Human Sexuality
Sex an integral part of being a human person.
aggressiveness.
Strength and weaknessness are complimentary in male and
woman. Ones personality is enhanced by the other.
Man is there to conquer, woman to yield. Woman likes to feel
helpless in front of a man; man likes to feel strong in front of a woman.
Man is prone to anger and woman will always be there to keep him
cool
All sexual activities that creates distance two people or leaves one or the other
in Pain, Shame, Guilt or Resentment is a Failure and a
Perversion even its anatomical and legal trappings are immoral.
We have to free ourselves from seeing in this bodily union something Evil. This
union is the fulfillment of spousal love and an ultimate mutual self-donation is
something noble and a great mystery.
Every abuse is a terrible sin and something sacrilegious.
This union becomes Evil in its isolation.
Sex is sinful:
Biologically
Male
production and protection of the family
reproduction(conceives,
body is full of external possibilities,
suckles) the child
validated and expressed in ACTION.
maternal
Female
bears and
always have a
instinct for
shes always
aware of
potential for child
bearing thru
recurring
menstrual
surrender of
oneself.
3 Self fulfillment not only in
other centered, mother instinct;
marriage but side by side with a
her emotionalism,concern for
career or outside job.
Details makes her stand behind
the husband and takes care of
the
kids.
I.
Men
Secure, sure of themselves
Fulfillment in marriage and
also in their work
Physical qualities
muscles and bones bigger
More hair
Less sensitive skin
shorter life span
Women
insecure, reassurance
always needed
centered more on their
marriage and family
smaller
less hair
more delicate
women live longer
more religious
have more patience
capable of conception,
child bearing and
breast
learn love through sex
feeding
learn sex through love
Premarital sex
They are not lawful because Christian doctrine states that
every genital act must be within the framework of marriage.
Chastity- a moral virtue, a gift from God, a grace, a fruit of
spiritual effort. It is an apprenticeship in self-mastery which is
a training in human freedom.
Offenses against chastity:
1. Lust- a disordered desire for, or inordinate enjoyment of
sexual pleasure. It is morally disordered when isolated, from
its procreative and unitive purpose.
2. Masturbation- deliberate stimulation of the genital organs
to derive sexual pleasure.
3. Fornication- carnal union between unmarried man and
unmarried woman.
love
develops slowly
ends slowly
centers on 1 person only
motivates + behavior
survives separation
controls physical contact
selfless
brings the approval of
family and friends
produces security
recognize reality
infatuation
develops rapidly
ends rapidly
may involve several
destructive effect
can not survive
exploits physical contact
selfish
brings disapproval
produces insecurity
ignores them
Elements of love
1. care- shown by the active concern for the life
and growth of the loved one.
2. responsibility- ability to respond to the needs,
expressed or unexpressed of another being
3. respect- the ability to see a person as he is,
to be aware of his unique individuality.
4. knowledge- active in-depth consciousness of
another persons real image, leading to genuine
communion.
Kinds of love
Sensible love- which men share with
animals, geared to satisfying the needs of
biological life.
Rational love- rooted in mans spirituality
and openness to being.
concupiscent love- seeks good that will
perfect himself.
benevolent love- seeks good that will
perfect the beloved.
Eros- when one focuses on himself and seeks his own full
expansion in his being
Agape- when one looks to others and devotes himself to
their fulfillment.
Qualities of Mature love
1. Altruistic- lovers give affection, time and energy to the
beloved without considering what will be received in return.
2. Freeing- one is allowed to be what he is
3. Honest- allows each other to know each other very well
4. Happy, sad, and neutral
5. empathetic- feeling with another and not sympathy
6. Strengthening- growing together
Friendship in marriage
1. It is a trust.
2. Evolves slowly
3. It is patient
4. It is not competitive.
5. It is open-ended
6. it is outgoing
7. it is playful
Dating
A getting to know you period; it is the occasional spending
of time together by a boy and a girl for the purpose of
companionship, of getting acquainted and, and for some kind
of entertainment, usually without any intention of marriage.
Functions:
1. Provides pleasure, recreation, fellowship and fun.
2. Provides an experience in learning how to get along with
the opposite sex.
3. It gives an opportunity for maturing male and female to
find the type of friends they need.
4. It serves as a window shopping period for the individual
to test his own personality in relation to others.
Kinds of dating
1. random dating- this occurs among high
school students and the pre-arranged
meetings are sought only for recreational
purpose. There is no intention of marriage.
2. Group dating- where several boys and
girls go together to a party, picnic, movie,
etc.
3. Steady dating/single dating- the regular
and frequent dating of a couple with the
exclusion of other dates, over a period of
time, with a purpose of getting married.
Courtship
Takes place when one is seriously contemplating
marriage and has chosen someone as a possible
life-time partner. Time is a basic element during
this period; getting to know you period also.
Courtship patterns
1. Traditional- controlled by parents and other
kinsmen. This is rooted on the Filipino view that
marriage is a union of 2 individuals but also of
their families.
Formal requirements:
1. authority of solemnizing officer:
a. incumbent members of the judiciary
b. any priest, rabbi, imam or minister of any church
c. consul-general, consul, or vice consul of the Phil.
In case the solemnizing officer is not legally
authorized, it may still be valid provided that either
or both parties believed in good faith that said officer
has legal authority.
2. a valid marriage license
Personal preparations
1. the spiritual preparation
2. psychological preparation
3. social adjustment- applies to the
relationship with persons who come
into ones married life, especially the
relatives and friends of the couple
4. economic preparation
2. Kinds of marriage
2.1 Essential Properties
4. Classification of individual
3.1 Abduction
3.2 Murder or Parricide for marriage
4.4 Relationship
4.1 Consanguinity
4.2 Affinity
4.3 Public Decency
4.4 Legal Relationship
Responsible Parenthood
Answering the call to fulfill the plan
of God to create new life and to
accept the children that naturally
come into the life of husband and
wife and with His help, to take good
care of them.
Today, it includes not only
responding to Gods call of having
children but also the parents ability