Communicative
Attunement
They describe three categories of
empathy;
1. Empathic Rapport- Primarily
kindness, global understanding and
tolerant acceptance of the clients
feelings and frame of reference.
2. Experience Near-understanding of the
Clients World What it is like to have
the problems the client has, to live in
the life situation the conscious as well
as some unconscious elements of the
clients experience.
3. Communicative Attunement The
therapist tries to put himself or
herself in the clients shoes at the
moment, to grasp what they are
trying to consciously communicate
at the moment, and what they are
experiencing at the moment.
Skills for Empathy
Perceiving:
Perceiving involves an intense
process of actively listening for
themes, issues, personal constructs,
an emotions.
Themes may be thought of as
recurring patterns for example,
views of oneself,
attitudes towards others,
consistent interpersonal relationship
patterns,
fear of failure and search for personal
power.
George Kelly (1955) described the
perceptual element of empathy as
understanding the clients personal
constructs.
He defined personal constructs as
the unique set of thoughts a person
uses to process information, give
meaning to life events, order ones
world, explain cause and effect
relationships, and make decisions.
Communicating
In the communication component of empathy,
the counsellor says something that tells the
client that his or her meanings and feelings
have been understood.
If a counselor listens carefully and
understands well but says nothing, the client
has no way of knowing what is in the
counselors mind.
Primary empathy is often communicated
through an interchangeable verbal response
(though facial expressions and other non-
verbal responses can also be used).
Stages in Counselors Diagnostic
Technique
Stage 1
Primary empathy is used most because
it demonstrates to the client that the
counselor is listening effectively,
without the threat that can occur if the
counslor seems to be seeing through
clients defenses too quickly.
The clients sense of progress and of
comfort is both served at this
relationship-building stage if the
counsellor is seen as perceptive, but
not too perceptive.
Stage 2
The feedback that comes from the
counselors contract with significant
themes helps the client see his or
her won themes more clearly.
This helps the client understand
himself or herself more deeply and
re-examine relevant perceptions,
attitudes and beliefs.
Stage 3
Responding establishes expectations about
the nature of the counselling experience.
Counselling is conveyed to the client as a
process that involves attending to oneself,
exploring, searching, and perceiving
oneself clearly.
Counselling is established as an experience
involving work, not simply conversation.
Indeed, the counselor's work is to stimulate
the clients work of self discovery.
Stage 4
Counselor is careful to offer a level of
empathy that is consistent with the
clients level of readiness, the client
will feel safe to continue the
counselling experience.
The client learns that nothing bad
will happen as a result of
communicating and that something
helpful is likely to occur.
Stage 5
Empathy communicates to the client
that the counselor has special expertise
to offer.
Empathy is not routinely experienced in
the events of daily life.
A counselor who can make empathic
contact established himself or herself as
having some special skill, which in turn,
helps the client experience a sense of
optimism about future sessions.
Positive Regard
Positive regard is caring for your
client as he is human and the
amount of time and energy that
you want to devote for the
counselee. Rogers (1957)
developed the concept that the
counselors caring for the client
can be unconditional.
Several parameters can help
counselors.
1. The counselor may be tempted
to impose should statement on
the client.
2. Control on anxiety
3. Counselors characteristics and
counselees behaviour.
Genuiness
Rogers(1942) originally defined
genuiness as the characteristics
of transparency, realness,
honesty, or authenticity.
Concreteness
As Ivey (1994) states a concrete
counsellor promptly seeks specific
rather than vague generalities. As
interviewers, we are most often
interested in specific feelings, specific
thoughts and specific examples of
actions.
Ivey (1994) suggests that concreteness
can be increased by asking directly for
specific example of troublesome
events
Example
Client I feel so frustrated with my teenage daughter. She
is completely out of my control. No matter what I
do she stays out till late hours and wont get up for
school in the mornings. Ive tried everything but it
just seems hopeless.
Response You seem very upset and worried.
with little
concretenes
s
Response You seem pretty frustrated with your daughters
with behavior and are running out of ideas
moderate
concretenes
s
Response You are frightened that your daughter is harming
with a high herself and feel powerless and hopeless. At the
degree of same time you havent given up. You are here and