PERSONAL & PROFSSIONAL

DEVELOPMENT
THE POWER OF
POSITIVE ATTITUDE
MANAGERIAL/INTERPERSONAL SKILLS,
ETIQUETTES, MANNERISM, GROOMING
AND
MOTIVATIONAL LEADERSHIP & KNOW THY
SELF.
BY

FAISAL KAMRAN
WHO ARE YOU?
WHAT ARE YOU?
YOU ARE THE PRODUCT
OF
YOUR ATTITUDES
 These attitudes are
maintained by the
inner conversation
you constantly have
with yourselves, both
consciously and
subconsciously
 So,
The first step in
changing your
attitude is to
change your inner
conversation.
PMA
POSITIVE MENTAL
ATTITUDE
 Positive or
Negative

Active or
Passive.

Optimist or Passimist
 PMA
 It is quite common to hear people say:
"Think positive!", to someone who feels
down and worried. Most people do not
take these words seriously, as they do
not know what they really mean, or do
not consider them as useful and
effective. How many people do you
know, who stop to think what the power
of positive thinking means?
 PMA
 The following story illustrates how this
power works.
Allan applied for a new job, but as his
self-esteem was low, and he considered
himself as a failure and unworthy of
success, he was sure that he was not
going to get the job. He had a negative
attitude towards himself, and believed
that the other applicants were better
and more qualified than him. Allan
manifested this attitude, due to his
negative past experiences with job
 PMA
 His mind was filled with negative
thoughts and fears concerning the job
for the whole week before the job
interview. He was sure he would be
rejected. On the day of the interview he
got up late, and to his horror he
discovered that the shirt he had
planned to wear was dirty, and the
other one needed ironing. As it was
already too late, he went out wearing a
shirt full of wrinkles.
 PMA
 During the interview he was tense,
displayed a negative attitude, worried
about his shirt, and felt hungry because
he did not have enough time to eat
breakfast. All this distracted his mind
and made it difficult for him to focus on
the interview. His overall behavior made
a bad impression, and consequently he
materialized his fear and did not get the
job.
 PMA
 Jim applied for the same job too,
but approached the matter in a
different way. He was sure that he
was going to get the job. During
the week preceding the interview
he often visualized himself making
a good impression and getting the
job.
 PMA
 In the evening before the interview
he prepared the clothes he was
going to wear, and went to sleep a
little earlier. On day of the
interview he woke up earlier than
usual, and had ample time to eat
breakfast, and then to arrive to the
interview before the scheduled
time.
 PMA
 He got the job because he made a
good impression. Of course he had
also the proper qualifications for
the job, but so had Allan.
 PMA
 What do we learn from these two stories? Is
there any magic employed here? No, it is all
natural. When the attitude is positive we
entertain pleasant feelings and constructive
images, and see in our mind's eye what we
really want to happen. This brings brightness
to the eyes, more energy and happiness. The
whole being broadcasts good will, happiness
and success. Even the health is affected in a
beneficial way. We walk tall and the voice is
more powerful. Our body language shows the
way you feel inside.
 PMA
 Negative thoughts, words and
attitude bring up negative and
unhappy moods and actions. When
the mind is negative, poisons are
released into the blood, which
cause more unhappiness and
negativity. This is the way to
failure, frustration and
disappointment.
 PMA
 Practical
Instructions
 In order to turn the mind
toward the positive, inner work
and training are required.
Attitude and thoughts do not
change overnight.
 PMA
 Once a negative thought enters your
mind, you have to be aware of it and
endeavor to replace it with a
constructive one. The negative thought
will try again to enter your mind, and
then you have to replace it again with a
positive one. It is as if there are two
pictures in front of you, and you choose
to look at one of them and disregard
the other. Persistence will eventually
teach your mind to think positively and
ignore negative thoughts.
 PMA
 In case you feel any inner
resistance when replacing negative
thoughts with positive ones, do not
give up, but keep looking only at
the beneficial, good and happy
thoughts in your mind.
 PMA
 It does not matter what your
circumstances are at the present
moment. Think positively, expect
only favorable results and
situations, and circumstances will
change accordingly. It may take
some time for the changes to take
place, but eventually they do.
Let yourself be Happy.
Count your Blessings
Every Day
 Definitions of Will Power
and Self Discipline?
 It is the inner power that
overcomes the desire to indulge in
unnecessary and useless habits,
and the inner strength that
overcomes inner emotional and
mental resistance for taking
action. It is one of the corner
stones of success, both spiritual
and material.
 SELF DICIPLINE
 The human being is full of inner
unconscious, or partly conscious,
impulses. People sometimes say or
do things they later regret saying
or doing. On many occasions
people do not think before they
talk or act.
 Will power and self-
discipline
 Willpower and self-discipline help
us to choose our behavior and
reactions instead of being their
slaves. Don't think that life will become
dull and dry in this way. On the
contrary, you will feel more powerful, in
charge of yourself and your
surrounding, and consequently much
more happy and satisfied.
 How many times have you felt too
weak, lazy or shy to do something
you wanted to do? You can gain
inner strength, initiative and the
ability to make decisions and
follow them. Believe me,
 itis not difficult to develop these
two powers. If you are earnest and
are willing to become stronger,
you will certainly succeed.
 By practicing appropriate
exercises, you develop your
powers the same way, as a person
who trains the muscles in order to
strengthen them.

