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PART IV

ANALYSIS FOI & IMPRINT


1. PERTANYAAN 1 SAMPAI DENGAN 12
DIJAWAB DALAM WAKTU 10 BERMAKSUD
UNTUK MENIMBA JAWABAN BAWAH
SADAR.
2. TERNYATA JAWABAN 1-12 YANG UNTUK
ORANG LAIN (AYAH-IBU), TERNYATA ITU
ADALAH KAMU SENDIRI, KARENA KAMU
YANG MENJAWAB.
ANALYSIS FOI & IMRPINT

SEMUA SIFAT AYAH DAN IBU ADA


PADAMU. YANG BAIK HADIR
SECARA SADAR, SEDANGKAN
YANG BURUK HADIR SECARA
TIDAK SADAR.
INILAH DASAR DARI IMPRINT.
1.Apa sifat bapa yang paling kamu
tidak suka? (unconscious)
2.Sifat mana yang mirip antara
KAMU dan orangtuaMU (bapa-
mama)?
3.Sifat mana yang mirip antara
suami dengan bapamu? (istri)
4.Sifat mana yang mirip antara istri
dengan ibumu? (suami)
PART - IV

Gestalt Therapy
Objectives:

1.Self-awareness
2.Taking Personal Responsibility
FRITZ PERLS AND LAURA 1940S

They observe many


German soldiers
behaved in an
abnormal way. What
happened?
They do not judge but try Gestalt Therapy:
to realize what is Make a new
imprint
happening now and (Menanam video
the relationship with baru)
others and the
environment
II.WHAT IS GESTALT THERAPY?
Terapi Gestalt: Mengelola Bawah Sadar:

Instructions:
1. Suatu terapi yg tidak bersifat menghakimi, tapi yang
berhubungan dengan kesadaran tetntang apa
yagng dialami sekarang; dalam perasaan sekarang
ini dan relasi kita dengan orang lain dan lingkungan
2. Jadi bukan hal-hal yang sudah lalu, tetapi yang
sedang saya alami di dalam diri saya.
3. Lebih diutamakan adalah proses aygn sedang kita
alami sekrang ini. Gestalt (= melihat sesuatu secara
keseluruhan). Jadi kita melihat sesuatu dalam
konteks yang umum dan luas
Terapi Gestalt: Mengelola Bawah Sadar:

1. Terapi Gestalt membantu kita menyadari bagaimana


anda sedang mencegah diri untuk menemukan sesuatu
yang baru yang positif
2. Rekaman bawah sadar kita itu, ketika kita STRESS
consciousness muncul dan memblok apa yang mau kita lakukan (= yang
baik dan positif). Jadi perintah otak sadar (= positif) tidak
jadi dilakukan karena lebih dahulu diblok oleh bawah
sadar kita.
3. Kekuatan bawah sadar ini sudah lebih dahulu mengambil
perintah. Untuk itu dibutuhkan komitmen luar biasa untuk
unconsciousness mencuri start. Biasanya memory bahwa sadar ini begitu
kuat dan cepat mengambil kendali.
4. Tujuannya, untuk mencapai kesadaran diri dan
mengambil tanggungjawab pribadi untuk menghadapi
apa yang telah kita rekam (=telah diimprint di masa lalu)
The gestalt therapy helps us to realize that we ourselves
(the unconscious) prevents us to find a positive new
solution.
Our imprint , when we experience stress, appears and
block what we want to do (the positive ones). So the order
of the unconscious mind (positif) cannot be implemented
becuase it has been blocked by the unconscious.
The unconscious forces have given order ahead of the
conscious mind. For that reason the great commitment is
needed to start. Because the unconscious mind always try
to control and give the first command.
The goal: to have a personal awareness and take a
personal responsibility to face what we experience in the
past.
Terapi Gestalt: Mengelola Bawah Sadar:

1. Terapi Gestalt membantu kita menyadari bagaimana


anda sedang mencegah diri untuk menemukan
sesuatu yang baru yang positif
2. Rekaman bawah sadar kita itu, ketika kita STRESS
muncul dan memblok apa yang mau kita lakukan (=
consciousness yang baik dan positif). Jadi perintah otak sadar (=
positif) tidak jadi dilakukan karena lebih dahulu diblok
oleh bawah sadar kita.
3. Kekuatan bawah sadar ini sudah lebih dahulu
mengambil perintah. Untuk itu dibutuhkan komitmen
unconsciousness luar biasa untuk mencuri start. Biasanya memory
bahwa sadar ini begitu kuat dan cepat mengambil
kendali.
4. Tujuannya, untuk mencapai kesadaran diri dan
mengambil tanggungjawab pribadi untuk menghadapi
apa yang telah kita rekam (=telah diimprint di masa
lalu)
The history of the Family

