Be A Mentor, Inc.

Orientation to Mentoring
1260 B Street, Suite 375 Hayward, CA 94541 (510) 795-6488

Training Guidelines

Maintain Confidentiality Be here now-No cell phones Speak from the heart Listen from the heart Respect differences Refer back to training guide HAVE FUN!!!

Training Objectives

To better understand the issues and environmental factors facing our youth today. To understand the role and COMMITMENT of the mentor. To understand and demonstrate practices of effective mentors:

How Youth Enter Program

Receive Orientation Complete Application Parents/Guardian Complete:

Questionnaire Authorization Form

Youth is Interviewed

What is the Project Managers Job?

Recruit/interview Mentee Interview Mentors Complete Paperwork Hold Match Meeting Monitor the quality of match

Why Youth Need Mentors

Peer Pressure Substance Abuse Sexuality Social Skills Child Abuse Family Violence Anger Management Absenteeism

Depression/ Suicide Nutrition & Health Pressure At Home Goal Setting Part-time Work Failing Grades

From The Kids Eyes!

Forget about what YOU think a young person needs.

Why would a young person want to be friends with you? What does a mentee think a mentor is?

Youth Say a Mentor Is

Easy to talk to Someone to look up to a friend One who shows us new things Not a parent One who does not judge us Understanding FUN! knowledgeable

One who doesnt get mad A role model One who encourages us One who listens to us Open-minded Empathetic Trustworthy One who gives guidance One who respects us

Role of the Mentor

Academic Help Goal Setting Career Exploration Assistance Emotional Support Exposure to new things

Practices of an Effective Mentor

Respects Youth Viewpoints Allows Youth to Make Mistakes Involves Youth in Decisions Is Committed Separate Goals Keeps Relationships Alive Focus on the positive

Builds a friendship

An Effective Mentor

Confirms Appointments Has Fun

Pitfalls of Mentoring

Imposes Values Sporadic Meetings Authority Figure/Transform Youth Demand Equal Participation Not Seeking Support of Project Manager

Stages in Relationship

Guidelines for Difficult Situations

Discuss the problem. Think beforehand about what you want to accomplish. Bring things up early in visit. Separate the behavior from the person. Stay serious but supportive. Discuss sensitive issues in a private place. Consider relating something personal. Reinforce something positive about your mentee.

Culture

Our youth are extremely ethnically diverse. Cultures include customs and values. Culture is a set of mental rules for survival and success that a particular group of people has developed.

Culture

Cultures are multifaceted: Family structure, Spirituality, Language, Art, Parenting practices, Concept of growth, aging, & death Goal of mentoring is to create inclusion. You feel valued and respected by me. I feel valued and respected by you. Gang activity, not about skin color, but about which neighborhood your from.

Conversation Starters/Practices

Come to your mentoring time, prepared! Any type of game, book or activity you use, should start a conversation not kill it. Ask High Quality Questions Be Careful not to use yes and no Questions.

Login Hours and Activities

www.beamentor.org

Login Email address Password Activity Form Select a mentee Activity Date Time Comments

Mentor Commitment

4-6 hours each month Weekly telephone contact Document activities/hours Keeps contact with parents Attend quarterly wisdom circles Attend mentor events

Confidentiality

When can I break it? How do I break it?