Developing Will Power and
Self Discipline
 One way to develop and
improve these abilities is to
practice doing some
disagreeable things in your
daily life. Your mind and
feelings will probably oppose
doing them, nevertheless, do
them.
 Remember, strengthening one of
these abilities, automatically
strengthens the other one.
 EXCERCISE
 1)You are sitting in a bus or train and
an old man or woman, or a pregnant
lady walks in. Stand up and give up
your seat even if you prefer to stay
seated. Do this not just because it is
polite, but because you are doing
something that you are reluctant to do.
In this way you are overcoming the
resistance of your body, mind and
feelings.
 2) There are dishes in the sink that
need washing, and you postpone
washing them for latter. Get up and
wash them now. Do not let your
laziness overcome you. When you know
that in this way you are developing your
will power, and if you are convinced of
the importance of will power in your
life, it will be easier for you to do
whatever you have to do.
 3)You come home tired from work
and sit in front of the T.V. because
you feel too lazy and tired to go
and wash yourself. Do not obey
the desire to just sit, but go and
have a shower
 4)You may know your body needs
some physical exercise, but
instead you keep on sitting doing
nothing or watching a movie. Get
up and walk, run or do some other
physical exercise.
 5) Do you like your coffee with
sugar? Then for a whole week
decide to drink it without sugar.
You like to drink three cups of
coffee each day? For a week drink
only two.
 6) Overcome your laziness.
Convince yourself of the
importance of what is to be done.
Convince your mind that you gain
inner strength when you act and
do things, in spite of laziness,
reluctancy or senseless inner
resistance.
 7)Sometimes, when you want to
say something that is not
important, decide not to say it.
 8)Don't read some unimportant
gossip in the newspaper, even if
you want to.
 9) You have a desire to eat
something not too healthy. Refuse
the desire.
 10) If you find yourself thinking
unimportant, unnecessary,
negative thoughts, try to develop
lack of interest in them, by
thinking about their futility.
 Advantages of Possessing
Strong Will Power and Self
Discipline
You need both of them in order to
rule your thoughts and to be the
boss of your mind. The stronger
they are, the more control you
have over your thoughts, and
consequently your powers of
concentration get stronger.
 Theseabilities are essential for self
growth, spiritual growth and
meditation. They give you control
over your daily life, help you
improve your habits and behavior,
and they are the keys to every
success.
List 10 Things you are grateful
for.
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Please take 2minutes
Then which of the
Blessings of your Lord will
you both (jinns and men)
deny?
SURA AL-RAHMAN
 AVOID HIPOCRACY
 NEVER MAKE THE PROMISE TO
YOUR BROTHER, WHICH YOU FELT
THAT YOU WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO
FULFIL
Thank you
God
Even though I clutch my blanket and growl
when the alarm rings,
Thank you, God, that I can Hear.
There are many who are deaf.

