Transactional Analysis

Dr. K. B. Gopalam
vijayagopalk@gmail.com
What is it?
 a unified system of individual and
social psychiatry
 theory of personality and social
dynamics
 theory of communication
There are three ways
 Parent to child - telling others what to
do, talking down to them.
 Child to parent - being submissive,
throwing temper tantrums, flaunting
authority.
 Adult to adult - relating as equals,
reason dominating emotion.
We are what we are!
 not as ''grown up'' as we think
 Have feelings
 Nurturing, coaching, sympathizing
 behave in a more Adult way
 relating to subordinates
Types
The Ego States
EGO-STATES

 coherent system of:

thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

• mad-sad-glad-scared.
• smiling, saying "hello" and "goodbye”.
• holding and moving their body.
• thinking clearly ( or not ! ).
• behave in private/public.
• use power - control.
• love-work-play.
PARENT
 acquire new values
 To initiate,

To start,

To be first,

To care,

To risk for
others,
ADULT
 rational thoughtful attitude
wide perspective,
 organize, use accurate information to
protect the Child
 To help the Child grow, prosper, become
wise,

TO INFORM YOURSELF & OTHERS WITH

ACCURATE DATA
CHILD
 enjoy the goods things that life offers.
Deal suffering with dignity and
courage.


TO LOVE . . .TO CHANGE . . .
 TO DO THINGS WELL
Transaction
 single stimulus
 single response
 complementary
transaction
 crossed
transactions
Transaction
 angular transaction
 covert

 duplex transaction
 covert
 overt
Self Image
 our attitudes, beliefs and values
 intrapersonal communication
 stable characteristics
 not really feeling myself
 Enlightenment subject
 Sociological subject
 Post-modern subject
Self and Not self
Johari Window
Roles
 Age and sex groupings, e.g. infant, old man,
boy, woman
 Family groupings, e.g. father, aunt,
grandmother
 Status groupings, e.g. chairman, manager,
foreman, shop steward
 Occupational groupings, e.g. teacher,
lawyer, car worker, secretary
 Common interest groupings
Attitude
Life Positions
 Athato atma jignasa!

Flexing is the Key!

 Why do intellectuals fail in life?
 IQ Vs EQ

 Intrapersonal
 Interpersonal
 Stress mgmt
 Adaptability
 General mood

 Effective performance
One who knows the universe and does not know the self, knows nothing

Self Awareness

 Feelings, differences
 Know
 thyself
 Others reactions
The more arguments you win, the fewer friends you have!

Assertiveness

 Express
Feelings


 Beliefs

 Thoughts

 Personal rights
 Not agression
None can make you feel bad without your consent

Independence
 Direction
 Control

Self Regard
 Not self Esteem
 Like yourself
Responsible, dependable, understanding, inspiring trust!

Interpersonal skills

 Empathy
Control emotions
 Ask questions

 Focus on their perspective

 Responsibility
 Help others to help yourself
 Relationships
 friendship
 Variety is the spice of life!

Adaptability

 Problem solving
 Seeing the problem
 The solution

 Stages in solving

 Flexibility
 Change accordingly!
 We can’t all do everything!

Stress
 Tolerance
Course of action


 Optimism

 Perspective

 Don’t be your own enemy!

 Control
 Look before you leap !
 It is not about laughing!

General mood

 Happiness
 Nature or Nurture?
 Inside out!

 Not wealth