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Early To Rise
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Start With a Master Plan ..................................................... 9 Your Personal Master Plan Will Be Not Only the Foundation But Also the Blueprint of Your Success .............................................................................9 Start Today by Selecting Your Life Goals. The Rest is Easy ..........................10 Turn Your 4 Life Goals Into Realistic Objectives .........................................10 A Near-Perfect Morning Routine ................................................................10 Chapter 2: Make Your Master Plan Effective ..................................... 13 Chapter 3: Make Every Day More Productive ................................... 15 Do You Use a Single, General To-do List? If You Do, Youre Making a Big Mistake ................................................................................................15 To Change Your Life, Youve Got to Stick With My Basic Program .............15 How Productive Do You Need to Be to Succeed? ........................................16 Is it Really Necessary to Be THAT Organized? ............................................17 My Success Program Takes Less Than an Hour a Day ................................18 Chapter 4: How Long Will it Take to Do What You Want? ................. 19 Anything Worth Doing Takes Time ............................................................20 Another Way to Speed Up the Process.........................................................21 Chapter 5: What You Think About in Your Spare Time May Determine Your Success ....................................................................................... 23 How You Dream Determines How You Do.................................................24 Chapter 6: How To Succeed With People........................................... 25 The 3 Golden Rules of Listening.................................................................25 Make 3 People Smile ...................................................................................26 Beware of E-mail and Return Buttons .........................................................28 Chapter 7: How to Get the Job You Want........................................... 29 How to Get a New and Better Job...............................................................29 Dont Send Out Resumes, Send Out Sales Letters Instead ...........................30 14 More Things You Can Do to Get a Better Job ........................................31 If You Want That Better Job, Go After it Like You Mean it .........................32 Want to Persuade Someone to Hire You? ....................................................33
Chapter 8: How to Get What You Want in Your Business or Career... 35 Make Friends in High Places .......................................................................36 Add Big Shots to Your Personal Network.....................................................37 Get Yourself a Free Mentor..........................................................................37 Promise to Follow Through on Your Career Goals.......................................38 The Best Way to Surpass Your Peers and Rise to the Top of Any Business....39 Chapter 9: The Most Important Skill You Need For Success ........... 41 The Persuasive Power of Personalization ......................................................43 Group Persuasion Techniques......................................................................44 How to Persuade Someone to Pay a High Price For Your Product ...............46 The Is it This? Is it That? Closing Technique............................................47 When Planning a Meeting, Plan to Persuade ...............................................47 Chapter 10: How to Be a Successful Negotiator .............................. 49 Chapter 11: No More Excuses ............................................................ 53 Addendum
Introduction
Surely you have a secret goal youve never accomplished. Im not talking about some dream that involves luck (like winning the lottery) but an accomplishment of some kind like writing a book or building a log cabin or learning to fly. Three years ago, when I first suggested that ETR readers identify and pursue such a goal, I had an unfulfilled dream of my own to make a movie. It was such an absurd idea. I knew nothing about making movies. I had no contacts in the movie business. I didnt even have an idea for a screenplay. Yet, despite everything that suggested my dream was foolish, I decided to make it one of my New Years resolutions. If you are a long-time reader of ETR, you know what happened. I made a deal with a friend to work jointly on the movie and gradually bought the equipment I needed to do so. By summer, we were ready to begin. I took two weeks off of work and spent 18 hours a day filming a movie that I was actually writing early every morning. The experience was an extremely brutal one. I learned a great deal about my shortcomings. But, at the end of the summer, I had a movie in the can. Its not a great movie. In fact, its not even a good movie. But its a dream. And I did it. What is your dream? Writing a song? Driving a Porsche? Spend a few minutes right now giving yourself permission to imagine yourself doing something that your life keeps telling you that you cant do. You can achieve what you want in life. You just have to make the effort, pay attention to what you are doing, and spend the time it requires to get there. Contrary to popular opinion, theres no big mystery to finding success. It is not a matter of knowing the right peopleor catching a lucky breakor being born with a silver spoon. Success is a matter of what you do, and how you do it. In the following pages I will show you how to get everything you need to succeed in life with a focused, deliberate approach that will help you reach your dreams faster than you ever thought possible. So lets get to it.