Even though I keep my eyes closed

against
the morning light as long as possible,
Thank you God, I can see.
Many are blind.
Even though I huddle in my bed and put of rising,
Thank you Lord, that I have the
strength to rise.
There are many who are bedridden.

Even though the first hour of my day is hectic,

When socks are lost, toasts are burned and
Tempers are short, and my children are so loud,
Thank you, God for my family.
There are many who are lonely.
Even though our breakfast table never looks like
the picture magazines,and the menu is at times
unbalanced,
Thank you God, for the food we
have.
There are many who are hungry.

Even though the routine of my job is often

monotonous,
Thank you, God for the opportunity
to work.
There are many who have no jab.
 Even though I grumble and
bemoan my fate
from day to day, and wish my
circumstances were not so
modest,
Thank you, God, for life.
 So, do some
reflection, and
count your
blessings.

Your day will

improve.
 ALWAYS
NOTICE
THE POSITIVE
SIDE OF LIFE.
 WHAT YOU
GIVE IS WHAT YOU
GET.
Have you ever
thought why
some people
are more
successful
than others?
Because
They Think
&
Act More
Effectively.
 Remember It.
 The Most Selfish one word letter “I” Avoid it.
 The Most satisfying two word letter “we” use it.
 The Most selfish three word letter “EGO” Kill it.
 The Most beautiful four word letter “Love” Value
It.
 The Most five words generous letter “SMILE”
Keep It.
 The Most six word bad effect letter “Rumor”
ignore it.
 Remember It.

The Most meaningful seven words
letter “Success” achieve it.
The Most Ugly Eight Words letter
“Jealousy” Distance it.
The most necessary nine words
letter “Knowledge” Acquire it.
The most useful ten words letter
“Confidence” Trust it.
 WHO WAS
THE
INVENTOR
OF
ELECTRIC BULB?
THOMAS EDISON
Thomas Edison
had tried 9,999 times to
perfect the light bulb
and hadn’t succeeded,
someone asked him, “Are
you going to have ten
thousand failures?
He answered,
I didn't fail. I just
discovered another way
not to invent the electric
light bulb.”
 Every mistake is
an opportunity to
learn something new.
 The secret to
success
is
never to give up.
 FORGIVE
YOURSELF…
AND
MOVE ON
Know That When
One door Closes,
others Open.
 SKY IS THE LIMIT

HUM NEY JAA KE DEKH LIYA

RAHGUZAR SE AAGEY
BHI………….
RAHGUZAR HI RAHGUZAR
HAIN RAHGUZAR SE
AAGEY BHI.
 SOME
OBSERVATION
S ON OUR
ATTITUDES
People often
violate small
rules and
regulations .
ONE
:
People do not
have a tendency
to make a que.
TWO:
•Violation of
traffic lane and
signals.

•Wrong parking
THREE:
• Most of the
cycles do not have
proper back
lights.
FOUR:
• People often come late
and leave early.

• They feel happy if they

reach home half an
hour early.
 •
FIVE: It is now indeed
very hard to
find any footpath
or sidewall
without pan’s
stains.
Or
Chalking on Walls
SIX:
• Throwing paper
cups, plastic
bottles, used tissue
papers on streets.

