NOISE
Pengirim
Pengirim Pengirim
Pengirim Penerima
Penerima Penerima
Penerima
Punya
Punya encodes media/ saluran decodes “memahami”
“memahami”
encodes decodes
ide
ide message
message message
message pesan
pesan
NOISE
Possible
Possible additional
additional
feedback
feedback to
to
receiver
receiver
Pengantar
• Bekerja tidak bisa sendiri karena organisasi
adalah sebuah sistem.
• Kemampuan komunikasi interpersonal akan
berdampak pada kinerja.
• Komunikasi interpersonal menjadi dasar
dalam komunikasi organisasional.
Teori Kebutuhan Interpersonal
Teori Kebutuhan Interpersonal oleh
William Schutz
“kecenderungan manusia dalam menciptakan dan
mempertahankan hubungan tergantung pada seberapa
baik pemenuhan tiga kebutuhan dasar” :
Affection, hasrat untuk memberi dan menerima cinta
dan kasih sayang
Inclusion, hasrat untuk menjadi makhluk sosial yang
terlibat dalam kelompok tertentu
Control, hasrat untuk bisa memberikan pengaruh pada
orang lain
Syarat Komunikasi Interpersonal
1. Adanya dua orang atau lebih yang saling
menyadari kehadirannya.
2. Adanya saling ketergantungan komunikasi dan
FOCUSED INTERACTION
3. Adanya pertukaran pesan
4. Pesan berbentuk verbal dan non verbal
5. Relatif tidak berstruktur.
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KONSEP
Komunikasi Intrapersonal
•refers to the conversation that is continually going on in
your own mind.
Komunikasi Interpersonal
•refers to the different types of verbal, non-verbal and
physical actions or expressions that people use when
they communicate with each other.
1. Perspective
2. Self-esteem
3. Self-confidence
4. Self-assertive
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1. PERSPECTIVE
KNOWLEDGE/INFORMATION
EXPERIENCE /
EDUCATION EFFECTS WE SEE
OBSERVATION VALUE
WHAT IS SHAPING SYSTEM
OUR MINDS?
ENVIRONMENTAL PERCEIVED
INFLUENCE AUTHORITY
**PROCESSIONARY
CATERPILLAR
PEOPLE INFLUENCE OF
INFLUENCE MODELING
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EVERY ACTION WE TAKE IS ACTUALLY A REFLECTION OF
OUR PERSPECTIVE
2. SELF-ESTEEM
WHO AM I?
MY IDENTITY! MY IMAGE!
3. SELF-CONFIDENCE
Building Self-Confidence
4. When you have clear objectives, clear values, clear
ways of doing things– dont worry about complaints,
negative comments and opinions of other people – go
ahead with your work – do it the best possible way you
can
5.Seek support from positive people, successful people,
not those who are only talkers, nothing accomplished,
negative people who don’t like to see other people
become successful.
6. Be careful in choosing friends – do not be affected by
the negative comments or bad influence or bad models.
Prolonged exposure to negative elements will influence
your mind and your soul and finally you will fall in their
trap of negativity and non-performance.
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Building Self-Confidence
4. SELF-ASSERTIVE
• The capability to take a stand and take appropriate
actions in defending perspectives and positive values
which you strongly believe
• Determination, patience and courage are the only
things needed to improve any situation
• WAYS TO BUILD SELF-ASSERTIVENESS
• Understand clearly the good and bad aspects of
anything
• Be firm if they try to take advantage of you
• Behold strictly to values, ethics and rules which you
strongly believe
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CONCLUSION
Alquran: 13: 11“ ……Indeed, Allah will not change the
condition of a people until they change what is in
themselves….”
Anthony Robbins: Communication Quotations
The way we communicate with others and with
ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.