Your Personal Master Plan Will Be Not Only the Foundation But Also the Blueprint of Your Success
A Master Plan says that you are serious about your life goals. It is a formal contract between the visionary you and the daily, working you that lays out, point by point, what exactly has to be done to achieve all your major objectives over time. The Master Plan works because it takes very large, sometimes very nebulous, ambitions and breaks them down into specific tasks things you have to learn, things you have to know, and things you have to do. Transforming dreams into tasks may take away some of the romance, but what youll get instead is a growing excitement about how increasingly likely it is that you will accomplish your dreams. The reason most people dont achieve their ambitions is NOT that they arent smart enough, shrewd enough, or complicated enough. Its that they are emotionally too complex, shrewd, and smart. They allow themselves too many subconscious conflicts of interest, which stall their progress or derail them. Making a Master Plan work is about simplifying your interests and acting upon them in a very simple way. When you get the emotional gratification of taking one forward step toward one cherished goal, it will make it that much easier to take the next step. Think of your Master Plan as a behavior-response system for the ultrasophisticated (and highly interesting) YOU. To perform better than you have in the past (and achieve more than you have so far), you have to act differently now. And if you really want to achieve those dreams you dream about, you have to make sure that what you do today this very day, not tomorrow will move you closer to those dreams.
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each task took. (I run a subtotal of the cumulating times to the right of that so there is some relationship between what I want to do and how much time I have to do it.) As a general rule, its a good idea to structure all of your tasks so that none lasts more than an hour. Ten-minute, 15-minute, and 30-minute tasks are best. If you have something that takes several hours to do, break it up in pieces and do it over a few days. It will be better for the extra time you give it and you wont get crushed on any one day. Also, be sure to slot in time for relaxing, eating, etc. When you are done, double check to make sure the time you allocated does not exceed the time you have available. You will have now finished Step 2. Your day is organized not according to what others want from you but according to what you want from yourself. If you have never done this before, it will be a major change.
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Efficiency Tip No. 1: A Small Thing That Can Make a Huge Productive Difference
About two years ago, a retired publisher who does more work in one day than most working publishers do in a week, shared one of his secrets with me. Wherever he goes, however hes dressed, he carries in his pocket a very small pad of paper and a pencil. He uses it not only to jot down phone numbers and the like but also to record those fleeting good ideas big and small that come to us when we are least prepared to make note of them. Since Ive started using this system, I no longer forget these little ideas that make life a little better. I also use it to help me keep my priorities straight. Rather than waste 90 seconds staring at the light board of an elevator, I can take a quick look at everything Im trying to get done that day/week/month/year.
Ideas go in your idea folder. When everything has been properly disposed of, give yourself a fresh index card. You can also use an index card as a cheat sheet when you attend formal business functions. Jot down full names and key facts (i.e., baby boy, Jason) for colleagues you are likely to run into. It can help you make a good impression. Imagine. You will no longer forget important names and dates. You will develop a reputation for being good at follow-through. And youll never forget those great ideas that come to you briefly...and then are gone.
Efficiency Tip No. 4: Choose a Time Planner That Works For You
Most organized executives I know use personal organizers. Some use paper calendars. Others prefer electronic planners. I use a homemade system. That said, I have personally found that the most efficient are the daily diaries. The least efficient? Without a doubt, its the electronic planner. Ultimately, what matters is that you pick a system you will use consistently. So anything that tickles your fancy is the ticket.
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Do You Use a Single, General To-do List? If You Do, Youre Making a Big Mistake
In an attempt to get everything on paper, my client wrote up a single list of all the things she wanted to do. It included mega-goals (like become a stronger person), big objectives (like earn $80,000 this year), medium-sized tasks (like make three new appointments this week), and mini-tasks (like return Johns phone call). As I mentioned above, her list ran several pages. She worked with it every day, she saidand she had made some progress but the more she used it, the longer it got. Some important stuff went undone and she was feeling more swamped as time passed.
