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YOU CAN WIN

BY, SHIV KHERA

HARSHIL K SHAH DEVANGI DOSHI UJJVAL BHATT

Topics to cover
Importance of Attitude Success Motivation Self-Esteem Interpersonal Skills Subconscious Mind and Habits Goal Setting Values & Vision

Importance of Attitude
What is inside that counts like attitude. People can be your biggest asset or biggest liability. A great building require a strong foundation. Opportunity is always under our feet. The grass on the others side always looks greener. I cant do it. dont know how to do or dont want to do.

IMPORTANCE OF ATTITUDE
Building a Positive Attitude

Factors Determining Attitude


Environment Experience Education

Benefits of Positive Attitude


Increase productivity Solves problem Improves quality Promote Teamwork improves relationship with colleagues, employer & customer Lessen stress from environment In short he will be fruit of all season who always welcome.

Consequences of Negative Attitude


Spreads resentment Bitterness A purposeless life Ill health High stress level

Steps for building Positive Attitude


Step Step Step Step Step Step Step Change Focus: look for the positive. Make a habit of doing it now. Develop an attitude of gratitude Get into continuous education program Build a positive self-esteem Stay away from negative influences Learn to like things that need to be done Step 8 : Start your day with something positive 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 : : : : : : :

Step 1: look for positive


Dont try to find fault. Be a digger for gold dont see the dirt. Dont criticize dont take your stand in opposition Be an optimist and not a pessimist Spend time for yourself & not to criticize others

Step 2: make a habit of Do it Now


Habit of procrastination leads to negative attitude Live in present and dont wait for future Never leave till tomorrow which you can do today.

step 3: develop an attitude of gratitude


Count your blessings & not troubles Dont complain about things what we dont have but thank god for what he has given us

Step 4: Be a continuous learner


Put emphasize on Value education Be a good judge New philosophy: be master of all & jack of none. Ability without right attitude is wasted. Educated people in true sense Know what you dont know first Sharp your mind like an axe Feed your mind positive everyday Recognize your limitation

Step 5: build a positive self esteem


Do something for others Dont try but do Dont think that what others are doing is none of your busyness

Step 6: Stay away from Negative Influences


Negative people Bad habits : smoking, drug & alcohol Pornography Profanity

Step 7: Learn to like the things you need to do


Take interest in work which is compulsory

Step 8:Start your day with positive


Put us in right frame of mind

Winners versus Losers


Be the part of answer Have plan Let me do it for you Optimist It was my fault Dreams & action plan I must do something Part of a problem Have excuse Say: that is not my job Pessimist It wasnt my fault Schemes Something must be done Apart from team Win/lose belief

Work in team Win/win attitude

Success
Winning strategies

What is success
Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal.

Success is an endless journey For success we need to struggle. Suicide is the permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is not failure but the bounce back ability that define success. If you want to succeed double your failure rate.

Qualities that makes a person successful


Desire to succeed Commitment Responsibility Hard work Character Positive believing Give something more than you get Persistent Feel pride for whatever job you do Be a student

Desire
Whatever the mind of man can conceive & believe, the mind can achieve it Burning desire leads to the success

Commitment
Play to win & dont play for not to lose - thats make the difference a lot. Success is not in the achievement but in the achieving.

Responsibility
Losers try to let things happen where as winners make things happen Take responsibility & learn from the mistake.

Hard work
There is no magic wand for success Without hard work there is no success Excellence is not luck but can only comes from a lot of hard work & practice

Character
Sum of persons values, beliefs & personality. Needs to be preserved than the richest jewel in the world. Dont let criticism distract you from reaching your goal. Learn to handle success to remain successful : best example SACHIN Adversity builds or reveals character

Give more than you get


Go ahead by an extra mile. Always think of value addition when do some work Dont complete the work only by 100% but some more

Be persistent
Try & try until you get succeed. Finish what you start

Take pride of the job done


The quality of the work and the quality of the worker are inseparable.

Be a student : get a mentor


Best teacher will not give something to drink but make you thirsty.

Reasons of Failure
Afraid of taking risks Lack of persistence Instant gratification Lack of priorities Looking for shortcuts Selfishness & greed Lack of conviction Planning Not learning from past mistakes Fear Inability to use talent Lack of discipline Fatalistic attitude

MOTIVATION
Motivating yourself and others everyday

What is Motivation?
Motivation = Motive + Action Motivation is something that encourages action. To motivate means to encourage and inspire. It is like Fire- unless you keep adding fuel to it, it dies. Motivation is powerful. It can persuade, convince and propel you in to action.

Why do we need to get motivated?


Motivation is a driving force in our lives. It comes from a desire to succeed. Without success there is little pride in life, no enjoyment or excitement at work or at home.

