Etiquette

What is Etiquette?
Etiquette relates to a code of behaviour among people within an organisation, group or society

But have you ever wondered how it all began? Who made these rules?? Are they really that important???

We have an expert who will guide you through this journey of finesse and grace.

Her name is Eti!

Etiquette

As the story goes, Louis XIVs gardener at Versailles was faced with a serious problem he could not stop members of the nobility from trampling about it in delicate areas of the kings garden. He finally attempted to dissuade their unwanted behaviour by posting signs called etiquets which warned them to Keep off the grass. When this course of action failed, the king himself had to issue an official decree that no one could go beyond the bounds of the signs. Later, the name etiquette evolved and the name was given to a ticket for court functions that included rules regarding where to stand and

So what does Etiquette involve?

 Knowing/ respecting peoples customs and traditions  Observing certain behaviour and actions when in a group of people  Observing appropriate manners

Always Remember: Your behaviour and manners should consistently correspond with your well groomed image

These are some common slip-ups which we often make

 Poor listening skills  Disregard of shared property and others space  Embarrassing others  Poor table manners  Inappropriate praise of others

And some more of them

 Inappropriate language  Disregard of others time  Inappropriate dress and grooming  Misuse of telephone  Failure to greet someone appropriately

There are various aspects to Social Etiquette. This module will focus on DINING ETIQUETTE

Dining Etiquette
Here are some useful tips for you on:  Table setting  Seating arrangement  Types of menu

A quick glance at the table setting

A quick glance at the seating arrangement

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Types of Menu:

Table dhote A la carte Buffet

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Table dhote is literally translated as Table of the host. This term indicates a set meal, usually with 3 or 4 courses, with at least one choice in each course non-vegetarian and vegetarian

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A la Carte is literally translated as From the card. This is the type of menu we are most familiar with. There is a list of items for each course, each one separately priced. You order item-wise. There is a waiting period before your order arrives at the table. Remember, you have to pay for each dish you ask for

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Buffet is a display of a selection of items. There is a charge for the meal (as opposed to separate items) and you help yourself to whatever you wish, with as many returns/ helpings as you like

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Time for a quick Etiquette test. Lets find out how you fare on the Etiquettogram!

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MANAGING SOUP Q: Should I spoon soup away from myself? A: Yes, you spoon soup away from you.

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Q: Is it correct to say, I have eaten my soup? A: Yes, soup is eaten; it is inappropriate to use drink when referring to soup, no matter how clear the soup might be.

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MANAGING SOUP Q: Should I sip from the edge of the soup spoon? A: Yes, you should sip from the edge of the soup spoon.

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Q: Can I blow on the soup while having it? A: No, you should not blow on the soup while having it.

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MANAGING SOUP Q: As I reach the last part of my soup, in which direction must I tilt the soup bowl/cup? A: On reaching the lower part of the bowl, tip the bowl away from you and get the soup into your spoon with an in-to-out motion.

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Q: To show that I am not yet through with my soup, where should I place my soup spoon? A: In the soup bowl.

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MANAGING SOUP Q: Where should I place the spoon after finishing my soup? A: Never leave your spoon in the soup cup or bowl; place it on the saucer

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MANAGING SOUP Q: Is it all right if I slurp or make noises when eating my soup? A: No, it is inappropriate to slurp or make noises when eating your soup.

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MANAGING SALADS Q: Should I use a spoon to eat my salad? A: No, you should use a fork and not a spoon to eat your salad.

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MANAGING BREAD SELECTION Q: How do I manage buttering my bun?

A: Break the bun into small bite-sized pieces and butter each piece as needed.

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MANAGING TEA/ COFFEE
Q: Is it correct to ask for black tea? If not, what is the correct alternative? A: Tea is never termed black the appropriate terminology is with milk, without milk or with lemon. When coffee is had without milk, it may be termed black.

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MANAGING TEA/ COFFEE Q: Where should I place the teaspoon after stirring? A: You should place the teaspoon on the saucer after stirring.

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MANAGING TEA/ COFFEE Q: Can I pour tea into the saucer? A: Never pour tea into a saucer to drink.

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MANAGING TEA/ COFFEE Q: Is it all right if I slurp, blow into the tea cup or make noise when drinking? A: No, it is not appropriate to slurp, blow into the tea cup or make noise when drinking.