and so on. Write those down and put them somewhere safe. Then create a yearly goal sheet that is directly the result of those Life Goals. Make sure that you have specific, yearly objectives that move you along toward each Life Goal at a realistic and satisfying pace. Next, create a monthly task list (directly from your yearly objectives) and a weekly list (directly from your monthly). Your daily to-do list should consist of specific tasks. You should estimate beforehand how long each task will take and you should therefore be able to accomplish 80% or more of those tasks each day. If your schedule requires you to accommodate interruptions, allow for them on your task list. You probably cant accomplish more than 20 or 22 significant tasks each day. Over the years, Ive found that a typical 10-hour day for me consists of approximately: 10 or 12 15-minute tasks Six or eight 30-minute tasks One or two 60-plus-minute tasks There is something about my nature the emotional, physical, and intellectual capacities I have that prevents me from doing much more than that. You may be able to do more, but chances are you wont. If you do find that your limit is about the same as mine (or even less), you can create your entire daily to-do list on one side of a 3-by-5 lined index card. Thats how I do it. The important point is this: There is a giant difference between using a generalized to-do list and following my program for getting things done. If you are doing the former, your chances for changing your life are probably less than 20%. If you take a little extra time and effort to do the latter, your chances are 90% or better.
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of education counts. In this case it saved me about 30% of the time I would have spent otherwise. So I would make this adjustment to my theory. Deduct 20% to 30% for good teaching.
Dont worry about your progress. Doing a repetition at half speed does not make the learning process twice as long. It makes it faster, because you are creating just one neural pathway and none to cause you to deviate from your course. The fundamental rule is this: Do it right every time you try and you will learn faster and perform better. It may be possible that the secret to virtuosity itself is not some mysterious preexisting natural capacity for a particular skill, but a natural inclination to practice it correctly. Isnt that what imaging is all about? Isnt imaging just a visual way to improve the quality of the repetition? ETR readers know the secret of accomplishing any goal: 1000 hours to achieve competence and 5000 hours to achieve mastery. Ive talked about how you can shorten that time by being coached well. Now I see that being coached well means having someone who can show you the perfect way. By learning perfect form and practicing it perfectly, the time it will take you to master a task any task should be considerably shorter. Im convinced. From now on Im going to slow down and get it right. When I put aside, say, fifteen minutes to practice something, Im not going to try to do as many repetitions as possible, but to do as many perfect repetitions as I possibly can.
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Chapter 5: What You Think About in Your Spare Time May Determine Your Success
If youve done some thinking about what you want from life, you may have discovered that becoming wealthy is not at the top of your list. This presents a dilemma: If you spend your prime time on some other goal, you may live poor; if you focus primarily on making money, you may fail at what you value most. This is the problem of a friend of mine who runs a 3-year-old career counseling and training business. After a strong start, sales had reached a plateau and profits were shrinking. He was working hard, he said, but things were slipping through the cracks. Some of those things were important. Shareholders werent happy. He felt overwhelmed and unappreciated. He was thinking about quitting. We took a look at what he was actually doing the specific tasks he was finishing every dayand what we discovered was that he was not working smart. He was wasting time on unimportant problems that, through prior neglect, were becoming emergencies. All that could be fixed in time and by some task-management work, but there was also a more serious problem. He didnt have any good ideas about how to boost sales and increase profits. Ive tried everything, he said. I just dont know what else to do.
Test Yourself
Do you spend time thinking about your personal life at work? Even attending to it by phone calls and e-mail messages? Or does your day fly by and you find yourself sneaking in extra work at home and dreaming about business problems? If you are fully committed to your work, you will dream about itat night and during the spare moments of your day. Blunt, purely rational approaches do not solve the really tough problems. They require an imaginative approach that normally comes from dreaming.
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gave me a price of $29,500. I would have paid $32,000. Making my case after I had listened to his gave me an advantage one that probably saved me a couple grand. So the first and most important Golden Rule of Listening is to shut up and let the other person talk first. Do that, and youll be way ahead of the game. If you want to become a listening master, you might want to remember two more advanced listening rules: Listen on two levels: (1) to the literal content and (2) to the emotional story behind it. Summarize before you present your case. Restating the speakers thoughts and feelings ensures him that you understand him and makes him grateful and more open to your ideas. (Note: Be very careful not to devalue the speakers ideas or feelings by the words you choose to summarize them.) Frankly, I sometimes find it difficult to follow this advice. When I enter into a discussion, I have usually been thinking about it for some time. In thinking about almost anything, I approach it from different points of view. That gives me the illusionary feeling that the conclusion I come to should be good not just for me but for the person to whom Im speaking. Thats not always so. Moreover, people sometimes just need to be heard. They want to tell you their story, and they want you to listen to it. If it involves a problem and you think you have the solution, you may be tempted to interrupt their story to offer it to them. Usually a bad idea. Let them finish their sad tale. Then ask if they have a solution. You may be surprised at how frequently they do. Why did they bother to tell you? It may be as simple as the need for sympathy. Nothing wrong with that, so long as the need doesnt become neurotic. Constant whiners are impossible, unproductive, and draining. They should not be tolerated. Are you a great listener? Heres a clever way to find out: Ask someone who knows you. And listen to the answer.
