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Compulsive and Addictive Behavior: How it Effects You !3 What do you want for your life?!5 Identify People, Places, Things, Etc. That Attract the Qualities You Want to Possess, Create Distance from People, Places, and Things that Do the Opposite--Take Action!!11 Raja Yoga Subconscious Character Building Exercise!13 A Condent Expectation!16
Addictions to sugar, drugs, alcohol, caffeine, nicotine not only undercut physical tness, personal appearance, personality, and health, but will steadily diminish a persons self-control, self-esteem, and happiness. Such addictions are rampantly common, yet widely unadmitted. Addictions and compulsions also undermine honesty because they constantly require dishonest rationalizations. That dishonesty, in turn, reduces self-esteem, competence, productivity The Neo-Tech Discovery, Frank R. Wallace Who doesnt want to be calm, in control, and collected? Who doesnt want peace of mind? You cant have it when youre divided against yourself. You cant have it when your behavior is controlled by addictions and compulsions. Addictions and compulsions take you out of the drivers seat and put you in the backseat. This book aims to put you in the passenger seat rst, and then back in the drivers seat where you belong.
snacks and provide a comfortable life for my family" is better-assuming your area isn't saturated with coffee shops! Write down your denite purpose and put it in a place where you will see it often.
Figure Out What Actions You Need to Take to Accomplish Your Denite Purpose
The next step is to list the specic actions you will need to take to accomplish your denite purpose. If you want to open a coffee shop, you might need to meet with the local government to see what permitting you'll need. You might want to meet with other coffee shop owners to nd out what's worked for them (assuming these people aren't in your area and would therefore see you as competition). You might look for books about starting a business and talk to other business owners in the area. Maybe you'll join a meet up group. As you move farther down the road, your specic actions will change, but you need to constantly be thinking about what actions you need to take to support your denite purpose.
Reinforcing the technique with AA or some other outlet might be advised depending on your situation.
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Identify People, Places, Things, Etc. That Attract the Qualities You Want to Possess, Create Distance from People, Places, and Things that Do the Opposite--Take Action!
Action, action, action! - Bruce Lee He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. Proverbs 13:20 That friend you have who is always encouraging you to drink? Maybe not so much of a friend. It might be that the alcohol is all that is holding you together. Hey, it happens. Going to a bar might not be advisable if youre trying to stop drinking, either. Similarly, if youre trying to lose weight, you wouldnt want to head to a family restaurant where all the patrons are overweight and the portion sizes are huge. As I said in the rst chapter, when youre talking about addictions and compulsions, youre really talking about consciousness. As you gain control over your addictions and compulsions, youll begin to be more aware--more conscious. Youll notice different things about places you used to frequent. You might notice a particular establishment has a low energy and every time you leave there, you feel worse. Time to move on. Youll develop different interests and potentially shed your old ones. Its a transition phase. Youre vulnerable here.
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You might lose friends here who were never really your friends. This is where support can help. Keep up with the exercises. Youre embracing something higher and moving away from something lower, but right now you might be caught in between. It could go either way. Stay strong and pick the correct course of action. Surround yourself with people who can help. If you dont have people like that, nd them! By the way, if youre cutting out alcohol--get it out of your house! Limit your chances to exposure.
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The process described above was unconscious. How often has that happened to you? You desire a sundae, even though youre full. Youve eaten already. But you imagine that sundaeoh, itll taste so good! The waitress asks if youd like dessert. Before you have a chance to stop yourself, youve said yes and now you nd you cant stop yourself. Thought, word, deed... Change the thought, nurture a different thought, and get different results. Pick a desire, and indulge it. See yourself exhibiting the desirable traits you want to have. Imagine people complimenting you on your new self. You will begin to feel a stronger desire forming. While youre going through this process, you might slip up and enact a habit you want to rid yourself of. Relax. Dont beat yourself up. Youre not trying to engage in a monumental battle of willpower that you have to ght all the time. So you slipped up. So what? Go back to cultivating a higher desire and refusing to dwell on your other lower desire, whatever it is. Dont allow yourself to experience the frustration, just view it as something that happened, and go back to work on the process. Therein lies the secret. You have higher desires and lower desires. You want to replace your lower desires with higher ones. Heres what you do: starve the lower desires of any thought whatsoever. Dont even think of them. Lavish the higher desires with all sorts of positive attention. Thought control is very difcult so it is likely youll experience some difculty keeping your mind off your lower desire. I nd that for me, it works well, if I accidentally start thinking about the lower desire, to
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think only of negative qualities about it. For instance, with drinking, I would just think of the hangover, of getting sick, or of making a fool out of myself. This is the technique from the book Red Gold, called attraction and repulsion. Youre attracting yourself to the positive desire and repulsing yourself from the negative one. Remember, each victory gives you strength, each defeat weakens you. So far youve formed a desire and youre promoting it over some other, lower desire. The only other ingredient you need is faitha condent expectation. Youre going through a process, the process is based on psychological law, and it works. Let it work. Expect it to work. Continue the process and you will nd that you are easily, and happilyjoyfully, evenmaking the correct decisions and your old habits are a thing of the past. Youll feel great. Youll be calm. Youll feel in charge of yourself because you have consciously worked to make a positive and wonderful change in your life. Youll look back at your old self and wonder just how you allowed that to happen. Youll be on a whole new conscious plane of existence.
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A Condent Expectation
Be diligent. Be assiduous in your practice of guring what your purpose is, what your goals are, and what habits youll need to eliminate to reach it. Then expect good things. Have a strong faith. Youre doing the work, you know where you want to go, you will succeed. If thoughts drift, as they do, gently put them back in order. If you make a mistake, no sense in beating yourself up over it, just recognize what happened and continue to proceed with your work, condently expecting the best possible outcome.
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