Winston Churchill: Communication Quotes
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak;
courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen
Denis Waitley : Quotes: Self Esteem
To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on
our successes and forget about the failures and the
negatives in our lives
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COMPONENTS OF INTERPERSONAL
COMMUNICATION
1. Conversation
2. Listening
3. Body language
4. Environment
5. Self-appearance
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1. CONVERSATION
• Mention Their Names
• Use Suitable Language
• Tone Of Voice
• Simplify Your Message
• Give Other People The Chance To Talk And Do Not
Control All
• Try To Control From Telling Too Much About Yourself
• Use Closed And Open Questions Properly
• Contents Of Your Sentence
• Suitability Of Topics To Talk
• Winning People’s Heart
Be Interesting Vs. Be Interested
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2. LISTENING SKILLS
Look at the eyes and give attention But do not do it too close or too long
Show your interest and show that they are important
Concentrate – do not let your mind wonder to other places. Do not look at other
places or do other things while listening to people talking to you
Show that you are actually listening to them with full interest by saying
‘yeah’ ‘oh like that’, nodding your head and continue eye contact.
Do not look at different direction
Ensure that you really understand what you have just heard by repeating
what you have heard to him / her.
Repeat important information and seek confirmation from her “Is this what you
are trying say……”
Give encouragement for people to keep on talking or to tell you more using
phrases such as ‘that’s amazing idea, that’s interesting story, please tell me
more’
Listen to ideas, not just words. Form imagination in your mind while listening.
Do not interrupt or try to finish his sentence while people are talking to you.
Wait until he or she finishes his or her sentences.
Do not be too fast to conclude. Give your response when you are truly sure
he’s finished his points.
Do not focus on what you are going to say, focus on what your friend is going
to say first.
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3. BODY LANGUAGE
PROPER BODY LANGUAGE
Smile or show happy face
Nod your head to show that you understand or agree or you are
following the conversation attentively.
Give space so that everyone can see each other’s face if you are talking
in a group.
GOOD BODY LANGUAGE
“Mirroring” is you create the same body posture with those you are
talking to – if they are standing with one leg up, you do the same, if
they are holding cup, you do the same. This is called mirroring.
“Mirroring” will create a more friendly and relaxed atmosphere between
you and the other person.
Avoid from:
• Yawning,
• Scratching your head,
• Drilling your nostrils,
• Digging your ears, and all sort of inappropriate actions
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4. ENVIRONMENT
Try to understand their mood (are they tired, have many
problems, after getting scolded from their boss, feeling sad,
mixed feeling etc.)
Look at suitability of topic at that moment (talking about
marriage to women who haven’t got married, talking about
child birth with the couple who don’t have kids yet etc.)
Find suitable place (eg. quite, not many people around)
for the topic you want to discuss. To discuss multi-million
dollar business deal, must find a suitable place.
Find suitable environment (cold, not smelly, refreshing,
clean)
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5. SELF APPEARANCE
CHALLENGES IN COMMUNICATION
MISUNDERSTANDING IN COMMUNICATION
might happen in:
• Through telephone
• SMS
• Emails
• News delivered through third party, fourth- include fasiq people –
surah alhujurat
• When talking always want to win or be superior
• When talking, emotion is more than facts
• When giving opinions, very fast in finding other people’s faults
• When asking questions, the intention is to test the people
• When talking, always want to make other people feel guilty
• When talking, very arrogant, big talk and belittle other people.
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CHALLENGES IN COMMUNICATION
Normally, most people don’t want the following:
ONE WAY COMMUNICATION – do not give chance to other people to talk.
• Pestered – just like being pushy.
• Dictated – like to control.
• Imposed – give one-sided point of view.
• Insisted – do not give much choices.
• Manipulation– salesmen, bad leaders
• He feel he’s the only one who’s right and other people do not know anything.
JADDAL KALAMI – debating without proper guidelines, attack one’s
arguments, no ethics in discussion, no good intention
• Discussion not for the sake of finding proper understanding or to find the
truths
• Discussion to hurt other people’s feelings
• Arguments just for fun –no objective, waste of time hurt the feeling, no
barakah
• Provoke heated arguments, spoil the good mood, break friendship
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RELATIONSHIP
10.SOMETIMES WE ARE STRATEGIC,NOT HYPOCRITE
We cannot be open to all things because it could be not strategic
Have to see the pros and cons of the things we discussed
If it carries more disadvantages than advantages, so it is better to avoid from
being direct – this is what is called strategic.