Can we motivate others?


The answer is No!!!!. We cannot motivate others, people motivate themselves. However we can inspire them to motivate themselves. In order to do this, we need to understand their needs and wants.

Classification of Motivation
Motivation can be classified in to two types:
Motivation

External

Internal

External Motivation
External motivation comes from outside, such as money, societal approval, fame or fear. Fear Motivation The advantages of this kind of external motivation are: -It gets the job done quickly.

Fear motivation..
-It prevents loss, by meeting deadlines. -In the short run the persons performance may improve. The disadvantages of fear motivation are: -It is external, which means the motivation is there while the motivator is there.

Fear motivation (Disadv.)..


- When the motivator goes, the motivation also goes. -It causes stress. -In the long run, performance goes down. - It destroys creativity.

Internal Motivation
Internal motivation is the inner gratification, not for success or winning, but from the fulfillment that comes from having done it. It is lasting, because it comes from within and translates into selfmotivation. The two most important motivating factors are RECOGNITION and RESPONSIBILITY.

The Four Stages from MOTIVATION to DEMOTIVATION

1. 2. 3. 4.

Motivated Ineffective Motivated Effective Demotivated Effective Demotivated Ineffective

Demotivating Factors
Some of the de motivating factors are: Unfair criticism Rewarding the non performer which can be de motivating for the performer. Lack of direction Lack of measurable objectives. Low self-esteem.

Demotivating Factors.
Lack of priorities Unfair treatment Poor standards Responsibility without authority. New methods of motivation will not work till the demotivating factors are removed.

Motivators
The greatest motivator is Belief. We have to inculcate in ourselves the belief that we are responsible for our actions and behaviour. Doing this, improves : quality, productivity, relationships and teamwork.

Steps to Motivate others


Here are some steps to motivate others: Give recognition Give respect Be a Good listener Throw a challenge Help but dont do for others what they should do for themselves

SELF-ESTEEM
Building positive self-esteem and image

What is SELF-ESTEEM?
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves. It critically influences everything, from our performance at work, our relationships to our accomplishments in life. It is a major component in determining success or failure. High self-esteem leads to happy, gratifying and purposeful life.

Advantages of High SELF-ESTEEM


Self-esteem: Builds strong conviction. Creates willingness to accept responsibility. Builds optimistic attitudes. Makes a person self-motivated and ambitious.

Advantages
Improves performance and risktaking abilities. Helps a person give and receive both criticism and compliments tactfully and easily. Leads to better relationships and fulfilling lives.

How do we recognize poor SELF-ESTEEM?


The behavior patterns of a person with poor self-esteem are: They have high egos- they are arrogant- and have a Know it all attitude. They are difficult to work with and for. They constantly make excuses- always justifying failures.

Poor SELF-ESTEEM
They never accept responsibility. They have a fatalistic attitude. They are jealous by nature. They are generally gossipmongers. Their behaviour is senseless and erratic and they have no genuine friends. They are touchy in nature-fragile ego.

Poor SELF-ESTEEM
They have negative expectations of themselves and others and are seldom disappointed. They lack confidence. -constantly seek approval and validation from others. -Bragging about themselves.

Poor SELF-ESTEEM
-Conformist behaviour. -Lack of assertiveness. They lack a sense of direction. They emphasize more on material things. Lack of pride in themselves. They are takers not givers.

Some characteristics of people with:


High SELFESTEEM Low SELF-ESTEEM
Talk about ideas Confidence Courage of conviction Accept responsibility Talk about people Confusion Conformist behaviour Fail to accept responsibility

Characteristics
Discuss Argue

Give and receive criticism Guided Willing to learn


Caring Attitude Internally Driven Giver

Unwilling to accept positive criticism Misguided Know it all attitude Critical Attitude Externally Driven Taker

Characteristics
Better Antisocial relationships and fulfilling lives Respect others Looks down on others Keep promises Escape from promises Sensitive Touchy

Understanding

Greedy

Causes of Low SELF-ESTEEM


Negative self-talk or Negative Auto-suggestions Environment Education Making unfair comparison

Causes..
Unrealistic Expectations of perfection by parents, teachers and supervisors Lack of discipline Teaching the wrong values

Steps to building a positive SELF-ESTEEM Turn Scars in to Stars Accept responsibility Practice Discipline Set goals Associate with people of High moral character.

Steps
Learn to give and receive compliments Give yourself positive Auto-Suggestions Have patience Become internally driven, not externally driven Develop a mind set that brings happiness

INTERPERSONAL SKILLS
Building a pleasing personality

Trust
All relationships are trust relationships. Factors that build trust are: Reliability gives predictability Consistency- builds confidence Respect Congruence Character

Factors that prevent building of Positive Relationships Selfishness Lack of courtesy Not meeting commitments Self-centeredness Negative attitude Lack of listening, discipline, and respect for values.

