Effective Parenting

for Peace
& Nation Building

Haplos At Kalinga sa Buhay ng Anak at

MagulaNG
( HAKBANG
para sa BAYAN at KAPAYAPAAN )

Personal Empowerment
equals Awareness
plus Response Ability
(PE=
PE=A+R)

Let us keep singing a

SONG
(Awareness of S-self;
O-others, N-nature, G-God)

Process of purifying our

WATCH
(Words, Actions,
Thoughts, Character,
Heart)

FAITH &
FAMILY
Sources of Joy
and

Who is
God?
Father
(love)

King
(obedience)

Healer
(humility)

Provider (trust)
Saviour
(hope)

Leader
(service)

Who am I ?
AKO AY MAHAL,
AKO AY ALAGA.
AKO AY SADYANG
MAHALAGA.

Who am I ?
Our first power :

The dignity
that
I am
a child of
God.

Ang pinakamagandang
paraan ng pag-aalaga
sa mga anak
ay alagaan muna
ang sarili
bilang ama,
bilang
ina.

Witnessing :
To treat everyone
as your equal
possessing
the same
human dignity
as children of God
with absolute
respect.

II. FAMILY -

Father
And
Mother
I
Love
You , the face of God here on earth.

THE ROLE OF THE FAMILY

a. The First School
1. Reverence to God
2. Responsibility
3. Respect for People

Development of Character

{ Emotional Quotient (EQ)

& Spiritual Quotient (SQ)}

THE ROLE OF THE FAMILY

b. The First Church :
3 Altars of a Strong and Stable Family
1) Altar of the Community
Eucharistic Meal/Worship (Simbahan)
2) Altar of the Family
Family Table (Hapag-Kainan)
3) Altar of the Couple
Matrimonial Bed (Hapag-Tulugan)

THE ROLE OF THE FAMILY

c. The First Government
Training in Responsible Citizenship
thru Family Meeting
( Ang nakikialam, walang hanggang
reklamo. Ang nakikilahok,
nakikibahagi sa solusyon.
- P-Noy )

How the Family is Destroyed by the

Culture of

DEATH

D ivorce
E uthanasia
A bortion
otal
fertility
control
T
omosexual
union
H

Three Parenting Styles :

1. AUTOCRATIC
( hard side of love/
mahigpit at malupit)
2. PERMISSIVE
( soft side of love/
maluwag at kunsintidor)
3. DEMOCRATIC
( firm but gentle love )

Three Kinds of Children

According to Temperament :
1. Easy child
2. Slow to warm up
3. Difficult to handle
There are no bad children,
only difficult to handle,

WORLD OF KIDS
Terrible Two (TT)
Trusting Three (TT)
Frustrating Four (FF)
Fascinating Five (FF)

WORLD OF TEENAGERS
1. Identity Seeking
2. Independence
3. Intimacy

GROWTH DEVELOPMENTAL
STAGE :

0-10 yrs. old

11-19 yrs. old
20-23 yrs. old
23 yrs. old & above

Dependence Stage
Group Identity
Individual Identity
Family Life

UNDERSTANDING WHY
CHILDREN MISBEHAVE
CHILDS INTENTION

PARENTS REACTION

1.

Calling Attention

inis (annoyed)

2.

Power Struggle

galit (anger)

3.

Revenge

4.

Display of Inadequacy

5.

Peer/Parental Pressure/
Family Stress

sakit ng kalooban (hurt, insulted)

bigo (frustrated)

HOW TO BE AN EMOTIONALLY
INTELLIGENT PARENT :

a. Disengage
b. Never give attention on demand
c. Get the childs cooperation
d. Avoid criticism/ downer words

ELEMENTS of a
BLESSING
1. Attaching high value on people
2. Magic of Words :
I love you. Im sorry. Thank You.
Please.
3. Picturing a special future/Kything
(Prayer Partner)
4. Magic of Touch
Stroking, kiss and hug, hand blessing
5. Active Commitment just do it.
Action speaks louder than words!

The first experience

of violence
happens in the family.
Healing too,
has to happen
first in the family.
Let there be peace
and let it begin with
me.
Peace begins at
home.

THREE RESPONSES TO
VIOLENCE :
PASSIVITY
COUNTER VIOLENCE
ACTIVE NON-VIOLENCE

6 Ps of
PEACE :
1. Proclaim the truth
2. Protest and part from the injustice
3. Penetrate the conscience of the
other
4. Pay the price
5. Pray for guidance
6. Persevere

Non-Violent Methods :
1. Critical Analysis:
The Inverted Triangle
2. Building Communities of
Active Non-Violence / AlayDangal
3. Alternative Constructive
Program

Non-Violent Actions :
1. Dialogue
(Thank you Im sorry
proposed
action - in
private)
2. Direct Action (in public)
3. Non-cooperation
4. Civil Disobedience
5. International Solidarity
6. Prayer and Fasting

When Mother
Teresa was
asked,
How can we help
promote peace
in the world?
Her answer:
GO HOME AND
LOVE YOUR
FAMILY!

Save the family

and you save
this nation.
Save the family
and you save
the world.
Save the family
and you save
the Christian
civilization.
Save the family
and you save
yourselves.