• Throwing garbage
outside the house.
 There are
numerous
ways in which
such attitudes
reflect poorly
on a nation.
 DO NOT
UNDERESTIMAT
E YOURSELF.
YOU ARE WHAT
YOU THINK
YOU ARE!!
The Eaglet that
turned a Chicken
A story goes that a farmer
once found an eagle’s
egg and put it with the
eggs of the hen in his
courtyard.
The eaglet hatched with
the brood of chicks and
grew up with them.
All his life the eaglet did what the chicks
did, thinking he was a chicken.
He scratched the earth for worms
and insects.
He clucked and cackled; and he
would sometime thrash his wings
and fly a feet or so in the air.
Years passed by and the eagle grew
old.
One day he saw a magnificent bird above
him in the cloudless sky.
It glided in a graceful majesty
among the powerful wind currents,
The old eagle looked up in awe.
 Who’s that? He asked.

That’s the Eagle,

The King of Birds,
said his neighbor.
He belongs to the sky. We
belong to the earth – we’re
Chickens.
So, the eagle lived
and died a chicken,
for that’s what he
thought he was.
YOU ARE WHAT
YOU THINK
YOU ARE !
 And
Do Not Let
Anyone Crush
your Spirit.
THE JAPANESE
AND
THE GERMAN
SPIRIT
 TURNING
HUMILIATING
MILITARY DEFEAT
INTO ECONOMIC
VICTORY !
 We need to recall, and
capture the message of
Dr. Allama Iqbal who
says
 PEOPLE WITH
POWERFUL
POSITIVE ATTITUDE

EXAMPLES
OF
RECENT TIMES
ERIK WEIHENMAYER
MOTHER TERESA
ERIK WEIHENMAYER
DARING CONQUEST
OF
EVEREST
 BLIND MAN
 CONQUERED EVEREST AT THE OF
AGE-35

 BLIND SINCE HE WAS 13 YEARS

 VICTIM OF A RARE DISEASE OF THE

RETINA

 HEBEGAN ATTACKING MOUNTAINS

IN HIS EARLY 20s
BLIND TO FAILURE
Everest eats the
unready and the
unlucky.
Almost 90% of
Everest climbers
fail to reach the
summit.
 For Erik, the key was
acceptance-not to fight his
disability but to learn to
work within it.
Not to pretend he had sight
but to build systems that
allowed him to excel
without it.
 It could be called
the most successful
Everest Expedition
ever.
It is not the
mountain we
conquer, but
ourselves.
- Sir Edmund Hillary
Huge Transformation
of
South Africa
Mandela’s words,

“the struggle is
my life,”

are not to be
taken lightly.
MOTHER TERESA
Touched by the
utter poverty
and misery in
India, she
decided to
devote her
whole life for
the welfare of
the poor and
sick people.
 Her Words

Today it is
fashionable to
talk about the
poor.
Unfortunately it
is not fashionable
to talk with them.
YOU AND GOD
 People are often unreasonable, irrational, and
self-centered;
Forgive them anyway
If you are kind, people may accuse you
of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway
If you are successful, you will win some
unfaithful friends and some genuine
enemies;
Succeed anyway
If you are honest and sincere people
may deceive you;
Be honest and sincere anyway
What you spend years creating, others
could destroy overnight;
Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness,
some may be jealous;
Be happy anyway
The good you do today, will often be
forgotten
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it may
never be enough;
Give your best anyway.
 What you spend years creating others
could destroy overnight;
Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some
may be jealous;
Be happy anyway
The good you do today, will often be
forgotten
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it may never
be enough;
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is
between
you and God;

It was never between you

and them anyway

-Mother Teresa
Abdul Sattar Edhi - taking
care of the poor, the sick,
and the dead
Edhi established his first
welfare center and then
the Edhi Trust with a
mere
Rs. 5000.
one-man show operating
from a single room in
Karachi
is
now the Edhi Foundation,
the largest welfare
organization in Pakistan.
 The Edhi Foundation
refuses to take any aid
from the Government,
thereby maintaining its
independence.
BANKER
TO THE
POOR
 FOUNDER
AND
MANAGING
DIRECTOR
OF
GRAMEEN BANK
 He
Demolished the
Myth that poor
cannot be provided
Credit
No one can achieve
anything without a
Dream.
One must have
A
Vision
and
A
Mission
One must be a
Revolutionary
And
think the
Unthinkable.
 His ideas have
changed the face of
Rural Economy
And
Social Development
forever.
 What is
Motivation?
 Motivation

