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(1)Egoistic orientation.
Here, a parent is self-focused (considering only
her or his own interests and needs) and perceives
the child merely as a projection of her or his own
experience (e.g., in terms of the effect of the
child on the parent).
(2) Conventional orientation.
At this level, a parent understands her or his child
in terms of externally derived definitions and
explanations of children (e.g., culture, tradition,
“authority,” age related norms for children’s
development). Parenting is perceived as
reasoning about such issues as the most correct
way to, for example, toilet train or discipline
children.
Stages on Parental
Development
(3) Subjective–individualistic orientation.
Here, a parent views her or his child as a unique
individual who (differing from external definitions
such as those embodied in norms) may now
instead be understood through the parent–child
relationship itself. Parents at this level broaden
their reasoning about parenting and organize it
instead around identifying and responding to the
needs of this particular child.
(4) Analytic–systems orientation.
Here, a parent understands both herself or
himself and her or his child as complex and
changing psychological self-systems, which are
embedded within interacting mutual systems
that influence family, community, and global
relations. The parent sees both her or his own
and her or his child’s development through the
ongoing process of parenting (in which the
parent finds ways to balance her or his own
needs as well those of her or his child).
Stages on Parental
Development
Levinson (Demick, 2002) a series of six
stages (with relevant developmental
tasks for parents):
(1)Image-making stage.
Here, she has characterized the image-
making stage (pregnancy until birth) as
the time “when prospective parents
begin to cull through, to form, and to
re-form images of what’s to come, of
birth and parenthood”. Parental tasks,
for example, involve the parent
preparing for a change in role, forming
feelings for the baby, “reconciling the
image of the child with the actual
child” , and preparing for a change in
other important adult relationships.
Stages on Parental
Development
(2) Nurturing stage.
From birth until the child is approximately 2
years of age (when the child begins to say
“no”), parents may experience a conflict
between earlier expectations of what the
child might be like and the actuality of
parenthood. The major task of this stage is
“becoming attached to the baby. . . . It took
a couple of weeks until it wasn’t like having
an object in our home” . In contrast to the
initial state of symbiosis between mother
and child, attachment “implies both
emotional and physical separateness and
connectedness” . Here, parents assess their
priorities, figuring out how much time they
should devote to the baby and how much
to other aspects of their lives.
Stages on Parental
Development
(3) Authority stage.
The central task of the authority stage
(when the child is 2 to 5 years-old)
concerns how parents handle “power,”
that is, how they accept the
responsibility, communicate effectively,
select and enforce limits, decide on how
much to shield and protect the child,
cope with conflicts with the child, and
handle or avoid battles of the will. The
authority issue is not restricted to
children, however, but is also concerned
with working out authority relationships
with others (who deal with the child),
including the other parent,
grandparents, babysitters, teachers,
neighbors, and the like.
Stages on Parental
Development