Dr Emma Gonsalvez

Best day Greatest sin Best gift Meanest feeling Greatest need Greatest teacher Greatest trouble maker

Today Fear Forgiveness Jealously Common sense

One who makes you love learning

One who talks too much Lack of motivation Find fault Gentleness and cheerfulness

Worst bankruptcy
Easiest thing to do Best part of ones religion

The greatest teacher is

D1 Low Competence High Commitment D2 Some Competence Low Commitment D3 High Competence Variable Commitment D4 High Competence High Commitment

Absenteeism Drug /Alcohol Sex and Pornography Lack of interest Resistance Peer pressure Relationships Love life

Past 66 years ago

Present
Now

Future ???????????

A call to teachers to make a difference in the world. Information for the formation of the person

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To exist is to change, To change is to mature,

To mature is to create, To create is to grow endlessly.

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WHO NEEDS COUNSELLING? GOAL OF COUNSELLING WHAT IS COUNSELLING?

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Autonomy in responsible decision making

Problem
Management

Using Resources

Opportunity Development

Management of ones life

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 Challenge to change An invitation to a quality of life

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Preventive

Teaching Guidance
Curative

Healing

Problem Management

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Relationships Process Facilitation Change

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RELATIONSHIPS PROCESS FACILITATION CHANGE

It is the unique and dynamic process through which one individual assists another to use his or her inner resources, towards actualizing ones potential for a meaningful life.

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RELATIONSHIPS PROCESS FACILITATION CHANGE

Explore /Clarify Problem management

Find Cause
Solution

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RELATIONSHIPS PROCESS FACILITATION CHANGE

I need it more than I fear it

Issues are difficult, Before they are easy

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RELATIONSHIPS PROCESS FACILITATION CHANGE

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An invitation to a quality of life

An interpersonal relationship A process Facilitating

Change from ineffectiveness to effectiveness

That requires motivation, technology, and resources

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Overview
SKILLED-HELPER MODEL

CURRENT SCENARIO
STAGE I

PREFERRED SCENARIO STAGE II SENSIBLE

NEW PERSPECTIVE

FUTURE SCENARIO STAGE III STRATEGY

GOAL SETTING

SENSITIVE
CLIENTS PERSPECTIVE

COMMUNICATION AE I
EXPLORATION & CLARIFICATION OF PROBLEM

CHALLENGING AE II
IDENTIFYING CAUSE DISCREPENCIES DISTORTION FAULTY BELIEFS

PROGRAMMING SMART
CHOOSING SEQUENCING PRIORITISING OBSTACLES IMPLEMENTING EVALUATION RE-CYCLE IF NECESARY

NEED FEELINGS BEHAVIOUR

GAMES
SELF-DEFEATING TENDENCIES LACK OF MOTIVATION

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STAGE I - Sensitive

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Stage I-Current Scenario The Communication Process

Expresses Experience verbally Non-verbally Pays Attention &Actively listens

Encoded message (Need, Feelings, Behaviour)

SENDER /// Noise Effective Message is Communication Congruent

RECEIVER

/// Noise

Obstacles Partial Selective Interpretive

Decoded message (Need, Feelings, Behaviour) Reacts +ve or -ve Verbally non-verbally Responds Empathy AE-1
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Being Sensitive

Responses

Positive Passive Listening Acknowledge

Negative Advise Analyze Criticize Deny Generalize Interpret Judge

Door Opener
Reflecting Paraphrase

Moralize

Empathize
Inform

Probe Sermonize
Sympathize Threaten

STAGE II - Challenging

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Stage II Challenge
CLIENTS ARE CHALLENGED TO BE SENSIBLE AND DEVELOP

-NEW PERSPECTIVES -DYNAMIC SELF -UNDERSTANDING -GOAL (S)

PRE-REQUISITE FOR CHALLENGING IDENTIFY CAUSE (AE II) DISCREPENCIES DISTORTION FAULTY BELIEFS GAMES

SELF-DEFEATING TENDENCIES LACK OF MOTIVATION

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Stage III - Strategy

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Stage III - Action Plan

What : Goal setting

How : Programming When : Implementing Follow-up : Evaluation

Action Plan
Goal
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What
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Criteria-specific, practical, realistic, measurable and time bound /SMART

Programme

How

Building on Resources and Options using Brain Storming, Supporting, Balance Sheet (Pros and Cons for self and others)

Criteria Check
Choosing from Options Sequencing/Prioritizing (Urgent and Important sub goals) Obstacles

Implement

When

Follow up and evaluation

THE CLIENT IS FACILLITATED TO BECOME AN AUTONOMOUS RESPONSIBLE DECISION MAKER

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ATTITUDES OF THE COUNSELLOR

RESPECT GENUINENESS SOCIAL INFLUENCE

Being to Become Whole achieving Physical Balance Mental Serenity Emotional Equanimity Intellectual Integrity Spiritual Wellbeing

TRUE NOBILITY LIES IN BEING BETTER THAN YOURSELF, NOT OTHERS.

Better Person Better Institution Better Nation Better World

If there be Change, let it begin with me

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