Relationship
1. Self-awareness
2. Genuine Listening
3. Harmonious
Assertiveness
5 MINUTES EACH
SHARER
Discussion Topic:
“HOW DID I ARRIVE IN THIS
LIFE, PROFESSION THAT I
HAVE RIGHT NOW?”
HEARING
5.4
•Be aware of your own feelings,
concerns and reactions as you listen
Reactions can be automatic and go
practically unnoticed. They can raise
defensiveness, biases, prejudgments,
unfair assumptions, etc., which prevent us
from truly understanding another. By
being aware, we take control whether we
will allow these reactions to prevail or
not.
•Acknowledge, affirm or restate
what is said, regardless whether
you agree or disagree with what is
said
This makes the other party
feel that he or she has been
understood.
•Wait until the other person has
finished before you speak
This allows the other person
to complete the intended message
(words and feelings) and the energy
behind the intention is allowed to
flow fully and not bottled up or
suspended.
HELPFUL BEHAVIORS IN
EFFECTIVE LISTENING
(Positive)
HELPFUL BEHAVIORS IN
EFFECTIVE LISTENING
(Negative)
3 Steps to Effective
Relationship
1. Self-Awareness
2. Genuine Listening
3. Harmonious
Assertiveness
Three Modes of Communication
and Dealing with Conflict
TIMID AGGRESSIVE ASSERTIVE
a. Defensive
b. Hurt
c. Offended
d. Ego feels discounted or threatened
e. Pride is challenged
Elements of an
Assertive Statement
1. States one’s own feelings and reactions (“I
feel bad,” “I am confused,” “I felt hurt by. . .”,
“I felt embarrassed”)
2. Describes the action of the other person (not
judge or condemn the other person) that
resulted in one’s hurt feelings (“. . . when you
made that joke about me in front of others”)
3. States what one wishes or requests the other
to do in the future to prevent the problem (If
you wish to make such jokes, please don’t do
it in front of our guests)