When you are in the presence of an invisible salesman, you may forget about him completely because you are so excited about what you are about to buy. No one is purely one kind or the other. We are all, in parts, charming, aggressive, and self-effacing. Learning to focus the targets attention on whats in it for him is the primary skill of the invisible salesman. But it is also important to work on your personal skills and that means diminishing those characteristics that intimidate and developing those that charm.
1. It will make you feel good. 2. It will give you a feeling of power. 3. Your smiling subject will be more open to your ideas and interests.
only even listen to that kind of information if he thinks it will help him out in some way. But the more he reads about what you want and what you need, the further away he feels from his own wants and needs. Thats not what you want to do.
Lets Face it, When it Comes to Getting a Better Job, the Process is a Sales Event
The product is you. The customer is the business you want to work for. And the process of selling yourself should resemble a sales call, not a celebrity interview. How do you sell something? You start by doing some background work. You study the potential customer base. You try to understand what they need, what worries and confuses them, and what their problems, hopes, and desires are. You become close to your prospects, because you know that when it comes time to sell you are going to have to answer their questions, solve their problems, and convince them that you can help them achieve their dreams. In this case, you have to sell your customer on the idea that you can make its business better. To do that, you need to figure out how you will improve its profits. And to accomplish that, you need to study it. If you want a better job, you have to be willing to sell yourself as a better product.
3. Makes the claim that you are the person to solve/achieve them. 4. Proves that you are serious about working for this company. 5. Requests a specific action (asks for the sale). If you write the right sales letter, its OK to send a resume along with it.
13. Dont try to befriend your prospective employer. Be friendly instead. 14. If you feel you might not get the job you are seeking, suggest that you can do a project for the company on a freelance basis. Perhaps even for free. That way, you can find out if I can do what Ive promised, you can say, without any risk on your part. This works in selling vacuum cleaners. It should work for you. One final word from Fox: If you dont know why the company should hire you, its a good bet the company wont know either.
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4. Review newspapers, magazines, online sites, and trade journals but research only prospects that meet your criteria. 5. Narrow down each days possibilities to a handful of genuine opportunities. 6. Research each of these opportunities by reading, visiting the business, examining its products, speaking to current employees, going for informational interviews, etc. 7. Write targeted letters to potential bosses (bypassing their personnel departments). 8. Send thank-you notes to all those who respond to you, even if negatively.
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me, I forced the conversation back to him, his business and his business ideas. Here are a few things I learned: 1. Ted is a big believer in what we call in direct marketing the back end. Most companies, he correctly points out, spend most of their time and money on acquiring customers and then neglect (and disappoint) them thereafter. 2. Smart companies realize that the new customer, properly treated, is a source of income for life. Rather than ignore him, you should astonish him with attention. He provided one good example: he likes to give new mail order information buyers a free, unexpected book along with a short thank you note sometime during the first week after they buy. He tells them he appreciates their business and that he hopes the book is helpful. 3. Ted has found that since he retired, he makes plenty of money, all the money he needs, without working so hard. He recommends selective working picking and choosing the work you do and the people you do it with. I know this sounds like Advice from a Rich Guy, but I believe its profoundly true.
End by saying something like, I know you are a very busy man, but if you ever have a spare half-hour, Id love the chance to get some advice from you on my own career. Insert your business card and post it. Repeat once a week until you run out of names.
