Customer Reactions
Increased frustration
Higher sense of helplessness and fear
Increases aggression
Becomes more abusive
Bureaucratic response
Gets triggered, takes bait
Responds defensively
Coldness or terseness
Unhelpful or passive
Lack of listening and impatience
Employee Reaction
Defends or counter-attacks
more triggered
less self-control
more aggressive or colder
even less helpful sounding
Escalation to
CRISIS
Loss of
Control
Violence
Potential
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Bait Identification
Below are some common things that hostile customers say to government employees. For each item determine
whether it contains bait, and explain what the customer is really saying to the employee. (the implied messages). Check your answers with the answers at the back of the book (Appendix A). Remember, you DONT
want to take the bait and get hooked.
2.1.1
I want to speak to someone who knows what they are doing. Is there a man I can speak to?
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2.1.2
I dont know what to do next. I have to feed my family, and cant hardly put food on the table now.
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2.1.3
Look, if you reduce my cheque, my kids are going to starve, and its going to be your fault.
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2.1.4
I want your supervisors number, so I can call to clarify to make sure you are correct
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2.1.5 How can you say that, dont you know your own laws? Well see who is right. Give me your supervisors number.
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2.2
Take a look at the following dialogues. Indicate whether you feel the employees response is effective or not
(i.e.. would it defuse the situation). Explain why and compare your answers with the ones in Appendix A.
2.2.1
Customer:
Look, if you reduce my cheque, my kids are going to starve, and its going to be your fault.
Employee:
Theres nothing I can do about that, so you will have to figure out what to do, I guess.
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2.2.2
Customer:
Look, if you reduce my cheque, my kids are going to starve, and its going to be your fault.
Employee:
I can tell youre upset about this situation, and I will do my best to help you out. Would you
like me to suggest some alternatives for you?
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2.2.3
Customer:
I want your supervisors number so / can call to clarify to make sure you are correct.
Employee:
Shes just going to say exactly what I just said. If you want to waste your time, go ahead.
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2.3
Job Work
2.3.1 Tomorrow at work, observe people interacting. Identify any phrases or actions that appear to
contribute to the escalation cycle. Write them down.
Escalating Actions I observed:
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2.3.2
After your next interaction with a hostile customer, take a few moments to answer the
following questions:
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2.4
2.4.1
Over the next few days, observe hostile and angry people around you. Pay attention to the ways that adults express their hostility and anger. What similarities do you find between the way adults express their anger, and the
way children do? When you are angry, what ways do your own behaviors resemble those of an angry child?
2.4.2
Using your past experiences, identify very specific ways you have played the hostile game on the ATTACKERS TURF, and by the attackers rules. What happened? What would you do differently?
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