SIBLING RIVALRY

What is sibling rivalry ???

Antagonism between brothers and/or
sisters - physical fighting, verbal
hostility, teasing, or bullying.
Child psychologist, Syllvia Rimms
sibling rivalry is particularly intense when
children are very close in age and of the
same gender, or where one child is
intellectually gifted .

CAUSES

EVIDENCES
Cultural Norms

Advantages of Sibling
Rivalry

Improves academic/ work

performance
1. SIBLINGS

COMPETE

SERIOUS

SUCCESS

2. PARENTS
&

PROUD

SAVE MONEY

3. EVIDENCES:
Stefan C. Wolter/ Maja Coradi
Vellacott ( Sibling Rivalry: A look at
Switzerland & PISA Data)
-Oldest sibling always being better
in achievement than the rest of the
family
SERENA AND VENUS WILLIAMS

Teaches them conflict resolution

1. Exposure to conflicts
2. -needed during in marriage
Train themselves to figure out the problem solving

2. Learn to accept win and lost

Negotiable & rational

3. Evidences
How to Deal with Sibling Rivalry
by Anthony Kane, MD
-Sibling rivalry provides a safe and supervised space for children
to learn how to resolve their disagreements with others.

A better communicator
1. Sensitive to be on top
Strong individual
characters

Desire for extra attention

2. Gain benefits from the parents/ outsiders

Bribe the parents with sweet words

3. Evidences

MIKAIL AND JANET JACKSON

Disadvantages
Individual

Individual - High tendency to have serious emotional

problem

Too much rivalry at the continual

dominance of one child can result
bitterness, fighting, refusal to share,
toy stealing, and other exhibitions of
anger and frustration.
Alfred Adler suggested in 1959, the
dethronement of the eldest child by
the birth of a sibling is a trauma that
initiates all sibling rivalry

Family break the

relationship among
members
Serious competition might result in
bad relationship between sibling.
frequent arguments and quarrelling
in family.
(Malcolm and Reese Wilkerson in
Malcolm in the Middle;

Society - Psychological
transference
the emotional response of the individual
caused by one person is transferred to an
apparently unrelated person.
Example, a girl child who hates her new
sibling is likely to feel the same way when
she has her own child.
David Levy introduced the term "sibling
rivalry" in 1941, claiming that for an older
sibling "the aggressive response to the new
baby is so typical

last longer may exist for many years

Sibling rivalry has important effect

with respect to behavior of a person
in future.
These destructive schemas and
effects are passed on from
generation to generation.
When it continue into adulthood,
there are increasing of ambivalence,
competition, and jealousy.

How to Solve
Siblings
Rivalry??
PARENT
S
ROLES

SIBLING
S
ROLES

PARENTS ROLES TO ENCOUNTER

SIBLINGS RIVALRY

Give space to the children.

Be fair with every child even they have low capability in many
aspect
Coz,every human in this world need a care and love from their
parent
Share the problemm.

Do not compare the achievement or

ability among siblings but in the
other wise they should be given their
own goals.

Iits

mean, evry people have their own strength and ability. So, parent need
to find it and set for their goal according to their capability.

Plans family activities (e.g. holidays

and games) to tighten and

SIBLINGS ROLES
Learn to accept the specialties that the other
siblings have.

Try to accept other sibling specilities. However, every people have

their own specialities. So, try to find it and prove it to our parent
that we also have own specialities to be proud,kah4..

Improve the communication

Try to talk with your parent if there are problem occur in the
family.
It can avoid from sibling rivalry to occur.

Be more loving and caring to each other.

(www.indiaparenting.com
/raisingchild/data/raisingchild367)
Movie Cheaper By The Dozen