11. LIKEABLE AND LIKE
Make it a habit to always eliminate the bad elements in our life
Improve yourself so that people like you
Train yourself to like other people
12. EXPECTATION
Sometimes our expectation on other people are not realistic or too high
All people have problems or circumstances which we do not know
We shouldn’t be asking from them more than what they are capable of doing
Expectation which is too high might frustrate us
13. DON’T HOPE FOR RETURN OF FAVOR
Continue with good relationship without hoping anything in return
Even though people do not give a damn, we continue with good relationship with
them
If we are hoping for a return of favor, maybe we will be frustrated
If we do not hope anything in favor, they will feel the true pleasure of friendship
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FRIENDSHIP
ENHANCERS
SPOILERS
• Good intention
• Have strong vested • Always helping
interest • Keep his dignity
• Like to take advantag • See the good aspects
than the bad aspects
• High expectation • No hidden agenda
• Blame without • Telling the truth and be
trustworthy
investigation
• Give priority to a friend
• Lying when speaking
• Back biting
• Take his rights
Self disclosure: Johari Window
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REFERENCES
1. http://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/interpersonal-
communication.html#ixzz2PJPQO6KY
2. http://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/interpersonal-
communication.html
3. http://www.faculty.londondeanery.ac.uk/e-
learning/improve-your-lecturing/what-makes-a-good-
lecturer
4. http://interpersonalskillsonline.com/how-to-develop-
interpersonal-skills
Komunikasi Interpersonal menurut
Martin Buber
• I – it Manusia memperlakukan orang lain sangat
impersonally, hampir seperti memperlakukan sebuah
objek, tidak mengakui kehumanisan orang lain, bahkan
terkadang tidak menyadari keberadaannya
• I – you Manusia mengakui sesamanya bukan
sebagai objek, tetapi belum bisa membuka diri secara
penuh
• I – thou Manusia mengakui sesamanya sebagai
makhluk yang humanis, dan mereka saling membuak
diri, bahkan kelebihan dan kekurangannya sekalipun
Karakteristik
Komunikasi Interpersonal
• Selective jika dapat telepon dari petugas polling,
kita akan menjawab pertanyaan yang diberikan tanpa
harus berakrab-akrab dengan penelepon
• Systemic
• Semua komunikasi terjadi dalam multiple system yang
mempengaruhi makna yang ditimbulkan
• Semua bagian dan semua sistem saing bergantung, jadi
saling berpengaruh
• Semua sistem komunikasi mengandung noise
• Unique, setiap orang itu unik, sehingga tidak
tergantikan
Karakteristik
Komunikasi Interpersonal
• Processual komunikasi interpersonal adalah proses
berkelanjutan dan akan meningkatkan keakraban
seiring proses yang berjalan tersebut
• Transactional komunikasi interpersonal merupakan
proses transaksi antar manusia yang mengimplikasikan
bahwa setiap partisipan bertanggung jawab atas
keefektivannya
• Personal Knowledge untuk melakukan komunikasi
interpersonal penting dalam memahami lawan
komunikasi, termasuk perasaan dan pengetahuannya
Karakteristik
Komunikasi Interpersonal
• Meaning Creating inti dari komunikasi adalah
pertukaran makna, bukan hanya pertukaran informasi
Bentuk
Komunikasi Interpersonal
• Face to face
• Email
• Mailing list group
• Instant messaging
• Chat groups
• Surat
• Telegram
• Post it
• dll
Tujuan
Komunikasi Interpersonal
• To Learn lebih bisa memahami diri sendiri dan
orang lain
• To relate menumbuhkan dan memelihara
hubungan dekat
• To influence mempengaruhi perilaku dan sikap