Dont offer to compensate him. Simply ask for a short interview. Take him to lunch and ask questions. If your personalities click, youll have a permanent mentor. Dont abuse the relationship. Remember that in most cases the compensation retired executives are looking for is psychological, not financial. Continue to let your mentor know how helpful he has been. Make small but meaningful gestures of gratitude. If and when you have your mentor working for you more than an hour or two a month, it will be time to think about cutting him in. Most people in your mentors situation would be happy to take a percentage. Dont overcompensate, but be fair. His contributions will be greatest in the beginning and then taper off mostly because youll have learned from him. Something between 2% and 10% seems right to me.
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their course work or anything they had written. When they left, I worried that I had just created a new full-time job for myself, responding to these 8 or so people. I expected a rush of e-mails and packages with everything they had ever written, including grocery lists and letters to their mothers. Only one person has ever contacted me. Interesting. Only one in eight. The rest had come so far and then on the verge of success faded. How can you explain such behavior? Laziness? Fear? However you think of it, what didnt happen was something very simple: follow-up. Make yourself this promise: that you will promptly follow up on everything you promise and especially everything that will help your wealth-building and success-generating goals.
The Best Way to Surpass Your Peers and Rise to the Top of Any Business
Whats the best way to surpass your peers and out do your competitors? Work harder than they do. If that sounds daunting, consider this: Most people dont work very hard. Some people spend their time doing as little as they possibly can. Most do stay busy, but they are not always very productive. They write long memos, discuss issues that dont need much discussion, contest insignificant points, and attend to the tedium. But only a very few apply themselves long and hard to the critical business challenges. According to Saul Gellerman, an expert on the subject, people at work form a bell-shaped curve when it comes to diligence and follow-through. At the bottom are the loafers and goof-offs. In the middle is the silent majority that does just enough to get by. At the top are the relative few who are motivated to achieve. When you understand the dynamics of any such group, you understand that a modest amount of hard work will put you beyond both the terminally slothful and the lump-along middle crowd. Just by being modestly ambitious, you will rise to the top third of almost any organization. But getting up the last few rungs of that ladder will be tough, because the few you are competing against are competing hard. Chances are they are as smart and talented as you, with the same (or more) basic resources. They may even have better contacts. But there is one thing they dont have more of and that is time. If you can use your time more effectively than they use theirs, you will move ahead of them. Hard workers eventually succeed even against those who have advantages. You can do better than someone who is smarter, richer, and luckier than you so long as you are willing to work harder than he does. As a friend said to me the other night, Life isnt fair. When it comes to money, beauty, intelligence, and talent, the distribution is uneven and arbitrary. But one
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thing we all have an equal amount of is time. We each have 24 hours a day. Even the length of life you get is not fair, but the 24 hours you have each day is the same for everyone and what you do with those hours will determine your success and happiness. ETR gives you the chance each morning to plan your day and think about a new way you can use your hours better. People who rise to the top work long hours, but not excessively long. They are at their desks early at least an hour before others and they stay later (though it may be only a half-hour later). But what they do best is work harder when they work. They do the necessary things first, even if they are difficult. They learn what they need to know and dont waste business time learning unimportant stuff. They are willing to harass and cajole, tease and criticize, flatter and pout to get the job done. They spend a few minutes every morning organizing their days and a little while every Monday morning planning their week. They select their tasks based on what will achieve their goals, not on what happens to end up in their in boxes. They manage their jobs; they dont let their jobs manage them. Hard work is a lot of, well, hard work. But if you break every job down into little, easy-to-handle pieces as we do with ETR you can accomplish an extraordinary amount. And once you get into the habit of working harder and smarter than the people you compete with, your success is guaranteed.
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In real life, if you really wanted to get a friend to buy a piece of cake, youd probably start by describing how great the cake smells, how gooey it is, how thick the icing is, and how it will just melt in his mouth... In other words, youd create a verbal picture that teases his desires his hunger, his craving for chocolate. Youd tempt him by appealing to his emotions. You would not bore him with reasons or bully him with force. Understand this first principle and youll have people eating out of your hands.
Rule #2 Hit Em Where It Hurts: People Buy Things for Emotional, Not Rational, Reasons
If people acted rationally, you couldnt sell chocolate cake. Theres no logical reason to eat it. Its not nutritious. It makes you fat. It screws up your metabolism. And its expensive. So why is chocolate cake a multi-million-dollar industry? Because it makes you feel good! To be persuasive, you have to appeal to your prospects feelings and desires. Here are seven very important ones: Fear, Greed, Vanity, Lust, Pride, Envy, and Laziness.