That must have provided some REAL information

Check your scores: If 0-5: Time to take action! 5-10: A little more effort, and you shall see the difference! Above 10: Keep up the good work!

OK, here are some more tips to keep in mind when dining out
 Sit straight with both feet on the floor, legs together  Elbows never on the table  Speak softly to those nearest to you  Thank the waiter only once or twice  Tip well

 Enquire from the host/ hostess about dress code for the function invited  Abide by local customs/ religious practices of host/ hostess  Men should assist ladies to be seated by pulling out the chair

You should avoid this while dining

 Placing your handbag/ purse on the table  Gesturing with your knife or spoon  Putting food into your mouth with a knife  Chomping your food  Talking with your mouth full  Wiping your mouth with your hand when holding a knife/ fork

You should avoid this while dining

 Reaching across people to get a dish. Instead ask for it to be passed to you  Playing with the cutlery around you  Wiping your face with the napkin  Applying lipstick at the table  Smoking (unless the host gives the lead)

Now, lets look at some of the dilemmas that we often face Find answers to your doubts here!

When in doubt, ask Eti!

Q. A. Is it considered rude to take a sip of my drink while still chewing? It is considered good manners to wait until you have finished chewing and have swallowed your food before taking a sip of your beverage.

Q. What is the correct position for a coffee cup in a formal place setting? A: The coffee cup and saucer is placed to the right of the place setting, to the right of the farthest utensil. Since most people are right-handed, the handle should face to the right.

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Q. After the completion of a formal dinner, where do I place the utensils? A. Place the knife and fork parallel to one another across the plate with the knife blade facing inward toward the plate. Q. How should I fold a large napkin before placing it on my lap? Do I wait for the food to arrive before picking up the napkin from the table? A. Large dinner napkins should be folded in half after opening and before placing on ones lap. It is appropriate to pick up the napkin as soon as you are seated, unfold it and place it on your lap.

When in doubt, ask Q. WhereEti! I put my napkin at the completion should

of the meal? A. Once you are done eating, carefully place the napkin at the right of your place setting or if the plates have been cleared, place the napkin in the center without actually refolding to original state. Q. If I want to be excused from the table for a few minutes but have not yet finished my meal, where should I leave my napkin? A. When briefly leaving the table mid-meal, place your napkin on the chair to indicate to the server that you will be returning soon.

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Q. When should the host/hostess of a dinner party be served? A. The host/hostess of a dinner party should be the last one served. If the meal is getting cold, the host/hostess may state something to the effect, Please begin while the food is still warm. Q. At a formal dinner party, how do I properly serve and remove the dishes and glasses? A. When entertaining formally, dishes are presented or served at guests left and removed from the right side. Glasses are filled from the right.

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Q. What direction should food be passed at the table? A. Food should be passed to the right or counter-clockwise. Q. Is it wrong to stand when a lady excuses herself from the table? What is the proper etiquette when the woman excuses herself and returns? A. In a social setting, it is always appropriate for a male to stand when a female is taking her leave. However, in a business setting, it is not always necessary for a male to rise whenever his female coworker(s) leave the table.

When in doubt, ask Eti! Q. Who pays the bill when dining out?
A. When entertaining a guest, such as, when out for dinner or cocktails, the person who extended the invitation (regardless of gender) is responsible for paying the bill. Q. Where do I place the finger bowl after cleansing my fingers? A. When using a finger bowl, after cleansing your fingers, place the finger bowl on the upper left side of the place setting; this clears the dessert plate for the dessert

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Q. Which side of the guest should I pour wine from at the dinner table? A. Pour wine and all beverages from the right, while standing behind and to the right of the guest Q. What is the temperature at which white wine and red wine are served? A. White wine is served chilled and red wine is served at room temperature

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Q. When ordering take-out food from a restaurant by telephone, is it necessary to tip when I pick up my order? A. No, it is not necessary to tip the restaurant in this situation. However, tipping the take- out service person at the restaurant would be appreciated and is considered good manners. Q. To which side should a gentleman seat a female? A. A gentleman at a social dinner party holds the chair and seats the female on his right.

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Q. Should I dismiss myself from the table if I need to sneeze or blow my nose? A. Yes, excuse yourself from the table, and at no time should you use your napkin as a handkerchief.

I hope I have been able to answer most of your queries and clarify your doubts. If you have any further questions on this topic ..you can address them to Dear Eti at
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Eti