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A Womans Place, From Process to Destiny Published through CreateSpace.com An Amazon.com company CreateSpace 2009 International Standard Book Number:1-44868-207-X Interior images by Crystal Whalon, CrystalWhalon.com Scripture quotations are from The New International Version via http://biblos.com/ Printed in the United States of America ALL RIGHTS RESERVED No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means-electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise--without prior written permission. For more information Crystal Whalon crystal@crystalwhalon.com

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Contents
An Invitation for the Thirsty...........................................1 Greetings from the Author..............................................2 Preface............................................................................4

Section I The Road Starts Here: Woman of God Who are you? Chapter One
What Denes you?.............................................10 From Misconception to Acceptance...................19

Chapter Two

Section II The First Turn: Forgiveness Chapter Three Chapter Four Chapter Five
Its a Girl! Whose arms were you placed in?...28 Me, Myself, and I................................................39 Releasing what is already gone...........................46 v

Section III Emotional Stability Chapter Six

Emotional Intelligence.........................................56 The Art of Resting- Its a faith thing....................62 The Plight of the Single-Girl................................69

Chapter Seven

Chapter Eight {Bonus Chapter}

Section IV The Faith Walk: Cultivating the greatest relationship of your life! Chapter Nine Chapter Ten
Embark on the Journey of a lifetime: Rest in Peace Me..................................................76 Know Thy Self.....................................................83 Your Entourage makes the difference..................89 Ouch, this re is hot- Jesus help!.....................94 Your Destiny Awaits..........................................102

Chapter Eleven

Chapter Twelve

Chapter Thirteen

Special Note from Crystal.............................................108 Notes..............................................................................110 About Crystal Whalon...................................................112 vi

Chapter IX

Embark on the Journey of a lifetime Rest in Peace.. Me

... but the righteous will live by his faith (Habakkuk 2:4 NIV)

Effective Immediately

I sit up in particularafter sleepless nightsdecision that my bed of revelations. This day I will make a
will affect the rest of my life. I dared to be bold enough to leave my comfort zone and embark on the greatest journey of my life. I pick up my cell phone and dial the company 76

with whom I was working for and utter the words that would change the course of my life forever; I resign! I hung up the phone and thoughts of doubt and fear began ooding my head. I cried out to God, Oh my god, what am I doing? I just quit my job. What am I going to do now? I closed my eyes as tears began to roll down my cheek. I plop down on the corner of my bed, cupped my face with the palm of my hands, and I start to weep. A couple of seconds later, the presence of God lled my room and He whispered two words to me that warmed my soul; Trust Me. You may be wondering how I came to such a life changing decision. It all started about a month earlier. I would wake up, go to work, come home and start the routine all over again the following day. I experienced the same routine day after day. I dreaded going to work everyday and I began to call out to God in prayer. Is this all you have for me, Lord God. Is this all my life will ever be. I have dreams Lord, and goals and I am miserable. Jesus, enlarge my territory! Prepare me for what you have for me next. Make me more than what I am today. Boy did He ever! A day after I prayed that prayer, He called me into a fast. I had never really fasted before, but I denitely felt the call to do so. For ten days I fasted from food and then on day eleven a shift occurred. My best friend and I went to a bookstore just to pick up some inspirational reading. I ended up purchasing Reposition Yourself by the awesome T.D. Jakes. She ended up 77

purchasing The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson and David & Heather Kopp. We drove back to the house and became very excited about diving into our newly purchased literature. We both started reading on a Friday and she was nished with hers by Sunday night. She walks into my room Sunday evening and says, This book is for you! You need to read this book now. I start the reading and from the acknowledgements page I knew I was a goner. If you do not have The Dream Giver, I advise you to go pick it up. That book became the syllabus to the journey that I was about to embark on. The book basically details the journey out of your comfort zone and into the promise God has for you. I didnt sleep a wink that night. I read and read until I was done. At 3:30 A.M I closed the back cover and I looked up to the sky. What now? I whispered to God. I was so sensitive to the spirit due to the fast that His words seemed audible. I knew what was next, but I was in too much shock to admit it. I have to quit my job, dont I? I said. Effective Immediately, God replied. I laid back on my pillow as time ticked closer and closer to the start of my shift. No two weeks notice, Jesus? I inquired. Effective Immediately, He reiterated. What are my parents going to say? What is my roommate going to say? I say as panic sets in. Who are you trying to please, them or Me? He says with words that shook my spirit. 78

Ok God, I will trust you. Die in order to live The beginning of my faith walk started with making the decision to step out of the comfort zone of a mundane job in order to embark on the path God wanted me to be on. He wanted me to be blessed and fullled in what I do with the life He has given me. The routine life had to die in order for my dream to live. I am currently on the back end of my processing season and I can truly say that I wouldnt change a single thing. Your journey may entail resigning from a job, or resigning from a relationship in order to align yourself with what God wants for you. If you have an internal struggle going on within you that is yearning for more out of this life. If your dream is calling out behind the wall of your ordinary life, then it maybe time to step out of your comfort zone and embark on the greatest adventure of your life. Get into the presence of God and inquire of Him. Dare to ask for more. Dare to ask to be greater than what you are today. He will set you on the road towards your destiny and design a process just for you. My situation was a bit extreme, but it was designed based upon who I am. We all require a different type of processing. Father Abraham broke out of his comfort zone relying on the promise that God gave him. The Lord had said to Abram, Leave your country, your people and your fathers household and go to the land I will show you. 79

I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you. (Genesis 12: 1-3 NIV) What a promise God made to Abraham. What will you believe God for today? Die to Self The faith walk that we embark on with our Lord Jesus Christ needs two very important components in order for His will to come to pass in your life. The rst component that is required in the faith walk is surrender. You must surrender everything that you are to the Father. You must surrender your hopes, dreams, gifts, talents, nances, family, expectations and your time table. Surrender to God is a dying of what YOU want for what God wants. It is a surrender of a decision making process that used to involve just you; to a decision making process that involves only Him. He speaks and you act. This leads to the second component that you will need to embrace: Trust. You must trust God. You must trust His perfect timing and how He desires to bring your Destiny into fruition. There is a place that you will journey to where only you belong, but you must trust that He will get you there and trust how He gets you to that place. If you 80

dont trust Him, then you dont believe that He can bless you. The faith walk then no longer exists and this will derail the blessing. If you are ready to embark on the journey of a lifetime, buckle up. Get ready to be blessed. Get ready to be a blessing. His wonderful works will be adored by the masses because of what He will do with your surrendered life.

Prayer
Mighty God, Everlasting Father: I come before you today to ask you to enlarge my territory. Bless me indeed. I crave for the life that you want for me. I surrender to your loving and correcting hand to make me bigger than who I am today. I bless you beyond words. Use my life to be a blessing to others. Use my life to show others of what you can do with a surrendered life. I surrender all that I am. I lay my expectations and agenda at your feet. Nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done (Luke 22:42 KJB). I thank you in advance for what you are about to do in my life. I am ready to leave the land of familiar to embark on the journey towards the Place in which you have set aside just for me to thrive in. Bless you Lord. Thank you Jesus. For I ask these blessings in that mighty name of Jesus the Christ I pray. Amen!

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