Rule #3: Once the Prospect is Emotionally Sold, He Needs to Justify His Irrational Decision With Rational Reasons
Think about TV commercials for cars. How do they work? First, you see a stirring image of the car itself beautiful, stylish, new. The background says something too: Theres a mountainous landscape for the prospect who wants to see himself as rugged. A five-star hotel for the prospect who wants the car to enhance his status. A beautiful woman for well, you get the idea. Next, you see an interior shot to show how luxurious your life will be with this car. You get to listen to the state-of-the-art sound system. (The type of music depends on the feeling required.) Then, theres a shot of the car driving by the ocean. Put it all together and you have an effective 20-second movie thats designed entirely to appeal to emotion. But car commercials dont stop there. They usually give you numerous bits and pieces of information the size of the engine, statistics on fuel economy, speed, weight, interior space, rankings in national surveys and customer satisfaction reports, and so on. All this data isnt meant to sell the car. Its to make the prospect feel good about the decision hes already made. And in the final analysis, this is almost as important as the emotional appeal. Though the information doesnt sell the car, it does justify the sale. These secrets are, of course, only the beginning. But the great thing about the secrets of selling is that once you understand how they work, you can use them in every aspect of your life: to land a better job to get a promotion to sell more
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of your companys products even to convince your friends to follow your advice for your next vacation. Make no mistake about it; mastering the basics of selling can really give you an edge. And theres no better program to help you do this than the sales writing program from American Writers & Artists Institute (AWAI). For more information on this program go to www.thewriterslife.com or call AWAI at 561-278-5557.
A Shortcut to Trust
One of those techniques is personalization. If you can make your customer feel special, noticed, and important, he will be open to your suggestions. Dale Carnegie says the prettiest sound in any language is the sound of your own name. Professional salesmen and politicians know this.
Latin at Cornell, it was AF! Amo, Amas, Amat, Amantis, Amatis, Amant! My friend seldom varied his greeting originality wasnt one of his virtues but he never failed to warm your heart and loosen your purse strings. And it worked despite the fact that he did it not only with my brother and me but also with every other person who walked into the bar. The 2 most important secrets of making personalization work This taught me something about how personalization works. The key is not that you pretend you dont have other personal relationships. Its that you make each relationship (1) enthusiastic and (2) individual. So, when you meet someone, memorize his name and one interesting (hopefully positive) thing about him. Then, the next time you see him, greet him jubilantly and ask a question or make a comment related to that one thing. Youll be amazed at the effect. This is a great tool for improving all your relationships, personal as well as business. And it will also improve your mood. Faking enthusiasm has a surprising tendency to create it.
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I learned this lesson vividly years ago. When teaching English literature in Africa, I would sometimes come to class unprepared and try to get by with a spirited half-assed presentation. I figured my students had two disadvantages: They knew nothing about English literature, and they didnt speak fluent English. I should have been able to snow them, but I couldnt. Somehow, they knew what I was doing. So the first rule of group selling is to talk about nothing except things you have a comfortable knowledge of. If you do that, you will never do badly. If you want to do better than OK, however, you might consider the following techniques used by professional speakers. Ask questions early. Get an idea of whom you are speaking to. Find out who they are, what they want from your speech, how much they know, and so on. This technique gives you three advantages: By letting them talk about themselves, you get their attention; by getting their thoughts out there first, you can account for them in your comments; and, finally, by allowing people to express their ideas, theyll feel part of the solution your solution when it comes. Talk only about what you know and ask for feedback before you make any pronouncements. If you follow these two golden rules of public speaking, youll always do fine. Here are a few more rules for you: 1. Make your first sentence engaging and compelling. Your first sentence is like a headline. It needs to be carefully created. Use the extra time you get by listening to your audience talk about their lives and their ideas to formulate the precise words that capture your thoughts, address those of the group, and advance your agenda. 2. Make your last sentence equally strong. You dont want to dilute the effectiveness of your argument by running on too long or finishing with a secondary remark. Be sensitive to your audiences reaction to what you are saying. If you do, you will have their attention and at some point in your presentation whether it is a formal one that lasts an hour or an impromptu argument that runs 30 seconds you will recognize that you have hit your mark. The group will be moved to your point of view. When you reach this juncture, end quickly and strong with a single, powerful sentence. 3. Whenever possible, solicit testimonials. If someone in your audience can testify to what you are saying, by all means ask him to do so. For longer, more formal presentations you should also do the following: Anticipate questions and answer them in your presentation. Tell your audience beforehand that you will answer questions at the end.
