicalpleasureaswell. Soyouhavetokeepdoingthethingsthat amplifyherfeeling. Sowhatarethesethingsthatamplifyfeelingand howdoyoudothem?
Herearesomeofmyfavoritewaystoamplifya feelingintheEndGame.Iwilldomanythingsat times,like: 1)FRACTIONATE Fractionationisactuallyahypnoticdeepening technique.Inthebook,Hypnosisand Hypnotherapy,GeraldF.KeinandCalvin Banyandescribethistechniquewherethesubject ispartiallyemergedfromhypnosisandthen guidedbackintohypnosis.Whenthesubjectre entershypnosis,thereisanaturaltendencytogo evendeeper.Soyoucanimaginewhatthis methoddoestoasexualstate. Nowthewayyouusethisiswhenyouhave elicitedasexualstate,atjustthemomentwhere thetensionbuilds,yousuddenlychangethetopic andtalkaboutTheweatherorsomeother superficialtopic.Afterawhile,youbringupthe sexualtopicagainandstarttobuildthestateand elicititwithinthemandtheygoinevendeeper thistimeandatjustthemomentwherethe sexualtensionfeelssohot,youbreakthestate andtalkaboutsomethingsuperficiallikewhat youdidthatday.Andyourepeatandrepeat Youcanalsophysicallyfractionatetheseduction. Thisiswhereyoumaytouchherlegbrieflyorsit closetoherortouchherinsomewaythenyou justsuddenlystop...andafterawhileyoutouch heragain,thistimeonareasthataremore sensitivelikeherneck/face/innerthigh/innerarm thenyoujuststop...andonandon. Fractionationcreatesavacuumforawomantoget suckedinto.Asthefractionationgoesonitgets moreandmoreintimateuntilsheistheonethat isinitiatingtheseductionanditislessaboutyou
seducingherandmoreaboutherseducingyou. Imaginethatwithapowerfulfractionation technique,youvesuckedherintoavacuumand themomentumofthatpullmakeshertake action. 2)UsingOPENLOOPS Theresalottosayaboutopenloops.Partofthis hastodowithcreatinginterestinwhatyoure sayingbecauseshefeelslikesheisalways Hangingwhenyoudothingsliketellhera storywithouttellingtheendings,orwhenyou havemultipleopenloops(threads)goingatthe sametime,andhaveseveralunfinishedstoriesit tendstohaveahypnoticeffect.Butbecarefulnot tooverdoit.Youmaycomeoffashavinga slightcaseofAttentionDeficitDisorder. 3)UsingAMBIGUITY Thisisabouttalkinginawaythatletstheir imaginationfillintheblanks. Forexample,sincewomenarealwaystryingto interpretthingsratherthanjusttakingthemat facevalue,whynotusethattoyouradvantage. Forexamplewhencomingbackfromdinnerona firstmeetingwithawoman,Imaysay somethinglike,Youknow,Ilovetalkingwith youIcantstayuplate,butletstakethisupstairs foralittlewhileandseewhathappens,ofcourse wewouldjustbetalking!(saidwitha mischievousgrin)NoticethatIalsoputina falsetimeconstrainttobuildhercomfortlevel. IngeneraltheapproachthatIuseforambiguity isthatIwillsaythingsthatonthesurfaceseem innocent(andifcalledon,thatsofcoursethe
waythatImeantthem!)butthatcanbe suggestiveaswellifseenfromasexual perspective. 4)ElicitingsexualstatesandBuildingsexual rapport SeethesectiononElicitingSexualValues.Thisis oneofthebestwaystogetawomaninasexual state.AlsocheckoutthesectiononBuilding SexualRapport. AndcheckoutthesectiononthePendulum affectaswell. 5)UsingContrast ThisconsistsofPhysicallymovingtowardwhile verballymovingawayfromandswitchingback andforthbetweenthatandverbalmoving towardwithphysicalmovingawayfrom ForexampleImaysay,Youknow,Idontknow ifitwouldeverworkoutbetweenus...weretoo differentwhileatthesametimetouchingheror physicallyseducingherasifwewerealready sleepingtogether.Andcontinuedoingthesame thingforawhile. ThenIwouldwithdrawphysically/stoptouching herbutsay,Ilovetalkingtoyouyourenotlike anyotherwomanthatIvetalkedto.And continuedoingthesamethingforawhile. ThisismorethanjustHOT/COLDandmorethan justPUSH/PULL.Itisbothallatthesametime. InotherwordsIampurposefullyincongruent withmywordsandmyactionstowardher.This notonlythrowsthemforaloop,butoffersa
challengeandtheynotonlyfindthisinteresting, butalsobuildstheattractionandsexual TENSION. 6)PHYSICALseduction:(Massage,Usingbody language,gestures,andactionsthatassumethat wearealreadysleepingtogether ThisincludesthewayIlookatthemandeye contact,thewayItouchthem,andevendoing littlethingsthatassumesexualrapportasI mentionedbefore:likeFeedingthem,sharing theirdrinkglassatdinner,sharingdessert, touchingtheirface/neck/lipsifeventobrush offsomelint.SeethesectiononSexualRapport. 7)GivethemawaytoACTaroundyou OftenIdothisthroughColdreadingthemand buildupaselfimageforthemasaPhysical Typeofwomanwhoisverymuchathomein herownbody,whoknowsthatsheiscaredfor throughtouchandbyexpressingitthrough physicalaffection,whoisactive,spontaneous, andwouldratherdoitthanjustthinkabout doingit.SeemysectiononColdReading. Soagain,thesearejustsomeofmyfavoriteways toamplifyafeelingintheEndGame.Andits alsoimportanttohaveSolidGame,where youvebuilttheattraction,youvebuildthe comfortlevel,tothedegreetowhichawoman willseduceyouaswellintheendandbehappy aboutitafterward. TheEndGameisbuiltonandgainsits momentumfromeverythingthatcomesbeforeit.
Rememberinyourprogressthatthefirststageof masteryisunconsciousincompetencethisis whereyoudontevenknowhowyoure screwingup.Manyofushavebeenthereand throughtrialanderrorweveovercome.But theresabetterwaymodelwhatworks.Allof thismaterialhasbeenextensivelyfieldtested andintherightcontexts,doeswork. Thenextstepofmasteryisconscious incompetence.Asyougooutandtrythis material,starttobecomeawayofwhatworksfor youandwhatyouredoingthatneedsmore work.Itsalljustfeedbackforsuccess. Thenextstepisconsciouscompetence.Thisis whereyoustarttoseewhatisworkingforyou. Yourestartingtoincorporatetechniquesand skillsetsintoyourgameandyouinnergameis comingtogether. Thefinalstepisunconsciouscompetenceasyou gowiththeflow.Youveincorporatedwhat worksforyouintoyourgameandmostofyour focusisoninnergame.Thisiswhereyour skillsetandmindsetbecomeoneandalignwith eachothercongruently.Youcanthelpbutbe successfulAndthisiswhereyoudeservetobe!