0-10 years, we see grandparents, father and mother and


the significant others in our family and where we started
our lives.
The transgenerational patterns which have been
proggramed and have been passed on from one
generation to another. This can be passed down like
diabetes
Find the transgenerational patterns (that always arise )
when are depressed.
Gestalt Therapy; Sejarah Keluarga

1. Pada usia 0-10 tahun, ketika melihat


nenek, kakek kita, ayah, ibu dan
consciousness pribadi2 penting (significant) lainnya
dalam keluarga, dimana kita memulai
hidup
2. Ada pola2 transgenerational yang
telah terprogram yang diteruskan
dari generasi ke generasi. Bahkan ini
unconsciousness diteruskan secara turunan misalnya
sakit diabetes, jantung dsb.
3. Temukan transgenerational patterns
(=pola-pola yang sering kali muncul)
ketika kita di bawah tekanan.
Gestalt Technics: The technics to change the imprint:

1. Do the role play from the imprint on our parents.


What is burried in our unconsciousness, about the
conflict relationship of father and mother.
2. For the good family: remember the positive
relationship dan you can make it better (more
positive)
3. You are asked to sit in three chairs: (you, mother
and father). Remember the situation (event) and
tell the story and act on it. If the inner adult
(father), he has to start with the change
Gestalt Technics: Tehnik mengganti imprint:

1. Kita lakukan role play dari rekaman yang kita


lakukan pada orangtua kita. Apa yang ada
dibawah sadar kita, tentang relasi-konflik antara
ayah dan ibu kita.
2. Jadi kalau keluarga yang baik-baik: ingat lagi
relasi positif itu dan kemudian dibuat lagi lebih
baik dan lebih positif lagi.
3. Jadi anda diminta untuk duduk di tiga kursi
(Anda, Ibu dan Ayah). Ingat peristiwanya,
kemudian menceritakan sedikit dan kemudian
mulai memainkannya sedikit. Kalau Inner adult
(ayah) maka dialah yang memulai perubahan
itu.
GestaltTherapy: The technic to change the imprint

1. But before you start with the change, you have make
a role-play. You sit in the fathers cahir and talk to the
mother; then sit the in mothers chair and answer the
father; then transfer to the fathers chair and answer;
back to mothers chair and answer. The conflict goes
on until it becomes very intense...
2. Then you sit- the first role play, the past imprint./ then
as a child you have a hope and expectation, they
have to do what?
3. Then sit in the fathers chair and talk to mother with
full of love; then go to the mothers chair and talk with
full of love. Then on and on until it becomes intense.
Gestal Therapy: The technic to change the imprint

1. Sebelum perubahan terjadi, anda harus


memerankan peristiwa itu. Anda duduk di kursi
ayah kemudian omong kepada ibu; kemudian
duduk di kursi ibu dan membalas, dan pindah ke
kursi ayah, menjawab. Begitu seterusnya sampai
konflik itu benar2 makin intens
2. Lalu anda duduk disitu, -- role play yang
pertamam, rekaman yang dulu. Lalu anda sebagai
anak kecil, punya harapan mereka seharusnya
harus berbuat apa ? Lalu duduk di kursi ayah dan
kemudian omong dengan penuh kasih sayang
kepada ibu, dan ibu kemudian menjawab juga
dengan penuh kasih, dan begitu seterusnya
sampai menjadi makin intens.
Write the video script

1. Two or three imprints where father and mother are


in conflict or in the situation full of love. This diolog
need to be written down complete and in details
2. When do they talk in full of love? That should be
written down according to the original scenario.
Write the dialog in details.
3. When the conversation stops, because one is
leaving, stop there. After writing the fist case, you
as achild, what should had happened in the
future?
4. This will become a positive dialog role play
imprinting
Menulis script video

1. Dua atau tiga imprints melihat dimana ayah dan


ibu berkonflik atau dalam keadaan penuh kasih.
Dialog ini perlu ditulis secara lengkap dan
penuh dengan detail.
2. Jadi kapan mereka mengobrol dengan penuh
kasih. Itulah yang perlu ditulis sesuai dengan
skenario aslinya (peristiwa yang terjadi). Jadi
menuliskan dialognya secara detail.
3. Bila pembicaraan itu berhenti, karena salah satu
pergi, maka berhenti disitu. Setelah menulis
kasus pertama ini, lalu anda sebagai anak
mengharapkan akan terjadi apa seharusnya?
4. Ini menjadi dialog positif role play imprinting
INCREASING SELF AWARENESS
OF OLD PATTERNS WHICH
DIDNT WORK WELL