Factors
Suspicious nature Anger, rude behavior Touchy nature Greed Unwillingness to accept the truth Ego Envy - jealousy

Steps to building a POSITIVE PERSONALITY Step Step Step Step Accept responsibility Consideration Think Win/Win Choose your words carefully Step 5 : Dont criticize and complain Step 6 : Smile and be kind Step 7 : Be a Good listener 1 2 3 4 : : : :

Steps..
Step 8 Step 9 Step 10 : Give honest and sincere appreciation : Discuss but dont argue : Be Understanding and caring : Develop a sense of humor : To have a Friend, Be a Friend : Be sympathetic and show empathy

Step 11
Step 12 Step 13

SUBCONCIOUS MIND AND HABITS


Forming positive attitude and character

Conscious and Subconscious Mind


Subconscious is like the automobile Conscious is like a driver. Weeds still grow and weeding must be continue. The GIGO principle.

How do we get Conditioned?

Environment and Media. Kind of books we read kind of company we keep.

How to get programmed?


Sustain what needs to be done, Abstain from what is detrimental until it becomes habitual. Unconsciously Incompetent.
Consciously Incompetent. Consciously Competent Unconsciously Competent

What is Habit?
Inspiration is what gets a person started, Motivation is what keeps him on track, and it is the Habit which makes it automatic. Habits are a matter of the pain and pleasure principle..

Resistance to Change
Lack the desire to change
Lack the discipline to change Lack the belief that they can change. Lack of awareness for the need to

change.

21-Days Formula to form Positive Habits


Autosuggestion. Prepare the subconscious Translate Autosuggestion in to reality Visualization

GOAL SETTING
Setting and Achieving your Goals.

What is Goal?
Knowledge helps you to reach the destination ,

provided you know what the destination is.


Dreams and wishes are nothing more than desires. Direction Dedication Determination Discipline Deadline

Desire become strong when they are supported by 5Ds.

Why dont people set Goals?


A pessimistic attitude.
Fear of failure and fear of rejection Lack of ambition Low self esteem Ignorance of importance of goal.

zero failure don't mean 100% success

Goal should be SMART


S- SPECIFIC

M- MESURABLE
A- ACHIVEBLE R- REALISTIC T- TIME BOUND

Life is hard by the yard,but by the inch, it is cinch

Goal should be Balanced


Life is like a wheel with six spokes, Family Financial Physical Mental Social Spiritual

Why to aim high?


Aim

for moon,even if you miss, You will become one of the stars.

Activity is not the same as accomplishment

VALUES AND VISION


DOING THE RIGHT THINGS FOR THE RIGHT REASON.

Values

No person was ever honored for what he received.honor has been the reward for what he gave.

How to judge our values?


Mama test Baba test Wrong concepts of money. No person was ever honored for what he received,honor has been the reward for what he gave If people have not defined a philosophy of success,they have actually defined philosophy of failure by default.

It is Priceless- CHARACTER
The most unfortunate part of life is when people plan to get money without earning it.
People with character integrity and right values are not for sale. People want to be overnight success at the cost of their conscience and still it doesnt work.

Commitment
Implies

Dependability
Reliability

Predictability Empathy Consistency

Commitment..
A sense of duty Caring Sincerity Character integrity loyalty

Commitment..
Commitment means surrendering our personal wants for another persons need. Commitment to friendship implies maintaining confidentiality.

Commitment to customer implies giving


good service. Commitment to job implies to integrity. Commitment to community implies responsibility.

Ethics
Values and ethics are not design for good

time,but also to prevent bad time.


Most of our choices today are based on Our desire for convenience,comfort and pleasure

Our feelings
Social fads and ads

Ethics and legality Purpose of life. Winning is an event, being winner is a spirit. What is goodness?

What affects Ethics?


Greed
Fear

Pressure.

Changing Values-Today's Values


Win by hook or crook
There is sadness for getting caught rather than regret for having done wrong. Try not to be a man of success,

But rather try to be a man of value.

Vision
Lack of vision results in to failure. Everything that we see today was a dream before it became reality. Live with enthusiasm, direction and sense of purpose.

IF THE UNIVERSE IS ACCIDENT,WE ARE ACCIDENTS BUT THERE IS MEANING IN UNIVESE,THERE IS MEANING IN US ALSO -- EINSTEIN

WINNING VS WINNER.

IT IS BETTER TO DESERVE AN HONOUR AND NOT HAVE IT, THAN TO HAVE IT AND NOT DESERVE IT.
-MARK TWAIN

WINNERS ARE GRACIOUS.


AFTER A WINNER MANY HAVE PUT EFFORTS.