is the process of
getting other people
to do what you want
them to do.
 Why is
Motivation
Needed?
To Accomplish
anything, you
must first
Be Motivated
to do it.
 Effective Motivation
puts the best people on the
best projects – the ones that
will produce the best
possible future results.
 Intrinsic Motivation
Since intrinsic motivation is
the key
to a person’s performance
and fulfillment on the job,
you should create an
environment where intrinsic
motivation can flourish.
Motivate others
by Minimizing their
weaknesses and
maximizing their
Strengths
MOTIVATION
IS LIKE A
FIRE,
UNLESS YOU
ADD FUEL, IT
GOES OUT.
LEADERSHIP
What is a
Leader?
 A Leader is
someone who sets
direction in an effort
and influences People
to follow that
direction
 What is
Leadership?
LEADERSHIP
IS ABOUT
NURTURING
AND
ENHANCING

- TOM PETERS
 The Faces of
Leadership
Charisma
Instills
 Faith
 Respect
 Trust
Individual Consideration
 Activity listens
 Coaches
 Advises
 Teaches
Why are Leaders Needed
Manage through times changing:
• They Determine Direction
• They take Organization from were they are to
where they Need to Be
Leaders make things happen:
•They shape the Culture
• They use the Management Tools

Leaders are Revolutionaries:

• Catalysts or Agent of Change
 Customer are not Demanding
Excellent Service, they are
Demanding more

 Attitude
 Productivity
 Cutting Costs
 Profitability
 Self-esteem.

 Build a person’s self esteem

 When people feel good about

themselves, it is easier for them
to be motivated.
 CHANGE ACCEPTANCE

Leaders can help the change process

by changing their employees' Attitude
from avoidance into acceptance.
“Great Leaders, like
diamonds, are the
products of pressure”

ARNOLD H. GLASOW
MOTIVATIONAL
LEADERSHIP
Team Work
 Topic
Please deliberate amongst
yourselves and make a
presentation on any
sustainable socio-economic
activity of Pakistan that is the
Product of Motivational
Leadership
 5 Teams
Each team itself to select the Team Leader for
Presentation.

Time to Prepare: 25 mins.

Time to present: 02 mins.

Time to Q & A: 01mins.

Time for observation from OAH: 05 mins.

Total Time: 45mins.

A Role Model
 A
Human
Development
Dynamo
- Intellectually Honest
- Demonstrating
And
- Inspiring
He did not follow
the beaten track
FOUNDER OF THE

COMMILA RURAL
ACADEMY
&
ORANGI PILOT
PROJECT
(OPP)
 ORANGI PILOT PROJECT
(OPP)

Bringing the Ethnic Groups

together
To
Work for their collective
growth
Sindhis
Baluchis
Pathans
Muhajirs
Punjabis
He taught them
Self - Reliance
 And
guided these who
were victims of
Deprivation
And
Discrimination
 - Healing Rifts
And
- Bridging
Distances
He was
 A Dreamer

 Philosopher

 Poet

Revolutionary
and above all
A Doer
Dr. Khan's heart,
soul, body,
and mind
worked for poor
People.
“It would be very wrong if I
boast that I did this or that.
I merely observed a lot of
things then founded
supporting institutions. But
the people did the work
themselves.”
Akhter Hameed Khan
 It didn't matter whether he
was serving the poor
community, meeting the
President or a high
Government offical, or
receiving an award, he always
wore the same, simple clothes
made of Khaddar (rough and
cheap cloth).
 To be
a
High Achiever
you have to stop thinking
in a
Fragmented Way…
…you have to
go
for….
 Unity
in
Diversity
 So, please put

Passion
Zeal
and
Enthusiasm
into everything you
do.
 BECAUSE
IT IS YOUR
ATTITUDE THAT
DETERMINES YOUR
ALTITUDE.
Thank you!