OLD PATTERN NEW BEHAVIOR

AND LEADS TO NEW BEHAVIORS


WHICH DO.
INSTEAD OF DIVIDING PERSONS IN
MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT, PAST AND
PRESENT, RIGHT AND WRONG,
1. Check the imprint: journey to
childhood
2. Visualize the imprint situation
a. Talk to the empty chair
b. Use the pillow
c. Use proxy
3. Forgive the person who causes the
imprint
4. Re-imprint the new image
5. Ask Jesus to bless you with the re-
imprint
Relaxation training
Initial Exercises

Journey to
CHILDHOOD

(IMAGINATION)

How did you experience your PARENTS


in your early childhood( 0-10 years old)?
The goal of the session:
we want to regress to the childhood. What
happened to our family in that period. We
need to go back and what has been
absorbed in the unconsciousness. We can
go on this journey with courage. We have
forgotten them all, but they are important for
our history of life.
The direction:
1. Fill up the blank pages with the instruction. Follow
the numbers consecutively from 1 to 12
2. Fill up without stopping and thinking, do not
erase, or edit your response
3. The best response if the answer that first come to
your mind. All the answers are correct if they are
suitable with oyur feelings in childhood.
4. You have only 10 minutes to answer all the 12
questions. Start fast and answer as needed. Start
with number 1 and next...
FAMILY OF ORIGIN
INVENTORY
1. Give the sign +++ or - - -
2. Inner child
3. Think about the person number 2 and 3: who is
closer to you? Who is your idol (=inner mate),
that becomes your inner adult.
4. number 4 and 5 inner parent follow the inner
adult.
5. 6 & 7 self talk
6. 8 inner couple (relationship)
Check psychogenetic
dan live-in
environment pattern
Psycho-genetic: History of
Family Origin Test

DISCOVER TRANSGENERATIONAL PATTERNS


KELUARGAKU GENETICS SEKOLAHKU
(MY FAMILY) (MY SCHOOL)

My relationship with My relationship with


siblings/relatives teachers/classmates

(NURTURE) (NURTURE)

I AM
My DREAMS AND
VISIONS

LINGKUNGAN SOSIAL LAIN-LAIN


(MY PSYCHOSOCIAL) (OTHERS)

My relationship in the in the church


neighborhood In different activities

(NURTURE) (NURTURE)
Step four

Re-imprinting
process
Why Re-imprinting
process is important?
Unless you are able to resolve the
conflicts between your parents you will
have serious difficulty in resolving your
own marital conflicts.

Star Trek Model


As it was in the beginning
How to change -INNER COUPLE IMPRINT
Star Trek Model
2 ROLE PLAYS
READ/look 2nd role play for 14
NIGHTS (MINIMUM)

Violence

IMPRINT
Loving
RE-IMPRINT
Re-imprint ( 14 nights)

Re-imprint

Re-imprint
SUCCESS OF REIMPRINT
PROCESS
DEPENDS ON:
1. COMMITMENT to change. If you want
change there is a change
2. PATIENCE. To change the imprint that has
go on for years, need time and patience
3. REGULARITY repeat the video 14 days
4. GODS GRACE
Some facts of LIFE
We cannot choose
our PARENTS

But we can choose


our pattern of life
We cannot choose our PARENTS
but we can choose our SPOUSE.

You may have chosen the wrong spouse


But you can have a HAPPY
MARRIAGE.
WHAT ARE THE HEALING
PROCESSES?
REIMPRINTING

SPIRITUALITY
IN REVIEW:
Genetics - Live-in Environment
Conscious Mind Unconscious Mind
Inner Adult Inner Mate

INNER
COUPLE
Imprint & Re-imprint
A dream to have a loving set of PARENTS

Every child has a DREAM


WE ALL DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!
Mission-Vision of this Retreat

To help participants cut off


themselves from negative
Trans-generational Patterns
and start establish a
NEW GENERATION OF
INDONESIAN FAMILIES.
I BELIEVE
I believe that
strong families
make a strong
ThatLikewise
nation. our background
a and
circumstances
fragmented or have
broken families
influenced
make for a weak WHO WE ARE..
nation, a nation
that can crumble
Butwithin.
from we are RESPONSIBLE for
WHO WE BECOME.
Carolina Bernardo Reyes
(author of book on Parenting)
Thank you
for attending this
Psycho-Spiritual Retreat
INVITATION

Be our PARTNERS in working towards


this mission-vision for better Indonesian
families.
To change the world is an
overwhelming task. We can
only change ourselves in
which we have control of. If
we can make positive
changes within then we can
contribute in making our
place a better place to live.