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Illustrate what you mean with little stories anecdotes the audience can picture. Toward the end of your presentation, create a sense of urgency, a reason to act now rather than later. It needs to be real, not contrived. Spend some time thinking about it. If you are naturally funny, be yourself. But dont try for laughter. Practice your presentation. If you dont, two bad things will happen: One, you will not be able to finish the material you have assembled. Two, your audience will be thankful when you run out of your allotted time. Remember, these skills apply to group selling situations of all sizes, including business meetings/dinners/etc. If your motive is to sell, use these techniques and succeed.
4. Make the high price itself a benefit. Our service is not for gym rats. You will find only quality people here: doctors, lawyers, etc. 5. Shame them into acceptance. If you cannot afford our fees, I can recommend several group-lesson programs that fit into the price range you are looking for. Feel free to adapt any one of these techniques to your next sales presentation.
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What you do how you act, what you say, your gestures, and the tone of voice you choose is making an impression. It can be (a) good, (b) bad, or (c) indifferent. It might improve (though only slightly) your image, tarnish it, or reinforce an existing prejudice. You cant ignore this fact, so why not take advantage of it by committing yourself to making each meeting a positive one? Why not promise yourself that at the end of the meeting you will either have improved someones impression of you or secured for yourself and your company some business advantage? Make sense? Then heres what you should do: 1. Spend a few minutes thinking about what you want to get from the meeting. Is there a particular objective you can attain? If not, resolve to improve the relationship or simply improve your image as a smart and capable person. 2. Give yourself a reasonable goal. If you want to close a deal but realize it cant be done at this particular meeting, settle for something else such as an agreement on one part of the deal if and when it comes to fruition. 3. If your goal is to improve the other persons impression of you and you know he thinks you are a scoundrel, dont press too hard. Be happy with showing him that you are perhaps not all that bad. You want your goal to be achievable, of course, because if its not youre going to push too hard and damage a potentially good relationship. 4. To accomplish any objective specific or general you need to figure out how it is going to benefit the person (s) you will be meeting with. Formulate an if ... then approach. If the person you are speaking to agrees to help you with your objective, then he will enjoy certain positive results. (If you cant figure out beforehand what such positive results would be, your objective may be unreasonable.) 5. Once you have a fair and sensible if ... then proposition, present it subtly. In most cases, you wont want to put it as directly as If you do this for me, Ill do this for you because it will make the other person feel manipulated. That said, make your point and keep making it until youve achieved your goal. If you make this a habit, youll be amazed at how much youll get done and how powerful youll feel.
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Assess and shape BATNAs. Take steps to avoid role biases and partisan perceptions. The great negotiators are those who take a broader approach to setting up and solving the right problem. With a keen sense of the potential value to be created as their guiding beacon, these negotiators are game-changing entrepreneurs. They envision the most promising architecture and take action to bring it into being.
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The unspoken assumption was that the contract itself was the basis of the relationship. I knew it was not. The basis was the deal itself: One party wanted something the other could provide and was willing to pay for it but not on the contracted terms. I was able to persuade them both that fighting over the contract would get them nowhere. Starting from ground zero, they were able to write a new contract that made both of them happy without either of them feeling cheated. Next time you run into a difficult problem, think about the hidden assumptions that might restrict the way you approach a solution and ignore them. Youll be surprised by how easily and often this works. Before long, youll be known as a creative problem solver.
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That means you will never mention them to your boss, your co-workers, your spouse, or your confessor. You wont talk about them when you are scared, tired, weary, or drunk. You wont ever again give them a place in your speech. Nor will you provide them a berth in your thinking. If you are going to fail, do so properly without excuses. If you are going to succeed, you have to leave those excuses behind you. OK, the excuses are gone. Ive shown you the steps to take. Now its up to you ... Follow this program and youll get everything you need to succeed in life.
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